Trust me people's sense of entitlement back home is beyond me....I mean, my family wouldn't even ask for a dime, not even extended family but you see extended friends, who do not even care to check up on you or know how you've been faring, would come to you out of nowhere, standing on the pedestal of entitlement and demand you help them. They would even be like, since you've adapted to the system over there when will you start sending us stuff? God has been very good to me and my family but this year, I am very intentional about pouring reasonably only into those who have done same for me.
@chrisokereafor1391
4 ай бұрын
In life, the concept of moderation is crucial. It's not about abstaining from helping others when you're able to, but rather about understanding your own boundaries and recognizing when it's necessary to draw the line. Moreover, consider the significance of these individuals in your life. What if there are people who have made immense sacrifices to support you in reaching your current position? Additionally, the cost of rent in Africa might not seem burdensome to someone earning a living in America. However, the underlying message is not to overly inconvenience yourself for those who may not hold significant importance in your life. In essence, it's about finding a balance between generosity and self-preservation, and not extending yourself excessively for those who may not truly matter in the grand scheme of things.
@olasunkanmiadewunmi5521
4 ай бұрын
Melissa this video is for me, I have lost count of how much have send to my friends in Nigeria in the last two years and the problem is they keep asking for more. My mom comes to the UK whenever she wants to, and my only younger brother never bothered me, my dad is late, my elder brother and sister are here in the UK.
@fagbohunfestus7429
4 ай бұрын
😮😊😊😊😊😮😊😊😊😊😊
@rbee2062
4 ай бұрын
Family is the reason we're struggling here in diaspora. Who can help me when I need help in future. I should live first for me to me help someone in Africa. For the past 3 years the so called relatives here in the UK ,don't care about me . They'll invite me to a restaurant for a meal only to expect me to pay for myself . What happened to cooking for ourselves & celebrate at home ?
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Friends? You need to reduce it my dear, you owe no one nothing..
@olasunkanmiaiyedun9703
4 ай бұрын
Melissa, i share your thoughts. Even some of here in Nigeria (Africa) suffer ssme thing, trying to help other people, but now i just found out that you don't owe anyone anything except your fsmily. Settle yourself, then your family, then select friends that are purposeful and productive to assist and charge them to do the same, to at least one person in family, and let the trend continue.... I call it BEING ACCOUNTABLE & RESPONSIBLE. Yes, some people have this entitlement mentality, cut them off, they are not worth it. I pray for us struggling to help people, for more Grace and Capacity. Thanks❤
@danielossygexon
4 ай бұрын
It's more blessed to give than receive but do not over do it.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
wisdom must be applied
@colyadaeze
4 ай бұрын
Its not a sensitive topic, it's a fact people should know. Nice one
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Thanks love
@marcellineikhinmwin2028
4 ай бұрын
Melissa, you are a wonderful young lady. Your teachings and talk to us all ; it gives much knowledge, instructions and great wisdom. I pray my Children over there would read this as I share to them, so that they can be greater in all they do in Jesus mighty name amen.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! ☺️
@Nwuha
4 ай бұрын
UK teaches so much sense. Let my hustle pay me. God abeg. Keep my family members healthy at all times.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Amen!! Thank you love
@mercurius6352
4 ай бұрын
11:50 when sis stated in the video that people in the UK would send 100k to those in Africa despite there low income in the UK and those in Africa would be like “what am doing with 100k that you are sending me 100k? Is it for transportation, is it for ewa, is it for dodo or is it for rice?” I trust myself if i send someone 100k and they ask me such stupid question like what are they doing with the 100k, I will simply tell them to use that 100k and buy sense because they don't have one at the moment. Somebody is struggling working multiple jobs and paying his expenses, he now manages to send you 100k and you have the audacity to ask him what am i going to do with 100k. Use that 100k to buy Brain or use it to buy sense. Ungrateful human being, thank you they wont say and if you ask them to provide that 100k now, they wont be able to provide it. Nonsense.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
I will ask you to refund my money because you’re clearly an ingrate. God help us because it’s so crazy
@ogomsseries
4 ай бұрын
Dont deprive yourself of anything for anybody,do the one you can and leave the rest.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Exactly sis, thanks
@roberthornbrook8374
3 ай бұрын
I know Nigerians who have been eating cheap to send money to Adults from uk sometimes people family can use a scripture he that doesn’t support he’s family is worse than an infidel book of Timothy I think. But you must be as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove 🕊️ I met a postman In the uk he was Nigerian he’s mum arranged a wife for him he bought her here and she was going to leave him if he didn’t send money to her family they had two children he refused after a while sometimes Nigerian people get pressured but look after your mum she bought you into the world 🌍 remember Jesus himself said throw the net into the water and the old saying give a fisherman a net not a fish. Find out what your family can do research the business then send the money to open a business not every month only if its mum I am a British man but we must use wisdom thanks for your video
@kennethmorison7842
4 ай бұрын
I disagree with you to some extent. There are hardships in Nigeria presently. So we need to help them financially. You can leave your people to go hungry, when you are in the position to help them.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Nice input 👍
@chrisokereafor1391
4 ай бұрын
Its about striking a balance thats all
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Exactly 👍
@adesuaogbeni2016
4 ай бұрын
Melissa thank y0u for this post. Please when you can talk about the mortgage qbeg i genuinely want to learn the advantages and how it can help me here 8n the uk
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Okay love, I will.. Already planned this month’s content so hopefully next month love❤️
@amutagodswill
4 ай бұрын
Mrs Melissa Oti... You too get sense!!!
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Haha we dey try, thank you love
@ibehnnamdi3139
4 ай бұрын
Thank you Melissa❤
@obaroevaborhene2755
4 ай бұрын
I just love hearing your voice ❤❤❤
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Awwwn the sweet comments i’ve been getting from you all this morning have been making me go all mushy! I love you 🥰
@anyanwulilian2703
4 ай бұрын
Thank you Melissa🙏 You are such a value bag👌🥰
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Awwwn thank you ❤️
@obianujuejionye4663
4 ай бұрын
Very information video❤
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
So nice of you❤️
@dollyosadolor1489
4 ай бұрын
he is very right but always sends money to Nigeria for a good reason.
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Exactly, for a good reason is the key word
@adelodunolawuyi1942
2 ай бұрын
Parents don't request for money
@MelissaOti
2 ай бұрын
Okay
@estherjohnson6756
4 ай бұрын
God help me to listen to this advice oh
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Amen oh!!
@chidinmaeriamah7691
4 ай бұрын
Dis guy is saying bitter truth
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
I agree ❤️
@abdulmalikkoiki
4 ай бұрын
I've NEVER thought of building a house in Nigeria 🇳🇬 even after almost a quarter of a century living here as I see here as my home, and so it WILL never occur to me. Also, I help people with what I can afford and always put my interests above everyone else. Thanks for sharing this.
@davidsewell7343
4 ай бұрын
Muy answer Is allways send over some personally initiative so you l be able to see where your investment Is been placed for a developement AND then there should be no regrets.chares...
@MelissaOti
4 ай бұрын
Wow!!!! You must be a very wise man! Good decision
@louisvuitton7605
4 ай бұрын
I need a wife in the UK
@diplomatdiplomat2800
4 ай бұрын
No, you need a job and good education. You are looking for a woman to transmit your sufferhead to. No way, face your front and make sure you attend your school.
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