A lot of brothers won't like this, but he is telling the truth. Sadly, many brothers get married and treat their wives badly. This is not Islam. Or, they complain about having to provide. They hold what they do for them against them, which is sad and wrong.
@aysha.s2566
2 жыл бұрын
If the man is finding difficult to provide a different house for his wife, y do everyone think that a woman should agree to stay with her in laws? Even the man can agree to stay with his in laws, can't he? It will be far more easier as the husband will be out working and won't have fights with his in laws. And the wife won't have hijab issue inside her parents' house. I just don't understand the norms ppl follow...
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
Good point u know!
@eco-consciousmuslim4713
Жыл бұрын
Exactly, it is allowed to stay at his in laws, but girls are burden on this earth, their parents go begging in WhatsApp groups, they send their photos to 200 men. They are burden on parents and shameless daughters with their big mouth are demanding. Did their father built large bedroom with wardrobe? Did her father built extra room with attached bathroom? UK children need to pay rent. Musa alayhisalam was supported by his father in law. It is not haram to stay with her parents. All the drama in Instagram, portraying loving parents, send-off is like fairy tale actually everything is fake.
@Kihalchal786
9 ай бұрын
Huh? What do you mean your sisters are no mahram to your brother same way your cousins Also
@aysha.s2566
9 ай бұрын
@@Kihalchal786 It's easier for a woman to stay in her parents house with her husband coz there's no non mehram there. Her parents and her siblings. That's it. Her sisters are non mehrams to her husband but that's not a big problem as her husband will be out working. And idk where you got cousins from. Nobody is talking about cousins here.
@hasanakhtar6740
5 ай бұрын
Bro it's not about the norms.. if you lives in your in laws house with them then in that case you won't be the Qawam (gardian of your wife)... then you can't be the decision maker of your family, her parents will make the decision and the whole concept of Marriage in Islam will be gone... plz mind it as per Quran, men only have one degree of significance over women cos they provide and protect them
@joyre1679
2 жыл бұрын
As a woman, I need to be honest about this. It's true that many men disregard this right and that it's their duty to put their foot down and defend the stability of their homes, way more problems in familis occur because of living with in laws.. I usually like to stand and defend women on most things.. BUT it needs to be said that often women also play a part in this, I have seen cases of women successfully and happily live with their in laws, but I've seen divorces caused by mothers who are very reluctant to let go of their sons, they end up emotionally blackmailing, gaslighting, and manipulating their sons. I've seen this all my life, some mothers want their sons to be with them 24/7 and forget about their families, to the point I looked at them and thought "if her husband gave her enough love, she wouldn't be so obsessed with her son, and if she still continued, he should have put his foot down and told her to shut up, disciplined her, she wouldn't be destroying a home like this and causing trauma to her grandchildren"
@a.conandoyle
2 жыл бұрын
💯 agree with the brother. Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him totally forbade, free mixing of one's wife with her husband's brothers, cousins, brother in laws, uncles. And such a man who forces his wife to live in such a situation where she also has to wear the full abaya and niqaab, has absolutely NO GHEERA. No shame at all. How would you tolerate a non-mahram stranger living with you and your wife under same roof and the serve that man? Then your cousins, brothers, uncles etc, are a bigger fitna and harm (like prophet said its death for your wife) because you would be careful of a stranger but not your relatives.
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
to be honest, it seems like most men today don't want their wives to cover in the first place and want them to socialize with their brothers, uncles, and cousins.. Allahul musta'an.
@aatif7518
2 жыл бұрын
Crazy males Real men have gheera and would cover their womenfolk from other men
@slike601
2 жыл бұрын
We know that men like you exist but we just can't see them.
@iramahmed2155
2 жыл бұрын
Yes free mixing shouldn't happen but also living with in laws causes problems in the marriage let's not forget that.
@trajictempr8574
2 жыл бұрын
I always had a gut feeling this living with in laws bs wasn't Islamic, my mum was also oppressed in her in laws and I was only little to say Sm, If I did I would shunned and scolded at, especially if your younger their jaahilyah thinks anyone younger than them csnt say anything smh.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
Aw :( may Allah reward Ur mum for her struggles & patience. Could not have been easy to see ur grandparents oppressing Ur mum like that. This backwardness has to end :( it's affecting relationships & ties of kinship
@nassermj7671
2 жыл бұрын
Most thought provoking I heard on the subject.
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
Please post more of Sheikh Tim Humble, hafidhahullah
@ayeshayousuf3029
2 жыл бұрын
جزاك الله خيرا... My dear sister for uploading this Very well said... Sheikh Tim Humble Let's follow "ISLAM" Not Foolish Culture !!
@Abu-Kurdi
2 жыл бұрын
Ironic
@slike601
2 жыл бұрын
@@Abu-Kurdi what?
@Abu-Kurdi
2 жыл бұрын
@@slike601 the last line
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
Sheikh Tim (hafidhahullah) has a youtube channel called Muhammad Tim Humble. He has a lot of good series, Allahumma baarik lahu (may Allah bless him). I encourage watching the tafsir one. The sheikh is a graduate from the Islamic University of Madinah's faculty of hadeeth.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
May Allah protect us from such backwardness & save our daughters from such backwardness Aameen I agree with what he said, either her own daughters take care of her or u get her a maid who will, she isn't the dils responsibility. Simples.
@trajictempr8574
2 жыл бұрын
Ameen, may Allah protect us from this jaahilya
@hijabswholesaleretail1504
2 жыл бұрын
Aameen
@beardedbloke2521
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah all the best with the cost of living. Not everyone is made of money and can afford to pay £1300 per month on rent alone and on top of that, monthly expenses etc etc etc and now a maid to look after your parents when they're old. Context matters....
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
@@beardedbloke2521hmm, maybe the Pakistani men should seek advise from all the other righteous men on the planet how they do it.
@beardedbloke2521
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx everyone's circumstances are different. Not everyone is in a position and can afford it especially if the wife isn't working. That's why many people are still living at home.
@salmanarif6651
2 жыл бұрын
True, not all but some women even object on being asked a glass of water. Line needs to be clear between empathy and oppression
@salmanarif6651
4 ай бұрын
How is asking a glass of water from your wife and daughter-in-law means "absolute everything"?
@salmanarif6651
4 ай бұрын
I personally know two of these cases. But somehow you know they were not women, and no women does this. Stop being a weirdo
@rm7250
Жыл бұрын
Alhamdulilah plsssss preach ❤
@Islamicwibes
2 жыл бұрын
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Whoever recites Qul huwa Allahu ahad ten times, Allah will build for him a house in Paradise. [Saheeh al-Jaami’ al-Sagheer, 6472]
@farhank8336
2 жыл бұрын
The main issue is Force. Dont make your wife do what she does not want to. it build ups in heary
@slike601
2 жыл бұрын
yes,the top issue though is love for culture (over religion)
@eco-consciousmuslim4713
Жыл бұрын
Don't marry cruel women, they need to be compassionate, kind hands, they need to be physically strong. Observe their nature in school if they are rushing to help, if they server their parents. Girls don't even love their mother's, I have observed, their mother's are slogging and these Princesses do nothing. Such girls are crying wolf
@MrFaiqueShakil
2 жыл бұрын
At some context I do agree
@redvoice2385
2 жыл бұрын
SubhanAllah
@user-xh8ui7hw1u
Жыл бұрын
Sisters, I've found this holiday destination that I need to share with you. I can go for however long I want as many times as I want and my husband never come with me. (that's called independence). I don't don't pay a penny for accommodation, food and there's even a chauffeur. I just put my feet up as there's a creche for my kids a child minder and even a bodyguard and security to take care of my kids and myself. No cleaning, no cooking, there's a maid who does all of this. There's free wifi if I want to spend endless hours sharing pics and videos on my phone. Whenever I go there I see my Mum and Dad (who are elderly) being pampered and they never seem to ask me to do anything. My kids call their their son and daughter in law uncle and aunt and I just thought this man and woman were volunteers working in this holiday resort. Everytime I go the menu changes - they must have a full time chef. I've just come back after a weeks' stay and will be there again next weekend. --- *Sylheti community are unfortunately oblivious to or choosing to ignore *Some etiquettes of being a guest* *Do not turn up uninvited/unannounced Take a gift (healthy) if you can afford to. *Be weary of flu season and spreading viruses *Don't overstay your welcome. 1 hour shouldn't become 2. consider your host may have plans and a life The house is not a museum for you to tour *Supervise your own children Seek permission to take calls and try to keep your mobile in your pocket. *Don't answer the front door or take house calls of the host - (leave this to the people that live in the house) Make du'a for the host and learn about the role of the guest
@worldrecipemomhyd1134
Жыл бұрын
Beutiful advice but need to draw lines I have witness some daughter in laws are so thoughtful Caring go extra length to get duas from second set of parents but get treated unfairly V sad Vice versa I saw mom in law caring for daughter in law as a princess because her son is prince for her She serves cooks laundry Spend mo eyes Take shopping Pay for her princes At malls Mom in law wants daughter in law to look lovrly fresh healthy on arrival of her son from work want son To be happy to see his wife looking lovely happy well rested so they can have their favorite cooked dinner by mom in law planned according to both prince and princess wish MashAllah. All going g so well Then they all family move to happily near Daughter in law's parents city to have more happiness 8n both families But Unfortunately all went unhappy as Daughter in law mom became v disturb jealous by seeing her daughter friendly and v close to her mom in law Noticed Getting along both having wonderful relationship made her irritated instead of being happy But daughter in law 'a mom in law is clueless of this strange situation Then whole thing started Politics what not Till poor mom in law backed off after her son too got trapped and blamed mom of many things she knew nothing about Son joined club his wife his wife mom bundle conspiracy of lies bad mouthing Wife became victim of her own mom Unfortunately they stated baf mouthing in minds of grand children stop her to drop not send kids to see her But to her mom So Lot goes on in these relationships when mothers are dysfunctional feel incomplete t losing daughters to new family Instead of cheering and showing g happi ess gratitude to God Almighty of blessings So many hidden storie s I witnessed Where we need to hear both sides Wallhu Alaam FiamanAllah
@nayeemasheriff2846
Жыл бұрын
Very trua
@tabassumfatimaahmad1251
9 ай бұрын
Inflation is too high now a days. Some People cant afford different house to live in poor countries. I have seen few people they are struggling even for intemacy they dont have saprate room for husband and wife. Their teenager children sleeping in same room because of powerty
@Sas-rf9sy
9 ай бұрын
Then such brothers should not marry. Marriage is not obligatory, but only recommended for those who can afford it and shoulder its many responsibilities. A separate and private home is a God given right for a wife. According to ones means, of course. You can buy, rent, lease, build an extension or a new floor etc. If he cant even afford to rent a 1 bed flat, then he definitely can't afford marriage, a wife and kids. What brother Tim is talking about is a cultural norm in certain communities/regions and it evidently happens irrespective of social and financial status. It's food for thought that most muslims don't live with their inlaws but move out of their parents home once they marry. Both boys and girls. Just like the prophet, his companions and generations of muslims since then.
@shimmer4771
5 ай бұрын
@@Sas-rf9sy I see this issue, too. Not only that, but this issue runs deep. Some men will not properly provide yet want the role of head of household. Their mother works, pays bills, cooks, cleans, and does it all, while the son provides little to no help. It's not fair. I am trying hard not be filled with resentment. But Allah knows best.
@alimatouguy6842
2 жыл бұрын
Most men will find excuses smh
@rm7250
Жыл бұрын
They will defend there mother and sister in laws to the tea but forget about you how you feel and your rights long as it’s coming from his mother and sister to him it’s halal 👎🏻
@fredo2517
2 жыл бұрын
Fair enough but that's only on face value and without context its plausible... However when men are burdened to do big weddings or give her a money and spend big before their marriage even starts because the wife wants one who will acknowledge that and tell the women to compromise rather than want best of everything and men suffer. Alhamdulillah didn't happen to me but I've seen many cases where men get the short stick The financial burden on men is not acknowledged or highlighted enough.
@user-jp8ot7yf9y
2 жыл бұрын
Actually the people who made custom to think kid of stuff actually except the women to pay, I never knew some Muslims had this opposite to Islam as a culture, it's weird and bad in every way.
@Strawberry-ii4le
2 жыл бұрын
Why do men agree to do big weddings? Extravagant weddings are also not part of the sunnah.
@joyre1679
2 жыл бұрын
Extravagant weddings are the the result of an entire culture, yes sometimes the women are to blame, but quite often, the society as a whole expects them, to the point the father of the groom feels pressured to have them. Sometimes the girl gets mocked by her relatives for not having a big wedding and ends up hurt. Sometimes she sees too much on social media. An entire system is to blame for this. I personally think they're a huge waste of money and would gladly spend it on travel, or investing. And I know many women who think the same. Money isn't the main issue here, living with in laws is possible, it can be happy, only if the parents 1) give the wife privacy and accept her boundaries. 2)don't expect her to serve them like a maid 3) and this one goes especially with mothers, don't expect the son to spend his money and time on them, and don't get jealous when he puts his wife and children as his priority. Some mothers refuse to let go of their sons and it can break up homes.
@goldenxyoon702
Жыл бұрын
Bro acting like y'all don't get plenty of stuff from bride side and they equally pay stoopid in laws those clothes and stuff ,while it is written that nikah should be simple but dawat e walima should be big bride's parents still have to be burdened by her stoopid In laws to do extraordinarily wedding.😂 Desi men trying hard to be victim as always😂
@VigilanteMian
2 жыл бұрын
The sheikh didn’t mention the other side of the coin. A man may have to bring his wife while his parents are living with him and at the same time you don’t have enough money to keep your parents on a separate flat/apartment. A man who tells his wife to be like a slave to his mother is definitely evil. What happens when your wife keeps on complaining about your mother and make you distressed. A lot things are easy to say but not easy to do. Alhamdulillah. as for my wife we were able to keep my parents in our house for three years before they passed away.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, u kept your mum in YOUR house, not Ur wife in ur mum's house were all the in-laws live, veryyyyyy different!
@VigilanteMian
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx No, I’ve experienced both. As I said it is east to say but sometimes hard to implement.
@VigilanteMian
2 жыл бұрын
@AJ so the short answer is don’t get married if you don’t have enough money
@VigilanteMian
2 жыл бұрын
@AJ No one one wants to be lazy in order to get married. Allah has blessed with a lot money so that I could buy a house for my wife and left my parents in their place and when they were fully bed-ridden I brought them over. I used to visit them every weekend to take care of them. Not everyone is as fortunate as I was.
@VigilanteMian
2 жыл бұрын
@AJ I agree with you brother. As a man we should love and honor our parents and wives.
@salmanarif6651
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know where brothers get these kind of wives nowadays who do all the chores
@muskansiddikee2171
2 жыл бұрын
India Pakistan middle and lower middle class families.
@eco-consciousmuslim4713
Жыл бұрын
Women are big dramatic queen's, they purposely raise dirty, nuisance kids, instead of disciplining them when they are 3 or 4 years, they raise Zombies. Then they pretend they are tired, cleaning their homes or feeding zombies. Men are dumb creatures on this planet. They believe in their acting, there are 10 percentage of women who keep their homes clean and who cook delicious meals. Their laundry bis well organised, kitchen cabinets are well organised.
@eco-consciousmuslim4713
Жыл бұрын
Queens do not dress in festival costumes and stand in Queue for food, that too on such a blessed day. We have only Eidain, we need to prepare for these two great celebrations. Kuffar in Japan close entire establishments for Christmas and we muslims think it is great opportunity to earn money to serve the labourers (Queens)
@96tiifa
2 жыл бұрын
Anyone knows the name of the speaker
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
Muhammad Tim Humble. He has a youtube channel with the same name that i encourage you checking out, Allahumma baarik lahu (may Allah bless him). He is a Muslim convert and a graduate from the Islamic University of Madinah.
@ummerfarooq5383
2 жыл бұрын
Masaajids built like palaces have the greatest corruption in them.
@muhhammadmonir1790
2 жыл бұрын
whenever I try to give her separate room/home(which i can afford Alhamdulillah) my mothers makes emotional blackmailing, asking me to live with her(my mother). How can i protect my wife and also keep my mother happy as she(my mother) can't be reasoned with?
@qawsedplokij8007
2 жыл бұрын
Akhil kareem you should ask a student of knowledge of your issue, and always remember akhi this life is a test, the path to jannah is not easy, but its not impossible. May Allaah bless you and ease your affairs
@trajictempr8574
2 жыл бұрын
Heard Sm similair and shaikh assim al hakeem answered it. It was about a sick mother living with her son and wife. Which could be possible as long as you gets yours wife's permission and don't pressure ehee too much, she can come live with you not the opposite, but you need to ask your wife nicely ofc.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
May Allah make it easy for u bother!
@muhhammadmonir1790
2 жыл бұрын
@@trajictempr8574 i saw his reply Alhamdulillah... Allah knows my intention and love and respect i have for my mother Alhamdulillah... Bt i can't deny my wife's rights over me...specially when i see my wife is right and the ones who is suffering
@muhhammadmonir1790
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx ameen
@saltymangoparty
2 жыл бұрын
Where does it say that women should be servants to their parents in laws in Hinduism? If there is no true source for this, I feel it is extremely detrimental to the Umma for leaders to insist that Hinduism is equivalent to Jahiliya. You would be surprised about the profound similarities between Hinduism and Islam. Hinduism is much more similar to Islam than other Abrahimic religions. Who are you tu judge that Sanatana Dharma was not the same Islam revealed to the people of India thousands of years ago? Did Allah not send a messenger to every people? If you look into Vedanta School of Hinduism you will be shocked by the similarities that you find. Salam.
@amirakazi2366
8 ай бұрын
He is messed up
@rathernot6660
2 жыл бұрын
Easier said than done Tim. Easier said than done. He just opened the gates of old age homes for the boys parents. Women of today have no sabr at all. However to be fair on the girl the in laws especially of the IndoPak region are very hindu culturally and expect the the daughter in law to be a slave of the house. That is zulm as well.
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
subhanallah, did you even watch the video? By the way Muhammad Tim Humble is a sheikh, you should respect his standing. He graduated from the faculty of hadeeth at the Islamic University of Madinah. And he has a license to teach the books of hadeeth. I encourage you search his youtube channel and benefit from his videos.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
Old age homes? Why tho? Can't thier own daughters take care of them? Why they even looking left & right for others to take care of them? Not only are Ur parents Ur jannah (not Ur dils jannah-her own parents are her jannah) but they'd get treated better as well. Like u said, dils are treated like slaves - I don't think they'll treat Thier own daughters like that
@trajictempr8574
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx exactly lol
@trajictempr8574
2 жыл бұрын
They can take care of themselves as long as they can't no more.
@rathernot6660
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx you got it wrong. Now you know why the male siblings are to receive the higher portion of the parents estate. Secondly, if the all daughters look after their parents. What about her husbands parents. Did you really think about this or just put of emotion. I think the latter.
@utubebeena
2 жыл бұрын
Brother Tim Humble, you are talking of extreme cases prevalent in sub-continent quarters of mainly the illiterates. The fact is, so many women today are using this "fatwa" (which has been reiterated by Mufti Menk, Sheikh Assim too) to divide the family. The fact is, the city women who are using this argument are those who don't observe hijab at all. Those who don't cook at all. It's time you also comment of the poor single aged mother who has no choice but to live in with her son, and who eats very little of whatever the son and DIL eats.... who doesn't fuss abouts what they two do, who spends most of her time in the corner of her room so that dear DIL and son can have privacy. The fact is, these type of women have come to the point that she cannot have the MIL stay in her son's hsu for even a night!
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
my dear brother/sister, may Allah bless you, the sheikh (hafidhahullah) was speaking in a general sense, he was simply saying what Islam says about the matter. He was speaking to an audience in the UAE and not to an audience in a poor Muslim country.
@utubebeena
2 жыл бұрын
@PenguinMan That is the danger of generalisation. What made me to comment is these days, nobody talks about the ill-treatment of DIL, those who cause nifak between the son and his family so that she can distance him from his family.
@joyre1679
2 жыл бұрын
A right doesn't need to be justified. Men's rights are never justified or put under a scope , why should women's rights be? You think housework is easy? Or motherhood? It's extremely exhausting on an already physically vulnerable woman. It's THE MAN'S job to care for HIS mother. He's not getting any reward if his wife chooses to care for her MIL. If he wants to care for his mother, he should do it himself. His wife isn't obligated.
@joyre1679
2 жыл бұрын
And you've made a HUGE generalisation. Talking about women like they're one person. Also, you forget that the other side(the MIL) in this is also a woman.
@iramahmed2155
2 жыл бұрын
She can have her own home and doesn't need to let anyone stay it's her home other people impact a marriage. If someone wants to visit family they Living seperate doesn't Mean dividing the family.
@amirakazi2366
8 ай бұрын
Reverts are kicked out by their parents, they are not bonded like us. They don't Share same relationship like us. Brothers are our Mahram, they need to drop us to School in Qatar when Father is busy. Brother needs to be good uncle too. This is not Hinduism. Women are not sex slaves, we are created to serve Ummah, be there to cook food when there is death in family, Bake cakes and sell for charity event. Children need grand parents to take them to Masjid. Daughters need their paternal and maternal Uncles. Reverts are busy marrying 2, 3, 4 they are just worried about giving time to their wives. They don't have any other responsibility. 70 year old father needs support to go to Masjid, husband who is awake from 4 am, after completing his 8hrs duty, he has no energy to drive another 30 km to check on his parents. This Dawah is weird, Insane. We don't listen to you anymore
@Aquacrystal78
2 жыл бұрын
I think this doesn't apply if he is the only Son and has to take care of his own parents.Because after his parent that is his house and has to take care of his old age parents and his parents are Mahram to her. As far as cousins are concerned then they can go to his own house as well.
@zubair6737
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting question.
@simplemotivation2760
2 жыл бұрын
No, a woman's right cannot be trampled upon over the parents of a man. A mans man's parents are HIS responsibility NOT HIS wifes. Allah has given a woman the right to her own living space, who are you to take that away?
@simplemotivation2760
2 жыл бұрын
He doesn't have to live with them to take care of them. You've misunderstood your religion with regards to a right of a woman. If you are man, I suggest you read up on it before getting married, if you are married, I feel sorry for your wife. If you are woman, then again, read up on the rights that Allah your creator has bestowed upon you!!
@zubair6737
2 жыл бұрын
@@simplemotivation2760 then how can I take care of my parents when they r old? Also the wife is given her specific rooms in the house where there is no interference
@simplemotivation2760
2 жыл бұрын
@@zubair6737 there are lots of ways to take care of your parents. Live closer by, get them a maid, you can visit them often, help with their financial burden. Islamiacally, a room isn't sufficient living quarters. She has to have her own bathroom and kitchen at the very least. Also, I appreciate your concern in taking care of your parents, but who is taking care of hers? My point is a woman still has parents too, why should she leave taking care of them whilst you take care of yours and sacrifice her living space, if she isn't appreciated.. Surely, both parents need to be taken of.
@umarr6221
29 күн бұрын
Why not get the maid and then marry her so you get 2 in 1?
@abdullatasleem
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with most of this, but in a religion in which a person is advised to look after poor, needy their and neighbours ; a daughter-in-law can't care for her mother in law. Yes it is more of a right of the son, but that doesn't mean his wife watches netflix when the mother is having some serious pain. There has to be a balance...
@nimrataimoor9056
2 жыл бұрын
No
@nimrataimoor9056
2 жыл бұрын
She has no obligation whatsoever u say. Yes ofcourse if she helps her as courtesy that’s good but it’s not her reponsibilty so stop expecting from wives
@abdullatasleem
2 жыл бұрын
If the wife's parents are in hospital and the husband says no to her to visit them , is it okay for wife to go to his parents or will she be disobeying Allah by disobeying her husband? Everything doesn't have to be a obligation, its just common courtesy, kind heartedness and good upbringing!
@simplemotivation2760
2 жыл бұрын
Where is the son whilst his mother is in pain? Women are NOT slaves to man nor his parents!! Where is the man when the woman's mother is in pain? Utter misogyny.
@abdullatasleem
2 жыл бұрын
@@simplemotivation2760 they are not slaves ofcourse, but i don't think looking after someone is slavery. Either you don't know anything about khuluq ul ibaad or you don't understand/know English. 😅 Anyways, i am not arguing may Allah guide us all amd rectify all our affairs.
@beardedbloke2521
2 жыл бұрын
Own accommodation? LOL all the best paying £1300+ per month on rent alone for a decent house (you'll never own) and not to mention all the other expenses on top as well. Also, so-called Hijabis these days give you feminist tosh in return!
@justheretocomment
2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. 'Scholars' of today are not faqhi and lack understanding. This has resulted in broken homes ... they completely ignore customs / traditions / ways of people ... I'm surprised someone like Tim Humble is making such shallow statements.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
What's the alternative then bruv? U & Ur wife & Ur 4 kids in one room, Ur bother his wife & thier 4 kids in another room, Ur parents in the box room, Ur sisters can sleep on the floor in the backroom. And u can all mix and mingle like that's halal. Or do u have another plan?
@beardedbloke2521
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx you probably one of those blessed rich lads. Sorry, but people can't afford their own place. That's the reality of the year 2022 and onwards. Also, in Pakistan it's the norm for people to stay together with their parents and people are happy.
@justheretocomment
2 жыл бұрын
@@ghurabaa114xx Not everyone has the luxury to afford separate homes ... for example in the subcontinent or even in the West where homes are expensive. A scholar with the right understanding and a sense of the situation will take into account these factors. I know several marriages that broke down because the husband couldn't afford a separate 'house' while I also know of cases where husbands have severed ties with their kins because of their wife's demand for a 'separate' home. This will be the case with most people ... even the houses of the ummahatul mu'mineen were small rooms pretty much next to each other with most of them around the masjid (as per the best estimates) in Madinah ... while in Makkah he even had extended members of the family living together like Ali ra and Zaid ra ... but never denounced this (to the best of my knowledge) till he was alive. My point ... even us discussing this topic is showing so many dimensions to the issue. To just say that 'Oh she's your wife, so buy her a separate house or don't get married' or 'it is not the wife's responsibility to deal with the in-laws' is irresponsible and a very loosely made comment which does not benefit these speakers. Allahu alam
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
@@justheretocomment ok but. . .all my points still stand. Also, Moving out doesn't necessitate breaking ties of kinship. . .just like when the wife marries & moves out of her family home her ties don't break either! So what nonsense is this! Secondly living with in-laws doesn't necessitate making her ur mum's slave, she can live there & get on with her own business & take care of herself & her husband, & the in-laws can continue to take responsibility of themselves? If u absolutely have to move it wife in with Ur family, why can't a healthy balance be reached? Lastly what u said about the scholars wasnt right, they are the inheritors of the Prophets & they don't speak from desires like the lay ppl do. Like Ustadh said, the scholars unanimously agree that this is the wife's right. U can try find a scholar that says otherwise. . .but u won't
@Azhar_shaikh1
2 жыл бұрын
Let's go this by the sunnah alright? How was the accomodation of the mothers of the Ummah? One small room, so small, when 1 slept, another couldn't pray without shaking the sleeping one. Ain't that right? Also, Be a respectable scholar before uttering stuff about Islam
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
Fear Allah! The Mothers of the Believers lived with Allah's Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and they all had their separate apartments (with the exception of Khadijah and maybe another one). They did not live with the family of Allah's Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa aalihi wa sallam) who were non-mehram to them.
@ghurabaa114xx
2 жыл бұрын
Whats this comment got to do with anything? They had small accommodations yes, but still thier own. ANY sister would take living in a small humble home by herself with her husband than living in a mansion with his family.
@hmzzrg5045
2 жыл бұрын
He is relaying what the scholars said it seems like we have found someone who loves an aspect of his culture more than the deen and authubillah what a rude way of talking to a teacher you should be the one to fear Allah when uttering such disrespectful words.
@penguinman38
2 жыл бұрын
Allah's Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa aalihi wa sallam) was not the richest of people. He would go hungry, he didn't want to make things difficult for his wives but external circumstances created difficulty (like almost the entirety of Arabia being against you)! Thus this is not considered a sunnah, what scholar regarded it as a sunnah?! Do you even know the definition of a sunnah? Fear Allah! Fear Allah! Fear Allah! It seems like you don't know the seriousness of what you wrote. Read your comment again and think: How will I explain what i wrote to Allah. Your comment is not only disrespectful to the sheikh in the video but it is also disrespectful to Allah's Messenger (sallallahu 'alaihi wa aalihi wa sallam)! And if you don't see that in your writing then that is a great tragedy.
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