You should do a stationary shop video! I always seek out new stores when I come to Japan.
@X3000Chan
6 жыл бұрын
Christy, in the moment I know you shook that guy's hand, but PLEASE don't feel bad for NOT shaking someone's hand, or feel like you have to for some reason be "nice." Women are always taught to be "nice", "polite", "friendly", and "accommodating", but these men show a high level of disrespect by touching you without your consent, and making it "seem" like they're just being friendly. They may look normal, but normal, good men, of ANY nationality or race, do not do this. Smiling and acting clumsy, or flirty on their end could be a trick, and you should always ALWAYS treat Tokyo exactly the same way you would treat NYC. If you'd glare at someone and yell at someone in NYC if they touched you, do it in Tokyo too. If you wouldn't step foot into a smiling, and seemingly kind stranger's apartment or car in NYC, then do not do it in Tokyo either. There are lower rates of violent crime and murder in Tokyo than NYC, but higher instances of stalking and physical sexual harassment. I feel this number would decrease exponentially if Japanese women would not remain silent when they are harassed, but be unafraid, knowledgable in self-defense and not so culturally oppressed by the "feminine ideal" that they do not speak out and yell at harassers and mace them in the face (you can yell "セクハラ!!" -sexual harassment - at someone if they grab you). Never feel afraid or shy to yell at them. It will be better for all of Japan if more women stand up to it. It only happens as much as it does because women stay silent, and police don't seem to take both women and foreigners very seriously, which is sad, but can be changed when women stand up. If ever being followed or chased (hopefully not) you should go into a konbini (luckily on most every corner) and tell the clerk who can call the police, or go to a Police Box (know where they are along your usual routes) if it seems like any kind of a dangerous situation. I have heard these tips from others in Japan. Tokyo is much safer than most big cities, but you should always treat it no differently than NYC, and always keep your headphones off, and don't be distracted with a phone conversation. General safety tips for women in any country, apply to Japan as well. I put my "I'll cut you." face on on the trains in Tokyo. I don't smile at people on the trains or make eye contact, and I think I look rather mean. That's what I do in NYC, and it's what I do in Tokyo. No difference. Always be safe and unafraid. If ever actually attacked (unlikely to happen in Tokyo, but good advice for anywhere), the best advice I've ever read, is "Visualize yourself as the attacker." In a real serious situation, acting defensively is not nearly as effective as acting offensively. Don't get yourself arrested on a train if someone touchers your shoulder... just yell at them, but if ever in a serious situation in any place, Australia, America, wherever, visualizing yourself as the attacker will completely throw the attacker off as they will not at all he expecting that. It's the best advice I've ever heard.
@christy-anne-jones
6 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate that you have an 'I'll cut you' face hahah. I think that's something like what my resting face looks like now, especially on the trains. It's essentially just a 'don't talk to me' face. I agree with a lot of what you said: there is a genuine problem with people staying silent about harassment here. And, thankfully, since these two incidents I've only experienced one more incident of being followed. I told the guy very firmly to leave me alone, and he did. Thank you for your comment and advice :)
@ClaireYunFarronXIII
6 жыл бұрын
KuroNeko True!
@pjfinsydney
6 жыл бұрын
Agree with you that summer here in Tokyo is not very pleasant. The humidity is stifling, and it doesn’t cool down at night like it does in Australia. Really difficult to sleep without air conditioning. Like you, i much prefer the cooler months which are really nice in Tokyo. One more thing I don’t enjoy about Tokyo is the excessive amount of plastic packaging - drives me a little crazy to see things like individual carrots wrapped in plastic. Thanks for the video.
@allisonl2494
6 жыл бұрын
Christy I feel the creepy guy thing so much :( One time I was in a backstreet by Harajuku and this guy kept trying to get me to model for him! One thing that worked for me was responding in a foreign European-ish language if they try to talk to you. If you pretend you don't understand English or Japanese and make up a language and scoot away the guys are usually too confused to do anything haha
@lfior
5 жыл бұрын
Your shoe problem is literally my life in Europe, the UK and everywhere. Now I'm putting that on the list of reasons I should consider moving to Tokyo!
@X3000Chan
6 жыл бұрын
So you don't like the heat & humidity or super crowded stores, but love Winter and love the big city and all of it's quirky shops, restaurants, & conveniences. Perhaps you two should try Sapporo or another northern Japan city. I hear Sapporo is really nice and not too hot in the summer. :)
@christy-anne-jones
6 жыл бұрын
Sapporo is absolutely lovely! It's very, very, very cold though. I traveled there last year. I think, maybe, I'm just not used to as extreme weather. My home city is a lot more temperate hahah
@DREAMHippo9
7 жыл бұрын
Any big city you have to be more careful because it's close personal space. If you live in the suburbs of Australia or America then you'll be mostly in your car rather than traveling on foot or train which in general is safer because of that distance and mobility.
@christy-anne-jones
7 жыл бұрын
Yeah ... I already take precautions, like, here, I don't even jog with head phones in. Just, in my daily life in Adelaide I used to catch the train and walk all over the place and it was fine. I've never even experienced catcalling (not that there's catcalling here, thankfully). Just different places! I still love that Tokyo is wonderfully safe, it's just this tiny thing
@ClaireYunFarronXIII
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing🙂❤
@DREAMHippo9
7 жыл бұрын
If you notice someone following you then get on your phone and call someone or pretend to talk on the phone. That should put them on edge and make them go away.
@christy-anne-jones
7 жыл бұрын
Yeah, that's a very good point -- when both incidents happened, I hadn't actually set up my phone yet so I wasn't able to contact anyone (which was one of the reasons I was freaking out so much). I could have pretended to talk to someone though, that's a good idea
@honeyfitz3791
6 жыл бұрын
Good suggestion. I would add, "Look at them as you are talking, so they think you are talking about them,"
@mk098a
6 жыл бұрын
Another KZitemr had it happen while they were recording and the guy was still following them
@honeyfitz3791
6 жыл бұрын
Those "creepy guys" are not dangerous in Tokyo. In other cites, like New York, they ARE dangerous. Try this technique, if you are being followed by a creepy guy in Tokyo. (1) Stop. (2) Turn and face him. (3) Stretch out your arm to its full length, pointing at him dramatically, and curse at him in Japanese, in loud voice, so that other people on the street take notice. The creepy guy will run away. (You need to learn few good curse words.) Or, look for a police officer and report him. That works very well.
@hananity
7 жыл бұрын
hey it's been a long time to write a comment, maybe you don't remember me haha. You've been in japan for 3 months? For studying or working? I hope everything goes well with you and succeed in everything pursuing.
@christy-anne-jones
7 жыл бұрын
Of course I remember! You always leave lovely comments. Plus your name reminds me of Nebula (and I love space). And yes! My partner and I are here on a Working Holiday Visa :) So I'm not here specifically to work or study but I am working and studying at the moment haha. Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you're doing well, also :)
@hananity
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the reply! yes I love space too, so beautiful.
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