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@Kayonthemove
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely not. Him and his family are exhausting. I laughed when his mum said she could help stabilise their relationship, she's not even stable herself, what a joke.
@IraRochaa
9 ай бұрын
I said exactly the same, like, you’re not stable so how we go from there?🤣
@berenic90
3 ай бұрын
Same
@littlecrowders7089
2 ай бұрын
I agree.It's not even. Her job. Control freaks
@summerross9233
2 ай бұрын
Lmao did yall see how the sister looked when she said it 🤣🤣🤣 great shot camera man 37:50
@LoveAngel333
Жыл бұрын
That younger man was so good at expressing himself and the amount of empathy he showed to the future stepdad She raised a beautiful son ❤
@tonyabrown93
11 ай бұрын
I 100% agree!!!!
@TondraCook
11 ай бұрын
She has raised a well-balanced son. I pray she avoids this relationship and creates a safe place for him to continue his positive growth.
@beingsilindilephakathi
10 ай бұрын
I totally agree ❤
@mathmommy
3 ай бұрын
She has raised a boy that seems to have more maturity than her fiancé. Not sure how she is attracted to him.
@amberbufkin8010
11 ай бұрын
He and his mom using ptsd as a crutch word to get out of talking about simple things is wild.
@marcellabenjamin6449
3 ай бұрын
ABSOLUTELY!!!
@savillewilliams
3 ай бұрын
I can't with this mother
@stacylee7785
3 ай бұрын
Yup. I’m a combat vet who gets treatment at the DC VA and the first thing you are taught it’s not the world’s responsibility to manage your triggers. Justin and his mom are a NO.
@jocelynatl
Ай бұрын
WILD!
@SQUEAKS818
11 ай бұрын
I am around military personnel everyday all day, my husband is 20 years retired, my daughter is 4 years in the Air Force, his PTSD started with his family NOT the military!!!!! His whole family has ISSUES!!!!! She Needs To Depart this Relationship!!!!!!
@JennyClevers-en9ow
3 ай бұрын
💯
@southernbelle80216
3 ай бұрын
That part!💯 I am a military veteran 💪 and I had a lot of childhood trauma before I entered the military!🪖 I had PTSD before, during and after my military career.🎖️
@phylisarealone9789
Жыл бұрын
I'm not even 10 minutes in and all i can say is RUN girl!!!! Like Forrest- RUN!!
@carmelbit
Жыл бұрын
Guuuurllllll that part......RUN
@Sunrey2356
Жыл бұрын
Giirlllllll CORRECT!! Run like hell!! Him and his family is ccccrraazzy..
@royalty085
Жыл бұрын
Same...😮
@melliann1
Жыл бұрын
Better and be faster than Usain
@faithintransition8738
Жыл бұрын
Baby HAUL AZZ!!!!!
@robertacollins3205
Жыл бұрын
Run Solani!! I think she just wants a relationship at any cost. For her to still want to marry him after hearing from her son, and the fact that he lied and said he told his mom that they were engaged.
@meaganrgarrett
Жыл бұрын
She ran 🏃♀️ too . Not together
@JewelAdele
Жыл бұрын
Yep , at any cost.
@karmen9514
11 ай бұрын
That should've ended it right there. Especially since it was obvious it wasn't just him not wanting his mom to marry. He had really valid feelings that's some mother ignore. Glad she ended up not doing it though
@mangoyacho
11 ай бұрын
@@meaganrgarrett really? How do you know? I hope you are serious because that was the right thing to do especially after her son expressed his reservations. Thanks for sharing this update.
@osunlade-daphne2598
3 ай бұрын
@@mangoyacho, they had a follow up episode and she pretty much announced that as soon as she had enough money to move that she would be doing so.
@cristina-dk4vo
11 ай бұрын
Ladies it is not your job to fix a broken man. Leave him right where you found him, bc he will suck the life out of you
@TheeMichellesMind
11 ай бұрын
Gabby would’ve had the skin slapped off her face!!! Very disrespectful, especially at that dinner table! 😤
@icomeinpeace3756
11 ай бұрын
Yall sure are glossing over Gabbys terrible behavior at dinner. I wonder why
@jassh2610
11 ай бұрын
We know why lol.
@sweetdoc1472
11 ай бұрын
Yes that was apalling!
@cynthiadavis9917
11 ай бұрын
His mom is a Karen, but doesn't seem to know it?
@easterbunnymomson130
11 ай бұрын
And sisters too
@cynthiadavis9917
11 ай бұрын
I don't like how his family is talking to her family, he's pretty much repeating the same thing over and over.
@RP.123
11 ай бұрын
His family have misplaced anger. I love my family but I’m not emotionally invested in any of my sibling’s relationships. Absent of abuse (emotional, verbal, physical) and/or infidelity, it’s not my business. After the dust settles, the couple are the ones living with each other.
@flowergirl9685
11 ай бұрын
Im praying for the brides son smh. A toxic relationship/ marriage will definitely affect him and they might not even realize.
@ASMR_BAKER
11 ай бұрын
The fact that the sister didn’t apologize for calling her out her name is crazyyyyyy… she would of been in the hospital idcccccc 😭
@Shyknit
10 ай бұрын
I think she said she was pregnant so I don't think hands are necessary but it definitely should have been called out that what she did was wholly unnecessary
@cynthiadavis9917
11 ай бұрын
I don't understand why they want a blessing for something they hadn't shared up until recently
@stacyjpoliticscommunityfai359
Жыл бұрын
The Groom tells his mom about his life changing event of asking someone to marry him by inviting his mom onto an "Engagement Show".....Naaahhhh Mad suspect.
@neomorobane1363
7 ай бұрын
Her son’s emotional intelligence is beautiful to see. She raised a fantastic young man. ❤
@cynthiadavis9917
11 ай бұрын
He seems like a nice guy that's probably used to getting his way
@tiffanyadams2956
11 ай бұрын
Yooo his mom is an absolute enabler. She will stifle that man’s growth at every twist and turn. He needs help.
@raecolemannewsome6680
10 ай бұрын
As a navy veteran…bombastic side eye 🚩🚩🚩
@MissElizabeth1920
2 ай бұрын
Exactly! Medical personnel with 3 weapons! Come on man. My soldier (i call him Superman) was a medic and hit with a IED via suicide bomber (june 20th 2012 khost) and all he had was a side arm (pistol). So I'm side eyeing his comments.
@princesslilchief8282
11 ай бұрын
She really wanna deal with a man annnnd his mom with matching PTSD? & include her son?? SMH.... anyhow, Gabby's hair is lovely!😍 with her lil rude azz
@icomeinpeace3756
11 ай бұрын
Bi racial light skin worship. I wonder if her dark skin full black equivalent would be glossed over like that
@easterbunnymomson130
11 ай бұрын
Imagine family getting together for dinners and holidays this is not good at all especially for that young boy. I would give up this relationship for my son’s well being 🙅🏾♀️
@ThisTriniWill
11 ай бұрын
Whew, I saw the where are they now episode first and now I completely understand her demeanor. I’m only 15 minutes in an im like girl runnnnnn. His childish behavior and his inability to take accountability is enabled by his mother. I’m not saying he doesn’t have PTSD but I think it is being used as an excuse to not be held accountable for his behavior.
@almakemp6005
Жыл бұрын
What.... WTF... WHAT 😮 The whole family are leaned. Shouting and screaming. I'm 52 and can't recall swearing and carrying on like this WTF and they can't see themselves.... Even worse. Run girl
@Osa698
10 ай бұрын
It's always a red flag to me personally when ppl/couples are super upbeat like these two were at first. It's like they are desperately trying to sell you a version of themselves that is not authentic.
@literarylady1125
11 ай бұрын
No one is talking about that nasty looking food???? That dry chicken?
@TondraCook
11 ай бұрын
Goodness, that entire episode was heavy. You has two drastically different sides of family. Justin's family handles things loudly and negatively. Tselane family handles things calmly and level-headed. Two very serious issues; Justin lied to her( he tell his mother), Niles, safe space( his home) is no longer that and he's concerned about his mother deeply. This relationship has no future. There will be another man. Create a safe place for you and your son. ❤
@tunisiaruth
Жыл бұрын
This is sn old episode but wow. My concern was for her son.
@latreace11
Жыл бұрын
Why
@DarlingWheresthecoffee
11 ай бұрын
These are all old episodes they’ve been posting over the past few days
@easterbunnymomson130
11 ай бұрын
@@latreace11his ptsd is very bad This will ruin her young soon as she mentioned in the beginning She definitely doesn’t need these his sister is very disrespectful his family is toxic 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@andreamurray3876
11 ай бұрын
@latreace11 watch again, the clues are evident
@TwistedLyfofTV
4 ай бұрын
There's supposedly an update episode on here for them and she was over it.
@stichtingcured5961
11 ай бұрын
Wauw the grooms family has serious problems!!
@Loveallthingscrafty7
3 ай бұрын
All this PTSD going around. They need to stay away from people.
@PrettytruuEarth
5 ай бұрын
His sister and mama is the problem
@SimplyAmbokile
Жыл бұрын
Now hes trying to exert manhood by yelling at her
@tonyaharper2468
11 ай бұрын
He is too damaged you can tell by his voice
@Theamber.nicole_
3 ай бұрын
Women love yourselves more! There’s no way his anger issues, entire family drama, and her own kid saying doesn’t stop her from wanting to marry this man. He can’t even have simple conversations. Him and his mom use ptsd to get themselves out of situations
@Kendallslovejoy
3 ай бұрын
Never understood a woman that would marry a man knowing the child has issues with the partner. It’s a no go for me until the relationship is genuinely repaired.
@1materialgurl
3 ай бұрын
That's so weird that everyone thinks he's too unhealed and unhinged for marriage it's ok for him to be in there with her son
@InfoHubZA
3 ай бұрын
Tselane is a historical Sesotho name in South Africa and Lesotho, which means "little path".
@sharlamims3089
11 ай бұрын
Her mother is rude very!! Not sensitive PTSD is not a game it's a big trigger you don't just throw it out there like ooh did we get the cat food!
@KearaSweetDreams
10 ай бұрын
Justin is a big man-child. Nobody holds him accountable. Everyone makes excuses for him & he keeps using PTSD as an excuse to not deal with problems head on. 🤦🏾♀️
@robinh7267
6 ай бұрын
His immaturity outweighs his PTSD
@nanjones3973
11 ай бұрын
Update: so she’s no longer with him. She’s now in a relationship with a woman.
@Bluntgirly
10 ай бұрын
Wait is this a joke ?
@nhughes1162
11 ай бұрын
Well it seems like Justin got it earnestly Keep expressing yourself Don't walk away, keep the conversation going
@nequag
9 ай бұрын
Ummm me personally I wouldn’t marry him especially if u have to tip toe around his feelings and his family ummm no! And I know PTSD is real but he want to pretend to act like nobody understands him when that’s what her family was trying to do HE TOO CONTROLLING
@tonyaharper2468
11 ай бұрын
These military men with ptsd are too damaged for reality of life they are dangerous
@vthe_listener886
3 ай бұрын
The way the child said no says a lot ❤
@JustmymomandWE
2 ай бұрын
My question is why after a convo with her son would she even want a blessing? She need to RUN 🏃🏾♀️ as fast as she can from him and his crazy toxic family.
@ynazzra
11 ай бұрын
It’s a shame really. It seems to me that this man is so crippled by his own fear he does not have the capacity to be present with his fiancée’s fear. Therapy would help, I think. Right now, he hides and reacts when he is called to be vulnerable which won’t work in a long term relationship where vulnerability is a constant.
@videehoe2269
2 ай бұрын
Couldn’t pay me to deal with him or his momma.
@latoyas191
11 ай бұрын
Him and his whole family need intense therapy.
@Kruella_DeVille
11 ай бұрын
The dysfunction…
@laurashepard3221
23 күн бұрын
PTSD doesn't mean a lack of self-control!
@cortne3797
10 ай бұрын
Run so sister got the same angry issues leave this man and his family
@nelidaespina7771
13 күн бұрын
Pardon getting vibes aura he is on the DLO.
@I.heartJeongin
2 ай бұрын
Justin and his family need therapy honestly, that dinner was ridiculous.
@myariete2011
11 ай бұрын
Mom and groom need ptsd therapy period
@hopetothemax2561
3 ай бұрын
Uuggghjj!! This is insane!! Watching this makes me so happy to be single!! 😊😆😁
@whitneypatterson3636
11 ай бұрын
This is giving Gypsy Rose.
@Corporatefashionista
11 ай бұрын
His entire family is Looney. Poor communication and excuses to react with anger are definitely red flags. I would run and fast.
@cedes1983
Жыл бұрын
He need work on him first
@shemeckiaconner3175
11 ай бұрын
Some ppl be use things like psd to excuse how they act. The mother walking out.... for what???
@beccakavejata3215
10 ай бұрын
the number of times I heard PDST in this episode!!
@jennifercoleman3521
2 ай бұрын
GET THAT BABY OUTTA THERE! ONCE MY CHILDREN ARE FEELING SOME TYPE OF WAY I GOTTA GO.
@trueimage7974
Ай бұрын
The whole needs therapy in order to regulate their emotions. PTSD is no excuse for angry outburst and emotional dysfunction. People should stop using that in the wrong context
@Nsynced
11 ай бұрын
Wait a corpsman and have PTSD? Wartime? They usually have the easiest
@SweetLivingByGrace
3 ай бұрын
Not really. Half of the time is spent Fleet Marine Force, meaning his duty was with the Marine Corps. Navy provides medical services for the Marines and you're basically with them whenever they are deployed.
@talkswithtara7109
9 ай бұрын
His family is f’ed up
@B1Marshall
10 ай бұрын
crazy W people
@LeshaFBaby
3 ай бұрын
Oh hell nah him and his fily need extra meds and deep therapy it was a simple convo and they using ptsd to have outbursts and poor communication. And his sister just trying to be a part she was making no sense yelling then complaining no one can be heard
@DG-wd5wi
3 ай бұрын
His sister was totally disrespectful called his fiance a female dog and no one checked her smh girl run
@apriljoy425
11 ай бұрын
His mother set the tone for the poor communication and emotional outbursts in his family. It’s not going to stop.
@K_Love_777
11 ай бұрын
Yes. They all enable one another and for dang sure they know how to fake their emotions. Acting really is his thing.
@TondraCook
11 ай бұрын
His family is very hostile, one of the sisters called her the b- word. Their communication was disrespectful from the start. The behavior his mother showed is a significant indication that they're family communication is negative. Please remove yourself from this relationship and provide a safe place for you and your son.
@rockinwiththetruth2057
10 ай бұрын
@TondraCook she doesn't need to bring her son into a family dynamic like Justin's. His family needs therapy for their issues
@tikatikatikatika3066
4 ай бұрын
Will only get worse
@nikkiajackson6651
Жыл бұрын
If he can’t deal with his PTSD how is he ready to lead a family and be a father too a child
@amberbufkin8010
11 ай бұрын
Exactly!!!
@lindatita6610
11 ай бұрын
My goodness the way they just throw the word ptsd around and have unnecessary outbursts is insane. His mom and sister though pffff. What has ptsd got to do with their behaviour? Seems to me like they want to be babied ( maybe I’m spelling it wrong) because they have ptsd.
@forallthestupidshit3550
11 ай бұрын
You can be a father or head of the household with PTSD.
@marcellabenjamin6449
3 ай бұрын
Absolutely!
@umadox41
Жыл бұрын
He and his family not seeing that their behaviour is toxic and not conducive and instead his mum projecting that behaviour on to Solani's family is 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@a.sydney5036
11 ай бұрын
Tselani
@dollskull86
11 ай бұрын
Going to school 7 days a week, 15 hours a day?!?!?! Girl GET OUT!!!!! He's completely lying whether he is taking up medicine or jazz or whatever 🙄
@virgo7956
11 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@emmabristow8098
6 ай бұрын
Lmaoo I said the same thing I’m like wait a minute what film school takes up that much time. No way. He is not ready to even live with her. He needs to move out get his own place seek therapy for his PTSD and then they can see if it can work.
@savillewilliams
3 ай бұрын
Not jazz 😅😅😅
@XiiXiByNikki
Жыл бұрын
That Family Will Damage Anyone That Come Near It... People Beware
@tikatikatikatika3066
4 ай бұрын
I agree
@umadox41
Жыл бұрын
His mum storming off in the beginning 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@MrsLady-bg2kp
5 ай бұрын
She gonna ad to there problems
@LaS88709
Жыл бұрын
He’s a bit emotionally unstable and dishonest. Red flag 🚩 for me. She’s very matured and has a child. If she could see how he tensed up when his mom had a episode imagine her child who is probably a black young man. Run sis! You on tv now millions of eligible bachelors will know you now.
@LewisGirls
Жыл бұрын
Not them babying that grown man.. smh
@diamona2214
11 ай бұрын
Exactly🤔🤔🤔
@Mspamela444
Жыл бұрын
WHY DO WOMEN MARRY THESE TYPE OF MEN WITH ISSUES??? WHY TAKE ON SOMEONE'S ISSUES...I CHOOSE FREEDOM, PIEACE AND HAPPINESS!!!
@DarlingWheresthecoffee
11 ай бұрын
Cheers to peace darling
@Ms.HoneyH
11 ай бұрын
Yes, 💥
@icomeinpeace3756
11 ай бұрын
Desperation.
@mangoyacho
11 ай бұрын
well said!
@TishCane
4 ай бұрын
Feel like that’s all she deserves
@helenaivanka3767
11 ай бұрын
Unhinged and unpredictable. Justin and his family need medical intervention.
@diamona2214
11 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@temekarollins6007
11 ай бұрын
He's most definitely a liar. His mom thought he was in medical school getting his Masters, come to find out, it's film school. Then, he's supposedly at school 7 days a week, for a massive amount of hours, per day. He lied about telling his family about the engagement from fear of judgement. The son's concerns lead him to call his grandmother because he couldn't talk to his mom, yet, she was trying to make the point, to override her son's concerns, with but the have a pretty good relationship. Her son will not be a child, for much longer, she's going to put him a position to defend her, against a man who has PTSD, that could blink out and snap.
@nikkiajackson6651
Жыл бұрын
He and his family are an emotional mess girl run 🏃♀️
@jassh2610
11 ай бұрын
30:04 her sons ability to express himself and explain the WHY he went to his grandmother is amazing. I definitely feel like the groom’s family uses PTSD as a reason to behave poorly. I’m sure this is within the past 5 years so there are resources available to get help.
@karmen9514
11 ай бұрын
So true as a mother when I saw my child behaving like me without even being around during my breaks made me realize I needed help bc I was setting the tone. Had to be accountable and not use trauma as an excuse
@mangoyacho
11 ай бұрын
Why is he shouting at the dinner table. He is intense. Bride's mom just asked a simple question yet the response from the groom and his family is so over the top.
@vtaylor3106
Жыл бұрын
I hope she puts her and her child’s needs ahead of trying to walk a tight rope with this man’s mental issues. Hope he’s getting professional help
@mangoyacho
11 ай бұрын
Tselane are you serious? Please prioritise your son and dont expose him to such dynamics. There must be a reason why he did not tell his family about the engagement in the first place. The bride's mom is so wise and calm.
@kda8972
Жыл бұрын
His family is crazy.
@gertrudesmith6036
Жыл бұрын
The mama think she’s going to stabilize the relationship 😂. She just wants her son to herself.
@tranquilrabies
7 ай бұрын
"My blessing means a LOT. I'm gonna be dropping in ALL the time, largely unannounced! What's the problem?"
@SweetLivingByGrace
3 ай бұрын
I actually would have broken up with him immediately after that comment. No one invited her into their relationship and for his mother to invade like that is so disrespectful.
@JewelAdele
Жыл бұрын
And there it is ! Guys like him are the reason I don't date. I never want my 9 yr. old daughter to be scared in our home. My PTSD of not being protected as a child is my reason. Children shouldn't be sacrificed for companionship.
@keylacmckemp1309
Жыл бұрын
I don't think guys like him are the majority, though.
@olaines9154
11 ай бұрын
@@keylacmckemp1309exactly. Guys like him is why she doesn’t date? Lol
@mangoyacho
11 ай бұрын
@jaressmcclanahan7492 well said... you are so right about putting our children's safety and security above all else.
@brendawelch6477
Жыл бұрын
The groom families disturbed me at this point 😮😮😮😮
@umadox41
Жыл бұрын
Solani crying almost all the time. Justin not communicating and lying about telling his family but not actually telling them he got engaged 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Too many freaking 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Gurl' this ain't gonna work.
@meaganrgarrett
Жыл бұрын
She has a girlfriend now
@SunshineKK99
11 ай бұрын
@@meaganrgarrettWhaaaaaaaa????
@auzy2u845
10 ай бұрын
@@meaganrgarrett Prove it.
@jahbless2412
4 ай бұрын
@@auzy2u845Look it up Auzy lol who proving to a random person on KZitem girl bye lol
@emmiejnbaptiste8945
Жыл бұрын
He creeps me out.
@delsgurl4133
Жыл бұрын
His family is intense 😬🤐
@icomeinpeace3756
11 ай бұрын
If they were a darker shade yall would be calling them ghetto. Lol with the biracial they're intense. Call a spade a spade the family is gutter and ghetto
@umadox41
Жыл бұрын
Why does he have to increase the volume and pace of his voice whenever he is questioned? 🚩🚩🚩🚩
@easterbunnymomson130
11 ай бұрын
And she got young son around him that’s confused I’m sure how his mood changes left and right
@ambernoblin9863
2 ай бұрын
I believe so he can think of his next lie
@melanincandy7733
Жыл бұрын
Just an observation but they seemed to have more compassion for him crying than her.
@meaganrgarrett
Жыл бұрын
Update shes with a Woman now 🌈
@tiffanyday9129
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the update /damn sham
@gertrudesmith6036
Жыл бұрын
Whaaat!!! Well as long as she’s happy. Justin wasn’t it!
@waithiramaingi1415
Жыл бұрын
😮 okay
@olaines9154
11 ай бұрын
She was always with one.
@icomeinpeace3756
11 ай бұрын
He basically was one lol
@jerrseyy1088
11 ай бұрын
Eye opening.. Tselane is beautiful, articulate, loving.. her son is amazing! She deserves a man that is READY. Justin ain’t it. His family allows his “crutch” instead of really holding him accountable. That won’t change.
@SimplyAmbokile
Жыл бұрын
Why does everyone need to adjust to him? He’s making everything uneasy
@sharonharper6255
11 ай бұрын
Solani, go home with your family!!!! He is damaged and you aren't equipped to help him NOR change him!!!!!
@myishaholley4417
Жыл бұрын
He needs to stay with his mother. He wasn't ready to leave home yet!
@ilikepickles9568
11 ай бұрын
Her son is so sweet, great communicator and deserves more
@desstinydavis6662
10 ай бұрын
Once her son said no.. that should have been the end of it right there
@TigerLilyEverlasting
2 ай бұрын
Open and shut case.
@rissenorman
10 ай бұрын
The lil sister saying everyone is yelling...whole time its her family being erratic. They just have bad behavior, nothing to do w/ptsd
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