My boyfriend said we weren't going to workout, but the truth is that we could've, but he didn't want to. That's what goes through my head when I want to go back with him, I realize that if he truly loved me he would've done anything to make this work, no matter how many tries.
@alicja2360
8 жыл бұрын
+Cat M. OMG! Me too... This is so hard to understand at first. Hope everything will workout for the best
@amygeorgiasampson3170
8 жыл бұрын
that's exactly what just happened to me today I'm so heartbroken
@loveattime17
8 жыл бұрын
Verania Hinojosa that happened with me a few days ago omg. it was so hard
@justynawisniewska1213
6 жыл бұрын
Ahh totally my situation right now, you're totally right! It's either a lame excuse to not straight forward tell you their feelings for you faded or they have some personal issues they are incapable of dealing with. Hope all you guys moved on yet, I hope I'll be fine too eventually.
@jillian.jm09
5 жыл бұрын
this just happened to me and it sucks so much
@liisaak7955
9 жыл бұрын
My ex and i have only been dating for 9 months but i felt like he was the one. We broke up yesterday and I literally thought i was going to die. I was so overwhelmed. He WAS amazing but Lauren's right, people change. So everyone keep your head up, the right one is out there, just be happy you got rid of someone who isn't right for you. You're one step closer to the right one.
@privettam
8 жыл бұрын
The only breakup video on youtube (out of millions that I watched) that actually has some legit thoughts thank you, Lauren, I am happy I clicked on your video
@briannab4770
9 жыл бұрын
I'm only half way through this video and it's already helped me a lot. This is already things I know, but it's nice to have them re-iterated and put in front of my face. I'm so devastated, I had my heart broken 2 days ago. To make it so much worse and REALLY make sure I can't heal, his friend taken sadistic satisfaction in adding salt to the wound, teasing me in the most evil way, taking humor and laughing at my pain and found it amusing that I was crying and an emotional mess when I've been nothing but lovely, sweet and charming to him (the friend) for the entire duration of our relationship. I feel so used, abused and violated. I feel disgusted and devastated. It's the same situation as Lauren, we were never officially boyfriend - girlfriend, but we were extremely close, sexual and intimate and we frequently (him probably MORE so) discussed dating and being together and it was very transparent that we were romantically interested. Our relationship evolved very quickly, it was very sexual and intimate from the start because we couldn't believe the chemistry we had. He was inconsistent and would be so close with me one day, so distant the next. He would sometimes go days without talking to me. I tried to deal with it as elegantly as possible for the fear that I'd be perceived as some clingy stalker. I would honestly articulate my feelings and wow, the reconciliation would be amazing. He'd completely put my mind at rest by telling me how guilty he feels, how important and incredible I am, how he can't wait for things to go to "normal" and to just get so much closer with me. Things would be wonderful and close... for a day. I'd go to bed with a smile on my face, wake up the next day and I wouldn't fucking exist to him anymore. This happened over a couple weeks, distance, wonderful reconciliation, a repeating cycle. After a final reconciliation, the day went as normal before I went to bed, woke up the next day, messaged him and received no reply. Basically... he didn't fucking speak to me for 6 weeks, he absolutely refused to talk, he wouldn't tell me why, I would see him online, with his friends, playing games and he seemed perfectly happy. Can you imagine how devastating this is? Things were fine and then they just... weren't. His friend who I had also been close with who helped me out SO much and was such a sweetheart the first time this guy had been distant was now also very distant. When I asked to talk with his friend for a few minutes, he was absolutely vile and treated me like I was some pathetic stalker who was wasting his time. From then on, he treated me like a disposable piece of garbage that wasn't worthy of being in his presence, it was absolutely disgusting and just salt on the wound considering I was feeling so rejected. I was wondering why I, a lovely, friendly girl was being treated like shit. Trust me, with ANY other guy, I would walk away. As typical as it sounds, this man was just too perfect to walk away. No, he wasn't just "friendly, handsome, with a big penis and likes the same food as me.", I mean really, he fulfilled my specific list of requirements for a long-term relationship that no man has ever filled before and he was just shockingly compatible and perfect for me. I was enthralled by the idea of evolving our relationship as I know I can be unbelievably happy with someone like him. After 6 weeks of zero closure and messaging him a lot, trying to get him to communicate from EVERY angle, trying every fucking trick in the book, simply asking for 5 minutes to talk just to clarify what the hell is going on and why he's refusing to speak to me, I just needed closure. I told him that I don't care if he wants to walk away, delete me, tell me to fuck off or do whatever, I'm just completely unable to move on and heal if I have no closure. Finally, FINALLY after 6 weeks, I see "Oscar is typing..." on Skype. Holy shit, my heart was beating out of my chest, I was shaking. 6 freaking weeks of suspense and waiting and I was FINALLY going to get closure. I was so excited, even if it was some angry message about what a bitch I am, the thought of him leaving didn't scare me (well it did, but:), it was the thought of not getting any closure or reasoning that terrified me. He sent me a bizarre, short message and immediately blocked me. I was staring at the screen, I started to hyperventilate. My hand was on my chest, my heart beating, I started to cry and I was swaying on my chair, feeling like I was going to fall off and pass out and I felt like I was going to vomit. My vision went blurry and I was trying to read his message. I was desperately staring at the screen, intensely trying to read the message, but I was in such an emotional breakdown after 6 weeks of suspense, I was so discombobulated that I just could NOT read it, no matter how hard I tried. It was just like word-vomit on the screen, I couldn't comprehend the English words. My legs like jelly, I stood up and made my way to the phone, barely able to walk and hysterically crying and I called my brother. He couldn't understand a word I was saying because I was so hysterical. I had to put the phone down and just cry and cry. I read the message and it was bizarre. It was a quote from his friend, directly addressed to me and it was in a jokey and amusing fashion. It's a long story, but I contacted his friend and he was absolutely disgusting. He tormented me and it was like "Na na na na na, I know why he deleted you! Am I going to tell you?.... Naaaah! Suffer, bitch! Suffer!" This only exacerbated my hysteria to the point where I was practically begging him for the answer. At this point, I didn't give a shit about dignity or pride, I just NEEDED that answer so I can move on and heal, knowing that I'd probably never see either of them again. He found the whole thing funny and he was joking, tormenting and being cocky the entire time and now when I think of him, my skin crawls. What he was doing was so evil and sadistic, it makes me sick to my stomach, I don't like to think about it. It's been days, I have no idea what the fuck happened, I'm just mind-fucked. They're two strange, fucking weird, inexplicable guys without a care in the world. I was dragged along for 8 weeks by this "wonderful" guy and I honestly don't think he gave a single shit. Just to clarify, when I say he stopped talking to me... he still kept me on everything. He didn't delete me on anything. Not to mention literally the DAY before he stopped talking to me, he told me NOT to give him space as it would make things worse, NOT to hold in my feelings and that it's so fucking important for me to let everything out and NOT worry about being clingy. He's stated this multiple times so you can imagine how confused I am when he keeps me on everything but he's ignoring me as if he didn't want to talk to me. I was horribly torn between giving him space because he's not talking to me or attempting to communicate with him and rectify our issues since he said space would only make things worse. I feel so violated, depressed, disgusted and heartbroken and it makes me sick that they can sleep at night and continue on with their life, forgetting about me. What makes me feel ill is the thought that this monster can move on to some other girl without her having the slightest clue of the shit that he's put me through. I never got closure, I haven't healed in the slightest over these 6 weeks, I'm just as depressed, if not MORE depressed than I was and we were never even in a relationship, just very intimate, sexual and close.
@gabriellethibodeaux5544
9 жыл бұрын
Im going through basically the same thing.. i told him i think we should stop texting and he just said ok... like after 2 years of us talking and liking eachother he just says ok??? no ma'am. i feel the same way as you, used. it really sucks but its nice to know someone else is going through kinda of the same situation. and if he doesnt even care enough to ask why i told him this, giirrll hes not worth my time or any guy out there like this
@briannab4770
9 жыл бұрын
Gabrielle, I'm so glad you've come to the realization that he's not worth it. What the fuck? "Okay."?! Two years of talking and "Okay?!"... shit, you are worth so much more than that. This will probably be hard for you. There will probably be times where you miss him and feel the impulse to contact him, but it's SO important that you're elegant about this situation and every time you feel one of these painful pangs, you simply smile and say in your mind "I'm so happy, I'm so thankful." in order to reprogram your mind's frequencies. Think about why you like him. Do you like him because he's perfectly compatible with you? Because he fulfills your specific needs, enhances and complements you? Does he enrich and nourish you? And I'm not just talking about giving you butterflies and making you feel happy. Romantic compatibility goes way beyond just "He has a six-pack and he's so nice and really likes me! We like the same food and movies!" I'm talking about specific requirements that're being met to ensure he fulfills you. If he's just "nice" and "flirty" and feels good to talk to, ha! There are SO many of those guys out there. If he wanted you, right now, he would be texting you and making time for you. If he feels for you, guess what? He would be making some damn time to talk to you right now. People don't avoid talking to people they like. I really do hope you move on gracefully and find someone who loves the hell out of you, girl. :)
@meggie162
9 жыл бұрын
Charley Victoria James That's absolutely horrible and the it's the most cruel way to end a relationship. I know it's normal to feel depressed and hurt by this but i always say to myself why should i get upset over someone who doesn't get upset over me? If he was cruel enough to do all that to you then he's not worth your tears. I know it's easier said than done but think of it this way, would you really want to be with someone that vile? You deserve so much better and i'm sorry you didn't get any closure but you'll move on from this one day. x
@briannab4770
9 жыл бұрын
Toxique Thank you so much, really. :) That's so unbelievably sweet, I'm really happy you say this. I am feeling so much better, but by no means can I say I'm completely healed. I will get to a point where I'm truly happy again, but for now, while I have recovered immensely, it still stings and I hold a lot of resentment. I wish I didn't have this void in my past where I look back and just think "What?! Why?! What the actual fuck?". And it's scary because it all happened so fast. Literally within a matter of weeks, he walked into my life, fucked me over and walked out. It's easier to think of him as just a shitty figment of my past, but then I realize... he's actually still here, right NOW, doing something. Whether that be eating, chilling with his friends, playing video games, he's still doing things as I type this and could EASILY message me right NOW and apologize, but that's not going to happen. I'm really so much better though and feeling happiness everyday. Thank you for your support, my darling. :)
@meggie162
9 жыл бұрын
Aww no problem! :) I've been through something similar so i can sort of relate and i know how awful it is, especially when you feel a lot of anger, resentment and regret, I know exactly what you mean. At least you are making progress from before, it does take a while to heal from something like this. The day will come when you'll be able to get over the anger and confusion that you feel, i'm sure you'll also be glad that you got rid of someone like him from your life. He sounds so immature and pathetic.
@DNEFamily
9 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend left me for his ex, I felt so sad because I thought I wasn't good enough for him... This video made me feel so much better
@Ballerz24
9 жыл бұрын
Idk why he would leave you if you really are beautiful af! No lie about that, and I mean it in a respectful way 😊😍. I subscribed to your channel but plz make more videos plz 🙈
@ariacha3491
8 жыл бұрын
+Bob Parker i think that this is not the right way to go. Success is good but without love u will not be happy. U have to find friends and people that fit u and love u ! Because everyone deserves love every human being. Do not confuse love with other things. Once we are healthy and god has blessed us with valued life i think that we should be happy with what we have and move on to the next step which is to create good relathionships and memories. This is how we honor the present we have... We cannot do many things to help the whole as long as the big "bosses" control us... Although, when we are available (economically and conditionally) we can help as volunteers people in need... ✌
@ariacha3491
8 жыл бұрын
+Bob Parker i think u r wrong. u need to be in love. Its ok to be strong but what about family? what about love? im sure that u will find ur other half some time and i hope u will be perfect together. im in the level that i try to work things out with my man... but he doesnt seem to be interested... 😞
@ariacha3491
8 жыл бұрын
+Bob Parker u act like robot. What about family?
@ceridwengillespie8002
8 жыл бұрын
Oh my god same saME SAME
@lucyevelyn4833
10 жыл бұрын
I just broke up with my first real boyfriend, he was perfect and everything was perfect until he randomly said that he doesn't have feelings anymore and just thinks were different, but how can you go from loving someone to having no feelings towards them at all? the worst thing was he broke up with me over text then was tweeting things that showed he didn't even care about me, and was talking to another girl while we were together😔 this video has helped me thankyou 💗
@sharonlee402
10 жыл бұрын
this is like reading exactly what happened to me. i hope you're okay
@lucyevelyn4833
10 жыл бұрын
I'm getting better thankyou! i hope you're okay also! xxx
@alexandradobbing4344
10 жыл бұрын
lucy evelyn me too. Life sucks!
@lucyevelyn4833
10 жыл бұрын
i hope you're okay:) x
@TaylorHansen
10 жыл бұрын
Holy shit. This is literally what just happened to me..,
@ayatchafaqui
8 жыл бұрын
I wish I could tell you then that you were gonna meet Reece ❤️
@gracekellman8049
8 жыл бұрын
Hi Lauren, I know this video is so old, but I wanted to tell you that I still watch it every time I have boy problems. Although I haven't needed to watch it in 8 months, my friend's boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with her so I told her about this video and sent the link. Thank you for everything
@11SportLover
9 жыл бұрын
This video was a massive help. My boyfriend broke up with me last night. His reasoning was, I don't want a relationship. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. But everything you said in this video made me feel so much better!! He doesn't deserve my time, tears or thoughts! I'm amazing and I'll find someone who loves me and treats me right :) Lauren, thankyou ❤️
@kesharoseserbert12
8 жыл бұрын
He just left with no explanation just when we were better than ever. That hurt really bad because I never knew the reason. But I guess, after so much tears it's time to move on. Great video, the best one I've seen on "how to get over a break up".
@88georgiasfinest
8 жыл бұрын
I watch this daily its been a month since the break up this is my 30th view
@Stephanie6758
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you lauren, this has helped me so much, literally got broken up with 2 days ago and he said its not you its me and i dont know what i want. and he broke it off over text what a coward. Thank you for giving me clarity
@cristinamarie511
9 жыл бұрын
+Stephanie Gridley (Griddlez) I was broken up with two days ago too! He said he didnt know what he wanted either and he just cant be with me... :P Girl I know what youre going through!
@Stephanie6758
9 жыл бұрын
+cristina Marie awww that sucks I'm sorry, everyday I'm feeling better,what are you doing to feel better? the way I'm copeing is remembering that he's never gonna find another girl like me that was willing to be there for him through everything.we will get through this they've lost the best things to ever happen to them.
@cristinamarie511
9 жыл бұрын
Thats so true! I just keep reminding myself that he's really no good for me. He just wasnt serious about anything at all in life and he really didnt have much to offer. We will get through this :)
@crystalchaiyee
9 жыл бұрын
Oh baby girl, I know it sucks right now but trust me you don't wanna be with someone who doesn't know what they want! You don't wanna ever be with someone who has doubts about you. I had that happen to me and it was devastating... Just realize that better is so much out there and i would never wannabe with someone who had the nerve to leave me anytime...
@crystalchaiyee
9 жыл бұрын
You'll find someone who truly truly loves you. The this is all growth and even though it super super super fucking sucks! It helps to grow... I've seen my ex a couple times and it still tugs at my heart a little but I would never wanna get back with him. I learned so much about myself and it has been the toughest 6 months of my life so far at the heart... But I grew and I know better I'll find better. I have decided to let love find me and I'll be okay... I've done my fair share of being good to other people and helping other people, someone will pop up for my good karma one day. If you are also religious, pray often. If not, just be happy and be positive!
@alyssaowings7568
9 жыл бұрын
I was just broken up with by my boyfriend of almost 4 years just 3 days ago. The day before we started our senior year of high school. It just blows my mind because he changes his mind within 24 hours when he does this. We're perfect one day, and the next everything is different. It's crazy. And it hurts so so SO bad. But time will heal. Thank you for this video ❤ ❤
@ashleys8529
9 жыл бұрын
In Between The Lines I'm in the same situation with my boyfriend of three years. Glad to hear I'm not the only one :(
@LaurenLaguzQueen
9 жыл бұрын
In Between The Lines I feel so bad for you. I have a crush but not a boyfriend before. Anyway. Whenever I try to hang out with him, a girl comes over and started flirting like crazy. Then she turns his brain into MUSH!! Like who does THAT?! Crazy, huh?
@alakiabeharry2325
9 жыл бұрын
In Between The Lines single is better
@LindseyFlowerTv
8 жыл бұрын
+In Between The Lines how are you now?
@alyssaowings7568
8 жыл бұрын
I'm great. For us, we got back together and have been good for over a year now. Thanks for asking (:
@angelicacarrillo2491
9 жыл бұрын
6 years and bam out of nowhere ! He never had time for me yet now that we're broken up he has ALL the time in the world to hang out with friends but would make up any excuse to get out of hanging with me
@rubatsch1713
9 жыл бұрын
+Angelica Carrillo now YOU must find time for YOURSELF and appreciate and love yourself in the healthiest of ways
@hayleeoneill1163
8 жыл бұрын
Doesn't matter how much I watch this, never gets old! Spot on🙌🏽
@xislaboyle
9 жыл бұрын
Lovely seeing the thumbnail of your boyfriend tag with your new boyfriend who you seem really happy with at the side in 'up next', it shows there is hope and things do get better and that made me feel much better :) thank you x
@emryschneeweis9759
9 жыл бұрын
This video was honestly what I needed to hear. I'm only in high school but I still can relate to all of what you said. I have my everything to one person and he just decided to give up on me. I tried the lets be friends thing to but I realized me coming back to him showing him I need him in my life is losing respect for myself. I've experienced this pain twice with the same person and trust me it hurts. The biggest revenge to him is showing him I moved on and that's what I'm gonna do. I really am Thankful I saw this video. And for anyone who is having trouble just like me never be with someone who doesn't put you first it will all get better with time it truly has for me
@charlieprince310
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you. My now exGF broke up me out of the blue, and honestly I was really good to her. I was generous, selflish, charming, and I treated her like my queen. Though we were only together for 2 months, I felt like she was the one. She offered to be friends, but chilling with her after the break up. She turned into totally different person. I wanted to believe that she would realized my worth in her life and that she would give me another chance at loving but it just became to cold. Those times of chilling as friends was as if she purposely making me dislike her.. I'm now realising to just accept the break up as is and not contacting her at all. Since not contacting her , she hasn't contacted me either. I now believe she doesn't want my friendship either. I think she was scared of commitment and knew that she didn't see any future me thinking breaking up with me now would easier than now than later. It hurts to think that she can just put all the great memories aside and to never think of them again and to act as if I was never part of her life. I'm letting go and moving on. Today always had a tomorrow, though I human with rnotions I have my life and my own friends and family that love me. I know fate had something great for me in the future. I enjoyed this video. To others reading this and can relate, keep your head up. Anybody wild be lucky to have you in their life. This isn't the end, this is a new beginning.
@romanticdove
10 жыл бұрын
I know how you feel. On thursday the day after christmas, my boyrfeind broke up with me. I gave everything to the relationship and he said that he could never love me. So he played me for 2 weeks instead of telling me he was unhappy.
@adamsapple4350
10 жыл бұрын
I'm going through the same thing right now, and what you said really made a difference.
@MissCookiiie93
10 жыл бұрын
Gem Hayes it happened to me too. I invested my everything to make him happy. And he said that he doesnt share the same thing... we were together for 1year and a half.... he said that I am the best thing that happened to him...and I am such a good girl, amazing and everything but he said that he couldn't love me as much as I love him... what is happening to you now ?
@redbeany1016
8 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend broke up with me today I'm dying inside
@izabellarose762
6 жыл бұрын
me too
@mahmodberwari3439
6 жыл бұрын
how do you feel rn
@Rhirhi92
10 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend broke up with me last night out of no where.. EVERYTHING you said was exactly how I felt! He was a nice guy who treated me like no one has ever treated me and who I pictured spending the rest of my life with! It sucks so much knowing the guy I loved and would do ANYTHING for just doesn't feel the same towards me anymore and it's a kick in the guts! Anyway I had seen this video before and came to your channel to search for it hoping to feel a little better about the situation and OMG!! I feel one thousand times better!! It's still hard and is the worst feeling ever at the moment, but everything you said rings so true!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU you have no idea how much you've helped! XOXOX
@jeremydobb4524
9 жыл бұрын
Your video has helped me so much! Invested a lot of myself in a relationship neither of us was ready for. Im moving on now, learned that I have to love myself before I can anyone else and that nothing great comes from depending on someone to make you happy. Heres an internet hug and and thank you so much!
@junhui9870
8 жыл бұрын
I just broke up with my BF today and this helps
@PanDaL0v3r11
8 жыл бұрын
Me too
@georgiacobley3393
8 жыл бұрын
Me three
@aimeecaldwell3639
8 жыл бұрын
Me four
@tofu6079
8 жыл бұрын
Me five
@susiejensen6877
8 жыл бұрын
Lps P!ATD same
@LaurenLovesBeauty97
8 жыл бұрын
2 year relationship ended a few days ago, I'm distraught
@amygeorgiasampson3170
8 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry I know your pain💜💜
@makaylahuthmacher
8 жыл бұрын
OneMakeupAtATime same here.. we broke up last night... it hurts sooo bad
@LaurenLovesBeauty97
8 жыл бұрын
Aww guys, message me if you want :/ It's been 6 weeks for me now and I still feel crappy but it's getting better x
@StartaeBrown
8 жыл бұрын
me and my ex broke up. after a week he had sex with someone else then moved in with her. But he still wants to be with me. I hate this 😭
@LaurenLovesBeauty97
8 жыл бұрын
Omg me and my ex broke up twice and both times he slept with someone within a week :/ Now we have nothing to do with each other
@crystalsharman6823
8 жыл бұрын
This just made things seem so clear. My ex broke up with 2 days ago a day after our 7 day holiday away, after almost a 5 year relationship ! For months he would tell me he didnt know what he wanted and he was confused about his future as a whole. I would ask if he saw me in it. If he wanted to be with me. He just kept saying i dont know. I cant answer that. Now i know he kept saying this and went on the holiday with me because he was too scared to hurt me or to break my heart. Finally he has done the right thing and freed me. I cant wait till i find the light at the end of the tunnel and although i love him i know in my heart that there is someone else out there that wont doubt me but will just know. The longer i dwell on this , the longer it will take for me to find him.
@LaurenElizabethKnight
7 жыл бұрын
Thankyou so much for this video,Im going through a breakup and we're still carrying things on together but this has made me realise that what I want isn't what he wants . This is what I really needed right now 💓💓💓
@RazzleDazzale
10 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me a few days ago! He told me I'm so amazing, and he's crazy about me! Haha, then why are we breaking up?
@InTenYears
10 жыл бұрын
same… i don't even understand what happened
@consbourne
10 жыл бұрын
most boys are afraid to like someone too much, they're not ready to let their hearts go... believe me, it's definitely true. I'm here to try to help a friend who is asking herself the same questions as you...
@InTenYears
10 жыл бұрын
He texted me and say that he misses me what is wrong with him gosh
@consbourne
10 жыл бұрын
that's exactly what my friend's ex told him... they're complicated. You just have to find a way to keep your mind busy until you eventually get over him, hard as it is, it works
@InTenYears
10 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@filipiova
9 жыл бұрын
This book should be on the compulsory reading list in schools. Thanks for the tip, Lauren
@alyssanava1458
9 жыл бұрын
This honestly clicked in my brain so well. Even though I couldn't let this amazing sweet guy care for me because I wasn't used to it, I can learn from that and remember how amazing it feels being treated special.
@gracelacoba2676
5 жыл бұрын
6 years later.. I'm up to my third break up so this is the third time I've watched this. Still makes me feel so much better.
@andreahenriquez4418
10 жыл бұрын
You know, there are only to possibilities at the end of the road of a break up ; Either you move on completely, find someone else and be happy...Or you never get over each other, get back together and be happy. I know its tough, but hold on because there are only to ways out, and both lead to happiness. Sooner or later, the pain will end. Give it time and be strong.
@pollypauline143
10 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend cheated, acted like it was no biggie cause he just didn't love me anymore. I realized he was only thinking about himself. I told him he promised he wouldn't do this to me after he asked to get back together the first time. "Well shit happens". Of course I cried, but then I realized I shouldn't. He didn't care that he hurt you, he didn't care that he made a promise. Why would I want a guy who didn't care? I don't, I feel surprisingly good.
@livthecozynerd
10 жыл бұрын
my story is almost exactly like yours. I just got dumped yesterday. We dated for 7 months almost 8 this month.
@sh5561
10 жыл бұрын
Olivia Smith My boyfriend broke up with me a couple days ago as well, saying he doesn't love me anymore after 4 years of dating.
@livthecozynerd
10 жыл бұрын
Oh wow well im sorry :( mine was only for 7 months but it was the most serious relationship ive ever had
@MissCookiiie93
10 жыл бұрын
Stephanie Hartlen wow it just happened to me too... what happened to you :(?
@anadeals3881
8 жыл бұрын
That "I don't know " bit is so true . Why do they say that ? It's like we all know it , just say it ! My ex said that to me . So dumb .
@Tfa_96
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I really needed this. After a very long term relationship my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday after he came back from a vacation. He said a relationship can't work when one person isn't happy otherwise its forced. I respect him for telling me face to face but it doesn't change the fact I've been crying and eating nutella over youtube videos. However when I came across this video I totally understood where you were coming from. Thank you so so much. It lightened up my day!
@ashleighwilsonxo
10 жыл бұрын
Amazing advice. Really helpful. I've been in a horrible dark place since my ex broke up with me. You've taught me that this isn't the end, I will find someone to treat me right. Thank you so much.
@SusanneTherese92
9 жыл бұрын
How about when the person who breaks up with you, is the nicest guy ever... he treated me like a queen, like i was the center of his universe, and i was too, but eventually he just stopped loving me... I have no words on how painful this is, but I have lost all faith in love.
@iluvdance246
9 жыл бұрын
It happened to me today too. I was the center of his universe then he just started losing feelings in one day. It hurts so much. Just knowing that : (
@tillytonkovic9741
11 жыл бұрын
I'm going through the exact same thing now-first guy i've ever gone out with, really liked him and thought he liked me too, very short within 2 months he left me broken with only a text saying lets just be friends. Advise to men: Do NOT lead a girl on, even if you think it will be hard to tell her straight out you don't see her in that way. It is going to be hard, but ignoring her will make it even harder.
@simplyxnai
11 жыл бұрын
Right isnt it better for the guys just to tell us why rather then ignoring us because thats what im going through. I rather him just be straight up about it rather than ignore me all together. :(
@Fantagehailey123
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the advice, it helped me a lot. I had met a guy 3 years back, and we actually started out as best friends, but then he asked me out and we became a happy couple, I guess you could say. He has an Australian accent (which I adore), called me princess, all the adorable names in the book, had an amazing personality, treated me better than any guy ever has, to be honest. Until one day. I have clinical depression, and I went to him for support and help, since I was basically bawling my eyes out, from personal things. He had a cold, so he told me I was taking away from his, 'relaxing' time. That made me feel pretty shitty, because he obviously didn't care about how I was feeling. I apologized, quickly saying it would only take 5 minutes to express my feelings. He told me I was being selfish, which made me a bit confused. It lead into an argument about how I wanted him to listen to me, and how he wanted me to let him relax, etc.. He told me we wouldn't work out, which made me extremely upset. I told him how all I wanted, for 5 minutes, was his love, support and help. Then, I tried to get him back, (being the pathetic person I am) and said, "I love you." then he said, "Sorry, I can't return those feelings." which broke my heart completely. I have no words. I'm still hurting a lot from this, and all my confidence is gone. I don't know what to do...Thanks if you read this, it feels good to let it out.
@frktonjehansen
9 жыл бұрын
I have been were you are now! It really sucks! I do miss him tho, but I really really needed this video!
@elizabethosullivanxo2584
9 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend just broke up with me today but the worst thing is I'm still absolutely in love with him😭😭😭
@shayerifaruk5028
9 жыл бұрын
I feel you he did the samething today to, forget those little critters he doesnt deserve a beautiful girl like you anyways!
@12nerdynerd12
9 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend of a year broke up with me because he going off to college and has work and his mom, it hurts because when we were breaking up he said he loved me but we haven't actually seen each other for a while mostly because of work and he said he doesn't want a girlfriend right now and it hit home so hard.
@Jozcuu
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot for this video. I broke up with my boyfriend about two months ago and now I could watch this video without "no you're so wrong" and "you don't know how I felt" - feelings inside me. All that you say makes sense right now and I have moved on even a little bit. It still hurts, because it was three and a half years beeing with him. Now everything that is gone and I feel lost in my new life. At first, I felt that I'm completely alone in this world, but now I can defenetly see light in the end of the tunnel. So yeah, just wanted to say thank you to be a slap on my face and say things how they are! I'll write the book also, because it's time to learn something :-)
@sara326_
9 жыл бұрын
seriously this is the best video ever!!! i have been watching it 24-7 it's helped me with all of my relationship problems and now im at a really good point in my life
@DavisAshmon899
8 жыл бұрын
My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago and he kept saying I don't know . All he told me was I don't know about everything. Omg I'm so devastated, I haven't heard from him in a week. He's already dating other girls.
@MrJessicacotter85
8 жыл бұрын
You are worth so much more
@DavisAshmon899
8 жыл бұрын
+Jessica Cotter I still haven't heard from him and I keep checking his Instagram. I don't know why I keep cyber stalking
@MrJessicacotter85
8 жыл бұрын
+Ashley Davis know you are worth so much more than someone who doesn't know what he wants! Delete him of social media, trust me it's hard but you won't regret it in the end. Don't worry that you haven't heard from him he wasn't worth your time or your tears as Lauren would say
@DavisAshmon899
8 жыл бұрын
+Jessica Cotter I'm pregnant by him and he said he didn't want anything to do with me or the baby. He's just living his life. His family was like maybe she's not pregnant. But he knew I was before he broke up with me, I've been trying to focus on me and my pregnancy but it's hard I'm carrying his child and he's ignoring me like I don't exist.
@MrJessicacotter85
8 жыл бұрын
+Ashley Davis only just seen this I'm so sorry to hear that, you need to try and act strong and independent in this difficult situation. If he knows you are doing okay and don't need him in your life despite the fact you have had a baby he will probably be completely shocked and will end up coming back to you. Know your worth as I said even if you are carrying his baby, he doesn't seem worth your time trust me
@yh2059376
10 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Thanks for making the video
@AubreyZettler
7 жыл бұрын
I just want to say thank you so much for posting this. You said exactly what I needed to hear. By the end of your video I was crying so much and just wanted a hug and it warmed my heart that you provided an internet hug for me! Thank you, thank you, thank you! We have such relatable stories and it makes me happy to hear that you got through it and aren't in that dark place anymore. I just can't believe a guy did that to you because you seem literally perfect!
@MathBananas
10 жыл бұрын
This made me feel a thousand times better, it's the best advice I've heard of. It's exactly what I needed :) My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, and from what you said, I can now gather that even though we're done, he isn't a total jerk afterall. He did text me after our breakup, to make sure I was ok, and we talked the next day too, agreeing to be friends and such. This video really helped! Sharing this to my friends if they ever experience something like this :D
@ookie2k
9 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend of over 2 years just broke up with me last week. I'm 30 and thought i would be spending the rest of my life with him. I thought today that i just couldn't cope because i still love him and i'm devastated. I've been texting him tonight saying i miss him because i was hoping he would text me back saying the same but one thing on this video kind of clicked with me. If he had the guts to end things, then if he still loved me and wanted to be with me then he would have the guts to tell me so. This video has really helped. Thank you so much x
@elisabethalderado5534
10 жыл бұрын
Another inspirational video, this time on how to deal with break-ups. I've had the same experiences as you, and even though the book seems very simplified and indulging in somewhat cliché-based stylistics, it rings a bell with me as well. Anyways, thank you for another great video, Lauren. PS: You don't have to hide what happened surrounding the break-up, when it's very clear in your demeanor and speech that he broke up with you. And I really don't mean anything bad with that. The title could be called "How to deal with being broken up with." But in any case I'm sorry you had to have that experience. Keep on fighting and doing what you do :)
@Mrladypineapple
8 жыл бұрын
Just re-discovered this video after a bad break up - Thanks for making me feel empowered and on-track again Lauren, summed it up so well xxx
@coraliecameron3610
10 жыл бұрын
this has helped so much thank you so much for posting this. i recently broke up with my boyfriend and after watching this video it has honestly made me realise that it wasnt a good relationship. i seemed to be the only one trying and although he was sweet at times he could be an absolute prick at other times. i see know that i was always making excuses for his behaviour but everyone was right he didnt treat me the way i should be treated. great video Lauren xx
@linettesanchez9955
10 жыл бұрын
That's how I feel. The relationship ended 3 days ago after 3 years. And I was putting in all the effort and whenever she did one thing nice, I could never bring up how I was the only one trying because she'd remind me of the one thing she did. Made my emotions feel invalid.
@southafricalove6405
9 жыл бұрын
this has really resonated with me. the advice is as if you were speaking to my situation and has really helped me thank you-honestly keep this stuff up. i also like the whole thing of skipping the song instead of dwelling and being sad about it. its ok to just move on
@sablewilliams458
9 жыл бұрын
I can't explain how much this has helped me. I searched for a video to 'how to get over a break up' to distract me, I didn't know I needed this so much. Cheers! Xx
@Spidey-hl9tv
10 жыл бұрын
So guys aren't allowed to be heartbroken when we get broken up with? Typical women views. Oh we're the only ones who get heartbroken! Guys are evil! Except guys who hit us! We love them!
@sarahisnotgettingup4306
10 жыл бұрын
not all women feel that way. guys have every right to feel heartbroken its just that girls are generally more sensitive.
@hurtmeloveme
10 жыл бұрын
I can smell the fedora.
@Spidey-hl9tv
10 жыл бұрын
I don't own a fedora. I burn fedoras
@AriMari26
10 жыл бұрын
alex phillips Personally I dont think boys can't be heartbroken, the issue is boys always hide their feelings and make it appear like nothing hapenned...at least Im talking about my bf that broke up with me a week ago and now talk to me like we are friends and no feelings...the same guy that said I was the love of his life.... That's why at the end women look more sensible because we show our feelings, almost all of us.
@KaizokuBankaiFlash
10 жыл бұрын
Well I got heartbroken yesterday, she screwed me over real bad, should have realised it and stopped before I got hurt this bad
@lindseytschauner8496
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. My boyfriend of 3 years just ended our relationship a couple of days ago. I'm so hurt and feel so lost and have so many questions, and this video really gave me a more positive outlook. I know everything's going to be alright, but it sucks right now.
@Sarahhhh33
10 жыл бұрын
Every time i dwell over my ex or miss him or want to call or text him i watch this video and it helps alot to help stop me from making stupid choices that i would regret anyways. Thanks Lauren gorgeous girl xox
@alexkg1
10 жыл бұрын
Thank You Lauren! Even as a guy, I really needed this. I just broke up with my ex-GF. We both knew this day would come, but I don't think I could ever be prepared for this regardless. We were only together for 6 months but I cared for her more than anyone I have ever been with. I went to pick up the last of my stuff at her place today and I didn't realize how hard it would hit me. I don't cry over breakups but I couldn't stop crying since the moment I saw her again till now.
@suzettemunoz4996
9 жыл бұрын
Everything you say in this video is so true and it helps a ton , I know everything you said is pretty much common sense but it's great hearing it from someone else like if you are my older sister or something ! The comments also help a lot it makes me realize that I'm not alone and everyone goes through this and just reading them makes me feel so much better !
@ShawAlice97
10 жыл бұрын
This video has really helped with the realisation of the fact that he actually doesnt want you! Thank you so much Lauren!! i love your make up videos and now i love this video. Helped me see it in another perspective
@GypsyRock
8 жыл бұрын
Read that book about 6 years ago and it WAS helpful. Highlighted about half of it. One of the things that helped (which I did this week again due to recent breakup) was to rearrange furniture or buy some new because it helps create new frame of mind especially if u spent a lot of time with them in that house and with that furniture layout. Funny as it sounds it works.
@LaurenElizabethKnight
6 жыл бұрын
i remember the first time i watched this video and still to this day,5 years later i am coming back to watch it. to help myself heal and get over my breakup.thankyou for this!
@katebennett5375
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This video is just amazing for anyone who has gone through a break up of any kind whether you were with the person, getting with them or if it was unrequited. Every person deserves someone who treats them like you are there everything!
@sldlal1
11 жыл бұрын
My husband recently left our 9yr old daughter and I for another "girl". We were forced to move from our home to go live with a family member. He wanted us back for a week then moved on to another "girl" who is 18 yrs younger than me. He and I were together 13 yrs. Needless to say it is now over. Im glad I watched this video. Thanks for the advice! Youre great and I needed that hug!
@sophie198Xxxx
9 жыл бұрын
I was in denial for SO long after my breakup - I had it in my heart he would come back...It was so unexpected and he never gave me a proper reason for it. This video opened my eyes and they are words I needed to hear, and hopefully I can move on completely.
@daneeshaspouse
10 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for this Lauren, i recently got out of a two year relationship with an amazing person and the situation was similar to what you are describing here. its been really difficult and I've felt so lost and confused, but watching something like this completely changes my mindset and helps so much. you're incredible. thank you! x
@izzylilya2370
8 жыл бұрын
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday, and my situation is similar in that he was a really nice guy. But it just didn't work out... and this really helped! Thanks for making this video, now I'm ready to look after myself and get on with my life x
@annarogers7670
9 жыл бұрын
Lauren, you are an absolute angel you really are. I hope you get the time to read this, but right now I'm lost just been broken up with after years of being together and I needed some kind of closure I really think this is what I needed, I'm actually smiling and no one has been able to get me to smile all day thank you so much for your honesty because I need it, love a fan xx
@juliaamanda7005
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this helped so much! my bf broke up with me two days ago, my experience was EXACTLY like yours, we ended on good terms, but I knew he was unhappy being with me so i let him go even though i wasn't ready..i have been in a dark place since then, but watching this has mad things brighter! Thank you so so so so much!(:
@sofibarreiro5431
10 жыл бұрын
I'm in a very bad place right now and this honestly helped me out. Thank you Lauren.
@brendaMIleyLOveR
8 жыл бұрын
Even though it's been 3 years I always come back to this when I'm going through boy problems! Thank you!
@courtcakes369
11 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me about 6 weeks ago and I have been really struggling since then, I am truly in love with him and have never had anyone like him before- not even the guy that I dated for 3 years. This video really helped a lot and I finally had the courage to actually watch it.
@Kennedysobczak
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you soooo much for putting up this video. I have been struggling with my break up from my ex boyfriend of 3 years and I was really struggling. But now I feel like I know what I can do to get over him and the whole break up in general. Thank you sooo much :)
@fghxoify
8 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for this! my ex broke up with me a week ago saying he didn't care about me or my feelings and I'm so hurt. this video helped me understand what i really should be doing, and although it's hard i need to move on. thank you lauren!
@mermaidcaaat6354
9 жыл бұрын
He broke up with me a few hours ago and it feels awful, but your video has given me hope. Thanks Lauren
@beauty4god12
10 жыл бұрын
I just got broken up with this last week. I found out through a friend via text. His mom cut off communication between us ( long story ) and so he ended it with me through her. We hadn't even gone on our first date yet. I met him before I was allowed to date and he moved away that same year. We were waiting for each other.. until we could be together again. I waited over 2 years for him; going through a lot of crap with his mom and his family hating me and him not being able to get here to see me. And then finally he decided he didn't want to fight anymore... he didn't think I was worth all the fights he had with his mom. But you know what? I am worth it. I'm not trying to be cocky or anything, but I put so much work into our relationship that I did not deserve to get dumped, especially the way he did it. So I had a burn party in my backyard with my best friend and burned all the things I could that he gave me or reminded me of him. Now I am going to send him the things I couldn't burn. I need to move on and be done with him. Thank you for this video. It helped ♡
@wowso4
10 жыл бұрын
Good for you darling, and your right you are worth it. I'm so going through the same thing I was talking to a guy that was long distance for 5 month and we basically hit it off so well I really thought he could be the one but he kept lying about things and I decided to do the NO contact for 30 days but after 8 days of him calling me I send me a message saying he was never going to contact me again and that I was going to Delete my number. I was of course Devastated I couldn't believe he would give up on our relationship just like that after only 8 days of calling me. It made me Realise I'm worth so much more and that a man that loved me wouldn't just give up on me like that specially with him knowing he was in the wrong. So even though its hard I'm moving on with my life :(
@taliabeauty08
10 жыл бұрын
This video was SOOO helpful! I'm going through the EXACT same thing you went through.. and it sucks but I realize I can't make myself miserable missing this guy when he does not want to be with me as bad as I want him. It's tough, but I realize I have to move on cause that is the best thing for me...Thank you for this video, it honestly really helped out a lot:)
@ladymcphee
10 жыл бұрын
You handle your break-up incredibly well. You didn't bitch about him at all and you came across as very classy IMO. And the fact that you posted this shows that you were willing to put your ego aside. So glad I watched this, it helps
@LidyFrucht
11 жыл бұрын
OMG you actually replied to my comment! U have no idea how I freaked and jumped around my place. so happy!!! Ur amazing and such an inspiration to not only me but to other poeple too! Ur truly beautiful from the inside and the outside!
@firetiger702
10 жыл бұрын
thanks, going through this now. 5 year relationship...and he changed so much. he was mentally done with me, but didn't tell me on the right time, dragged it out and hurt me more. why are some men such cowards.
@ErikaVerduzco
9 жыл бұрын
I'm not doing my very best right now, I've been coming back to this video quite often for help ! Thanks Lauren :)
@ShailajaMallick
11 жыл бұрын
I just broke up with my boyfriend a few days back. He was d love of my life. I used to also date jerks before i met him. He was the first genuinely nice guy I had ever had in my life. After we broke up I felt like I would never find someone as wonderful as him and I thought I was probably doomed to meeting jerks for the rest of my life. But this video has really helped me out a lot. Thanks a million!! I am so relieved that I'm not the only one going through this and that hope is stil out there.
@hongdao15
8 жыл бұрын
Hi Lauren,I totally can relate to you when you said that it such a shock to me when I finally met someone who treated me so well and respected me because I've never had that before, so it was hard for me to let go. But thank you for making me realize that although he seemed like the guy of my dreams, if he really was I wouldn't be feeling the way I do now. I deserve better. I believe we all deserve the best! Thanks for making my realize this, much love to you Lauren. xo - Lisa
@Labelmehayley
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video.... My boyfriend dumped me through text pretty much just changing his mind, and I kept coming up with reasons or excuses for why he did it and it never did me any good. Watching this has given me such a perspective -- people change their minds. It happens. Thank you for helping out a broken hearted lady
@maritspitz6180
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooo much for doing this video. This is exactly true what you are talking about. Most people forget themselves or change themselves (which is quite the same thing) for the ones who they think they "love". I hope I'll meet one day the right guy who appreciate me as I am and support me with what I do. One question, how old are you because you seem so mature? I take this as an inspiration and motivation for myself. Yeah, so just thank you!
@pachonman95
11 жыл бұрын
This helped me so much. My bf and I broke up last night. I did nothing today besides cry and eat. But this made me see things from a different point of view. I can relate to everything that you said. Thank you.
@kaitlynperry9347
7 жыл бұрын
I broke it off with my first love three days ago and he is still the sweetest most loving guy, thanks for the video, it did help
@rachelgarcia6062
9 жыл бұрын
if I would've seen this video right after my break up..I wouldn't have been able to grip the point she's trying to get across..but it's been some time and I can honestly say I've realized a lot of what she says on my own...it helps a lot hearing it and to know where I stand...
@laurencurtis
11 жыл бұрын
my pleasure x
@avasmith4431
9 жыл бұрын
Just "broke up" with a guy I had been talking to for nearly a year and we had something but it was never official. This helped a lot, thank you
@linneakarlsson2635
10 жыл бұрын
Whatever happened to you is just what happened to me! Everything you said is EXACTLY how I felt and of course how he felt… It's so scary alike.
@ismeydaelizabeth5586
10 жыл бұрын
I really love this break up video cause I just went truth this and in still trying to get over this guy. Just like you, he was the first guy to treat me as sweet as he did. I've never felt before and it really was an amazing feeling. It's feel good to know that I'm not the only one has gone through this. I'm glad to know I'm not or wasn't alone
@sharonloveschloe
9 жыл бұрын
I respect you a lot Lauren. You are a very beautiful girl and I'm sure a lot of men would line up for you. Me and my ex broke up 7 months ago, the relationship lasted 5 months. And you what it's the same for every relationship, the beginning is so nice and fun. The guy chases you, tries to impress you and make you believe he is someone he isn't. You trust him and then his true colours come out. For me it has always been temporary pleasure and double the pain or more, which really isn't worth it. I've learned to be careful in who i give my heart to and not just say yes to any guy who pursues me or wants to be with me. My past 2 relationships, i was never initially interested in any of them in the beginning. It was them who chased me. I seem to be a lot happier in being single. I don't have to worry about somebody being unfaithful to me, lying to me, pretending they love me when they don't , say they will do something for me and then break promises, including my birthday etc. Even though i buy them a gift, they buy me nothing. Someone who threatens to not be my friend, to break contact with me etc. That is disrespect and not love. For so long i was in denial and i wanted to believe this person who pretended they love me actually meant it. But in time you really see people's true colours. It's never easy to get over it when it is raw. But when somebody mentally betrays you and act like it is nothing. It takes a lot for the victim to overcome it. That's why always focus on yourself, live for yourself and don't trust anyone easily. Be a better you and you will find a better man.
@GlamorGirl153
11 жыл бұрын
thank you so much. I was just broken up with by my boyfriend of a year and a half and it was right before camp. His mom told me she wouldnt support the relationship either and told me to get over it and not to call again. This video has helped me realize that he is not worthy of my time because he doesnt care
@CotnDot
9 жыл бұрын
This helps me, and I'm a guy, who had been with his girl for 2 years, but we argued toward the end, and ultimately she didn't want what I want, she just kept dragging it out leading me on and giving me false hope, so thank you for opening my eyes this helps a lot
@MinnieMoo48
10 жыл бұрын
Every thing you read from that book is so true! Thanks for sharing it with us Lauren Curtis! That book will definitely be part of the next break up gift I give to a friend who is going through it. Great advice.
@KirzD
11 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU. I needed this absolutely so much right now. Just broke up from a tumultuous and stressful rship with mental abuse. I still loved him and thought we could work it all out cos we were magnets. He was already messaging other girls and setting up his next rship and I just thought "how dare you, when I'm suffering like this?" It's turned sour now and we've had a hard ending because I was so upset at his ability to move on that fast...It's time I started the healing process :(
@SarahAnneNich
8 жыл бұрын
Just came across your video, and it's truly helped me. My ex broke up with me just over a month ago and I've really struggled with it. But you've mentioned all the points that I've had. Thank you Lauren xxxx
@melaniedee3485
8 жыл бұрын
Hey Lauren,Watching your video has really helped me come to a few realisations. I'm certainly not in that gloomy place anymore, but as you might know yourself there is a stage when you hope, even a little, that things will miraculously change. I'm working on a positive future, and a happier me. Much Love xx
@faithlieslovelust
10 жыл бұрын
This is the most helpful thing I have come across on this subject. I've been struggling with this for a while. Nice to hear the hard truth sometimes. Things will look up
@yarenny
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so soo much.. I'm going through a very tough breakup and I'm trying hard to accept it's over.. This did help me, and I will continue telling myself the things you mentioned.
@mjacksonisperfect
7 жыл бұрын
I'm 18 and met this guy completely by chance and we both fell in love the first day. He treated me better than anyone ever and we connected more than I ever have with anyone and he gave me so much confidence and happiness and I got used to our routine. I knew he had problems with anxiety and depression but this past month he's distanced himself and can't feel anything at all, including love. we've never even fought, but he can't be a boyfriend now. I can't blame him for it, I brought it up but he just knew it was all we could do. I still believe it's fate and the only thing that helps me sleep or stop crying is thinking we'll get back together further down the line because I can't imagine connecting with anyone, even a friend, this much
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