In my experience, a lot of neurotypicals thinks empathy is all the rage up until it's time to do actual empathy stuff.
@LeslieJones817
Жыл бұрын
lol!
@jackhhun2698
Жыл бұрын
I mean yeah they often don't empathize with anyone whose not them or like em
@isimonsez
Жыл бұрын
your experience? And how many normal people did your case study involve??
@infpjohnny968
Жыл бұрын
Haha. I hear "be normal" every day. It says 2 things... They don't understand and they want a stronger mask. So sad.
@plausibledeniability2941
Жыл бұрын
@@isimonsez probably includes all the people they have interacted with during their lifetime? Just a guess 🤷♂️
@cathygreen1590
Жыл бұрын
I am 74 yrs old and only this past year have i realized i am definitely on the spectrum...these wonderfully compassionate videos by Paul have really helped me understand who I've really been all these years!!! I have always suspected something(ADD was the 1st self-diagnosis). I guess the threads of Autism/Add r possibly intertwined...but I have gleaned so much insight from Paul's patient explanations...thank you Paul...I will continue to learn more about myself for as long as you gift us with new information ❤
@Rhodes8926
4 жыл бұрын
All I could think was what a clear and articulate speaker he is, then I lost my concentration and had to listen again 🤣
@katrinaxo2472
4 жыл бұрын
loukouloukou haha same x
@carolinebeaumont3997
3 жыл бұрын
haha, yes !!
@user-vr8qd4hk6y
3 жыл бұрын
xD
@rosaliadelossantos7215
3 жыл бұрын
In the spectrum, some of us, like aspies, have an "uncomfartuble" communication skills, we tend yo be anoying, too explicit, and unpolitically correct, because the lack of some sensitive filters, I feel this guy, and have become a fan!
@pricklycats
3 жыл бұрын
It takes practice
@Sandman03276
4 жыл бұрын
"massive burden lifted" ... I just cried because I deeply relate to this revelation xxxooo
@stevegreenwood7837
4 жыл бұрын
wow yeah me too
@kls701
4 жыл бұрын
Me too
@s181miri6
4 жыл бұрын
I wish I could feel that way too.
@robertbouchardt3357
3 жыл бұрын
yeah I ball'd my ayes out
@MartKart8
4 жыл бұрын
This video was so clear and easy to understand, you didn't over explain anything
@annabelleyeoh5829
4 жыл бұрын
Paul, this is beautiful. You've so eloquently articulated the heart of the matter, and what it means for us all to be human. Thank you for the work that you are doing. You're a gift to the world.
@Maya-xh8ov
4 жыл бұрын
I think i can say that i grew up in an environment where people didn't look at me as if there was something wrong with me. Neighter my friends, or my family did that. But i always had that feeling of being from another planet, as we say. When i did something unappropriate, they only made me feel as i was stupid and just ignored me.Just because they ignored the differences in me, i became unaware of who i was in real. They told me that there is nothing wrong with me, but i could see that we are not the same. And for the young ME masking and ignoring, what i actually needed as i was growing up, was probably the only thing that i could do to get accepted. Then I relaised that for example as others found happines in colaborating with eachother, that was a big pain for me. Others didn't dream as much as i did, so i also pushed myself to stop act like "a child" and be happy the way they were. Nope, i ended up in depression. Observing and challenging myself, searching what i had lost, identifiying what was lost at the same time, was the most painful thing ever. I am actually very good at masking(or i became because of them) and my parents still don't want to accept that there is something autistic in me. Masking pushed me away from myself and my happiness. Masking was hiding my "imperfections". What i want to say is that autistic children should be/GET aware that they are not like others and that is normal! Just ignoring these facts and expecting the child to be like you IS NOT WORKING. Because you cannot heal or change an autistic person. That person will be like this for his entire life. Pls, parents, don't lie to your child but explain him what the differences are and try to find a way these two "worlds" can live together!
@DarayaVahu
4 жыл бұрын
My parents also didn't ever want to accept that I'm on the spectrum and my mom was dragging me my whole life from doctor to doctor counting on that one would finally just prescribe me a pill that will fix me. I pretty much slept through my whole teenage years coz of all the different psychotropic drugs that never done anything good for me, I think I would end up much better now without any of them and if my parents just learn something about autism instead of thinking it's something scary and ignoring that it may have something to do with me.
@davidlanier7006
4 жыл бұрын
Excellent job on this video. You explained things in a way that even a psychologist might not be able to. Also, remember that there are many more traits that an autistic person can have. I personally don't fit some of the traits you mentioned in the video, but I fit several other traits. My therapist told me that there are over 600 symptoms of autism. I hate to use the word symptoms because as we both know autism isn't a disease. I just didn't know what other word to use, which is one of my traits. I have some language problems. Remembering the meaning of certain words, or being able to recall words from my brain when I need them.
@DarayaVahu
4 жыл бұрын
This is so well written, pretty much perfect. And the "When you try to fit a square peg in a round hole, even when you succeed you destroy the peg in the process." yep I'm totally destroyed by the process of trying even though never even came close to seem to succeed. I wish I could link this to every doctor but they only roll their eyes if you even mention youtube... I'm so defeated 😣
@phoebetompkins7546
4 жыл бұрын
I'm so sad you feel that way too. Wouldn't wish it upon anyone and I hope it gets better.
@Ge1Ri4
4 жыл бұрын
Maybe suggest that they watch it with you, instead of asking them to watch on their own?
@Jen.K
4 жыл бұрын
I'm also destroyed from a life time of trying to fit in the wrong hole. Right down to poisoning my brain and nervous system for years with toxic drugs which suppressed my natural emotions, passions and creativity, so I would conform to 'normal' social expectations. Now I have a dysfunctional nervous system and associated health problems along with all the original autistic sensitivities.
@cornishmaid9138
2 жыл бұрын
I’m going private for an assessment at age 68. I’m fed up with not being believed for decades.
@katella
Жыл бұрын
@@Ge1Ri4 as if any doctor would take the time to do that...
@sabby123456789
4 жыл бұрын
I am Chinese and I grew up learning American English, and ever since watching your videos, I have become very fond of the Australian English.
@JoeMcKenzie888
2 жыл бұрын
Isn't he so cute too :)
@sabby123456789
2 жыл бұрын
@@JoeMcKenzie888 I'm not a girl, but yup, I can see what you're talking about.
@pw510577w
4 жыл бұрын
Some people lack empathy, yet are not classed as disabled. No attempt it made to fix them either. They're easy to spot, they're the bullies at school, at work, the people who perpetrate domestic violence. Diverse can mean many things, some of it not very nice.
@JoeMcKenzie888
2 жыл бұрын
True. What an abnormal world
@BarbaraBonvalot
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for putting into words and explaining so clearly my understanding of autism. Most people, professionals included, only understand autism from the outside. The inner reality of an autistic person is so different and so much more than what most neurotypicals imagine.
@marmadukescarlet7791
4 жыл бұрын
I majored in sociology and counselling and I feel anyone working in the welfare and (probably any type of healthcare) would benefit from having at least some sociology. It gives context and understanding, regarding where people are coming from and what they have to deal with, as regards social challenges and marginalisation.
@JoeMcKenzie888
2 жыл бұрын
Yess!!
@MrAlec78uk
3 жыл бұрын
I'm 42 and just come to the conclusion I'm Autistic I think I have Aspergers I'm waiting to speak to my GP and get a diagnosis, right now I feel like that broken peg you have a great way of putting things.
@davidhill5684
4 жыл бұрын
I'm thankful for any attempt at understanding autism. I'm also greatly relieved to have found out about my own condition. As you say, a huge burden lifted. I'm starting to understand more of my own responses and choices in the past. How I ended up in such a mess, almost always against my own better judgment. It's encouraging to see people accepting ASD folks as just "different". We're always talking about NT people, ie. the majority of the population. Scientific/medical models etc are the ways in which the majority tries to grasp things which seem unusual. I'm OK with this, and glad of it. The attempt is in itself a noble thing, to be applauded.
@McFlingleson
4 жыл бұрын
I remember ever since I was a really little kid, I just knew that I was a fundamentally different kind of thing from everyone else I knew, and I knew that there was nothing wrong with being what I was, being what I was was just as valid a way to be as everyone else. Other people told me that I was weird and stupid and not worth as much as everyone else, but I knew they were wrong.
@DarayaVahu
4 жыл бұрын
That's also so very well said 👍
@Ge1Ri4
4 жыл бұрын
You are so very lucky to have known that from childhood! I'm very happy for you! I didn't find that out until today, and I'm 63 years old. Better late than never, though, eh?
@Space_Potat
3 жыл бұрын
Ge1Ri4 Hope you will live another 40 with that new *true* knowledge of yourself 🙏💪
@JENTHINKSO
3 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤me too
@conorpaulpurcell3403
4 жыл бұрын
You are a very clever man. Keep digging. I think we are decades away from understanding the true diversity of people on Earth
@TheJrpkid
4 жыл бұрын
This is great. Required viewing for anyone interested in understanding the human experience of autism.
@eaglebreath5
4 жыл бұрын
When you spoke about measuring success as being indistinguishable from neurotypical people, my brain thought, "hmm like the turing test." Or a game show, "How good is your mask?"
@jacksonlaframboise9367
4 жыл бұрын
If left unchecked, my morning routine takes up my entire day. Ive set up like a code with myself where Im so consistently late, because I tend to lose track of time, whatever time I say im free to myself, i will arrive exactly 4 hours later. So if im gonna meet up for lunch at 12:00. Ill make the plan and than put it in my reminder for 8:00. Its so arbitrary but, it saves me from feeling rushed, and I can plan to get everything done beforehand. Im adhd diagnosed atm but, my god, these videos are too accurate. Especially with covid going on, everybody has been all stressed out, meanwhile I no longer have to decide whether im going to go out or not because, well. Nobody is. And ive shocked myself because, ive drawn for like 10 hours a day for the entire 4 months and have begun to learn coding and a bunch of other things, and it all feels so easy because its all I need to worry about.
@Jen.K
4 жыл бұрын
The medical model is helpful for medical illnesses. The only problems which qualify as medical illnesses are those which can be diagnosed with actual medical tests.Why were emotional and social problems classified as medical illnesses in the first place? Maybe it had something to do with enabling the sale of more medical drugs and creating a new, profitable customer base. If you define something as an illness, it's much easier to sell an expensive medical treatment, which may or may not help. So glad you realized you were born to stand out, rather than fit in. Now the world, and humanity benefits from your talents, passions, amazing ability to interpret jargon and your clear communication style.
@ButterflyonStone
4 жыл бұрын
I often wonder if the people who say 'isn't everyone on the spectrum' are ASD undiagnosed. I use to think this all the time because of whenever I heard their experience I would be like but I do that and am not ASD, or I experience that or I think that way. Turns out it was because I was on the spectrum.
@tarekyoungapelian4542
4 жыл бұрын
ButterflyonStone Yes! I’ve met countless people who have said just this when I told them I was autistic, and they all clearly seemed to be on the autism spectrum themselves.
@joemann7971
4 жыл бұрын
@@tarekyoungapelian4542 Everyone can have some form of ASD. Remember, as you grow older, we create masks. Also, is repetition really an autistic thing? Repetition is literally how we learn! If you want to memorize something, we repeat it until we memorize it. This is not exclusive to autistic people. The problem I have isn't that I don't think I fall under ASD. The problem I have with it is how we know it's a problem. Simply being ASD doesn't necessarily mean you need help.
@EmanuelaMasia
4 жыл бұрын
I’m on the spectrum and I realized it studying to become a support teacher I thought I could help BECAUSE I’m different but I didn’t really understand how and why all the tools I was learning were SO USEFUL TO ME 🙈 I no longer work as a teacher though In Italy you have to choose what side you are:the one who needs help or the one who gives help. So stupid. What a waste of resources. And what a waste of life. Need to find my place,work,be useful,need to think I got something to live for. I think this is one of the reasons why depression in so common among us 🥺
@josephineananda
3 жыл бұрын
I see dead people.
@BeautyByJuliette14
4 жыл бұрын
Your videos help me so much on my journey to finally understanding myself.
@K-A5
4 жыл бұрын
A child wouldnt be considered autistic anymore if they were "indistinguishable" from their peers, according to the medical model. Hmm..when you just say it like that, its actually really gross that this was ever the standard for whether or not someone was deemed mentally well or not. Also, you have beautiful eyes. Theyre a pretty shade of brown and eminate kindness. Thanks for making these videos, youre very descriptive and self aware. Its helpful for a lot of different reasons.
@JeremyB8419
4 жыл бұрын
K-A well that’s called emotional abuse. The medical model is objective. The contrary is subjective. If someone appears to be something that they are not, they either wish to appear that way, or they do not. If they wish to appear that way, then they are fundamentally a liar. If they do not wish to appear that way, then they are abused. I wrote another comment concerning environment. If the environment seeks to force you to be that which you are not, then, yes, that most definitely constitutes abuse.
@neredan1182
4 жыл бұрын
yeah, when you can still live by, when youre not too big of a nuisance to society = means youre healthy or just not 'crazy enough'. thats the sad truth when you seek out for help. especially where i come from. when youre not on the verge of dying (or killing someone else), they tell you youre fine. 🙄
@JeremyB8419
4 жыл бұрын
Neredan yeah that’s why they don’t say who they are.
@danigeo5673
3 жыл бұрын
@@JeremyB8419 Actually, medical model only mimics objectivity, but is not trully objective. Objective model has no right or wrong jungment in it. Scientist observe deviation as a part of understanding thing. Example: Deviation in a way a star shines is a way how to find out there is a exoplanet around this star. Exoplanets just exist, and we love to find our more about them. Watching for deviation has none negative context for science, we dont watch for deviation how star shines to fix it, but to discover more. Medicine is very close to science. Bu medicine t is more practical, everything has intention in medicine, so it is not pure science and even scientist forgot about that. (Apologise for my english, it is not my primar language and it is hard to express an idea and translate it at the same time, biology is my special interest and this is how I found out practical medicine not always works as a science.)
@JeremyB8419
3 жыл бұрын
@@danigeo5673 objectivity does have a right and wrong to it, based upon the the normal uses of those words. If you take an objective look at it, you’ll find a normalized distribution of traits. +/- 2 standard deviations is “wrong”.
@harison548
4 жыл бұрын
"Bio diversity". Something I never considered. Enlightening.
@hdrevolution123
4 жыл бұрын
Great way of viewing things. To further this model, I recommend the book ‘Shape of Autism’, a descriptive book about the subjectivity of autism, co-authored by a Finnish savant.
@glaceRaven
4 жыл бұрын
Bless you! You explain these things so well and so clearly that anybody can understand them. Thank you for making this video ^^
@mike-williams
3 жыл бұрын
Listening to your exposition of the double empathy problem, I was reminded of my experience as an Australian working in the US for a software company, particularly in the area of internationalisation/localisation. It was painfully clear from years of interactions that most Americans cannot conceptualise what it is like to "not be American". They are "culturally neurotypical" and struggle to see how the whole planet might do something differently to Americans. Even well-educated, otherwise insightful people I would see simply "switch off" or become avoidant when a discussion turned to supporting products outside the USA, or designing features that worked more broadly. The point is that there are precedents for culturally-based issues with empathy to do with what is perceived as "the norm". Studies have been done that indicate that the closer you are to a "norm", the less likely you are to question the world.
@kanzi1958
4 жыл бұрын
OK now I'm binge watching all your videos... helps me so much.
@Ge1Ri4
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you! for this video and all the others! I'm 63 years old, never been to a therapist to be diagnosed, but after taking an online autism test that was discussed in another of your videos, and now, having watched this video, I feel like a tremendous burden has been lifted off my shoulders! All my life I have been considered "different", or "weird" or "strange" or a "freak", even by the few friends I've had, and have struggled to fit into a society that made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I'm finally beginning to understand why. At my age I've gotten pretty fair at "disguising" myself to "fit in" in most situations, but that's an unhappy way to live. Thank you for helping me to understand that I'm not "broken", I'm just "biodiverse", with different characteristics and abilities. That, alone, is a priceless insight! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
@jaydakine3405
Жыл бұрын
Im 64 and just figured that im autistic
@Deadsea_1993
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy that you created this channel. This was an excellent video. I'm on the spectrum and resonated with this. The analogy that having Autism is like being an English speaker that wakes up in China was amazing
@SmilingSharleen
4 жыл бұрын
I love your compassionate approach🎋
@asmodeusazarak
3 жыл бұрын
I love the metaphor about square pegs and round holes, and how even if you succeed you destroy the peg
@kelso365
4 жыл бұрын
Such valuable work you are doing, Paul - thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom.
@bryonyvaughn2427
Жыл бұрын
I'm crying listening to this. Last semester I was bullied by my abnormal psych professor throughout the semester. It was hell. My watching her target another student for bullying made me feel less alone. The problem was her behavior and not my not being acceptable to her. When we were covering the chapter on eating disorders, I asked if she had any insight into why binge eating disorder was so common among folks on the spectrum. She replied that, while she had no research to back it up, her educated guess was because people with autism have no feelings so they eat to be able to feel something. I thought, "B***h, please! You hurt my feelings in about every class. No feelings, my a*s!" Anyway, your presentation hear makes me feel understood, accepted, and valued. Thank you for this.
@Xubuntu47
4 жыл бұрын
There is a lot here that is useful for people who may not fit the criteria for autism, but who also don't fit in easily. The medical model is still very prevalent in the ADHD world, but some clinicians are moving to what is called a "strength-based" model. Even so, it is still very difficult to find a professional who can help one thrive in one's own way, to adapt the environment to the individual rather than try to "fix" the person's "deficits". I have the ADHD label, but in many ways I am as alienated from that community as I am from the world at large. I am not full of energy, do not crave high stimulation, do not become calm and focused in a crisis, do not enjoy taking risks. The ADHD community has its own norms and expectations, separate from the neurotypical world, and I don't fit those, either. Where do I fit? What is my optimal environment? Weirdly, the social distancing forced on us by the novel coronavirus is giving me some clues. While ADDitude Magazine fills my inbox with tips to "survive" being isolated at home, I find myself wishing it could be like this all the time. I do not have a way of generating income from home, but maybe I should.
@bobbyb9718
3 жыл бұрын
The square peg, round hole analogy is great! Don’t ruin us square pegs to make us fit in 🙂
@tonygme
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting such insightful content.
@beckyunderwood4220
4 жыл бұрын
Wonderful content. I have never been completely comfortable with the medical model, for many of the reasons you described.
@elvoytheroundhead
4 жыл бұрын
Very interesting for info for parents to better understand their autistic children. I wonder if there are resources for adolescents to better understand their autistic parents. Will have to look into that.
@a8lg6p
4 жыл бұрын
Even as a description from the outside, "restricted and repetitive"...WTF is that supposed to mean? It just makes me think of kids who just rock back and forth and scream if you try to stop them. It never occurred to me that I could really be autistic, even though I struggled socially my whole life I knew it wasn't just social anxiety. Even as I started to think, well, ok, I'm clearly sort of on the spectrum-ish... I didn't know what Asperger's was like. I thought it could only be the people who were REALLY socially inappropriate, and couldn't make eye-contact at all. And if they were high-functioning, would be math savants with poor language skills... I was verbally precocious, and ok at math but off the charts on vocabulary/verbal comprehension, which made it sound like autism couldn't possibly apply to me. I can't blame anyone for saying, "You don't look autistic" because that's what I thought about myself for 37 years.
@featherpuke
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video Paul (And thank you my friend Et for sharing it)
@KathrineJKozachok
4 жыл бұрын
This is brilliant - one of the best channels on ASD. Thank you so much for your work.
@SS-qx7nh
3 жыл бұрын
This is excellent! You are a wonderful teacher!
@samhardaker7698
4 жыл бұрын
I've just found you're channel, I was diagnosed a couple of years ago and I've never really been able to explain things quite like you and I'm so happy I've found your channel.
@bu5tt9ercup18
4 жыл бұрын
Before I was diagnosed in the 4th grade I used to write on my paper so hard that my teachers would give me cardboard to write on top of so I didn't ruin the desk or rip the paper. I eventually got help and started going to occupational therapy, but man, was that difficult.
@thelegendgamer33
4 жыл бұрын
This is a good channel. Thanks
@YeshuaIsTheTruth
4 жыл бұрын
Your content is so clear and relatable! I'm grateful for this channel.
@stevegreenwood7837
4 жыл бұрын
Paul you explained this Brilliantly ! l mean perfectly amazing thank you my friend. steve UK
@userlooking
3 жыл бұрын
Super interesting. I'm imagining a world where the definition of disability wasn't affected by the standards of school, family and work.
@sandrasabrina2973
4 жыл бұрын
You did it again. This is an amazing video, very much important. Thank you
@ianfindland1983
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you , you have helped me in so many ways , trying to explain yourself people not on the spectrum is almost impossible and you have gave me many tools that have helped thanks
@autismenlightenment
4 жыл бұрын
Hello humans
@autismfromtheInside
4 жыл бұрын
it's funny because aspies often refer to other people as 'the humans' as if they're the other species
@Starbat88
4 жыл бұрын
Greetings, fellow organism.
@autismenlightenment
4 жыл бұрын
@@autismfromtheInside hi Paul.
@DevonExplorer
4 жыл бұрын
@@Starbat88 LOL!
@nerd0Chija
4 жыл бұрын
Greetings, fellow meatbags with a skeleton inside
@_CazaBobos
4 жыл бұрын
3:16 I said exactly that to someone while I was explaining autism a few weeks ago. Obviously, without having seen this video.
@empowerment.artist
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! I am frustrated that it's considered a disorder, even though there are challenges. It's very uplifting to think that there's something wrong with society, not with us.
@isimonsez
Жыл бұрын
Uhhh I wouldn’t go that far
@Joeos5
4 жыл бұрын
This is actually a pretty good analysis of autisim spectrum disorders and people.
@stevegreenwood7837
4 жыл бұрын
yeah l realized things were not going to workout for me soon after leaving school trying to fit in knowing l was different was always there in my face every time l went for a job peoples reactions where ! clear to see most of the time, as l was not confident about me ! for a start , l was not the same or what they expected they made it apparent , then when ever l did get a job l could not understand instructions ...terminology ect ect
@DivineSource444
Жыл бұрын
What an amazing presentation! Very well described. Thank you!
@jabaerga1
4 жыл бұрын
You're a beautiful person Paul. Thank you for this video.
@MissAlissa15
4 жыл бұрын
Okay but can you please explain to me why I seem to predict things? I wonder if I’m psychic all the time and I always find a logical justification for the coincidences that stand out as “visions” or “psychic” moments. The more confidence and trust I have in myself and my intuition, the more I feel psychic. Am I delusional or do I just have a blind spot in my perception that I’m filling with “psychic”? I suspect it’s an Aspergers thing?
@JesusIstheNameTakenInVain
4 жыл бұрын
Is it you predicting or things coming to you?
@JoeMcKenzie888
2 жыл бұрын
You recognize patterns. Even unconsciously
@katalack60
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Paul!
@justlisten9435
2 жыл бұрын
Insightful. My introduction to this conceptualisation was learning about the difference between the pathological and the cultural view of Deafness. There are SO many (legitimate) ways of existing in the world.
@chloenatasha7350
4 жыл бұрын
Your videos are absolutely brilliant! 🙏🏻
@MathieuAlepin
4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for doing this, Paul, and thanks for existing in this world! With each of these videos, you are making it a better place for all of us. You illustrate Autism so well with the right words and comparisons. It's hard explaining to others how different and difficult our life is compared to the "norm." Could you imagine a world where Autism is the "norm?" I bet there would finally be peace on Earth. It would be like that failed promised future of flying blimp ships and water fuelled cars and Tesla powered things by our planet's magnetic field, all of that made real, making our planet a better place. One can dream... Perhaps one day it will be this way... (Well, why not... It would be great travelling on a flying blimp ship definitely designed by one of us)... A world where we all fit in effortlessly by majority. Until then, we must stand united and continue informing the world about our differences and how much we can make it better if given the the opportunity and the proper conditions for us to operate "normally," in our "normality" and at our "normal" pace. (I've probably grammatically overdone it with the quotation marks. But you get the idea.) Be well!
@stevesloan5935
4 жыл бұрын
This is an excellent video. Thanks for the insights!
@iseeonlylove
3 жыл бұрын
This was an amazing video! 💜
@BoilsonA
4 жыл бұрын
This is a great vlog. Well done.
@TSPH1992
4 жыл бұрын
This is an educational channel
@andrewrwhitfield
2 жыл бұрын
Here’s another parallel… as an introvert I’ve lost track of how many times an extrovert has tried to ‘fix’ me. Awesome video btw. Thank you.
@cherylbell8875
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It was very informative.
@janiceday
4 жыл бұрын
I love listening to your speaking voice.
@katrinaxo2472
4 жыл бұрын
I’m autistic and this is really interesting 💛
@davidmccormick2957
2 жыл бұрын
He speaks very clearly. He is clear to understand his expressions etc. He sounds caring about this illness.
@goldentreefrog18
4 жыл бұрын
@T ...Haven't landed on sound advice for my guy friends, but a good place to start is trying to find friends of any gender that love what you do. Genuine connections help everyone. Also I've noticed when reading biographies of scientist that it was super common for grad students to marry the daughters of their mentors, who are likely just as smart (and weird) as the mentor/parent. Old-timey networking worked for a lot of people.
@FreedomInTruth777
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the videos dude, you're really helping me and a few of my friends figure ourselves out.
@BarbaraMerryGeng
3 жыл бұрын
I have waited all my life - to hear THIS message & now I finally am at peace with myself ....🐇
@miriammaldonado7848
3 жыл бұрын
Paul this was a powerful message. If we could only have some empathy we could be better humans. 💜
@patsabol8699
3 жыл бұрын
I will use this video for my neurotypical friends to help them understand me better. Thank you so very, very much for these videos.
@VeronikaVerhulst
2 жыл бұрын
I have ASD - Asperger. My mom first brought me to Doctor to scann my brain & therapy when i was in kindergarten. But because of bad situation in our family, there were a time i wasn't always get good treatment continuously & seriously.
@cosetter1726
4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for this video i really appreciate you
@spigney4623
3 жыл бұрын
I love how you present information
@user-gk-y8t
4 жыл бұрын
Thankyou, this was an amazing video!
@garyg6000
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for explaining the "double empathy problem". That's so true.
@grassgeese3916
3 жыл бұрын
you're so good with words!!! THANK U!
@ChandlerSavage
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely AMAZING explanation. I really appreciate how clear and articulate you express these important concepts. Thank you for helping me understand myself and how I can relate to the world. =)
@Far-Beyond-Ordinary
Жыл бұрын
It is nice to learn that I am a normal human who is not typical.
@EricMeatlikeaking
4 жыл бұрын
I have been doing a lot of job interviews but i didn't get a job yet.
@ThePhantomQueen87
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your videos it became so hard to try to be like everyone else
@xaves2
4 жыл бұрын
In a philosophy prespective, autism is not a disease, is a way of being, acording to reason and the good where the individual is happy and see the world is such a really beauty. Thats a contemplative of the self for the self, and because of that looks to the normies he is a outsider just because the norm view the world focus on comunication to Other instead of a autentic view of the "autistic" the contemplates the self in the first place.
@rc3151
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@JaninaVigurs
2 жыл бұрын
Paul, thank you so very much for your clear and compassionate explanation. This is such a helpful video.
@yrdjuret
4 жыл бұрын
Really loved this video
@lauraaguerreberry7670
Жыл бұрын
This is great , thanks Paul
@carstorm85
2 жыл бұрын
5:06 reminded me of the song this is me from the greatest showman.
@anthonyschueller1284
Жыл бұрын
My Aspergers(ASD), causes me to be more sensitive to taste, sound, and touch, which for me, at least makes food, music, and some clothing so much more enjoyable... I love the way I am... 😊
@monikakrall3922
2 жыл бұрын
Im autistic and I think a big issue is that NT society acts like everybody is the same, they standardise , whereas they are quite different, for eg. in schools everybody has to learn the same thing, the same way, for the same time, regardless they are interested in it, or even capable of learning it etc. If everything was designed to cater for the individual needs we would not look so different. We would complete the spectrum by being on one end of not being able to socalise like myself and then those autistics who can in limited way,then those NTs who are not so social etc. there is a spectrum to be considered at evry area of our life, like colours.
@DeniseCummins
3 жыл бұрын
Outstanding video!
@1Reevee
3 жыл бұрын
I'm on the spectrum but the definition you gave from the human point of view sounds like it could apply to almost anyone
@lmichaud8586
3 жыл бұрын
This subject is particularly right on target. I watched a video of psychologist Jordan Peterson the other day, and he said the reason zebras have stripes is not for camouflage (Of course not!). In fact, because of the stripes, when zebras are in a group, they are indistinguishable from other zebras. Which makes them less likely to be targeted by predators. There could be a lion walking around, trying to select himself a meal, but the stripes confuses the lion, making it almost impossible for him to select a target. So even if the lion is hungry, and literally surrounded by fresh meat, he might just turn away and look for something else to eat. Zebras mastered the art of hiding in plain sight. And this is exactly why autistic people are targeted more than others by "social" predators. Cause autistic persons stand out. They can be easily identified and targeted. And, the more I think about it, people trying to help autistic people often try to go in the same direction as the medical approach your refer to. They give you advice on how to become normal (indistinguishable from your peers). And not only it never works 100%, this is not helping you in the long term, cause even if you learn to act normal, you keep feeling ashamed cause you grow up with the impression that nobody can truly appreciate who you really are inside, behind this "normal" you just pretend to be. Since most of them can't really "Not stand out", I guess the solution could better be found in the "How do you stand out?". If you stand out in a way that's attracting respect from your peers, then predators won't attack you, so you could truly be yourself and be safe. In this regard, finding and developing talents of autistic people, as early as possible, seems extremely important.
@SKOLAH
Жыл бұрын
What it must be like to be shown empathy. I don't know what that feels like. It must be nice.
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