I find myself jealous of organised people…its sort of looks - like alien language lol….my boss at work seems so switched on…..while i can’t remember the 3 jobs he has given for the day…he manages multiple projects and people and can just remember each individual job of multiple people. Though my skill he cant match - sql and vb script I can just see…in my minds eye. It appears without thinking about it -if that makes sense.Yet I can’t remember a discussion in detail from 5 minutes ago. So frustrating. If i focus on a complex problem I will instantly know in the back of my mind i can solve it even though I don’t know how? It’s like i know the answer but can’t actually see it yet. Then i sit at the pc and a door opens and i just code it. Hope this makes sense?…cheers
@livingwikipedia1952
2 жыл бұрын
For anyone struggling with planning, I'd advise you to write down all the tasks at the start od the week and then just add more each day. It's not about doing everything but about seeing the possibilities. For that I'd recommend a paper version of a diary, which is meant for school and also has a calender, so every day I bring it with me and write down all my tasks there. It's great for homework because I can do it later in the week and not forget.
@RetepElpmet
2 жыл бұрын
I tried that a couple of times but ended up getting overwhelmed looking at the list and had a meltdown because I wasn't able to get to everything. I've gotten to the point where I write down one thing I need to accomplish for the day and leave it at that.
@TheBanana93
28 күн бұрын
Yeah man i wrote a big list on my white board and it just made me feel worse that I had put all that stuff off and I still do.... Its so overwhelming@@RetepElpmet
@SuperGingerBickies
2 жыл бұрын
Another spot-on video, Dan! Thank you so much for covering Executive Function. I'm showing this video to my sister (who was a special needs/youth worker, believe it or not)as her knowledge of ASD is still stuck back in the days before Rainman! When I was diagnosed in 2015, my EF was rated as poor. As I also have ADHD, cPTSD as well, no wonder I could not function in either school/college or job and suffered a lot of stress and illness as a result. EDIT: My sister has just watched the video, she thought it was very good (rather like a video review)... BUT could not bring herself to empathise that these things have affected my life in a very negative way (and still do). She reacted to the examples I gave her as to how she was (and is) one of those people who would change things without notice, march off on me in a huff when I'm at my most vulnerable (in an unfamiliar place/crowded place) and needlessly yell and scold me when my short-term memory fails me, as you beautifully described. She said one of those 'sorry's' that act as a cheap brand of sticking plaster on a gaping wound. When I didn't accept that apology because I saw it for what it was, she began to moan about her own 'lot' in life and that I was pecking her head! In other words, she lashed out as usual. The thing is, I made secret sacrifices and would go out of my way to take time to listen to her and attempt to understand where she's coming from. The situation does not always work vice versa. Perhaps showing her this video, which expressed much of what I always wanted to tell her and request her understanding (and that of other people) hit an extremely raw nerve.
@rainbowgirl55
2 жыл бұрын
When you were talking about time management and having difficulty with focus and then zoning out I realised this also happens to me a lot during conversations where I will completely zone out of the conversation and lose focus on listening to what others are saying. I am easily distracted onto looking for shapes and patterns in my environment and focusing on how the environment is designed and what I might do differently or how they went about designing it the way that they have. Design and creativity being my main interest and then randomly share my findings!!
@SuperGingerBickies
2 жыл бұрын
Same here.
@sirgalah561
2 жыл бұрын
Ill be at a cafe with a couple of friends.. Theyll be taking about cars or engines ir some mechanical whatevers.. And Ill notice a woman walk by with bright coloured shoes, thst dont match the rest of her outfit.. Ill speak up loudly to my friends, "Why is she wearing those shoes with that outfit? " They always give me odd looks even after all these years..
@LPRECIADO94
2 жыл бұрын
This was very helpful. My son is 26 & on the spectrum (aspergers, if it was still diagnosed) A lot made sense after this video.
@savannawebb8575
2 жыл бұрын
Mine is 16 and was just diagnosed with sensory processing disorder a few months ago because he’s been able to compensate enough until about middle school plus he’s “gifted” and was also misdiagnosed with adhd in elementary school. I’ve been told by 2 professionals now that he may have Asperger’s
@an_anishinaabe_son
2 жыл бұрын
This video has clarified a number of things I didn't know, but craved to know! Thank-you Dan!
@statickaeder29
2 жыл бұрын
They are all very, very hard. The best solution I have found is asking questions when I doubt my memory, and making sure that I am in an environment with A Lot of externally imposed structure. I did very well in school - it helped a lot that my father taught my brother and I how to read, and that our parents got us the tutoring that we needed. In school, you are fed, housed and given quite a strict schedule on where you need to be when. I cannot even begin to work like I went to school, primarily because of the enormous stresses of daily living - cooking, cleaning, deciding what to do. I have a lot of good compensation techniques, and they just aren't enough. It makes me really sad.
@johntrevy1
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you have a family that cared. My imediate family just "Left me to it" and drank.
@christopherz6993
2 жыл бұрын
could you clarify the compensation techniques ? and why its not enough
@statickaeder29
2 жыл бұрын
@@christopherz6993 I went through both levels of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy), which teaches a lot of skills on how to deal with your feelings, interact with other people, etc - I learned a lot of skills there. it's honestly hard to separate my personal compensation techniques from DBT, and I can try to at least clarify. DBT teaches a lot about radical acceptance - I have these problems, and they are real, and there are still things that need doing, and it ok for my to have a hard time. I take a lot of breaks. I try to reward myself for achievements. the list goes on. - Why it's not enough? I am very smart, and I am still both autistic, and have the form of OCD that comes from brain damage due to an auto-immune response to the strep bacillus.... And I suffered from at least one strep infection almost (skipped 1 year) every year of my life until my tonsils were removed. so, I had increasing damage to my amygdala - the emotion center of the brain. - Further as to why it's not enough - I am autistic - we are all different, having different limitations and different strengths, and my strengths are not centered in the "real life" categories.
@spiderlily4386
2 жыл бұрын
Oh this is stuff i can relate to. My mind shuts down. Depression makes it even worse.
@johntrevy1
2 жыл бұрын
Yup, I totally relate to that. My depression snowballs.
@chickenpie9698
2 жыл бұрын
I think this is the area I struggle with the most currently. I defintely have at least one other comorbidity which is interacting with the executive functioning to make things harder too. I've noticed that it's at worse for me when I'm in a less structured environment as I spend a lot more time trying to organise myself.
@christinapalafox
2 жыл бұрын
So true!! I do so much better when my house is clean and organized.
@LogikThaine
2 жыл бұрын
This was a great list. Keep up the great content 👏
@drewharris7785
2 жыл бұрын
Great video! I'm not on the spectrum, but I have executive function LD and you just described all my issues. It really does make life hard and finding strategies to mitigate it can be a more than full time job!
@RetepElpmet
2 жыл бұрын
My time management is an issue today. I'm currently at work but got sucked into watching KZitem videos. At least I'm learning something.
@Leena79
2 жыл бұрын
These are all so very familiar. The organizing one, I can be organized in some things, and I have this wish of getting my life and home perfectly organized, but the reality is that at some point of doing the actual physical work of organizing I get overwhelmed by my options of action or get distracted, and I never get things finished. I can't understand how anyone can both live in their home AND have it organized at the same time. So, the sad truth is that I live in chaos.
@camellia8625
Жыл бұрын
I am autistic myself and find that decluttering / minimalism helps.
@unknowncarp
2 жыл бұрын
actually shocked that i've never watched videos on autism before as someone who has taken way too many 'do i have autism?' quizzes . i'm undiagnosed but almost certain i have it, i brought it up with my dad 2 years ago and he told me that i'm too smart to be autistic. i think he meant socially smart. i told my sister a month ago and she took me seriously. so i might bring it up with him again soon if i can build up the courage ... so many of your videos ring very true to me lol. i can't study near a lit candle bcs the last time i did i hyperfocused on it for an hour without noticing ... wish i had a better sense of time. i have a lot of trouble organising relating to self-care and school
@Bluefox1978
2 жыл бұрын
I don't what I did to come across you and your videos? The only thing that happen was that all the sudden a link for a speech Tony Attwood held at seminar showed up here on KZitem. I havn't search for anything AT ALL about ASP for 10 years (got diagnosed in 2011) so I can't blame Google or KZitem for nudging me. But after I watch that speech and the documentary about tony Attwood I came across your videos and BOOM… finally the puzzle came together! I now know understand and accept that I'm an aspie. I was told back then when I diagnosed that if I read Tony's bible about asperger I would come to terms with my diagnosis and things would be easier! The exact contrary happen! I ran into a huges existential crisis and threw away my diagnosis, papers, reports everything! 10 years later and a hell of a lot of bumps on my way I finally understand it. And in case you wonder far you have reached of with your videos? Well I live in Denmark. So you reach far Dan!
@samthescotsman
2 жыл бұрын
i am currentry fixed on karate. i have wanted to do karate so badly since i was little (was never allowed as i was really clumsy, now we know i have cerebral palsy) i am in a powerchair now and have found an online school that is willing to let my adapt the curriculum for me and still allow me to earn belts. i have a lot of serious health issues so still live at home and am driving my mum crazy with only talkingabout karate.
@ryanb2781
2 жыл бұрын
im over organized goin back to lack of change is best i freak out if somone doesnt put stuff back where it was put
@misshatfield7334
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I have trouble memorizing how to play chess and math was my weakest subject in school. I also would need a lot of time objusting to a new environment if I were to ever move somewhere else. So, you pretty much described me to a "T"
@MarkDouglasBain
2 жыл бұрын
So much of my life explained in 5 minutes...
@tateb7497
2 жыл бұрын
I really struggle with keeping on top of any kind of housework even if I have plans (I'm autistic/ADHD/ocd and dyslexic too) any tips and tricks on how to help with that? My house is trashed and it's so overwhelming 😭 and everytime I clean when I have the motivation too (like for a couple hours every month or so) I just go back to square one and none of the resources online help!
@maggierestivo5256
2 жыл бұрын
I lost track of time because I couldn't understand why I was unable to hear your video! I thought it was the machine. Nope. Then hunting through the junk drawer in the kitchen for spare earbuds. Found them. Still no sound. Tried another video. Still no sound. (I knew I was not suddenly deaf, for I could hear the heat coming through the floor vents.) Finally....I noticed in the corner of the video, a little horn, and the word, "mute". I don't know when or how it happened, but I had muted videos! LOL Well....time management went out the window.... Thanks for this one. I agree with the "Executive Dysfunction" label wholeheartedly! As a girl child, I was expected to know what to do and to come into the kitchen when my relatives were there during holidays and ask, "What can I do to help?" (Like I would know!) Work was a nightmare, because I "lacked initiative" and those self-evaluations were terrible. I never felt like an adequate judge of my own work, and to toot my own horn, so to speak? Sorry, that skill is sadly lacking. I do have to say, Dan, that as a woman in late middle age, growing up I noticed a lot of skills that people expected women to somehow just naturally have.... I did not. Never have. I learned to tell friends and family, as an adult, "Just tell me what you want me to do, and I will do it....and if you get a blank stare, you may have to tell me how, or even better, write it down for me. I am *very* willing to help, I just *don't know how*!" The people who truly cared for me, would do what I asked and make accomodations. Thanks for this! Great, as always!
@FaizanMubarakgetconnected
2 жыл бұрын
You're doing an amazing job all the best wishes
@bonbonandpumpkin2463
2 жыл бұрын
Am usually super organized- unless something unexpected happens and it takes a while for my brain to reboot . And I absolutely LOVE ❤️ planning things like projects or holidays and get fixated on details … if I am going somewhere with a friend I research things to do and places to eat and rank them in a cute notebook… still use notebooks with nice stationery because I like way the paper feels . People rely on me to do the research because they can’t be bothered , 😆 But the complex communication is a difficult one …. Some “ expert” said once that executive function had nothing to do with ASD and I started to argue with her but couldn’t be bothered … suppose that’s what happens when you get older , if I was younger I would have argued much more aggressively. Just wish these “ experts “ would get their facts straight. Sigh 😔
@SuperGingerBickies
2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you, bonbon and pumpkin. Everything you have said, including the stationery bit. I prefer using paper and pens for exactly the same reasons as you. Also, writing is therapeutic - especially with a fountain pen. My most recent post on this comment section tells of my Autism diagnosis, which included in the report that I have 'poor Executive Function'. So, the so-called expert who said that this issue has nothing to do with AS/ASD should do their homework and read a book. Many years ago, someone defined an expert as the following: 'ex' as a has-been and 'spert/spurt' as a drip of water.
@bonbonandpumpkin2463
2 жыл бұрын
@@SuperGingerBickies that’s a great definition of an”expert “! Love it ! Unfortunate this “expert “ is one person ( of many so called experts ) that determines in Australia whether you are entitled to assistance or not . So frustrating 🤬 Do you do calligraphy with the fountain pen at all? Or just everyday things ?
@SuperGingerBickies
2 жыл бұрын
@@bonbonandpumpkin2463 Thank you for your reply. For me, using a fountain pen for lengthy writing gives me a bit of ease, particularly as I was diagnosed with arthritis in my right hand (a huge part of the reason for my shutdown last Christmas, as I also play ukulele and guitar from time to time). I've not tried calligraphy but it's something worth considering. I totally get your frustration. Understanding ASD is going at less than a snail's pace here in the UK. As for the expert in our conversation, it would be enormously helpful if doctors (ie, those who are specialists in examining and subsequently diagnosing AS/ASD/ADHD, etc) would speak up about the issue of Executive Function being a major factor in the diagnosis. The doctor who examined and formally diagnosed me (with the help of her team), put it as a point to consider when I get help filling out my welfare forms. I hope for a better understanding of ASD etc., especially by those who make these decisions that affect the essential issue of quality of life for people with life-limiting conditions that are invisible. I also hope you are OK, too. How are you doing in Australia? I ask, simply because of the reports that have filtered from there. I wish you blessings, love, light, and peace.
@velvetbunnyharrison4109
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Dan, love your videos. I am fairly certain I have Aspergers myself but have not got a clinical diagnosis. Please may I ask you just to slow down your speaking rate a little, (it's not your accent, am from South Wales myself) just that I find it difficult to keep up with what you are saying. Perhaps it's my other conditions not helping me (CFS/ME, etc). However, thank you for your videos, they are most enlightening to this early middle aged female..Cheers.
@janaleonard4702
2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting!!! Could you give examples of how executive dysfunction might affect a student in school.
@billynixon2645
2 жыл бұрын
Cost me a marriage. Just now! Finding out that I have this too Knew I had all the others you mentioned...fyi If I had known this could of saved myself soo much loose.... God Bless You P.S. you just mite help me reconnect with my Son! ...understanding is Key!
@LegoLock-and-Load
2 жыл бұрын
Im early wow I love this channel so much
@aliburch4273
2 жыл бұрын
@3:40 this is literally one of my biggest problems. My (lower functioning autistic) boyfriend doesn't understand "I have a selective memory of no control" issue. Time blindness and hyperfocus are my other major struggles, having inattentive ADHD and low support needs ASD... pair that with being a female, so my issues present differently in the first place (:
@rebeccahatfield
2 жыл бұрын
I was just told about 3 - 4 weeks ago that my therapist thinks I am autistic and has referred me to a psychiatrist, with whom I have had one apt. In one hand I feel so much relief!! On the other hand, I’m afraid that people will view me as stupid. Which is how I’ve felt anyway but I think I hide it well?? But potentially now…? Have you had that feeling? How did you deal with it?
@llCHR15ll
2 жыл бұрын
This video just summed up my life. I’ve already forgotten what I wanted to comment though…
@Fierfek1972
4 күн бұрын
I seldom do well in arguments, I simp.y can't keep up, unless I'm absolutely furious, and then I don't listen, or get physical, and I don't want to do that, which leads to avoidance of conflict, which makes me an easy target for bullies.
@fooledman
2 ай бұрын
The first one would bury me every time until I finally put into practice to improvise, adapt and overcome. Number four would almost always spell doom until recently. Number six I still have major issues.
@johntrevy1
2 жыл бұрын
I think of it as like having a CPU that is missing certain fundamental instructions that decode frequently used code, so we have to emulate those instructions which then puts strain on the CPU to the point of overheating and needing to throttle. Yet instead we have instructions that deal with infrequently used code which a neurotypical will overheat.
@emeidocathail7808
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I’m a lawyer and have to time record and draft fees narratives for every piece of work done during the day .. I have to do the narratives as I go, otherwise I’ll forget what was done later.
@TheBanana93
28 күн бұрын
I struggle with every single one of these and its honestly so depressing I just turned 31... My GF doesn't understand thinks im lazy and i need to just "Do things" and then i have a meltdown because it proper overwhelmed because i think she is going to leave me because of my autism. She says she isn't but its hard to deal with... Duh....
@ShannanRose
2 жыл бұрын
Dan I don't know if you have any advice but I'm convinced I'm autistic and so are my family but because of other diagnosises I have and I mask alot and can do KZitem videos and give eye contact sometimes they're refusing to asses me. Although I got reffered to a different post code service through my eating disorder therapist whp used to work with autistic children and due to her post code I'm on Sheffields waiting list and I'm from Barnsley. Barnsley haven't funded my assesment despite being on Sheffields waiting list I can't have it until funding is granted due to the post code issue. My mental health team won't accept me because they feel like they've tried "everything" they haven't 😭 & Barnsley don't believe I need an assesment despite me scoring an 8 out of 10 on the form they even wrote that I'm a highly sociable person.. I don't leave my house I literally have a sign at my door I ordered custom saying I have severe anxiety please leave my parcels on the step after knocking thankyou 🙈 I'm so upset I don't know weather to appeal it or just keep guessing. My son is showing autistic traits and he's 2 and he is being looked into and we are almost the exact same apart from I speak quite clearly apart from stuttering and feeling pressure and anxiety where as he isn't speaking that much yet but I'm genuinely so upset I feel like I can't win and I just genuinely wondered if you could offer me any advice I don't leave my house and I don't work so it's not even as if I can go to be assesed privately sorry for the rant Dan & thankyou
@kotymccallister5150
2 жыл бұрын
I believe myself to be on the spectrum as well. I can also, generally speaking, make eye contact. My problem is I make too much. I routinely get called out for it, so I don't look at people anymore for longer than a second haha
@sunflower7045
2 жыл бұрын
That Short Term Memory Function tho 🤦🏻♀️
@angelamoranor1479
2 жыл бұрын
Hello I have two daughters with Autism my youngest daughter was just diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome Autism Dyslexia ADHD I'm feeling overwhelmed she is 22
@mat_films_things
2 жыл бұрын
A lot of these can also be impacted by adhd as well, right? Is there anyway to tell if it’s adhd or autism causing the issues?
@alanking4980
2 жыл бұрын
kzitem.info/news/bejne/0Y5mq3-BinZmd3Y&feature=share Try this, although to be honest I had to watch it twice as it’s a bit quick
@camellia8625
Жыл бұрын
You need to get a differential diagnosis from someone with expertise in both autism and ADHD. Many people with autism also have ADHD and vice versa.
@sleepypuppy29
2 жыл бұрын
I just started my journey but it was suggested I may have autism by doctors that don’t have the ability to diagnose 100% but they recognized ADHD, OCD, and BP don’t fit. I started doing research myself and I’m 100% positive I have autism. But can I tell people I’m autistic if I don’t have an actual diagnosis? I’m working on finding someone to diagnose me but of course it’s hard being an adult and a female.
@camellia8625
Жыл бұрын
Just say you have suspected autism and have been referred for an assessment.
@sirgalah561
2 жыл бұрын
Would "not being able to estimate" something also fall into this category? Im hopeless at guestimating how long something is, or how long it takes to do something.. If someone says, "Its two and a half meters long.." I have to measure it.. I cant guess.. A friend might be working on his car an asks for a 12mm spanner or bolt or whatever.. I have to measure the bolt, or look at each freaking spanner till I find the one that says 12mm...
@theastrogoth8624
2 жыл бұрын
Fascinating stuff, but isn’t lack if organizations a contradiction to the disorder? I thought those within the spectrum were more orderly.
@latp9567
6 ай бұрын
My sense of time, distance and direction are very distorted, somehow I can manage things at work yet being on time is an issue. In a personal level Im about to collapse, I just can't handle to take care of myself 😢
@pamtufnell6751
Жыл бұрын
Can you do a video on place blindness i get lost even if ive already been to a place its awful and any tips also face blindness
@andrewmorton395
2 жыл бұрын
Any kind of change its really up setting for me
@kotymccallister5150
2 жыл бұрын
I cut vegetables and stuff at work and throw away the wrong part all the time. Like one I chopped a head of romaine for salads, but instead of throwing the end away, I threw the lettuce I just cut in the trash. I was so sad. It's not like it was hard. But I wasted lettuce..
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like you misused the term executive function. You spoke about executive dysfunction not function.
@andrewmorton395
2 жыл бұрын
Hi, Dan, I have Autism AD HD OCD PDA
@rechnin6680
2 жыл бұрын
I overorganise t the point have to plan my week to the half hour in a spreadsheet or I will not do what I am meant to be doing. On the flip side,I always carry a note book and pen, I am avid tabletop gamer and often get random ideas which I could use and these can be triggered by something that seems totally unreleated.
@user-sl5nm9js8p
2 жыл бұрын
I am curious how many of you on ADHD or Aspies listen to Hard Rock and/ or Heavy Metal music? Anybody with the numbers? Does it calm you down? @The Aspie World, can you investigate the topic please?
@andrewmorton395
2 жыл бұрын
I wish I was good with computers, I am 65, I really struggle with technology.
@stephenbell8755
2 жыл бұрын
I can't plan for things more than a year in advanced. So I have no long term savings.
@evangelinehope6627
2 жыл бұрын
Any suggestions on how to assist my daughter with schoolwork as a parent of high school Senior
@alanking4980
2 жыл бұрын
Not knowing anything about any of you, have you thought of using headphones for her?
@savannawebb8575
2 жыл бұрын
How do we tease this out from ADD/ADHD?
@chrismorrison3298
2 жыл бұрын
You speak about a meltdown in the video I was wondering what you mean by a meltdown?
@annehislop2449
2 жыл бұрын
A meltdown is a physical reaction to overwhelm. Overwhelm is too much information coming in at once. Senses overwhelmed/system eruption.
@chrismorrison3298
2 жыл бұрын
@@annehislop2449 thanks
@karenpatricia8673
2 жыл бұрын
my assessment starts on tuesday .... so worried i will be rejected
@camellia8625
Жыл бұрын
I hope your assessment went well and your concerns were validated
@Mrgamer-wm3dm
2 жыл бұрын
I was diagnosed autism then got undiagnosed
@pamtufnell6751
Жыл бұрын
I forget to pay bills it gets me into trouble alot
@mazzystarr7078
2 жыл бұрын
I have a ton of anticipatory anxiety...
@annehislop2449
2 жыл бұрын
Perhaps you're afraid of not seeing the obvious and not knowing what is expected of you. We depend on the kindness of others. "Can you help me please" is a good start.
@mazzystarr7078
2 жыл бұрын
@@annehislop2449 it's definitely a control thing, not being able to know the outcomes. But I have been more honest about life and it really helps.
@colinmemery63
2 жыл бұрын
✌️
@SuperSpoonification
2 жыл бұрын
Hi,both my youngest boys are special. One also mental health. I'd love to help them more.
@robertgross1655
2 жыл бұрын
🎩Hi. Poo that is so me. I’m going to share this with my wife because she does not really get it yet, and it’s horrible.
@SebastianLundh1988
2 жыл бұрын
I hope we'll find a cure soon enough. ❤
@teachermichelle9632
2 жыл бұрын
Autism is a different brain type to other people. It's not something that can be "cured". There are things one can do to help cope with issues that stem from having an autistic brain. I prefer autistic people to neurotypical people. They add so much more value (in my opinon) to our world than others. We can't lose that.
@SebastianLundh1988
2 жыл бұрын
@@teachermichelle9632 I know it can't be cured. That is why I said I hope will _find_ a cure soon. Also, the last things you said are messed up beyond belief.
@SuperGingerBickies
2 жыл бұрын
@@SebastianLundh1988 You're the one whose attitude is messed up.
@SebastianLundh1988
2 жыл бұрын
@@SuperGingerBickies Um, care to elaborate?
@SebastianLundh1988
2 жыл бұрын
@@SuperGingerBickies Well, are you going to explain yourself?
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