In this video, you will learn:
1. There are differences between embarrassment, guilt, and the BIG one...shame.
2. Minimizing emotions for comfort's sake gives them power over you.
3. There are physical manifestations of shame.
4. Shame stems from the belief that you have not only done a "bad" thing but that you are a "bad" person.
5. Shame prods you in the direction society deems "right."
6. Shame's awfulness ensures that you do things to make you proud.
7. No one can make you feel ashamed.
8. Emotionally healthy people are able to recognize their strengths and weaknesses.
9. Healthy shame comes from healthy, functional families.
10. Being stuck in lifelong shame causes the belief that there is something drastically wrong with you, and you develop little self-worth.
11. Frequent devaluation causes a deep-seated sense of inadequacy and failure.
12. The scapegoat or symptom bearer is the one which everyone else projects or dumps their worst fears and feelings about themselves.
13. A scapegoat tends to believe themself worthless, give up or underachieve, OR spends life trying to "prove them wrong" through overachievement and perfectionism.
14. Overprotected children end up believing that shame is too unbearable to tolerate.
15. When you don't know how to bear shame, you can't take responsibility, work on your weaknesses, fit in, or bounce back from failure.
16. Shame-based behavior is that that chronically leaves you feeling ashamed or SHOULD leave you feeling ashamed.
17. You may make poor choices because you unconsciously believe you don't deserve to feel proud of yourself.
18. When you indulge in shame-based behaviors you don't feel proud and find yourself trying to convince yourself and others that your behavior is fine.
19. To reduce shame, you need to think about the consequences of your actions.
20. To feel proud, you need to uild your self-worth.
21. Disordered behaviors both alleviate and perpetuate shame.
22. Rigid or highly controlled behavior on a regualr basis stems from shame or fear of shame.
23. Perfectionism may be motivated by the irrational belief that if you are perfect, you'll never have to feel shame.
24. Anything you do secretly, is shame-based.
25. You can detox shame.
I hope you learn something about your shame and, perhaps, a reason to slow down and find reason to be proud of yourself. There is healthy shame. Sitting in it versus being responsible and cleaning up after yourself is not what it's for. Healthy shame brings you back to yourself and into the light.
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