If people listened to the internet when it came to relationships, they'd be divorced 6 times and lonely at 55
@zelbarnap
9 ай бұрын
exactly
@BusinessSkrub
9 ай бұрын
6! They'd be lucky to have less than 10 divorces by 55, the way they treat relationships these people could be in and out of one every 2 years lol
@someone-ji2zb
9 ай бұрын
Oh wait
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
You people want women to deal with things you'd claim is "selfish" if a man was dealing with it. The husband is an attention seeker and this video made me sad.
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
Imagine putting together every holiday or birthday then when it comes around to your birthday there's no presents or effort, you wouldn't feel so good. Just because people endure a situation does not mean they like it, let's stop ignoring the problems in these situations because of the possibility of "divorce."
@catherinethecatlike
9 ай бұрын
My mom has always been “Santa Clause” and filling everyone’s stalking and hers would always be empty, which always made me feel really sad for her even when I was little. She’d say “I don’t need anything honey, just seeing you all happy is what I need for Christmas” but still… her sitting there just watching us while she didn’t get anything was awful. Finally when I was around 10 I started putting little letters in her stalking along with an orange and candy cane (we always get an orange at the bottom of our stockings. Then When I was around 13 I started putting small things I knew she liked, like a pack of gum, earring jewelry (I started hand making jewelry) etc in my mamas stocking, but the only stuff in her stocking is what I would put in it - I guess it never even crossed anyone else’s mind. Now I always start getting things I know she likes or had been wanting to get but never got around to it. I’ve given her several handmade pairs of earrings over the past 10ish years and I still give her a pair every year in her sticking. I personally love giving gifts more than getting them, so seeing my precious mama happy and thankful and smiling so big is the best part of Christmas for me. She d9es so much for our family and she absolutely deserves all the love and happiness in the world.
@Deenatheknittingauthor
9 ай бұрын
That is beautiful. It might just be a stocking to some but it symbolizes something deeper. It's the thought that counts. Appreciation.
@kaygee2121
9 ай бұрын
She raised a wonderful, caring person 💖
@karamellfunnyla
9 ай бұрын
What a very selfless your mother is and what a very sweet soul you are 💛
@TogetherForeverOct09
9 ай бұрын
This made me so emotional! My siblings and I would hear our mother say the same thing. So my brother, sister and I made it our job to pack both our parents stockings with their favorite candy or neat little things they used to have when they were kids. We started using our allowance money. But we used to feel so sad they didn’t have anything and we had so much. Thank you for sharing your sweet experience ❤️
@jjsorelle4682
9 ай бұрын
This is beautiful and wonderful, other than your spelling of stocking. I noticed the children thought it was an extra stocking as well, but no mention of their responsibility. I totally agree with the woman about communication. If this was year 10 and the wife had not mentioned it for 10 years, then she has some responsibility as well. Now that said, I believe the husband should have filled or made an effort to get something in the stocking, but PSA to women men (like women) have a lot on their minds around the holidays and can't read minds, so get together and state what you plan to take care of and what you need help with. Vague hints don't work. Again, OP is awesome for recognizing it and fixing it.
@raedorin979
9 ай бұрын
My parents never had stockings. They never gave each other gifts. They are married almost 50 years. Raised 8 kids that were homeschooled, lost a son together and still love each other madly. People are just too concerned with junk
@WickedRich419
9 ай бұрын
THIS!!! My husband and I don’t do gifts for anything “marked”! Even birthdays! Everyone around us (especially my parents) spoil us anyway. We have more important things in our life! Love, respect, trust, loyalty… ❤ We’ve been married a decade this spring.
@aliahduiker7998
9 ай бұрын
Not to say I agree with tiktok saying they should get divorced but that’s a totally different situation. Neither of them got stockings.
@Polonium212
9 ай бұрын
Good for you… but this is not the same thing…
@kaitb07
9 ай бұрын
Yup! We basically said No Gifts. We don't need or want them, don't like the pressure or to make each other feeled pressure to find junk cause "society". There have been times when I just Knew my hubby would appreciate, or if there's something I maybe wouldn't normally buy for myself, and hubby notices. But it's rare and Never expected. We have 5 kids, homeschool, hubby works a hard labour job and rarely gets days off. We have been married 16 years and no issues. I'm not high maintenance, that probably helps haha
@raedorin979
9 ай бұрын
@@kaitb07 that's my situation now. My hubby loves gifts and so i take the time to be sure he has stuff but I'm a stay at home with 5 under six and he's an oil field worker soooo.... i try to be very practical and find stuff he uses regularly and just forgets to replace or mention he needs new of. I put zero pressure on him and when he's dying to buy me gifts and asks for ideas, I'll list things i actually need "a couple chapstick and some hand sanitizer for the diaper bag.... my wooden spoons are all cracking and i love those dish scrubbers shaped like fruit..." If i need new shoes i mention it at Christmas. If i need a new coat, Christmas. If there's a book i really want to read, Christmas. I don't wear makeup, jewelry or anything fancy. I like to be outside and camping is my vacation favorite so he knows I'm being honest. I don't even carry a purse.... I love my diaper backpack!😅
@gator7082
9 ай бұрын
Look at that freaking house. She looks like she is doing all right. The crap we complain about is astounding.
@camdecay
9 ай бұрын
i always pay attention to this before i feel too bad for anyone. if you have that kind of staircase i have little sympathy
@chazzitz-wh4ly
9 ай бұрын
That is a nice ass place. Those kids have a bunch of shit. Last thing I’d be concerned about is a stocking. Bro, enjoy the time with family and how much more well off you are than others.
@MaidenHelll
9 ай бұрын
That isn’t really the point though is it… she isn’t complaining she didn’t get anything but he didn’t even notice it for 10 years….
@gator7082
9 ай бұрын
@@MaidenHelll Because adults do not need stockings. That's what any normal, grown, adult male who actually works for a living would think.
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
@@gator7082 Then he should have had the convo with his wife and said "lets just do stockings with the kids". He didn't. He enjoyed his stocking and ignored his wife. He can't use the excuse "adults don't need stockings" if he didn't communicate that he shouldn't have got one either. Letting his wife be only one who is ignored in the tradition, and for 10 years, is shitty. It doesn't matter if they're rich, it doesn't matter if she got other gifts, that is shitty. It doesn't make him a shitty husbannd (every one does shitty things sometimes) but that action, or lack thereof, absolutely was terrible spousal behaviour.
@blkshadow4
9 ай бұрын
The only thing wrong in this video is people post this kind of crap. Just enjoy the time with your family.
@dragonrider9051
9 ай бұрын
Spot on
@pianogal853
9 ай бұрын
True 👏
@gypsyrose-qq9nz
9 ай бұрын
Sure don't post it. ,but sadly this is the thing now . In addition ,everyone else got full stockings ,except the wife ,/ mom it hurts to be forgotten. Although ,if she goes shopping for all the stockings ,why not add your own to the list also.
@jameslauder3984
9 ай бұрын
Gods honest truth
@adamsolar8245
9 ай бұрын
While I agreed, the video probably paid them 50k.
@hearts4_liv18
9 ай бұрын
it annoys me that people told her to divorce him over a stocking. it's so obvious that these people do not have a clue about what it's like to be in a healthy relationship with someone if u would end it over that.
@kaygee2121
9 ай бұрын
It's not about the stocking but about the principle of the matter, and men being self-centered. Honestly, divorce over a stocking? Of course not, but it obviously goes deeper than that (not necessarily in that couple's case)
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
No one is saying divorce over just a stocking. It's a real possible symptom of a bigger problem and that is what has people concerned. Someone who shows a lack of care to their spouse in one area, is probably ignoring them in other areas too. He didn't notice for 10 years... the likelihood this is the only thing he is doing routinely that is hurtful is pretty slim. That is what has people concerned.
@winsteila
9 ай бұрын
that’s how tiktok is, people should stop airing out their couple fights on there
@ragnakleinen2109
8 ай бұрын
Its never about the stocking, no one says divorce over just the stocking. Its more often years of not being considered in youre marriage. We don't know that specific couple but we project our own experiances and those are often that the stocking is one of countless symptoms of disrespect, not being concidered, not getting help and doing the christmas preparations all on youre own and if shes doing that on her own, what else? Those are the thoughts people have bc this is what they know to be true.
@KO_116
3 ай бұрын
Honestly it’s just the fact that no one thought of her, I know we didn’t get their full relationship although, you have to admit it must have hurt when she got nothing in her stalking, it’s the fact he wasn’t thinking of her enough the even get her a necklace or something
@highdesertmama
9 ай бұрын
As a woman married to a man for 25 years, all I'm thinking about in this video is how much I love the little Victorian sofa she is sitting on.
@supersayin1
9 ай бұрын
Women...Am I right guys??
@kari8899
9 ай бұрын
😂
@ladylandlubber499
9 ай бұрын
Oh wow I went back, it is lovely!
@alejandropacheco7832
9 ай бұрын
As a man , I'm looking at their huge house, beautiful children and the Hallmark christmas movie they are living, and I am thinking to myself.... "The lonely, bitter women yelling for divorce must be very happy with their cats" 🤣🤣🤣
@honeybadger3570
9 ай бұрын
🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
@heatherdellosa9220
9 ай бұрын
My stocking has been flat since my mom passed away. My husband doesn’t think to fill it so I told him I thought we should just end the adult stocking tradition and just fill the kids’. My mom always filled our stockings, even when we grew up and spent Christmas together and my sister and I always filled our parents’ stockings in return. Yeah it absolutely does hurt when you find your stocking flat and everyone else’s is full. It may seem petty but it honestly is the little things in marriage that make the biggest impact. It wouldn’t be the main reason for a divorce, though. I’m glad we ended the tradition, honestly. It was too much pressure for my husband and I’d rather not get anything of it just feels like that. Maybe one day my kids will fill our stockings for us. Until then, mom & dads are both gonna be flat. 😅
@sjm9876
8 ай бұрын
We always only had kids hang stockings growing up. I guess my parents didn’t want the extra pressure too
@MrBuns-yi2hk
9 ай бұрын
People need to calm down. They are acting like not filling the stocking is equivalent to him cheating.
@shawnpitman876
9 ай бұрын
Let this be a warning to you about how vapid people are today. Marriage is supposed to be a through thick or thin thing, but people today are so vapid and narcissistic that the second they don't get exactly what they want they're throwing a fit and threatening to leave. Which as a man means losing half of your stuff to a woman who likely never even really liked you, just wanted your money.
@strawberryynoodlesauce
9 ай бұрын
It's not that, it's just sad that for years he didn't even think about her. It's been empty for so many years while everybody else gets something, she got him gifts. That's very sad and not thoughtful of him
@yamalortiz5152
9 ай бұрын
@@strawberryynoodlesauceEverything he has been doing is for her and the kids so stop being so dramatic. He probably doesn’t wait till Christmas to buy her things she likes.
@strawberryynoodlesauce
9 ай бұрын
@@yamalortiz5152 I mean you don't even know their situation. He could be getting nothing for her or he does get her stuff all the time, who knows. It's not about that though, it's the fact he forgets on special days when she remembers him and everybody else but he totally doesn't think about it. You guys think it's all about what he gets her, it's just the thought that counts
@shawnpitman876
9 ай бұрын
@@strawberryynoodlesauce So it's okay when YOU jump to conclusions without knowing their situation, but not when other people do it? Keep proving how brainless you are.
@andianderson3017
9 ай бұрын
My husband didn’t fill mine one year. I was upset. We talked about it. It’s not about needing more things-it’s about feeling forgotten. I told him that it could be a pack of gum, I just needed to know that while I was thinking of everyone else, someone was thinking about me. He’s never forgotten again. Our gifts for each other are much smaller than for the kids both under the tree and stockings. He usually gets me a couple small things and then my favorite chocolates for my stocking. I do most of the shopping for the kids but he helps with ideas and the occasional trip. I just wanted to know we were in it together and that I’m thought of and valued. Gifts are high on my love languages. Both of us would be upset if the gifts were too extravagant-that isn’t the point. I get women being upset about a missed stocking-it makes so much sense to me. What floors me is how often women don’t communicate that to their husband’s at all.
@strawberryynoodlesauce
9 ай бұрын
I agree with you, feeling forgotten is awful. I notice a trend with who makes these videos though. A lot of other women reacting to this are just explaining how sad it is, even if it's nothing big. But when like channels with a lot of male viewers watch this, they completely disregard the woman's feelings or this situation. If this was a wife forgetting about a husband's gift every year, the men would be talking about how selfish women are. They always do that here but now it doesn't matter cause it's a woman's problem
@strawberryynoodlesauce
9 ай бұрын
And maybe some women wait to see if he will somehow remember or if they do say something, the guy brushes it off or gets mad. This happens so much with me and other women I know
@andianderson3017
9 ай бұрын
I mean call things when they happen, not remind them before they mess up. And yes, it is a problem if he brushes it off or dismisses you. Then you break up or insist on counseling. It’s also worth saying that this must be done respectfully and in terms of your needs, not assassinating his character. It is impossible to tell exactly where all the bad dynamics are from a distance.@@strawberryynoodlesauce
@ruthdurfee4439
9 ай бұрын
Perfect response! Men often don't interpret things the way we do, and vice versa! We need to be honest and tell each other how we feel and why. Understanding the why is often the hardest but most valuable part.
@andianderson3017
9 ай бұрын
I might add the caveat that he was mad at me and pushed back at first. Called me selfish. It sucked. But he never forgot again and it was better in the long run. I do not have the perfect husband and yes, it caused conflict. But it would have been worse to stay quiet for the sake of peace in the moment.@@ruthdurfee4439
@bryand9337
9 ай бұрын
why is everybody blaming the husband, they all should blame santa😂
@sweetiespoon5150
9 ай бұрын
Blame the family dog. 😂
@Goldy-Bear88
9 ай бұрын
#blamesanta 😂😂😂
@LysippeLee
9 ай бұрын
Someone was bad this year. 😂😂😂
@spongebobmiscellaneous
9 ай бұрын
“🎶Santa brought nearly every gift on your list, why whine about the one that he missed?🎶” -SpongeBob SquarePants
@ahe79
9 ай бұрын
Exactly! I always made sure to fill my own stocking, as the kids could wonder why Santa left mommy out. Who doesn’t fill their own stocking when they have young kids? Why even bother to set out or hang a stocking if you don’t intend on filling it with the rest? Our stockings were always just various candies and chapstick. I’d buy bags of bite sized or fun sized candy and disperse it evenly, the lifesaver storybook type candy, and a movie theatre box candy, along with bubble gum tape and a large peppermint candy stick. We also always had Hershey’s kisses and hugs, because one of the first Christmas’ with my stepson, he asked for actual hugs and kisses on his Christmas list. So that twist to make him laugh became a tradition throughout the rest of his childhood and that of the subsequent children we had together. I get not everyone wants to indulge in candy. In that case, put alternatives or just give the candy away. But don’t draw attention to a single, unfilled stocking. Sheesh. Oh, and stockings were always the thing the kids were allowed to get into before we got up.
@aryamalmgren4477
9 ай бұрын
the last thing amala said is so true, “couples, maybe don’t post every little thing on your socials” and people should understand other people’s relationships are going to look different to them.
@lizOnar
9 ай бұрын
A divorce over a empty stocking really that's ridiculous
@brianburgess3231
9 ай бұрын
he probly did fill it .. the she emptied it .. and left it out in plain view
@dasboom7133
9 ай бұрын
When the sanctity of marriage is supplanted by this shallow imitation, you cant be surprised when people abandon ship after a bump.
@lizOnar
9 ай бұрын
And besides even if he forgot to do. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her there are many people that every year on that one time of the year they forget something special on a day or present to give and celebration it doesn't mean they don't love their human we forget things a lot.
@blackswany5539
9 ай бұрын
That’s not the damn point! Are you thick in the head?
@julius_the_python
9 ай бұрын
It's not about an empty stocking. It's about a man who doesn't pay attention or give a shit
@TexSquirrel
9 ай бұрын
There were several years my Mom didn’t get anything for Christmas. When I got old enough I begged my Dad to take me shopping and suggested he buy something for her too. He would sometimes get her a bottle of perfume after I would ask him to. He always received gifts. It always infuriated me that he showed no interest in getting gifts for my Mom. As a kid, the lack of a stocking for Mom isn’t a big deal, but when you watch your Mom have nothing on Christmas day that sucks.
@JJJ-zf8ri
4 ай бұрын
My father was similar. I feel so bad for my mother.
@Rebecca-fq4hz
9 ай бұрын
My mom always got an empty stocking until I started filling it for her. She used to have the nicest stocking of all because with just one to fill I spent months planning it and had all of my budget just for the one stocking.
@d4ever649
9 ай бұрын
Awww ❤ very sweet and considerate of you.
@alexakingsbury8035
9 ай бұрын
Awe 😊 that's so sweet of you. I'm sure she really loved and appreciated that. ❤
@sharinettegonzalez23
9 ай бұрын
In my culture is we don’t do the stocking stuffing but tbh if it was something that were a costumed to do every year and my husband knows his stocking is filled and my gets left empty for 10 years I would be a little upset. It’s not something that warrants a divorce but a conversation. Men are not children and if you’re such logical thinkers then shouldn’t it be logical to fill your wife’s stocking if she fills your every year?
@kaygee2121
9 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@redacted1093
9 ай бұрын
Not necessarily because it may just never be on your mind, I've never been concerned about stockings either filling or receiving them. As a child I was more concerned with received presents and as an adult my primary focus was on what gifts I'd give.
@unionunicorn6776
9 ай бұрын
@@redacted1093okay but if someone does something for you, you should at least consider doing the same for them. That’s called reciprocation, and it’s what good healthy relationships are founded on. Most men unfortunately grow up with this blasé attitude towards this kind of stuff though because their mothers coddled them and did everything for them, so they grew up entitled and expect the wife to fill the role their mothers left when they became “men.” But real men fill their wife’s stockings without even having to be asked. :)
@redacted1093
9 ай бұрын
@@unionunicorn6776 You have no idea what a real man is nor how most men grew up.
@TPRM1
7 ай бұрын
@unionunicorn6776 When was the last time you heard a man complain that his wife never opens the car door for him?
@scottpierce3351
9 ай бұрын
She says Halloween candy is not acceptable as a stocking stuffer, and my male brain was like, "How did I overlook this amazing loophole?"
@sweetiespoon5150
9 ай бұрын
My female brain thought the same thing! 😂😂😂
@imnotliketheothernerds
9 ай бұрын
I've put Halloween, valentines, fourth of July shit in them 😂
@tracygoode3037
9 ай бұрын
I would KILL for leftover Halloween candy! Our kids have been grown for more than ten years, and I haven't had any of those peanut butter kisses that everyone hates, but I love since then--and, no--Walmart doesn't carry them at Halloween anymore. :(
@TBishopDean
9 ай бұрын
Halloween candy doesn’t last that long in this family.
@kll815
9 ай бұрын
yas!!!
@mdempsey7128
9 ай бұрын
I was raised by a single mom. My brother and I began filling a stocking her at some point. I forget exactly when but we were pretty young and it began with just some handmade crafts… some we made at school or daycare. I made her a papier-mâchè pen holder one year and she still has it. Honestly, it is something that can involve the kids really easily.
@bekkyc9780
9 ай бұрын
The woman who said men think differently is exactly right. I’m sure a lot of men think gifts under the tree is the same as gifts in a stocking, why does it matter if there’s stuff in a sock when he remembered to get her something. Women usually do see a difference. I get a handful of things for my husband’s stocking but I guarantee you if it was empty he would not notice or care. I asked him to take the kids to get a few things for my stocking so the kids would remember that I am part of Christmas too, which he would not have thought of on his own but was happy to do.
@haleyolson1802
9 ай бұрын
Lol they really do. 😂 In the first couple years of my relationship my now husband wouldn't wrap my birthday or Christmas gifts. He would get it straight from the mailbox, in the amazon box and give it to me. Like not even on Christmas or my birthday, whenever he got it because he got it for me and didn't want to store it until the actual day. I had to tell him it was important to me for him to put the extra effort into wrapping the present and giving it to me on the my birthday or Christmas lol.
@samlynx2016
9 ай бұрын
@@haleyolson1802See, communication is key. Not blasting it on social media for everyone to see and shame him. Not threatening a divorce because "if he wanted to, he would." Just honestly working it out, this is exactly what people should be doing.
@KidaRosado
9 ай бұрын
Honestly Im a woman myself and think that way for the most part. Sure a stocking would be appreciated as an extra thought but I would shrug it off and not really care if I didn’t get one.
@ameliaweights
9 ай бұрын
To be fair stockings are the very best part of Christmas. I'd be sad if I married a loser.
@noelc2
9 ай бұрын
I’m a woman & I do not care about stockings. I never think about them to be honest. ❤
@jesssayin5986
9 ай бұрын
I do think many many people go unappreciated this time of year. It's not the material things, it's the consideration or lack there of. I hope everyone had a good holiday ❤
@savvyshelly3983
9 ай бұрын
My husband busts his butt at work every single week to provide for our family. It’s me, him, and our pets. I fill both of our stockings with candies, snacks, headbands for me, and usually a card game or something else small for him. It’s never been something I thought was an issue. He loves giving me gifts, but he doesn’t think about the stocking and he doesn’t like gift wrapping things. The man is a blessing and folks need to be grateful for their loved ones.
@Mhel2023
9 ай бұрын
Sounds perfect. I'll take security and love over junk any day 💯
@kimmieb2u
9 ай бұрын
100%!
@FullyAlive33
9 ай бұрын
My mom always does the stockings, too. Now that I'm an adult, I usually stick a surprise in there, too, but she's never demanded anything or been disapointed with just the stuff she got😆
@SoCalledChristian
9 ай бұрын
Same. If I want to like the stuff in my stocking I put it there. Since I’ve gotten older too, I forget what I put in there too, so it’s still a surprise. 😂
@mangomadnnesss
9 ай бұрын
Think of the reason you fill his stocking and I want you to realize he doesn't feel that way about you. ❤️🥰
@davidnash8208
9 ай бұрын
Stockings are for children, adults get wrapped gifts, in my family.
@AnnaFelicio-iu6rd
9 ай бұрын
The biggest problem with no stocking for mom and kids is the kids wondering where moms is. I noticed my moms empty stocking on my 5th Christmas. On my 6th Christmas I collected loose change for months and bought a wreath candy cane and was so proud to pop it in there. I d add till help Santa fill my mom’s stocking 37 years later. But that was when the Santa magic waiverEd for me.
@Starbits7
9 ай бұрын
There definitely needs to be a discussion about what should/shouldn't be expected. My sister's husband grew up with "stockings" every Christmas morning....but they weren't stockings at all. They were large bags/santa sacs of items (about 2x4). Items like gift cards, mugs, mittens, scarves etc. The first year he and my sister were married, he just put one item in her stocking, but opted for something really special. A beautiful necklace. He had other presents under the tree too. She loved it. His parents teased him for not having anything for her. His sister mocked him and said he was cheap. My sister reassured him she didn't want anything else. For my family though, our (normal) stockings would always be filled with things we needed. Toothpaste, deodorant, maybe a bunch of post-it notes (my dad got a huge deal from his work for those). Practical items. Several friends of mine said they did the same...but clearly not everyone does that. So IMO couples should have a discussion about such things early on and make sure everyone is on the same page.
@considerthebirds
9 ай бұрын
And I think this is the best lesson, it’s ok to have your own expectations but to come together and simply discuss it and decided together what’s going to work for you is key!
@benandrick2337
9 ай бұрын
Sometimes, in a marriage, you have to stuff your own stocking.
@psyche8187
9 ай бұрын
😂
@hermanphilips4617
9 ай бұрын
That kind of sounds like a euphemism. Depending on the tone of voice you read it with.
@benandrick2337
9 ай бұрын
@@hermanphilips4617 😂
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
And sometimes in marriage you have to pack your own luck, use your hand, and stop depending on your wife.
@jeremymaxwell8898
9 ай бұрын
Is that from the Bible?
@zSmOk3yz
9 ай бұрын
It's scary how eager people on the internet are to try to manifest people to get divorced, its a bit disgusting
@chupacabra-smith
9 ай бұрын
I was VERY vocal about wanting a decent vaccuum cleaner (I've been through about 4 that have all been trash). My husband went to run some errands today and came home with $300 Hoover. I do complain constantly about my vaccuum situation but i still had to expressly say i wanted one for Christmas. That doesnt mean hes a bad or thoughtless person. Last year i said point blank that i wanted a new ring (i had lost mine) and he got me the most beautiful ring. Communication is key, people.
@randokun6430
9 ай бұрын
For Christmas... Bruh
@chupacabra-smith
9 ай бұрын
@@randokun6430 ??
@therealmouseymouse
9 ай бұрын
My husband and I exchanged our gifts early, and yea he was psyched because I got him a bunch of nerdy stuff, but this man... he got me a Zwilling vacuum bag and storage container set with... 3 extra boxes of bags. I am so insanely excited. I can't wait to use them. And yea, for some women this would be weird or offputting but cooking is my life. I've been working on a cookbook for a year. Anything that makes my food prep easier is amazing. And he told me he did research. He knew I wanted to fix my freezer problems and did research on his own to find the best system for vacuum sealing. I'm pretty sure that was the sexiest thing a man has ever said to me. Enjoy your new vacuum, it's such life quality thing to not hate your vacuum. I'm so happy for you.
@chupacabra-smith
9 ай бұрын
@therealmouseymouse I totally understand freezer problems! We have a side by side fridge which means tiny freezer space. Happy for you too! We got us some good men! Merry Christmas!
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
You don't know she hasn't in the last 9 years though.
@musingsofawulfmother1486
9 ай бұрын
My husband and I have been together 20 years. Before we had children we put time and effort into gifts for each other and filled our stockings as well. After children, we totally stopped doing stockings. I mean, how much stuff does one person really need? I buy whatever I like and want and I think spoon feeding my husband exactly what I want takes the whole joy out of getting a gift. Plus, we spend enough on Christmas now with a family, I personally do not want spend anymore, even if my husband insists. Each of us takes our son out separately and buys one special gift for the other and it’s always a delight and surprise and just enough. Having my family, health, and being debt free is my perpetual gift!
@V0ltron
9 ай бұрын
I'm gonna laugh if we all find out the husband really bought her a car and waited until later to give it to her.
@DgardsGaming
9 ай бұрын
also they act as if stocking means he never got his wife anything, could be things he gets are took big for it in general
@all_corrupt_everything
9 ай бұрын
I'm with you. This guy definitely didn't make himself look bad on purpose. There is no way someone would film that knowing his wife didn't get a stocking present.
@williamwenrich3288
9 ай бұрын
@@DgardsGamingor bigger, to big for a stocking. This year, my wife instructed me as to what should be in her stocking. She used to have a stocking too small for anything.
@popstarprincess123
9 ай бұрын
Yea me too
@user-vm5ud4xw6n
9 ай бұрын
You should be glad she got anything at all. What’s with the greed? It’s disgraceful. My husband thought of Christmas as just another day. It was sad really, to think that the day (I know it’s not the actual date but work with me here) we celebrate God splitting time and entering our world and giving us a gift far greater than anything we could even try to imagine, is just another day is pathetic. Unfortunately in his job choice he frequently ended up working on holidays. But getting off topic, one year I got a bottle of perfume I wanted. My request came with a detailed map of the store perfume counters so he would know which route to take. Another year he bought me a string of pearls I wanted. I loved the chic look they presented no matter what you were wearing. Unfortunately I have bad shoulders and can’t keep my arms up much. He bought a set which had a difficult clasp to open up. He said Yesh I had trouble with that too. So you know I have trouble holding my arms up so I can open this clasp and you bought it anyway ? I very seldom wear them. I have to take them in and have a new clasp put on them. That’s it for 46 1/2 years of marriage!!
@fgodek1964
9 ай бұрын
Growing up, the stocking was not a big deal in my family. It was more of a decoration. With my wife, it was a big deal to have a filled stocking. I learned this our first Christmas together (before kids). I learned that it was important to her early on and made sure that her stocking was never empty after that. However, our stocking never held important presents. Typically, we put candy or other small gifts in them. Also, on Christmas Eve, we generally worked together after the kids went to bed to make sure everything was ready for the morning so we never had issues with leaving someone out.
@lvnobro4632
9 ай бұрын
I've been married 20 years. At year 18 my husband and family finally realized I didn't have a stocking. I mean, the cat had a stocking before I did. 😂😂😂
@southernparadise9896
9 ай бұрын
26 years of marriage…I fill everyone’s stockings. Wrap presents for everyone…I have 5 kids. I have NEVER gotten anything in my stocking or a single gift from anyone in my family. It used to bother me. Now I just don’t care anymore.
@radhiadeedou8286
9 ай бұрын
@@southernparadise9896that's a little too much, speak up
@southernparadise9896
9 ай бұрын
@@radhiadeedou8286 nah…at my age, you have to own your own complacency 😆
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
that's sad
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
@@southernparadise9896 You deserve to be appreciated.
@matthewlafondfamilyanntics
9 ай бұрын
We went through this. I finally took it next level. I didn’t let my wife or I buy any gifts for any gifts for the children either. We provided a home, Transportation, family, meals, friends. It seems good. It motivated us to do more together instead of worrying about buying stuff.
@JJJ-zf8ri
4 ай бұрын
You sound fun 🙄
@mallori6610
9 ай бұрын
Look my husband, like a lot of men, don’t pay attention to details and stockings are a detail that my husband would never even consider lol! I always just grab stuff for mine.. my favorite candies and my favorite shampoo! It’s not a big deal… then again my husband and I aren’t huge on these types of things! We usually forget our anniversaries and don’t do Valentine’s Day 🤣🤣🤣. We are sooo happy and love each other very very much but we don’t base our relationship on these trival/ material things!
@El-aitch
9 ай бұрын
Same. And when I finally mentioned my stocking is something I fill, he made an effort to grab a few surprises for it.
@BradenYandle
9 ай бұрын
Look at that amazing house he is providing for his family, the stocking can be empty as many years as he wants it to be.
@Butterflyyyxoxo
9 ай бұрын
@BradenYandle how do u know he paid for the house?
@FirstNameLastName-wt5to
9 ай бұрын
It’s not about material things. It’s about showing you’ve spent time to think about the other person. Everyone has a different love language. This man hasn’t bothered to learn his wife’s. Men don’t pay attention to details isn’t an excuse. Based on her reaction and his, I’m guessing this is pretty typical behavior for him. All he did was laugh at her and he failed to recognize her disappointment. This is why a lot of marriages end.
@zephsmith3499
9 ай бұрын
@@FirstNameLastName-wt5to > "This is why a lot of marriages end." Over tiny things based on mutual poor communication? Maybe so, but that's an indictment of the way people handle marriage if so. I bet the women who said basically - if having your stocking filled is important to you (it isn't to everybody), COMMUNICATE THAT explicitly. Men or women who expect their partner to mind read, and divorce them rather than discussing what they want, are terrible at relationships. I've been in the same relationship for well over 40 years and we are very happy together. But we've learned to communicate rather than play games of "you should just know". In our case, we don't tend to give each other birthday or Christmas presents - but we may give spontaneous presents at any time, and we treat each other well, or we talk about something bigger we both want and "give it to both of us" on such occasions (ie: jointly allocate the money from our joint budget for something we both want and call it a present to each other, like a hot tub). That works for us. For somebody else, it could be very different. But the same program works: talk to each other rather than playing foolish games.
@tamarathejudeochristianmedium
9 ай бұрын
I thought stockings and gifts from Santa were for children? And the rest of the family gives each other gifts from each other? That’s how I’ve always seen it done. He might’ve thought that was a decoration? If I’ve seen parents and pets names, I’ve thought maybe they were decoratings? If she continues to fill his stocking, he might not even like it or feel childish? I wouldn’t like it, if I had kids, as I grew up thinking gifts from Santa are for children. Seems like she’s been holding a grudge for years. I’ve know so many people like this, who don’t speak up and then either blow up or publicly shame others, I try to avoid people like that 💙🙏🏻💙
@d4ever649
9 ай бұрын
Same. Only the kids got stockings and gifts from Santa.
@kjax139
9 ай бұрын
First thing just seeing that video I thought. 100% he actually got her several gifts and it’s probably some kind of joke that the stocking is empty for 10 years. People love to jump to conclusions and just start defaming people with just 1 outside evidence
@boggledegop
9 ай бұрын
Crazy how it could have ended after the first year if she felt that strongly about it and mentioned it to him, regardless of if he should have thought about it in the first place.
@owlblocksdavid4955
9 ай бұрын
Yeah, I assume she probably didn't think it was that big of a deal and that's why she didn't say anything after it happened the first time, because she didn't want him to feel guilty. People projecting themselves into a relationship that seems perfectly happy smh.
@radhiadeedou8286
9 ай бұрын
You sweet innocent child
@KiruHana
9 ай бұрын
@@radhiadeedou8286 How about explaining why you disagree with their comment instead of just insulting them. Comments like these literally add nothing to the conversation.
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
Mention it? Isn't it a given to put effort towards your marriage? You see your wife wrapping presents, working everyday, doing good thing for the family to create this moment and you can't even get together a stocking for her. You people can't decide if the marriage is a 2 person deal or a 1 person deal.
@AnthonyWilliams-bp5mn
9 ай бұрын
@@impressionare3243first people can mess up in relationships and they might miss dates or things like that. It doesn’t mean they don’t care. Second we don’t know their relationship dynamic. And third it makes no sense how people will perceive partners who forget a date or an occasion a bad partner when they have always been their for their significant other. We are humans we try our best we mess up but we make it up to the people we love. Plus she didn’t say anything so she didn’t think it was a big deal to her. And I’m sure he shows her how much he cares for her every single day or at least tries to.
@WholeCosmos
9 ай бұрын
Spot on as usual. You are the voice of reason in the crowd of knee jerk outrage.
@katelevers9951
9 ай бұрын
It seems to me like there was a big lack in communication. If a stocking stuff for that important to you, tell your husband you want a stocking stuffer. Some men over look the little details, so remind them. We can’t just expect our partner to read our mind. Talk to them. Let your expectation(s) be known. If it was that important for 10 years, it should’ve been done sooner. A loving partner listens. If you’ve communicated your expectations before and they constantly forget or ignore that’s a different issue.
@mallori6610
9 ай бұрын
YES YES AND YES! My marriage changed in the best way when I realized my husbands lack of attention to details and the things I think about isn’t bc he doesn’t love me or bc he doesn’t care… it’s bc his brain thinks soooo differently than mine! I learned to stop saying I’m fine and smiling when I’m not bc he will take what I say at face value. Where as women dig deep and say I don’t believe your fine so we expect the same from men but they typically aren’t capable of that lol. This would be a nonissue in my house (I fill my own stocking knowing he’d never think of that detail but would also feel bad if it was empty lol) but even if it was empty I’d just say “ hey babe that hurt my feelings can you do stocking stuffers next year” and he’d say “ok baby I’m so sorry I will do it next year” and it would be over with! This is such a trivial material thing to get sooooooo upset about.. esp bc he clearly spent a lot of time thinking about her Christmas gifts
@AreYouKittenMeRtNow
9 ай бұрын
YESSSS!! We have prioritized great communication in our marriage from DAY ONE and it has people constantly asking what the secret is… - communicate honestly and openly ALWAYS - approach marriage as though it is permanent and there is no off ramp, you’ll have to figure out everything together - have lots of great sex - don’t film your private life and put it on the internet (even better, mostly stay off of social media) That’s it. Everything else is secondary. All this reactionary nonsense about something that never should have been put on the internet.
@heyhey439
9 ай бұрын
"some men overlook the details" look at the house he apparently paid for. Clearly he has a brain and can do things. The problem is he doesn't care. He sounds like he will start caring though so I'm just sorry it took him a whopping ten years... Could never be me
@mallori6610
9 ай бұрын
@@heyhey439 what couldn’t be you? Living in an amazing home, getting many beautiful and expensive gifts from your husband, being an to afford to go all out for your kids for the holiday? Not having to worry about money (assuming she’s a stay at home mom n he is the provider) bc the man is a good provider? That couldn’t be you bc he over looked a stocking? He’s fucking human just like the rest of us and you’d give up that just bc of a stocking but what you’d probably get from other men probably wouldn’t even be half of what this man does for this family. Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side and most women that leave good men over stupid shit like this regret it bc they realize they couldn’t find anything better. No matter who you are with you will be with someone that has flaws and fucks up once n awhile bc we are all only human. If she let him go 10 years without mentioning the stocking bothered her then she is the toxic one here.
@HanGhost99
8 ай бұрын
I never even had a stocking, and people have to understand that a stocking doesn't equal no gifts!
@MamaMOB
9 ай бұрын
In my opinion when it comes to adults this is the worst part of TikTok. A husband realized he made a mistake. Any wanted to wear another husband's not to Make the same mistake. He's not shaming anyone she's not complaining. It's a perfectly neutral message. But the world has to hate someone.
@SSingh-nr8qz
9 ай бұрын
That is something I noticed about men versus women posting. Men usually post things hoping it helps others. Tip and tricks stuff hoping anyone can save a headache. There really is not much emotion around it unless its ACTUALLY meant to be emotional. Women tend to respond with emotion and take all content through a personal lens.
@nate2759
9 ай бұрын
How is it a mistake though? Like Amelia said if it’s important to her than yeah it would be a mistake but, for me adults shouldn’t get presents, only kids.
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
He didn't make a mistake, he's an attention seeker that posted this online
@Onnarashi
9 ай бұрын
Usually that "someone" is a man.
@nate2759
9 ай бұрын
@theslayerofdustisback I don’t understand why adults need presents. Christmas is for kids not for adults.
@heyitsfeliciaa
9 ай бұрын
Idk I think we have let men off the hook for these things for way too long. Women are the ones who do the overwhelming majority of the work during the holidays like getting presents, cleaning, cooking and baking and all the time consuming planning before that. If you can't anticipate her needs then that is a skill you have to learn just like women have had to do. Remembering to get your wife a gift for Christmas is the literal bare minimum you can do.
@kaygee2121
9 ай бұрын
Yes! 💯💯💯
@kaygee2121
9 ай бұрын
Like for real, I'm tired of all the excuses being made for these grown-ass adults. They are poor excuses too. They are just men....like wtf? This is exactly why not enough men clean and pull their weight around the house. This is exactly why we, as women, just convince ourselves that they care in their own special way. No! They are just selfish and we've let them be that way. They aren't dumb. But oh , it's the woman's fault for not telling him and spelling every little thing out for him as if he's a toddler. Then these guys can't understand when an exhausted woman finally gives up and files for divorce. Give me a break 🙄 It's not rocket science. You wouldn't think that based on so many comments and excuses here though. And so many people still have the mentality that HE is providing everything for her, like most women don't work these days too. Yeesh. How pathetic.
@TPRM1
7 ай бұрын
Women communicate covertly. Men (not all men!) communicate overtly. If you are expecting men to adapt to women’s communication style, and anticipate your needs, then perhaps it’s only fair to meet us half way, and adapt to our communication style as well. If you want a man to do x, then sometimes, you just have to say, “I would like you to do x.” We don’t not anticipate your needs on purpose. We are just literally not wired that way.
@chric2830
9 ай бұрын
We fill only our kids stockings. Stocking is only for treats in our house. I dont fill my husband’s and husband doesn’t fill mine. In recent years our kids as they get older has been filling our stockings ❤
@Kay-rf3fp
9 ай бұрын
Well if its really upsetting then she could talk to him. Relationships are about communication. So sad people are judging a whole relationship over a short video.
@mockfanatik
9 ай бұрын
The stocking doesn’t matter. I would fill all of them with the candy I got. I’ve been married for 38 years, Christmas is for the kids. My son is an adult now, we have a tree and we get each other a gift it two, that’s it. We just love being with each other. It isn’t the gifts that’s important. It isn’t important to me.
@rachelcampbell9733
9 ай бұрын
Been married 30 years. I do not and have never expected my husband to buy for me. If I expect something I tell him to go buy it and what I want. That is all I expect. I tell him what I want. I would not expect that he would go do this stuff. But I buy what I want and I tell him to buy what I want and he gets it and then wraps it. He is not good at gifts. I understand that. I expect him to do what he does and I do what I do. He gives me grace when I make mistakes or things I am not good at. He does what he is good at and I do what I am good at and we compliment each other. That is why our (emphasis no one elses!) Marriage works.
@annabanana6965
9 ай бұрын
Same 😂 you have to be direct with men and not passive
@carladahlquist2152
9 ай бұрын
I love your reply.... perfectly said.
@daniellewoolley8607
9 ай бұрын
The people who negatively committed are young and never being married before and don't understand. If they were married, they would understand. My boyfriend doesn't like to celebrate Christmas and it doesn't matter to me so i'm not going to get him for Christmas. I am going to respect his wishes
@rizumu-8937
9 ай бұрын
when I was young and early into my 8 year relationship with my current fiancée, I was always so quiet about my wants and things that I needed, and it annoyed me that he didn’t get me what I wanted… and I was stupid for thinking that way, because I didn’t tell him what I wanted! later on I realized communication can be so effective, I had grown up always saying “no thank you” to anything offered and not asking for things and it passed over into my adult life. now I don’t feel bad speaking up, it’s still a struggle but it’s not as hard as it use to be for me, I would get intense guilt because I learned that being “needy” was a bad trait. how wrong I was… 😂
@lindaogborn
9 ай бұрын
Beautiful house, beautiful family, shows lots of love, tons of gifts - I doubt an empty stocking is a tie breaker and if it is, I imagine it would have happened before a full 10 years of marriage. lol
@varamirez31
9 ай бұрын
The lady that was talking about love languages was so right. Not many people know or realize their own love language. I only know mine bc I took the test and realize my language is gifts and quality time. (Not superficial time)
@chynnareyes
9 ай бұрын
My fiancé and I have stockings, but they're more for decoration and we don't usually fill them. We only do our son's stocking and that's it.
@hollypatino
9 ай бұрын
I buy everyone's stocking stuffers... including mine! It's fun buying my own goodies! :) It's kinda weird to do everyone's but your own and not communicate those expectations with your spouse.
@methuselahhoneysuckle4813
9 ай бұрын
Well said, Amala. I would also add that IF he really hadn’t filled her stocking for ten years and she hasn’t communicated her disappointment and desires then she is just as much to blame for this situation.
@j.g.3453
9 ай бұрын
Absolutely. My husband tries, but his health hasn't been good for several years, so I usually make sure there's a few extra treats in case I have to stuff my own stocking. This year we had a lot of extra stressors and I forgot to grab anything for mine, so I took a handful of candy out of the dish in the living room, so there would be something visibly in it. Stockings were a big thing in my family, but not so much for my husband's. I'm the one who made stockings a big deal for our kids and family, so I don't mind taking care of mine as well as everyone else's if I need to.
@calliethewolfcat2183
9 ай бұрын
People forget! It's not a huge deal, and she clearly wasn't upset. Yes, personally I would like my stocking filled, but if I had to choose between presents and a filled stocking, get me the presents please. And yeah, communication
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
She was on camera - people react different. It doesn't mean she was upset. It was also Christmas - that she choose not to cause a scene and upset her kids on christmas day, doesn't mean she wasn't upset. How she reacted was very normal for many people even if they are upset for those 2 reasons.
@calliethewolfcat2183
9 ай бұрын
@@MsAussieSheila Alright, then she needs to communicate that with him. And if she has, then yes, it is his fault for not taking accountability for his actions and trying to improve.
@Laura-Bug_the_first
9 ай бұрын
His chuckle after she says “Santa forgot me” says “oops”
@imnotliketheothernerds
9 ай бұрын
I requested my husband not give me gifts years ago, when our first Christmas together he bought me body spray that was a scent im allergic to 😂 I adore him. Hes wonderful. He did and does suck at gift giving, and i arrange all gifts for both our families
@Pita_Leela
9 ай бұрын
Most man are 😂
@morrigankasa570
9 ай бұрын
Additionally, CHRISTMAS ISN'T ABOUT GIFTS! IT'S ABOUT BEING TOGETHER, GOOD FEELINGS, AND FAMILY!!! I'm a 30 yr old Man and even as a kid I knew that, I appreciated the gifts of course. But I mainly cared about Christmas Music, Snow, Good Food, Being Together with my Family, and enjoying Christmas Movies/Specials!!!
@feirinn
9 ай бұрын
Okay, I’m gonna take a wild guess, as a woman in a happy relationship - either he A) actually didn’t think about it and it’s now just funny/they’ll chuckle later. Or B) this is a bit and/or something understood between them and she got her presents after the kids finished their Christmas morning. Edit: I had not gotten to the end of the video yet and; case and point 😂 don’t project onto other people yall, just enjoy the time you have with your own loved ones.
@FullyAlive33
9 ай бұрын
It's sadder that people are this up in arms over just the stocking even though she got plenty of presents they're acting like he's never given her a present before 😆
@dan-lr4zm
9 ай бұрын
Our family doesn't do stockings. Problem solved.
@fatmanchew909
9 ай бұрын
What are people doing the other 364 days out of the year when it takes 1 day to "ruin a marriage"? My wife and I never give gifts to each other on Christmas and spend that extra money on the kids and her nephew. Looking at that house it doesn't look like they struggle to make ends meet so get off your butt and go buy something you want yourself. Also our kids open their presents a week before Christmas so they can focus on being excited when family comes over.
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
Not the same. "neither person gets a stocking" is not the same as "dad gets a stocking every year, mum has never gotten a stocking". They're not remotely comparable.
@cocofleming5434
9 ай бұрын
The failure is in communication. I've only been married for 2 Christmas' this year. As we approach new situations we discuss how we want to handle it. From the start I offered to take care of all the stocking staffers, including my own. I enjoy shopping and finding amazing deals. I can fill all our families stockings (husband, mine, 3 preteen/teens, and dog) for less than my husband would fill 1 maybe 2 stockings. Just this year we finally came to a true compromise on how to handle our gifts to each other. Last year we tried something it didn't fully work... so this year we had several conversations to find what works for us. We need to stop saying any relationship is normal or not normal. All relationships should fit each couple!!! Communicate what you want in your relationship
@rattales58
9 ай бұрын
Sounds first world problems to me
@Destinyirus278
9 ай бұрын
When I saw the first video I was like omg why did her & her husband post this video online? I knew instantly that husband was gonna get death threats.. all cuz he didn’t fill up a stocking, the internet is really so toxic 😭
@rebekahdavis5935
9 ай бұрын
Of course she's going to leave out her own stocking and her own presents though lol.... what wife is buying her OWN presents?
@fractal_3
9 ай бұрын
On the flip side, being a wife that forgot about Valentine's Day got me sooooo much crap from all my male coworkers and friends! It's like they took collective revenge because of the stereotype that men forget stuff like this
@classic.cameras
9 ай бұрын
I literally do the same sort of thing with my wife. I joke around with my wife and then pull that "A Christmas Story" thing where the Dad hid the BB Gun behind the desk and am like "Did you get everything you wanted this year?" and she is like "mostly" and I say "well there is always next year" and she goes "yeah" and then I am like "Hey whats that? What that behind the TV?" she is like "what?" and I am like "Yeah go look" and basically its something very special I kept for last. I guess the internet is just jealous that some people have GOOD RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES. Too bad. I wish them well.
@FausseFugue
9 ай бұрын
Since when do adults even get stockings? I thought it was only for kids!
@CraigStevenson1
9 ай бұрын
For my entire adult life while married to my ex wife, it was the opposite. I was the one buying all the gifts. Wrapping them. I never was surprised at Christmas by anything bought by my ex. As my daughter's and wife were surprised and delighted, I could not help but feel a bit sad. So I guess I get her "smile" as you put on a happy face for others.
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
Exactly. That is what sounded so dishonest in this take. "she smiled".. yeah, that doesn't mean she wasn't hurt. He showed a lack of care to his spouse.. that does hurt. Even if we smile and laugh to make it easier for others. That she didn't ruin christmas by making a fuss doesn't mean she wasn't hurt. I hope you have someone in your life now who shows more care for you. If you don't, then I hope you treat yourself with a good gift with the money you used to spend on your ex's christmas present.
@erinkitner7978
9 ай бұрын
I'm sorry, these are 2 different situations. This man said his ex never got him anything or anything he was surprised by. The video shows the husband giving plenty of bigger gifts, just not the cheaper stocking stuffers. I would never complain over that. Now, this man in the comments had reason to be a little hurt if his ex never thought of him. My husband & I, of 19 years & going strong, don't do gifts for ea other every year, depending on how much we need to spend on kids that year & how much we have put back. Thanks to Biden, not near as much for anyone this year. We are happy as can be despite the amount of gifts ea year, depending on funds. But my husband works his tail off, so i couldn't ever be upset. @MsAussieSheila
@november132
9 ай бұрын
This woman has a big house, kids super spoilt with gifts, she herself gets multiple gifts and possibly is a sahm. She is living the dream, I don't think an empty stocking is going to affect her.
@stephanieblanchard1798
9 ай бұрын
This is why my husband and I don't do gifts for any holiday. There is no pressure or expectations on either of us and I like it that way. Sometimes we'll see something we think the other might like and surprise them with a gift.
@sweetiespoon5150
9 ай бұрын
This right here. One shouldn't feel obligated to gift simply because of the shoebox holiday.
@hermanphilips4617
9 ай бұрын
Exactly. An obligation gift isn't special. A random 'thought you would like it' gift is special. Along those lines, a friend of mine will dress up randomly through the year, but doesn't for about a month either side of Halloween. It is funny in the middle of summer, seeing a grown man wearing cat ears.
@beaubarendt9471
9 ай бұрын
I have been married to the same awesome woman for almost 35 years - we don't do stockings for each other - we did years ago, but then we realized that adult stockings are really just a catch all for the Non-gift gifts - crap like socks, chap stick, deodorant, lotion and soap. For kids, it is different, it is the place to get the extra treats - like candy, or small toys - but for adults, it is a sack of toiletries - and since we are more likely than not going to get it wrong anyway, we are better off giving each other a gift card to CVS or Walgreens.
@sargentd3125
9 ай бұрын
She seems genuinely unbothered by the empty stocking.
@NotWorthBeans16
9 ай бұрын
This whole thing just reminds me of an unnecessary conversation I had to have with one of my aunts the other day. She gave me crap because my husband and I, already exhausted from over shopping for our three toddlers, picked out our own Xmas gifts and just have the other wrap them. I was told that can't be fun because theres no surprise. My reply to that being "well at least I know its something I want."
@lens_hunter
9 ай бұрын
People hating on this video are precisely the reason why the holidays can be so stressful for people.
@impressionare3243
9 ай бұрын
He posted it like an attention seeker
@anitathompson326
9 ай бұрын
It’s stressful because women kill themselves trying to make a great Christmas for their ENTIRE family and stressing to get everything done and men basically do nothing. And laugh when they get caught doing nothing.
@shorty8897
9 ай бұрын
10 years is ridiculously long to "forget" lol
@esmark9622
9 ай бұрын
..and also, that's a very nice home!
@GlucoseGuy
9 ай бұрын
I mean.. has a stocking really been empty for 10 years and it's really never come up in discussion? The expectation around stockings really needs to be discussed. Growing up, my mom did all of the stockings - it's not about who does what for who, it's mostly about the kids and the illusion of Santa. Like when everyone's stockings are pretty much the same except for one.. that's kinda weird.
@meganvr1228
9 ай бұрын
Back when I was younger, my dad used to wait until Christmas Eve to buy presents for everyone, and would drag me along to help him. 😅 Some people just suck at gift giving because it’s not how they usually express their appreciation. No need to get mad just because not everyone subscribes to your idea of what a perfect holiday is. Stockings don’t need to be a given. They’re usually filled with a bunch of junk, anyways, which is why those presents are called stocking ‘stuffers’, imo. 😅
@karlatabor5463
9 ай бұрын
What I saw was a wife who really loves her husband and was not offended by his 'forgetfulness' . We all fail in some way or another. I see a forgiving heart in this woman. Kudos to her. (I agree that posting our tiny oops on the internet is not the best idea.)
@heyhey439
9 ай бұрын
Look at that house. Clearly he has a brain and can think. The problem is a lot of men just don't care and will do the absolute bare minimum to keep their wives. I could never "oopsie daisy i forgot for ten years" my wife.
@lune78
9 ай бұрын
Reminds me of that SNL skit where the family sings about all the expensive stuff they got for Christmas and the poor wife only got a robe lol Seriously though, how do we know this was not staged? I don't trust people on TikTok, they'd do anything for clout.
@sadiestudies4146
9 ай бұрын
Tbh, it's not like the end of the world. Plus you're seeing one thing in these people's lives, and there's likely so much more to their relationship,. We don't know much about these people other than the fact that the husband didn't fill her stocking for 10 years. But tbh, yeah. I find it a little bit pitiful he didn't fill her stocking. I'd personally want to marry someone who is very thoughtful of me, as I want to be very thoughtful of them. I also just don't think it's that hard to put a couple treats and cute small items in a stocking, like that's something nice with little effort... I think something many women get bugged about or hurt is the fact that they have to tell their husband what they want every time, rather than him using a bit of observation skills of what she wants. That's including help around the house, affection, etc. Also, I'm not saying "Man bad. Man always in the wrong. Woman right. Woman good and better than man!" no. Ofc there are things women can be better with. But that's not what this conversation was about, so I was staying on topic. I'd just recommend both husband and wife should be thoughtful of the each other, and communicate and listen.
@lolabloo
9 ай бұрын
I'm just happy to be able to afford to fill my kids stockings 😂😭
@Nan-bara
8 ай бұрын
Imagine getting upset over a someones elses empty stocking when seeing your babies opening up their gifts and seeing them happy isnt something most parents would rather have as their christmas present
@nat4465
9 ай бұрын
Just say what you want. My husband established that with me from the beginning. So I’m not sitting around all bitter throwing hints, getting upset for something he might have no clue about. Just be clear about what you want
@Es24688
9 ай бұрын
My family never did stockings growing up. A couple times we asked my grandma to do them for the fun of it and then grew out of it. I put some random little things in my children’s, and they pick out a few things for my husband’s. I maybe even put a couple treats in mine for myself, but it’s just not that big of a deal. I just don’t understand how or why you didn’t have these conversations while dating or engaged or married before children or married with babies. How do people date for 3-10 years before marrying only to apparently never talk about things like holidays, traditions, religious convictions, views on household chores, etc. before getting married.
@Sekhmet1977
9 ай бұрын
Seems like unnecessary drama. Growing up only kids had stockings, my parents did not. I never had a stocking once I had children of my own..and I never made one for myself or my husband...the doggos had them though, lol!
@RayF6126
9 ай бұрын
Our doggo had an unwrapped basket to use so he could get the present out himself. If he got bored, he chewed on things.
@just-a-generic-username
9 ай бұрын
That's a fine arrangement but if the dad has a stocking that always gets gifts in it, this family clearly doesn't do it the same way yours did.
@MsAussieSheila
9 ай бұрын
Then dad should have communicated to mum that no stockings for adults. He didn't. He took his and enjoyed it for 10 years. And ignored his wife for 10 years. This is not a case of "adults don't get stockings". It is "mum does not get a stocking, but the other adult does". If they decide adults don't get stockings, no one would care. Whatever. It's that it's only one who doesn't get one which makes it a problem.
@Ltlmscrl
9 ай бұрын
In this economy I’d be pissed if my husband gave me a stocking gift just for the sake of giving me a stocking gift.
@emoneestep
9 ай бұрын
@@MsAussieSheila "ignored his wife for 10 years." This type of dramatization is why no one can maintain a relationship longer than a few months these days. Let's put on our critical thinking hat for a few seconds: The wife likely fills the stockings for the kids and his. This means that she is on "stocking duty" when it comes to Christmas time. Any one would assume that the parent on stocking duty is handling all stocking stuffers. This includes their own and isn't odd or out of place since the real surprises are the gifts under the tree and it is perfectly normal for couples to divide the Christmas workload like this. Unless the wife has said otherwise, WHY would the husband, who focuses on buying his wife actual gifts on Christmas, think it bothers her not to have, what is essentially, a decorative stocking that rarely has any actual gifts aside candy and maybe a keychain or similar trinket? THINK. PEOPLE. THINK. This is simple miscommunication. Maybe she hoped he'd notice on his own and didn't say anything because it wasn't important to her. Or maybe she forgot to tell him that she'd prefer he stuff her stocking. This is not some marriage-ending drama or massive red flag. The idea of "I should never have to say anything for you to know what's wrong" is plain idiotic. We have mouths, vocal cords and many methods of communication for a reason.
@kinkinegun3155
9 ай бұрын
It is also notable that all these presents could not fit the stocking. For the most part, smaller gifts could be either too expensive for him or too insignificant for his wife.
@toddrichardson6303
9 ай бұрын
My dad took care of everything from Santa and “somehow” he always got the tools he wanted in his stocking
@Hamster846
9 ай бұрын
I've always thought stockings were for just esthetic. My family never did the whole Santa clause or stocking stuffer thing anyway.
@tarikruse254
9 ай бұрын
This is why I don't enjoy the holidays... to much pressure on receiving gifts. It used to be about family.....if you aren't able to get someone a gift you are shamed!
@WeepingValkyrie
9 ай бұрын
A mom/wife with an empty stocking is an extremely common occurance. I honestly expressed how depressing it was to my husband this year that I couldn't remember when I had my stocking filled. Men don't typically think about it. Especially when, like Amala said, the man does the bread winning and the women do the shopping, these things happen. Men just don't consider this stuff. And NEVER care if their stocking was empty. Women care. That's why men get stockings and women don't. If not for women there would be no Christmas but that's fine. Because dad is tired and broken down and soar.
@buckhuntinlady
9 ай бұрын
I’ve been filling my own stocking for 30 years and I’ve never been disappointed!!! It’s really not that serious!
@outlawlady848
9 ай бұрын
He does need to take care of hers. Moms and wives shouldn’t be required to do their own stockings, Easter baskets, or anything else. He’s not horrible but it definitely hurt her feelings to be forgotten.
@mariayeager9075
9 ай бұрын
People can’t fulfill your expectations if you don’t tell them! No one should expect otherwise!!
@Minnie_silvertears
9 ай бұрын
I also detest the fact that she didn't get anything but divorce can't be the only answer to everything
@AmbiguousAnthony
8 ай бұрын
This is the main reason I got off Reddit… people always commenting as if they know the whole situation without asking for more context.
@kkinner2762
9 ай бұрын
I have been married 8 years and i think ny Husband has added something to my husband maybe twice. 😂 It is REALLY not a big deal. My husband is so excited to give me gifts that he can't wait until Christmas. Every year he gives me stuff early
@heyhey439
9 ай бұрын
At least he's realizing it now but I couldn't have the love of my life in my house for ten years without giving her a Christmas present... I'm sure he's embarrassed and hopefully this is the beginning of a new tradition for him. Look at all that work she puts in to make it magical!
@nicolejobin4623
9 ай бұрын
The first few years, my stocking was empty. Once we had kids, I started filling it myself. About 6 years ago, we talked about it, and he said the stocking was too small. Everything he bought was too big. So I made us BOTH bigger ones. This year, mine was the fullest of them all.
@GeoffInfield
9 ай бұрын
This is absurd, her expression and his voice tells me these guys are solid, and can overcome anything. If he wasn't buying her presents all that time it's likely because he grew up like I did - Christmas is for CHILDREN. Personally, if I get a present from my partner I'll never NOT reciprocate every Xmas, but I'd ALSO expect her to rip on me for not getting one. GOD people love to judge don't they? WE DON'T KNOW THEM.
@Plvltchick
9 ай бұрын
We don’t get each other presents. We just get the kids presents because we buy what we want all the time. It Doesn’t make Christmas less special. We just put our energy into the kids.
@lisaherrera1285
9 ай бұрын
Imagine if he didn't get anything for his wife. That would be way worse than a empty stocking. But if you look up and appreciate everything you have built together ❤️ it makes you look at it in a whole different perspective. Be grateful for everything and appreciate all things. Even those love ones you take for granted. 😊
@bryanwoods3373
9 ай бұрын
Imagine if the video was about him not getting anything in his stalking for 10 years. T would just be comments that stalkings are for children or that still being married is his gift.
@fhuuraliulfr5756
9 ай бұрын
Oh geez, been with my husband 22 years, married for 8. We rarely ever do stockings for ourselves since having our son. We are always focused on him, and we don't care about getting things for ourselves. People are so materialistic.
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