Yeah, but when your parents come up to you and ask 'Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?' you either don't have the heart to tell them you're aroace, or you're scared they're LGBTQ-phobic
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve tried to tell mine but they keep saying I should keep an open mind in case someone comes along😅😂
@SootySandEater
2 жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- I- Welp
@Narble_is_unavailable
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- they say *YOU* should have an open mind?
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@Narble_is_unavailable ._. yup, i have tried to bring it up again but they are strong believers i'll eventually find someone
@Three-Moonwatchers
Жыл бұрын
Or you KNOW they’re queerphobic
@Narble_is_unavailable
Жыл бұрын
And then when you say you DONT WANT TO, THEY SAY *oh it’s a human experience you’re satan! Ahhhhhh!* 😡
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
im above human experience 😈
@Narble_is_unavailable
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- hahaha!
@Igottagowalkmyfish
Жыл бұрын
I am satan >:))))
@helloehh2566
Жыл бұрын
Then i'll become a cat
@LowSelf-EsteemLord
Жыл бұрын
HAHAHHAHAHAH I am gremlin not hooman.
@waffleoverlord3595
2 жыл бұрын
parents: one day when you have children and marry someone special to you Aros/aces: can’t wait to marry this air 👁🫦👁
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
😏 ❤️💨💍🤵🏼
@Anikooooe
Жыл бұрын
Can’t wait to marry this cake ❤🥰😍😍
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
I can't wait to marry this bag of bread!
@waffleoverlord3595
Жыл бұрын
@@jellyboivin mmm bread
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
@@waffleoverlord3595 yes bread
@Kyomoro2.0
Жыл бұрын
I fully support you! ^^ I also have a friend who is also aroace! ^^
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
ty!
@Kyomoro2.0
Жыл бұрын
No problem! ^^ 💚💚🤍🩶🖤 🖤🩶🤍💜
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@Kyomoro2.0 :)
@Kyomoro2.0
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- :)
@theghostybee
Жыл бұрын
I swear- my parents just say ‘you still have time to find someone/change your mind’ Meanwhile me having not liked anyone/wanting to get married or have children since I was three: 👁👄👁 💧
@CryptidEyesWooo
Жыл бұрын
To all aro ace ppl who see this comment- I’m writing a book and I’m most likely going to have an aro/ace protagonist. Any tips for how it feels?
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
For Starters, we r js like everyone else, we aren't robots and we have emotions and most of us feel love towards family and friends. We don't feel an absence in our life when it comes to relationships but we do sometimes feel a bit left out as its so normal in society for the main focus to be on romance, particularly as we age and enter adulthood when ppl stop being around their friends as much leaving us alone There are many aroace identities, and some aroaces would be willing to date ppl/have sex, but none feel the attraction or "desire" to do so We still often can tell if someone is pretty (this is called aesthetic attraction) but we don't want to go any further than looking at them(For example asking them out) Our identity is a largely misunderstood one and If the character being aroace is a main part of their character, it may be good for them to experience a few microagressions aroace ppl face: -Being told we are against nature -Being told we r invalid bc we r js waiting for the right person -Being told our identity isnt actually real -Being called prudish or Stiff -Seen as odd or missing an important part by others -Being treated like we dont have any feelings or r like a robot Often, before realising you're aroace, you can feel broken, or incomplete. Before coming out, we often lie to fit in such as pretending to have a crush or a partner Lastly, as aroaces, much like all the other lgbt ppl, our identities are not what define us, its not the most important overpowering part of our identity, we are people with hobbies and interests and other parts of our lives. I think it's wonderful what you're doing and i hope these tips/insights help you write a genuine character. Good luck with writing!! Ill read it when its ready if i can :)
@tigrinum328
8 ай бұрын
Well it's different for everyone really, but then again you can say that about any sexuality/romantic orientation. For me, at first, I was kind of upset because I liked the idea of a romantic relationship, but over time, I've come to accept myself.
@-ANERD-
7 ай бұрын
I’m glad you feel comfortable w your identity :)
@natsumico1427
Жыл бұрын
Same on the other hand I come from a rather religious family (and homophobic except my big sister TvT) but fortunately my mother I don't want to stuff myself too much with a wedding (well I hope) I want to be single for the rest of my life
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
I am from multiethnic and multi religious family and i want to stay single forever too! im sorry your family are homophobic but im glad you have at least got your sister :p Sending good vibes!
@natsumico1427
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD-Yes Fortunately🤗
@whitelilyswife
Жыл бұрын
lmao im aroace and just sitting to the side as my friends discuss their future partners and plans is rlly fun like they're discribing their type and im just "mm, my type is "
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
So true, i'll engage in their drama but when it gets to me ill js 😐😬🫠
@FaniFani-cl4rs
Жыл бұрын
You all should warn me the next time , I told my parents that I don't want to marriage then mum yelled at me: " you need to keep the family bloodline " and " but I want grand children I think that they want to use my body so that they can get a grandchild and replace me , not like I'm their child too , they see me as a failure just because I hate them like you really can't trust in them they always try to manipulate me by making me feel like I'm the monster no they ALWAYS TREAT ME LIKE THAT THEY ALWAYS SAY THAT I'M THE ONE WHO STARTS PROBLEMS AND THAT I'M THE DEVIL THEY SAY THAT THEY REALLY WISH THAT THEY GET RID OF ME OR REPLACE ME AND IT SUCKS IT SUCKS BEING CALLED A MONSTER ALL THE DAY IT SUCKS BEING TREATED LIKE SHIT IT SUCKS BEING THE ONLY ONE WHO IS BEING CALLED AS THE DEVIL LIKE FR I HATE THEM THINKING ABOUT THEM GIVING ME HEADACHES THEY SAY THAT I'M THE SELFISH ONE JUST BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO GIVE BIRTH TO A STUPID CHILD ALL THEY THINK ABOUT IS THEMSELVES NO ONE REALLY CARES ABOUT ME ALL OF THEM JUST WANTS TO USE ME AND THE WORST PART IS THAT I THINK THAT THE MIGHT REALLY LOVE TO SEE ME IN PAIN AND TEARS I REALLY WANT TO DIE I'M TRYING TO BE A GOOD PERSON BUT THEY KEEP ON HATING ME I REALLY HATE THAT I'M SICK OF IT I WANT TO BE ALRIGHT BUT I CAN'T I WANT TO SMILE BUT I CAN'T ALL OF THIS BECAUSE OF THESE STUPID PROBLEMS AND AGAIN IM TALKING TO A PERSON ON THE INTERNET THAT WON'T RTEY TO HELP ME BECAUSE I DESERVE IT BECAUSE IM A FREAK JUST FORGET ABOUT IT IT'S NOT SOMETHING IMPORTANT
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
Ik it’s hard, being like we are, and you sound like you’re in a tough situation, I feel for you and hope things get better soon. You’re not a monster and don’t deserve to be treated or referred to as one, I wish all the best for you and just want u to know I’m here if u wanna vent more x
@FaniFani-cl4rs
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- damn it I wish if I didn't write that Just forget it I'm nothing but an attention seeker it's not an Important thing
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@FaniFani-cl4rs don’t worry abt it, it’s not attention seeking to want help, but I understand saying things all in the moment.
@cyan.-
2 жыл бұрын
WE DONT EVEN HAVE TO TRY!!
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
its always a good time! 🤷♂️
@yourhighnessshanzay
Жыл бұрын
actually once i had a friend who was like "omg im gonna be such a bad example to my future kids!" And i replied, "Unfortunate. Luckily I'm not having kids :3"
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
😂
@hyperfiz0980
Жыл бұрын
Jealous tbh I'm gonna be single forever and aroaces are glad to be single 💀
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
😭😭😭 Yeah
@shark_girl
8 ай бұрын
Teehee
@SliverAzure
Жыл бұрын
I'm an Aroace too (Also gender fluid but we're not talking about that.) I haven't out right mention that I was Aroace but I would say things like "I don't wanna have a bf or whatever." Or I would say "I want to stay single forever." To my mom mostly. Like I don't wanna be with someone. So it's always nice to know there's other people like me! While I before when I was younger and didn't know about things like Aroace or Asexual I would still be in a non romantic relationship. Cause I knew I could maybe have that. (My family is an Christian family too so I worry a lot about that.) {I had to talk about all of this since I need to. It's been stressing me out.}
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
dw im here if you want to talk abt this and im glad you find comfort in others like us :)
@SliverAzure
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- Yes I really do find comfort with other like us. It's mostly because I never actually talk with others and I usually can't interact with others. If I say I am to somebody they either don't know what it is or just something. Like I had to explain me being genderfluid to a friend I knew for like 2 years kinda and I don't wanna go through explaining again so I avoid it but I mention it often about not wanting to be in a relationship. Saying all of this really helps my stress and I cried when I saw the reply.
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@SliverAzure it’s always hard as we are required to educate if we wish to be understood which is really difficult, I also don’t really tell ppl I’m aroace in my life as it’s a lot of work so I usually say I’m just not looking for relationships. I’m really happy I’ve been helping your stress in any way. It’s really nice to find comfort and community with ppl like you online and I’m glad I have created a safe space for you :) ❤️
@SliverAzure
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I'm really glad to have chatted with somebody about this so thank you. I usually don't talk online but I had to say something. But again thank you.
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@SliverAzure np I’m glad you found somewhere to talk!
@IDK_SWIRLZY
Жыл бұрын
I want children so im gonna adopt them
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
i think i will too
@TheUnnamedWizard
2 жыл бұрын
Ikr like it's not hard- and I'm never gonna do it-
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
😂
@TheUnnamedWizard
2 жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- :p
@tyranidswarmlord9722
Жыл бұрын
Me being AroAce: I can actually afford ammo nowadays lmao.
@moon-io6mk
Жыл бұрын
religious person calling us a sin: like bro we aint doing anything (btw being aroace is not a sin or haram cuz you are not forced to marry or have kids etc.)
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
yeah
@i.am.a.human23
Жыл бұрын
Romantic and $e-ual Love is just not what we have installed
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
yeah
@thebestgachatuber6146
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yes, same
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
😂
@ANG3L_EYES
2 жыл бұрын
Same lol
@Reyna_Ramirez_Kid_of_Bellona
Жыл бұрын
I am aroace too
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
epicc!!
@shark_girl
8 ай бұрын
YAY A FELLOW ARO/ACE GACHA KID :D
@-ANERD-
8 ай бұрын
YUP
@mya1763
2 жыл бұрын
Lol same-
@bread2315
2 жыл бұрын
It's always a good time!! :D
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
U aroace too ?
@bread2315
2 жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- yup:)
@-ANERD-
2 жыл бұрын
Yay another aroace ^^
@bread2315
2 жыл бұрын
^v^
@Mia_AnimateZ
Жыл бұрын
Honestly the thing I like about it is that whenever my friends ask each other what their crushes are, and when they get to me I have nothing to say.
@--GH0ST99
Жыл бұрын
The problem is my mom wants grandchildren
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
Same
@weirdghost
Жыл бұрын
Alr, not entirely related but still aroace-related sooo- 1. WHY DO PEOPLE CONFESS THEIR LOVE TO US 24/7, OR IS THAT JUST ME?! Swear, at least 3 different kids confessed to me last year alone- ;-; (to boot they were reaaaally creepy. As in, saying, 'i want u in my bed bb' levels of creepy- 🥲) 2. Well, actually, in the future, I'll be marrying some garlic! (joke, i dont plan on ever marrying somebody)
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
NO FR I’ve been confessed to too many times 😭
@Seabunny124
4 ай бұрын
I’m lesbian but my little brother is aroace and when I’m talking about my girlfriend he’s like no thanks. 🙂↔️
@-ANERD-
3 ай бұрын
literally me omd
@Evil_Duckling
Жыл бұрын
Yes
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
fr
@Sunr4y2222
Жыл бұрын
Yes 😁
@Mothxcat
Жыл бұрын
I’m depending on my siblings to continue the bloodline I ain’t startin a family
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
so true
@DragonCrafter2
Жыл бұрын
Same :)
@tacoo0c4t
4 ай бұрын
fr
@Three-Moonwatchers
Жыл бұрын
As a religious Aroace I see this as an absolute win
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
Same! :) -a practicing jew
@SandyFrenchFries
Жыл бұрын
YEAH, me to!
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@SandyFrenchFries cool!!
@DragonCrafter2
Жыл бұрын
Honestly it’s just so much easier!
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
fr
@LowSelf-EsteemLord
Жыл бұрын
FACTS THO
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
mhm
@baddie_grr331
2 жыл бұрын
Tru doe
@TheUnnamedWizard
2 жыл бұрын
Yup
@miintyXX
8 ай бұрын
cupioromantic 😃
@SliverAzure
10 ай бұрын
*Me casually coming back to this video wanting to comment something after 4 months. Me also realizing that I want to (rant? Is that the right word?) About school since when I commented I didn't have it. However all the confidence I had for commenting vanished.* AAAAAAAAA-
@-ANERD-
10 ай бұрын
No worries, u can rant, I'm here to listen, dont feel worried abt it x
@SliverAzure
10 ай бұрын
I know! However ever since School had started again I don't like talking about it due to the way the people in the school are. Especially my art class. Like if your in the Lgbtq+ community then you're mostly gonna be made fun of. If you just mention your part of it they will go for you. I have a friend who got bullied for being part of it. But they told someone thankfully. Art class always left me uncomfortable since the people I sit with. I guess there friends but in some toxic way? I've been able to tell some friends I'm aroace however only like two people. And people will go like "You like (Random person)!?" Even though you've said you don't like them. One of the students who does this got SHIPPED with me last grade too! And I said it towards them and they just care. But they should know how I feel since we both didn't like it! I've been getting so stressed out because of these people like I yelled at a toxic friend once in my freaking history class! I'm pretty sure I nearly broke down later however I didn't. With all these 'toxic friends' I can't tell I'm aroace to anyone unless there literally part of it. Anyways. Sorry for the rant! It's just been stressing the heck out of me since school came back and I don't tell my parents about it. This has been a relief to get this off my chest.
@DTtaleChara-MenaceofAus
5 ай бұрын
I swear I preffer losing it with a toy than losing it to a Man and possibly regret it- From what I heard those kind of toys can make you loose your uhh well you know I don't say due to KZitem.
@-ANERD-
5 ай бұрын
I mean personally I have no libido so don’t feel the need to lose it at all but I feel you, it’s less risky to lose it to a toy since you can’t really regret that but that depends on what you consider losing it- and your personal opinion on what counts as a s-xual act ig
@DTtaleChara-MenaceofAus
5 ай бұрын
@@-ANERD- yeah either way, it's not because risking but because im very reserves in this kind of things and honestly I have a bf but im scared he will left me for other woman or something and I don't want the kind of guy to be with me and then left for other woman it's an insecurity but either way I will think more to try and maybe wait :')
@-ANERD-
5 ай бұрын
Sounds like a plan, everyone can take these things at their own pace, it makes sense to make sure the person is right before you do anything with them, good luck :)
@cassidy_TheProblemChild
Жыл бұрын
GARLIC BREAD FOR LIFE!!!
@checkcommunity4moreinfo
Жыл бұрын
Ok but how does this affect the economy of Libya
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
It doesn’t
@Mitsuri_Kanroji111
Жыл бұрын
Ah yess it’s very true but I see there are a lot of aro/ace people here hi I’m an aroace person does any one know a good why to tell your parents that you aro/ace?
@dinob0n3
4 ай бұрын
Im an angeled aroace :3 (An angled aroace is a individual that is both ace-spec and aro-spec (though not necessarily strictly aromantic and asexual) who experiences some form of attraction that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aro-spec and ace-spec identities. This attraction can be a tertiary attraction, sexual attraction, or romantic attraction. The term was intended to be used by those who are not strictly aroace (suptiliaromantic and suptiliasexual).
@-ANERD-
4 ай бұрын
i used to identify as angled aroace :) but then i realised i was oriented aroace :)
@dinob0n3
4 ай бұрын
@@-ANERD- cool :3 googled what it is and i think i might be that idk
@-ANERD-
4 ай бұрын
@@dinob0n3 nice! no rush tho, dont be afraid to take time to find out who you are :p
@dinob0n3
4 ай бұрын
@@-ANERD- ok :3
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
What's the name of the music? also amazing vid!
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
the song is called good time :)
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
Thxxxxx :)))))
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
you're welcome!
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
The music was amazing i can't stop listening to it :D
@jellyboivin
Жыл бұрын
:D
@earthisliterallydying
Жыл бұрын
Yeah but when people start shipping you with your classmates or ask who your crush is its like uhm 😅
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
fr
@kpro_1188
Жыл бұрын
I'm a religious person who's Aroace 🫰
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
me too lol
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
what religion? if you dont mind me asking
@kpro_1188
Жыл бұрын
@@-ANERD- not at all! I'm a Christain 💙
@-ANERD-
Жыл бұрын
@@kpro_1188 cool! im jewish x
@LowSelf-EsteemLord
Жыл бұрын
Same! My religion is Christian but I'm not LGBTQ+ phobic
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