personally aging is actually kind of special to me because i grew up very depressed and convinced i would die young. the more signs of aging i see, the more i know my recovery is real, my happiness and laughter are real and somehow I've made it to where i am today even though i thought i never would. not saying I'm immune to insecurity or anything - but ultimately I do think i want my age to show. every new wrinkle just proves i've made it all this way and I've survived longer than i ever used to expect :)
@biancasadventure
Жыл бұрын
This! I guess that’s why i see this so differently. Bc there was a point in my life where I truly believed I wouldn’t make it to my 20’s but I’m now turning 26 this year 🥲
@crystalcantoran9494
Жыл бұрын
Couldn’t have said it better 🙏🏽🥺🥺🥺
@ha_des
Жыл бұрын
that's so cute actually, I hope I can see it this way
@ItsOKtobeNormal
Жыл бұрын
@@biancasadventuresame, I'm 29 now. Life is hard, once I accepted that fact things got easier.
@Lanai50
Жыл бұрын
As someone who almost died multiple times from childhood abuse. It is a miracle I am alive. I grew up believing I would never live to see 18. And now I’m luckily 27 gonna be 28 now. I will try to think of this when I feel old as fuck. Thank you.
@tyrreloneal5178
Жыл бұрын
This whole video is EXACTLY why I got on board with body neutrality AND why I hate TikTok! And far as solutions go, I HIGHLY recommend following disabled content creators, pro body neutrality creators, creators actively fighting against these toxic beauty standards!
@pb_pb_pb_pb
Жыл бұрын
Are there any body-neutrality KZitemrs that you would recommend?
@tyrreloneal5178
Жыл бұрын
@@pb_pb_pb_pb I don't personally know of any... yet, but Tee Noir did a video about a similar topic to this, and her video featured a body neutrality TikToker
@pb_pb_pb_pb
Жыл бұрын
@@tyrreloneal5178 thanks!
@TheUhaya
Жыл бұрын
JESSICA KELGREN-FOZARD!!!!!
@pb_pb_pb_pb
Жыл бұрын
@Sarah Granger thank you very very much
@deusexmachina8984
Жыл бұрын
honestly tiktok in general is terrible for society regardless of how much it predates on insecurities, particularly women and teens. the sheer amount of misinformation, scams by both large brands and individuals, hatred, and flat-out bigotry there is insane!
@grinsRwins
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@awtumn
Жыл бұрын
I agree. Especially the amount of bullying I've heard about on that app. It's disgusting.
@malteser4666
Жыл бұрын
I actually think if your tiktok is full of this then you're part of the problem because you're subscribing to it
@Juju-nr7cb
Жыл бұрын
Lots of misinformation but also lots of actual information that you can’t find on YT because they said so
@autumnpoe4612
Жыл бұрын
The only thing that ever comes up on my TikTok is art and music and stuff like that. Weird
@lisakimchis
Жыл бұрын
whenever i feel bad about my forehead lines, i remind myself that aging is a privilege. so many people never live long enough to see the signs of “aging”. the lines on your face are a testament to a long life, which not everyone gets to experience. 💔 so be proud of your wrinkles, because it means you are alive.
@Inkinhart
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly my perspective - throughout history, the majority of people haven't reached 20. I've somehow managed to buck the trend despite infections and autoimmune disease, and every wrinkle and grey hair is proof of that.
@aijou1606
Жыл бұрын
this is such a great perspective to have ❤️ thank you
@lilmerlilmer7203
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for writing this. Gonna keep this with me
@charisalockley1022
Жыл бұрын
Yes, what a great view in life to have. We are very lucky to live in a time where the average life is 70-80 years.
@batdruul
Жыл бұрын
hits so close to home. i have a friend who will never get to wrinkle and it hurts to know they'll be forever young
@cabbette2935
Жыл бұрын
doesnt help nobody can talk about it now without being accused of infringing upon people's "personal choices" bc beauty standards come from nowhere and are perpetuated by nothing. we're doomed
@JasminMiettunen
Жыл бұрын
Yes, plastic surgery is only for yourself and not affected by how other people treat you, you would totally get it done even if you lived alone in the woods and nobody was there to see you. It’s a personal choice to spends thousands of dollars, weeks or months of recovery time and risk your health, and it’s not a societal problem with beauty standards or influenced by any outside pressures at all.
@Jaesdaes
Жыл бұрын
This!! It's never just for you.
@hivemindgoblin8540
Жыл бұрын
@@JasminMiettunen The only outside case being, in my opinion, when it’s done in order to relieve pain/discomfort, or to help someone look like themselves due to gender identity or after an injury. Such as how Botox is sometimes used as a treatment for people who suffer greatly from migraines. Otherwise, completely agree!
@kristen7687
Жыл бұрын
choice feminism is a sham
@ciciamanda.
Жыл бұрын
@@hivemindgoblin8540 yes, a medical treatment is different thing. Whether that is to relieve pain, to restore an injured body part, or because you were born in the body of the opposite sex, it's a totally different situation than cosmetic surgery to fit the current beauty standard
@melodyhaviland9393
Жыл бұрын
based on the title i already agree
@reemia
Жыл бұрын
yep
@jaqsre
Жыл бұрын
yeah, same. i’ve seen so much bs on that app..
@thevelveteentreeline
Жыл бұрын
absolutely, sometimes after spending so much time online i go outside am reminded again and again that i'm not ugly, my insecurities just keep on being fed by the almost exclusively gorgeous ppl on my fyp. in reality, very few people look like that and many more are pressured to. idk 🫶
@kellygreengables3936
Жыл бұрын
@@jaqsre I feel like it all started on Instagram and then move to TikTok. It's almost unavoidable depending on what apps and website you use.
@miaraehn
Жыл бұрын
Stopped using tiktok 2 years ago and never looked back, agreed!
@when2wordscollide
Жыл бұрын
For me the biggest part about learning about hip dips wasn't the moment I realized I had them, but that I was expected to be ashamed of them
@Jenny-vm3yu
Жыл бұрын
The hip dip thing is wild! You literally can’t change your bone structure. I’ve lost a large amount of weight (40lbs) and I still have hip dips. They aren’t as pronounced now but they are still there. Literally nothing can change this, unless maybe some sort of fat transfer plastic surgery? No thank you! Besides, they were celebrated in renaissance paintings, and in ancient statues. Suddenly we should now be ashamed of them? 😂
@Funeral_Mannequin
Жыл бұрын
Same with strawberry legs and eyebags. I remember googling these features and the first results to pop up were surgery websites and they called them “deformities”.
@when2wordscollide
Жыл бұрын
@@Jenny-vm3yu I didnt know thet celebrated in renaissance painting but that's made me really happy :)
@shefalee9882
Жыл бұрын
Someone called hipdips "violin hips" and tbh I find it kinda cute 💕
@Little_Sidhe
Жыл бұрын
Same 😄
@mollylashley2336
Жыл бұрын
you’re so right - i’m 17 and i deleted tiktok a few weeks ago because i was literally being inundated with workout, skincare, and anti-aging content. it’s scary how much it was beginning to effect me and how i saw myself (as a 17 year old?? thinking about anti-aging???) and i definitely think just removing yourself from that area of the internet helps and allows you to gain way more perspective on how pathetic and obsessive that side of the internet is. would love a wagatha christie video x
@seaurchinted
Жыл бұрын
i’m 19 and i literally went through the same thing you did; i’ve had tiktok deleted for the past two and a half months. i didnt realize that as i’d go down rabbit holes of beauty videos, i’d be changing my algorithm to constantly feed me (and my body dysmorphia disorder) these videos of strangers who i thought “looked better” than me. i think it contributed to one of my worst mental health spirals yet where i stopped taking my SSRIs and i’m glad i deleted it because even though i may not look as good as the models on tik tok, i at least can go about my day without something feeding my mental illness and telling myself i deserve to take medicine that makes me feel better.
@nicolen3146
Жыл бұрын
Good for you girl. You’re wise beyond your years.
@FabalociousDee
Жыл бұрын
Seeing this gives me hope. Good on you for seeing through the BS.
@mynamo12
Жыл бұрын
@@seaurchinteddid you mean “don’t deserve?”
@miaka123ify
Жыл бұрын
Its true I get away from sociol media and when I cameback it seem I was in a different world, full of hate and pushing shit
@rnuriels
Жыл бұрын
i rly appreciate the “not our fault but our responsibility” approach to womens insecurity that u take. like theres no use pointing fingers at each other, but we all have a responsibility to be mindful about beauty and the content we share w the world!!!
@emmanema12
Жыл бұрын
I used to get bullied for having a “fat ass” and I was always self conscious about my hips but it was crazy to see how differently I was treated when those became a trend.
@DestinyHopeLou
Жыл бұрын
I got bullied for my big lips as the only POC in my white bread high school. Then big lips got trendy and everyone got lip filler. 🙄
@AW-xc1xc
Жыл бұрын
Honestly. I used to walk around like a plank in the bulkiest clothes because I was insecure about my developing curves, and now they're suddenly in for a moment before it's not trendy again
@moonbun690
Жыл бұрын
Me too. People used to call me "fat" in the late 2000s because I have wide hips and a big butt in proportion to the rest of my body. Then early 2010s I hit high school and it became attractive. 🤷♀️
@parkchimmin7913
Жыл бұрын
Same with my “Asian eyes”. 😭 Having “fox eyes” is a trend now I guess. But back then, people would make fun of others with “Asian eyes” and pull them back to mock us. Now they’re tightening their skin and getting face lifts to achieve those same eyes. Oh how the tables have turned. Although, I’m still conscious of my nose. I hate how wide it is, but I think I would feel more uncomfortable with a nose I wasn’t born with. So I’ll keep it.
@doodoodoodle
Жыл бұрын
Same. I have a pear shaped body (so I have those "birthing hips", hate that term lol) I'm still learning how to dress for my body shape after covering up for so long lol My give a fucks are running low!
@jay1603
Жыл бұрын
finally a video essay that actually SAYS something!! I'm getting so tired of 30 minute videos that are just nothing, it's nice to see an interesting video with examples, research and an actual 'take'. Great work Jordan & editor!
@transsexual_computer_faery
Жыл бұрын
there are many essayists who are fetch as fuck
@abrielle13
Жыл бұрын
There's a ton of video essays that "say something," lol.
@cigaretteparfum
Жыл бұрын
ngl, sounds like you either dont know how to pick the essayist, or you fell victim into the thinking of "any videos with 20-40+ minutes runtime is a video essay" which unfortunately seems to be very popular right now. maybe what you watched were just rant videos, vlogs, or opinion pieces marketed as "essays". there are at least half a dozen (a very, very low estimate tbh) of good video essayists with clear thesis and arguments backed up with research, all in various topics: pop culture, music, games, socpol, etc. edit: adding to the list of "stuff people wantonly mark as video essay" also see: investigative journalism and detailed reviews. i see this one a looooottt.
@goosewithagibus
Жыл бұрын
*me being scared my 50 minute videos don't say anything* 👀
@steff6146
Жыл бұрын
There are so many amazing video essayists out there! You might also like Tara Mooknee, Tee Noir, Tiffany Ferg and Fab Socialism :]
@orlieblalock9221
Жыл бұрын
Man. I’m only 24, I remember the height of tumblr girl tiny thighs, pro-ana blogs. And being curvy and having tummy fat that wouldn’t go away no matter how hard I followed my 17-magazine diets and workout regimes. By the time I got to college I truly thought things were getting better, but now I dunno. My younger siblings talk about plastic surgery like it’s a given, I just feel so sad. It feels like we regressed so much so quickly and now if you even try to say that people are like LET WOMEN LIVEEEE OMG. And I’m like yeah, let women live without the constant fear of looking old or fat or “out of style”? It’s not a fair argument to say that it’s healthy to want plastic surgery and that “if it makes you happy it’s okay.” Sometimes things that ultimately don’t help you heal can make you happy, and plastic surgery and Botox definitely fall under that to me. I find myself feeling like a teenager again, when just a couple years ago I felt finally kind of free from that mindset, all because I’m getting trapped in these terrible online circles where women try to control everything about their bodies. It’s not healthy and ultimately, you are helping companies profit. At the end of the day you’re being SOLD these products, procedures, face wraps, all of it is a BUSINESS. And I think we’ve truly lost sight of that in trying to argue some weird feminist thing that it’s a woman’s “choice” to want to look this way. I’m. Fucking. Tired.
@mirandarinconnn
Жыл бұрын
Thissssss!!!!! It never ends and it feels like women (even I’ve been guilty of it) saying it’s ok it’s a woman’s choice is in a way trying to make ourselves feel better about a toxic choice /:
@LordWay
Жыл бұрын
As a dude who doesn't use tiktok it's honestly wild how prevalent this is on the app. I know how instagram culture can enforce body standards but there's really no escape for women when they are online tbh.
@emmerald
Жыл бұрын
since i started working at an assisted living facility for old people, it's so drastically changed my perspective on getting old. i used to be terrified of the idea of getting past like age 40, but now seeing the thriving social lives and overall happiness of many of the people at the facility, im like almost looking forward to it? like they are having such a good time playing bingo and seeing their friends everyday!! it just makes me less scared of becoming old and all of the things that go along with it, and i think that's really cool
@RabbitTeacup
Жыл бұрын
Same, working in healthcare gives you such a different perspective, 40-50 is still fairly young, 60 is still pretty young too, 70 is elderly but young for elderly, plenty of 80 year olds are thriving! 90 is the age I really think of as "elderly" at this point, it's such a different and refreshing perspective compared to how it feels a lot of people see age.
@ttthecat
Жыл бұрын
That is beautiful!🥹
@ttthecat
Жыл бұрын
And bless you for helping to take care of our elders!
@emmerald
Жыл бұрын
@@ttthecat thank you! ❤️
@jenniferibarra7737
Жыл бұрын
That’s why I at age 21 eat really healthy not for vanity but for energy . I want to be a fun old grandma in the future I want to nurture and help souls all I can until my time comes to be with The Lord.
@jaqsre
Жыл бұрын
still can’t believe i saw “earlobe surgery” where they cut off part of an elderly woman’s earlobe to make it look more youthful. sure, that wasn’t on tiktok, but it wouldnt surprise me if i see it on there soon 🤦🏻
@zanderisamazing5043
Жыл бұрын
Someone once mocked me for my dainty, as they suggested non existent but enough for a row of earrings earlobes. It gave me reason to look at their earlobes which were the size of a man's thumb pad. They would make me consider earlobe surgery if they were mine but it demonstrates the innate confidence that men have in themselves that they could think such ugliness superior
@cigaretteparfum
Жыл бұрын
the only other reason i can think of for earlobe surgeries aside from actual medical necessity is for stretched lobes from piercings. how does the size or shape of lobes even contribute to how "youthful" someone looks???
@jaqsre
Жыл бұрын
@@cigaretteparfum if it’s to close big stretched ears or to correct something (like if a dog accidentally ripped your earring out) that’s completely fine, but i so highly doubt any of us has ever looked at an earlobe and thought “it looks old” 😭
@jungjaehyuns
Жыл бұрын
omg did you see that on twitter too? 😭 i was so surprised when i saw it it’s crazy how literally any potential insecurity is being preyed upon for surgery’s to make money
@jaqsre
Жыл бұрын
@@jungjaehyuns YES it was so weird 😭 like if that made the person happy that’s great but ..
@ashleysbored6710
Жыл бұрын
Can we please stop calling skinny people "heroin chic"? I know it's not the norm for most people but some people have a hard time gaining weight and associating a body type with drug addiction is hurtful.
@briannaolivares1596
Жыл бұрын
I actually had to delete tiktok because my sense of self was getting so bad, you know it’s terrible when you look in the mirror and nitpick at everything single bump and line on your face.
@guinevere788
Жыл бұрын
My 14 year old sister told me she wants a nose job the other night and I can’t prove it but I know she feels this way because of tiktok. She spends so much time on there and before I went cold-turkey on the app about a year ago I would ALWAYS see really insidious side profile challenges and nose job before-and-afters. It made me so deeply sad that she brought surgery up in the same way you’d mention you want to get highlights in your hair or something. Influencers can tell us to just do what makes us feel beautiful until they’re blue in the face, but until we step back and examine why cutting up and removing parts of our face makes us feel better we will never escape the grips of patriarchy.
@kkuudandere
Жыл бұрын
I'm so worried for REALLY young kids feeling this way, because they don't even know how their bodies will continue growing in the future. Your sister might reach 25 or 30 and realize she definitely wants that surgery, or that she really loves her nose the way it is. Could go either way but I hope kids will wait a little while and see what happens. (I mean, I'm 30 and there are things about my body that I've come to realize really suit me lol)
@rachelhallie7483
Жыл бұрын
Someone told me I needed a nose job when I was a kid, and I was self-concious for years. Now my nose shape is "in" and some college kids told me I had a "perfect" nose. This shit is absurd.
@aleccino
Жыл бұрын
Send her this video! That's awful that she's insecure about her nose at such a young age.
@KittySnicker
Жыл бұрын
I was obsessed with anti-aging skincare when I was 24 and got diagnosed with OCD. It was a terrible time. I’m 31 now and thankfully have a much more balanced relationship with skincare.
@bm5_5_5
Жыл бұрын
Oh wow same here! 28 now and my relationship with myself fis much better thank god.
@AlexGarcia-xm3xs
Жыл бұрын
same!! i have BDD and my first two obsessions started because of two tiktoks i saw and one of them was about wrinkles and aging. i’m so glad it’s not as bad as it was, and i’m really glad your doing better too
@KittySnicker
Жыл бұрын
@@AlexGarcia-xm3xs I’m really glad I came of age before tiktok and that you’re doing better! ❤️
@KittySnicker
Жыл бұрын
@@bm5_5_5 Good to hear you’re doing better! I’m glad I’m not the only one with aging dysphoria!
@bm5_5_5
Жыл бұрын
@@KittySnicker Thanks so much ☺️Yeah back when I hated everything about myself at the tender age of 26 I was actually terrified to be 30. Used to breakdown and cry in front of the mirror about my forehead which I realise now was actually expression lines or dehydration 🤦🏻♀️I’m now a year off 30 and life has never been better to be honest. I was really unhappy back then and I am much more healed and healthy now. I’d go so far as to say I truly love the person I am. Amen to that 🙏❤️
@sprinkleofsuga7186
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing more awareness to such an important issue!! I deleted tiktok last year (I wasn't on the insecurity mining/disguised "self care" side of tiktok, but I noticed that the way the content is served to me made me really overwhelmed and irritable) and I've noticed such a huge difference in my mental health! I wanted to say how I notice the same things from a different perspective! I'm an artist and I notice there is SO much ageism (along with all kinds of bigotry of course) in art and in the artist community. I noticed I would not draw my characters with genuinely emotional expressions because it made them look "old" or "ugly". I would not give them a single blemish. I wouldn't draw any body hair. I would give every character the same small, button nose. I would not draw any smile lines beyond a small dimple. God forbid they look UGLY like a REAL PERSON would!! (/s) So I took a step back and thought about why I'm afraid of drawing normal features, and have committed myself to drawing more kinds of people with all kinds of features! Because everyone deserves to be able to see themselves represented in beautiful art as their true selves!! Bodies are not trends!!
@jellosapiens7261
Жыл бұрын
As a trans woman who started transitioning in the mid-20's, a lot of these toxic feminine beauty standards stopped me from transitioning earlier. I thought I wasn't "strong enough" to be a woman because I didn't know how to do complex makeup or keep up a 10-step skincare routine. I thought if I didn't do those things I wouldn't "pass" or "count" as a woman. I eventually got over those fears, and now that I'm living out as a woman I'm so much happier, and I do things like makeup and skincare on my own terms
@cutiepiebb
Жыл бұрын
you'll never "count" lol
@jellosapiens7261
Жыл бұрын
@@cutiepiebb Maybe not to you, but I and the people around me who love and care for me know I am who I am, and you will never take that away from me
@Arginne
Жыл бұрын
Doing a complex makeup and skincare routine doesnt make someone a woman please stop reducing us to that.
@jellosapiens7261
Жыл бұрын
@@Arginne I'm not doing that; I'm saying that was an incorrect thought I had that I moved beyond.
@margot272
Жыл бұрын
@@Arginne terf alert. u literally chug farts in ur free time and i know it. we ALLLLL know it.
@soaphi7069
Жыл бұрын
I’ve had forehead wrinkles since I was like 16 cuz I’m anxious and very expressive lmfao ITS NOT EVEN AN AGING THING ITS JUST USING UR FACE! Edit: yeah I also have eczema + chronically dry skin which def contributes but it’s not a big deal I’m chillin
@transsexual_computer_faery
Жыл бұрын
damn, same.
@VintageBabyOx
Жыл бұрын
There is hope, I had them in my teens but realised it was caused by dehydration and facial expressions. They've disappeared now I'm in 20's by staying hydrated, a good moisturiser and sunscreen.
@moelli0
Жыл бұрын
@@VintageBabyOx girl did you not even watch the video or read the comment
@dean1111
Жыл бұрын
@@VintageBabyOx maybe watch the vid again
@eleonore59830
Жыл бұрын
@@VintageBabyOx damn you really missed the point of the whole vid
@b.851
2 ай бұрын
I loved this video and the most ironic part is that every time I reached an ad break, it would show me some sort of serum that would help in age prevention or “change my entire makeup routine”. I’ve noticed that even with younger children have fallen trap to this type of content and an uptick in retinoids even for people younger than I. The small “trends” hurt almost every single girl and it has lead to a generation of self loathing girls, even more so than years past :(. I hope these systems slow down, if not for us but for those after us.
@pb_pb_pb_pb
Жыл бұрын
I deleted TikTok a year or so because I felt that it was making me feel really insular and limiting my world view (even though it portrays to do the opposite as you mentioned), and comparing myself to people I’ve never met (probably with edits on), rather than realising I rarely feel that way in person unless I’m on the app. I identify as he/they, so I imagine this is pushed much harder for/to women. Your montage of all of the beauty trends around the 3-4 minute mark just shows how wild it is. I find it fairly cruel how apps like TikTok will use the algorithm to feed you negative things like that. Obvs I think there are benefits of algorithms, such as finding your channel from watching similar videos, but i TikTok feels like a very very intense version of that which limits other positive worldviews. I’m in full support of cosmetic surgery and all surgeries, but not if the person is solely being influenced by something to change an aspect of themselves they didn’t previously see as an “issue”. P.S. Obvs interested in Wagatha
@pb_pb_pb_pb
Жыл бұрын
As you say, “algorithmic traps”
@espeon871
Жыл бұрын
I just changed my tiktok feed to be abt like general things and wld skip and say im not interested to stuff which i know will hurt my self esteem but yeah good points
@GaryHighFruit
6 ай бұрын
" I felt that it was making me feel really insular and limiting my world view " Yeah, like seeing all problems as the result of a society that is patriarchal. Reminder that KZitem is social media. And the US isn't a patriarchy.
@emilia885
Жыл бұрын
i hate to be that person and sound like my mom but there are very simple solutions to this. don’t go on tiktok. don’t follow influencers. only follow people you know or people whose content is not body-centric. social media is so terrible for us. i’ve been on social media since i was twelve and only recently deleted all of my socials and oh my god. the relief is unbelievable. i feel less pressure, i feel happier with my appearance. before i deleted my apps i was also making an effort to only seek out people who looked like me or made me feel good about myself and even that helps. but never forget: social media is simply a marketing tool to sell you things. it is a scourge and we would do good to distance ourselves from it as much as possible
@courtneys.7113
Жыл бұрын
i feel like the surgery trends never really got to me because it’s icky ewww needles lol but i feel myself sometimes slip into the “self care” trends because it comes out of a desire to treat my body better. as an example, i have scoliosis and so working out and strengthening your back muscles can help with the back pain but workout culture is so fatphobic that i actually started to feel more self conscious about my fat and workout culture so easily segues into skin care trends that promote anti aging and eurocentric beauty standards and so on and so on to where it ultimately ends up at surgeries again
@beatricehart5614
Жыл бұрын
I'm 32 and downloaded tiktok for the first time last year. I deleted it after a month because of how quickly it altered my self-image. I can't imagine what it does to young girls' minds. Please be careful out there.
@kit-nt1vb
Жыл бұрын
i am 18 and just 2 months ago i finally started to accept my european nose and nose bump. for 17 years straight i cried so much because i desperately wanted a small and feminine nose, i started to even get depressed because i felt that my nose ruined my whole face and i couldnt show myself to anyone, nobody would want to date me. ive started my self love journey and i love my nose. its strong, unique, FEMININE and gorgeous. my nose makes me different from everyone else and thats what i love about myself
@CutiePieSally__
Жыл бұрын
It’s beautiful, your features are passed down through generations onto you :>
@_voyageuse
Жыл бұрын
I understand you completely, I'm 25 now and I've kind of started accepting my nose the way it is, cause it's a part of what makes me me.
@ThatOneUglyLightskin
Жыл бұрын
Girrrrl imagine how my black ass feels😂
@AamuAurora
Жыл бұрын
I support you but as a European, what's a European nose?
@kit-nt1vb
Жыл бұрын
@@AamuAurora i mainly used that terminology to make my comment more understandable to the wider audience hehe :> but what i mean is a stronger nose with a tougher nose bridge and bump on the bridge xx
@tropezando
Жыл бұрын
I never looked better than when I was sickest. Porcelain skin from being indoors and sleeping constantly, lost a lot of weight from being unable to eat, and my hair stopped falling out as much thanks to finally getting my kidney failure treated with dialysis. I was 23 when I was diagnosed with kidney failure and lupus, though symptoms of the disease go back to my high school years and it was likely that I had it unknowingly for years. It was such a privilege to get my transplant and be able to spend time (gasp!) aging my skin in the sun, finally having enough energy to walk my dog outside and celebrate the fact that I even had the chance to be able to age at all. My hair has continued to fall out because of my lupus and the drugs I take for immunosuppression, and my forehead has 14 additional years of wrinkles and sunspots on it, but they're proof of the time that I was here. I can't bring myself to hate my aging face. (My failing body is a whole other subject tho heh)
@nimrahm1211
Жыл бұрын
get well soon!
@rowceo
Жыл бұрын
Love this! And love your username, hope you are doing well
@aijou1606
Жыл бұрын
so glad youre here❤️ youre so strong for facing all of that at such a young age. stay healthy and happy!
@karlaitzelmx
Жыл бұрын
This hits so hard. I'm watching this on my birthday and I've been feeling bummed out, recently I deleted TikTok cause I felt like I didn't fell into those standards, yesterday I saw a KZitem video called "I wasted my early 20's so you don't have to" and it was the title alone that led me into a spiral of overthinking how I'm turning 24 and "life's going away" you know? I'm so against ageism yet I keep falling into this videos, as you say just causing me to go and consume more about the topic...
@kit2060
Жыл бұрын
im so glad you brought up that some of the backlash against buccal fat surgery is basically just upholding similar standards and body shaming lol. it gives me 'real women have curves' vibes, like we can say pressuring ppl to look a certain way is bad without slandering the look. i'll give a tensy bit of credit that it is interesting a surgery that will likely age you is popular while anti-aging is also super big, but there are better ways to express that and saying lol these women will look like shit at 60 is not helping anyone.
@LizBlair
9 ай бұрын
I just turned 64 and I am wondering why young women these days are so afraid of aging. I retired almost ten years ago and my life has been mostly fun ever since. It’s nothing to be so afraid of!
@elin_
9 ай бұрын
Wow, you retired early
@DMp-xp6mj
9 ай бұрын
I'm a young woman and I'm not at all afraid of aging, what I am deadly afraid of is not living and wasting my life. Aging is a privilege that many don't get to experience and it should be viewed as such. What you lose in attractiveness you gain in experiences, wisdom and skill. Plus if you take good care of yourself you will age gracefully so there's truly nothing to worry about.
@InnominateShadows
Жыл бұрын
I haven't watched the whole video yet, but can I just say...Your intro is EXACTLY what goes through my head EVERY TIME I have body issues. It's a never ending torrent of vomit-inducing beauty standards that are IMPOSSIBLE for anyone outside of A-LIst celebrities to adhere to. I'm gonna show everyone this because I don't think people quite understand how subliminal and damaging it is for women to see this shit everyday.
@sparksfly715
Жыл бұрын
I think the first thing I ever remember seeing that came about from this social media era was the discussion about the thigh gap. It preceded tiktok but I remember being like 12 years old in middle school and suddenly thinking about if I had a gap between my thighs. It was literally never on my mind before but everyone online was talking about it (whether they talked about it as good or bad) and I could not get it off my mind even if I wanted to.
@abnormalusername
Жыл бұрын
I can't seem to remember where online I started hearing about thigh gaps but whether or not people had one was all I noticed on myself and other girls once it was pointed out to me.
@RedDeadReverie
Жыл бұрын
Same. The insecurity is still with me to this day 😓 Crazy how the media tells us how our body is supposed to look and we subconsciously believe it all our lives 🫤
@aeoligarlic4024
Жыл бұрын
Oh that's tumblr era
@lyn3158
Жыл бұрын
I still don't get what's special or attractive about having a thigh gap!?
@emelieerdbeere1689
Жыл бұрын
my face dismorphia started when we had to draw the side profile of the person next to us at school. it was the first time I realised I don’t have a jaw line. tiktok didn’t even exist back then. growing up with tiktok must be kinda horrible
@AW-xc1xc
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, who's idea was it to make insecure pre-teens draw eachother's faces at school? A classmate drew my face (complete with acne and scarring) back when I was in middle school, rudely remarking that it was weird I looked like that, and I've had low self-esteem ever since. Why force other kid's perceptions of your looks to be what you see every day in the mirror?
@emelieerdbeere1689
Жыл бұрын
@@AW-xc1xc Teachers learn basically nothing about pedagogy and psychology during their education at university (at least in germany where I‘m from). That and that some people who become teachers just don‘t have common sense might be the problem
@LittleMissLounge
Жыл бұрын
@@emelieerdbeere1689 Most of them sure as shit suck with autism, ADHD, and learning disabilities in general, so that tracks.
@mariya_tortilla
Жыл бұрын
i have a jewish and armenian nose and my friend (we were teens) decided drawing my profile was a good idea. You can imagine how HUUUUUGE he made my nose look lmao. I was scarred for life lmaooooo
@Jillberto
Жыл бұрын
@@emelieerdbeere1689 oml we did the same thing! I was 6 or something and got sooo insecure about my side profile because of that! We did it with the Tageslichtprojektor and everyone watched but its somewhat sooo common to do these in germany. Almost everyone I know did those.
@ahem8013
Жыл бұрын
im going to the pawn shop this week to get myself a flip phone. it’s gonna be pink and im gonna put lil charms on it. im 23 now and i spend most of my life on my phone. i miss being bored, i miss reading, playing piano, finding things to do with my time. it changes now.
@sophiecharlotte3043
Жыл бұрын
During the past two or so weeks, I‘ve been going to a major personality change because I had a kind of cruel academic „wake up“ moment. And it started with me realizing that no matter how I look, how much I dress to fit in, that is not going to change a thing. No matter how much I dress like them, I won‘t start to suddenly like conversations with them or share interests. Dressing like I belong will have no impact on my academic career. It‘s not going to be easier because I wear trendy sneakers instead of my favorite plateau docs. It‘s not going to be easier because I have flower stickers on my laptop instead of a bi pride flag. To be honest, I realized I am goddamn tired of hiding and I think I want to become the representation I am missing right now. I want to dress extra and wear all bright colors to class or dress completely in black clothes. The past year, I‘ve tried not to stand out, because I somehow thought that not aligning, being provocative or easy to notice was something I had to earn. Now I’m realizing how stupid I was to think that a personality was something you only deserved if you were good, smart or pretty enough. It‘s going to be fight anyway and I‘d rather do it in full colors and pride than hiding in the shadows. If I fail, I want people to see that. I can own that failure and work through it as long as I am myself.
@angelatorres8179
8 ай бұрын
I desperately need to live with all the girls in the forest, talking about what we think, how we feel, finding out that we are all seeking for love, but we are all too afraid of not being worthy of it. Then we discover that sisterhood can fill that void in our souls and we all work together towards each other’s happiness and our own.
@kyoyameganebereznoff
Жыл бұрын
I didn’t even know that people were insecure about their eyelashes and eyebrows and the fullness of their lips until I found that content online and, all of a sudden, I started paying attention to how those features looked on me. I feel like we made some progress against these beauty standards in the late 00’s, but then then social media started to claw it all back.
@Funeral_Mannequin
Жыл бұрын
I miss remembering not knowing about my “strawberry” legs.
@shineonsunfish
Жыл бұрын
Late 30s here, we grew up with our own set of toxic beauty standards but the way stuff just comes at you now is insane. I'm raising four little girls and will be keeping them off of social media for as long as possible. Treat yourself like you would treat a beloved friend - be kind, eat the pizza, enjoy the sun, laugh as much as you can. We're all going to die eventually, and there's no prize at the finish line for best looking corpse.
@Pinokiopie
Жыл бұрын
This is why despite immense pressure to get it, I’ve never gotten tiktok.
@alexiskuper913
Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad we're talking about this because I've struggled with skin my whole life - I have cystic/hormonal acne and developed forehead lines literally as a teenager (which is apparently what happens if you have strong brow muscles lmao??) - and in high school I was (somehow) never bullied for it but I would still spiral all the time because every woman I saw on social media had the prettiest skin and I just couldn't figure out how to achieve it
@JasminMiettunen
Жыл бұрын
Yeah some forehead wrinkles can definitely be caused by the muscles! That’s how botox can remove them, because it paralyses and weakens the muscles. not to encourage botox, just to explain haha 😅 Also, if you tense your forehead/jaw muscles a lot it can cause tension headaches lol
@MissLinguiniNoodle
Жыл бұрын
i feel you same here. I have had hormonal breakouts on my forehead since my teen years and the only time where my forehead wasn't full of pimples was when I was on the pill for a few years. I'm 25 now and still haven't found anything that gets rid of the pimples. I used to be so incredibly insecure about it and ngl I still am but I definitely don't feel this shame about it anymore. What helps me is not watching any "get ready with me"/make-up tutorials of other people because there's rarely any out there that have the same breakouts that I do and it just makes me feel insecure. Also reminding myself that I don't owe anyone to be "pretty". I can be "ugly" (what society says is ugly) and that's alright.
@who__cares__
Жыл бұрын
If we're gonna be honest Social media in general (no matter what app it is) is bad for everyone
@kellygreengables3936
Жыл бұрын
I think social media is good but it's been used incorrectly. Social media is meant to share art, our lives connect with other people, help businesses. It's not meant for us to try and imitate and become copies one of one another so much so that we think we need to get surgeries and fillers to look like different people.
@PunkyDPookie
Жыл бұрын
@@kellygreengables3936 I couldn’t agree more
@dean1111
Жыл бұрын
I think social media's purpose is our attention, which is bad, yes, but it can definitely also be used for good, like video essays or other productive discussion for example
@who__cares__
Жыл бұрын
@@kellygreengables3936 social media hasn't been used incorrectly it's doing it's purpose, the idea of social media may had had good intentions but no, all of social media is bad Art? Or you mean how people can copy/steal someone's work or post it and not give them credit? Lives connected with other people? Oh you mean parasocial relationships where everyone puts no effort in genuine friendships and relationships? It's not imitation it's literally a competition 🥱
@kellygreengables3936
Жыл бұрын
@@who__cares__I think we're on the same page! I wasn't trying to say that the things I mentioned don't have a negative side. The examples you gave are 100% true. But, like with anything there can be pros and cons. When I mentioned imitation, I was talking about people trying to copy influencers and celebrities who sometimes lie about using filters, surgery, photo retouching, etc. They'll try to convince people the reason that they look good is because they use a certain products or certain routine, but conveniently leave out the rest. Overall, if people are going to use social media, we just need to use it better and and social media needs to stop pushing unrealistic ideals on its users.
@AudreyMichele
Жыл бұрын
as someone with very small lips i always love when i find creators who also have small lips because they are always so stunning! but time after time the inevitable “i got my lips done” video is posted :/ it just sucks when you look up to someone and find confidence through their own confidence just to have them change the very thing you are insecure about. it’s like having someone tell you straight up that your own insecurity is indeed a problem that can be / needs to be fixed. i do believe in plastic surgery and i think it’s a great option for those who want it, but the collateral damage it has it definitely a grey moral area in my opinion.
@fireandsugar2625
Жыл бұрын
You're gorgeous! I have small lips too which I often feel insecure about. I think it's just about reframing. Small lips are soft, sweet and doll like. I get the appeal of plump lips but I think all features have the ability to hold beauty within them. I just wish that society saw that!
@magicknight13
Жыл бұрын
As someone who also has small lips, I totally hear you
@toastcrunchies
Жыл бұрын
Same thing for me when I see people with unique noses! I never think large noses make people look ugly and it's always so refreshing to see people embracing them. Unfortunatley tho, a lot of them eventually get a nose job and I can understand why they made that decision, but it always feels like a step backwards.
@Ala100zpanfu
Жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much.... Trying to accept my lips as they are but it's so hard seeing such big, done lips everywhere ehhhhh
@Ala100zpanfu
Жыл бұрын
Btw I just went though ur channel and you're so beautiful girl!!!
@nirvanaluvr19
Жыл бұрын
just when you played the neutrogena ad I got an actual ad for Clarins eye lift cream that smooths wrinkles😭
@wolfchild9998
Жыл бұрын
Okay your intro fully resonated with me. I’m only 23 and about 2 months ago I looked in the mirror one morning and noticed a forehead wrinkle. Very faint but it’s definitely there. I then started to panic and thought I was aging at super speed so decided to look through some of my old photos to see if it was there before. And lo and behold in photos as young as 14 (closeup selfies) you can still see the exact same forehead wrinkle, no more or less obvious than it is today. It’s not even noticeable to anyone else, I mentioned it to my boyfriend and he laughed saying I had no wrinkles yet at all. I think TikTok has just made everyone so hyper focused on the tiniest aspects of their appearance that we are actually noticing almost microscopic things that we never did before. And things we never notice on someone else unless we are comparing ourselves. I hate TikTok and try to avoid it as much as possible, cannot stand how filtered and fake everything is
@alavnot
Жыл бұрын
are you kidding me, literally for the past couple of days I’ve been noticing this wrinkle on my forehead! I was sooo freaked out, like I immediately thought I should do Botox or smth. and I am 20 😬😬😬 those lines are obviously from me expressing my emotions which is nothing to be ashamed of glad to see someone address the way we are forced to see our features as flaws :)
@airiin6134
Жыл бұрын
Try to drink more water, it might me dehidration
@alavnot
Жыл бұрын
@@airiin6134 it wasn’t, thanks for this advice though! it just happens to my face sometimes, and then those lines disappear for like months
@sazabi8187
Жыл бұрын
Those were wrinkles you either get from sleeping on ur face or lack water. Totally normal
@AW-xc1xc
Жыл бұрын
@@airiin6134 maybe watch the video again. just saying.
@smirnovamaria9611
Жыл бұрын
I've had head wrinkle when I was 16 right until 20-22? I'm 28 now, and didn't see this wrinkle for years. Dunno why. People age weirdly, I guess. I tried to smile as much as I can, meanwhile. Always loved to see happy lines on older people! A little reminder of life well spent
@charlieblah
Жыл бұрын
I'm really happy for you that you took your time and didn't give into the instant urge to get botox bc as you said ageing will (god willing) be apart of all of our lives, it is something that literally comes from within us. So to make peace with getting older is to make peace with ourselves and I hope you find that even with a little steps like this
@andginisin
10 ай бұрын
currently recovering from a drug addiction and i just have to say; your ability to be autonomous, to choose what you want to engage with, is a privilege and is critical to your happiness. Don’t let drugs, social media, family, culture, religion, etc limit you in exploring how you truly want to spend your time. Take control and sit in the drivers seat and think critically about how you spend your time. it’s one of the few things we have some control over and it is key to self actualization.
@dmystfy
Жыл бұрын
One of my proudest decisions is never downloading tiktok. I don’t use infinite scroll for KZitem shorts or Insta reels either. I love myself and refuse to sacrifice my mental health.
@amilliev.6131
Жыл бұрын
As a dental student : buccal fat has somewhat of a fonction, like a lot of things have in our bodies, removing it is probably not the best idea 😃
@arienroman960
Жыл бұрын
i think a lot of it is also about trying to make yourself better than other people. like i can be young while others age, i can be skinny when others are fat. it’s sort of treating yourself like a more valuable component
@saulgoodgrrrl
11 ай бұрын
Absolutely this, and that's why the "it's her choice!!" rhetoric falls so flat. These ever-morphing, impossible to capture beauty standards are a status symbol. A way of showing off that you're more chic, fashionable, and cool than the ugly poors that can't get cosmetic enhancements
@SolivagantJules
Жыл бұрын
At 9:30 you talk about the uncertain reward - in dog training we don't always reward the pup with a treat when they sit or stay, or whatever trick we teach them. Sometimes all they get is a pet and a "good dog!!!" This strengthens their training because they are hoping that next time they will still get the treat because they know their actions are connected to the treat. Exactly what you explained is what happens in the dogs brain too which is pretty early studied psych and its cool, but dangerous when connected to something so toxic like tik tok
@spiffygroove
Жыл бұрын
it makes sense that this type of content is pushed by the algorithm. the more of an emotional response content elicits, the more engaging it is and what is more emotionally engaging than videos that leave viewers internalizing that they are unattractive. also i hate how so much of “self care” tends to boil down to consumption. love the video as always! i appreciate the amount of research and compassion you present :)
@maddyrae7281
Жыл бұрын
the way everyone is acting like we’re in some body positivity movement but rlly we’re just getting worse :(
@watchcloudspassmeby
Жыл бұрын
I’m 28 and I’ve thankfully never had a tiktok. I didn’t know this was what it was going to be like, I just didn’t want another form of social media. In hindsight, one of the best decisions I’ve made. I watched the documentary The Social Dilemma and it made me get rid of nearly all my social media. I thought Instagram would be tough to kick, but the constant advertisements and influencers on that app constantly make me want to buy things. I’m saving my money, my confidence, and my attention span by deleting social media 🤷♀️ I’m a high school teacher and I feel awful for kids now. I’m so glad I missed this era of social media.
@diamcole
Жыл бұрын
As I slap retinol on my face hahaha. But in all seriousness, I'm looking forward to aging more and more these days. I'm turning 30 this year and as nervous as I am, I see all of the amazing, beautiful, successful older women around me and it gives me hope.
@obrechenx
Жыл бұрын
Happy birthday in advance! 🎉
@seaurchinted
Жыл бұрын
happy early birthday!
@diamcole
Жыл бұрын
@@obrechenx Aww thanks so much!
@diamcole
Жыл бұрын
@@seaurchinted Thank youuu! :)
@annabelapurva-madhuri4861
Жыл бұрын
30s have been a it weird but overall great so far 🥰enjoy
@AKbaby89
Жыл бұрын
I'm a recovering heroin addict, and I ended up seizuring and going into a coma for almost 2 weeks because of my drug use, and my mom took a picture of me so I could always remember where drugs got me, and I look dead in the photo. I'm in a coma, so there's tubes and stuff all over the place, but I legitimately look dead. I'll never forget that photo. The whole buccal fat removal and heroin chic look coming back is just kinda triggering tbh. It's not a healthy look, so its super weird to me that it's actually coming back.
@zaragordon1657
Жыл бұрын
There's always a backlash of 'reassuring' tiktoks that makes things worse. The first time I ever heard about hip-dips it was on a tik tok telling me i shouldn't be ashamed of having hip-dips!
@andshereadstoo7809
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry but I laughed so hard at that anti-aging lipstick 😭literally advertisers running out of ideas and selling the most random out of touch shit
@ktf4723
Жыл бұрын
When I was a teenager no one believed I was that young because I just looked older. Now I'm in my thirties and teenagers think I'm one of their peers (mostly boys) and I'm like have peoples perceptions about aging warped this much in the last 20 years!?!?
@annabela.1673
Жыл бұрын
I think it's very interesting that the body positivity movement was about accepting your body (and by body I mean from the shoulders and below) but forgetting about the face. We still live in a society is very fatphobic, but we have a lot of discussions about it and we are demanding for change (even though beauty standards are still very relevant) but no further debate about big, downturned noses, dark undereyes, round faces with big cheeks, wrinkles etc The next step should be such features and I think we are taking the first steps now.
@Bbybunn
10 ай бұрын
As a 30 yr old I ended up deleting tiktok when I realized every trending filter was meant to sell something and invoke fear and self hate. I mean I always knew that but it got SO tiring. Like the aging filter one -I saw right through it instantly as a way to reup waning beauty/skincare sales and women as the victim as always.
@evieee231
Жыл бұрын
I read or heard somewhere that " not everyone has the privilege of getting older " and it honestly really stuck with me. i got my first head wrinkle at like 16 and i was so insecure about it, until i heard that and it literally changed everything for me. My forehead wrinkles show i've and still am having an expressive wonderful life. Wrinkles hold emotion and memories that we should treasure, not try and erase.
@doritheexplori2850
Жыл бұрын
tiktok is just such a weird place - i am on the app for hours and hours every day but i've NEVER come across any of the content you're talking about. it's so scary to know that tiktok targets the people who are most likely to respond and binge it while others aren't even aware this exists. so those who might comment something critical or warn about it won't even get a chance.
@kwangyagal
Жыл бұрын
I’m not even that sure about the last part on who tiktok targets because I’ve always clicked “not interested” on those videos but it’s the smaller things I like for ex. makeup tutorials or someone trying a new sunscreen that sends me into a flurry of these types of videos. I barely use tiktok though
@saga685
Жыл бұрын
I definitely recommend looking up Problematic Social Media Use, if you're interested in the psychological impact of social media. It's not just TikTok - they'll all bad for our mental health, our ability to rationally process information, and our attention spans.
@kiwikels
Жыл бұрын
Social media is such a catalyst for self hatred and also sets such high standards it’s actually stressful. The amount of added pressure to our daily lives to make sure we look a certain way is insane and then you have to think about the amount of time we have to spend on social media to stay up with trends because god forbid we don’t stay trendy. Deleting TikTok was genuinely such a relief for me because not having to see that content anymore took so much weight and pressure to perform off of me.
@karitajarosevits8313
Жыл бұрын
The irony of me getting an anti aging hyaluronic acid moisturizer ad on this video 😅
@anonymementt3151
Жыл бұрын
great video! you were talking about « self care » that was actually insecurity mining and i think self care would be a great video idea! like how it’s viewed on social media and if self care on social media is actually good? what is true self care? anyways juste wanted to share that i love what you do jordan ❤
@wkdwflp
Жыл бұрын
She is talking about this a lot in her video about wellness culture I think! I remember her addressing the „that girl“ routines and such!
@anyas1312
Жыл бұрын
I got off tiktok a year ago. I’m a 21 year old uni student and I’m also in the modelling industry. I found being on tiktok was constant stimuli of the emphasis on beauty and appearances and trends it’s all just too much. I firmly believe we need to get off tiktok. It’s so toxic, you’ll start hyper fixating on looks and it won’t stop, it will never be satisfying because it’s impossible to be one step ahead of the internet.
@Ghxstgvrl
Жыл бұрын
I’m at the point where you said it’s not even self care anymore and I had something I wanted to share. Self care is a bath, self care is the routine you do to take care of your health and body. Like you just said, wrinkle straws and baby Botox and filler trends are self hatred personified. If you are doing a preventative care routine with the fear of aging or being “ugly” or overall not enough, being the only reason, it’s no longer self love. It’s future-self hatred. I’m dealing w a breakup, which means I’m back on the market babbyyyyyy and after just a couple months of looking around and seeing the dating scene and current trends and everything else I immediately felt inadequate. I think so many people feel that way, it’s so easy to see from someone who is use to feeling like that. Tik tok has been my favorite app since it started, since the “cringy” days 😅 (though honestly I prefer them and miss them dearly) and I’ve had to take a huge break because it was just an onslaught of this exact content your talking about (and that’s so far from my normal content it’s insane). It’s overwhelming. You opened the video beautifully, All those things we use to compare ourselves to each other gets really really draining after a while, especially if your mental health is deteriorating from other personal reasons, it only makes it so much worse. And that’s not what my experience on tik tok has been over these last few years, it’s been the opposite. So why all of a sudden do we hate how we look again? Why are we so afraid of again again? Why are we so afraid of gaining weight again? You hit it on the head, it’s just the natural passage of time and a rotation of body and beauty trends . Great video, I subscribed after one video and I do NOT typically do that lol 😅 Also cute hair color, strawberry blonde w the blonde streaks are one of my favorite hair color combos (and compliment your eyes really beautifully)
@kattleyaygat
11 күн бұрын
Not having a Tiktok account might be the best decision I have ever done in my life.
@allimoore4440
Жыл бұрын
I have said for years that aging is a privilege. Not everyone gets the chance to age, they leave too soon 🥺 I am SO guilty of being influenced by content on social media but I’ve gotten much better, it’s all very hollow and transparent. There is so much more to life than being an aesthetically pleasing copy of everyone else.
@bree4761
Жыл бұрын
I was born in 96 so I think I’m considered to be the “youngest millennial.” I feel so bad for people younger than me that are living their childhoods sad about having a rounded face,or thin lips, or not have a perfect ski slope nose. When I was a kid I never not even once worried about what my nose looked like? I never paid it any attention! I didn’t pay attention to my weight or my teeth or my eyebrows and it’s all things I notice now because social media told me that I need to notice them. I hope somehow younger people can turn this around, they don’t deserve to live their childhoods worried about what they look like :( Also, there are way more important things in life than attracting a man or a woman. If someone doesn’t like you because you have uneven eyebrows then they aren’t someone you want to be around
@Aaron-nq9rh
Жыл бұрын
It’s all the generation alphas that be stirring all this up.
@LLLadySSS
Жыл бұрын
I deleted tik tok when I started realizing that every dang simple time I went on it, I needed a new luxury bag/shoe... Whatever. I was like u know what? No. Bye. So much better now
@gwendolynmcguire6779
Жыл бұрын
a) video was very good- love that you are so self reflective from old videos and actively trying to make better content :) b) hair and makeup really slaying today
@kieren6900
Жыл бұрын
The psychology of TikTok sounds like the psychology of gambling
@fayealbertson265
Жыл бұрын
I left tiktok because of the beauty standards. I started to compare my 23 year old body to 16 year olds wondering why I didn't look so young and when I caught the thought I was shocked. I'm pretty confident in my body and the fact 15 second videos had that power over me was scary. Been off it for just over a year and I feel so much better.
@Genesis-il6jy
Жыл бұрын
I didn't even notice how much I obsessed over my weight until my mother took away the scale in our bathroom. Have since then made the decision to remain blissfully unaware of how much I weight, and it's the best thing I have ever done for myself. I can't believe a couple of diet tiktok shorts was all it took to nearly revert all that progress. I personally deleted tiktok and got rid of all the dieting suff I could find on my other socials, but unlike a random scale you really can't fully throw this stuff away. It really makes me worried for the younger ones, this stuff is vicious, and I'm sure lots of them who already are affected don't even realise.
@mollydonahue9168
Жыл бұрын
thank you so much for making this video. as someone who only got social media when i was around 13-15 (tiktok didn’t exist until i was 16 and i didn’t get it until i was almost 18) i can’t imagine having grown up as a young child with these apps. i’m old enough to differentiate between what’s good for me and what’s not, but even as an adult my mental health/self confidence have been effected negatively by tik tok a lot. some days it really feels like we’re in some sort of post apocalyptic hunger games captiol type world lmfao
@briep638
Жыл бұрын
Jamie Lee Curtis is who I look to when I want to feel good about aging. Legit think she's so much hotter now than her young days❤️❤️
@rachelbuck5673
Жыл бұрын
About the mom and baby thing: I think advertisers are trying to convince me to get pregnant!! Cause I get ads for baby stuff and I don’t have a baby!
@jaimejackson23
Жыл бұрын
middle of this video one of the ads was for Juvederm botox injections and literally had the tagline “look 5 years younger!” Never seen a KZitem ad for botox so idk what to make of the possibility that these advertisers are targeting videos on topics like these ??
@L_Aster
Жыл бұрын
19:00 From what I’ve seen, men’s aging isn’t really embraced like that. While men’s fears over wrinkles aren’t being monetized like women’s (yet), there is absolutely a stigma against going grey, balding, and getting fatter. With the exception of especially attractive or strong men, old men are seen as boring at best and creepy at worst. People might post about loving dilfs, but just like when people post about loving milfs, it rarely seems to escape the internet. Not saying we have it worse than women, just that there’s definitely a pressure here, too.
@julietmckaig3236
Жыл бұрын
For your decorating purposes: I def recommend Command Strips™. It's pretty much a college kid's staple in the states.
@avgeek707
Жыл бұрын
nah i need the wagatha vid bc I did not understand that drama one bit
@lucyeleanor1369
Жыл бұрын
So glad i left tiktok, i was scrolling and it was like i could literally feel the minutes of my life slipping away, just being wasted on garbage like this. LADIES YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL THE WAY YOU ARE ❤❤
@vyuga3714
Жыл бұрын
this video was my decisive point in removing tiktok, im tired of going into it and spending 3-7 hours a day to have a little fun and in return receive such mixed messages. i see a lot of beautiful people at the same time and start expecting myself to always look great. i see some useful information, I throw it into my bookmarks, and in three years of active use of this app, i've used like.. 5 things? I've never liked inst, I'd rather spend my free time on tumblr, KZitem and telegram. bc you can such more connection with reality with this apps! ty for this video really
@vyuga3714
Жыл бұрын
im not native english speaker hope my comment is clear enough
@Ileannap
Жыл бұрын
I was just talking with my mom the other day about how ANXIOUS I’ve been lately because of my TikTok feed. My algorithm kept showing me colon cancer content, to the point where I really considered if I needed to go to the doctor or not. It’s important to remain educated, yes, but it was starting to seep into my thoughts and feelings outside of the app. I will definitely be limiting me scrolling and being more present/ mindful of the rabbit hole!
@hannahlangston9562
Жыл бұрын
this is the first video of yours i’ve watched, it’s great! i’m commenting because i just experienced the greatest case of situational irony of all time. right after you talked about beauty trends/plastic surgery/botox i got an ad for JUVEDERM!!! of all things to get an ad about😭 great video tho!!
@francescaeve8776
Жыл бұрын
One thing I've noticed in my mid-30s is that when I lose weight, my body looks 'better' (ie. more defined abs, body aligned with beauty standards) but my face gets thin and I look older. When I gain weight my face looks more youthful but my body no longer fits some of those standards. It's tiring. At some point you can't win. Interestingly, I think I've found it easier to embrace weight gain than I have looking older. There's a whole movement around accepting bodies at every size but it seems like women still like to use youth as our main form of currency.
@nothing-jl2dz
Жыл бұрын
I'm just 25 but I've noticed this since I was 21, I'm a person with small apetite so if I don't watch my diet I get underweight, my body looks nice skinny but my face really fast looks aged prematurely and tired
@didyousaymiku
Жыл бұрын
thank you for this video! plastic surgery is a seriously dangerous trend and not morally neutral. i want people, especially women, to stop pretending it is. social media has fasttracked so many of these risky surgeries to the mainstream and it's so horrible for our mental health. the best thing i did last year was leave tiktok!
@muffinbear811
Жыл бұрын
What gets me about those women that make the anti-aging content is that they always look so…sad. Like it’s visible on their face that they care so much about their appearance that it consumes them. It makes me feel bad for them, but some of them try to make other women feel like they don’t look good, because they’re projecting how they feel about themselves. Misery loves company :(
@May_003
Жыл бұрын
gosh i'm so glad I found you. you're amazing. I love your energy, your sense of humour, your editing, the way you talk !!! you're so wise. thank you for sharing this to the world. as a 20 year old, teenagers need to see this. cause this doesn't affect me a bit, but I know it would affect 12 year old me.
@chelseapalacios8369
Жыл бұрын
I usually don’t comment on videos but this is one big reason why I decided to not get Tiktok because I already struggle with comparing myself to others. Everyone is different and beautiful in their own unique way. Please remind others out there with just a simple compliment and encourage self love ❤
@rachel5399
Жыл бұрын
I would also like to add, that on topic of the inclusion of the point of, "not reading news articles," and "celebrities having more of a voice, rather than the public getting their news about the celebrity from a journalist/article," that SO many news outlets require you to PAY a subscription to access their articles!! Even my local town newspaper! Either you pay to have the physical copy delivered to your house, or you have to pay monthly!!! For local news!! Not the even mention the big ones like The New York Times, and The Washington Post. I don't know if that's a tactic adapted by other countries, but here in the US, it's pretty much a standard anymore. It made trying to do relevant searches for citations for essays, HELL. Social media will pretty much be the only source of free news, which, I don't have to explain how harmful and dangerous that already is with the lack of supervision to posts, deep fakes, and how easy it is to trick people.
@ihavenoideawhatimdoing6124
Жыл бұрын
I'm a man and I knew it was bad but what the fuck? I can't understate how insane this stuff sounds to me. Especially the anti-aging stuff. I'm only 18, I have forehead wrinkles, it's considered normal for men to have normal skin but women are expected to just have a layer of immobile plastic covering them. My skincare routine is soap.
@lindat.6743
Жыл бұрын
I live in the country where even the racist will hold the door for you and be kind. Looks matter down here, but it doesn’t interfere with kindness. Well, one day I went to visit my friend in the city a couple months ago and we went to this trendy thrift store with tons of gorgeous people. No one made eye contact with each other or spoke because everyone thought they were too hot. (Going for The mysterious vibe 👻)total disregard for other humans, but the thing that really got me is when I was shopping in the hat section and this girl asked her friend how the hat looked on her and her friend said “we are the hottest people in the room, of course that hat looks good on you!” That made me sad to hear, because I wished as humans we focused on building connections and showing kindness to one another rather than hyper focusing on looks.
@aniamaciejowska1786
Жыл бұрын
i highly recommend reading renee engeln’s book called “beauty sick”. the most impactful book i have ever read that talks about the obsession on how women look and the multibillion business that targets our insecurities that the society taught us to have 😤
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