I have autism, so I'm very texture-sensitive and I often do refuse to eat new foods if they don't look appealing. I personally think this is a great compromise. She's not upsetting herself by eating foods that she hates or struggles to keep down, and she's not messing up anyone elses dinner. This guy is definitely the Ahole. She came up with a good compromise but this dude is too worried about "what mommy thinks". *Picky eating and actual sensitivity are two different things, but picky eating is still a valid reason to bring your own meal rather than annoy others.
@B_addie
Ай бұрын
Bringing her own food is a great compromise. It doesn’t effect anyone and she can still participate in the event. I get the mother in law might not agree with the decision but if someone doesn’t want to eat she can’t force them. And making the wife stay home is just odd, it would make more sense if they went somewhere else together than one of them going without the other, or just letting her eat something after they leave without forcing her
@itsthatonechickagaincallth7843
Ай бұрын
Call me crazy, but it's NOT rude to bring your own food if you can't eat the food served. I have ARFID and will throw up if I eat certain textures like pasta, soup, etc. If your mom is offended, that is your mom's issue. Not everyone needs to like her cooking, and your wife also isn't just excluding her food specifically. I bring my own food to place and no one has ever had an issue.
@iamstuckinfandomangelicat2890
Ай бұрын
This ^^^ I have celiac disease and so I'll often bring my own food or not eat anything. There's times I randomly get kind of picky and sometimes eating much can be difficult due to feeling nausea. Plus, people are all different. I think bringing your own food is a great compromise. OP's mom sounds butthurt that not every single person loves her food and falling over her cooking. 🙄😑
@SaraDawn777
Ай бұрын
I have arfid as well, I totally get this.
@Notbearkoalas
Ай бұрын
As a picky eater I can sympathize with the picky eater because it’s just how I taste things and just because I don’t like a lot of foods doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be with family you could ask her to make something alternative to bring that she would eat I find that very helpful
@jenevacastro1813
Ай бұрын
Sounds like he's a mamas boy caught in the middle. The fact that he'd rather have his wife not go, so not to upset his mommy, is bs. The wife has probably tried the food already, during previous holidays, and knows it would be best to bring her own. I bet if she offered to make a dish to share, the mom wouldn't like that either because it's her holiday dinner. 10/10 ahole! Cut the cord and be a husband.
@Austinhof
Ай бұрын
I mean this goes both ways. On one side it’s so rude to bring your own food just because you don’t like the cooks meal. On the other hand flat out telling her to sit it out. its also kind of rude. But I’m on the story tellers side.
@A.Girl.Has.No.Name.
Ай бұрын
As a grade A picky eater myself, I would make the effort to try new things if I'm at someone else's house, as bringing food when not necessary for dietary reasons or allergy risk, is just plain rude. If you can't bring yourself to eat new foods, and not doing so pisses off the host, staying home seems the best option.
@lauryn9169
Ай бұрын
Yta
@BonbonTB47
Ай бұрын
I dont really get what the big deal is about bringing her own plate. Its better than going hungry, stayinf ay home by herself, or forcing herself to eat food she doesnt like, especially when that food can go to someone else.
@Lily-bu6cz
Ай бұрын
If she stays home you stay home
@That_1GayTheaterKid
Ай бұрын
As a “grade A+ picky eater” here’s my take. I’d probably be way too embarrassed to bring my own food, but I can’t blame her for it. Picky eaters don’t choose to be picky. If I could like certain popular foods I obviously would, it would make my life so much easier, but I can’t. Assuming the way OP told the story is true, she did come off as rude, which is not okay. I try to be very polite when declining food or making my own meals. Now, as a picky eater at family gatherings, I try to eat a little turkey to be polite. Afterwards they tend to leave me be. If someone’s picky, it’s only a bug deal if you make it a big deal. My family just shrugs and leaves me to my own devices. At the end of the day, obviously OP’s wife wants to go and enjoy herself. Thanksgiving and other family gatherings are about that, family gatherings. Asking her to skip out is just plain rude and misses the point. TL;DR: I understand the frustration, and she should try to have a bit of the food, but OP is in the wrong.
@imnotyourvillain
Ай бұрын
This is why I'm so glad for my family & the way we bring our own dishes to holidays, whether it's to share or to hog 😅
@Lily-bu6cz
Ай бұрын
What is wrong with being a picky eater
@user-rd1eh5ho5x
Ай бұрын
If I don't like stuff I'll try a little bit of it and if I don't like it I stopped eating
@michellealjunaidi8471
9 күн бұрын
He's the AH. His wife offered to bring her own food to the gathering. Nothing wrong with that. I've know people that have had gastric bypass and they bring their own little meal everywhere. It's a very small meal like something your 2 year old might eat.
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