This is so wild because it's close to the narcissistic energy from that last pick a card. It's exactly what I said it was, narcissists can't deal with their core identity of shame. So they deflect, project, and blame anyone else so they don't have to feel bad or take ownership of their feelings or actions. In their mind, they've already felt "bad enough" in their life, so who are you to demand differently from them? It's very two dimensional, toddler-brained black and white. You're either with me or against me. If you're with me, you'll enable me and take the blame for me, make me feel good, and never challenge me because I'm always right. If you demand accountability or responsibility, tell me my behavior has to change, or refuse to be my doormat, you're my enemy and against me. They literally do find ways of justifying their backstabbing behavior, whether it's based on superficial reasons or straight up delusion. They have it in their head that accountability is a personal attack, because that's for "the loser". So playing the victim is just another control tactic to try to regain power over somebody and assert dominance in the situation. You wouldn't be a monster that hurts someone that's crying, would you? They weaponize empathy and turn it into a tool to confuse people.
@user-cz1jq1xr4s
17 күн бұрын
Exactly this!!!!! You just described MANY members of my family and it's wild. It's so hard to explain to people who are on the outside who just want you to "reconcile" differences. It's takes experiencing the mental gymnastics and mind games of these people to truly understand it's not just "differences", it's a deeply rooted narcissism and no-one should have to put up with it.
@indigoneutral
17 күн бұрын
@@user-cz1jq1xr4s The biggest block to growth is a lack of self awareness. Narcissists intentionally scribble out their own self awareness, which is why their perspective seems so warped. They're literally not playing in reality. A truth that is wanted is more important than an authentic truth. It goes in line with one of the last readings about "the winner writes the truth". As I said, it's just foundationally unevolved and lacks the awareness needed to grow.
@itzjacayla
17 күн бұрын
It’s just so crazy that these people were failed by their parents so bad to the point where they can’t even say I’m sorry. When that’s all I ever wanted when I simply explain that something they did hurt. Very sad they don’t have that basic 12 year old level of common sense. Yet want me to beg and grovel for their attention and validation. Very unfortunate for them.
@LeahIsHereNow
17 күн бұрын
Their parents are usually part of the problem. When I was sitting in the police station (Edit to add I waiting to be interviewed, I was in no trouble because he didn’t have a mark on him) after my ex beat me senseless after holding me captive for no reason other than he was on a whole bunch of drugs I texted his mom and she immediately just started trying to cover for him and use my text messages against me. This went on for months so she was witness tampering which is illegal and his lawyer was involved in it and he would’ve been disbarred, There was never any grace in her heart for how I felt, how badly physically, emotionally, and mentally he had hurt me (and half of my face was beaten, swollen and bruised with a huge black eye, and I ended up having a major concussion). And she supposed to be a Christian and her husband is a pastor and a prison chaplain. Steer clear of the Odean family in Springfield, Missouri. They are liars, con artists, and fake Christians will try to gaslight you out of believing reality was real just to protect their son who is a drug addict monster. And they always knew that about him. They didn’t even think to warn me… Just immediately started blaming everything on me when they knew who he was. Sickening.
@LeahIsHereNow
17 күн бұрын
And my ex has been arrested so many times with guns and methamphetamines on him… He never really gets in any trouble. How peculiar.
@Divinesacredwisdom
19 күн бұрын
This is extremely accurate!!! Very spot on! He blame shifts like crazy and he had people backing him up (my ex coworkers). I have finally healed it’s taken me a year and a half but I truly do wish them all the best. He had no valid reason to treat me the way he did and he justifies all of his mistreatment and has flying monkeys and all of that. I’m just glad that it’s over. Edit: He really does have victim mentality very bad and it works exactly how you explained it. It’s tied to his shame.
@Chamsiee
17 күн бұрын
I finally had the confirmation that I could leave this company earlier than I expected! These people mistreated me and I was way too kind to them, knowing that I am way more evolved than some of them. I am happy to leave this karmic place! Thank God for the lessons that I learned now it is time to live free again
@themetamystic
17 күн бұрын
It’s ironic, because these are the people that always tell others to “live in reality”, when they are the ones who do not live in reality. Textbook narcissistic trait. I have known lots of narcissists, and still I have mercy. I ask God why I still do lol But I follow where God leads me. Thank you for your messages, Jess. They help my mercury mind so much. Missy
@TheSUPERGIRL51
17 күн бұрын
Missy we are here to irritate their Demons, to light them up…so they can transform inside all dark shadows. I know it’s not funny this “job”😅and for ourselves is to be more in self respect & self love 💕 that’s the plan 🤷🏻♀️
@kungfupanda1705
17 күн бұрын
Narcissists don't care about others - just looking for $$ and energy / let them go
@jessicawicker3582
17 күн бұрын
I knew this was beyond me, so I gave it to God.... You're spot on
@VetTechAnna
17 күн бұрын
I did the same recently, sometimes it's the best course. 💜🐾
@peggysw8862
17 күн бұрын
Yes yes and yes . All of it...he is so unaccountable and punishes me for being happy and spiritual and asking for what I want.
@LisaFrazier-kv5df
11 күн бұрын
I hope the people in the well can see a light & find their way out ❤
@darby2089
17 күн бұрын
Jess, TY for your reading. I was married to him for 23 yrs. Divorced for 15 yrs. now. Three adult daughters and 4 grandchildren. He hasn't changed, does not have a relationship with God. I pray for him everyday. I only see him on Holidays. He hurt us physically, emotionally and has never taken accountability for his actions. He made me feel like a piece of lint on his sweater.
@bulldogsandlife
17 күн бұрын
This is so what has happened , it was like a gang rape but without touching me physically, it was very hurtful , I felt so betrayed and left alone once again to stand up for myself or for others and it felt like I was crazy because I was the only one seeing all of this . Thank you for sharing what our guides and protectors are showing you , I would be far off and still more in the hurt rather than the healing side so thank you Jess and angels once again .
@Makloubalover
17 күн бұрын
I feel like you’re basically describing narcissism. Very deep apt analysis like always. Thank you
@katiewalters9186
17 күн бұрын
Yes, I did go through this with work colleagues & kept strong in the face of being punished for something i saw as being helpful & that they chose to see as trying to be their boss. I see them learning that lesson of being too negative now & yes I did pray to God to open their eyes so that they could truly see & now I feel they are starting to see. Thank you for the confirmation.
@sherwoodregan
17 күн бұрын
Oh wooooowww. Thank you. That makes so much sense. It confused me so much why every time he did horrendous things that hurt me so much he would then take a victim stance, and then turn it around and try to make me feel small. Thank you for helping me to see this about shame. It makes so much sense.
@NiN477
17 күн бұрын
People who dont deal with their shame can be extremely dangerous!
@LeahIsHereNow
17 күн бұрын
Mostly dangerous to themselves because eventually they will destroy themselves because they can’t ever admit and own up to what they did, but they just keep making excuses and lying and so do their flying monkeys.
@user-wb5wi2jd3b
17 күн бұрын
I literally just prayed this prayer, ending a second before seeing your video here which your "title" message completely echos the essence of my prayer back to me. Amazing. ❤
@user-vt4ko7cu8n
17 күн бұрын
Saying sorry means nothing unless there is true remorse & movement towards reconciliation
@teresaj6374
17 күн бұрын
What you said about shame/victimisation perception is really interesting and extremely relevant to the circumstances. As is the superficial mentality. They never apologise. It's always justifications, excuses, or the victim mentality.
@ForeverSingle10000
17 күн бұрын
The shame of being walked away from was too much for him to handle. Not based in reality. Massive OTT reaction given that he was married and forced me into a position where I had no choice but to leave for my own safety. It doesn't matter. I walked and am staying away, and I'm standing on that. He's welcome to collect his gold covered turds to assist him in his smear campaign of me, but I KNOW what I saw, and I've been made to FEEL his shame. Colour, gender, class. You name it, and he used it against me. I don't mind because his behaviour helped me reconnect with Source again. Silver linings ❤❤❤
@TayAnita-f1j
17 күн бұрын
I am grateful for your gifts and thank you for relaying messages. You are amazing. You are truly blessed. God, I am Humble you are the most amazing Parent I honor you. I am a believer, I have Faith and Trust you are Perfect and I am here for you to guide me to Serve you to complete my mission for your greatest plan for all of your children. May I serve and honor you the way you honor us, In Jesus' name I pray 🙏 Amen Sending Love, Light, Truth
@denali1122
17 күн бұрын
It's really too bad. I'm at the oh well, live and learn forgive and forget stage. Prayers 🙏
@traylync75258
17 күн бұрын
Forgiveness is for self! We should continue to love others, including ourselves… mostly ourselves!!! God is great all the time!
@Radiantequilibrium
17 күн бұрын
You just described a relationship I had with an ex best frienemy that I had to let go of 10 years ago. We were friends for 15 years. For the last ten years she used my inlaws to stalk me and turned them into flying monkeys. When I was battling postpartum depression due to having lost a child the year before I had my rainbow baby they all bullied me relentlessly. I knew it was her and never reacted. I recently moved out of my state and no one knows crap about me. I am finally free. Thank you for your message.
@lindahuser866
17 күн бұрын
very similar to my story😅😮
@VetTechAnna
17 күн бұрын
Jess, wow. I could take your readings and fill in the exact real-life 3D details to make the most amazing, f'd up, unbelievable but validating and relatable story or podcast series ever. Love your readings, they are so incredibly appreciated. 🙏🏻💜🐾
@Wittywitch555
17 күн бұрын
Needed to hear this. I so appreciate your gift. Thank you.
@monicatriant1207
18 күн бұрын
I accept full message and I just started listening- I trust you so much Jess. So much gratitude 🙏🏻 ❤ I love you 💕
@goddesschess
17 күн бұрын
You can’t run from your shadow 😈😈😈
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
My ex underestimated his mother 🤣🤣🤣
@harshatrivedi8541
17 күн бұрын
You made me laugh. You exactly know what kind of people are there.❤❤ Thankyou ma'am thankyou univers ❤❤
@pouspathompson4991
17 күн бұрын
Emotional maturity was not there. It really threw me off balance. The degree of lies ! Unbelievable. After nearly three years, they are still throwing spells .😮😮
@Cajungypsy682
17 күн бұрын
Thank you, Jess. I really needed this today ❤
@starwishes3493
17 күн бұрын
Thank you Jess it finally worked I meant absolutely no harm but I truly want him to accept responsibility for his behavior and change it for good once and for all
@BK22-2Fish
11 күн бұрын
Thanks so much Jess for the read. Always appreciative. 🙏
@sherwoodregan
17 күн бұрын
It never ceases to amaze me how many lyrics you can remember! 😂
@jennifermcconnell2392
17 күн бұрын
I did learn many harsh lessons but it was necessary on so many levels of self awareness of confidence self love self respect and that I am good enough no matter what anyone thinks or says about me. I’m not perfect in anyway shape or form definitely don’t judge anyone’s shortcomings harshly or use it to hurt them when being treated like absolute shit! never mind most humans who meet me waste so much time assuming and judging me by the way I look instead of saying hello and genuinely getting to know me!! The worst betrayal is when I’ve shared parts of me in any type of vulnerable manner and then is used against me in the most cruel of ways…by body shaming me against your ex or some sick sexual low blow etc etc I’m not sure I’ll ever get that mature adult convo with him taking accountability for his dishonesty and abusive Narcissist cruel behavior but at the end of the day it was also my choice to stick around and to mentally torture myself thru it all!! I’m slowly learning to forgive myself and all the toxic abusive behaviors I can now see 10 miles away and can run the opposite direction!!! 😂😂
@Radiantequilibrium
17 күн бұрын
I even wrote her an email letting her know that I knew what she was doing and I took responsibility for ending it friendship in a way that hurt her enough for her to have that reaction. She reacted exactly as you stated. It's crazy how accurate this reading was.
@scorpiamusic
17 күн бұрын
If I’ve already been removed from the situation and am trying to do the healing work to move forward, why does it matter that they change? It’s not like it’s going to fix anything for me.
@sherwoodregan
17 күн бұрын
Wibbly wobbly land. 😅 So much. He also does have Aladdin traits.
@saralawrence335
17 күн бұрын
OH YEAH. One person. I am not weak. This helps me a lot. Some people ARE assholes.
@gamerlee4539
17 күн бұрын
lol hahahah yeah he try to play games in order to numb himself to not deal with feelings , me? I blamed myself until i worked on myself and i healed all my issues and took all my weakeness points and reforce them, and i'm actually a natural healer, so i heal me and i try to heal him, but i notice the bestway was showing my grow so looks like "monkey sees, monkey do it" hahaha, I love him, I grew up a lot with that experience
@Shellie-n9g
17 күн бұрын
Thank you....much appreciated
@winmdyer
17 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@leeleeg4169
17 күн бұрын
You described 3 individuals in my life very well. They all suffer from the A-Hat Virus. Lol. Unfortunately, one of them is my spouse. Thank you Jess for your helpful and resonant insight. I appreciate fully. 🙏🏻💕🌞🕊
@irenedornauer65
17 күн бұрын
Eureka! Shame aversion! I've always felt there was some kind of trauma brought on to my person. They never disclosed specifics about childhood. They were the oldest of 6 kids, and I always felt they were deemed caretaker at too early of an age. I can see the unhealthy mentality as well. I've met their parents. The mother is the nucleus of the family dynamic and the father is remnants of a man's man ( blue collar bread winner). I've seen his validation of self thru doing for family and thru superficial connections due to lack of introspection. Fear and unknowing where to start is relative now, as they have claimed how they've been living their whole life is tiresome bullshi*t. I stayed longer than I should have to lead by example of my own acceptance of life's circumstances and emotional growth journey. I'm the end, " you can't help those whom don't see they need, or want help. Most painful connection I've ever endured and the marks are still being worked in to this day. However, I am grateful for my own self discovery currently. Thank you for this, it clarified a lot.
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
I hear: “She has to be punished!”
@hydethemonkey885
17 күн бұрын
Yes. My work situation.
@michael7192
17 күн бұрын
Great video thank you
@avidphoto6077
17 күн бұрын
Appreciate you, thank you
@SherryClemmens
17 күн бұрын
Thank you for conformation
@IsaiahBoyd-w4k
16 күн бұрын
Thank you ❤❤
@AlchemyOfInteraction
17 күн бұрын
i cleaned her house while she was out of town. she was mostly annoyed.
@tleeproductions1773
15 күн бұрын
She probably thought you were calling her dirty. But you weren't.
@strangelove0108
17 күн бұрын
I said projection right before you! Spot on
@katherinewilson1853
17 күн бұрын
I love him. 🙏💗 He's a sweetheart. The only thing I wanted when we met was possibly to be friends, because I like who he is.
@Jp-1sr5wt
17 күн бұрын
I did love him. That's the sad part and yes I would have helped. 🤷♀️..
@susanr6850
16 күн бұрын
🎉🎉 thank you
@freesandy
17 күн бұрын
So very accurate
@debrachambers1554
17 күн бұрын
Something good came from something evil. That's how I chose to look at it. When I g
@traylync75258
17 күн бұрын
Much love and many blessings!! ❤️🙏🏼🤗🪽 I appreciate you so much!
@traylync75258
17 күн бұрын
Thanks!
@user-qi8yf6rc7w
17 күн бұрын
Thank you for this very valuable insight, Thank you Thank you Thank you
@kristynsotelo1452
16 күн бұрын
Some people especially non neurotypical people like shallow relations because people are overwhelming. Better to stay helpful and perfunctial than get close
@angelgr76
17 күн бұрын
I prayed for this! 😇💗
@user-qm8zx6pg5v
15 күн бұрын
They need to stop hitting on every girl at the mall including my new assistant. 🙄
@JrDetectiveLeague
17 күн бұрын
A group of ppl at target 🎯 targeted me. Cause I didn't wanna b part of there group and ppl please them....she bullied me out of that place but not before I saw there friend group implode an they all went after each other....her name was Kill too...like um? Toxic much just by the person's name alone. So glad I left that place, if u are a introvert don't work at target, there are clicks that form cus there's so many employees. U don't join a circle u are bullied out of work environment...yay
@monicatriant1207
18 күн бұрын
My birth hour is going to happen 11:11 AM. I know I am ok because I trust your guidance. You are a great tour guide!!❤
@aussieallstar66
17 күн бұрын
He is acting out his buried shame by his shameful behaviour. Player promiscuous ruthless heartbreaker.
@nataliaprodan9335
17 күн бұрын
Thank you lovely Jess❤
@LanceRawlings-gl4dn
17 күн бұрын
❤❤ let’s move on asap
@LanceRawlings-gl4dn
17 күн бұрын
Together❤
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
Queen of Pentacles and Queen of Cups for anyone needing a head’s up 🤣🤣🪶
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
My people are sensitive and cannot handle their truth but you help me while they cannot. Thank you 🙏🏻
@Moon1111Sun
17 күн бұрын
Resonates ❤
@PatienceLoveWinzzzz
17 күн бұрын
They remind me of DEXTER . If you ain’t seen the show I recommend to watch because how DEXTER WAS IS HOW THEM PEOPLE ARE until he got caught in the last season .
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
11:11 AM. Let’s talk through traditions, Mom. Lol
@charikloangel33
17 күн бұрын
Wow! ❤
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
I am from WV and there is shame from being from there… I cannot change that on my birth certificate. It is a sad reality. BLM energy.
@user-gw4xr9us7n
17 күн бұрын
“I declare and believe in Jesus Christ” he who believes is born and He who loves the father loves you as much. Trust in the Lord with everything you have God” himself, is our rock our salvation. In Jesus Mighty Name Amen 🙏✨🗝️
@LeahIsHereNow
17 күн бұрын
8:26 yeah, just a basic apology for brutalizing me for several hours and then trying to lie about it and say he was trying to protect me. WTF. Two people went into the room and the smaller person came out terrified, bruised, beaten and traumatized. I have all of the receipts, including the police interview, all of the photographs of my face and whole body, the cop can video. But the most damning thing are the photos of him. (ironically, I have all of this because he left his lawyers discovery CD at my house. He’s definitely not a smooth criminal.) He doesn’t have a mark on him. Not ONE. There was no struggle. He wasn’t trying to wrangle me to safety or pry weapons out of my hands. He just beat tf out of me because he was on a whole bunch of drugs and he can’t handle admitting it to himself. I can imagine that would be pretty difficult to fully grasp. His family doesn’t hold him accountable, even though they are supposed to be upstanding Christians and the father is a pastor/prison chaplain. Didn’t care about me at all. And they knew he was a liar and drug addict when I met him but for some reason, they just defend him no matter what horrible things he does. His mom never showed any grace in her heart for what I had been through or how traumatized I was… She literally tried to use the first text message I sent her after it happened, as well as subsequent messages, to somehow exonerate him, but of course that didn’t pan out because I was always telling the truth. His former attorney was trying to help her entrap me and he would’ve been disbarred Had I spilled the beans. I wonder what the statute of limitations is on that type of offense. I have nothing to hide and nothing to lose and they have everything to hide and everything to lose so hopefully these shenanigans and these silly little targeting games are going to come to an abrupt stop before somebody gets hurt. And it sure as hell isn’t gonna be me this time.
@elysianonearth
14 күн бұрын
Yessss they are stuck between a rock and a hard place. 😂 They needed things to be removed from their life over and over and the signs to get bigger and bigger - so that they can no longer blame the other and see that they are the common denominator in all these situations. This is my first reading of yours - spot on and confirmed what I was picking up on. (I’ve been praying for them - old friends, my mom, my boyfriend’s mom - their souls and because it affects everyone on Earth too)
@rachaelmcdougall798
17 күн бұрын
He was superficial he called me a gold digger but I worked he didn't and he after we got married then seperated sold the house andibed forward leaving me and kids to start again he's a horrid selfish human
@aussieallstar66
17 күн бұрын
He is eastern European and has very different values to me. I think what you are saying is right. He is not his own person and is controlled by his ethnicity. I do not want to know about it. Too primitive for me. He compensates for really being a nobody at his core by focusing on money and fame to give himself value.
@annb7913
17 күн бұрын
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@TheBrandiBeatdown
17 күн бұрын
💜🙏🏼💜
@GoldzenJuLz
17 күн бұрын
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉god love rules everything around God love is inside everyone all of life God love is now currently fluid flowing we are healing the hurt beautiful blessings worldwide ❤wholesome and delicious truth ❤️ yummm❤ what a feeling ❤❤❤❤❤thank you so very much 😊 ♥️ may you know the joy you inspire in me❤thank you ❤xxjulz
@GoldzenJuLz
17 күн бұрын
0:22❤ 0:26 ❤ Babe 0:30 ❤🎉🎉🎉heck yess 0:41 ❤
@monicatriant1207
17 күн бұрын
Meet my mom 🤣🤣🤣 Arranged marriages 🤣🤣🤣
@TheSuperpaige2011
17 күн бұрын
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺😭
@traylync75258
17 күн бұрын
This is my message… thank you Lord!!! Thank you Jess. 🙏🏼❤️💪🏼🕊️
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19 күн бұрын
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17 күн бұрын
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