I get no affection from my wife. She doesn’t touch me at all hug kiss touch nothing. I have to initiate everything and she doesn’t put any effort. I give her the benefit of the doubt because of her job but I work a corporate job as well but I’m still affectionate. I love her but I wanna feel love too. I wanna be hugged and and kissed. Somebody that’s gone rub my back and me feel special. I don’t want a divorce and I don’t want to cheat. But I jus feel she neva goin change.
@geejeff4830
2 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain bro
@mwashington85
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like this
@ebonycasimire5887
Жыл бұрын
How do u deal with it?? Sighhzzz
@lili.h1813
Жыл бұрын
Oh wow. I can't understand people that say "I love you", and don't give affection, hugs, kisses, attention. Unless there is a "trauma" in their past.
@PedroSilva-yv3oo
5 ай бұрын
@@lili.h1813 They dont even use words for affection
@kellihayhoe8528
3 жыл бұрын
I want to start by saying that this is the best most thorough video I've ever seen. You nailed everything to a "T". Your voice and knowledge was spot on and I felt completely safe and at ease watching this. I was desperate when I looked for something to make sense, and when I found this video, I found just that. Thank you for helping me and others. I would love to have you as my therapist. Thank you for saving me from crying myself to sleep.
@celiaescalante
Жыл бұрын
I'm still PSTDs about the past even though I'm with s great guy, now. My ex was in the closet. I hated his lack of affection towards me. I could tell he wanted a handshake, once. He used to send me loving emojis before we talked about our relationship. Then, things turned ugly. He kept being so defensive. He would actually hug himself, frown snd ask me what intentions I had with him. Things were a mess or maybe not enough of s challenge. I completely lost trust in him.
@THOMMGB
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this video. I recently met a very nice lady who, before we even went out, told me she is not an affectionate person. She said her parents didn't show affection. She said the only person she shows affection to is her sister. I suspect this has been a real problem for her in the past. On the other hand, I am very attentive and affectionate guy. I'm assuming that we'll go slow, one step at a time and see where it takes us. I'll show her, over time how she can learn to trust me and that I'll be there for her. Please let me know what you think and any advice you may have as to how to proceed. Is it possible for her to change her behavior to become warm and affectionate? Thanks, Tom
@lovingrootsproject
4 жыл бұрын
Hello! Thanks for checking out the video & commenting. It sounds like you’ve got the right mindset going into this. You’re aware of your different styles regarding affection & going slow is definitely a good choice. Yes, I do think it’s possible to change how one shows affection, how much, how often, etc. Just as you said, building trust helps with that as does compromise. So finding a good middle ground to meet. Perhaps you are very comfortable with public displays of affection & she is not.... so you might meet in the middle where she can increase her affection, but does it privately vs publicly. It’s going into the situation understanding the differences and finding a good middle ground. Good luck & it definitely sounds like you’re on the right track!
@THOMMGB
4 жыл бұрын
@@lovingrootsproject Thanks so much for the quick reply. I hope you're right. I'm glad to hear that compromise sounds like the way to go. I do hope she's willing to try. I think she's definitely worth the effort. Again, thanks for your help and the quick reply.
@U7uber370
2 жыл бұрын
I lost weight but I always have those thoughts that if I didn't have saggy loose skin then maybe my partner would touch and rub me more often instead of me reluctantly asking her for affection. My first marriage ended due to mainly that of lack of affection
@millscherry4880
3 жыл бұрын
My relationship is going through some ruff patches. I'm very closed off the intimacy stopped I hardly talk about what I'm going through. She wants to have sex but I just don't want it or just find away to change the subject. I know it's me I been under stress and emotionally empty. I keep telling her something's wrong with me and it's not her. Maybe someone can explain what's going on cause I believe it a mental health thing for me
@ramonbiggs757
Жыл бұрын
I am an introvert grew up in the Caribbean my family was never affectionate. I’m very affectionate my girlfriend won’t even hold my hand hug me kiss me nothing she’s an extrovert. I believe a lot of people have trauma that needs healing and it manifests itself into lack of affection. It’s not a good feeling to feel rejected constantly. It will eventually cause a lot of issues in that union.
@geejeff4830
2 жыл бұрын
I moved on what she don't do the next one will trust and believe that
@happytobsaved
3 жыл бұрын
The internet. Online apps and that endless supply of guys just wanting her for her looks and sexual needs . I wanted her for everything in life , they only wanted her for 1 thing she only wanted them for one thing . Them ..sex . Her $$ . Me? Family and a Traditional wife. What did I get ? Nothing but the worst case of heartache , pain and now , the last 18 months. Possibly Left of life alone ? After 30 years of effort love and dedication to just her ? Damn.
@jetrolaspona8824
3 жыл бұрын
Mine is mental health. I think he's not interested my true feelings. I always cry every night because he can't give my needs. I just need a good listener and cheer leader.
@nyaladzimajaha4293
3 жыл бұрын
I get so scared to initiate giving affection because I overthink my gf’s body language and a bunch of other stuff that make me feel like she isn’t in the mood, and it’s killing us, I haven’t been able to satisfy most of her physical needs because we usually get into fights these days and now it never ever really feels like it’s the right time to be intimate.
@esthermbango1235
2 жыл бұрын
to me i don't have any affection to my husband any more he's not respect me he use to drink alcohol i don't like the smelling i am just hate him now i don't like him touching i am just hate him please any one help m
@geejeff4830
2 жыл бұрын
@@nyaladzimajaha4293 im going through the same thing dat part
@ekell7472
Жыл бұрын
a person who is aware that they have these issues should NOT be in a relationship. Get counseling 😅
@user-eh3bb2iv1o
2 жыл бұрын
All the women I have known who show NO AFFECTION, there is one common issue. They have had major sexual (life-long) diseases or were born with major anatomical “issues”. Either way, they feel very embarrassed about their bodies. It’s not you - it’s them !
@YotaDaryl
2 жыл бұрын
This is a HUGE help. Such humility. Thank you for this.
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