One thing is that there’s alway’s a man. I’ll be 70 in a few months and even at this advanced age, there’s still men.
@michelleaguirre6412
Жыл бұрын
WoW
@user-my9ri1pk6o
Жыл бұрын
Many many more men. It’s amazing. Better the older I get.
@petralee574
Жыл бұрын
Agreed. Age does not matter. There are many men to choose from - choose wisely Ladies.
@richricogranada9647
Жыл бұрын
I’m 62, and in my experience with older men is that they are all already “married” to his children, who control every step of their father’s life. And the reason is jealousy and fear of losing inheritance. Now, I’m looking only childless men just to avoid that drama.
@positano3290
Жыл бұрын
Even at 65, I have 2 to chose between. Im paying attn to their behavior so I can make a wise decision. They're both much younger than me. I never dreamed the biggest pool of men for me would be in their early 50s.
@monikavarro2020
2 жыл бұрын
I've given up on men because I'm tired of putting in all the effort and getting nothing in return. You can be happy alone! It's far less stressful.
@Esther-ur5vi
2 жыл бұрын
Also all this faking just to be with a guy, being my authentic care free self feels the best
@monikavarro2020
2 жыл бұрын
@@Esther-ur5vi I agree! 😃 The most miserable times in my life was when I was in a relationship.
@laur2139
2 жыл бұрын
Stop dating any men who are liberals. Only date conservative men. It helps.
@monikavarro2020
2 жыл бұрын
@@laur2139 I'm not dating any men and happier for it! 😃👍
@Esther-ur5vi
2 жыл бұрын
@@monikavarro2020 I feel so bad for you, poor thing. But yeah we are programmed and told by society that our self worth and everything we do has to be marketed to please guys, but I'm just so done and stop following these so called 'advice channels' as what is meant to be will be and not a game
@Y.Bergamot
2 жыл бұрын
Yes being your authentic self attracts the right one eventually. But the focus should never be on attracting a guy but just respecting your true self and being your self
@HereIAm247
Жыл бұрын
Best comment in this comment section. :)
@chikochiringa7247
2 жыл бұрын
Growing up, I thought people just fell in love, got married and lived happy ever after. Little did I know there would be books and classes😅 I give up✌️
@FG-wn6re
Жыл бұрын
HAHAHAHA.....EXACTLY!!
@lh6784
Жыл бұрын
This video is a reminder of how terribly I fumbled the ball in my last relationship. Lesson definitely learned.
@Chimalmita1
2 жыл бұрын
3:00 In my experience, this strategy woks wonders when you're looking for a job. If the recruiter senses that you have options, because your attitude shows it, they treat you more seriously (you can always act as if you do, even if you don't have that many of them)
@dioneja8
2 жыл бұрын
And why texting someone straight after a date isn’t part of abundance mindset? To me abundance mindset is to be genuinely and unapologetically myself, and not being afraid to loose a guy whether I will or will not text him.
@staceyv2683
2 жыл бұрын
I want a relationship like I had before cell phones were created. Call me! Let's chat. There's something about that playful tone you don't get through texting.
@hellokittysuzy
Жыл бұрын
Date a german guy, they are very straightforward, so there are no games at all, no pretending, no illusions
@JOEYDEEZ369
Жыл бұрын
Never chase after a man ! Never fight over a man ! Never change your core values and morals for a man ! Never lose your sense of self for a man ! Never settle for just any old man through fear of being left on the shelf… better to be left on the shelf than to be chosen by a man that does not appreciate or uplift you in any way ! All of these points also apply to men too when choosing a lady ! Being true to oneself in every aspect of ones life is of the upmost importance to me ! Cheers Brian…
@bettywinn8296
2 жыл бұрын
I love that you used The Bachelorette TV program as an example. You nailed it. So many women need to hear your message!! Right now, I have attracted,in the last month, after being involved with a toxic narcissistic guy, who I dumped, 9 months ago to his shock, who is stable, kind, caring, compassionate and communicative male who contacts me daily, more than once a day. I had to heal myself first, which I did by watching certain videos thru KZitem to understand how men think! I did the work on myself, now I am reaping the rewards. It is the best relationship I have ever experienced. You make sense. Thank you, so much, Brian!!.
@janicejackson9228
2 жыл бұрын
Good job Betty❣
@lauramacaskill7553
2 жыл бұрын
Well done Betty xx
@abbymendez1136
2 жыл бұрын
Proud of you Betty
@lelagermanin8410
2 жыл бұрын
He was no longer a narcissist because you learned to understand men?
@stbam1965
2 жыл бұрын
I hate that show ,Its pathetic fake and the ppl on it look ridiculous. Desperate needy pathetic acting.
@turtlecrochets8653
Жыл бұрын
Most people don't get abundance mindset because we are overpowered by this crippling fear of being alone. I think to get an abundance mindset, one really has to be comfortable with or perhaps even love being alone. At least that is my understanding of it. It is very liberating to not be afraid to be alone!
@findelka1810
10 ай бұрын
I recently verbalized and written down my very high standards for a relationship alongside with a must have list of traits of any man who’d want to be with me. It helped big time. I’m out socializing, very open to everyone until he proves himself wrong in which case he’s out. I don’t lower any of my standards, nor tone down my very playful and happy nature nor my strong sexual energy which got activated alongside my self-esteem. I’m happy and fulfilled on my own. If someone wants to join my party, they’re welcome. Men are literally standing in row and pull out their best behaviour! And I used to be a woman of very low self esteem and compromised boundaries all my youth, despite my beauty. Men ofc treated me like dirt. I had to realize it was ME who let that happen. Finally I’ve self-corrected and things are just going in the opposite direction. Do the work on yourself and you won’t even care if there are men around you or not! That’s when you’ll start attracting them like crazy! Happy self-discovery to everyone out there!
@ShakeMyWay
2 жыл бұрын
That's why I told my daughter that the Bachelor is unnatural. All those women fighting for 1 man? Count me out. The woman is the flower. The men are the bees. Be the flower, not the bee. You ARE the prize!
@stbam1965
2 жыл бұрын
That show is PATHETIC
@TheJourneyofM3
Жыл бұрын
I am the prize. Im not afraid of losing them because I know that there is an abundance of people and men out there. I believe this. At dating I'm enjoying more, having fun, relaxed, share boundaries, give plenty of room for him to miss you to chase you. Switch to the abundance mind sent. Don't be afraid to lose him. Thank you Dear Brian. ❤
@zaniagarden1736
2 жыл бұрын
In married 14 years and still in that path. First just about happy in positive line for yourself then your man will follow you, he will be great man for you.
@KnightGeneral
2 жыл бұрын
Among all Relationship Channels here in KZitem, this Channel is the Best for me. Thank you, Brian for everything you do! You helped me a lot
@Kittylyne78
2 жыл бұрын
So the trick is to have a scarcity mindset about yourself, (believing in your worth), while having an abundance mindset about the great guys out there...
@skhan3118
2 жыл бұрын
Basically wait to receive before giving
@patriziapiccardo2428
2 жыл бұрын
I know what you are saying and I love your videos. But I have to say something about this one. I'm NEVER short of options. I can go on a new date once a week, every week, and without trying: I'm not on a dating site. BUT.... I fell in love 6 years ago, and I can't stop wanting him, even if I had to walk away from a situation that made me feel demeaned. The "options" are an illusion, because no one compares.
@babymoon5282
2 жыл бұрын
Good luck
@freegame6939
2 жыл бұрын
If he is demeaning he is no prize
@therightchick
2 жыл бұрын
Watch this over and over and again! Abundance is the game 😊
@Cocobelle96
2 жыл бұрын
Brian, please do more videos. You’re a funny dating coach. Love your wiseness
@sheallwhimsical3738
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian💛. You just explained in a nutshell why a guy I reconnected with ghosted me. I get it now. I need an abundance mindset not scarcity!!!
@liudmilaaleagaaguilera8876
2 жыл бұрын
You are 💯% right. Yes, there are plenty of great guys out there. Thank you for this❤️
@laurengramlich1384
Жыл бұрын
This is absolutely true!!! Videos like this have totally changed my mindset about dating.
@Lindartist
6 ай бұрын
Relationship genius. You always say things in a way that sinks in. Thank you sooooo much!
@vdondada
2 жыл бұрын
Geert’s - the way you explain things is as calming as the waves in summer👌🏽 A beautiful mind you have.
@stbam1965
2 жыл бұрын
I don't get why ppl are so desperate. I don't care . I love being single. I've been married before and never will do it again. A real hot guy could flirt with me and I don't get all weird. If I go on a date I'm not nervous. I don't worry about him texting me or calling me. If he don't get ahold of me again or not for a week, I don't care. I don't feel I have to be anything else but myself. If someone doesn't like me, oh well. It's so freeing to not be like those clingy needy women. I'm happy on my own.
@SamStone1964
Жыл бұрын
Same. But I betcha you'd get butterflies in your stomach if you met a man you really connected with.
@dianalereve5402
2 жыл бұрын
So true: Tunnel vision is just a mindgame. Merci for the video 😊
@unijay2215
2 жыл бұрын
I liked your presentation. It is useful to have an abundance mindset. Thank you Brian.
@makenziedeniss754
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting topic, BUT if a woman knows where she stands with the man, she will not be anxious.... the man has to make his intention clear, she will not have a reason to wonder nor be anxious !!!!!!!
@MJ-ix1nh
2 жыл бұрын
if he's not clear = next. thats the point ... if he's not making intention clear = he doesn't have one... therefore dump him fast.
@lifechangingaura3059
Жыл бұрын
Started taking control of my dating life I see a change
@aline21o85
2 жыл бұрын
Can u make a video about long distance relationships advices
@karennatalie7885
2 жыл бұрын
Best advise, Go into it with both eyes open, good luck!
@cangrejitamiry
2 жыл бұрын
Don’t do it. End of advice
@ElseNoOone
2 жыл бұрын
the worst thing they will say, must be intimate/6 (An intimate relationship)!! their first concept about if i cant see you at least once in the month/3 months, it'll never works!! okay what if the girl don't want to have 6 ... until she get married!? in the past it works fine, but know they put some silly things just to say it'll never work. if a man and the woman was so honest in this long distance relationships believe me it'll work ... it's up to the one of them because one will be serious the other maybe just wasting his time or play around!!
@supersrpkinja
2 жыл бұрын
@@karennatalie7885 o
@debmccafferty1007
2 жыл бұрын
I had LDR. Your person will not be truthful about other "priorities."
@vegankathy2583
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent message!! I am complete proof this works!!
@NiaRankin
Жыл бұрын
I love your video outro. It always makes me smile 😊
@ArtbyL763
Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, online dating is like the bachelorette in many ways. Everyone has so many choices and are looking for an instant connection. Even if you value yourself, it does not make dating easy
@rileywiebe3512
Жыл бұрын
I like your metaphors. “He’ll open up a cookie jar in the hands of a child “. I’ve never heard some of these and they’re quite funny
@linabuns
2 жыл бұрын
You give the best advices. Love the clarity and examples in your explanations. 🥰
@puneeta0686
2 жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this. It explains all.
@teliabio6816
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this is sooo powerful thanks alot
@LifeDIY
2 жыл бұрын
Amen! Great advice.
@dawnsteilverch
2 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right about this one. Yip. Having made this error many times.
@JelinaHavanaSergioLopez
2 жыл бұрын
That is so true. That is my standard right now. I know I am worth it.
@reemsaif3105
2 жыл бұрын
The REAL reason women don't have a relationship is because a lot are not ready deep down. Be it fear of commitment or intimacy. Being the prize is a high value thing to be but it also feels scary for some women and I'm one of them. I don't want to feel like a prize in the fear of being taken. I just want an equal. Any advice is appreciated. Yes I agree the abundance mindset helps big time!
@SamStone1964
Жыл бұрын
It's not a fear of commitment or intimacy. It's just that we haven't met the one we feel connected to.
@airbullet9331
2 жыл бұрын
Wow! What a real talk! Thanks Brian!
@lmbgemini
2 жыл бұрын
I have a lot of options and I am the prize. I must remember that.
@majadel5895
2 жыл бұрын
mindblowing. Youre really an Expert!
@aline21o85
2 жыл бұрын
I like his videos
@lindavalentin5582
2 жыл бұрын
AWESOME BRIAN NOX THANK YOU I NEEDED TO CHANGE TO THE “Abundance Mindset”
@andrearyel5971
Жыл бұрын
Back in the day men were gentlemen..let's get back to that so women can actually be women.
@cynderellylastname6060
2 жыл бұрын
Hi! Thanks for the video
@chimi1924
2 жыл бұрын
"Seniors" are invisible. Well, not real for baby boomers. 60-70s year old are way contemporaneous and never taken seriously as part of the group seeking quality partners. 40% of singles are people in that age bracket. Lots of potential there!!!
@amyjoseph3914
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! Thanks for mentioning that.
@malubasic2267
2 жыл бұрын
Wow thank you Brian 🙂
@kotic007
2 жыл бұрын
True but at some point you have to be valuable instead of desirable. Goes for men and women.
@raquelt5342
2 жыл бұрын
Loved this video and saved it to watch again, thank you so very much for this!!💕
@PowerOfAIandMotivation
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, it's very true👍🏻 You've stated it in a simple way too💯 This is great👍🏻
@InoKanzakii
2 жыл бұрын
You're amazing! Thank You! 🌸💗
@Iamloveandloveisme
Жыл бұрын
Your advice is powerful
@drollette08
2 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video for relationship at workplace? When you fall in love with a co-worker or something
@maysaraali5772
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Brian 💕
@4elovechishe
Жыл бұрын
I have not been in a good relationship in a long time. My desire to have one and be loved and give love makes me do stupid things...ugh. I will never learn😔
@ahlammenar8814
2 жыл бұрын
Hi! Thanks a lot
@KatieKatielife
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds great. But how to switch to abundance mode when you are insecure?
@funsahw
2 жыл бұрын
o wow i remember when you had 10k followers.. i'm so happy to run across your videos again and notice the huge subscriber count. keep up the great work!
@jarjarbings2893
Жыл бұрын
Great value in this video 👌
@phagunisahar1397
2 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤️
@nathalian.7209
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian !
@KTpie
2 жыл бұрын
Can you make some videos on long term relationship advice please? Say relationships longer than 1 year Love watching your videos, hearing your insights and the humour aspect you bring Brian! 😄
@aavvcc
2 жыл бұрын
I agree! Videos focusing on keeping things going, including the challenge, in an LTR would be terrific 💯
@amyjoseph3914
2 жыл бұрын
KT if you are young, say in your 20s, they shouldn’t last longer than a year. That would be awful. The more frogs you kiss, the easier it’ll be for you to recognize a prince of a man.
@jfox9323
2 жыл бұрын
I am in that situation right now.
@wms72
Жыл бұрын
The current system is the exact opposite of the former age-old system of mating, in which women stayed home and men asked permission of the woman's father to interview with the woman in order to be accepted by her. This system was discarded during the Roaring Twenties, the first wave of Women's "Lib." LOL.
@francedc4247
Жыл бұрын
I love all of your advises Brian, but all these mind games are just too tiring. I'd rather be myself. If no man would want me, I'd be fine and happier. Being myself is important to some people like me because we don't like wasting time and life is too short to play mind games.
@ninamartin1084
2 жыл бұрын
Truth is, women do have abundance or even overabundance of male attention while they are in their childbearing years. As soon as that time is over, men their own age want a younger woman, so abundance turns to scarcity overnight at menopause. And for men it starts out tough cos when they are young they have to compete with each other and older men for the same young women but it gets easier as they age. The exact opposite experience for women. You would think that there would be a sweet spot somewhere around age 35 where it balances out but at the back of men's minds is the thought that he should have a younger woman as then the fertility will last longer. Whether they want kids or not - its about impressing other guys, not actually fathering children.
@kate9653
Жыл бұрын
That is the point of this video. It is teaching us to have self respect by having a abundance mind set and realize you have choices and other options instead of letting one confused loser who rejects you ruin your self esteem for life. It’s not about faking it’s about learning to respect yourself. This is the problem. Too many people thinking putting the work in to have self respect and self discipline is too much work, therefore take the easy route by calling it a “game”. Yes it’s hard work to retrain your brain to respect yourself in a world with so many disrespecting men and people. But you have to, for yourself not for anyone else. It’s not a game it’s a lesson so love yourself more.
@BookWorm2369
2 жыл бұрын
Great video, glad I found your channel
@danielastoica3354
2 жыл бұрын
It's no abundancy of good men, just the one that we consider now a good man can prove us the contrary in the next 30 minutes and it's bye bye. It's an unbelievable shortage of good men
@vhayashi7369
2 жыл бұрын
Yep
@angelika6521
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@dislexas
Жыл бұрын
take into account that a man that sees you as a challenge will change as soon as they find out you've grown attached to him. What's the point of having a man you're not attached to?
@aeiou0123
Жыл бұрын
He is not d one
@tammy6452
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent question, if you knew others were interested, what would be the choice? Right now I am at I am interested in my own company, and I got the greatest reminder today. Your video has good timing.
@PJ-xl5hs
2 жыл бұрын
You are great! Luv this!!!
@kathy9373
2 жыл бұрын
Great video and advice, Brian!
@notjustbakaiti
Жыл бұрын
Everytime i feel stressed coz of guys .. watching ur video is such a relief. Then i decide i will play a bit hard..let him make efforts n then again back to myself😭. M tired of this thing..i should better love my company.
@carriecohen6881
2 жыл бұрын
Awesome advise
@Endodontist1
2 жыл бұрын
Actually that's right specially the theory of abundance
@AnaS-jn3wu
2 жыл бұрын
Great video! ❤️
@BlairePatrick-vk4xl
5 ай бұрын
Hi ladies.
@BlairePatrick-vk4xl
5 ай бұрын
Lesson not learnt, people change. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤😂😂😂😂😂
@maryjanewesterlund9958
2 жыл бұрын
Yep, that’s the ticket. Let him work for it.
@angelinasamson6996
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve actually got men in line atm , I’d like to give this gay a shot , he’s not like most men I’ve actually spoke to . They always come back so I don’t have to chase him
@ihaveheardHim
Жыл бұрын
Gosh! If I saw this when I was a teenager 😢😅
@ankitaasthana6857
2 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video on disinterest of husband in marriages
@SamStone1964
Жыл бұрын
Wife needs to leave. Simple.
@missbee365
2 жыл бұрын
Sooo true 🤦🏻♀️
@loredanamunteanu5834
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks ✨ ussefull as always 💥
@amandaolga5223
2 жыл бұрын
I shud I was in a relationship once wen we both a dominos having huge feelings for each other but afraid to give in first. I think we were both watching love couchings n stuffs. N at the we lost each other with alot of affection.
@roziluxe
2 жыл бұрын
You remind me of Barney in "How I Met Your Mother".
@juileb197473051
2 жыл бұрын
LMAO, I also find it funny how my KZitem channel has all kinds of backlash now, with my new idea of "hallucinations," and "delusional" slander of who I am. I can play my card well.
@debragoforth4738
2 жыл бұрын
Funny, but true.
@aline21o85
2 жыл бұрын
And online dating
@skhan3118
2 жыл бұрын
Guys these days linger back on dating apps in hopes of landing better while you might be aiming for abundance lol
@tuchus8781
2 жыл бұрын
Don't announce moves. Confirm on arrival
@EbbyGerl
8 ай бұрын
So much work. So many rules to folllow. I am so exhausted. There are channels teaching men to be hard to get, gold back etc. So here is is great guy and female holding back and or feeling confused abput how to act. In my country, women are shamed if tjey are seen out with different men. Smh.
@heatherwoodley8244
2 жыл бұрын
If anyone has any tips on how to deal when you already did the deed, several times and now he's only interested in that, (of course, get out of there, this person isn't someone I want to invest my time and energy in, clearly,. but as I'm living there, that's not as easy.) I don't think the dynamic can be altered now, but I'd like to anyway because I don't like the situation or the power balance it has created. Any tips would be welcome.
@thelookout5802
2 жыл бұрын
Dynamics can always be changed. Make up your mind, about what you want. Why can't you just move out, so that you take sex out of the equation? It's the only way unless you feel he is dangerous. Tell him you need some time apart to decide what you want to do with your life...he might be feeling the same way and he might just give it to you.
@sheliztety7972
2 жыл бұрын
Or just say NO....NO is a complete statement. Anything outside that is a violation.
@hollycross657
2 жыл бұрын
Honesty, you need to start practicing it. If you don't want it, then you don't give it. Don't be played.
@heatherwoodley8244
2 жыл бұрын
@@thelookout5802 Thanks. I was able to move out yesterday. We weren't in a relationship. I think he liked me and then changed his mind. But meanwhile, as I just moved to a new country and he is a friend of friends, I was staying with him while I found somewhere to rent. But I liked him at first and on the second night he came on to me. I told him I wasn't looking for anything serious as I just got here and all, and don't know how long I'll be here. I thought we could have a friends/benefits situation since the friends part had already begun, but nope, there was nothing of friendship. He had friends coming round all the time and when not, he spent it on his own unless he wanted a session with me. I said no a few times but he was very insistent, and by then I felt crap, of course. I'm out of there now, so forgiving myself and moving forward.
@lee48lee68
Жыл бұрын
@@heatherwoodley8244 -I’m here late but the advice still applies. When you get into a relationship with a man, make sure you keep doing things with your friends, pursue your schooling or career and most importantly no matter how invested you are in the relationship, have a hobby outside of him. My husband and I have 3 daughters and a son. We emphasized this with our daughters (our son does it naturally because he’s a man) have a hobby that is your own. I really hope his helps. ☮️
@noonereally4798
2 жыл бұрын
If you like a man and show it, he won’t want you, if you tell him to go jump out a window on the 10th floor, he’ll fall in love immediately, are D havers ok?
@powernap5779
2 жыл бұрын
So true 🤣🤣🤣
@majadel5895
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 True
@ellengrace4609
2 жыл бұрын
And this is why I’ve all but given up. I never thought I’d say that, but I just don’t want to give any more of my precious, beautiful energy to guys who couldn’t care less. I’m focusing on building my life the way I want to live it. If at some point a guy comes along who recognizes and values what I have to offer, great. If not, I’ll at least be happy and know that I’m not wasting time.
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