Mashallah, a really beneficial and helpful video. May Allah (SWT) bless Sayed Qazwini and you for your efforts and time ❤️❤️
@Ramouzif
3 жыл бұрын
The English also has that saying "hit* the road" meaning to travel
@laylakhalili3182
3 жыл бұрын
Yup, that's the interpretation I believe is more likely. The prophet pbuh never hit his wives, but he did divorce / separate from some.
@STVENOM
2 жыл бұрын
I also thought that hit the woman might mean similar to hit the road in the sense Muhammad wants us to run over women's heads with cars not hit them with a stick, the hitting and the stick are a metaphor for women and roadkill.
@obaidulhaque7687
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/2qyOzKSGbnVnf6Q 2 min brother
@jasonwehbe1463
2 жыл бұрын
@@laylakhalili3182 yes he did . He hit Aiasha. She says the prophet hit and hurt me .
@Religiousstudies2000
2 жыл бұрын
@@jasonwehbe1463 That’s based on her statement. Aisha is a documented liar
@m3m3buq76
3 жыл бұрын
It’s a shame that this issue is very confusing. May Allah guide us.
@obaidulhaque7687
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/2qyOzKSGbnVnf6Q 5 min / better translation
@Mohdzn
2 жыл бұрын
I had to let you know this channel is an absolute GEM subhanallah
@alielias2677
3 жыл бұрын
I read that daraba also means to separate.wouldnt this make even more sense than hitting with a miswak
@laylakhalili3182
3 жыл бұрын
Yea! That's the interpretation I believe makes the most sense. And through practice you can see that the prophet pbuh never hit any of his wives, but the prophet pbuh had divorced / separated from some.
@nowfeltahmid6613
10 ай бұрын
Same word used in surah yasin 13
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
Are wives also allowed to punish their husbands🤣🤣
@humanrace6224
2 жыл бұрын
Islam is a man made religion ofcause not
@KurdishMuslim99
2 жыл бұрын
If they’re raped they’re allowed to kill them unlike Christianity that teaches love ur enemies 😹😹
@hamisadi95
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much ❤
@mahvishahmed5375
3 жыл бұрын
Why. Do you think men usually don’t resist. There many who don’t fulfill there wives needs , they hold grudges. What then .... what should women do in that case . I think it is very hypocritical to point finger on women being the cause or initiating this act of ignorance.
@lDeath489
3 жыл бұрын
You are exactly right, what you are referring to is a complex and painful issue and a very common one too. But he was just explaining the verse and nothing more, because people (especially men) keep misinterpreting it ^^.
@lDeath489
3 жыл бұрын
The answer to your issue is most likely to, [if advice doesn't work, offering solutions, forgiving, compromising doesn't fix it..etc] Wife needs to show the husband that there are also consequences if he don't fix up his heart and fix up his logic in this relationship [grave consequences if he is doing the same sin to her for 5 or 10 or 20 years]. The man is in charge on some things but that doesn't mean that he own his wife. It is a relationship. both needs to keep healing the wounds of this relationship. Regardless of the harm of that husband, the wife is as independent and as strong as a man in that marriage and that she has her own relationship with ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى and has her own humble/stable/confident status in her house, that she has her own life [that she kindly share it with that husband], she really has to believe in that if the husband is making such sins [unreasonable grudges/wrong accusations/looking down on his wife..etc]. A women like that in front of a man like that, she can definitely do what is right. A women like that can please ALLAH سبحانه وتعالى . If she can't, handle it anymore she knows what she can do because she is confident in her self and everything is clear to her. Our inspiration and authority are Fatima and Zainab عليهم السلام [including marriage]
@obaidulhaque7687
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/2qyOzKSGbnVnf6Q 10 min here brother
@user-mv6hc3ic4e
Ай бұрын
@mahvishahmed That's extactly what I always think. If a husband can be harsh to his wife according to her bad deeds, why can't a wife be harsh to her bad husband? Why does a wife always have to be soft and obedient to her husband no matter what?! whereas a husband is allowed to be harsh on his wife when it's needed! And then scholars say that men are not superior....., there is no superiority-inferiority in marriage.... etc. How does that make sense? If husband and wife are equal when it comes to treating with kindness, why are they not equal when it comes to harshness? Somebody please answer me. I couldn't find my answer anywhere.
@sultanahamed2484
3 жыл бұрын
Subhanallah detailed explination has been given in deep which can be understood by even uneducated the real spirit behind this concept and thanks for settling and clearing any doubt in this regard
@obaidulhaque7687
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/2qyOzKSGbnVnf6Q 2 min
@hawac23
3 жыл бұрын
So woman should do the same to man.
@brihannelafaque1418
2 жыл бұрын
Salam alaykum Jazakum Allah Khayran Sayyid
@hamisadi95
3 жыл бұрын
MashAllah 🤲
@RizwanAhmad-cy5yo
3 жыл бұрын
MashaAllah
@rakaia555
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this lecture especially for mentioning the Hadith at the later part of the vid. When you come from an abusive family and then you see the verse without knowing the context, it's easy to have negative views towards Islam. Hehe May Allah bless you for clarifying this issue.
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
I feel you and can totally relate!
@obaidulhaque7687
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/2qyOzKSGbnVnf6Q ….
@KurdishMuslim99
2 жыл бұрын
Im sunni but i love listening to him
@sevil4077
2 жыл бұрын
why is he shia then?
@englishlessonswithtracy1488
2 жыл бұрын
If my husband ever hits me with a small stick in order to shame and embarrass me like a small child, I will show him where the door is.
@batouldirani909
2 жыл бұрын
I can assure you as a Shia Muslim, I agree whole heartedly. The problem is not with Islam and its perfect teachings but those that are incapable of separating truth from falsehood. Prime example, in this very lecture he admits to different interpretations being available and yet accepts the one least compatible with logic and common sense. It is beyond me how they can read and learn of the principles of Islam, the prophets and Imams and still have the audacity to draw such conclusions.
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
I can't really understand why women would deny their husbands their physical needs cuz its also good for the woman and the connection between both husband and wife and increases the love between the 2 but i understand if there is a deeper issue at hand such as conflicts and disagreements or when your husband disrespects you and makes you feel miserable. Thats also a valid reason to deny access
Because sex for women is an expression of love no needs .Men usually don't show any affection or love to women when they get married. The flowers can't blossom if it i s not watered,if it doesn't get enough sunshine
@nahiedlaila9601
Жыл бұрын
@@iramehra2774 no i dont fully agree women have their sexual needs too for sure. It differs from women to women but we all have to an extent and some have it more than others, humans are sexual beings women and men alike but men may rank higher in their sexuality but women are not asexual to not want sex its just less of a burning need for them as for men i guess
@iramehra2774
Жыл бұрын
@Nahied Laila I understand,however ,when humans obtain a conscious of God(which every religion is taking about),than sex becomes an act of love that comes from our hearts not from the biological needs. As far as I know the Bible says that a man and a woman should only have sex for procreation reasons .
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
I also just dont understand why men would want to inflict pain and suffering on their wives. Why would you abuse your own wife who is given to you as a gift from Allah. You r not a real man if you touch a woman in a violent way. Men need to work on their empathetic skills otherwise you have no right to call yourself a man!
@rakaia555
3 жыл бұрын
true. they'd even use the verse to justify when they hit their wives.
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
@@rakaia555 exactly its really disturbing and disgusting. They just get married to feel superior in highly toxic ways and take advantage of their wives. Its so selfish. Those men fail to realize the true purpose of marriage which is very pathetic
@rakaia555
3 жыл бұрын
@@nahiedlaila9601 sad reality :( try to watch Ammar Nakshawani's discussion on Emotional Abuse of Women. it's nice :)
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
@@rakaia555 yeah i have watched it haha, i liked it! He is also quite funny😅I appreciate that these scholars clear up and adress all these misconceptions and fake truths. They really have enlightened me as well and i understand Islam and these verses so much better and gives me ease and comfort that there is more than meets the eye and things are not always what they seem, its very open to interpretation especially with these verses. People can easily take it out of context, thats the danger of people's flawed minds that need guidance but r too arrrogant to accept it
@STVENOM
2 жыл бұрын
I think you infantilise women by suggesting harsh punishment of women is so taboo, you want women to be treated more equal to men which would involve more violence inflicted on women not less. The true way to reduce violence against women is to make them beneath punishment or atonement similar to an animal or infant if we wish women to be sheltered from discipline. I originally started very left wing progressive and overly sympathetic of sexual dysphoria, sexual identity, sexual degeneracy etc but I'm starting to realise it is the case women can mistreat men because women think they are lesser than men and beneath reprimand. Yet of course women are the ones who enforce or can dominate males without being violently dethroned or disempowered by the more competent of the two sexes? Or at least men are the better of the two sexes in this context of enforcing morality and not just tolerance, acceptance and glee like these constitute the rudiments of a society or is the backbone or meat and potatoes of something substantial or some deeper morality.
@Acharya78
3 жыл бұрын
Pls make video on choosing right career
@mawsoulmahadi9994
3 жыл бұрын
Please do check within the channel. There is such a video
@adamsandler1679
3 жыл бұрын
That is why you need to choose your partner carefully because it is a done deal after that you are going to fight but that is with every merriage doesnt matter what religion or believe you have i think a man should be true to himself and hsi wife many people struggle with it even people who dont have a relion conclusion choose the right one love the woman you want to marry it happens all over the world
@shiaabuali2350
2 жыл бұрын
Mashallah thank you 🙏 😍 say : 34x Allahu Akbar, 33x Alhamdulillah, 33x Subhanallah, 100x Astaghfirullaha Rabbi wa atubu ilaih أَسْتَغْفِرُ ٱللَّٰهَ رَبِّي وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْهِ | اَللّٰهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلٰى مُحَمَّدٍ وَاٰلِ مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَجِّلْ فَرَجَهُمْ | Allahumma Salli Aala Muhmmadin wa ali Muhammad wa Aajjil farajahum 🤲🏼
@Anonym-114
3 жыл бұрын
MashaAllah. I would laugh so hard when my husband will hit me with a small thin wood. 😂😂😂 Ice will break immediately of laughing 😁
@nahiedlaila9601
3 жыл бұрын
Ikrrr its soo hilarious, what difference does it make🤣🤣🤣
@englishlessonswithtracy1488
2 жыл бұрын
Because it’s meant to shame and embarrass her, which is disgusting because a woman is not a toddler who needs correcting.
@marcostation1000
2 жыл бұрын
in the west woman beaters are worst of people. in Muslims land women beaters are make god like mohaned. 2 differe t ways to see life
@englishlessonswithtracy1488
2 жыл бұрын
@@marcostation1000 well, technically Muslims are only supposed to hit with small sticks, just to embarrass and shame their wives who won’t listen…. Because I guess women are like toddlers who need correcting 🙄.
@orlandobanto5781
3 жыл бұрын
Alaihissalm
@kameswarrao4848
3 жыл бұрын
Does Islam allows wives to beat their husbands if they are wronged ?
@zafar2073
2 жыл бұрын
No, because it's a common problem
@laylaali5977
2 жыл бұрын
You should read the verse contextually and just say no to hitting the Quran is fifteen hundred years old the literature changes so this is just based mid evil scholars opinion because this was the social norms but this twenty first century.
@batouldirani909
2 жыл бұрын
Subhanallah, he offers a beautiful interpretation about ‘travelling’ then quickly dismisses it to perpetuate an ineffective, illogical argument. If you are unsure about a verse, refer back to the fundamentals of the Quran! Hit her lightly is not logical by no stretch of the imagination. Allahu Akbar. How 3kl sometimes isn’t used
@brihannelafaque1418
2 жыл бұрын
But I Don't still understand the philosophy of this small stick. If there us to be a sequence it must go in crescendo. 1.endeavours by the way of tongue: dialogue and discussion.then if it fails 2.physical separation :in order the spouse to understand more deeply. So the 3rd step should be logically be more intense. That us why the tooth stick is for me hard to understand as a way of warning or admonition. It seems a little bit ridiculous. It doesn't fit with the educational psychological principles of education:which is can be resume par taking progressive and graduated steps beginning with the softer one and finishing with the harsh one. So, to resume :this point is still unclear for me and i have read and listen a lot about it. _dialogue _admonition
@prettygirlclub.7719
Жыл бұрын
Some say it’s meaning is to separate . Some say it literally means to beat and other say no it’s a meaning of grabbing someone attention. why would it’s be intense , this is a marriage we are talking about . Marriage is holy thus no need for extreme measure unless proven guilty. Nevertheless I watched a beautiful long program it was nouman Ali explaining it ayat to ayat and his colleague or friend is someone who studied intensively and he mentioned something the beginning of the part it says “ and if you fear “ … the rest but imma focus on the beginning. Allah uses the word Fear? But why . If it was disobedience then why would he use the world FEAR . Who would fear that someone is disobeying them . You can’t fear it , because if someone is disobeying you they are already doing it . So it opens up a different wider door. What does this ayat mean? In conclusion it’s about adultery and even then a husband shouldn’t even be doing the punishment for adultery. But the state or back in the time the Amir of the believers, the word nuzush back then before Islam was used for women who committed adultery whiles their husbands were away for work .I think this ayat needs intensively research honestly because a lot of people say it means to beat, strike but Allah knows best. If it meant beat then alot of other Quran ayat, god forbid would contradict it as well as many hadiths . Hopefully Allah guides you to the truth and me too. And allow us to be among the knowledgeable of truth . There’s alot of misleading people everywhere.
@3DisFuntastic
Жыл бұрын
This is soo fucked up... beyond words.
@iramehra2774
Жыл бұрын
This is so backwards. It is for half brain people. God gave every human being an intelligent, an intuition to act upon . A marriage is about love not an institution, a trade
@m3m3buq76
3 жыл бұрын
Brother you can’t force women to interact in fiscal intercours what so ever. What if a women doesn’t get hair need? What then??
@captainhd9741
3 жыл бұрын
A married couple are not allowed to avoid sexual interaction for more than 4 months unless they both agree not if only the man agrees or only woman agrees they both have to agree not to have sex but if the woman wants to have sex and the husband refuses then the husband has committed a sin. Also the scholar never said you can force. He only said advise your spouse and punish them for continued negligence of obligations.
@wazzabanzook5028
3 жыл бұрын
who are you to give advice regarding tafseer, under what authority are you speaking? please be quiet
@Sunny-yl4rm
3 жыл бұрын
Islam wants marriages to work. It is not right for a wife to deny him without a valid reason. It doesn't need to take more than 10-15 min, so it isn't a lot to expect. If she doesn't, the man is justified to the extent spoken in the video. There isn't really any force involved.
@suigeneris2663
2 жыл бұрын
😅
@prettygirlclub.7719
Жыл бұрын
@@Sunny-yl4rm erm the Ayat isn’t even used in the context because the wife wouldn’t sleep with her own husband . People are misleading and the blind is following the blind . You can hit nobody for refusing sexual intercourse . Come one lets really be for real now.
@suigeneris2663
2 жыл бұрын
Wife not sleeping with husband -> wife’s fault Husband not sleeping with wife -> wife’s fault Husband unfaithful because wife won’t sleep with him -> wife’s fault Wife is unfaithful because husband won’t sleep with her -> wife’s fault Rules for wayward wife No rules for abusive husband. Oh wait, she gets to ask for a divorce. I wonder why Islam gets such a bad rap when it comes to women….🤔 Such a beautiful religion of peace - where might makes right.
@dianal4455
2 жыл бұрын
In addition, the Islam doesn't even deny that it is a patriarchal religion. Muslim applogists will also use non peer reviewed American evolutionary psychology articles "studies" to explain how patriarchy is encoded in DNA, so that justifies not only men as leaders/breadwinners/women as housewives (even if the wife is smarter or more talented), but also child marriage to maximize female fertility with or without their consent, fathers marrying their teenage daughters to much older men in their 50s that already has wife(s) a.k.a polygamy if it benefit him/his tribe/family in some way and he feels nothing is wrong with this in modern day. Social status is considered important as a marriage standard in the Koran, so it justifies marrying your daughter and not getting her consent. Even if she says yes, its because she was born in a society that educates women to be submissive doormats, and she has no legal rights to say no because most family matters are handled "within the family by the pattiarch." Running away would get her arrested and detained or honor killed if her father is especially traditional.
@Daniel-ro3jb
2 жыл бұрын
r u christian or athies?
@Daniel-ro3jb
2 жыл бұрын
where in the quran saying about sleeping with wife? like r u joking smh
@englishlessonswithtracy1488
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. It’s an awful religion for women.
@SativaSeanLasVegas
2 жыл бұрын
I'm Samoan - Nigerian, I grew up in Samoa. A Mans house is HIS house. We do not inquire how he runs his household, nor do we conversate with his wife, so it doesn't matter what happens in a Mans home. I am Muslim, the Man is the leader of his household, and must maintain using his own judgement. Ideally, a house under Islam. He provides, he protects and he administers his house any way he sees fit, your explanation is nuanced, intelligent and logical, but how a man meets his needs of a house under Islam is his own business and that of Allah (swt).
@batouldirani909
2 жыл бұрын
I think you meant, he runs his house, the way Allah sees best fit. He meets the needs of his house as Allah sees best fit. He runs his house as Allah ordered him to. She's wife not your property. She obeys God, not you.
@hassanzaidi2243
2 жыл бұрын
The tooth brush doesn't make sense. But also sometimes emotional people need a slap to come back to their senses, this goes both ways. Women can hit their husbands and husbands can hit their wives it is a two way street. Some men are whipped by women. Also sex is a passionate act and ofcourse violence does stem from it if not managed properly. So Allah is restraining this act for both gender in opinion just give sex, you married like it or not just give love
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