Once we get to the teenage years, it builds up and starts to show in our faces. And then that gets normalized as typical teenage angst. :/
@tinaperez7393
2 жыл бұрын
One of the things that contributes to that. Not all. Teenage years are hard for everyone - trying to figure out who you are, what you'll do and be in life, how you'll provide for yourself, how you'll get what you need and want in terms of income, partners, children, etc, etc., etc. But yes, this stuff sure makes life much harder and meaner than it should have to be.
@collegien1
2 жыл бұрын
@@tinaperez7393 To be honest your comment sounds a little bit invalidating, at least to me. Especially the teenage years are hard for everyone part (sounds like there’s an omitted get over it there as well, but it could be my own trigger). The more I heal, the more I realize that all these “difficult” life phases are not really difficult at all when you have a safe base to return to. Whether it’s outside, with other people, or inside, with your inner adult. It’s difficult when people around you are pressuring you into something rather than lovingly guiding you, or even just letting you be yourself. If that’s the case, then figuring yourself out becomes an adventure. Bump along the road? You go back to your healthy system and connect with it even more. There’s some real hard stuff in life, especially when it comes to illness and loss of loved ones, but teenage years would only be hard if you’ve had shitty parents in my opinion.
@tinaperez7393
2 жыл бұрын
@@collegien1 sure. Cearly THAT'S what I was saying. (sarcasm)
@jennytaylor3324
2 жыл бұрын
Great observation.
@Lavenderfairy1905
2 жыл бұрын
@@collegien1 yeah I totally agree... Life isn't supposed to be hard... It's only hard for those of us who had to do it all alone with nobody to return to, nobody to care, nobody to love us... Everyone gets stressed sometimes but once they go and talk with someone that they love and get reassurance... They feel better about the situation and are able to deal with it.. But sadly we have to become our own parent, our own safe place... Sending love and hugs to all my people❤️🩹☺🙂
@andrewjansen9702
8 ай бұрын
Being a kid is mandatory. Being a parent is optional. Not everyone who is family deserves your love.
@elliotgraham-yj8og
7 ай бұрын
what about that one person who spawned as a 60 year old
@hinakaramat3993
7 ай бұрын
@@elliotgraham-yj8og This isn't funny
@elliotgraham-yj8og
7 ай бұрын
@@hinakaramat3993 bro it’s a Minecraft joke stop being offended bro
@hinakaramat3993
7 ай бұрын
@@elliotgraham-yj8og making fun of something serious and after someone complains you are the one who gets offended.
@autumnishotterthansummer
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this
@sprunklee
4 ай бұрын
The idea of a kid being neglected and abused like that crushes me
@rosieb471
4 ай бұрын
It’s very hard to understand.
@sprunklee
4 ай бұрын
@@rosieb471 I know. It breaks my heart. Especially thinking of how many times those things were said to that sweet little kid
@ahmadm8382
Ай бұрын
For a lot of us its the reality... im in a pretty good spot now, but i still struggle with self-esteem now and then. My father had passed away 3 years ago, since then, it made me realize more and more, that i didnt grew up normally, and so missed a normal childhood. Sometimes i feel like im damaged goods.. i hope i won't turn out like him when im older, im 23 now.
@sprunklee
Ай бұрын
@@ahmadm8382 THIS. I’m so, so sorry that happened to you. I was abused when I was younger as well, but nowhere near to that extent. I still live with him.
@autumn948
Ай бұрын
@@sprunkleeyou don't have to live with him. You never have to live with him, or anyone. Family is a choice, and one that should be made out of love and appreciation, not fear and "respect"
@That_girrl
Жыл бұрын
All kids deserve a parent Not all parents deserve a kid
@sablexqz
10 ай бұрын
@Pardis-og3tbNot oddly at all, actually. They project their terrible childhoods onto their children and learn from their abusive or absent parents.
@tanjiro_heehee
10 ай бұрын
Can yalll stay on 1 shit Someone says all parents deserve kids But not all kids deserve parents like wtf
@pinkdollangel
10 ай бұрын
@@tanjiro_heeheecan you stop being rude
@tanjiro_heehee
10 ай бұрын
@@pinkdollangel I'm not trying to be rude I'm just confused as I stated
@aviyaanaman9387
10 ай бұрын
Your forgetting that sometimes it's the opposite
@kadelu1137
2 жыл бұрын
That beautiful little boy deserved to be treated with love and integrity
@BobaTeaPan-Z325
Ай бұрын
Fr
@nishiskitchen9454
Ай бұрын
Keep the chain going fr
@pieceofemma
26 күн бұрын
Yes he did
@nmc1859
24 күн бұрын
Amen 🙏 ❤ Too bad his father missed out on understanding that he had a wonderful gift .. in the form of a lovely son. Sounds like the father was absolutely full of disdain
@tylerdixon2316
3 ай бұрын
Helping others after you've been hurt is the biggest middle finger to those that hurt you. You cannot change my mind.
@myamulvey
2 ай бұрын
I needed to hear that🥹
@myamulvey
2 ай бұрын
I am looking to work in a mental hospital after my 5 teenage stays, 3 attempts, an 8 yr SH add!ction, and a 🍇.
@shipwrecker37
2 ай бұрын
Emphasis on OTHERS too. Don't burn out hoping to change the parent! There are people out there who will reciprocate your efforts.
@autumn948
Ай бұрын
@@myamulvey i know it doesn't mean much coming from a stranger, but I believe in you.
@myamulvey
Ай бұрын
@@autumn948 🥹🥰Tysm seriously
@lori3670
2 жыл бұрын
We were all so innocent and pure
@awaywithfairies4689
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly, they saw our light and they couldn't stand it. I think it all boils down to that.
@orthodoxy6470
Жыл бұрын
Man God can purify us again
@Haza123.
Жыл бұрын
Soo true
@hello.6748
Жыл бұрын
I hate how they ruined me. I just feel ruined.
@alicia.q_q
Жыл бұрын
And then they ruined us
@gojiberry7201
2 жыл бұрын
So many children hear sh*t like this and absorb it for life. I just hope that people can see you as a professional telling your story and relating to you, and finding comfort in your help
@bethb.6813
2 жыл бұрын
Good point. I can use that. What if I were to list all of the wrong-headed stuff I remember and also all of the negative self-thoughts from stuff I have suppressed? And what if I went through each and, taking the inner child vs my higher self, the inner adult, loved myself instead? What would that look like? Here's me, trying it on for size. Thanks Patrick. I can build a new inner life with these tools. I can have access to my inner child's dreams and I can now live with the talents and strength I was meant to have to see reality breathe life, my life, into my dreams.
@safiyyahhameed6354
2 жыл бұрын
Ikr it's sad
@himangshu6708
Жыл бұрын
And I'm one of them
@abdoucisse894
Жыл бұрын
@@himangshu6708damn hope the best for you
@_JustJoe
Жыл бұрын
@@bethb.6813 This brought tears to my eyes
@thiseuphoria1
3 ай бұрын
"I'm your mother's first priority, all of you come second." We were 9, 5, and 3. What a great man, needing to outrank his literal children.
@R-Anon-XYZ
2 ай бұрын
My dad would say almost the same, but it was "Your mom and I are the most important people, you all come after us." And gods does that fuck up self-image. Sorry you had to deal with that shit.
@sharonkayknight4863
Ай бұрын
So heartbreaking!
@monicatorres4686
2 жыл бұрын
I will never forget this lady I saw at the movie theater telling her grandson things like that and swearing at him.. telling him he was stupid for spilling his drink.. I wanted to stand up for him. I wanted to report her.. But I just stood there .. I felt like I couldn’t, I froze, like someone had a hand over my mouth.. I told my husband what had happened and my husband waved at the little boy and said he’d buy him another soda .. his grandma refused .. my husband gave him a high five and told him he was an awesome kid😢.. I went home and cried .. I was so heart Broken that he had to endure that .. and I was so mad at myself for not being able to stand up for him😓 I promised my self that next time I saw something like this I would speak up and or report it .. Child abuse is not just physical.. 😢
@natemorgan1996
Жыл бұрын
Hi I know we don't know each other personally but I'm sorry that you saw that kid being treated badly by his piece of shit grandma but I'm happy that your husband made that kid feel better by buying him a soda and saying he's an awesome kid
@GreenTea3699
10 ай бұрын
You did what you could. You told your husband. And the little boy had someone offering to buy him another drink so at least somewhere in that little boy's heart he knew that he really wasn't worthless. He needed that. Next time you'll be more prepared but at least that little boy knows someone somewhere saw value in him 💕
@chickenuggies333
10 ай бұрын
I get that feeling. Seeing a caretaker scream at a child just hurts me so bad, even though nothing like that has ever happened to me... Yeah I get it 💔
@Puerto_Rico7
5 ай бұрын
Womp Womp
@bethgeer69
5 ай бұрын
@@Puerto_Rico7 You're not funny.
@alexandramartin8444
9 ай бұрын
It made me teary eyed to seeing photos of vibrant baby boy paired with the cruel and heartless things your father said. How wonderful that you took that experience to help others.
@not-so-obvious_autism777
7 ай бұрын
Exactly. Children need to be protected, prioritized, and loved. Not whatever the hell this is. (Ah yes, it’s called *verbal abuse.* 😀) There’s definitely no “right” way to parent, but this is certainly a great example of one of the *_wrong_* ways.
@eliwahuhi
4 ай бұрын
Same
@eliwahuhi
4 ай бұрын
I was never allowed to even play an instrument.
@karadair9221
Ай бұрын
I cried watching this. Those school pics could be me. You hold a special and important purpose in the world Patrick. Thank you 💜
@kaybrown4010
2 жыл бұрын
Heartbreaking. Thank you for using your trauma as a catalyst for healing yourself and others.
@DaniaAlazzawi-s5j
4 ай бұрын
The fact that he still remembered all of these lines...
@imtheapricot
4 ай бұрын
it's so heartbreaking
@Melanie_martiniii
4 ай бұрын
Its abuse obv
@msdemeanour
4 ай бұрын
We all remember the lines. I was never allowed to eat at the table with my "father." I was treated like a diseased, feral dog.
@DaniaAlazzawi-s5j
4 ай бұрын
@@msdemeanour dang I'm sorry
@Toastmyheart
3 ай бұрын
@@DaniaAlazzawi-s5jOfc he remembers all of the lines he was abused
@kkc6155
3 ай бұрын
How parents can treat their children so cruelly will never ever make sense. The damage and shame they cause out of their own misery..💔
@jcortese3300
2 жыл бұрын
When you think about it, it's scary how inescapably correct these things can seem to the kid on the receiving end when they are so TRANSPARENTLY WRONG and actually plain nuts when seen from the outside. You do such important work, dude.
@east_coastt
2 жыл бұрын
It’s then a mindf*ck trying to undo that as an adult. It’s so hard to make yourself believe that they’re NOT true even though rationally you can see that they’re not
@dawnslight676
2 жыл бұрын
My mom said babies don't remember. Some of earliest memories are of her hating me.
@Screeno1993
Жыл бұрын
Same .
@xMorningDovex
Жыл бұрын
same
@BleachMr873
11 ай бұрын
Same
@Nettlebush2360
11 ай бұрын
Actually that's false information. Well, technically. While you may not be able to recall the memory like your more vivid ones, it still leaves an impact if it's repeated behavior and it still will affect the baby. Think of babies like sponges, they are constantly learning from their guardians / surroundings. So even if those weren't your earliest memories, it still would have an effect on you.
@Mikeyglazer250T
11 ай бұрын
Oh boo hoo
@cynthiamantzouranis7134
2 ай бұрын
I am 61 years old and my childhood has affected my entire life. I inherited 3 boxes full of photo albums when I put my mother into senior care. They sat in my home haunting me unopened for months. I asked my brother if he wanted them and he said we starred in own own horror movie, to burn them. I kept one from before the abusive step father entered our lives when we were innocent little kids and my sweet husband got rid of the rest. Wish the memories and triggers and nightmares could be thrown out and forgotten too. Every child deserves to be safe, cherished, and loved.
@sharonkayknight4863
Ай бұрын
It’s like this… Too many children seem to be without rights, especially if the mother is abused and co dependent on him. Even worse even becoming abusive also. Childhood trauma runs deep and stays a lifetime.
@sharonkayknight4863
Ай бұрын
It’s like this… Too many children seem to be without rights, especially if the mother is abused and co dependent on him. Even worse even becoming abusive also. Childhood trauma runs deep and stays a lifetime.I feel so bad for you. I certainly relate.
@boethjelle8769
2 жыл бұрын
From one kicked around kid to another, I love you Patrick. We are doing so well. I am proud of you.
@DesertflowerUSA
Жыл бұрын
❤
@christineklutts4991
11 ай бұрын
😢
@adrianrios5256
8 ай бұрын
That’s beautiful
@gardengyal2.018
2 жыл бұрын
Inspirational you are to turn such pain into purpose, thank you helping so many with your channel
@cheryllee4754
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the reminder!💖
@abbyfrr
29 күн бұрын
notice how his smile slowly fades each year.. it’s heartbreaking that anybody would have to go through that..💔
@Queenofdorks023
5 ай бұрын
My father once told me "the only thing i'd be good for is making men satisfied". It's truly disturbing how many people can relate to trauma from parents or other family members💔
@Bo.shay3
4 ай бұрын
That’s not right , if you became Muslim you are not allowed to sleep with any one except your husband ( He should be Muslim ) because he can’t sleep with another women , this is gonna make him very guilty and you will not be as he says you gonna be , you will be a successful mom and your kids will love and care for you because in our religion Islam you have to love and make your parents proud of you and take extra care with them , in your case you have to be the better person in the whole situation show him that you are pure because your Muslim you exists to worship Allah not to be a street girl and he should’ve said smithing nice to you not those nasty words YOU ARE STRONGER THAN WHAT HE SAYS ♥️
@SamikshaIngle-sf7zb
4 ай бұрын
Stay strong siso ❤
@Bluelinechevy82
3 ай бұрын
That is so hurtful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
@NomNomNomISMNIS
3 ай бұрын
@JJ_Jacobisverylit1 Not funny, Jacob.
@manasikashyap
3 ай бұрын
What an awful thing to say to a child 💔
@oceanclawz
8 ай бұрын
"Everyone has a backstory. Even if it's hidden behind a smile."
@rawlyrare
7 ай бұрын
It’s hidden in ur brain.
@Sox_ate_socks
7 ай бұрын
Wow
@MIR-OMER-ALI
6 ай бұрын
Same thing
@Yunaboomer
6 ай бұрын
“Behind a smile could be anything unjust & cruel and you’ll never know which happy life could be a lie” - maybe me idk someone could’ve said this :/
@BenTheHen-q9j
6 ай бұрын
That’s not abusive
@EverySecondCounts_LogOff
4 ай бұрын
When I developed Parkinson’s before 30 I lost the patience to mask and put up with these words….and Going no contact with my sexually, physically, emotionally, verbally, neglectfully abusive family was the best thing that ever happened to me. Feels so light now. My chosen family’s mantra is “happy healthy comfortable safe”, and everyone in that family knows it by heart, and works hard to provide that for each other. My husband and daughter are the best, and living life with them is just such a genuine pleasure that I didn’t know existed. I didn’t realise that not being shitty was as easy as making the decision not to be.
@Morgan720-l4y
6 ай бұрын
"I wish you were never my daughter." Right to my nine year old face. He also verbally and emotionally abused my mother, told her he wished I had never been born, and told her I ruined his life (by literally existing). He hit our cats, used to beat me, and wanted to put me up for adoption before I was born.
@penguinplays2673
5 ай бұрын
hope you have peace now ❤❤❤
@texasbabie1109
4 ай бұрын
Life is hard but u have to go through it for the people u love u can't just let him beat u he ruined ur life
@FatMonkeySexMonkey
4 ай бұрын
Wht you are just a woman,,, You dont know the struggle of a Sigma (true man) like me
@not.supermario
4 ай бұрын
I don't know you, but I love you and wish you all the best in life.
@justanormaldilo.249
4 ай бұрын
What a coward, your father is.
@batterybroken
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry, you were such a cute kid. I wish you could have had more love growing up 🥺
@fromtheparkbench1979
29 күн бұрын
You can see the sadness grow more in his eyes and smile slowly becoming a forced one. Things to look for in your nephews, nieces, your kids friends...and step in and do something about it! Thanks so much for this, Patrick.
@senoraalcantara9098
2 жыл бұрын
Moved to tears. Yes, you help people now. Lots and lots of people. Thanks for being who you truly are❤
@scorpification
2 жыл бұрын
The mama in me wants to hold that little sweet boy in those pictures 😢
@Mushroom321-
2 жыл бұрын
Right!!!, me too!
@bluebutterfly391
2 жыл бұрын
Yes , the momma in me wants to kick his as* .. My mother was the narcissist , her mother was also a narcissist as are both of my sisters..
@VirgoKat
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely 💕
@wastelandgames9409
Жыл бұрын
the father in me wants to break that dads jaw
@xx_aley
Жыл бұрын
❤same
@kellyweaver8427
Ай бұрын
It's very powerful to show the child pictures of you and how innocent and sweet, then the words over the top. Very powerful post.
@lizi.2503
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so proud of how far you've come. You were the most goregous young man and boy. We appreciate you right here Patrick💜💛🧡❤
@__-eh3ob
2 жыл бұрын
Omg 😭😭😭😭 so grateful for people like you , a true inspiration and a pure gentle soul so kind and beautiful and a HERO ! You are amazing ! I wish you the best of luck
@Swiftie-Loo13
3 ай бұрын
I feel bad, you’re not the only one who suffers from this, I do too, you’re not alone
@TheArena3Menace
2 ай бұрын
Womp womp
@keilanarellano3621
Ай бұрын
Give the phone to momma kid you ain't ready for the world @@TheArena3Menace
@IvanCastillo-pk4gc
Ай бұрын
@@TheArena3Menace who let you on the internet bozo? You should get out of here kid
@Thepeopleman
4 ай бұрын
He looked very cute as a child 😢. How could someone talk to a child like that, it's JUST unreal 😮
@ruth_gordon
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, you help tens of thousands of people live healthy and productive lives every single day. And not to be vengeful, but these pathetic messed up parents are rotting away alone because they've abused and alienated their children.
@erikvolkers1826
2 жыл бұрын
Imagine how they became like that. This stuff runs for generations #breakthecycle
@albihysenaj5997
Жыл бұрын
Some abusive parents don’t let their kids move and become independent adults they force them to live with em for ever and when you try to stand up to them it does not work
@albihysenaj5997
Жыл бұрын
@@chandana12605lap nothing u just have to get used to it get to dealing and living with them for the rest of your life
@natemorgan1996
Жыл бұрын
@@albihysenaj5997 that isn't something you should get used to at all, sorry to say this
@loriglennon6653
4 ай бұрын
@erikvolkers1826 It's ok to empathize but it doesn't make it ok for it to continue. We didn't cause it, we can't change it & we can't cure what they went through-But we can heal what we went through and make a difference on breaking this chain. That hurt people hurt people is an excuse for hurt people who didn't do the hard work of healing and keep the abuse going. It's our responsibility to do the work, heal and stop this generational yuck. It's definitely not easy, but so worth it. We can do this!
@thirstonhowellthebird
2 ай бұрын
Wow, this made me cry. I heard all of these things and thought there must be something so wrong with me. I felt such shame for being such an embarrassment to my family because they must be right or why else would they say it. My sister said all of those things to me and that I was so ugly I would never be successful in life. How can you treat your little sister that way. I’ll never understand. She was relentless. She ruined any chances of friendships with her lies to the community where I grew up. It’s a type of evil that people cannot understand unless they have been through it and lived through it. Decades later the confusion and the pain are still there as to why. Oddly enough, I did do well in life and even though people tell me I’m attractive I will never see it because she drilled into me that I was hideous. I severed ties years ago and would say that had I not done that I can’t imagine where I would be today. She would’ve broken me more than likely. God literally picked me up and carried me through the horrible ordeal of recognizing and understanding what narcissistic personality disorder truly is and how evil the demon within these people truly is. My heart goes out to each and every person brave enough to post a comment about their story and to survive what they should never have had to endure. It was wrong. It was a crime. You deserved better.
@CatWithA_GuN2002
8 ай бұрын
They put us down, insult us, and mistreat us, and then wonder why we’re depressed…
@michelledickson2155
7 ай бұрын
Ty exactly my point
@Littlegyt
7 ай бұрын
@@michelledickson2155fr😢 I feel bad for him
@Aryan-qv5qk
7 ай бұрын
Don’t be, you have to live long enough to be the one that sees them in a nursing home
@michelledickson2155
7 ай бұрын
@@Aryan-qv5qk 🤣🤣
@old-soul
7 ай бұрын
Totally relate
@sage9836
2 жыл бұрын
It's clear from the light in your eyes what a sweet kid you were! You ROCK.
@marrrweee
4 ай бұрын
And that little boy’s bravery gives me strength in my hardest, most troubling, fucked up moments where I just don’t know what to do. You’re a superhero Patrick.
@be_kinder_than_necessary1068
2 жыл бұрын
You DO help people. I am so sorry for what you went through. My heart breaks in a million pieces watching that as a Mom of 5, who has also struggled with past Trauma. Thank You for being YOU! ♥️
@WillSpencer0417
3 ай бұрын
You are absolutely above that sick animal in every sense of the word. Bless you, Patrick. You deserve a good life.
@elizabethhouser3357
Жыл бұрын
The thing is, I never heard stuff like this but was shown this example. My parents were too covert to be so blatant. Which is why for years I thought I had a good childhood. Such a mind screw! Thanks to healers like you I finally figured out how selfish my parents are. Patrick, thank you.
@Birdsandclover
5 ай бұрын
“Who’s ever going to want to marry her? Just look at her” “you are nothing and will always be nothing “ “you’re not my daughter, you’re too stupid to be my daughter” “you see that homeless bum? That’s where you’re headed, that’s your future!” Things said to me by my parents. Super fun!
@R0ub1.
4 ай бұрын
Parents dont know how to support kids, i will never say this to mine
@justanormaldilo.249
4 ай бұрын
Well, look at you now. You’re amazing. And where are they now? I bet they’re exactly where they said you’d be heading.
@tweeze123
3 ай бұрын
Asian parents by any chance?
@MOLDYnHAM
3 ай бұрын
You're parents are so naive and clueless if they think that of you! 🤣 You're obviously a smart, beautiful young women deserving of love and care. You will be so successful that when their old asses are sitting in the retirement home they will come begging you for money and a better life!
@Hadmaepdhedah
3 ай бұрын
You are not any of those things , you have never been and you will never be .
@BaileePrice-ei6ut
2 ай бұрын
All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids😢😢😢😢
@maribelsantana157
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with us, and sending so much love to you and your younger self.
@user-nyxx.the.worm.cowboy
9 ай бұрын
funny how once kids start to recognize abuse, suddenly parents call that "angsty"!!
@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327
7 ай бұрын
That’s what happened with me. And my parents wonder why I don’t come over anymore.
@tomascastilloleyton6848
5 ай бұрын
It's curious that they call it angsty, because angsty is just what happened in the french revolution. Angsty happens for a reason, not because it's natural to become rebel for no reason.
@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327
3 ай бұрын
@Alex-up6on I’m so sorry. You were just a kid. You didn’t deserve that.
@lydiabisaillon2954
4 ай бұрын
Patrick, thank you for sharing this. It’s heartbreaking and yet inspiring ❤ your pictures remind me of my brother, who is now 36, and currently in mental health ward of the hospital. I pray that he’ll remember that he matters. That he’ll hear his soul calling to him and allow himself to begin his journey back towards wholeness. his journey back towards wholeness. And hell yeah, you help people!! You help people transform their lives!! And thus you are helping to make this world a more loving, healthier, peaceful planet! So grateful for you, Patrick 🙏🏼✨💛🪷👍🏼
@Heather-fx7sr
2 жыл бұрын
What a moving way to display these words across photos of you growing up. One impactful part of my recovery was the act of putting up photos of my young self to remind myself the she does not deserve the learned loop of negativity that was running through my head, internalized from so many years of hearing it around me. We are all still that same sweet child who never deserved what was inflicted upon us. It takes time to learn how to love and regard and parent ourselves well if that wasn’t modeled for us. Patrick, thanks for your example and the help you give to others
@JoannaJones-b1i
6 ай бұрын
"your beneath me" *"no, I'm above you and you will burn down there. How's it going?"*
@selilatte
4 күн бұрын
Thank you. My dad once told me the greater I climb, the harder I will fall. This was right after securing a 55k job in 2008, with no uni or college degree. I developed panic attacks at that workplace. My mum told me I'd understand all the choices she made once I have my own child. When I was pregnant and found out it was a girl, she said God must know something to give me a daughter (i.e. you reap what you sow, karma). I absolutely l, more stronger than ever, am disgusted at the behaviours and choices they both made, only cemented after having my daughter. I could never do to her what was done to me. It's a hard journey, but we're getting ready to break away. Wish us luck.
@HalalChad123
7 ай бұрын
The fact that he still smiled throughout his life despite the mean words his father said 💔😢
@scenehowler
11 ай бұрын
“Once I’m a millionaire I’ll leave you and your mom on the streets.”
@Iwanttoblowmybrainsoutrn
9 ай бұрын
"I'd rather be poor than to be with you."
@_WhyIsEveryHandleTaken.
9 ай бұрын
If somone said something to you like that, then they will never become a millionaire
@emilysmith2965
9 ай бұрын
Sweetie that’s not how capitalism works
@genesis_athena
8 ай бұрын
"I'll beat you until the cops get here you little shit"
@Luv_4_Da_Starz
8 ай бұрын
"I made a mistake on May 4th, 2008." (That's when I was born.) :D
@RyanChand-c5b
2 ай бұрын
Bro this shit hit home. My mom and dad were so abusive. Physically, verbally, emotionally, and psychologically.
@AvrillWolfie
6 ай бұрын
My father once told me "You're a monster" when I held my knife infront of me pointed at him to scare him off and to defend my younger brothers and mother from him (he was agressive and wanted to beat my younger brothers and me up for "misbehaving", it wasn't the first time but it was the first time I instead of taking the hit for my brothers decided to stood up for us all). I replied him: "You created me, if you create a monster be ready to face it". It was four years ago, now I'm about to turn 18 next month and my mother finally decided to divorce him and sue him for abuse. When the court will start the case I will be a adult, and I'm so glad because I will be a key witness and I will be able to take revange finally. I hate him so much. I want to study law to work in court so I can punish and catch people like him. Edit: Some people asked me for an update, so I will tell you all how the situation looks like right now. So, first of all I need to inform you guys that the judicial and law system where I live kind of suck, that's why despite the fact that my mother founded three cases against my father (the oldest being 1,5 yo for abuse, the second being 3 months for harassment and the earliest being one month for divorce, it's the second time she demands a divorce because three months ealier she canceled the first one. She basiclly has a Stockholm syndrome and is co-dependent from my alcoholic father, so she tried to forgive him for the millionth time) we still had to live under the same roof with him (yes, it was awkward and uncomfortable af). Well, that was until he has outdone himself month ago and left my mother without car (we had two cars, one his and one my mothers, but my mothers was technically registered to him so he used that fact and even though he doesn't use it, he just took it from my mother out of spite), he also started another big argument with my mother, police was called but this bitch of a father is a friend with one more important police officer and he acted all nice infront of the police anyways (like always, he can switch his behavior in seconds, I always hated how good of a manipulator he is) so they didn't take him. When the police went back my father forced us to lock ourselves at home out of fear of him, he cut off the tap water and he walked around the yard with an axe. We called for my uncle to come get us, he did but called for another two uncles to come with him as well because my father was unpredictable and we all genuinely feared for our lifes right there (also not the first time), so we were worried that he would attack someone with an axe or some shit (I even gave my uncle my pepper spray and I had a knife in my hand all the time). So when they came they took us to my uncle's place and we stayed there for about a week, then we went to stay at my mothers friend house for another few weeks (it's where I am right now). We basiclly don't have one permanent home right now, in the meantime as we wander around my sad excuse of a father stole money from his and my mothers common back account on the father's day, this money was for my brothers and for me basiclly, two hundred was mine only and I think that this imbecile forgot that I'm 18 and he has NO rights to my money at all now, so if the judge won't force him to pay me back on one of the cases I will sue him myself for that, I'm not letting that go. About the cases, they finally started, the first one to go is a child custody case over my 16 and 12 yo brothers, my father will most likely loose all custody, with my mother it's like 50/50, because she did allow the abuse for years, she also neglected us good (thanks to my parents neglect I have pernament problems with my both mental and physical health) and she canceled this first divorce case and that doesn't put her in the best light, plus we don't really have a stable home so I'm afraid that my brothers will be taken permanently. My brothers always hated eachother, but they both had a good relationship with me and if they will be taken then I will never forgive my mother and father for that. The abuse case started already as well, so things are going slowly, all my family from both sides are on our side, my father's own 3 brothers and one sister are against him, I think that even more than the 8 siblings of my mother are, one of my uncles (the one we called first that day I described ealier) even said that my father is no brother of his and that he will spit on his grave, so there's that. Thank you all for your positive and supportive comments, that means a lot to me, sorry for such a long comment but I wanted to give you all the most clear look into my situation I could, maybe after the cases I will write another update, but thank you all for now and I will keep myself being strong 💜
@fourcrazykats7083
4 ай бұрын
W goal
@charizardking1274
4 ай бұрын
Good W
@Will140f
4 ай бұрын
I’m so proud of you. I could never be brave enough to stand up for my little brothers and sister. I just sort of thought being a “dad” to them would help them since they got fuck all from our actual dad. But I wish I had done more and stepped in to stop the physical abuse at least. I just knew drawing attention on myself was the last thing I wanted to do, even if it left my siblings adrift at sea.
@Lil_slayer1
3 ай бұрын
bro u ain’t in anime fr, ur dad woulda left hook you right in the jaw before u even said that sh🤣
@mikkik3sana8
3 ай бұрын
lol😂
@jcimsn8464
2 жыл бұрын
You are an angel to other recovering adult wounded children. You described your reactivity at work. That's been my struggle.
@jamesblumensheid353
Ай бұрын
I was abused by my father as an adolescent. It took a heart attack and emergency open heart surgery and the wisdom of a total stranger in the form of a hospital roommate to awaken my father as to what he had. " You have a great family!" By this time in my life I didn't want a relationship with him. Avoidance was the best solution to the problem.
@gracelee79
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Patrick I'm so sorry he put you through that, my mom was like that too not all the time but enough to scar me for life and my dad would just walk away when it happened
@raspberryoxygen8683
2 жыл бұрын
This must have been painful to put up. You don’t usually post much about your father. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for being so strong and for helping people like me now.
@monicatorres4686
2 жыл бұрын
🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
@suemick8709
3 сағат бұрын
I see that little boy and feel sick that you heard those awful things. You are such a good resource for me and so many others and we think you are amazing!
@srfrancium9728
2 жыл бұрын
then they hit you with the "why don't you visit me t the nursing home"
@myamulvey
2 ай бұрын
Sounds exactly like my father. I have 3 attempts and 5 hospitalizations and an 8 yr addiction now(I’m shortly in recovery)
@Ayano_aishi_yt
11 ай бұрын
"Every child deserves a parents, but not every parent deserves a child." -a grateful heart
@BETH..._...
2 жыл бұрын
Just WOW ... thank you for working through your pain Patrick. I APPRECIATE all of your hard work to help those of us who are ready to receive it. Thank you ♡
@Speaking841
2 ай бұрын
"Don't ever, in your miserable life...", as if he wasn't a major reason why it was so miserable.
@R.E.Marxxs
2 жыл бұрын
“You should just work with your hands.” 🥁 Thank you for expanding yourself and amplifying your voice! Your groove is in the ❤️.
@Alisibeth_Talia212
7 ай бұрын
You looked like such a vibrant and happy young man. I'm glad you didn't let his words get to you.
@MsLotusBlooms
4 ай бұрын
Im sure they did, but fortunately he had enough defiance to make himself into a better man than his father ever was.
@jenniferfox8382
4 ай бұрын
Seriously?
@andresmendez6870
3 ай бұрын
From the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU. I've had a very hard and emotionally draining week, this video reminded me that I should keep fighting.
@abbywolf9701
2 жыл бұрын
You’ve helped me more than you’ll ever know. I wish there was a way to go back and give that little boy a hug, and tell him that when he’s free from his abusers that life will be amazing. Wishing you all the best, Patrick ❤️ you deserve the world
@juliah8601
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry he said so many horrible things to you. You didn't deserve to be treated or thought of that way. Thank you for helping others. You've helped me immensely.
@Accountdeactivated_1986
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping people. Thank you for overcoming that self hatred from your father that externalized out onto you. And thank you for sharing these memories. As painful as they are, you’re helping others feel less alone and helping us heal ❤
@MateirlGurl
7 ай бұрын
Just because someone is smiling doesn’t mean they are happy that sadness is hidden in their heart...❤
@xtessa1
5 ай бұрын
Yep it’s called: masking
@rubberbiscuit99
2 жыл бұрын
You already know you are someone you can be proud of. We each get to choose who we want to be, if we want to live more in fear and hate, or more in joy and love. You done good, and you know it. ❤️
@lazoshi
3 ай бұрын
Love this. LOVE this. Ty for still being here. Ty for helping others, even after all the years you had to work it out yourself. God bless.
@buckshot_honeymoon
2 жыл бұрын
This was so viscerally powerful; the music, the pictures of earnest young Patrick through the years, the searing words on his yearning soul and the great impact he’s having now, unstoppable. Thank you.
@laurenreynolds6157
2 жыл бұрын
You were the cutest kidddddddd omgggggg ❤️ thank God u found the truth beyond the lies 🙏🏽
@Coffelover1985
2 ай бұрын
This made me cry. It's true and I feel bad for you and happy that you help others now. One day I hope I get to do that too
@kaw8473
Жыл бұрын
You were destined to rise above your father and every person you help is one more middle finger to him. Thank you.
@TieZeeGuy235
5 ай бұрын
This is true for most people, I used to know a friend in school who his dad would yell at him all the time. We eventually told the guidance counselor, his father was gone afterwards. This makes me remind me about that kid, that he never gave up, and no one else should. Remember, you are not alone.
@zoritsanepenthe638
4 ай бұрын
My son’s girlfriend hears these types of things from her parents. Tonight I got to hear a snippet when she put her dad on speakerphone at my house. It broke my heart and I wish I could make it better for her. She’s staying home long enough till she has to go away for college….right now she’s in college locally and trying to save up. Now I understand why she and my son spend so much time here and rarely at her house.
@queenoffireenterprises5551
2 жыл бұрын
Look how adorable you are! Who couldn’t love a face like that? Thank you for sharing, you’re an inspiration for me in my pursuit of a counseling degree.
@patrickteahanofficial
2 жыл бұрын
❤️👏
@ava_2930
2 жыл бұрын
You do a lot of good work for people! And I'm thankful for the work you've done. Your journey is touching and inspiring!
@Jillrussell-mj4yw
Күн бұрын
It’s awful we got told such horrible things growing up, I feel for what you went through. You deserved so much better. Thankyou for helping so many, you are cherished ❤
@csviolin0516
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this very tender post, Patrick. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. I am so sorry that your dad was so horribly abusive and was utterly blind to the gift he was given to have you for his son. I wish I could have known you back then & been your friend in school. No one deserves to be treated like that, yet so many of us were. You are an inspiration for all of us. You are helping thousands of souls and families. I’m so thankful you got away from those who didn’t know you or love you. God bless you for all you are doing to help others.
@vanessabogaert2104
9 ай бұрын
I can’t fathom how people think it’s ok to talk to their children like this. I tell my boys all the time that the best day of my life is the day they were born. I’m so sorry you had to endure such a sick father.
@RichyLove19
7 ай бұрын
I don't want children; if I did, I would love them with all my heart and tell them how valuable they are!
@moscowcowboy_13
5 ай бұрын
Wow I never thought a mom could say such a thing, that is wonderful, you have lucky kids.
@MrWizard15
5 ай бұрын
@vanessabogaert My mom tells me the same thing, god bless you and your family.
@vanessabogaert2104
5 ай бұрын
@@moscowcowboy_13I am a lucky mom!! They are the sweetest boys and so kind to everyone. I’m so grateful I was blessed with them. And they have the best daddy who tells them “they are the best things in the history of things!”
@veronica3662
4 ай бұрын
@@vanessabogaert2104that's so sweet. Bless you and your family, ma'am!
@KatiTul192
3 күн бұрын
Thank you for using this experience to help yourself as well as others, Patrick. 🙏🏼❤️
@Eighties-Jadie
2 жыл бұрын
Everything your father told you was wrong and abusive lies! You're doing great now for yourself and helping heal others. Best wishes and blessings ☀️
@ritatharp5238
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. Unfortunately there are people who should never be parents but are. 🙏❤️
@bettyjean740
4 ай бұрын
Thank ypu Patrick I hope you realize how much it Really helps for you to share! It makes me feel better. I think it helps reduce the shame and aloneness these type of abusive statements carry with us. I learned to stay silent small, try to be invisible...Ty. sorry you went thru such sht
@monpronab1
Жыл бұрын
U are so strong brother and I've suffered betrayal, was backstabed, suffered depression.
@Seven-Rules
8 ай бұрын
hope it getts better for you man lotsa love okay? love yourself
@NoWayJose3456
2 жыл бұрын
Omg, I didn’t even recognize you! Aw, that’s why you’re such a sweetheart. I feel like the sweetest ppl have been through a lot.
@Skyfire123
10 ай бұрын
The way your face changed from smiling to no longer smiling really shows how much he affected your life, I am so glad you're happy and able to have the strength to tell your story and help others. Even if you don't see this, I am so proud of you.
@not-so-obvious_autism777
9 ай бұрын
As someone with a dad that loves me I can’t imagine the audacity and idiocy of people who treat their children like this. I also can’t imagine the pain these terrible parents must’ve went through during their _own_ childhoods for them to think it’s ok to treat their own child like that… If I ever had a child, I’d _never_ say things like this to them. In fact, I don’t think I should have children because I have anger issues and tend to snap when I’m overstimulated. I’m so glad you’ve come this far to help people struggling like this too. ❤
@joea.9969
7 ай бұрын
God bless your dad. I am always in wonder over people with wonderful dads. My dad wasnt abusive he was ok as a young kid, but he abandoned us an he never kept his promise. Id wait for him on holidays and he wouldnt show up. Id want to hang out with him and hed give me $1 to get my mom a christmas gift. He was always late w his money and seemed to resent having to put anything out for other people. I havent seen him in 22 years no idea why he didnt care enough to keep me in his life.
@not-so-obvious_autism777
7 ай бұрын
@@joea.9969 oh my, I’m so sorry to hear that your dad wasn’t there for you. He must be one of those “Dissapearing Dads” (the ones who run off to get the nonexistent milk) I also like to call them “Flaky Fathers”. So dissapointing. I actually feel you on a personal level. Two of my aunts are single moms bc one of my aunt’s lovers just disappeared on her never to be seen again (I think it happened twice) and the other divorced him (I think) My dad has also had friends who had gotten walked out on by their fathers as well. I hate people like that who just run away from their responsibilities, it’s no good for anyone involved and it will always catch up, whether with actual repercussions or just bearing the weight of guilt/regret. At least he _sorta_ tried to be a part of your life for a while? (albeit halfheartedly I assume) but that still doesn’t make what he did alright. God bless you. I hope you are healing or have already healed 💖❤🌈
@joea.9969
7 ай бұрын
@@not-so-obvious_autism777 thanks for your comment. I have never really held a grudge against my dad and have forgiven him, just have some sadness that hes not in my life and doesnt meet his grandson.
@not-so-obvious_autism777
7 ай бұрын
@@joea.9969 Oh do you (or one of your possible siblings) have a child? Congratulations!! 😊🎉 And it’s good that you’ve found it in your heart to forgive him, it’s a lot better than lugging around such useless baggage like a grudge Idk what I’d ever do without my grandparents, it’s his loss he’s missing out on another beautiful child
@joea.9969
6 ай бұрын
@@not-so-obvious_autism777 im an only child have one wonderful son. My mom is great. My son has certain similarities to my dad he has his chin and affinity for antique things.
@vanshikabhalla8246
4 ай бұрын
So many people are relating to it.. It breaks my heart... It means we all are experiencing that shit which we don't deserve.... May god doesn't allow these type of people to have kids😢
@lillyrocks2011
4 ай бұрын
Unfortunately they do have kids... 😢
@awaywithfairies4689
2 жыл бұрын
Oh my god Patrick all the sadness your precious eyes let through, even though your mouth is smiling. We are so lucky to have you. Your help is inestimable. God bless you🙏🏻🌟
@maelewis25
2 жыл бұрын
You've helped and continue to help myself and many others heal. I can't even express how grateful I am for you and what you do for all of us. Thank you for not letting their weaknesses stop you from learning and teaching all of us how to heal and be strong.
@debralawsonpascua9632
Ай бұрын
Thank you Patrick. I am proud of you! You are so generous with your spirit. You are a really knowledgeable and honest, helpful trauma specialist. Yes. We sure heard a lot of things. It is crazy how much our abusive parents were so fearful of our perceptiveness way back then when we were small. And through our experiences, we are learning to transmute all that negativity in to love and care; working towards a more educated, healthy and loving space. I appreciate your efforts and passion.
@Dailybinbeanz
5 ай бұрын
I do really relate to this. My father was abusive to me, and he would say the same thing. I hope you're doing well
@TxR3ap3r
6 ай бұрын
This is horrible that someone would say things like that to a child. My mother had a horribly abusive stepfather, and I myself had a bio father who left us while I was two or three months old and was lucky enough to have a blind stepfather who loves and cares for us. I wish all children could have good parents like mine.
@B-team2022
4 ай бұрын
My dad said this to me "Ur a disgrace to this family" and "what kid of daughter are you" and i was just 11
@lillyrocks2011
4 ай бұрын
😮 😞 hugs 🫂
@Butterfly_486
2 жыл бұрын
Seeing this makes me just wanna hug this poor, strong child. I can see the pain in your eyes. And than I realise that I went through the same shit and that I struggle to love my own inner child.. Children are so incredibly strong! We were able to grow up while our parents were tearing us down. So proud of us! ❤️
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