My favourite saying: is "Never try to teach a pig to sing. You'll waste your time, and annoy the pig." (Robert A. Heinlein)😏
@pclifton4
Күн бұрын
Carrot sticking, great explanation and here's why this works: Narcissists are exceptionally vulnerable to flattery, this is why they always say flattering things, not because they believe what they say, but because it's what they hunger for the most and what they think will make people like them. So when you flatter a narcissist, they feel incredible feelings and feel like you understand them. And then when you follow that up with criticism, in order to deny the criticism narcissists have to deny you as a person in totality. But by doing so that would mean they are also denying those things you just said about them which validates their wonderful amazing self image of themselves. This short circuits their brain and they are left trying to pick which choice feels worse.
@MaximMelamed
2 күн бұрын
"VERBAL COMBAT!!" new video game ideas. "FINISH HIM!!!"
@Surelyucantb
Күн бұрын
VERBALITY!
@mzknip
Күн бұрын
Flawless Victory
@willbephore3086
9 сағат бұрын
Freaking FINALLY. Someone addressing this with nuance and functional dimension, instead of hyperbolic absolutes. (Which, granted, narcissistic behavior does habitually create in real life)
@karensprings4237
Күн бұрын
Again another insightful video. Keep them coming. Thank you so much.
@bgz42
Күн бұрын
Unfortunately my father and most his brothers and sisters are narcissists, my dad and two of his brothers are of the malignant variety. Ultimately, walking away was what I ended up doing. But.... I learned some tricks... Anytime they use superlatives to try to sell you on something... disagree with them, poke holes in what they are saying. Do it over and over again, they'll eventually push you out (fight or flight kicks in and they generally choose flight). Basically, they don't want you telling other people in their circle your story, so they push you out... You don't want to be in their circles anyway.
@sharonfisher3179
Күн бұрын
Bravo, sir. 💯
@shylohmonster
Күн бұрын
Gawd, I love this clever content. Thanks again.
@shannarunyan114
Күн бұрын
I really get a lot from all your videos!
@njay4361
Күн бұрын
I love this!
@fernleaf07
Күн бұрын
Great presentation. Please take a longer breath between sentences.
@jeremyshermanPhD
Күн бұрын
It's funny. I've been trying to get words in edgewise for a long time. More info in less time. But this one especially, high speed. I'll slow down. Thanks!
@willbephore3086
9 сағат бұрын
I do agree, on both sentiments. But I'm a pondering kind of guy, who enjoys silences in conversation to integrate and digest.
@crankyeldergod709
Күн бұрын
Most human-caused problems can be traced back to a willingness of individuals to exchange compliance for bullshit.
@johnnymcpherson8493
Күн бұрын
I don't know if it's my ADHD or not but I am unable not to confront narcissism knowing what it is and I have some of it LOL
@desertrose7318
Күн бұрын
"serenity now" 😂jerry stiller Seinfeld 😅 13 yrs of living with one (and 30 yrs abusive controling narcissistic father so yea i have issues )💀 I love the idea verbal combat unfortunately i hate confrontations
@SnowyOwlPrepper
2 күн бұрын
Jordan Peterson once, early in his personal transformation, asked a question about MAGA supporters. What is to become of them once they are defeated? How does society reintegrate these souls back into functioning community? Is there a context to change thus facilitating a new path for former followers of MAGA? They don’t disappear and do not need to regroup around anyone so narcissistic as to be a danger to the bedrock institutions.
@jeremyshermanPhD
Күн бұрын
Great questions though I wouldn't trust Peterson's answers. To me he's an anti-dogmatist dogmatist. I note that we are currently fight a battle against all of our major past enemies: Monarchists, Nazis, Fascists, Communist dictatorships. Dogmatists are very difficult to defeat. They have that Christ-like Victim-Victor complex that makes it so defeat proves they're destined to win. They will rise again unless they are dealt with more subtly than the defeated tend to be. I have friends in th cult deprogramming world. We talk about what it would take.
@leonardpaulson
Күн бұрын
And then he saw all of the profit and narcissistic supply that could be squeezed from the movement and decided that he’d rather spread the sickness than eradicate it. Where else could such a sloppy, self-satisfied intellectual achieve such preeminence? I think the idea of dedicating any further thought on these “souls” is foolish. We’ve been trying to show these people the door for about 10 years now and they continue to gleefully slam our fingers in it. Yes, MAGA will burn out but figuring out where to land will (and should) be THEIR burden. Our energies are better spent elsewhere.
@willbephore3086
9 сағат бұрын
That timeline doesn't track, I believe the quote originates elsewhere. Though I agree very much. I don't think it's going to be any big shift, but rather a sustained trickle, as is happening now. I've got family I'm hoping to see in that trickle soon.
@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT
7 сағат бұрын
@@jeremyshermanPhDanti-dogmatic dogmatist…that is a perfect label!!
@jefflamarche3236
2 күн бұрын
I believe you meant to say 'coup de grâce,' a mercy blow. What you said was 'coup de gras,' where 'gras' translates to 'fat.' I enjoy your videos and look forward to seeing more!
@jeremyshermanPhD
Күн бұрын
Thank you for the correction! Useful!
@First.nameLastname
Күн бұрын
Don’t throw your pearls before swine- that’s one you missed.
@jeremyshermanPhD
Күн бұрын
I don't think so. That's the exit strategy.
@First.nameLastname
Күн бұрын
@@jeremyshermanPhD it really is
@jeankipper6954
18 сағат бұрын
EXCELLENT! THANK you! I AM nice. I'm NOT stupid, and I REMEMBER what they said, and did. I REMEMBER that horrible man making our great, strong, good and excellent country look like a stupid banana republic on the international stage.
@WestCoastProf
Күн бұрын
I am a narcissist. Do you have any helpful suggestions? Narcissists are vilified in countless KZitem videos as if we are monsters. I remind you that we are human.
@dennisshaw7153
Күн бұрын
What about ME? Also, I am the victim! Lmao
@mzknip
Күн бұрын
You are already on the path to enlightenment! You have done what most narcissists could never do... introspect (admitting You are one takes self reflection) and thus asking further "what will society think of me?" Is your new superpower.
@MichaelFinnegan-y1l
Күн бұрын
I think the assumption that narcissists are always 'monsters' is due to an over emphasis on a narrow identification through an interpretive lens that is external and strictly 'pathology' focused - with an emphasis on the harm done to others. So a kind of blanket moral panic ensues. But while some narcissists may cause great harm to others - some not so much because everyone is unique. Some suffer in quieter, less 'sensationalistic' (to the public) ways. Though narcissism can be deep seated, there is some good therapy for it. Unfortunately, good therapy for this sort of thing can take extended time to be effective. Even more unfortunate - in our hyper market based world, the right kind of therapy can be exceedingly expensive too!
@rebeledvid
Күн бұрын
Please remember what happens when you "assume."😊
@LordDustnDirt
Күн бұрын
I would suggest learning about how to build up your self-image and other's view of you in mutually beneficial ways. Seeking out win-win scenarios. Typically in relationships, narcissistic folks benefit themselves at other's expense. With that in mind, a poor reputation and avoidance are understandable. If you can shift into an emphasis on mutual gain, you'll build a better reputation and give people solid reasons to value your presence. It will require regular self-reflection and vigilance. You won't need perfection, but you will need to consistently do well more often than not. Good luck on being your best self.
@kwahujakquai6726
Күн бұрын
Dust in the wind??
@kwahujakquai6726
Күн бұрын
I'm at a point I don't care anymore. Noone values me enough to care what I thinik so whatever.
@IFYOUWANTITGOGETIT
7 сағат бұрын
People don’t value people. People value the VALUES that people represent which they identify as useful to their needs. So, what values do you represent? Perhaps you don’t communicate values that others around you value. Change your values or change your social circle. We are all dust in the wind.
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