@@scotthearts9634 well maybe stop it see what the problem focus you got this
@ant_davis3415
4 ай бұрын
actually real advice do some meditation or sommething take care of yourself have a purpose or say fif I break promises .im being the same. The pain of doing something is nothing compared to the pain of doing nothing meaning if you dont do nothing is way worse than the pain of doing something.
@jc4evur661
11 күн бұрын
@@scotthearts9634 True, but it doesn't mean that it can't be done. "Action breeds confidence & courage. Inaction breeds doubt and fear" - Dale Carnagie
@rorinn187
Жыл бұрын
“It’s more effective use actions to improve your thinking than to try and use thinking to improve your actions.”
@elise9537
Жыл бұрын
well I use both :)
@andre7767
Жыл бұрын
What I'm having a hard time considering, is how does the body move without instructions from the brain?
@vaishakhsz
Жыл бұрын
Yeah afterall emotions have nothing to do with what needs to be done
@elise9537
Жыл бұрын
@@vaishakhsz actually men have emotions too and all the decisions we make are emotions and hormones based... depends on how we feel in that time line and if we are mentally balanced. yes we need to make a list on what needs to be done and how when we are feeling well rested and try not to derail from it when tired and angry but its still emotions based... if you are well you take better decisions.
@vaishakhsz
Жыл бұрын
@@elise9537 yeah,we control our emotions better when we know what needs to be done
@MongooseTacticool
Жыл бұрын
There's a line in the film "The Equaliser". Denzil's character is training his colleague to be a security guard, and he tells that guy: "Progress, not perfection." Perfection is very difficult to reach, but progress can be made easily.
@fangblade360
Жыл бұрын
There are days i dont wanna go to the gym but i force myself to go. Havent regretted that, not even once.
@jongreen9171
Жыл бұрын
The same with me with running
@bladelazoe
Жыл бұрын
isn't interesting that we never regret going to the gym, even if it was a shitty work out. But we always regret and feel bad if we miss 1 work out?
@StillAwesome21
10 ай бұрын
Same, not sure what hormones are being released, but the feeling after a workout you didn't look foward to, is amazing.
@jc4evur661
11 күн бұрын
Self discipline breeds self respect.
@brndnwilks
Жыл бұрын
Like many others in this comment section, it's like he's addressing me exactly. That's me. I sabotage myself and break promises to myself all of the time.
@jc4evur661
11 күн бұрын
Self disciple will breed self respect
@himeshsinghshishodiya
9 ай бұрын
This is what I needed to hear. Watching endless videos in the name of 'improvement' won't help, but doing what you have promised to yourself will. Thanks mate.
@Bennnnism
Жыл бұрын
So simple, but such good advice. Learning to trust yourself and proving that you’re someone that you can count on is invaluable. I’m working on it.
@kalash_nikov
Жыл бұрын
It's a simple advice and it "makes sense" yet it's extremely hard to put into practice. It's the same as giving someone overweight an advise on how to lose weight - "eat less, eat whole foods, move". So simple. So true. So hard to do. There's a reason why so many people follow countless number of productivity, motivation, life, resilience, whatever else, coaches, creators, scientist. If knowledge was what helps create change this wouldn't be a multi billion dollar industry. It is, because people keep consuming the same content repackaged in different ways, because they think they need to learn just one more thing and things will "just click". Not how it works, unfortunately.
@harryr9729
Жыл бұрын
Action is the first step, no matter how small. I started this by making sure I went to sleep on time and woke up early 3 times in the week. Now it's every day, and it feels amazing
@siddharth2025
4 ай бұрын
I feel what has always worked for me is changing the way I say certain things to myself. What many people do is that they plan to make changes or improvements in their life by saying the phrase "I am going to do this" or "I have to do this". As human beings what happens when we do that is we subconsciously feel like we are forcing ourselves to do something we don't want or need. And as creatures of free will we can never give our best when we feel like we are being forced. So we have already made the act to improve a lot more difficult than it has to be before we even start. What I think is a better approach is to change the phrase from "I am going to do this" to "I want to do this". "I want to wake up at 7 am tomorrow", "I want to go the gym today", etc. And it might be difficult initially because our words are not really matching the way we feel. But after repeating this a few times what this ends up doing is gradually programming our minds into thinking that these are not things that we have to do but are things that we want to do, hence making it a lot easier.
@EtherTheReal
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Chris, i think i needed this. Amidst alot of turmoil and fickle life circumstances one needs words that kick you in the ass from time to time...the way you word it also makes it easier to accept, thanks for that man and your awesome work :)
@elise9537
Жыл бұрын
hugs! hope life gets better for you
@jasonriverwood
6 ай бұрын
This gets tricky when you're a scapegoat raised by a narcissist. Their very survival was dependent upon taking on the role of being a failure. Feeling anything good about themselves will feel like a mortal threat. Feeling pride, or confidence, or accomplished is too dangerous, and will be crushed which will further reinforce the tragically necessary feeling of worthlessness. Gotta take it slow, be aware this will happen every time you start feeling good about yourself, and slowly retrain your nervous system that these feelings are safe. Internal Family Systems is an excellent model to help with this.
@Dasten
8 ай бұрын
This is so true. Little successes lead to big ones. If you haven't had a win in a long time, it creeps into your mentality. You can just build yourself up with little wins which will give you the confidence to reach further.
@jonathancortez3003
Жыл бұрын
Chris, you are a godsend. Watching your podcast and clips that are posted by you or your team are just a breath of fresh air and motivate me to thrive to be my better self.
@sumtingwong8768
Жыл бұрын
This is so true it comes down to self betrayal, you have a soul and it wants things use your brain to figure them out and your body to go do and experience
@mrbritisher9748
Жыл бұрын
I agree if you had to pick between affirmation & action, action is the more crucial of the two however some people are crippled by fear & need affirmation to get going & keep going.
@squanchy9755
9 ай бұрын
This is some good advice. Here's the best advice I can offer to someone who suffers from procrastination due to depression: make a written list of all your tasks that you need to complete, even if it's as simple as cleaning out your room. Make sure you complete at least ONE task a day. Problem you face by leaving tasks to compile is that the list gets bigger and you're overwhelmed. If you do a few of these tasks, starting with the most basic, you'll end up having an empty list. This will relive so much pressure off your shoulder and reduce your anxiety.
@MFDOOM4635
7 ай бұрын
I don’t watch Chris religiously every day or every week but somehow he has this habit of popping up on my feed with the exact info I needed to hear when I needed it. Great content man, really inspiring and guiding
@simoneisabelleortega645
2 ай бұрын
Was having a moment. Instant success. Watch this short, absorb it and get going yall!
@monawoka97
8 ай бұрын
I think this kind of advice is great for people who aren’t already very high achieving. In college I was extremely high strung and high achieving, stressed as fuck, as had an intense hatred of myself. In that circumstance it wasn’t about proving to myself I’m a good person by doing more. I was already doing too much. In that instance it really was a slow and brutal process of consciously recognizing my negative self talk and deliberately correcting it. Over and over and over. For years. Now I’m in a lot better place.
@enjoyevan
Жыл бұрын
Yo this is actually really good insight and advice. Thanks dude.
@akumasdeception
9 күн бұрын
Honestly the best way is to take your health and achieve goals(no matter how small). That way you begin to feel better about yourself physically and that you can accomplish things.
@cielostack2698
Жыл бұрын
Action conquers fear…
@jc4evur661
11 күн бұрын
...and breeds self respect
@jackflicker8577
Жыл бұрын
ACTION HAS TO COME FIRST HELL YEAH
@Turdferguson972
7 ай бұрын
^the thinking man no one but himself thought we needed
@miap6844
3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I’m starting a new job today and truly appreciate your advice.
@k54dhKJFGiht
3 ай бұрын
Looking back at items checked off of one's "To Do List" (even if they are small items) can help tremendously in this regard.
@wmm8715
Жыл бұрын
This is SO true. You can only think so lowly of yourself when you know for a fact that you’re taking meaningful, impactful action on a regular basis. When I first graduated from college I was jobless, aimless, and constantly battling crippling self-esteem. Since then, I’ve become a teacher (I had basically zero qualifications to do so when I first started.) 1) My work is truly difficult, but I do it and do my best anyway, and 2) I’m committing my daily life to cultivating growth and success in others. I can’t imagine doing more tangibly meaningful work, and the respect I have for my work has translated into respect for myself. ❤
@mrastronaut9078
5 ай бұрын
Omg. I feel called out. Even when i try to think positively and try to be nicer to myself, i just think im gaslighting myself into being ok with my current state. Like i need to be harsh to myself in order to be honest and objective.
@mushrifahmed8107
Ай бұрын
Right. There are 2 more parts to this. One is living in a way/doing things that you're proud of. Suppose you're not proud of doom scrolling on your phone, then slowly work out of that. The second is forgiving yourself for your past mistakes. Speaking from personal experience I used to crucify myself for some of the mistakes I made in the past... But once I forgave myself and started being kinder to myself I started moving in an upward trajectory in life.
@relicmeisterstewart5626
10 ай бұрын
And break things into smaller pieces and do it piecemeal. Chris is right about what he’s saying
@rafatscooking3588
11 ай бұрын
Winning action have to come first
@jacoblape
Жыл бұрын
I think there's a saying that goes actions speak louder than words and a good night's rest comes from a hard Day's work.
@tsunamic84
9 ай бұрын
Don't make up the positive talk. Start with what is true. I suck at keeping my house clean. But I'm smart. I have a good job. I'm successful. I'm kind. Then, the things you don't like, work to change those. Become someone you can be proud of. And keep the true positive self talk coming. Don't bullshit yourself. But notice your strengths.
@RAMMusic8
Ай бұрын
Just needed confirmation I was doing the right thing. Thanks bro. Back to the studio I go lol.
@Q60dacatkilla
11 ай бұрын
This is why i looking up mental health videos. You will find the one you need to hear and the ones you cant unhear!
@Teamshmo
10 ай бұрын
Doing what you say you're gonna do is key
@morten2808
Жыл бұрын
Don't try to think positively, just act.
@CJ-fl4em
10 ай бұрын
Facts don’t think just do. consistent actions will tuffin yo mind make yo thoughts more confident positive long term discipline 🧠💪💪💯
@carimurph
5 ай бұрын
Totally agree, I’m sick of being told to live laugh love myself into confidence when I hate myself more than anyone ever could. I try to tell myself I accept myself into believing it but I never will, I came here for the final straw of trying to help myself. Let’s try it your way and see what happens I guess, I’m at my end limit.
@10minutebooks-ww1nh
2 ай бұрын
I know you probably won't ever see this comment Chris, but I hope one day you do see one of them. You are my favourite content creator above anybody else, because when I watch you I see myself in many of the things you describe that used to be you. This video has made me write on my whiteboard above my computer 'what is one thing I can do this week so that next week I can look back and have pride in myself'. That is going to be my motto for the next 90 days, and I'm going to blog/vlog this journey too
@MarylnBowan-vg7te
9 ай бұрын
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The key is not to bee silent so az to avoid hurting someone's Confidence the key is also not to shower a person in only positive feedback that wud build their Confidence r worse to lie to a person so that their Confidence increases the key is to communicate the tRUTH to them in a way that considers r caretakes their Confidence
@sovereignbrehon
11 ай бұрын
Move a muscle, change a thought!
@marilenat.5255
Жыл бұрын
It would never cross my mind that you've dealt with this feeling.😢
@smokingcrab2290
Жыл бұрын
It's all about having unwavering self respect and self love. You need to do whatever is required for you to esteem yourself. Whatever will make you feel absolutely 100% self assured, happy, at total peace, and totally comfortable in your own mind without anyone else.
@zzzzzz69
Жыл бұрын
Maybe certain people prefer doing it that way, but I'd just point out that concrete proof of action is used as a measurement metric for symbolic reassurance here, as in you don't have to feel insufficient if you didn't write a blog per day, and that absence of action is not in itself proof to the contrary that you have nothing to show for. You can do action to achieve results, but you can also feel assured with or without meeting an action quota.
@Motivationtowinnn
4 ай бұрын
Actions speaks louder than words
@sachinjain4047
11 ай бұрын
So I'm doing this thing where I'm just trying to look at various sources that tell me about confidence. And I'm starting here. What do you need to build confidence: 1) Action: Eat the biggest frog first. Before showing anyone else, show yourself that you're in control.
@Outrack
8 күн бұрын
Exposure and evidence. You’ll never gain strength through avoidance, and it’s easy to overcome future challenges when you have comparable experience to draw from.
@matthewallen787
7 ай бұрын
That is the cold hard truth. It’s our actions that make a difference, not wishful thinking.
@Being_Jeff
4 ай бұрын
"Action Builds Confidence and self-esteem, Regardless of any Outcome" the late ARC Example: I say hello to an attractive woman I pass in the street and she snubs me, it takes nothing away from how I feel good about myself having overcome any anxiety to act.
@admiralrohan
7 ай бұрын
I don't understand why so many successful people are talking surface level things like this, maybe they haven't explored themselves enough. Lack of confidence is a problem of lack of power, not lack of motivation. You have motivation, but don't have power to act upon your desires. You feel like loser not because you hit the snooze button. You feel like loser because your feel you are doing something wrong for hitting the snooze button and you have to explain it to others. To gain confidence you need to stop explaining your actions to others. For that you need to be independent with money first. The sense of autonomy is what you need.
@andreatodd5295
3 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this today!
@pietro4772
Жыл бұрын
Have the condidence of being yourself.
@Not.Jason.from.the.southwest
Жыл бұрын
I have found the best way for me to deal with insecurities is to get stacks of cash. The more stacks, the better I feel about myself. No relationships, no happiness, just stacks of cash to throw at every problem. So far it's been working, but to each their own 😆.
@TRG-LifestyleGani
3 ай бұрын
I needed this !! Yess to all he said
@alexandertaylor1225
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, liked and subscribed. While I'm a successful software Executive this is the first time I've ever heard of, "Imposter Syndrome" which after receiving coaching from my COO this morning, I realize that's what's been ailing me my entire life. Now it's time to fix it. Thank you again.
@shari_webster
5 ай бұрын
True! Facing fears and taking action!
@cwinchcarwash2629
3 ай бұрын
A lot of comments have the sentiment that you can't improve your thinking/internal state, without external action first, and I disagree. Both feed into one another, and sometimes you need to to internal work(can still consider it action) before you can effectively do external work! ❤
@adamwozniak9737
7 ай бұрын
Deliberate doing nothing is deliberate doing something
@deborahwalford3601
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Truly Grateful Struggling with this at this Moment
@BurnaBwoi
Жыл бұрын
Competence builds Confidence
@k7ufo819
9 ай бұрын
Chris, thank you, inagine the amount of people on the verge who you are helping. Is there even anything greater than that?
@optimize.
Жыл бұрын
Emotion follows action, not the other way around.
@botnet6461
8 ай бұрын
From the bottom of my heart, thank you I did not know that's what I needed
@AM-yu6ys
6 ай бұрын
Yes, thats what i have learned the hard way over the last few years
@EFJoKeR
Жыл бұрын
Amen to that.... I've had that for 40 years...
@Manoftomorrow32
7 ай бұрын
I’m that person as well. Thanks for this. Very informative
@rockyblumble
3 күн бұрын
Damn, youtube knew exactly what I needed to hear today.
@channyngtatum9231
Жыл бұрын
It's more about having a fuck u mentality and putting yourself first
@Louis518nice
Ай бұрын
It is true, that working on yourself is important and that you shouldnt be too lazy to do the things that are good for you. But I think this guy needs deep self reflection why he is so unconfident and hard to himself. He has already accomplished so much. If he still feels this way, there is very likely to be a deeper conflict that still makes him feel not enough.
@cliffcox7643
Жыл бұрын
I have to say, im totally socially insecure and awkward to the point it's a phobia. I feel loke running out of groups etc. How I overcame this was went into sales. I did not sell well, but learned how to manage my fear by opposite action. If I didn't like it...I did it.. one caveat, I ALWAYS still feel uncomfortable, but I know it's a feeling that you just manage. As has been said, felling butterflies is normal, my job is to make them fly in formation.
@kasperspardigm
15 күн бұрын
Where do you start??? Im so lost on routine.... I used to be such an organized and productive individual. Im not sure what is happening but life is seeming so overwhelming and different.
@marksummers1646
11 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@masterprophet8378
11 ай бұрын
Affirmations, not actions, come first. And that is because the repetition of daily positive affirmations causes them to sink down from your conscious mind (where they begin) into your subconscious mind (where they end). And that is how and when those affirmations will produce change at the core level. This is what the Son of God was alluding to when He said, "Let these saying sink down into your ears" (Luke 9:44). High wisdom!
@jakes.4151
8 ай бұрын
JUST DO IT
@SunshineNetwork143
Жыл бұрын
Great tips. Thank you for giving examples.
@jl_117
8 ай бұрын
action speaks louder than words, even to your own mind
@cholzdelrosario
7 ай бұрын
Thanks Chris
@neverthelesshereiam4167
Ай бұрын
Forcing yourself to do things isn't how you build confidence.
@MaryMichelleWorthy
Жыл бұрын
I love this man.
@edgarstaskans8516
Жыл бұрын
I'm always glass is half empty kind of guy, I have to fake being positive till I make it. But we can't change who we are at core, we can only manipulate it daily.😅
@zsanettangyal-fekete1969
Жыл бұрын
You can change your unconscious thoughts. You can. ❤
@user-ez2ze8dr1n
Жыл бұрын
Where is the full episode?
@reginaldsafety6090
7 ай бұрын
In therapy if someone has overwhelming negative beliefs then you don't bother with thoughts and start with actions.
@emirmontazeri
Жыл бұрын
Can’t express how much I needed this…
@eldorelmurotov
7 ай бұрын
The guy is speaking of complete experience
@justinsugay1149
8 ай бұрын
I hate how much this resonates
@FA761.
Жыл бұрын
Doing something im supposed to doesnt give me pride/confidence. Not doiing it destroys it though. Its like losing weight. Even if I lost 10kg my mind would say " but why are you happy? You are not supposed to be fat to begin with... pathetic to be happy"... So im forever stuck in worthless human being mode and at best im finally a little bit normal for a change, what took so long?
@sophiebell5331
4 күн бұрын
Great advice. ❤
@samo.5546
Жыл бұрын
finally! someone understands
@derosa195
2 ай бұрын
Yes
@marniebrimhall986
9 ай бұрын
Very helpful information! Thank you! 🎉🎉
@soccerspidy18
Жыл бұрын
Setting alarms cleaning a room doing the dishes are not sufficient enough to believe in success out side of the home. I measurably do well but its just not good enough.
@aitorkevineteomba6431
Жыл бұрын
Fair enough
@fiorrdaliss
10 ай бұрын
Thank you for this!
@RosieWilliamOlivia
Жыл бұрын
This is such a GREAT piece of advice!
@mtblover
Жыл бұрын
Spot on!!!! Great advice.
@ledoug6014
7 ай бұрын
I used to be confident in myself, but i dont know what happened to me growing up
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