As a fellow autistic, you’re probably either having a meltdown or a shut down. They both feel similar to panic attacks but they are caused by overstimulation and last longer.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
yes that’s what it felt like… 😢 now that i think of it, i’ve had many of these and not known what they are or how to categorize them
@ryanmorejon5813
10 ай бұрын
I'm a fellow autistic and I've experienced that exact same thing
@perrycoffey5410
9 ай бұрын
@@KearaGravesreal sorry about this hopefully you don't have hyperacusis or misophonia as well. Dealt with this a lot when dogs bark that sound is so ear inducing
@abigailbraik7669
9 ай бұрын
As an afab individual who was late diagnosed autistic, I completely understand what you’re going through. Some TikTok creators I follow, call this autistic, burn out, where you were able to mask and function for the past 20 something years of your life but then after diagnosis or something big in your life, it feels like everything in your life is falling apart, like you’re falling apart, and you’re unable to handle every day things that you could for the past 20 years, because it all feels like so much.
@whatsuplavren
10 ай бұрын
always here for you honey
@ryanmorejon5813
10 ай бұрын
I'm diagnosed with autism and I understand everything that you feel and I want you to know that if you have ever wanted to have someone to talk to of the experiences that we share with Keara I'll still be rooting for you no matter what and I'll be here to talk because I understand everything that you're going through from my own experiences and I hope that you are feeling better soon 🌈🏳️🌈❤️🙏
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
i love you & i appreciate you ❤
@ryanmorejon5813
10 ай бұрын
@@KearaGraves I love and appreciate you too ❤️
@serenediipity
9 ай бұрын
i really appreciate you sharing this because i think a lot of people assume autistic traits just disappear with age and don't understand just how on edge a lot of autistic adults constantly are
@clay6356
9 ай бұрын
im autistic and live in nyc and the bose quiet comfort headphones SAVE my life every day !!! at home and walking around. also having a loud fan in your room, eye mask or dark glasses for sensory breaks/sleeping. see what ur sensory needs are and make sure to meet them! weighted blanket, fidgets, slime, etc
@justinfelt748
10 ай бұрын
I have a peer pressure once in 2005, Keara, when I went to the park at Lake Erie. I looked at the boats in the water and worried about something. I said, "You're not a bad person. You're a good person with positive ideas to find a perfect place with new friends and a new area. My favorite is Hallock, Minnesota. Good people, perfect town and a quiet breeze with birds singing in the blue skies. So...be strong, be confident and let the negative things go away. Amen."😊💙💙💙💙💙💙🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖👍
@Jiddy12345
10 ай бұрын
My friend is the department head of a local college and they just now started doing sensory friendly performances of shows. They offer fidget toys and noice cancelling ear muffs at the box office and they reduce scary flashing lights and noises during the shows. People have told her this is the first time that they have ever been able to attend a show without being overwhelmed and some of them were seniors.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
No wayyy this is SO nice to hear! I have more optimism for the future!!!!
@sakvlogvasan4273
10 ай бұрын
First off it takes a lot of courage to be this vulnerable online. I have been following your journey and story for sooo long now. Nd it's amazing to see you grow into this beautiful person that you have become. Like you said you can feel hurt and still heal at the same time. I'm so sorry you felt this overwhelming feeling but I hope you knoww that uour getting better. You will eventually. I am not part of the spectrum particularly but I do struggle with anxiety and ADHD too! Thankyou for normalizing feeling overwhelmed because it makes me feel like I am not alone in feeling the way I do
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
I appreciate you, truly. Lots of hugssss💕🤗
@sakvlogvasan4273
9 ай бұрын
@@KearaGraves sending you love
@ambersjourneysinlife
9 ай бұрын
The mental breakdowns due to your enviroment, is called sensory overload. Ive never felt more seen then I did during this video thank you so much. ❤❤
@kawaiivalpal
10 ай бұрын
I totally get it. going out in the city is hard for me as it can be loud and crowded and it overwhelms me so easily. if I do go out I try to go during quieter times depending on the location, and bringing a person I feel safe with helps a lot
@LilyKerr-m1x
9 ай бұрын
As someone who lives in Toronto, I really recommend quite areas like Christie, Bathurst or Spadina areas, also cabbage town, Korea town and neighbourhoods just outside of the annex around DuPont and towards college. It’s generally houses renting out individual floors. Beautiful and central areas filled with parks all over and tons of small businesses and restaurants. Toronto is never quite but these neighborhoods create incredible queer safe spaces and quiet and respectful communities!
@naturalexpression
8 ай бұрын
Hey Keara, hang in there. I'm autistic and recently moved from a city to a rural village. It made such a difference to my mental health and the time I need to process and regulate. Loop earplugs are great! When my sensory overload was at it's worse, I would have earplugs in AND ear defenders on! Breathing exercises help as well. It can take time once you are aware of your autism to find what works for you, what you need and what doesn't. And I still get overwhelmed and have meltdowns! Sending love from Europe
@jw844
10 ай бұрын
Sending you the best! Sensory issues can be very frustrating, especially in a city. Well do on all the things you are juggling. Hope you can keep creating and finding some calm and lower stress spaces to use on the overload days.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
Thank you💕 I’m really prioritizing my self-care and peace right now and saying no to situations that might overwhelm me. Ty for the kind words 🤗
@LinnySays
10 ай бұрын
I recently found out I'm on the spectrum too and I live next to a construction site. I've been losing my mind for over a year and I long for the day that I have enough money to move to a little cabin in the quiet countryside. Right now I'm burnt out and jobless, so that's not going to happen any time soon. What I'm trying to say is, I'm right there with you. It's nice seeing other people on the spectrum have exactly the same reactions to overstimulation as you, so thanks for sharing your journey. For so long I didn't know what it was. I just pushed through, which is what got me to the situation I am in now, but this is a time for healing and healing isn't always a smooth ride.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
I totally feel you on this -- The struggle of wanting to move out but you can't do anything to change your current situation. Finding little bits of gratitude for small things help and I've felt a little better since I've been doing that regularly (and buying some new noise cancelling headphones have been a LIFESAVER)🙏🏼 You're doing great, and the fact that you have so much self-awareness means you're making new decisions for yourself that will benefit you in the long run. Stay sane out there ❤❤❤
@jessica1234661
9 ай бұрын
but did you feel this way prior to your diagnosis?
@RB-tq4uu
9 ай бұрын
Yeah I think self diagnosing can be a bit dangerous and the more someone reads up on a condition the more they focus on symptoms and can sometimes convince themselves they have something they don't. Not to say Keara doesn't have it but I think it's important for them to explore other things that might be causing these symptoms too.
@smcco27
9 ай бұрын
She's at it. If there was "nothing wrong with her", she wouldn't have a platform because SHE HAS NO TALENT.
@brendonsmith3080
9 ай бұрын
I’ve had these sorts of breakdowns before and it honestly is not a pleasant thing to go through. Some days can really be difficult and the sensory overload can be brutal
@shadowwarrior509
9 ай бұрын
I know everything around you feels so much more impactful when you find out your neurodiverse. Its okay that your struggling, its okay you cant cope. Your making all the right steps. Your valid in your feelings, and your valid whether your managing or not. Keep being you and know that theyre are others, like me around the world who support you.
@paulahillman1100
10 ай бұрын
Literally me every single day of waking life…. And I get drained so easily, so anxious and I’m always in my head and tapping and having to move to stay grounded or else I have so much frustration in the centre of my chest and it won’t go away
@idklol4543
9 ай бұрын
i'm also autistic and this has happened to me many times before, generally i just put everything aside, put on some sensory safe clothing, eat something, curl up and just try to relax
@TheDivineDragon
9 ай бұрын
My first Therapy session with my psychiatrist she asked me if I’m autistic and I never thought I be, I know I’m adhd and have social anxiety and I’m a highly sensitive person but never thought about being autistic and it’s not a bad thing because I have accomplished a lot things and if I am and I’m going to continue to do after my dreams no matter what. I’m here for you and support you on your journey. You are not alone and here for you as well. Love and light. 🌈🏳️🌈🌈🤟🪄❤️❤️❤️❤️💗💕
@lunal.775
10 ай бұрын
I really mean this in the nicest way possible, but I feel like you need to learn to connect a bit more with the world around you. I used to watch your videos a lot, but now it just seems like you hyper fixate on every part of yourself and I think it's clouding your perspective on things. I say this as someone who suffers from mental illnesses myself- I think it would be best for you to get out of your own head and find ways to volunteer and help others, or a community you can join to connect with others. We get joy from helping those who can benefit from our services. And because you have a big platform, you could bring a lot of awareness to charities that you are passionate about. I am hoping you find yourself in a better living situation and true happiness! You got this!!
@Lesbiel
9 ай бұрын
Honeyyy I have so much love for you I feel this so much. Lived in NYC for five years, finally clawed my way to a studio, only to really succumb to the sensory overload. Between tiny unlivable layout and how loud & dirty & crowded everything was outside I was losing my damn mind but so in denial. Some tips from my experience: for inside - rugs / blackout curtains / white noise machines. Giving myself permission to do errands only really late at night or really early in the morning if I could help it. Having a little bag of sensory safe stuff w me everywhere I go (cold water, lotion, essential oils etc). & tbh weeeeeed. I never thought I’d feel better & it took a long time to recover once I moved out of the city but a year later & I have more vitality than I have had in years bc I can finally meet all my sensory needs (it’s so quiet! I can see the stars! The air doesn’t smell bad!) manifesting all that & more for you 🫶
@suffok8me
5 ай бұрын
this has been me every day for like the like six weeks ty for sharing keara ❤️🩹✨‼️💕💕
@KearaGraves
5 ай бұрын
ugghhh i know how it feels💔 i hope you find some peace of mind soon
@michelletartarotti
10 ай бұрын
hi! I don't meant to be rude, it just seems a little off how many personalities you switch with? I think back even a year ago, every few months it just seems like you have another issue and make content about it, with the new issue completely changing your personality? Is this autism masking?
@Gaish
10 ай бұрын
this 100% lmao
@lunal.775
10 ай бұрын
I can see this too
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
I like to share all the different self-discoveries I'm going through. There's so many aspects of ourselves that I think we should explore instead of pigeonholing ourselves into one category or label. It's interesting you think my personality is changing... maybe I've masked in the past online, but I'm definitely feeling more and more like my authentic self every day.
@dogseasgod6013
9 ай бұрын
You’re doing amazing Keara❤
@user-tl2ur7ns2i
8 ай бұрын
While it is really useful to show lived experiences and realities of autistic life I also think the way you are presenting autism to your audiences is potentially harmful. As an autistic person, I would like to share my perspective but support your perspectives and do not wish to attack. Self-diagnosis can be so affirming and helpful. Though we must be mindful with solely this, especially with autism. There are so many wonderful professionals that take neuro-affirming approach and can support someone through signs and experiences (instead of just testing and then sending you on your merry way!) Often neurotypical people experience autistic traits but being born autistic is different than displaying some traits. While I do not intent to invalidate your experience at all, it is important to note for neurotypical viewers who may relate to some overwhelming sensory experience and also then self diagnose. It is so important to understand autism is not something you just develop, it is your brain you are born with. Your terminology is not quite aligning with this. While there are obviously different labels and words that people feel comfortable with, it is really important to be mindful that when you say you “have autism” it perpetuates stigma. Alternatively , it is an neurological difference from neurotypical brains. People are autistic. (I do acknowledge critical debates on this). Hopefully this is helpful and I wish you luck on your journey! Being mindful of audience / bias and potential harm is always so importance and I appreciate your video. Keep well :)
@rachelurbano8281
9 ай бұрын
do you have a library near by you can go to? (you probably can’t eat in them but just as a place to decompress and not be stimulated: without the pressure to buy anything).
@timothyboykin9318
10 ай бұрын
I'm autistic and I love your channel and I suggest that you find possibly so good headphones either to listen to music or block out the sounds that you do not want to hear.
@SapphireOz
9 ай бұрын
Omg I hate when shit like this happens. Especially because I have sensory processing issues so I won't realize right away what I'm feeling and that I'm overwhelmed, I'll just know that I'm on edge and being mean and I have to stop and be like "WHY?? OHHHHH I'm in pain/overwhelmed" and have to find a place to decompress. But I'm also an adult with undiagnosed autism so it's really hard to explain/deal with
@laurenfox5612
10 ай бұрын
sending you so much love
@cheddargorg
9 ай бұрын
Same. There is a reason I stay in the east end, the construction has been bad over here recently but nothing like downtown.
@Bananakin501
Ай бұрын
I know Im late for this.. But im having my assessment soon. Its taken a lot for me to make the call but I just wanted to ask: Is it just me or do ya'll hallucinate spiders and crawling skin feelings when youre overstimulated?? Cos ive had this my whole life for like no reason and i cant sleep and i just cry at night cos i get so tired and paranoid. Or is that just me...?
@JuliMaria
10 ай бұрын
I have never related so hard.
@Petitespsychocannibales
9 ай бұрын
Don’t worry about autism, it’s just means you see different, it’s means you are unique, Not a lot of people say it at loud about being on the spectrum, but you are soooooo Fucking brave! I’m on the spectrum too and I never say it till now. You are unique, special, and brave,. Remember that the word < Normal> Is literally being different, take care.
@zionola3489
6 ай бұрын
Ok im not the only person who eats and cries at the same time
@quincybrown1496
9 ай бұрын
I'm have autism and i know how that is. We are praying for you. I love you.
@AdamSpark-i7j
9 ай бұрын
Hay!! I'm Adam Sparkman!? I'm also autistic!? I capletle understand were your coming from!?😢. Im been battling this my hole life!!😢. And I m 39 years old!?. Living with my parents!!! Every day!? No! Friends or girlfriend!!? It hell for me!! You make me what a huge you!?❤😢. Cause I can feel heart breaking!? And it breaks my heart seeing you suffer like this!!😢
@AutumnLeaves_011
8 ай бұрын
PLEASE get noise cancelling headphones or earplugs. It’s a life saver
@abemisty
8 ай бұрын
Hi Keara how are you and I'M so sorry about that I hope you find a New Pleas to live
@2001eloc
9 ай бұрын
This is why -Paramore This song helps me sometimes
@SunIsLost
10 ай бұрын
yep
@zionola3489
6 ай бұрын
I reccomened loop earplugs
@jeremiahjohnsonyoung
10 ай бұрын
I have been feeling the same thing she has been feeling but been in deeper pain since Thanksgiving
@douglashubbard7484
10 ай бұрын
Sensory overload is painful. My experience is that I hear everything but none of it clearly. The energy drain of trying to function normally while this is happening is something a neurotypical will probably never completely get. *feels*
@paulahillman1100
10 ай бұрын
And yes I get days where I feel my skin crawling and I don’t feel good in anything I wear, or at all.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
THISSS! Idk if it's my body dysmorphia or autism or maybe both 🤷♀
@gil8548
9 ай бұрын
💜💜💜
@HebeHorsley
3 ай бұрын
You’re doing so well !!
@apparentlylivin
9 ай бұрын
It's genuinely so annoying and tiring.
@notchubster
10 ай бұрын
❤️
@deoranjed8118
9 ай бұрын
"Hey maybe I'm on the autism spectrum....?" "Arrrrr, sensory overload, everything is too much I can't take this!!!!" It's not" Autism" it's called something else, but yes it is a big problem! " What's non binary??" "Oh yes I must be that, it explains everything". Just stop! Please stop and get real help! You're a beautiful kind human being but you are really loosing it😢
@Gaish
10 ай бұрын
ever heard of histrionic personality disorder?
@zionola3489
6 ай бұрын
Move to australia
@SunIsLost
10 ай бұрын
4:35 damn
@Ari-rb4zc
9 ай бұрын
I am autistic and all my life I am living in city on Israel/Palestine I don't know if it's like other country's but this is just regular for me
@mozarkozark
9 ай бұрын
Scientists should study these videos to learn about extreme narcissism.
@laurab3818
9 ай бұрын
You have clearly done your research and backstory of the most extreme autistic behaviour. You are, in fact, an actor. As the mother of a son professionally diagnosed with autism, I find this content deeply offensive. Being autistic isn’t trendy. It’s so stressful and challenging to families. Please be mindful of who you may be hurting, not helping, with these performances.
@daisygirl9829
9 ай бұрын
Lol move to Ottawa AKA the most quiet city ever
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
There was a person here in our house the other day doing work auntie was just making a fool out of me and I got them back lovely
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
People that is the construction go over to them and tell them to cool down Denise and chat with them and play along with
@toy.o
9 ай бұрын
i’ve never related to something more. i live in the busy london noise and i constantly end up overstimulated and want to bawl my eyes out everytime 🥲
@exuvie1
9 ай бұрын
hey, im really confused. are u Spencer Barbosa’s twin?? you guys look identical to me holy shit
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
Does it be several people here in our house doing different jobs and the wake you up when you want to sleep I just play along with them and joke with him
@Cereja-Lua
10 ай бұрын
Fellow Autistic lesbian here! I live out in the countryside, so it's usually quiet here. But one time, I went to this thing at night, in the dark winter, and the room was so bright and loud, and it got all too much for me that my mind went into sensory overload. It's UV lights especially that trigger it.
@lillyzuno2027
10 ай бұрын
this complete switch up on ur personality is wild to me before you were a very composed person with autism now your i feel like playing into it way to much where was all this venting/unstableness before?
@L._._
10 ай бұрын
I’m not autistic but KZitem is not Kearas whole life… I’m guessing there’s a lot of masking and choices not to show this. Probably because of comments like that.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
There’s been a LOT of masking that I didn’t realize I was doing and now that I’m letting myself feel my true emotions, these feelings are coming to the surface more.
@KearaGraves
10 ай бұрын
I’m also being a lot more vulnerable on KZitem than I used to and honestly we need more authenticity online.
@floydross9000
10 ай бұрын
Yeah masking definitely smooths things over and makes life easier for neurotypicals. It takes a toll on the autistic folks, though.
@Reed5016
10 ай бұрын
As an autistic person, I can definitely tell you that masking is something many of us do, due to fear of being seen as weird or difficult. It’s taken me a long time to even feel comfortable showing my autistic traits around people. I think it’s great for someone to be honest about who they are, and I’m glad she’s comfortable showing us that side of her.
@virgilmcclendon5072
9 ай бұрын
😎😃😊😜😍😘💖🌹
@jamesriepe
9 ай бұрын
It’s funny how everyone these day’s is pretending to have Autism.
@SA-ft4gu
9 ай бұрын
She actually does have it
@jamesriepe
9 ай бұрын
@@SA-ft4gu I have a 13 year grandson that was diagnosed with autism at a young age . Believe me this young lady does not show any signs of autism.
@kushclarkkent6669
9 ай бұрын
@@jamesriepe You understand males and females present symptoms differently right? Of course you don't. I was going to insult you but fuck that. I just hope you become a better person someday.
@aunamonet
8 ай бұрын
@@jamesriepef you and your grandson tbh
@jamesriepe
8 ай бұрын
@@aunamonet You and all these lying people will be judged one day.
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
You need to go to a forest where quiet yourself and Laurel and just let it all out on something
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
No it isn't good for people with autism it anointing and stresses the
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
Nephew has autism Keir is actually really intelligent and can drive machinery
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
Person that was phone out of me I got him back lovely Hayley insulted me
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
Noise is not good for people with autism
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
How bad is your artists is the only form serious form
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
He caught his finger in piece of timber I thought it was funny
@cathalreilly4314
10 ай бұрын
I am a little sissy girl 👧 tg
@kevinhanson7867
5 ай бұрын
I feel for u, coz I'm autistic myself. I love my apartment coz it's closer to my parents and work.
@smcco27
9 ай бұрын
OH AND YOU MANAGED TO GET IT ALL ON CAMERA WHAT ARE THE CHANCES
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