I am an Enfp but lately I've been so withdrawn from my extroverted side..
@hayleysquires
4 жыл бұрын
Bang on! I feel like im holding back my full extrovert energy. Im in my element when inspiring others and bringing the community together to go forward with a new idea but I tend to get overwhelmed with the tasks and delegation thats then required once I get everyone moving! Haha. That said, ive planted the seeds and set the sails so it tends to work. At the moment I feel like a sacrificial lamb. Its frustrating BUT hey ho, go with the flow
@nomad2772
4 жыл бұрын
I started truly understanding when you said we have conflicting ideas I think enfps see the world from outside in and always outside the 4th wall and are always reading situations farther then they are which tends to make them anxious and shut down their extroversion
@sherc.1693
4 жыл бұрын
Too true, Erik. It feels like a "eureka" moment. In a social situation, i tend to observe before portraying as Introvert or Extrovert. Not sure if other ENFPs work the same...
@TheCreeperBosses
4 жыл бұрын
I'm very good socially, but I rarely do social unless under pressure or obliged. When I do it feels good, and that's also when I forget that people don't understand because that's when I want to forget that I do. Then im alone, and I draw and exert my passion, because it helps me express the feelings I have in a way where people surely don't understand but still adhere, it feels bad but less than usual. As I say to my infp girlfriend who doesn't want to understand me, "make love to my mind". It's tough because in a sense I also have a lot of points of view, being in accordance with different ones so losing myself not knowing which on is actually true to me. So I forget myself, have a smoke of ganja, draw, and forget, again. I hope that with time I'll be able to recenter myself around my own values. Being an enfp in the 7w1 of the eneagram, I'm still lost as I'm only 20. These authentic videos help me find more, and the comments help me find people who may understand, as for me, just living with all the boundaries that society, love and money offer, I can't help but want to forget, so I make it harder to remember. Thanks for reading, and being here, stay strong, I'll try my best and so should you
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
ENFP's..the most depressed type that people do not expect to be depressed
@worldpinkmusic
4 жыл бұрын
Dang it bro, why u say it, it hurts.
@lipe6649
4 жыл бұрын
Sad, but true
@dizzy388
4 жыл бұрын
Really? I (and the other ENFPs in my life) am introspective, and definitely have inner darkness, but depressed? Optimism is a pretty major ENFP trait, as well as excitement and hope for the future. Unlike INFPs who are quite prone to depression due to their fixation with the past, ENFPs typically manage to be happy AND depressed AND fatalistic AND excitable all at once. That's not to say that depression is impossible as an ENFP, but proper, long-form depression is quite uncharacteristic.
@Moonlight-gs7pm
3 жыл бұрын
So true
@prettyhina
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@vizuz
4 жыл бұрын
Spot on... i always thought that i was an introvert. Only later i realized that im a very independent, individualistic enfp. The enfp stereotype of the bubbly social butterfly doesnt resonate at all, thats why i never considered that i could indeed be an enfp. Like you said, the thing that most interest me are exploring new ideas, concepts and new ways to do things. And in my experience, most people in society dont want to think about that stuff because they want security, comfort and familiarity. When i focus on that i become insanely depressed, things need to keep moving for me. When my life becomes too routine like i feel myself slowly dying. Its not always easy as an enfp, because im an extrovert and i do crave social interaction. But most people only want to talk shallow stuff like sports, the weather and gossip. Which bores me really quickly. When i actually do find people that appreciate my humor, ideas and way of thinking im elated, lol.
@silentgrove7670
4 жыл бұрын
One of the biggest issues in being an ENFP, it is hard to understand WHY people don't understand us, we are so obvious. I think we might be one of the simplest types in some ways and yet rather misunderstood and paradoxically deep, which is why we begin to get somewhat jaded as time goes by.
@MsDomomuffin
3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I think if anyone actually took a second to pay attention then they would see right through us. That’s why we bond well with types that just take the time to listen, interpret, THEN respond.
@mcgil8891
2 жыл бұрын
@@MsDomomuffin like an INxJ ❤️
@danika9411
Жыл бұрын
@@mcgil8891 Yes ❤️
@kituki5178
4 жыл бұрын
ENFP’s are interesting people, I think there’s a lot of depth to them, I wouldn’t mind getting to know them a little better. -infp
@TheCreeperBosses
4 жыл бұрын
Well, hey. I'm an enfp on the 7th bad of the eneagram and a 1 wing. I have an infp girlfriend, and you being an infp, I wouldn't mind also getting to know more about you ! My gf tends to spend aaaalot of time alone, procrastinating, not developing herself and thus continuing to feel shameful of her own person, however our context is complicated. She's very physical and predictive, and that's where I find there's an issue, she spends a lot of time being with herself and her phone whilst I wish she would just savour the moment and develop the thoughts I present to her, but she just reacts. So I tend to not feel like my own mind, constantly brwinstorming, is satisfied, as it feels like I talk, wait for more, and get the same, which is why it's complicated right now. So I wouldn't mind yourself if you don't mind to develop a strong experience you're having authentically so I can try to interpret it and maybe understand the thought process a but more. As for more on my gf, she tends to be very comfortable talking through screens, but when it's face to face she's very tense I think as wording her ideas seem to be difficult. I've told her time and time that I don't judge, that I'm here for her good, that I can understand and want to understand, but not much authentic words come through and she tends to just want to reassure me, where I just want to know. So I never know, and can only interpret and speculate, which makes me do alot of mistakes as well as I can not understand her her if it's through my own interpretations. How do you think ? And how do you tend to speak and express yourself ? I would love to have your perspective. Stay strong and much love from a random stranger.
@silentgrove7670
4 жыл бұрын
I am friends with an INFP we get along very well. We mostly understand one another. I call the INFPs cousins because our function stack is the same just juggled a bit.
@TheCreeperBosses
4 жыл бұрын
@@silentgrove7670 its true that theres alot of similarities, as ive found, although many differences. The fact that the function stack is the same but mirrored is probably why as you said :D But the thing is with an enfp (Ne dominant, Fi second) and an infp (Fi dom, Ne second) so much changes in my opinion, but im young (20) so i imagine with time the function stacks balance each other out better so maybe time brings more common ground between similar personnalities (?) Id love your opinion on that with your experience ^^ Loove
@justmemyselfandi3131
4 жыл бұрын
Same here
@izzygrooves2514
2 жыл бұрын
for me an enfp, i'm extroverted in the way that interacting with certain people in certain ways ENERGIZES me, but i'm so individualistic that if people or situations don't make me feel ENERGIZED and alive and excited with life and inspired, then i'm brutal and refuse to engage with certain people and certain situations when i know i can feel so so good.
@evafluff
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Erik! Alienation is a good word for describing a misunderstood ENFP. I never knew my need to express myself in very artistic ways, to dress differently, almost like creating these characters based on my inner world and perspective, was linked to a possible ENFP subtype.. Always happy to learn something new about my type from your analytics. ✨
@vizuz
4 жыл бұрын
Eva Pūka yeah.. and alienation is probably even more rough on an enfp than, lets say, the INxx types. As we are extroverted and we really do need to express our extroversion regularly and we do seek those social connections.
@silentgrove7670
4 жыл бұрын
Tag your it !!
@bigmac-ln8sm
3 жыл бұрын
I can be both, the stereotype that is very communicative and wants to party and do sutpid stuff, but i can also be very introverted, self isolating and kind of sunk in to my shell. i enjoy both versions of myself and even when i´m in the extroverted mode i do not have energy to be around people all the time. i need my time, always needed it. sometimes more, sometimes less :)
@Tebae
3 жыл бұрын
Me too! I crave both being around people and also crave being by myself, my ideal day would be doing both for example, time to socialize and go places and then go home to spend time with myself, doing either of these to the extreme makes me feel unbalanced and not myself, I feel unsettled when I socialize too much or when I am too much by myself
@tonyc1017
4 жыл бұрын
Hmm, I think that being a ENFP means I'm a very balanced in personality, and that makes me agile for different situations. I can be taking charge, and reading people and my passion for my cause(s) makes me more resilient then most, then the next my intuition tells me when to move in faster then others might, and knowing people wont understand I can be incredibly introverted and thoughtful.
@martinusv7433
4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely awesome stuff!! 10/10 Thank you for spreading a very different narrative compared to the usual ENFP "goofball" stereotype 👍
@rubyli5700
4 жыл бұрын
thank you for making me feel understood Erik!
@OffbeatHomesteader
3 жыл бұрын
Oye, I feel this! I have considered many times, because of my very selective extrovertedness, "Am I an INFP?" So I explored that a little more--joined FB groups for INFPs, and while I could relate to some of the sentiments expressed there, it didn't feel quite like "home." My value of individualism is second to no other. I have very strong beliefs for myself and my family, but do not try to push people unnecessarily in my direction of thinking. And yet, I have this evangelical (non-religious) side to me when I'm in a place of safety, in the company of people who are really listening. Certain social functions amp me up, and I don't mind being seen or noticed. However, in instances when I feel I have to bland myself down (so to speak) or be overly politely careful to serve a social obligation, THAT sucks the life out of me! I find myself in this unfortunate situation often these days. I'm a libertarian, non-Christian homeschooler, who loves to bellydance. I definitely feel like unicorn, but necessarily always in a great way. More like a painted bird, if you will (have you read that book?). Thanks for making this video.
@grisvolonte
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like I can understand other people pretty well but no one can understand me truly 😢 this makes me feel like I can’t belong anywhere or with anyone when I crave those connections
@Jerfinki7264
4 жыл бұрын
It would be such a privilege to be a fly on the wall and live shoulder to shoulder with each type for a month. Work with them on their job,; be around as they deal with the dilemmas of raising children, interact with coworkers, friends, family members and strangers. Listen in on private conversations with friends and lovers, see what joy and pain is for them. It's so hard to grasp each type's perspective. It would make an amazing docu series. I know this is a weird thought.
@lilo1165
4 жыл бұрын
I don't think that's a weird thought at all! I completely agree, that would be so interesting!!
@lamberteaton945
4 жыл бұрын
DustyBlue I think this is an awesome thought! The only thing I would add is the ability to know what they’re thinking.
@MsDomomuffin
3 жыл бұрын
AND be able to hear their thoughts - there can be so much going on in there while on the outside there is just silence
@isio5780
2 жыл бұрын
I'd be to scared of getting killed
@rev.jimjonesandthekool-aid4488
4 жыл бұрын
More more more enfp
@sodaa2489
2 жыл бұрын
I attended a networking/ hangout event for folks in my industry yesterday. For the first 30 minutes, I literally sat alone and felt so in my shell that I couldn't be arsed to reach out to anyone. I had to mentally switch on the extroversion and start speaking with people. I built up slowly by talking with the people standing alone, and before you knew it I was all over the space speaking with multiple people and being the most extroverted person. 2 hours later, I was done and I needed to go back to my shell. I've noticed this change in more clearly, where my introversion seems to be getting stronger as I grow older.
@vanidiana
3 жыл бұрын
You’re so right! I hardly enjoy being with lots of people especially when there’s none to talk with seriously. I quit my office job and opened my own craft shop. I love learning about a lot of things and understanding how life works; ever since I was little until now an adult. I’m open to any discussion with my friends and supportive, but they can’t force me to always be by their sides all the time.
@GoTommyBoy
4 жыл бұрын
I'm an ENFP. I'm pretty big on my individual freedom and am very weary of trusting others. Although, I'm big on helping my fellow human. I love being with people too. I could have just met you and I'd be perfectly fine hanging, but a day or two a week where I'm all by myself is always nice. And you couldn't be more right about the individual journey. I love meeting new people, but routine, which drives me crazy, and anything someone else is already doing makes me feel like I cannot do that too. I often feel like I just need to go on a major journey away from my family and just be 100% on my own. I just took your test and got ENTP, but 50.02% on Thinking. So as you can see it's literally right down the middle. Which makes sense too because I also strongly identify with ENTPs. I feel as if I'm both personality types depending on what I'm doing. Thoughts on this, Erik?
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
look at the difference in functions. Is your thinking more Te or Ti?
@GoTommyBoy
4 жыл бұрын
@@PowerRedBullTypology I'm definitely Ti
@PowerRedBullTypology
4 жыл бұрын
@@GoTommyBoy Then what is preventing you from the idea that you're an ENTP? ENFP's have no Ti at all. They have it as their PORL function..so very weak
@silentgrove7670
4 жыл бұрын
@@GoTommyBoy Do you build your internal sense of understanding in a manner of a system of how things work OR do you build your internal sense of understanding from a set of deeply held values ?
@tamtam6717
4 жыл бұрын
Love it! Love your videos! Also enjoy your insights!
@ErikThor
4 жыл бұрын
💕 😊
@vanidiana
3 жыл бұрын
Good idea about making the right memes of ENFP!
@getreadywithmemamma6973
Жыл бұрын
Oh my God thank you…. How the Hell? Are you living on the walls of ENFPs? This was Intensely correct.
@seguna
2 жыл бұрын
ENFP here. Always felt confused to whether I am extrovert or introvert but I've figured it out. I'm an introvert by nature but I go extrovert to satisfy my need to self reflect with other people's perspectives. I take all those opinions, experiences and knowledge and go within. Deep within to heal, become a healthier version of the ENTP. Then I recharged, allowed in to sink in and made a few decisions. Then I feel stable for a while. Until a new challenge hits me. I go between intro and extrovert depending on what I need from my outside to make my inside happy. Can quite be content in my own presence for a few days but then get crazy for outside connection. All my social interactions, even at work with my colleagues is about self development. Sometimes religion, politics and relationships too. That's all I focus on. How we can all be better people and make this world a happier place.
@queenbee7074
2 жыл бұрын
We are the most misunderstood of the extroverted types as we need the right people to be ourselves with. End of the day crave security at least in a social sense
@meganm4877
4 жыл бұрын
Aaah so many lightbulb moments
@mememo3764
4 жыл бұрын
So well put!
@ErikThor
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you :)
@LONEWOLF-tn7kd
3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes what people call introvert ENFP is actually engergetic INFP-A
@Nozrhul
4 жыл бұрын
This video needs more likes
@bryannathanael1782
2 жыл бұрын
I'm an ENFP but I relate to some of the stereotypical of extroverts: I'm making my own communities, introduce a group of people to another group of people, taking charge of things, gathering so many people, and don't really need that much alone time. But at the same time, I get charged mostly about deep level conversations, brainstorming ideas and plans, but not so much on unnecessarily small-talk, so yeah. xD WKWKWWKKWK I enjoy being a social butterfly loud crackhead!!!
@AriesFae
Жыл бұрын
I don't know about all this fancy shit. I'm an ENFP because I do what I want, when I want. My decisions are driven by emotions and resolved and planned with logic. (Ex., How can I do this thing that means a lot to me in a safe way?) I'm socially confident, although if I have a choice I will often choose to be alone to read or work on my projects. I don't know if I feel misunderstood, but it doesn't really matter if people can't understand me. We can find other ways/reasons to care about each other.
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