I'VE SAID IT AND I'LL SAY IT AGAIN- EVEN IF A PERSON IS WALKING AROUND NAKED, NO ONE, ABSOLUTELY NO ONE HAS THE "RIGHT" TO TOUCH/VIOLATE THEM!
@clairecunningham1271
2 жыл бұрын
ONG LIKE it's not normal to get an ''urge'' to sexually harass someone, NO MATTER the circumstances, why do some people make it out to be 😭
@glutenfreecookiestastelikenoth
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly like the police exist for a damn reason if this situation to ever become real or best way is just thrown colthes at them would be nice XD
@yasminxx9329
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly like just cause you see skin doesn't mean that u are entitled to anything. That kind of logic is so dumb.
@baristaz8834
2 жыл бұрын
Okay true but walking naked is wild😭😭
@inkubator320
2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@aureus2636
2 жыл бұрын
Reading all these comments, I’ve realized how extremely lucky I am to never have been catcalled, raped, mistreated, etc. But the more I think about it, the more I realize that what I’ve considered ‘lucky’ is essentially just being treated like a normal human being, with rights and dignity. The fact that this is rare for women just goes to show how messed up society is.
@DirtyPrancing
2 жыл бұрын
I'm grateful. It makes me sick to think this issue is so bad it's a universal experience practically. And that's in developed countries, not even considering countries where women are married to their rapists, not allowed to go to school, and murdered. I thought I was one of the lucky ones too but then I started having the conversations with other women and that's when I started coming to terms with certain things that have happened to me. Like being raped - it was done in a way I could convince myself it wasn't what happened... And so I took the easy way out.
@theresidentialrat
2 жыл бұрын
same I’m afab but I’ve never been through any of this, which I’m very grateful for it’s such a shame that so many afab have to go through this shit :/
@aureus2636
2 жыл бұрын
DirtyPrancing I think we often lie to ourselves to protect ourselves, like some sort of mental cushioning. Like maybe you knew what happened sub-consciously but it took certain things to click it into place. Hope ur doing better:)
@amysocool7
2 жыл бұрын
Yep and I hate to single out other women because really all women share the same struggles with even worse for black women because nobody runs to protect us defense to protect us. One time I was mugged at store and literally the lady in the back didn't do anything and I had to just give them my money and before I got mugged I would go up to that store and the security guard would flirt with me but I would deny him access to me... And when I actually got mugged and I ran to ask someone for help nobody did nothing. The security guard didn't give a damn about what happened he was extremely passive and wasn't doing anything. It took a very long time for someone to come out to kind of walk with me and they really did not even do the bare minimum to make sure that I was safe... And the man that took my money still followed me but then he kind of like went off to another side of the street.
@chuuchuuutrain
2 жыл бұрын
What's cat called?
@sully3105
2 жыл бұрын
CLOTHES ARE NOT CONSENT ‼️ *also thank you Zoe for covering this topic it means a lot to so many that anyone speaks out about it
@juliettedln6899
2 жыл бұрын
yes :( I've been harrased and followed in the street, i was wearing a skirt so i felt like it was my fault and that i should have been prepared because "i asked for it" bruh
@Kzzhzzk
2 жыл бұрын
True. Two female students were killed inside university campuses. The first victim was slaughter in daylight at the entrance of the university. Yet people blamed her for not wearing "modest" clothes. The other victim was a Hijabi, yet the murderer entered the university campus and shot her. Both were killed because they refused to marry the murderers yet society blamed it on what they didn't or did wear.
@miliniumo147
2 жыл бұрын
If clothes were consent, ig you could legally rape a shirtless man running down the street in shorts. I mean, ik he was just exercising, but clearly he wanted it. He's literally half naked! Don't get me started on the beach. (I do not actually believe this is right. I believe it's absolutely wrong. I'm just using this as an example to show how ridiculous it is.)
@paniniprincess5211
2 жыл бұрын
I remember in 7th grade I was in the gym for an assembly sitting minding my business ,and somebody snapped my bra strap. The bra was old and wasn't supporting me anyways but That's besides the point. I never did find who did it but I was surrounded by people and no one said anything. And the person continuously did it.
@kimlip_tree2009
2 жыл бұрын
My friends and I went out for halloween while wearing long sleeves and pants and we got catcalled anyway. we never talked about it even in the moment because we were so embarrassed, like it was our fault. it completely changed the way I saw my own body and up until that point I thought I could be protected by my clothing
@beck7379
2 жыл бұрын
I hate to say it, but I don’t even know if the men in my life (guy friends and family members) understand the full extent to which women are mistreated. They don’t understand the panic and fear that my friends and I have felt when we have been catcalled. They’ll likely never know how uncomfortable it is to get grabbed at a bar by a complete stranger. And to make matters worse, whenever I talk about it, some of them are very dismissive. Like- Why? I just told you that I have been BARKED at. I have been followed. I have been hit on at work (when I was a minor 😀). Our society has built a system that focuses on women being at fault, rather than taking a look at the actual root of the problem: the normalization of violence against women. It makes me feel sick that men are hardly ever held accountable for their behavior, and that blame is almost always redirected towards women. Their arguments are full of excuses, double standards, and fallacies, using the outfit the woman was wearing to justify the man’s horrific, dehumanizing actions.
@aila_sd7307
2 жыл бұрын
I remember telling my brother to escort me to the store because I don't like when guys come up to and force a conversation when I'mclearly not interested. He told me he doesn't want to, I mustn't act like I don't like the attention. He thinks that's why I dress up. How nice😐
@lmcb8447
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah the culture is really disgusting, got my first dickpic at *fcking* 13 . I always found it repulsive and degradation when catcalled. What hurts more it's that they know it's a power game.
@phoenix5719
2 жыл бұрын
@@aila_sd7307 Put him in a cage with a tiger. Tell him he should not act like he wants to get eaten alive, if he gets eaten alive it's HIS fault.
@mellowuwu
2 жыл бұрын
@@phoenix5719 👏👏
@butterflymoon6368
2 жыл бұрын
They don't and the sooner women get this the better. It's tricky because we're raised to think they're very aware, intelligent, smarter etc. but... no, they're missing a lot of vital information. It's time we respect our own intelligence.
@pleasereconsider7636
2 жыл бұрын
Another thing is how when a guy bullies a girl in elementary school, “it’s because he likes her”. I was told I should be “glad someone even liked me”. Like wth?! It is truly disgusting how even as child’s we are sold this idea that it’s “ok” or the guy is at fault. Hopefully, it gets better with time.
@cupcqke_
2 жыл бұрын
exactly! i have been told many times when a guy literally brings me to tears because he is so mean to be it’s just because he “likes me” like wth?!
@army4chair345
2 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@GiaaVlogs
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yes!!
@serenityssolace
2 жыл бұрын
Well, children are immature and they don't know how to express their attraction, that's why they tease or bully the person they like.
@paniniprincess5211
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yeah my parents told me that too I was like what? So if I'm constantly getting harassed that means they like me? They see me as a target!
@honeymilk3815
2 жыл бұрын
I loved how shuhua (a kpop idol) spoke out against this. Using her huge platform for this, especially since it's not a common occurrence in kpop industry was very overwhelming. Even tho she probably knew she would get backlash, sadly.
@_dearolive
2 жыл бұрын
Sooo encouraging and hopeful 🥹
@zzoa.
2 жыл бұрын
Shuhua proving she's a queen once more
@smeraarkalgud5703
2 жыл бұрын
👏Shuhua just slaying like she always is. A Queen 👸
@uyennguyenmaiphuong9310
2 жыл бұрын
Wow I never saw a Kpop idol actually speak about matters like this, she’s so brave. What did she say?
@sksksksksks4288
2 жыл бұрын
oh, nice!!! what did she say?
@marszzattackh7531
2 жыл бұрын
And what I HATE the most is that the large majority of people watching THIS video is WOMEN! There aren’t enough men doing the research, learning or even caring about women’s experience. which is why it’s sadly up to us women to keep each other and ourselves safe...I tell my guy friends all the time that “even when you’re around the bros it’s your responsibility to stand up for us bc men only listen to men” 🙄 ugh I can talk about this forever.
@catlisma5625
2 жыл бұрын
dang this is so true
@bluebirdie268
2 жыл бұрын
True girl!!! I shall talk about this forever too!!! In fact we have to
@angelsarereal4902
2 жыл бұрын
Men don't *care* about our safety. They only care about saying "not all men" or "men go through it too".
@bmona7550
2 жыл бұрын
Men usually only care when SA personally happens to their children, mother or grandmother (yes they get assaulted too). So basically when it's too late
@vanessa9815
2 жыл бұрын
Majority of them don't really care tbh:/
@its-a-me--mario
2 жыл бұрын
This made me think about how many mixed signals, in relation to consent, that we get as kids. Let's say a relative wants a hug, and you say no, a lot of the time they give you one anyways because THEY want to. You've said no, but still they continue. Why? Because THEY WANT to. Then again, let's say being tickled. You're laughing and you're continuously being tickled, which you don't enjoy. You tell the person to stop, but they don't. They give an excuse like "But you're laughing", and they continue on even though you asked them not to. This can be applied to situation of "But you basically asked for it" based on clothing. No, I didn't ask for it. I didn't ask to get tickled, I didn't ask to get harassed. I laugh as a natural response, I wear what I want to wear. I asked you to stop. You gave an excuse and continued. Consent should be properly taught and enforced. No means no and when someone tells you to stop, you stop. It's not that difficult.
@SaheeliRai
2 жыл бұрын
Very well spoken 👍
@sofia-jf8xm
2 жыл бұрын
The tickles get annoying ngl
@serenityssolace
2 жыл бұрын
You are ridiculous 🤣😂
@angelsarereal4902
2 жыл бұрын
@@serenityssolace How are they ridiculous? Do you not agree with consent? Are you kidding me? Well I see you in a lot of replies and I'm not surprised you would say that. You're very strange. I don't care that this comment is a month old.
@glutenfreecookiestastelikenoth
2 жыл бұрын
@@serenityssolace ppl like you throw common logic out the window when it comes to s*xual assaults and thats the problem
@giraso_L
2 жыл бұрын
I have a broken memory of my friend being assaulted in front of my eyes and us both being too young to understand what’s his intention is. I was just embarrassed and confused and we both just laughed it off but now looking back, its sickening that our 9 year old selves had to go through this
@nairobi8337
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so scared of men. I don’t want them to approach me at all.
@finprol943
2 жыл бұрын
Wow!what about your Dad and brother?not men?
@progamingtube2240
2 жыл бұрын
@@finprol943 Typical reply aren't u guys tired of bringing this thing again and again when a women said she is afraid of men or don't like men
@krishita15
2 жыл бұрын
Man what do you mean by we are giving signals wearing short dresses.. literally.. when a 6 month child got rapped.. what kind of signal that baby was giving huh??
@lmcb8447
2 жыл бұрын
NO one is asking for SEXUAL HARASSMENT. She could wear nothing, she could be a night sex worker,anyone doing anything and you still don't have NO RIGHT to touch her without explicit consent. (Many)Men get so butthurt about until it's a gay/queer man doing improper advances on them , that's when they light up, they fear, they get furious. Many have this stupid double standard and I'm so tired of it.
@jheanie6812
2 жыл бұрын
One day, on the way home, my mom saw a lady on the street and she commented "look at how some of these girls dress, that's why some of them get raped" and I've never become confrontational that quickly before. In fact, I've only been more vocal about my opinions since passing the 20 year mark (though it still scares me, and my throat becomes tight really quickly) but I couldn't let her continue without reminding her that she literally could have been wearing anything, if some dude felt entitled enough he would just find a way to do it. To this day, I honestly don't know if she really understood my point, or just agreed to end the convo
@josukeshair8891
2 жыл бұрын
My dad is like that too, but I found out he dated an 18 year old when he was like in his 30s so of course he has no respect for women/girls.
@inkubator320
2 жыл бұрын
@@josukeshair8891 I'm sorry.
@juliee593
2 жыл бұрын
My mom saw a porn actress on TV who was getting lots of mysogynistic messages on social media, and she had the audacity to say that she was asking for it because she was a porn actress and she showed her body. I was so fucking disappointed and I can't believe I still let such a person have power over my life. I feel like we all need a space to talk about how much disappointment you can feel as a daughter when your mother literally supports your and her own oppression.
@the_life_vlog_
2 жыл бұрын
The timing of this video is just so right, in egypt there is a woman who was slatured because she refused a man literally in the street in broad daylight and people are just talking about how girls should protect themselves more even before the murderer gets his punishment it's traumatizing and knowing that other women in different countries and cultures are facing the same thing is just so sad like you just can't escape wherever you go
@tangerine7068
2 жыл бұрын
Also I noticed how news articles tend to downplay it when women get assaulted. If it's a teenager they use "young woman," to add responsibility to the victim. They use "forced to have s**" instead of r*p*e
@juliee593
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yes, the worst is when they say "very young women", usually they mean 13 year old kids... Just say KIDS ffs why are you defending the accuser with your words?
@itssamirah5813
2 жыл бұрын
Well said! It's extremely tiring living in a society where women can't walk on a street, go work out at a gym, or even just have a night out in a restaurant (in this case). It's just mind boggling that the majority of women will/have been sexually harassed, assulted, etc, but every man states "I would never do that" "that couldn't be me" "None of my friends are creeps".... Having to be constantly aware in fear of men is tiring.
@paviism16
2 жыл бұрын
I still remember that time one a middle aged guy tried to rub his thing against me in the public bus and when I started shouting at him he was just asked to get off the bus and I was asked to stay away from such man and be careful as he may come again. I was just 15-16 back then I replied OK as I didn't knew what else to do. Even my parents when told about the thing told me to be careful of that man and asked me not to go ‘alone’ in a public transport
@nupzgotcaffeine09
2 жыл бұрын
Man, I remember a time, in college during an English debate, I was participating alongside a couple of other people, a guy from the same class, stood up and said and I quote because this thing was horrible and just disgusted me in so many ways that I remember it now, he said, "I think that the reason women get harassed really is based on how they treat the men around them or how their past relationship has been with the said man and it's really no one's fault if you're gonna give men the attitude, you're gonna receive it", and I was just baffled by this, because, how does, me telling you to eff-off after you try to touch me in a bad way, mean that I was giving you attitude when all I was trying to do was defend for myself and that gave you the reason to abuse me? edit: (there were many spelling mistakes)
@mimanshatiwari3783
2 жыл бұрын
man that was so freaking weird I'd have thrown hands at the person who said that. guys like that are the ones who grow up thinking its okay to do things like that. he needed a good lesson
@whyareureadingthis2037
2 жыл бұрын
Weird how men always try to understand the other men in a made or sadly real sexual harassment situation then victim 😒
@rainbowsubs2
2 жыл бұрын
Don't mind that clown
@jacksonwangspapillong4217
2 жыл бұрын
ngl I would've threatened that guy, idc if I got suspension for saying the right thing (that's how schools work don't they?) but I DEFINITELY would've let him know how wrong he was
@glutenfreecookiestastelikenoth
2 жыл бұрын
According to his logic then even serial k*llers are innocent too
@gizuki
2 жыл бұрын
It has to be "educate your sons" instead of "protect your daughters"
@uyennguyenmaiphuong9310
2 жыл бұрын
I was touched by my chest while biking home from school, literally covering myself from head to toe like a fucking dog thief because it was like 40 celsious outside. So if I have to hear that “because of the clothes you’re wearing” one more time, I’m gonna loose my fucking mind.
@cozyrosie
2 жыл бұрын
If you are a man and don't threaten or assault women: congratulations, you are a normal human being. That is not special. That doesn't make you special. It is just normal behaviour and how all humans should behave.
@HighAsHeckPriestess
Жыл бұрын
How can they say that when it happens to children? Little girls exist and it happens to them too.
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
Men don't take no for an answer. Half of men are like this, and the other half stand there and don't do anything.
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
@a Guys who don't commit the crimes themselves, but watch their friends do it and don't stop them because that's his "bro", aren't good guys.
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
@a Everywhere you go on youtube, you'll find comments degrading and hating women. Everything they can find. Work, driving a car, clothing, merely existing. Men call these "jokes". And not a single man, not even the ones that seem to be good guys in real life, wouldn't like those comments.
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
@a But do you ever tell them its wrong?
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
@a Then I thank you, you're the first guy I've met who isn't like that.
@chervilisbetterthancilantro
2 жыл бұрын
@a I used to be in a male friend group. I quit that sh*t when one of them started showing his real colours (checking all the boxes of a certified sexist), and the rest started cussing out the guy who disagreed. I don't think even half of all girls and women realise how guys and men speak about them when they're not present. A man jumping in when a woman is physically harassed isn't rare. But that's not the only thing needed to stop misogyny and sexism. Most of the time, it means you have to be the "mood killer" and call out your "bro" when he makes a sexist joke. It means you have to be "the annoying one" and stop the "locker room talk". It means you have to be the "woke" son and call out your dad when he inappropriately touches a woman in a way he would never touch a man. It doesn't take you to be chivalrous, it takes you to be "the bore". And majority of guys just isn't up for that.
@izzyy_249
2 жыл бұрын
As someone who is traumatized by sexual harassment throughout my life, I will share my story. I was two years old and visited a child minder everyday until my parents finished their shift at work, there was a child which was the grandson of the child minder who was 11 he used to call me his pretty baby and would touch me in inappropriate areas and kiss me, this went on until I was 8 and left the child minder. Then, I identified as pansexual when I was 10 and had a girlfriend, at this point I struggle to this day with depression and anxiety but that the point of this I had had it for 2 years. she would lift my skirt up, touch me inappropriately and kiss me all without my consent. I wasn't and I'm still not a person who likes to be touched. to this day I experience PTSD and stress and anxiety with the thoughts and happenings of sexual assault. I am now still depressed and have anxiety but I am straight and single. we are not alone ❤
@ilikerice631
2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry about what you’ve gone through no one deserves that, Im very proud that you are working through it :)
@fizatasnim4367
2 жыл бұрын
I hope you're doing alright hun, just remember that none of it was your fault in any way and that it's only the abuser's and bystanders fault, I hope your mental health gets better💕
@izzyy_249
2 жыл бұрын
@@ilikerice631 thank you for your help! ❤
@izzyy_249
2 жыл бұрын
@@fizatasnim4367 Thank you ❤❤
@stephaniecheung5327
2 жыл бұрын
This sort of thing boils my blood! I have a 1 year old daughter and I fear for when she gets older 😞
@freakyDemon100
2 жыл бұрын
My brother was horrified after seeing how women are so casual with all these threat to our safety and how we take it easy. But when I told him that it's because we have been seeing things like that since we remember and he was beyond horrified.
@giaparmer
2 жыл бұрын
I had a conversation with my boyfriend recently where I asked him how much of his day he spends wondering how he’s perceived. He said maybe one percent of his day then he looks in the mirror and he’s like yeah I look pretty good. But that’s not what I meant, I wanted to know that as a tall man how much of his day he spent wondering how he was *perceived* . If he spent large portions of his day measuring the sexual energy he was giving out through his posture, his clothing, his eyes. I wanted to know if when he went out in public alone he made constant subconscious efforts to remain unseen like I do, even though I am also an extrovert. He said that he didn’t, and couldn’t really comprehend what I meant when I said we as women spend every conscious moment *even when we are alone* wondering if we are being perceived in a way that would not provoke a threat. It was a really really eye-opening conversation, honestly it was kind of disturbing to realize that women exist in a sort of trauma response especially those of us who have experienced trauma constantly altering our appearance and sense of self so as to avoid violence that was already unprovoked.
@sadiajebin2505
2 жыл бұрын
The clothes comment is absolute bs. I am a hijabi girl..in January of this year I was followed by a guy..he was laughing, screaming and wouldn't leave me alone. Thank goodness a women, saved me and helped me get back to my house. I was wearing my hijab, a tshirt, a long skirt, chunky boots and a long ass coat covering my outfit. You can be wearing whatever clothing and still experience this sort of behaviour. It is never about the clothes...
@VideosForYou90
2 жыл бұрын
Happened to me when I was 14 and in my uniform. I wasn't asking for anything, I only wanted to go to school. After that my Dad brought me by car for the rest of the time I was going to that school. Thank you for talking about such an important topic that others (and often a lot of men) avoid or brush under the rug just because it may be "uncomfortable" to talk about.
@juliee593
2 жыл бұрын
And it's really sad because at the end of the day, when you talk about it with the men in your life, most of the time the only thing they can do is protect you but it'll never stop the creeps to keep on coming. Meanwhile what we actually need is not protection, it's for creeps to stop in the first place. Even men with the best intentions for you get frustrated and uncomfortable because they know they can only do so much. They wish you could just go out alone and be safe.
@iviebuso3879
2 жыл бұрын
This one time My dad was in a last minute meeting at work so he couldn't fetch me from school. I had to walk to my younger brothers school to fetch him so we can walk to my dads work (these places are relatively close so it wasn't a problem). I was walking with my brother and male friend. On that day it was BLAZING HOOT and I remembered I packed a shorts and a top, so I changed into them. As we were walking so many men were catcalling me making sexual comments and all of that to the point that my male friend got so heavily annoyed. When we got to my dad my male friend told my dad what happened and he said "it is bcuz of what you're wearing, it's your fault" and I felt sooooo hurt, he made it seem like I wore those clothes for those guys attention!! So then I told my mom about what My dad said and she said "that is a whole lot of bull ! So woman can't express themselves and wear the clothes they want to wear just bcuz males are unable to keep it in their pants !"
@somebody7891
2 жыл бұрын
At my school, girls are often asked to put on a jacket or some sort of covering if their shoulders are showing--I suppose because boys "can't control themselves". It's absolutely ridiculous 🙄
@bubblegumbxtch9544
2 жыл бұрын
Men don't understand the extent women have to fear in our society. My mother always said "it's about someone being a rapist, not the victim's behaviour." and "rapists rape people not outfits," It doesn't matter what the woman or girl was wearing. The outfit isn't even a factor. All the focus is on girls being in the wrong places, why is it not on the boys? Why does our culture not pressure boys to be respectful, and careful and fearful of other men's sexual harassment.
@gretq-1234
2 жыл бұрын
“You should have protected yourself better” Yes, women are strong, BUT TEACH YOUR SONS A LESSON, WTF? It’s disgusting and sickening. I have been catcalled, harassed, and recorded. No men or boys I know understand how I feel in public. I feel objectified and I feel like I’m on display, and I really hate that feeling.
@shannonwrenfield1921
2 жыл бұрын
Those poor girls in that bbq restaurants 💔
@moonchild07613
2 жыл бұрын
You know what also makes me super mad is that one of my relatives said that if that happens that god wanted it. EXCUSE ME??? WTF? I refuse to look at that person ever again.
@saoirsehayes2935
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I was followed home in my school uniform, when i told my dad he laughed and said i got a boyfriend.
@ME-hr9vu
2 жыл бұрын
I just want to live in a planet with no men on it .
@twice4life512
2 жыл бұрын
Don't say men because many men respects women say creep men
@chuu6079
2 жыл бұрын
This has happened when I was 14 and 15(last year and now). One time a random man touched my hair on the bus with my family, another followed me with my dad and brothers, and I'm glad my family was there. The time I was alone, some guy asked me to take a picture for him, and he tried to take me to the spot(still hasn't given me the phone). He tried to make small talk even after I told him I was 5 years younger than him. (I got out by pretending to have an emergency and left) Each time, I was fully covered. It makes me sick how victims are blamed for this kind of disgusting abuse.
@Aurora-fi5gx
2 жыл бұрын
I remember being given a dress code slip because of too tight a turtle neck, TURTLE NECK! I’ve been catcalled since I was probably 9! Men should look not for consent, but active participation! And women! Men do get assaulted to, but feel since they became “stiff” they obviously wanted it, it’s a bodily action and doesn’t mean they’re consenting!
@niki8297
2 жыл бұрын
I remember this story that my grandmother told me once a girl about age 16-17 had a lot of guy friends and they went to hike often together. One day they went to their usual hikes 6 guy raped gee who she had called friends before. Guess who's fault was it?
@liv-rp7qm
2 жыл бұрын
It's insane that we can't trust anyone 😔
@daphney3098
2 жыл бұрын
the fact that ppl assume everything we do are for male attraction just make me sad:(
@nf9407
2 жыл бұрын
I kid you not, I was at a mall in 2010 and a women covered from head to toe (you can only see her eyes) got sexually assaulted in front of me.
@UsedBandaid-i9k
2 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was 12 my friend and I were walking home from school and this random creepy old man started following us. at first I didn't notice I was talking to my friend's younger sister and that's when my friend pointed out how this guy's been walking behind us for a while. So I remembered a random video I watched online where this girl was like if anyone is following you never go to your house because then they'll know where you live so then we went to a shop that was close and he walked in with us AND PRETENDED TO BE LOOKING ST THINGS anyways while he was distracted we all sprinted out of the store and ran to our homes idk what that guy was trying to do but I all remember is that he had a Mario mustache with a round face
@lumi3831
2 жыл бұрын
This is why i’ve been scared of men since late elementary school. I want to wear things that make me happy without the chance of me being SA’d at school and outside of school.
@xristinarose2409
2 жыл бұрын
For many years i wore almost male clothes because of this paranoia that if i wear a short dress it will be my fault if i get attacked or r@p3d.. as if it depends on me wether i arrive home safely or not
@danamaratova9125
2 жыл бұрын
Not so long ago, I commented under a video about online harassment of women/ entitlement to ones body. Obviously I expressed how disturbing it was to see such things because they happened one too many times to me personally and any other woman. This is sad to know that every woman was exposed to such behaviour at LEAST once in their life. Well, I woke up to someone commenting on my respond, calling me an incel for saying that it makes me furious to see such behaviour. Honestly, it feels like people are forgetting what is common sense
@juliee593
2 жыл бұрын
That's sad, but when something like that happens on the internet it's better to not engage and not give these people a thought, because that's how they thrive. The best thing to do is to move on and watch something you love.
@danamaratova9125
Жыл бұрын
@@juliee593 yeah, I agree) But I understood that a bit too late))) However, the victory was mine 😝
@bougiepeaches5497
2 жыл бұрын
It's worse when sexual assault comes from male family members.
@GoblinSparkles
2 жыл бұрын
I've also been stalked many times by men since i was a child and been sexually harassed and almost raped a few times. I never asked for any of that...I now only wear baggy clothes and put many layers from fear of unwanted male attention but even that hasnt stopped it
@sadnessismyjam3612
2 жыл бұрын
It's true about the clothes. When I was 13-14, I had a male friend who was known by all my friends to make unnecessarily sexual comments to girls and to get too close to them, even when they told him to stop. I thought I was safe because I hid every part of my body and I had my hair cut short enough to be mistaken for a boy. But he still made comments on my body and would put his hands on my thighs and randomly come up to me, smell me, and say "you smell really good today." The only reason I stayed friends with him was because I was afraid that if I wasn't friends with him, he would act worse to me and find other girls to harass. All of my friends had this philosophy as well. It's disgusting to think that girls have been taught that this is just "the norm".
@AM69999
2 жыл бұрын
Didn’t know about the Tangshan incident but what crazy is two similar events happened in the Middle East one in Egypt where a girl was stabbed by a guy and another in Jordan where a girl “Iman” got shot 4 times by a guy both simply for rejecting them and they both unfortunately died, it’s a scary world no one is safe 😢
@strobeeeee.
2 жыл бұрын
i still remember when I was coming home from school, MIDDLE SCHOOL, a normal child with backpack and normal clothes and an old fat creepy disgusting man started talking to me as I was walking... I had my first panick attack back then... And MEN THINK CATCALLING=COMPLIMENT?!?!?!?
@meaganolivia
2 жыл бұрын
im a young pretty Black girl (about to go to school in the v dangerous city of atlanta) and ive never been cat called or harassed, but i believe that's solely because i try not to leave the house much. i feel like ive missed out on so many experiences because ive been taught to always be weary of 'who's watching'. i have a feeling of regret, but also an unsettling feeling of security living this way :/ i'm def reluctant to wear the clothes ive been wearing in atl tho.
@disco_depression
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a male who enjoys jogging and this summer I have started wearing short shorts and finally embracing my hairy legs. I feel liberated, sexy and free when i do this but I always get remarks from women (and man!) either complimenting it or making inappropriate remarks. And it feels sickening hearing this for hours. I'm doing this for myself, to feel the fresh air against my calves while in mouvement. Not for you to lust over me and make comments, or even worse for you to call me an "ape" that needs to shave
@juliee593
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, the nerve people have.
@angelikap8303
2 жыл бұрын
I was assaulted when I was in my uniform. CLOTHES ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. Why people say that. How can they still think like that. That's sick. Unfortunately there are so many people out there who always blame the girl.
@shiannehedrick6732
2 жыл бұрын
I can relate a lot with this video my gym teacher in 6th grade ave me a hug from behind to show me how to throw a frisbee which i was doing just find and I had to mouth help to a friend to get him off of me and he called other students babe and other names and was just know as the creepy teacher i didn't tell my family until two years later after he was fired for SA and they told me i should've told someone but I've experienced this behavior for so long that I thought it was normal and if I said anything I'd be dramatic.
@blackenedfeatherz9503
2 жыл бұрын
I kinda cant believe the idea of whether someone was "asking for it" based on what they're wearing still has to be debated but I also can. This topic just gets harder and harder for me to put energy into as I've started to really experience being creeped on and followed myself more in my 20s. I just want to be fucking left alone and not looked at.
@lils_in_a_teacup-_-
2 жыл бұрын
I. LOVE. YOU. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS. Literally, me and so many of my friends have been harassed and the number of times I've had to play bodyguard for not only them but for me is RIDICULOUS. There have been times where I've told my friend about something annoying that's happened and they've gone "...that's harassment Lior". It happens so often I can't tell what is and what isn't anymore. Thank you so so so so so much for talking about this, I love your videos so so much!!!!!!!!!!!
@annettehernandez3985
2 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of when Don Quixote attacked some men in the noble and then told them that should have not been dressed like they wanted to be attacked
@queenxconverse
2 жыл бұрын
I used to work in an after school program and worked a lot with the 1st and 2nd graders and one time my boss told me I had to go force a little girl to put her jacket back on because her shirt was inappropriate, a seven year old. Like it was almost summer in Florida and you want me to believe a child overheating is better than seeing her shoulders????!
@carinaline3649
2 жыл бұрын
Actually I am at a point where I get super uncomfortable whenever any male stranger finds me attractive, I just want to leave the situation. I hate all the honks, that scare me and even a compliment makes me wonder what they could possibly plan and if I should leave right then. Frankly it's exhausting.
@liagamer4265
2 жыл бұрын
I hate people finding me attractive too. Especially because Im aro ace
@carinaline3649
2 жыл бұрын
@@liagamer4265 Omg I can imagine
@blinksters2158
Жыл бұрын
Agreed it’s sad that us girls have to be careful of everything, I’m scared of going to school in certain clothes because if someone says something about it, it’s my fault
@alcyonae
2 жыл бұрын
Italy 1999 “a court ruled that a girl in jeans can’t get raped”. Some time later in middle school, my Italian male science teacher in sex ed taught us just that a girl in jeans can’t get raped. And to the guys, he said that if a girl doesn’t want it, her body will shut down and prevent you from r***ng her. I was clueless enough to believe I had this latent superpower, but I asked him how do girls shut down their body. He reprimanded me. I think he’s dead now.
@liv-rp7qm
2 жыл бұрын
Hearing you say that I shouldn't be ashamed, that it's not my fault, that I'm not alone made me cry, thanks Zoe, last year I was raped by who I thought was my best friend, we were drinking because I was sad about some personal problems, so when I was drunk, almost asleep, he started touching me and then he abused me, I wanted to scream but I was so ashamed of what my parents who were in the other room would think that I just closed my eyes and cried, when he finished and he saw me cry, apologized and said "I just wanted to make you feel better, you looked so sad, I would never hurt you, you're my best friend" And those last words made me feel guilty, then he insisted that I never said no when I was already doing it and so many things that at first I didn't even think that he had raped me, I thought it was my fault for drinking too much, for trusting him and this whole process has cost me a lot, so thank you for making this type of content, I really appreciate it ❤️
@neongreen1404
2 жыл бұрын
When I was 10 a male family member of mine used to s/a me (for a few years.) And I specifically Rember a few times where this family member would tell me when I wore pajama shorts (THAT WAS BOUGHT FOR ME) or a lower cut pajama shirt(THAT WAS BOUGHT FOR ME BECAUSE REMEMBER I WAS 10) he would try telling me that I was TRYING to provoke him (I tried avoiding him as much as possible) and he would say things like "I know you're only wearing that to make me want you" I WAS 10
@Rose_Light08
2 жыл бұрын
We normalise everything now days but this is no good
@alonii.
2 жыл бұрын
honestly the saddest and more frustrating thing. I really hope and pray that all us girls are safe and that all of those awful men go to jail for the things they do I feel so bad for anyone who had to experience this I’m so so sorry
@Fuyuko9-rt
9 ай бұрын
I know from experience, It can ahappen anywhere, at anytime, no matter how you are dressed. I'm thirtheen, the other day, i was throwing out the trash, i had oil stains on my pants, my hair were tangled and this guy starts talking to me, complementing me, telling me i'm pretty, asking me where i live. I tried to avoid answering his questions as best as i could, fifteen minutes later he gave up on me and went away.
@haveawonderfulday-17yearsa48
2 жыл бұрын
It's not just what we wear, it's the LACK OF CONTROL, MORALITY, AND RESPECT FOR OTHER HUMAN BEINGS IN PEOPLE! For example, I walk out of the house dressed modestly- lovely- and elegantly (my style). I tell someone good morning (TO SPREAD JOY IN THIS SICKENING WORLD) and their eyes immediately go onto my body parts, whilst I'm dressed modestly. It's DISGUSTING. Mind you all, the Bible also says to *cut your eye out* (not literally) if you lust for a woman (or anyone- really). It takes responsibility on both the male and female's side. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT CLOTHES. STOP USING THAT AS AN EXCUSE.
@willow0.0
Жыл бұрын
I was only 13 years old when my mother told me to sit behind the driver in an Uber or just in the backseat, never sit in the front seat with him
@justastan2814
2 жыл бұрын
I had a huge fight with my sociology teacher because he couldnt understand why women are scared to walk alone at night. You would think that a teacher who studied human interactions for years would understand, but at the end men are just men
@jyotismitaxx
2 жыл бұрын
I wonder how she talked about this topic without losing her temper cuz just by watching this vid, my blood boiled up
@justme-qd6qb
2 жыл бұрын
I hate and don't understand this mentality thats basically like "why would women live or do anything for themselves? Everything they do must be for men!" How can people be so entitled and self centered? It's horrifying how some see women as a completely separate category that they can't in any way sympathize with, that somehow deserve harm
@KL-ef6sy
2 жыл бұрын
Men who think like this horrify me
@sofia-jf8xm
2 жыл бұрын
A few weeks ago, I got into a metro and i sat in front of an old man and he stared at me but I didn’t think too much of it. I left the train and i noticed that the old man also got off and he was staring at me and i thought it was weird but decided to go outside and he followed me outside….then, i decided to go inside and he kept staring and following me and that point, i got really scared so i just went outside and went to the farthest place full of people. That was my first experience of a man following me, that was so scary.
@tj3603
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, it so annoying. I remember me and my friend had dinner in restaurant for our girls night, and after decided to take a little walk. It was evening, pretty good lit streets, there were people around us, and we were dressed normaly, nothing provocative. Yet there were bunch of different guys trying to make make acointance and not getting that "no" means "no", instead of "hey, turn on f***king creep mode and keep pushing, untill they threaten to call the police". I mean, wth with that? How men don't understand, when a bunch of guys coming at you at the street, it's bloody scary and not flattering at all!
@juliayang3294
2 жыл бұрын
thank you so much zoe for using your platform to spread awareness about the incident in tangshan. the government will not act unless there is public attention!
@my_name_is_arte
2 жыл бұрын
PARENTS SHOULD EDUCATE THEIR SONS INSTEAD OF TELLING THEIR DAUGHTERS TO DRESS A CERTAIN WAY. omgosh how are we living in 2022 and still nobody gets it......
@genevieve.88
2 жыл бұрын
is nobody going to mention how stunning zoe looked in this video... i love ur vids sm aa!!
@psychopathmonster4977
2 жыл бұрын
As someone who’s been stalked, assaulted, harassed, followed, etc since age 8 and was always blamed, thank you so much.
@blinksters2158
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU FINALLY SOMEONE TALKING ABOUT THIS
@emimew
2 жыл бұрын
I read somewhere that there is a clothing museum of the outfits, that assault/ rape victims were wearing. There aren’t only short cloths, but also hijab and children cloths. It doesn’t matter what the victims wears, it’s in the abusers mind and this is what we should change
@Kzzhzzk
2 жыл бұрын
Two female students were killed inside university campuses just for refusing marriage proposals. The first victim was slaughter in daylight at the entrance of the university. Yet people blamed her for not wearing "modest" clothes. The other victim was a Hijabi, yet the murderer entered the university campus and shot her. Both were killed because they said no.
@liagamer4265
2 жыл бұрын
what bullshit excuse did people say for the hijabi girl? Was she still not being modest? Let me guess she shouldve just lived like a hermit crab for her entire life inside her house and never dare to even breathe outside? people are freaking ridiculous
@1libra.
2 жыл бұрын
This is why I hard-core believe that conceal carry is a godsend for us girls
@caru2064
2 жыл бұрын
When I was 15 not that long ago I went to the mall with two girl friends of mine, and this adult man started following us and then he approached us and ask me for my age, so I told the man I was 15, then he proceeded to face my friends and said “if she was here alone, I would’ve kidnapped her” that still hunts me to this day
@km_g2523
2 жыл бұрын
this is the sad reality women face everyday 😢
@remvfsbb5481
2 жыл бұрын
This topic is really important and needs to be talked about more.
@justarandompersonsurfin
Жыл бұрын
Can we also mention the fact that some people think that because you're in a relationship with someone they automatically have your consent?
@katt7577
2 жыл бұрын
I remember watching this video, I remember all the times being scared that I was being followed even if I was fully covered, even going to the bus stop is scary. I take Krav Maga but I know that if it was me vs a man I could not win, it’s so scary. I’m so glad you made this video, this is genuinely horrific. I was lucky that I had male friends and support for me to report my harasser. I reported one but he got no punishment, I reported the second WITH evidence and the principle gave me a file that said if he contacted me like that again he would be going to the polices. Most of the people who knew it was occurring never said anything and proceed to tell me even now that I need to get over it. Like no, I was 14 f** that I’ll stay mad lol
@carolmay4395
2 жыл бұрын
Omg yes, this is such a tragic thing that every girl experiences and it's f***ing annoying..... Thnx Zoe for talking about it coz girls have to be reminded that they are not alone and it's okay to dress as they please and it's not a reason at all for men to harass us.
@enhyper9293
2 жыл бұрын
I love your hair color✨✨✨
@lennieimr
2 жыл бұрын
I'm only 14 and I've been groped/touched, followed, cat called, etc. These started when I was 9. I don't want to live in fear just because of my gender and because there is a lot of sick animals out there called men, not all, but enough. I want to walk the streets at 9:00 p.m or 7:00 a.m, etc, without thinking that I might be assaulted. Fear tears many women's lives apart because of the world we live in. To be truthful I am sick of it.
@trulytyrone7582
2 жыл бұрын
THIS BOILS MY BLOOD VESSELS.
@trulytyrone7582
2 жыл бұрын
Those men need to be put down
@aprildevil2778
Жыл бұрын
What if these women behaved like Men and did the same they did. How uncomfortable would these men feel.
@Roggerrabb1t
Жыл бұрын
This brought up a memory for me. I was 11 or 12 and was fascinated with a squirrel running around in a park. An older guy (early 20s) comes over and tries to chat me up. As a little kid I didn’t really understand what was going on and just politely answered his questions. My dad witnessed the whole thing and yet it was me who got in trouble.
@dreamylin5122
2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that dress coding in school where I live is not a thing. The only rule is don't come in a pyjama and still I have seen people not get in trouble when they dress like they have fallen out of the bed just now. It must be absoluetely traumatising to wear a tshirt in the summer and have a creepy old teacher tell you that what you are wearing is too sexual. Still even tho it isnt a problem in schools the whole blaming on the clothes thing still applies where I live. Back in 9th grade me and some also female friends just wanted to have a nice picknick outside. While walking to our picknick place we got cat-called multiple times. We were 15, not wearing anything sexual and walking around during the day.
@pinkbow5557
2 жыл бұрын
So it's everywhere 💔 there's a girl killed here by a guy who said he's in love with her but she refused to marry him he literally killed her on the street in the middle of the morning some people said she deserve it because she doesn't wear hijab. Harassment is big a deal though girls here and women never wear revealing clothes
@noami6778
2 жыл бұрын
Clothes≠Consent
@unbothered7577
2 жыл бұрын
I can't this makes me feel so horrible and very scared for girls.
@ME-wl3st
2 жыл бұрын
They said to protect ourselfs, but if we hurt or kill a guy for selfdefense, we go jail.
@jothepenguin5006
2 жыл бұрын
The clothes i wear, aren't an invitation for anyone! No matter how short the skirt or the top might was.
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