Damn you genuinely pass rlly well as a guy I had no idea wtf
@kelly-kx2io
3 ай бұрын
Thank you for talking so openly. I really enjoyed listening to what you had to say. It took me back over 40 years in my mind to the transmen I got to know, befriend and support in the 1980's when there was even less help and support available to transmen. I wish you all the best on your journey to be happy within your own body.
@LiteraryStoner
3 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤
@julianjaffe8739
3 ай бұрын
The reason I think people find it outdated is because people's understanding of the sex gender system has gotten more nuanced over the years. Now people are more understanding of the fact that gender and sex are not the same thing, the push has been towards understanding that there are many different ways that a trans person can be. So ultimately, I think transsexual and transgender have their respective uses, ie. transgender people can desire a social transition but not a medical transition. But a transsexual person would be changing their sexual expression via either a combo of hormonal or surgical changes. And that distinction is also super fuckin helpful in a medical setting! Because like, I'm a trans man who's been on T for over two years and had top surgery, and my body is NOT the same as a cis woman's. And it's also going to be different from a trans man who doesn't want surgery or hormones. So that means that ultimately, by the definition of having a gender identity that is not the same as one you were assigned at birth, it makes your gender trans. But also, if you want that transition to be more than just a social transition, and you want to alter your body using hormones or surgery, you would be definitionally transsexual as well. But there still are those trans people that do not want a medical transition. So I think that's why transgender is a more helpful umbrella term that encompasses transsexuals as well. check out nominalnaomi, she makes some cool content and also makes good arguments for the usefulness of the word.
@LiteraryStoner
3 ай бұрын
Thank you! I went to check her out, and subbed to her.
@GraupeLie
3 ай бұрын
What you're describing with dysphoria is VERY much what my sibling has been going through as well. They're nonbinary and describe the exact same thing. I've often enough seen them in complete despair over it, and I can definitely relate to what they're going through. I have dysphoria too, but maybe to a somewhat lesser extent than them. I'd be too scared to actually want to chop body parts off, but I do with I could just modify my body to look the way I feel. If I had more money and wasn't as scared of doctors, I'd have got rid of a few things that deeply unsettle me about my AFAB body. For me, however, it fluctuates. Sometimes I feel very masc, sometimes (rarely) rather femme, but usually I'm somewhere in between. I WISH I had known that there are others like me out there, other nonbinary asexual people, that I wasn't a freak, that it was perfectly valid to not feel a "woman" while also not wanting to be a man, exactly. So yes, while I might not be at as low of a point as you were or as my sibling was not not so long ago, I definitely get you. As for "transsexual" being called outdated and "transgender" being used instead, maybe it's because, along the lines of asexual, homosexual, heterosexual etc one might assume "transsexual" means being exclusively sexually attracted to trans people? No idea, frankly. I guess, with transgender, the focus is simply from the other side to transsexual. Transgender puts the focus on your gender not fitting the body you're born with (thus, the body might need changing), while transsexual focuses on your biological sex not fitting your gender (thus needing to be changed to fit your gender). That would be my take on these two words.
@drgloriareading
2 ай бұрын
I just met you today. I just want you to know that as I look and listen to you, I see and hear an honest and caring person whose life matters. Thank you for sharing. I will continue listening. I celebrate my trust that you will, in your own time, discover the gifts of peace and calm. :) :)
@LiteraryStoner
2 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤
@NurChaos
3 ай бұрын
💜
@Kitsune-th1st
3 ай бұрын
I've found that being trans has ruined my life honestly. It made me so anxious pre T i had massive anxiety going outside, that combined with unrelated circumstantial issues my life is basically fucked over and I've wasted all chances on fixing it. I find it hard to understand why anyone would have trans joy unless they were fully transitioned.
@jethrowashington396
3 ай бұрын
Why do you think its so disproportionately women that detransition??? Like what is with that? It feels like 3/4 of the detransed community is all women. I just wonder why its so much more common for them than trans women aka men
@deimmartillo1674
3 ай бұрын
People being transphobic to everyone who doesn't pass or anyone who doesn't want to pass is a problem of this society. It's sad that people won't treat you nice for not passing and I hope it gets better somehow.
@sleepyexe1012
3 ай бұрын
i would love a video that expands on your spiritual beliefs and your paganism. the transgender experience is very unique, and the joy of it is so bound to being trans. the joy when you're gendered correctly for the first time, the first time you're calling by your name, the first time you're on T and stuff along those lines. the joy is also very much bound to the pain: you wouldn't feel so so happy when you're gendered correctly, is because you're rarely gendered correctly, you know? the joy you extract is from the lack of it? idk. transgender joy is something that should definitely be focused on, too many people face the pain, and not enough face joy. coverage of trans joy in media is also something that should be deliberated on. the trans experience is also very much its own, and i wouldn't have the experiences i have, or know the people i do if i was a cis guy, and i'm thankful in part to my being trans. lastly, i think the thing with the word 'transsexual' being outdated could be because of the connotation of 'sexual' meaning to do with 'sexuality' like @GraupeLie pointed out. i think the word may have become outdated for several reasons: 1. it's association with 'mental illness' - transsexuality was considered a mental illness. 2. 'gender' is seem as a social construct, whereas 'sex' is an unchanging facet of your physicality. for that reason, people see 'transgender' is a better alternative, because some people, for example, a transgender woman, might think that she 'used to be a boy' and is, 'now a girl'. this explanation satisfies the mainstream more than 'i changed my sexual characteristics, therefore i am transsexual, making me a man/woman in the literal sense', because the word does not contain the connotation of identity, which non-trans people find confusing. 3. since physicality does not determine gender, people see 'transsexual' as a strange term, because 'sex' does not determine gender. i personally think either word works, they're just words, but this is the general consensus that has been reached as far as i can see.
@LiteraryStoner
3 ай бұрын
Thank you. The second point, I get that some trans people, like your example of a trans woman, would say they "used to be this gender" and are now "this" but for me... I can see my gender has never changed. Even though spiritually I believe i'm exactly the way i'm supposed to be, the "born in the wrong body" narrative would fit me otherwise. I didn't have the words as a kid or the knowledge to know I wasn't a freak, all alone and sinful, but looking back, I'd even outright say "I feel like a boy", my gender has never changed. I just finally learned i'm not a freak, not all alone and found the words, dysphoria, trans man. Because to me my gender has never changed, that's why transgender makes zero sense to me. My gender isn't changing, it never has, i'm changing my sex (to some degree) to match my gender. Transgender sounds to me like i'm changing my gender, which is not the case. I was never a girl, never a woman, and transgender makes it sound like I was. I was seen as one and had to try to pretend to be one, not the same as actually being one. The gender is a social construct... I get that. I get that in a big way, it is. I'm not denying that. But at the same time, I did not choose to be trans. It's not a choice. Which makes it seem like gender is not a social construct, because if it was, couldn't I have just chosen to be cis? I tried that, for decades. It didn't work. Being trans for me, is not a choice. I do appreciate your explanations... wish I wasn't still confused. That's just the way the words look to me, but I can see now (thank you again) that different people see the words differently. So, ultimately I don't care one way or the other which word someone uses. I've just seen some people hating people who use the other term or talk about dysphoria and trans pain instead of just trans joy or vice versa. So much hatred within our own community. And i'm just like, why? Both exist. Both matter.
@sleepyexe1012
3 ай бұрын
@@LiteraryStoner i agree with the toxicity of how people demonise the use of the word 'transsexual', or even conflate it with transmedicalist or anti-non-binary beliefs, when it's just a word. it's been used in and out of the community for a long time, and aptly describes a lot of trans people's experiences. trans joy is something that's almost never talked about at length, i'd love to hear more thoughts from you on that topic. moving forward, i totally get your point of view now! to elaborate, it's just a matter of personal preference: the way one defines their personal experience with gender affects the way they define themselves. the social construct bit just means that socially, my perceived gender is changing. like for me, i've always been a guy, i'm just expressing myself as a guy socially, so i'm going to be referred to as a guy socially. it's a matter of how others see you, not of how you see yourself. like if i get married, and i haven't told people yet, it doesn't mean i'm not married to this person, or that i don't love them, it means that i'm socially speaking, an unmarried person. it's just a matter of social perception, y'know? thank you so much for replying. it's so wonderful to be able to interact witt someone like me :]
@jethrowashington396
3 ай бұрын
Homie you gotta put paragraphs this looks manic asf but even then damn
@sleepyexe1012
3 ай бұрын
@@jethrowashington396 sorry 😭
@deimmartillo1674
3 ай бұрын
I come from Ecuador bit the problem I see is for latinoamerica in general. Most of the people here that use Transexual either don't know the right words or are explicitly transphobic. This ignorance is caused by transphobes and ideas of the past. I wouldn't blame people who just don't know but I get why actual trans people are annoyed when hearing that. There is this singer who refered to a trans woman as "un transexual" but un is masculine meaning he misgendered. He wasn't transphobic, but got it wrong and it's hard to tell the difference in most cases because of how socially accepted transphobia is in most of those countries.
@goldmandrummer
3 ай бұрын
So you apparently made no effort to understand why people take issue with the term and basically just said "idk why not use it". Look it up.
@jenat82
3 ай бұрын
Dysphoria is a real thing. No one denies this. In this climate today, I am grateful I was born in 82 as a tomboy. Puberty was rough. Not just coming to terms with my body changing in ways that confuses you. I was also told that I am a woman, A human female. I will be physically weaker and I will have to bleed every month and possibly endure childbirth, the most painful thing known. I had no out, it was facts. Today, they give kids an out of the natural way development. I am glad I did not have that way out.
@goldenapple3952
3 ай бұрын
You're a tomboy, why on earth do you think its valid or logical for you to compare your life to trans folks? Your logic depends on most trans kids being confused tomboys/feminine guys AND them being able to easily access transition. This is not a reality. Even adult trans people have a hard time convincing their doctors that they're trans then access transition. Fear mongering politicans and social media makes people think kids just go to a doctor and get free hormones in the first appointment or sum, its so silly idk how y'all believe it. You being a tomboy doesnt mean you understand trans people and know what they're all going through. Trans people are not a hivemind.
@DZrache
2 ай бұрын
There is no honour in suffering, or making others suffer in the way that you suffer/ed when there's an alternative. Nor is there anything inherently good about "nature". If that's what makes you feel better about your own perceived lack of choice (because you DO have the choice, whether or not you think it's a valid option for you) then that's fine, but don't push it on anyone else.
@drgloriareading
2 ай бұрын
Jena, I appreciated your comment. I do want to respectfully correct one sentence that you wrote. Childbirth is not "the most painful thing known." Not even close. There are many things, physical and emotional, that hurt a whole lot more. Childbirth, in my mind, is creative pain because there is something beautiful that comes into the world as a result. The worst pain is pain that never stops and has no purpose -- no creative purpose anyway. Cancer is one example. There are many more. Burying a child is another example. There are many more. Just wanted to share this, NOT in a pejorative way, but just in a way that is more to the point. :)
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