Dr. Ramani has given me more tools in 5 months of her videos and her book than a lifetime of therapy for depression, anxiety and PTSS.
@rosameijering5161
18 күн бұрын
Yes! It is called wisdom. Not everyone has the wisdom to help
@pollydeegoltche4900
3 күн бұрын
For additional perspectives and spins on this wealth of knowledge try Sam Vaknin and Richard Grannon. Equally fascinating and accurate. Sam is extremely high-brow and scholarly and Richard delivers his wisdom in a much more down to Earth fashion.
@treavam5653
3 күн бұрын
Some people have the incredible gift of clarity and accessibility with all the healing virtue without having to use 20 acronyns like CBT. Thankfully!!!
@treavam5653
3 күн бұрын
@@pollydeegoltche4900Thx for the resources!!!
@LOVEISTRUTH300
Күн бұрын
She's an amazing teacher💖💖💖
@vickibazter3446
18 күн бұрын
"Gaslighting meets future faking. Welcome to narcissism." 🔥 They deny deny deny.
@Janszymon-d1j
2 күн бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@HannaMagdalena-m6b
2 күн бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@Janszymon-d1j
2 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@HannaMagdalena-m6b
2 күн бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@Janszymon-d1j
2 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@MPR2007
22 сағат бұрын
You are not in love, you are trauma bonded with the DEVIL 👺👹👹👹👹.🏃♂🏃♂🏃♂🏃♂🏃♂ RUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUN🏃♀🏃♀🏃♀🏃♀🏃♀🏃♀
@RatedArggg
13 күн бұрын
"Praise and blame are the same energy." YES!!! This is so true!!! Praising is like saying, "I approve of you, whether you wanted my approval or not."
@BuckleyThompson
13 күн бұрын
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at digitalinvestigate@gmail . com where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
@BonnieJean4578
17 күн бұрын
100%! The two that used to be in my life were capable of moments of joy, or "high's" in their life, but it never lasted. The deep contentment that comes with true satisfaction and happiness is something they will never know. Very sad people.
@rebeccajones8628
8 күн бұрын
It is never enough for them. They want more and more and more. Then they pick you apart.
@kathy-annhart2632
9 күн бұрын
I follow Dr Ramani almost religiously. In almost every interview there's a desire to understand the narcissistic person. I find this fascinating. Thank you Dr Ramani for the work you do to support those of us who have been harmed by narcissistic people.
@JulieRohloff
18 күн бұрын
I am a big fan of Dr. Ramani! Thanks for having her on your show!
@Jgenx
Күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani saved my life 5 years ago when I did not know what I was dealing with.
@kaddylady5853
11 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani has saved my life❤
@Michaeljack198
Күн бұрын
Same here ❤
@morganadavies8319
16 күн бұрын
I can really relate when she speaks of narcissist missing human experiences - I naively tried to help my ex husband by connecting with nature by doing activities like Bush walking, etc however he couldn't and would then try to punish me for it seeming to become more toxic. He really couldn't experience the beauty around him
@goodgracious6364
9 күн бұрын
Once, there was literally a small parade coming down the street near my house. I could clearly see the entire performance from my front porch. It was like a high school marching band celebrating it's homecoming week. It was fun for me seeing the kids and hearing the band. They were adorable! I asked the narc (my now ex) to come to the front door to see the school parade. He refused, saying, "I've seen enough parades in my life!". Lord knows that man tried to dim the light on anything that brought a smile to my face!
@bereal6590
8 күн бұрын
Same with my exm miserable sob who made my life hell
@rebeccanatal1435
7 күн бұрын
You taught me more in these 16 mins, than I learned in all the years I tried to find a solution for my son's behavior. There is no solution. His dad left and he took that to mean his dad did not love him and he has spent his entire life in destruction mode and I took the brunt of it. Years of therapy, nothing changed. The behaviors only got worse and worse as time went on. The only I reason made it is because my faith in God kept me going, these last four years being the worst of it. As I see it, in his mind, because he was hurt and still hurting he is now entitled to hurt everyone else. Never did he or has he taken any responsibility for the pain he has caused anyone, because no, it wasn't just me. He has hurt many people, animals. I was not the first. I came under attack when school started and I attempted to correct his inappropriate behaviors. How dare I suggest there was another way to look at things. That would mean he was wrong and he is never wrong... he was wronged! It is an extremely dysfunctional mindset and I feel sorry for him, but he is an adult now and is completely responsible for his own choices, including the choice not to do anything to help himself and to blame everyone else instead so I let go and am now remaking my life, at peace. We all get hurt. Our pain does not entitle us to then turn around and intentionally hurt others , destroy property and be habitually lying and making up stories and that is what he does and he has been doing that since the age of four when his dad left. I will always love him, but he is deeply entrenched in "ME" mode and incapable of thinking of anyone else but himself. As a parent that is a really hard thing to accept, but sometimes you just need to hand things over to God and that's where I've placed him.
@soumyajoseph7429
3 күн бұрын
A lot of people have emotional wounds and childhood traumas that weren't their fault, but healing is *still* their responsibility.
@vickibazter3446
18 күн бұрын
Excellent content. Helpful.
@dumpmail-xz2qp
3 күн бұрын
when my ex narc friend was withholding even normal conversations and I tried to discuss it one last time with her to give her a chance to explain herself on the situation, I just could see it on her that she didn't care how I felt. She looked rather pleased about what she has been doing and still had the nerve to gaslight me that everything's fine and that she still cares about me... her fake words hit me like mud.
@juhisadhu2324
6 күн бұрын
Dr Ramani you are Godsend. You've saved so many who had dealt with narcissistics for years without knowing it.m
@hastish6751
8 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani, you're a life saver all over the world. Please keep doing this fabulous job. Be safe and sound.
@the.toxic.phoenix
11 күн бұрын
Yup, that's my nex. New house, he'd be happy a few weeks, then back to look at other houses and being jealous of others. Same with new baby, new car, job promotion etc. It was exhausting. And I'm the same, love the garden birds and insects, he just couldn't get it. He couldn't even get it with cats and dogs.
@moscowgadzaka9287
18 күн бұрын
❤❤ 22 ❤❤ CRAZZZZY MAKING NARCS R DEADLY 😢
@kat-75
16 күн бұрын
to humanity in generally causing humans to hate them all plus other humans too
@cherrycoln
15 күн бұрын
Get out, stay out it's not worth it trust me it's not worth it. They'll affect you far more and eventually ruin your life. That's all a narcissist wants from you, your complete downfall and ruined life.
@LaraRam-sb6ru
10 күн бұрын
God reward you, Andrew, and all here who want to heal, grow and be whole
@EricZumbusch
9 күн бұрын
Narcissism is a form of "antagonistic co-evolution" (including mimikry and mimese). They "hunt and consume" empathetic human beings in order to shape reality according to their nature, just like spiders catch insects in their net. Each insect caught and consumed ultimately turns into more spiders.
@Couscous77
2 сағат бұрын
To me it sounds like how some species of flys and moths mimic the visual appearance of wasps/ bees.
@tammystours5171
16 сағат бұрын
I find the biggest sign is a push pull dynamic.. they pull you in so they can ignore you.. as soon as I see this with ANYONE.. I run!
@purplefler4579
5 күн бұрын
This is the best video on narcissists so far! Dr.Ramani and you are a great team, looking forward to more of these conversations. I've been educating myself on a narcissism for a year now actively almost every day and this basically sums it all up, well done!
@sonofhibbs4425
17 күн бұрын
This was such an excellent overview on the topic. Thank you!
@MrTaktic121
3 күн бұрын
I knew she wondered , my empathy felt it absorbing My energy gave her too much 😒
@NovaPrincess
9 күн бұрын
I always LOVE your videos with Dr. Ramani. You ask her some very, very interesting questions. With the knowledge you have, you're able to draw out information about narcissistic behaviors/systems with her from a different perspectives better than in other interviews I've seen her do. The full version of this particular interview I have watched multiple times.
@saliebeesi6593
10 күн бұрын
Thank you so much dr. Ramani. I studied bs psychology ten yrs ago but unfortunately i got sicked, i didn't finished it. Now i understand more what happened in me. I can tell that may father is narcissistic and my sister too.
@user-hs9qz3dg1l
18 күн бұрын
So, if our whole culture has this casino mentality of, “Just try harder,” blah, blah…is that not facilitating more of this narcissistic behavior that we all abhor? It is really ok to call a spade a spade…call it for what it is! Accountability needs to come back in style, in my opinion.
@juhisadhu2324
6 күн бұрын
Dr Ramani you've been a life saver..hearing you for over 4 years now..I realized life has become calmer n now I can foresee what's coming so am more prepared to go DEEP..Thank you from the bottom of my heart..I don't even feel lonely reading some of the comments..
@sannajohanna5579
6 күн бұрын
Trying harder is a trap. Theyytell it also about your workplaces. You see the first days that you‘ve been fooled, the place is a total mess, they hired you to ve a scapegoat - and your family just says: Just try, try harder… do more. Sh-t.
@lesabrydson2526
8 күн бұрын
Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏👑
@the.toxic.phoenix
11 күн бұрын
My nex was apparently an angel child, and his brother was the devil - the brother is the scapegoat and he was a narc. Likewise with me and my brother
@cellosong
6 сағат бұрын
Narcissists often get worse with age and sometimes this leads to violence. Narcissists can become dangerous, especially if deprived of the supply they crave.
@sonofhibbs4425
17 күн бұрын
Excellent analogy about the casino and slot machine.
@BeHealing
3 күн бұрын
I, like him, used to be so interested in why the narcissist is like they are, as someone who grew up in a family who were all narcissists apart from my uncle who went no contact, but then I realised, I don't want to understand them, I just need to know enough about them to spot them so I can stay the hell away from them
@user-qv9nw1dq2f
16 күн бұрын
Brilliantly explained dr Ramani ❤ thank you 🙏
@NirupaRishi
17 күн бұрын
This is so true 🙏Thank you Dr. Ramani
@Julia-xt2pk
10 күн бұрын
Thank you so much, Doctor Romani 🙏✝️❤️
@wolfmanracquetball
3 күн бұрын
Great first question! 🐺
@TheLove1Makes
17 күн бұрын
Good comparison thanks
@angiea8022
6 күн бұрын
The "praise" STOPS when you're stuck -- trapped like a rat...
@matthewwozniak9138
14 күн бұрын
👀Seeing the 🏞beauty 🌌in 🐝life is a priceless 🎁gift. 👂Hearing 🐦beauty🎶 in life is another priceless gift. 👃Smelling 💐beauty💃 is another priceless 🎁gift. 😜Tasting 🍎beauty 🍇 is another priceless gift. 👐Feeling💗 beauty is the 👉💖👈ultimate 🎁gift. These are all the 🎁gifts ☝️God has given to you.
@sw.7519
4 күн бұрын
Goal ist my own will. Me, me, me. Like a Baby.
@lizw2731
6 күн бұрын
52 my mom is 87 now and it's trauma and forgiveness with constant abuse and can't detach due to her age so then there's the guilt 😢😢😮
@judewuski
9 күн бұрын
10:11 can narcissists stop being narcissistic can they change? Very rare, Ramani has never seen it. And it’s not another adult’s responsibility to change them. Perhaps if the N has some flexibility in their personality. N’s personalities are like cement.
@christinangel69
3 күн бұрын
Love dr.rahmani,
@ChrisGroggyCreaser
18 күн бұрын
Your so Right!!... :)
@hernanveigalima2131
16 күн бұрын
my mom is insane im so scared
@lizielita
11 күн бұрын
Do you have family members or friends you can trust and talk about that?
@Bcbg21
9 күн бұрын
Get over the fear. What you fear, you create. It’s not her as much as her control over you and your emotions that can hurt you. Don’t let her have that control. Do whatever it takes to preserve your aura and save your mental energy and health. My Dad took away all my mental peace and I am old, I finally have gone no contact. Bliss.
@juhisadhu2324
6 күн бұрын
OMG..you are 💯 true...
@IrisAsuras
17 күн бұрын
still did not really get how a narcissist is created from this.
@springBloomsinAwe
16 күн бұрын
You can find it in Dr Ramani videos
@springBloomsinAwe
16 күн бұрын
7:00 there
@hernanveigalima2131
16 күн бұрын
she might poison us
@Magnoliablossom1
7 күн бұрын
I totally disagree with the gambling analogy. I agree that life and love is a gamble, but you have agency and have already won the lottery just by the miracle of being born a human on the only know planet full of life in this solar system. And we have to learn to get along as best we can. So please don’t give up, I’m interested in her work, but she has a bit of a negative slant. You have life, but nothing is guaranteed except death and change, so you might as well do the best you can because it’s your one and only life and no one can live it for you. Good luck 🍀 and God bless ✝️
@hernanveigalima2131
16 күн бұрын
i havent commited suicide because im hela strong
@Metastate12
15 күн бұрын
That is not happiness doctor. It's narcissistic elation.
@grace9748
8 күн бұрын
In an average person that satisfaction at the moment would be called happiness, you don’t need to get so technical!
@percubit10
7 күн бұрын
How we live in toxic society.
@hernanveigalima2131
16 күн бұрын
my mom thinks shes the best looking thinks everyone owes her the world
@tastysidewalk4676
2 күн бұрын
As Jesus did, i will give my life to save them.
@HanaSeikai
8 күн бұрын
@13:17
@lilianalopez7119
18 күн бұрын
🩵🐝🩵🐝🩵🐝🙌🏼
@11purpledream7
14 күн бұрын
I am not sure if my ex was really narcissistic, he treated me well in some moments and made me feel special, and in the end he just dumped me, saying he has no respect for me, and he isn't interested (anymore) in the topics I was talking about and he feels he should be interested in his girlfriends topics. he pursued, he wanted everything at once in the beginning, and the more I went into the relationship the more he pulled back, saying his rose tinted glasses have worn off as I needed time going all in.. it's really hard for me to let go, as I don't know what was/is real and what's not - or what's my part/fault in it. was I (and my behaviors) the one to trigger his weird behaviour. one of my biggest fears is that the next one will get treated the way I wished I was treated by him, and having like the realisation, it was all because of who I am or I was not good enough..
@lmiller1413
12 күн бұрын
Purple dream- whatever he was, he was calculating. He wanted it to hurt when he said his new girlfriend had interests he was interested I'm. I doubt that. If you remove yourself from the situation, later on, you will see that he will emotionally batter her, next. You dodged a bullet. What an a hole to say he didn't respect you. Obviously he did, otherwise he wouldn't have verbalized it.
@lizielita
11 күн бұрын
Maybe he is an avoidant. How did you treat him?
@goodgracious6364
9 күн бұрын
Girl, let that nutty-buddy, crazy-making man be gone like the wind! No one who cares about you will turn hot and cold and devalue you along the way. He doesn't respect you and shows obvious signs of emotional instability. Yet, he has set you up to keep doubting yourself, therefore leaving that door open for him to endlessly twirl in and out of your life and continually blame you for his wavering. These type of men will never appreciate you, because they know that you don't even see you own worth. Lady, please value yourself and don't allow any man to treat you like a rusty penny!
@tozc2929
8 күн бұрын
Today there is you tube, insta and others platforms…use it. I wasted 30 years of my life hoping, hanging on to crumbs. Im trying not to punish myself for my decision and blindness. I have 2 kids - 1 with borderline personality disorder - wouldn’t wish this on anyone. I firmly believe this was triggered by our volatile marriage. Please. Don’t waste your life.
@tozc2929
8 күн бұрын
Focus on yourself. Obsess on your self health. You will be mortified you ever endured this or thought along those lines once you really value yourself. This will be a no brainer when get there.
@MrsNeanderthal
2 күн бұрын
I have watched many, many of Dr Ramani’s videos over the years but with this interview I got it!! I kept reverting to kindness and loyalty to my violent covert narcissistic husband of 36 years who now has behavioural frontotemporal dementia! He is even more self centred, nasty and demanding! I have ordered Dr Ramani’s book. Thank you Dr Ramani, you have set me free at last! 🥹☺️
@MrTaktic121
3 күн бұрын
Yeah she was praise me at the love bombing stage about the sex and all to her friends and she wason about going awas holidays together my birthday which was like 6 months away and all and sort of hinted for another kid 🤔 broken promises .
@patriciaturner7402
5 күн бұрын
Inbreeding.
@robertkeller5930
7 күн бұрын
I stopped being a narcissist most of the time. It was pointed out to me by a person who used non verbal communication to tell me and I had to study myself to see what I was doing to have this person avoid me. My waste of sperm daughter, my ex wife and an ex girlfriend were also narcissists.
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