In my mind, everything about manipulation is wrong and just not good for any relationship. It builds a weak foundation, i’m glad you’re spreading awareness on this ❤
@lanae4t3
Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@campbell6669
Жыл бұрын
Agreed #2
@thedinonuggielord
Жыл бұрын
Agreed #4
@Purplelyrics162
Жыл бұрын
Agreed #5
@r0t.r10t.r1p
Жыл бұрын
Agreed #6
@lioevr
Жыл бұрын
I read about this somewhere! It tricks the brain into thinking that we like the person we do a favor for ... that's messed up
@Imowe_
Жыл бұрын
It’s probably not true anyway. Many people are just kind & do what others ask
@markbennett5812
Жыл бұрын
It is true and it’s part of building a relationship. The difference is often intend and if you are aware you are doing it or not. The line between being likable,charismatic and persuasive and being manipulative is blurred. Like a lot of social skills they teach people like when you go to a new country or you are on the spectrum can be seen as manipulation but could be you not being rude or improving your self to be more acceptable to people
@ei.someone
Жыл бұрын
Fr. This is used on some people on my class especially on the people who have a crush on me they do not have a crush on me their brain are manipulated 💀
@Imowe_
Жыл бұрын
@@YourlocalWeirdo_1 what is wrong with me that I know that some people just do a task if asked nicely? Not everyone does things because they have a crush on others, they’re just nice
@nishthagupta1357
Жыл бұрын
Omg 😂
@ellabuick2988
Жыл бұрын
The nice guys haven’t been totally erased yet thank god 💀
@Bludd_co
Жыл бұрын
They never were
@priscillaspets
Жыл бұрын
there’s actually a pretty good amount of nice guys out there! just takes a little searching haha
@calebquintana5724
11 ай бұрын
Ngl just look harder💀
@Fxrefly_Edits
Жыл бұрын
Its honestly so sad that some people honestly have this mindset 💔
@prettygangrated_pj
Жыл бұрын
Oh really?!
@irisrowanmoon
Жыл бұрын
@@prettygangrated_pj lol yeah.... they do. Just ask my ex and his entire family. They're the most brainwashing abusive people I've ever met.
@prettygangrated_pj
Жыл бұрын
@@irisrowanmoon shit, gurlll I'm sorry to hear that, and yeah unfortunately I have been through such a bad situation too.... a toxic brainwashing boy who made me feel bad for a long fucking time but now I'm completely fine after a year and I've forgotten about him, thank time that can change some things~
@inmyhead9
Жыл бұрын
There's this one guy in one of my classes I always thought was super cute. Never really went for it cause I had never dated before and turns out he hadn't either. But he started replying to my IG stories more and more, speaking more convos, and one day we suddenly had a 3 hr convo about how he wishes he knew how to control what he says more because he doesn't wanna be a rude guy anymore, and I said I'd help him and be there for him. That's how it started for like a week, then having convos everyday til 2am became normal and then he asked me to be his gf on valentines day 6 weeks later. We dated for 6 months, both of our first relationships ever. I spent 3 months of that relationship in misery, crying every night thinking something was wrong and that he could change, but he broke up with me because I was "too needy and a restraint" even tho I asked for less than the bare minimum. I fell for the fake version he gave me of himself, one I created in my head that wasn't even real. So when he showed me his true colors, I believed things could go back to the way it was but it couldn't because all of that was never real. Our emotions at the time were the only true feelings of love I had ever felt, and at one point he felt the same, but it didn't last long because once he lured me in with that false reality of himself, he got to play with my feelings. It's been 6 months after he broke up with me, I'm with someone else now, someone who loves me unconditionally, but I'm still not moved on from him, or at least who I thought he was and I don't think I can ever love the same again. I was warned about him so many times too. Never ignore any warnings or red flags, it's not worth being broken over and over Edit: I had to breakup with my new bf because of how emotionally and mentally unstable I have been feeling 2nd Edit: thank you to those of you who understand and feel for me. It truly means a lot, and you guys are the reason I return to this video. Also, they both now have a girl they are in talks with. The mean ex's new girl is almost an exact replica of me except is flip floppy, more average (not trying to be mean, it's not average in a bad way tbh, hard to explain), and used to be my friend. But apparently that ex has been talking all this stuff about how he's gonna talk to me and how I'm a baddie. Like bruh you have no rights
@beana6311
Жыл бұрын
That's messed up 😳
@freyabrown55
Жыл бұрын
I'll remember this, there's a guy in my class who I used to think was really sweet and friendly. He started getting more extroverted and talking to me, he would message me for hours talking about video games (CoD). Slowly I stared realizing he's not what he seems. He pushed another classmate off a chair because he wanted to sit there. Now I'm keeping my distance from him and finding out that I'm not the only one who's kinda scared of him...
@BunnyTheOG
Жыл бұрын
Red flag if you haven't moved on from your ex 🚩
@inmyhead9
Жыл бұрын
@@BunnyTheOG bro ik😭 I hate myself for it. I ended up breaking up with my new boyfriend about a week after posting my comment. He didn't want me to leave but the more we've been apart, the more I realize I'm not going to be ready to date ANYBODY for a WHILE, because I'm not moved on and many other personal life reasons
@inmyhead9
Жыл бұрын
@@freyabrown55 sounds like you have a firsthand experience with this breed of human☕️
@flagmond
Жыл бұрын
We need to protect Oliver at all costs 😭
@thegoat53654
Жыл бұрын
Nope he does these videos for attention if you have not noticed
@llv8406
Жыл бұрын
@@thegoat53654 he is a "pick me guy"
@Gostt.6
Жыл бұрын
@@llv8406 glad more people are realising this
@Giganigga23
Жыл бұрын
@@thegoat53654 yup
@wheeinies_dimpleee1484
Жыл бұрын
@@llv8406 how can you tell?
@Spooky646-
Жыл бұрын
It’s called being nice if we do a favor
@TorturedPoetWhoHatesItHere
Жыл бұрын
This was what my ex boyfriend did. After I broke up with him he tried to make me feel guilty about it and my friends were sick of it so they texted him and called him out on it. His guilt tripping worked for a while I kept trying to run back to him and I’m so thankful for my friends not letting me. My friends told me to block and delete his contact so I couldn’t try to run back and that’s exactly what I did. I’m so grateful for my friends not letting me go back into a toxic relationship ❤❤
@oisacovski9113
Жыл бұрын
The other dude was like: "this shit doesn't work, stop wit u bullshit"
@GirthMore
Жыл бұрын
Lol, if u can’t manipulate you will be manipulated. I don’t condone that behavior, it’s just dominate or be dominated…
@kirbed9486
Жыл бұрын
Yes we should all be aware of manipulation and how it works but i think you’re acting wack with the whole “dominate or be dominated” thing there, my guy
@pyyyy82
Жыл бұрын
In my opinion there is no need to manipulate a person, because that is not true love. It is better to wait for the right person
@whoknows4364
Жыл бұрын
I dont Trust people like that, I can’t find any man I really feel safe around and can trust, so… ✨women✨
@Mona72498
Жыл бұрын
I’m bi but the women take up like 80.5 while the men take 19.5 no offense cause women can be butches 🐕 too. Maybe 79 and 21 that’s fair to me
@Nightsky049
Жыл бұрын
I had 1 guy I felt safe with. He was my best friend for 3-4 years. Super amazing guy. Then he ghosted me and I can't find a single man that made me feel as comfortable and safe as he did. Unfortunately, Im still straight
@Mona72498
Жыл бұрын
@@Nightsky049 your all good and fine not all men suck trust me it’s just a lot of them you just have to meet the right one.
@wewooh0833
Жыл бұрын
@@Mona72498 ty for not saying all men are pigs lol
@hola-nh7ft
Жыл бұрын
@@Mona72498 yeah and not all girls suck
@sillyaubz
Жыл бұрын
How do get any girl u want Be kind and respectful and be there for them
@bluephoenix6229
Жыл бұрын
That only works on a certain type of girl. And you don't meet them very often, unfortunately
@sillyaubz
Жыл бұрын
@@bluephoenix6229 true sadly
@korsa_sfm
Жыл бұрын
and KABOOM ! friendzoned.
@koushik4508
Жыл бұрын
doesn't work
@ronnielyn19
Жыл бұрын
Even if i do get manipulated, my partner will get sick of my immaturity and emotional dysregulation. And constant ranting here and there, no one can ever stay with me lol
@VAcrogymmast
11 ай бұрын
FINALLY someone who is not toxic for girls
@griseldadedenika6791
Жыл бұрын
If YOU want to get a girl YOU should ask her for basic things,get along with her,ask someone for some info (if you want)and then you can take her to a date uk. Reminder:I am a girl that's how I think bc I have helped some of my friends(boys)bc they asked me for those things and sometimes they are helpful.They worked
@adeelshah6104
Жыл бұрын
Nah... She'll just be annoyed
@YUKI_DRAGON45
Жыл бұрын
This guy is the most respecting man for womens I have seen
@pandaslayerxx102
Жыл бұрын
The truth is everyone is manipulative wether they realize it or not, some are just more so than others
@3denx
Жыл бұрын
“Yeah, but at least ya get the ladies!” 💔💔💔
@paige.mariee
Жыл бұрын
I respect this man because he treats both genders equally and is on our side 💕 this man has a great soul
@My_Vents325
Жыл бұрын
The fact that people actually do that tho. And sometimes they win.
@someoneyoudontknowlolz
Жыл бұрын
it literally shattered my soul when it reminded me of smth..
@megaraj9709
Жыл бұрын
Had an ex do this to me, totally broke me on the inside, don't see myself fit for a relationship now but luckily found a gem and hopefully I'll heal. Hope everyone else going through this does too ❤️
@That.menace.
11 ай бұрын
(Me to all my crushes) Him: Hey can you give me a pencil im out? Me: Uh no get your own
@GK_cant_Art
Жыл бұрын
“Hey can you pass me the salt?” NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
@nottzo
Жыл бұрын
People that think manipulating others is fun are crazy 💀
@kayjoedits9592
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly how my toxic ex bff acted like. I hated it
@averi_afton
Жыл бұрын
As a girl who has been through this it is terrible to do it
@ash_afton12
Жыл бұрын
Bro I already can’t tell the difference between platonic and romantic love pls don’t with me rn ✋😭
@natalielovesdrpepper
Жыл бұрын
That’s so messed up
@yurilikesfrogs
Жыл бұрын
A lot of girls get tricked into thinking they like someone and then getting manipulated. Ive had this moment to il tell you heartbreaking i also have A friend that also got manipulated she ended up getting depression
@voidmcc1348
Жыл бұрын
manipulation is shitty we all can agree. No one should brag about manipulating others
@Frida_Jamsson
Жыл бұрын
In that the realitionship the girl would be really scared that she doesn't like you (which she doesn't) so she would to anything to make YOU feel good. That's not good
@avasinha9764
Жыл бұрын
Thats why realism is important when dating....so many people play games ...knowingly or unknowingly....but if you are honest , authentic person who see thing as it is...there are less chances of you attracting these a** holes.
@doydoydoyyy1535
Жыл бұрын
That's soo relatable as a guy is doing this to me
@dominicguye8058
Жыл бұрын
The Benjamin Franklin effect? IDK if that would you a girlfriend
@kimlana3813
Жыл бұрын
I like that he understands what happens to us, it's totally true, guys do manipulate brains into thinking about them constantly, that's actually pretty bad especially if the girl doesn't understand that she may be fooled...
@sophics_studio
Жыл бұрын
My crush did that to me , he asked me if I could help him out with something and then went ahead and ranted about it with his friends but i overheard it.
@screamingdinosaurs
Жыл бұрын
this man is amazing I wish all men were like him
@sarahlynnjones5677
Жыл бұрын
Learning how to interact with others so that more people like you isnt manipulating
@zeldavaladez1774
Жыл бұрын
i feel like this has happened to me but very subtly every time
@davidr.3329
Жыл бұрын
The ultimate nice guy💀
@EmilyRobinson-hb3ss
Жыл бұрын
manipulation is not the way to go. if they don't like you like that leave them be. accept it, get over yourself and move on. don't be like that.
@whotf_isavery5501
Жыл бұрын
A guy did this to me last year and whenever I confronted him he just manipulated me again
@photosinthesisandoxegun23
Жыл бұрын
My ex was manipulative, he was emotionally abusive too like he never tried to understand me and he used to gaslight and blame me for everything, used to call me names and if I ever went up to him to share something he’d be like “your problems are nothing you’re just overreacting you’ve no idea what I went through! I went through shit a 100 times worse than you” he made me cut off everyone. And after a year I realised and got my senses back and broke up with him (a week ago) I was willing to compromise for him and I changed for him to the point when I’d look in the mirror i’d be like “who even is she”. I’m so glad we broke up!
@MoonIsOdd
Жыл бұрын
I've accidentally manipulated people before, I'm kinda dumb sometimes
@user-qn7qh6yt8e
Жыл бұрын
tbh this happened to me the first week of high school and i cried over him for two hours bc i didn’t think i was pretty enough. so just saying guys don’t do this you will ruin her.
@Gen-ZBlondie
Жыл бұрын
… my trust issues have grown and I’m glad
@xxrandomeditsxx4093
Жыл бұрын
I’m younger, I’ve never been in a relationship, but I understand this with friendships, I’m a very manipulative person by habit (thanks to trauma) but I don’t know when I’m manipulating someone, I do it a lot with my friends and I’ll wonder why they no longer want to be friends with me and I’ll look back on our conversation and I’ll be like “oh… I did it again… didn’t I…”
@souptg
Жыл бұрын
You can say men are bad for this and call it toxic masculinity but there's women who say they get in relationships with men just to see how bad they can break their heart. You don't see this guy talking abt that do you.
@workofgod9590
Жыл бұрын
I've experienced this. He's my classmate and always ask for my help in his homework or buttoning his sleeves and I actually had a crush on him lmao
@C.a.r.e_B.e.a.r
Жыл бұрын
I’m single but I just realized this happened to me but with friends
@bidi4907
11 ай бұрын
The only reason ppl should teach manipulation is so you can detect if it is happening to you
@frag1le_ang3l
Жыл бұрын
As a lesbian, so many people have tried to manipulate me into thinking I’m straight or being gay was a sin. I’ve gone through it so many times if they even MENTION me with a boy, I immediately block them for fear I’m going to be used again. It’s extremely scary to tell someone you’re gay, and then for them to just flirt with you or say they can change that? It’s terrifying. I am pretty antisocial so I fear for my life talking to anyone but my friends. It’s very scary how people ACTUALLY manipulate you into doing that stuff, just because they want to ‘be popular’ or ‘be able to have every girl wrapped around their finger’. People go to terrible extents to do that, and this person here is always on the subject and warning people ❤this is why I love this channel
@thesmartass106
Жыл бұрын
Mine is pretty simple just one of hear her "supposedly 300 pound best friend conversations" suprise her with something she likes act smooth boom you got her
@cc-x3
Жыл бұрын
How to get women: idk! Just don't be a weird dude!
@CalculusDaddy
Жыл бұрын
This guy would flip out if he heard what women say about how they get guys to like them. 😂😂
@guccikim777
Жыл бұрын
Happened with me recently had my crush play with my feelings and my friends helped him too..
@Thebestworstperson
Жыл бұрын
Not just women, EVERYBODY isn't just some puppet to toy with and get your way. We have feelings too
@hello.kitty.lover16
Жыл бұрын
It's fucked up and me as girl always falls for this trick..
@yourmumschesthair4009
Жыл бұрын
Had this happen to me a lot. It’s not fun and I almost offed myself a couple times 🧍🏽♀️
@kellydevreese3944
Жыл бұрын
Me doing favors for friends... welcome to the friendzone! Just because someone does a favor does not mean they are romantically interested😂
@Ifreakinglovebarnaby
Жыл бұрын
Abuse is still abuse. Even if it’s mentally
@user-chayyy2010
Жыл бұрын
“I know how to get every girl” **Proceeds to gaslight them**
@stutikhanna987
Жыл бұрын
These kind of people are actually too worst then people who are simply pervert. See they destroy people on there weakness destroying there trust in relationship and always on alert😢
@thatone3AMcreature
Жыл бұрын
Bro that just sick, these kind of people really need therapy like wtf
@nedad5748
Жыл бұрын
bro you and everyone in these comments need to calm down. it’s called the benjamin franklin effect and is completely harmless. sure, it slightly effects how friendly someone feels towards you but in no way is this manipulation. y’all learnt psychology terms and haven’t shut up since
@dark231nightocean
Жыл бұрын
Well people take advantage of this ,how it is harmless if u took advantage of person and then leave dt person after manipulating them .... welcome to the world this sh!t happens alot than u think , people use dt friendship
@freedmski4037
Жыл бұрын
My ex has this mindset and he still manipulates me
@Bakugoussister
Жыл бұрын
How cruel😢
@bambimartinez6816
Жыл бұрын
That happened to me in 6th grade but I was the one getting manipulated.
@C13740
Жыл бұрын
This is very toxic, you shouldn't manipulate someone into loving you just because you can't find someone fast enough it takes time to find someone.
@pennykrumnauer9547
Жыл бұрын
You say "I want you for worse or for better I would wait forever and ever Broke your heart I'll put it back together I would wait forever and ever" And that's how it works that's how you get the girl.
@thecutekittysgachaclub2777
Жыл бұрын
Him : can I have a pen Me: NO!...
@_shion2333
Жыл бұрын
Dude got so inspired by 50 shades of grey💀
@FamedDegree
Жыл бұрын
SOMBODY did that to me and my friend noticed and told me and it all went together and I realized I was being manipulated
@ThatOneYTchannel
Жыл бұрын
This is how my previous ex's got me. But My new bf has my heart because he is the complete opposite
@divyajanaibharathi4318
Жыл бұрын
This is thing that 90% of the Indian cinema teaching.
@V1x451
Жыл бұрын
this is what happened to me i was so heartbroken when i found out he was just using me
@kittywizard7777
Жыл бұрын
A girl tried to to this to my brother. She literally told a story about how well she gaslights her mom and said she prides herself on her ability to gaslight her mom (who is a counselor!!). So immediate reg flags. Later she asked my brother if he would “please go get my water bottle for me, I left it!” He immediately said “No” and she was like “Why notttt, it’s just a water bottle!” And he told her “it’s not my responsibility to keep up with your shit, get it yourself” and she pouted away. When he told me this story, he added “it sucks too because she’s hot, but she’s too crazy”🤣
@kymanishepherd4276
Жыл бұрын
The thing is the guy who said this probably had his heart broken so he has a toxic mindset bc of that
@gardienne1704
Жыл бұрын
No excuse. If that happened he should get support/help, not be a piece of......... poop.
@Urmom693x
Жыл бұрын
I have had this happen to me but the tables have turned and now they like me but I would never do what they did to me❤
@Haidyn_haybail
Жыл бұрын
I kinda feel this I had a crush on a guy and he either treated me really bad for how much I liked him or he played someone he’s not and when he broke up with his girlfriend and I stopped liking him I saw his true colors and they weren’t good cause one thing was he broke up with his girlfriend thag he was with for a long time for another girl which was just toxic , but now I like someone else and he’s not acting like someone he’s not
@maryheuer8929
Жыл бұрын
Be careful around dennass. My phone shut down on it's own and I had to run a system security sweep.
@user-sj2cv1xd9d
Жыл бұрын
Now this is why I'm Bisexual/hj
@maryheuer8929
Жыл бұрын
I love you Aidan. ❤
@edits_by_juna
Жыл бұрын
A guy did this to me, so I fell for him, but he ended up not even dating me and he were so mean and tricked me and after I went back to my old crush again. I’m traumatized
@mehakakashsingh2242
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU ❤😊
@tiawolf3610
Жыл бұрын
Manipulation is in everything even if you don't realize that what you're doing is manipulation It's not ALWAYS a bad thing - there's toxic manipulation and general manipulation I find it easy to get guys cause I study their behavior and act accordingly - at first I didn't even realize what I was doing but once I did I started being more conscious in how I did it It's only bad if you're intentionally hurting them I use tactics I picked up to get guys to open up to me and talk about what bothers them - YEAH it's manipulative - but it's positive manipulation I get them to do what I want and think how I need them to - I then use that to help them open up and then manipulate them further into a higher form of of self love and acceptance ❤ If I like a guy sexually or romantically that's when it becomes more self serving - I get nicer and vaguely more affectionate - I study their reactions and time my responses to be EXACTLY what they want in the moment they want it If they're dating someone I keep it friendly but once they break up I'll have already set myself up to be who they vent to - I don't dive until I've facilitated their healing I build their attachment and that becomes love This sounds horrible doesn't it? It would be - except I then go on to be the best partner they've ever had - I stay that way because the one thing I want is mutual happiness - I keep them happy so if the relationship eventually ends they have nothing bad they can say about me Calculated kindness It's Manipulation in it's purest form - however it does way more good than harm because everyone leaves me better than they came Therapy is 99% manipulation when you think about it - but we don't call it manipulative because manipulation has been misconstrued to mean something negative It's not always negative I'm manipulative - however I don't need to lie or gaslight - I don't steal or harm or break - I just create happiness - even when it's self serving the mindset is "I want them be happy... *with me* " The ends justify the means Manipulation is only toxic if you yourself behave like a cancer If I wasn't so manipulative then I wouldn't have people telling me "thank you" for talking them out of suicide and getting them to talk about their issues My means may be "bad" but the intention and outcome is ALWAYS for the good of both me and the other person And don't misunderstand this as me trying to make myself seem like a Saint 💀 I'm not - I'm an evil little bitch when I wanna be - I'm just saying how it can be and has been used for good In the videos case he's using it to pull girls - that's fine - however he's toxic if he is disloyal or hurts the girls intentionally Long as he's pulling 1 at a time and treated them nicely he's fine Sounds like he's a playboy though
@tysukaf2521
Жыл бұрын
Bro half of the time people say this its a joke but i still get the point
@MossySaturn
Жыл бұрын
This happened to me and it was horrible
@danielwilliams3161
Жыл бұрын
Saying I love you is manipulation
@AshtTheastronaut
Жыл бұрын
I feel bad now bc I’ve accidentally done this for my friend, but like I didn’t mean to , but I was just trying to ask them if they could throw my trash away cuz it was close to them, and if they could hand me my pencil bc everyone in my school does stuff like that for eachother
@kazutora439
Жыл бұрын
Some people in my old school did this to me and i don't think it is right at all
@Bre305
Жыл бұрын
The fact that this guy is so relatable and has helped me realize that how guys treated me was wrong. He literally helped me realize that my relationship was really toxic and now thanks to him I know my worth🫶🏼
@madisonsmith3642
Жыл бұрын
I’ve only ever feel in true love once…. He cheated and the reason why is bc he forgot we were dating 😔😞
@Claws-and-paws
Жыл бұрын
As a girl a respect for the guy who said isn’t that toxic?..
@user-fo4yc9gm6y
Жыл бұрын
this is what happens even by just replying a msg and this creeps me out......
@Watermelonheart30
Жыл бұрын
I think iam being manipulated.. and this manipulation is super duper crazy hahaha...i know my mind not going to get over it..and i know iam being manipulated but i can't do anything.. what a wise man he is wow
@celx1279
Жыл бұрын
Yeah but you also failed to mention that women manipulate men a whole lot more than the other way around.
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