I'm childless and have spent most of my adult life single. Also have worked two jobs and eventually made it through college. I've definitely seen friendships fizzle because they were in a different place in life.
@mrskmonster
Жыл бұрын
The concept of choosing guilt over resentment is probably going to change my life forever. Wow.
@alexbryant2796
2 жыл бұрын
John is so endearing to watch
@rachelgooden9981
2 жыл бұрын
He is?
@keith2o9
2 жыл бұрын
@Rachel Gooden well, everyone has different taste.
@deborahd2936
2 жыл бұрын
I had an old friend who acted like I was abandoning her in a busy and hard time in my life, and we don’t talk at all now, because even though I should have done better, I realized that part of that was it was no longer pleasant to be around each other and there was more disagreement than agreement about even the smallest things because I two very divergent foundations for life and thinking. I have a few friends now that we have some very foundational common ground. This doesn’t mean we can’t be friends with people different than us. It just doesn’t work at a certain level of depth, because at some point the person can no longer give advice, and talk with you about your deepest thoughts because of differing views.
@amandaschield5247
4 күн бұрын
I had the same issue with a long-term friend during COVID. I had just ended an abusive relationship, in the midst of being a healthcare provider during the pandemic, and clearly let her know I wasn’t going to be able to be as responsive or available for a time. She later complained that I “only” texted her instead of calling her on her birthday, was adamant to know why I wasn’t responding as usual, and then said I “ghosted” her. I ended up telling her directly that I didn’t think what we had was healthy and couldn’t sustain the friendship any longer. Looking back I wish I would have tried another boundary, but ultimately don’t believe this person has the capacity to be different either, so it was best for a clear ending. It happens. We grow and change and realize what’s not serving as any longer. I recognize I’m the villain in her story, but it has brought me peace to not have this kind of parasite “friendship” in my life, and I have no regrets in letting it go.
@rebeccaoprea9917
2 жыл бұрын
Seasons come and go . You only grow as big as your circle .
@connie0613
2 жыл бұрын
Yes
@oscarmondragon8648
2 жыл бұрын
What do ppl need friends for..? Just to talk smack and gossip..? This is how big my circle is 👉. I focus all my energy and time on myself to get me to places no one els is!!
@curlyhairdudeify
4 ай бұрын
Same. I don't have friends, and at work I was measuring a male coworkers hair with a ruler making a comment about how long he should cut it. Then, a female coworker just jumped in and made a "joke" about how she was going to call Human Services because I "janked" his hair.... Me, and the male coworker, we just rolled our eyes.
@chelsea7229
2 жыл бұрын
The thing is, she’s assuming that the friends are going to be upset to lose her and her husband, but who’s to say that they don’t feel the same way? If someone is checking out in a friendship, it’s a huge turn off for everyone involved. It probably won’t be this huge loss to them if she moves on- she kind of needs to get over herself tbh.
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
I agree lol
@brookesmith1550
2 жыл бұрын
The caller should go to playgroups with kids. She might meet other moms there she connects with.
@LipstickNWhiskey
2 жыл бұрын
My mum has also advised this. My social anxiety will just not allow me to. And honestly, I don’t want to be friends with people who live certain…lifestyles.
@kara2162
2 жыл бұрын
This is a good option, especially when you don't work and are isolated at home with little kids, but to be brutally honest, there is a slim chance that you will really connect in a real friendship the way you would in the "real world".
@Scott-got-caught
2 жыл бұрын
@@LipstickNWhiskey Vain indeed. your toxic energy radiates 👁
@Cyanopteryx
2 жыл бұрын
Chiming in as a mom who lives in WA like the caller, playgroups are hard to find currently. No one wants to meet in person bc of covid, especially strangers, and a lot of the in-person activities for kids are still not opened back up. Not saying it's impossible, but may be challenging, and I still haven't found any groups for my 10 month old.
@AlabasterSkin
2 жыл бұрын
@@LipstickNWhiskey Curious, which lifestyles?
@aundirussell8644
2 жыл бұрын
yep in seattle, 3 kids by 26 is unheard of
@anniececil3112
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this caller very well. It’s so hard to relate to my life before I had my baby.
@annamc8228
Жыл бұрын
“Don’t hang out with idiots” 😂 Way to make a potentially heavy subject light-hearted
@deniseneuendorf3577
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice!! Don’t worry one minute about what that friend group will think. They will be puzzled that you’re stepping back and maybe feel slighted for a short time. But they’ll be over it soon enough. Join things that meet on a regular basis. When they ask why you aren’t coming you can just say “that’s our (whatever) night.” Now look forward to meeting so many new friends!
@tonniareed8631
2 жыл бұрын
I completely get not liking my husband’s friends. We are so very different and our work friends are different circles. I think we need to work on doing things together as a couple. We each do our own things and rarely do things together.
@blah7694
Жыл бұрын
Cant believe John said his wife is old. 😂I think she's amazing!
@mainstreetmoose445
2 жыл бұрын
FIRST VIEW! Thanks for all that you guys do over at Ramsey, you have all the bases and questions in my life covered! Dr John; I’m having a similar issue in my life currently, so this came EXACTLY when i needed it!
@SherryEllesson
2 жыл бұрын
There's nothing wrong with wanting to widen one's circle of friends.
@mynameis......23
2 жыл бұрын
Who are you to say what is right or worng?
@SherryEllesson
2 жыл бұрын
@@mynameis......23 Who are you to have a problem with cutting people some slack?
@mynameis......23
2 жыл бұрын
@@SherryEllesson I a nobody, but I can see bs lifestyle and bs excuses. And I hate when woman avoid accountability.
@SherryEllesson
2 жыл бұрын
@@mynameis......23 She's got three kids and she and her husband both work. What more accountability do you think she should demonstrate?! You don't know anywhere enough about her to call her lifestyle "bs" but I'm sure that won't stop you from being hateful about her.
@mynameis......23
2 жыл бұрын
@@SherryEllesson she doesn't have a job.
@razmiddle9410
2 жыл бұрын
Well, the unwanted friends are going to be *super* offended once they hear this segment! It's a bold move to use your name and location on a popular show like this, I wonder if the friends will find out.
@rachelgooden9981
2 жыл бұрын
I often wonder about this
@starlingswallow
2 жыл бұрын
I don't believe they use real names from their actual cities.
@hollym1751
2 жыл бұрын
But I wonder how many of their friends know about this. Nobody in my circle listens to this show.
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
I think she thinks these women who are not really her friends care about her wayyy more than they probably actually do. She says that they are not even her friends, they are the girlfriends of her husband’s friends. They probably only tolerate her and try to include her to be honest.
@TheMechanicj
2 жыл бұрын
Doing the Dave Ramsey plan is like going to jail and needing bailed out you find out who he real friends are I lost the majority of my friends cause of the plan they are so jealous of my financial success and when they don’t get Christmas gifts and I warned them so yeah there it is
@TheMechanicj
2 жыл бұрын
My 400000$ house in tennesss will be paid off at age 36
@paulb1383
2 жыл бұрын
So glad I found your channel! Great stuff..
@z31Joshyman
2 жыл бұрын
Wow this was a needed convo
@mysterio1570
2 жыл бұрын
I am unusual that I still basically have all my friends in my life. A couple I don't see on a regular basis, but the friendship is still there.
@zanetawrightsell8527
11 ай бұрын
Ive had a really hard time finding friends after recovery for my mental health. People want to keep me in a box. My college " friends" dont support my health n happiness.
@platinumhandymansolutions
2 жыл бұрын
Dr. D can we be friends bro lol, love the show!
@zaqlowell
2 жыл бұрын
Trust me Post Malone is worth learning ab6
@mandysimmons2769
9 ай бұрын
I feel the same way with some relatives. The male is a dingleberry that I got with marriage. He is a mild sociopath that I have nothing in common and he's a complete wienie. He was running around with a dirtbag girl while his wife was still alive and now that's his "wife." I'm like Omg, this is my family now. It's not worth getting rid of my husband if I did that...they win. I'd rather mop the bathroom of a bar.
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