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@Laughinghawg
2 ай бұрын
Clear, open, honest communication is key to any relationship regardless of the type. "No 'Tampon' for me" (In my best Soup Nazi voice).
@msimon6808
Ай бұрын
The anger is the disease. Anger should be a signal - not a way of life.
@ronrichards6653
2 ай бұрын
This happens because guys tolerate it. The first time a woman does this, tell her to get out and never come back. No more Tampo.
@Despond
Ай бұрын
Yeah. Instant: "If this is a sign of how you really behave int he future we're over" moment. But men will put up with it and tolerate it.
@ksager123
Ай бұрын
Exactly..too many weak men on earth
@mattbeckelhymer1669
Ай бұрын
Exactly
@kirbyjoe7484
Ай бұрын
If you live somewhere where this is the entire culture, then you have two options which is adapt or end up alone. No more Tampo.
@coreyct86
29 күн бұрын
She got game 😎
@walkingstick6655
Ай бұрын
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ― Mark Twain
@stevenhigley1930
14 күн бұрын
Words of wisdom!👀
@ClovisPoint
3 күн бұрын
damn right ,
@CarsonBoyd
2 ай бұрын
Here in the US we call it pouting and it is a sign of emotional immaturity. No thanks.
@hermesliteratus882
2 ай бұрын
Just stay away from this kind of woman.
@ABC-hi3fy
2 ай бұрын
Thank you. 😂 similar to Sulking
@twoweeledsoto6072
2 ай бұрын
Here in the US we call it a western woman. 😅 Nothing new.
@badpiggyaudits
2 ай бұрын
@@hermesliteratus882 Kinda easier SAID than done.. you don't know it, until it happens.
@douglass56
2 ай бұрын
😆
@johnpalomino2618
2 ай бұрын
Ex-wife (Filipina) pulled that shit on me one too many times. Its f-ing childish and BS.
@maladyofdeath
2 ай бұрын
I've seen it first hand and its honestly repulsive to me. A girlfriend or wife should never act this way, but something about Filipinos pushes this action by them.
@jorgesanchez5097
Ай бұрын
Your fault for allowing simping is simping respect yourself or she won't respect you
@katiejon17
Ай бұрын
One of my best friends from high school (90’s) had an American father and a Filipino mother. There is no doubt that this woman married that man for citizenship. The had three children in a short period of time, then she divorced him (now being a citizen) and moved to the other side of the country to live with other family that came here. That woman did nothing to raise her three children. No videos insisting, no financial support - nothing. But do you think they’re proud of their American heritage? Nope - it’s all about their Filipino heritage. And now the father’s passed and they fawn over their mother. And it is not isolated, it’s cultural.
@darrellbarnes2096
21 күн бұрын
By your angry comment I see why. You speak like an angry teenager, sounds like you might beat on women.
@platoon1081
2 ай бұрын
My latina girlfriend did this to me once. Instead of being silent though she became very contentious and bitchy. It was a disagreement over something mundane actually while we were driving to a family get together. I turned the car around, drove her home, and left her. I told her I did not want my family to see me being disrespected by my girlfriend. A few days later she told me it felt like I had placed her in a "time out". She never did it again so apparently I passed her "shit test".
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
contentious and bitchy.. i have even less patience for that. i'd truly rather be alone with a pizza than put up with that noise.
@your_royal_highness
2 ай бұрын
It’s usually not a one time thing
@blackpalacemusic
2 ай бұрын
The crazy part is when they don't even realized you have checked out of the relationship.
@RossMalagarie
2 ай бұрын
You passed her test to see if she could get away with it, news flash she will do it again. If you kept her you failed the real test
@smileygabe22
2 ай бұрын
I did that once to my mexican GF. Her ego was very high up and there were a lot of guys who wanyed to get with her. I remember driving down with her to go somewhere and we started to argue over soemthing irrelevant and started to disrespect me. I got VERY upset and by this time I've gotten red pilled. I told her to shut up and turned my car around. She asked where we were going and I said "the hole where i found you from". She had her 6 year old daughter there in the car. 20 min into the drive back, she very embarrassing started saying things like, "we should end tonight over something so silly", when I didnt respond, that's when she apologized. I looked at her pissed off, signed, and said, do it again and we're done. I brought her ego down from being this "i have guys in line for me to no longer being disrespect in any way".
@alanguages
2 ай бұрын
Be careful what you tolerate. What you tolerate, you allow. What you allow continues. What you allow to continue becomes the standard.
@lisavanoni6552
2 ай бұрын
Truth even for women with immature men who control
@lisavanoni6552
2 ай бұрын
It is immaturity basically
@Despond
Ай бұрын
This applies to everything in life as well.
@unknownkingdom
10 күн бұрын
Right...I imagine they keep doing this if it gets them ahat they want.
@ClovisPoint
3 күн бұрын
dont put up with their shit you owe them nothing
@nicholascherry5962
2 ай бұрын
Never let your girlfriend stop you from finding your Wife
@IfYouKnowYouKnow.
2 ай бұрын
Ha
@lilfairycupcake
2 ай бұрын
ill take a pass on the wife thing.
@OrdinaryCritic
2 ай бұрын
@@IfYouKnowYouKnow.
@piccadelly9360
2 ай бұрын
In the Philippine the male is fresh meat for the hungry cats or the wildcats
@badpiggyaudits
2 ай бұрын
Unless you know that marriage is stupid.
@effemesseyeveethefourth2841
2 ай бұрын
With mine, she will go on a 'silent cleaning fury' wherever I am. So I just 'strategically' move around our house and watch in amazement how sparkling clean our home becomes, lol.😊
@leechrec
Ай бұрын
haha that's a pretty productive type of tampo XD
@jwillard911
2 ай бұрын
My lady tried that one day I told her to get her stuff and go home. She came back 30min later and apologized. I don't have time for this childish sh;t.
@lilfairycupcake
2 ай бұрын
she should have never done that in the first place. prepare yourself for more ignorance.
@GregPorto1
2 ай бұрын
🤣
@EMAGA
2 ай бұрын
That is exactly how you handle a situation like that. Life is short.
@Cho-denki-rabbit
2 ай бұрын
It's how you handle it.. sometimes it's cute.
@97carded
2 ай бұрын
I don't put up with that. Especially just dating.. Good for you...
@redred2772
2 ай бұрын
God has a sense of humor. He put all the fun parts on crazy people.
@AlexejSvirid
Ай бұрын
The problem is Devil runs the world. He is lier and murderer. This is the reason why deception and violence are everywhere. This is the reason why the whole world is Sodom. That's why we've got the Gospel about the God's kingdom. Jehovah would put everything in order. The dead will be resurected and we'll meet our loved ones again! :-)
@jeffrapp7278
19 сағат бұрын
Lol😊
@binkysteaver9880
2 ай бұрын
The silent treatment is a narcissistic personality trait, the goal of tampo is to turn you into a walking apology, they want you to beg them to tell you what’s wrong. The rest of you can do what you want but as far as I’m concerned, if someone has something up their keister and won’t communicate with me about it, I SHOW THEM THE DOOR IMMEDIATELY
@DDK997
2 ай бұрын
Very well said.
@Jeff250lbc
2 ай бұрын
Exactly it’s a step up from the I don’t know where to eat then shoots down everything you suggest. Or the I don’t want anything thing to eat or drink then eats some of your food and drink.. it’s control.
@bw2442
2 ай бұрын
@@Jeff250lbc or childish lack of discipline and lazy thinking.
@ladyville3
2 ай бұрын
No, no it’s not. Can you go in and out of narcissism?
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
i've listened to many, many psychologists online speak about NPD (narcissist personality disorder). tampo is selfish, yes. but it is not on the level of a narcissist. a person behaving in a selfish manner can change their behavior. i know so many, some here in the comments, who made it clear tampo was unacceptable and the filipina got her act straight. but i've yet to hear any psychologist say that NPD/narcissism can be cured with therapy. largely because a true narcissist believes to their core that everyone else is the problem, not themselves. therefore, they reject any changes or therapy.
@jorgerobles628
2 ай бұрын
I had this Filipino girlfriend many years ago and one day during the first month or so of frequenting each she did this and didn't talk. I asked her what was going on and she didn't answer. I thought maybe is her cycle and she gets irritated so I let her alone for almost two days. Then she started to talk again and I asked her how she was feeling coz I noticed that she was like nothing happened, kind of strange for me. Well this happened again about two weeks later and I said myself this is not normal. And to be short this thing happened 5-6 times more within three months. I didn't like that so when she came out from the last episode I told her that we were finished and that I was leaving,. I left her, she looked for me and I gave her the same treatment she gave me, and told her to leave me alone, end of it. I am not into BS and never saw her again.
@Tony-hf9mv
2 ай бұрын
The last time my wife did this it killed our marriage. We are still together for now but something broke and I just don't care anymore. She gave me the silence treatment and I realized I am done with the games and her. Honestly the relationship is over. I just don't care for her anymore. The marriage is done, i just have to pay off a couple things and Iam out. Kids are grown and I'm not putting up with anything anymore. I owe no one nothing. I have done my part now it is time for me and my well-being and happiness
@douglass56
2 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear Bro. Best of luck.
@jeffmunro7638
2 ай бұрын
Amen….Same boat, over same bullshit
@maladyofdeath
2 ай бұрын
Its very common sadly, my best friend is going through the same thing. His filipina wife acts like a child throwing a tantrum, how he deals with her acting like he is a piece of garbage beneath her makes me believe marriage never works out.
@Monaco_mechanical
2 ай бұрын
"Slow dancing in a burning room" I'm in a similar situation. Good luck.
@JesusIsAlphaOmega001
2 ай бұрын
I for one am proud of you. I have gone through a terrible tampo marriage and it was like living with pure evil every day and night. You deserve better and she deserves what's coming to her. You are too old to keep this up. You will become younger after you are away from her. Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life.
@Mistamannfour
2 ай бұрын
Tampo appears to be the Filipino version of the Silent Treatment in our Western culture!
@User-jr7vf
12 күн бұрын
I have been ghosted by a girl last month, she lives in a nearby town and we met on Instagram. Still trying to recover from it.
Happens to me with my girlfriend. Now when it happens I just go out, leave the house, drink and have fun. I told her every time it happens I’ll leave until it passes. She hates that… being alone while I’m out and having fun. Shortens it dramatically
@Mistamannfour
2 ай бұрын
Why continually deal with this childish and immature behavior!
@machinemaker2248
2 ай бұрын
Soon she'll paint on a mini dress and go out drinking, too.
@williamscarbrough-z6t
Ай бұрын
And she starts doing that to get you out of the house now who’s the smart one
@Ian-iu2tl
2 ай бұрын
I told my Filipina online, before I met her in person, that I had heard of this tampo foolishness. She did it once. I packer her suitcase for her. Took her to the airport. Put a few thousand pesos in her pocket and and walked away. She followed after and started talking a whole lot and has never given me that BS again. It's a control thing. I am the boss and that's that. I hold the gold.
@CharlesRussell-zj3jp
2 ай бұрын
💯
@TrueBlueYou
2 ай бұрын
It is a control thing-call the bluff-they’re seeing what they can get away with
@jeffmunro7638
2 ай бұрын
Take her back home to NS and make her live in Yarmouth lol
@Superabound2
2 ай бұрын
I could never be with anyone who tried to test me like this
@flowerswerewarpaint646
2 ай бұрын
U sound crazy. Marrige is a partnership, u cant buy love
@Sidheavonney
2 ай бұрын
A guaranteed red flag. Run, don't walk, RUN
@billyhall53
2 ай бұрын
"Tampo". It's really a THING. I thought I was the only one. My girlfriend goes silent until the next morning. Then she tells me how what I said or did is not good in the philippines. The last time the silence began I hopped in the truck and drove to a couple of places, ate some street food, had a couple of beers, watched a basketball game and talked to locals. Had a ver nice time. Got home several hours later to a very worried and loving woman. No silence since then.....but if it happens again I'll know just what to do. 😅😅
@Nocare89
2 ай бұрын
1000%
@chaboi7
2 ай бұрын
That's not going to work
@wisskier
2 ай бұрын
When we have an episode leading to this, I just stay away and not talk to her until she is over it. Usually I know what triggered it and sometimes she is justifiably upset sometimes not. I don't go out or away or anything I just stay away and I certainly don't try to engage with her.
@theodorejenne6921
Ай бұрын
My girlfriend just phone snubs me to ignore my presence.
@katiejon17
Ай бұрын
If it happens again and you don’t drop her and never take her back - you’re not the man you hope you are.
@Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero
2 ай бұрын
The silent treatment is emotional abuse. There is no other explanation for it. Never tolerate.
@DwightStJohn-t7y
Ай бұрын
Genetic built in immaturity. How many Nobel Prize winners in Physics can you say are Pinoy?? Doesn't happen. Great workers, yes, but....
@RR-bh8vd
2 ай бұрын
Oh my ex-wife was doing tampo. Now she does it by herself. I learned to not worry about it, she'll get over it.
@USMC6976
2 ай бұрын
Two or three days.... nah, after a few hours, you tell them "goodbye".
@snickers525
2 ай бұрын
It's a big difference when she's your wife and not just a girlfriend. The wonderful divorce laws in the USA will reward her for her tampoo. Easy to say goodbye? How about saying "goodbye" to your home, half your money, and your kids because of her tampo, and "hello" to alimony and child support.
@chinesecrested9528
2 ай бұрын
After my 2nd divorce i don't tolerate ANY BS OR PASSIVE AGRESSIVE behavior. I either go about my business and ignore it, don't feed into it , or they get GONE.
@kingtrance307
2 ай бұрын
And whatever you do don’t get married again!
@MichaelScarborough423
2 ай бұрын
Agreed. I don't do passive-aggresive.
@jamesholden4571
2 ай бұрын
Tampo is what a child does. My wife did it to me often when we were first married (she never did it before then), and for the first couple of times, I would ask her what was wrong, and no response. I would be persistent in trying to communicate, but nothing. Finally, when I found out that tampo is a thing, everything changed for me. I started to ignore her when she did it, and wait for her to make the first move. Sometimes it was an hour, sometimes it was a day, but I was not playing any more games. I love my wife very much, but this was ridiculous. I would wait for her to come to me - "Honey, I need to go to the store..." I finally could ask, what was THAT all about? But playing into tampo prolongs it. It is childish and silly. You want an American, there are certain ways of communicating, and tampo is NOT one of them. It hardly ever happens anymore. Also, I get along much better with my stepdaughter now, so I can ask her, "Oh, is she tampoing me now?" My stepdaughter laughs, and tampo ends more quickly after that. I am a nice person, so treat me with a little respect. We can talk about problems. Tampo helps nothing.
@ralphs8858
Ай бұрын
I'm the same way now. It used to drive me nuts, but now I just wait it out... Still surprises me though, it's like a light switch!
@ClovisPoint
3 күн бұрын
was two weeks for me once didnt care as i lived on my own for years
@troobix_s
2 ай бұрын
Tampo is a combination of anger withholding, common women's childish beheviour and a test about how needy you as a man are to "fix" this problem. If you are not, she will fix it herself and consider you a strong male. But if you are pursuing her, trying to know what's wrong - it's the end of your respect.
@troobix_s
2 ай бұрын
Believe me, most of the filipino guys, they don't care about that tampo thingy. They look at other girls, they have many girl friends, they cheat and filipinas are still in love with them. But then some foreign comes and he deals with tampo like: oh, honey did I insult you somehow, did I do something wrong, here take those flowers, maybe you wanna massage? In a contrast she will think you are just a weak, needy man with zero other women choices and you even volunteer not to look on other girls by yourself. Where does it put you? The moment you leave your GF or wife in the Philippines alone for month or so, she will gladly accept masculine filipino guy company 😉Sorry if I upset anyone with this realistic negativity, but it's better to know the truth, then to live in illusion.
@Sigurther
2 ай бұрын
lol that is the exact opposite of a healthy relationship, especially what troobix_s said above. American men don't even do that when talking to other American men. *looks mad* "Bro, what's up, you look mad." "Oh, I'm mad about this thing I'm trying to deal with." "Oh! Do you need help with it?" "Nah, just frustrating trying to wrap my head around it." "Okay, lemme know if you need help." "Thanks."
@katiejon17
Ай бұрын
But what “strong man” wants such a malicious and manipulative woman? Strong men will see this once, dump her, and never take her back.
@johnanon658
Ай бұрын
Its a shit test, or an attempt to wrest dominance in relatiinship
@siriusfun
Ай бұрын
Women OBTAIN relationships. Men choose if those same women RETAIN relationships. Never forget your power, fellas.
@MRDPG59
2 ай бұрын
Number one rule when dealing with 'Tampo' never say " is it because I did ..."
@kimballinfidel6447
Ай бұрын
I suffered through 5 years of this. Thank you for telling me there's a name for it
@MichaelScarborough423
2 ай бұрын
Dude's so chill and straightforward and rational.... if he were a woman, he'd be perfect for me, lol.
@leechrec
Ай бұрын
A woman who is logical like a man. Ain't that a dream haha
@johnanon658
Ай бұрын
@@leechrectes, it is a dream, because its not real 😂 Gods joke, i guess
@commonsense3026
2 ай бұрын
“Tampo” is just another version of emotional immaturity, a child’s tantrum. Walking away to calm down over a serious offense is fine but that is NOT what they are doing. There is no serious offense in most cases. It’s manipulation.
@marcuspearson87
2 ай бұрын
Tampo seems to be one of the only negatives of dating a Filipinos, could see it being a dealbreaker.
@0Zebadee0
2 ай бұрын
It's always been a deal-breaker for me. I've dated Asian women from various countries, but never the Philipines. I've heard too many horror stories.
@roadkillz78
2 ай бұрын
Most women all over the world practice the silent treatment. Filipinas just turned it into a cultural habit. Men either have to learn to deal with it, or keep finding someone else that doesn't to it (good luck with that, however).
@tipigi3570
2 ай бұрын
I'd say #2 is the insane level of jealousy many seem to have.
@GAMMASP8
2 ай бұрын
It really isn't that bad to stop. My wife tried it a few times after we got married. I would ask one time what is wrong. Then I would go into the living room turn on the TV crack open a cold one and watch a movie or two. I would ignore her. About 4 hours later she would come into the room and say you want to know what is wrong? I would say yes I asked you that. After the first couple of times she stopped doing, or at least as much. I do feel when your Filipina gets older have children this becomes less of a problem. I do remember early on in our relationship when we was visiting my wife's family my wife treated me better because her mom and grandparents would tell her to cut it out. It just took time for her to mature. And I was maturing too. Soo
@mjklein
2 ай бұрын
Stalking is another serious issue that you need to consider. They call it "dating."
@jm7578
2 ай бұрын
Being single is best always
@imprivate3474
2 ай бұрын
OMG: I married a Filipina woman nearly two years ago with the understanding and agreement that COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION, COMMUNICATION were the top priorities in our relationship. I definitely experienced TAMPO repeatedly and did not even realize that this was a common thing among Filipinas. Despite multiple sessions with a counselor and repeated promises to communicate I came to the conclusion that she essentially had broken the #1,#2,#3 priority in our relationship and that was the trigger for me to end it. Annulment in process.
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
well, you did what you could. 'some' women snap out of their tampo ways. many do not. not even the therapist could make any headway with her. you did your best. that's all anyone could ask.
@artiglesias9317
Ай бұрын
EXCELLENT MOVE!!!
@a33331000
2 ай бұрын
I told my filippina that i don't accept when an adult woman suddenly behave as a little child. She stopped tampo and life is great 😊
@troobix_s
2 ай бұрын
I bet she expected you to do so 😉And she is glad, that she found a strong man, not a mop.
@Steve-nu4sv
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the insight. I'm with you about communication it's very important. If you do something she finds upsetting then it should be discussed and hopefully resolved. How can you move forward if you don't know what the problem is? I support the idea of explaining "Look you saying 'I don't want to talk about it' does not work for me" I'd say she did you a favour by moving out. I am human yes I make mistakes from time to time but I try to learn from them. I'll accept responsibility for my own actions but not anybody else's. If her last guy lied, cheated or disrespected her she's not going to punish or hold me to account for that!
@Lennings82
2 ай бұрын
So true
@Walk-retirement-travel
2 ай бұрын
Don’t tolerate that kind of attitude let them know that won’t work with you. You can pack your shit and get out.
@wmbedsole1
2 ай бұрын
Facts, had to put a stop to it too…
@Jason_The_Man
Ай бұрын
I didn’t learn these valuable lessons until after my first marriage and a few relationships. It’s amazing how not tolerating BS works wonders.
@stoneyislandranch9783
2 ай бұрын
If you allow tampo it will continue and get worse.. the first time they do that. Mine tried that the first time. She realized i wasnt going to tolerate her bs.. she got over and apologized..
@allenatkins2263
2 ай бұрын
A woman that shuts up? Yes please!
@brianmyers9989
Ай бұрын
awesome dude.
@GS-zc4sk
Ай бұрын
🤔
@blazenicholls3590
23 күн бұрын
Lol exactly 😂 living the dream me thinks.
@davidboz99
2 ай бұрын
I experience this in my first visit with my LDR. Three weeks into our vacation, first thing in the morning she was Taboo. I asked a dozen time what the issue was. I never got a response. I did not know if she thought about our relationship and maybe she did not want to go forward. I was very confused. Well, I took these matters into my hands and turn it around. I started to pack my luggage to leave. Wow she started talking. The minor issue was that I was texting first thing in the morning someone. I had to explain I was talking to my son. I told her Taboo is something I will not tolerate. You have an issue we need to discuss it and move on. We are still going strong and I'm heading back in September. Thank you for all you do.
@marktrail8624
2 ай бұрын
Taboo? You mean Tampo?
@jaymes7521
2 ай бұрын
Good for you, that is the way it should be. They are not commodity, we are.
@lostsoul1813
2 ай бұрын
I don't believe you owed her an explanation whatsoever.
@Ghosted760
Ай бұрын
Dealing with "Tampo"....no problem. I'll just find someone that wants to communicate like an adult.
@ensconced-in-velvet
2 ай бұрын
What's wrong? What's wrong? If you really loved me, you wouldn't have to ask what's wrong. You'd already know! I have encountered this with several different Filipina girlfriends before I actually moved to the Philippines. I have a slightly different approach to solving this TAMPO issue. I leave. I say, I'll be at the hotel and if you want to talk to me again, you have my number. Because I do not agree with the cultural differences analogy. I think it is a power-play. I have no time for crap like that. I am now married to a Filipina who never once tried TAMPO on me. 17 years and going strong.
@williamscarbrough-z6t
Ай бұрын
She would NOT run me out of my house you cut the money off put her in the motel and it will not take her long to get her mind right
@feloniousmonk3049
Ай бұрын
When my woman does this to me, I pack my bags light, take a 3 to 5 day vacation without her, to allow her to adjust her attitude before I come back home. No calling, no texting, unless she intiates this. I don't even tell her where I am going or staying, unless she asks. If she says nothing is wrong, I am taking it at face value and I go do my thing until she gets right, in the head. I'm not going to stay in the doghouse or sleep on the couch when it's her problem, not mine.
@davidgarcia8782
17 күн бұрын
Good work, right there.
@theonetruevoiceoftheonetrueGod
2 ай бұрын
Renaming Passive/Aggressive Behavior and assigning it to merely "cultural differences" is called: ENABLING My Province girl tried that sh** and I solved it by telling her to hit the road until she could control herself - that was 32 years ago and we're still happily exploring the Planet❤
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
together or apart? she hit the road or ?
@johnmurphy8791
2 ай бұрын
You hit the nail on the head. It's about control. I don't want control and I don't want to be controlled. We work on it and move thru everything of we move on. Plain and simple.
@FlamingRobzilla
2 ай бұрын
I have a degree in Communication and I was completely unaware of "Tampo." I find this intercultural phenomenon fascinating, and you explained it so well. You now have a new subscriber. Thank you. -R
@redrustyhill2
Ай бұрын
Absolutely zero to do with "culture" unless you consider all human women a "culture".
@Tony-yd1vx
Ай бұрын
Never rely on someone else to make you feel happy in life.
@MrTomherzog
19 күн бұрын
You are the Marcus Aurlius of the modern age.
@theadaptivefitnesschannel4308
2 ай бұрын
Great video! I told my pinay right from the beginning that tampo shit does not work on me in those words. If you have a problem, you better speak up or forever hold you peace. But if you do that tampo shit, I’m out. And she has never done it. She speaks right up if something is bothering her. Remember you are the prize you do not have to deal with any kind of bullshit whatsoever.
@robertmeshew1935
Ай бұрын
I adore my Chinese wife, but sometimes she can be difficult! We were going on a all day trip to someplace and we had a disagreement over a sandwich I thought was overpriced from years ago! She would not drop it so I told her I was not going to spend all day with her if she was going to harass me over a minor disagreement! She continued, I told her one more time and I was going to take her home and drop her off! She had to test me one more time, I turned around and dropped her off one hour later and went out to play video games the rest of the day! Had a ball, next time I tell her, "One more time and this day is over", she backs off and we have a good day! Fixed that red flag!
@nakimmikan
2 ай бұрын
Been married to my Filipina for 10; years shes 28, and i have never experienced tampo, she has always been very mature for her age and our communication between each other has always been spot on.
@Matt-jc2ml
2 ай бұрын
You married her right at 18?
@quintonmoore8797
Ай бұрын
@@Matt-jc2ml yea he never beating the allegations
@Rainlover1984
2 ай бұрын
Finally!!! Tampo has nearly ended and has certainly weakened our overall marriage over the last 14 years. It shows you just how unimportant your relationship actually is. Reasons for her total isolation of me? 1. I accidentally threw a bread bag tie away that she wanted. Penalty: 2 days of total isolation. 2. One word misunderstood during a conversation. Penalty: two hour drive away and 2 days of total isolation. 😮 3. I answered her question with a moderate gruff in my voice. Penalty: threat of filing for divorce and another two days of isolation. So on and on... now I just don't care any more and what could've been one of the best marriages in the history of the world is far less than. Good luck guys. All women from all over the world are the same. A few differences, but mostly the same. Good luck fella's 😮
@kohsamuienglishclub6133
2 ай бұрын
Great share, very interesting. I had this once with my Thai wife, I made it crystal clear I don't appreciate games like this. I explained you are not irreplaceable, many Thai girls would relish what you have and probably treat me better. Lol, that did the trick. Hey presto, never had it again, treats me really well and communicates always. Married now 14 years.
@billm5555
2 ай бұрын
This is possibly the best comment thread that I have ever read.
@harveyh3696
2 ай бұрын
The BEST explanation of what 'Tampo' is and how to respond to it.
@harveyh3696
2 ай бұрын
It's a fact!
@ancientremnant7881
Ай бұрын
It makes sense now. I'm in the states, this Filipina was very friendly, very new and always waved to me, everyone really and say hi. We talked a lot, then it happened. She stopped talking, waving and the hi, became nonexistent. We weren't even dating. We were coworkers and I only got yes and no because of the job responsibilities. Months went by and suddenly we were talking again. I knew she liked me, but I made it my thing not to date coworkers. Thank for the answers.😅
@christopherbradley5575
2 ай бұрын
A woman who shuts her mouth when she's pissed off and stays that way til she's over it? So... how is that a bad thing?
@GregPorto1
2 ай бұрын
🤣
@platoon1081
2 ай бұрын
Ignoring a person, also known as shunning is very hurtful if received from a person you care about. If you have not been on the receiving end it is difficult to comprehend
@fa11en1ce
2 ай бұрын
A woman who shuts her mouth when she's pissed off and stays that way until she isn't, is a long term recipe for disaster, because all those issues will fester. That's like saying "oh, I won't treat this wound because it doesn't hurt" while the wound continues to get worse over time.
@christopherbradley5575
2 ай бұрын
@platoon1081 Not for a confident, secure person. I'm not saying I'm insensitive or arrogant and I am always willing admit my mistakes and faults and apologize for them. But whatever her issue is, if she can't handle it like a grown adult, that's her problem, not mine. If I'm willing to solve something and the other person isn't, I won't like it but I'm not going to let her use it as a way to manipulate me. Are you saying you would?
@oriraykai3610
2 ай бұрын
A few hours, okay. But days? That's a person who can't control their emotions. Very immature.
@thethrillofpattaya8404
Ай бұрын
I liked this video. I've lived here in Thailand now for 14 months and have not entered into a 1-1 relationship yet. I will tell you one thing...if I'm in a "relationship" with a woman here in Pattaya for an extended period of time and she gave me that silent treatment for checking out another woman a little more than she liked...I'd let her know that she needs to drop that attitude real fast as there are about 35,000 Available women within a 10 km radius of my condo! I would never live that way!
@DataHoarders
2 ай бұрын
Yep, he’s right on everything. I am currently trying to help my Filipina open up more when there are “issues”. It’s tough, but DEFINITELY worth it. It has strengthened us!
@Jake-u2o
2 ай бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly !!! My response to all of this and the comments below is this ! It all depends on your level of patience, tolerance, and how much work you're willing to put into the relationship. Relationships are hard work no matter what the culture or where they come from. "If it's not Tampo, it's yet something else" For me, after being divorced twice from California, I will take my chances with Tampo vs. a western woman who will throw you to the wolves and destroy your well being with the "man hating" court system at the drop of the hat !!! Sure they will communicate with you, by telling you, you will be hearing from my attorney and "see you in court"... I live in Cebu City, 2 years now, from "Loveless" / "Shithole" California where I would turn "gay" before I would ever get involved with a western women !!! I found a "Diamond" amongest the thousands of stones here, thus, if I have to work with Tampo once in awhile, so be it, it can be trying at times however DEFINITELY worth it !!! The epilogue to this dissertation is this, you should have perspective of whats most important in life. There are so many other issues in life that reach so much further than Tampo, like health, your well being, and just enjoying life to it`s fullest, and Loving yourself, because you have to live with you for the rest of your life...
@tomdailey4819
2 ай бұрын
My Filipina tried doing that with me... After the first time she told me that's just the way Filipina,s are... I told her I'm not going to tolerate that.. that's a childish behavior... Overtime she became very comfortable with me And no matter what we always talk it out.. right away
@redrustyhill2
Ай бұрын
So she is admitting filipinas are childish and immature 😂
@GregPorto1
2 ай бұрын
Good video 👍 It’s simply a control and manipulation tactic and a complete non- starter. Any relationship is fundamentally a negotiation and I don’t mean that in a cold way. People ask for what they want and are clear about what they don’t want / won’t tolerate, if it’s a healthy relationship/ exchange. Anything less is not healthy or constructive.
@AtlanPerry
Ай бұрын
I read a lot of strong comments of strong Man and how they fixed the problem. Bro i don't buy it for one moment. When you really love your woman and she behave like this you certainly have a problem. I want to thank the uploder for his honest story of a real issue man can experience with his woman 😢 and its not only the Filipino woman who acts this way.
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
thanks.
@garyt7232
2 ай бұрын
The whole tampo issue is about immaturity IMHO. Culture aside, what grown woman would not talk to the man in her life if there is an issue? Guys want a woman in their lives, not an immature child.
@000gjb
2 ай бұрын
Tell the story to the woman of two fisherman, one says "My wife sometimes does not speak to me for a week". The other fisherman replies "I would hang on to her, woman like that are hard to find".
@mauricevaneck8221
2 ай бұрын
This tampo behavior is not only found in relationships but is so ingrained in the culture that you encounter it everywhere. It can also occur, so to speak, between you and your neighbor. Family issues are often resolved in this manner as well. But also in friendships. But it is also not an unknown phenomenon in the West 😉
@itsROMPERS...
2 ай бұрын
I've never even been with a Filipina but I've experienced this many times with different women. This is not some cultural aberration peculiar to Filipino culture.
@itellyathis
2 ай бұрын
I identify directly with your description of how we western men generally want to communicate and solve/resolve “issues”! Tempo is an occasional fact of life for me!
@blockaderunner
2 ай бұрын
Happens to me with my young Filipina wife but usually last only an hour tops. It’s all been down to suspecting me of charring even with her own mother. Just because I sang karaoke with her or something it’s crazy.
@michaelpalosaari9460
2 ай бұрын
The only thing that will fix it, is clear communication
@lilfairycupcake
2 ай бұрын
clearly communicating yourself out of the relationship. see ya!
@Yes-bk9cl
2 ай бұрын
You are naive and clueless. "Clear communication" does not exist on the Narcissists World Map. Kick her out!
@jmyleo
Ай бұрын
I just say "whenever youre ready to talk i will be right here" and i dont let it bother me and i go about my business until shes ready to talk
@CarsonBoyd
2 ай бұрын
Most of the time, somebody feels hurt because either a desire isn't fulfilled or something they reject comes to them unwanted. The resolution is to correct the unreasonable demand I made upon others or conditions. If I want a sunny day and it's raining, I can either choose the rain or live with the upset. If someone hides the thinking that led to the upset feelings from me, they are choosing the upset over communication, over me. That's a no-pass. Next. I put up with this kind of misbehavior in the past. It's probably my deepest self-betrayal. Eventually I learned, I can't make someone feel happy. It's far easier to find someone who's already happy.
@ChrisGWarp
2 ай бұрын
These comments are gold. It’s not limited to just the folios. It’s the entire Asian (including Indian) non confrontational approach. It does my head in. Not just in personal relationships either. Grow up. Talk about it.
@CarsonBoyd
2 ай бұрын
I'm glad to see you talking about this. I see it similar to you. Emotional withholding is dysfunctional to the point of being a hard no-pass for me. If someone doesn't even have enough trust in my goodwill toward them and the relationship, then why are we even together? If those are the terms of a long-term relationship, I'll stick with the short-term variety.
@Gregory-fl6io
2 ай бұрын
Yes i understand your situation, But after living in Asia for many years this is what works for me. At the very outset of my relationship with the Philippine lady im with still after two years I said at the appropriate time (LOL) good luck! If you give me Tampo im going fishing for a week and it has worked so far and she knows i will go fishing because we fish together and she enjoys it, Good Luck 😅
@answerman9933
2 ай бұрын
Sounds great. But she can play this game until I leave.
@JamesGreenier
2 ай бұрын
It’s called stonewalling here in the US. And that is why you need to date somebody for many years before you get married. In my seventh year of a relationship, my ex gf did this. She gave me the silent treatment for over a week. Needless to say, I broke up with her and she was shocked to learn that I was serious and moved out. Best decision I ever ever made.
@MrBilldo426
2 ай бұрын
I've got tampo from Rose for sometimes 2 weeks before. Not anymore after 16 years of marriage but in the beginning it was all because i was looking around at a restaurant or in public and she thought i was looking at another girl that I didn't even notice. Just gotta give them time to calm down then they will talk. Patience is a virtue.👍
@KrayPurn
2 ай бұрын
2 weeks! You gotta be kidding. To each his own and without judgment here. But two people supposedly in a partnership of any kind whereby one or the other does not communicate over a 2 week period of time says a lot about that partnership. Patience is a virture. However taking on the role of the doormat in said partnership is insane to say the least.
@deanrotering879
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the straight forward explanation and the examples. Well done.
@wesgraham2262
2 ай бұрын
No one should have to work that hard to try and figure out what a pouting, jealous filipina is offended about because she refuses to communicate. She CAN learn to tell the truth and calmly tell her partner what he did. Before that, he must promise not to raise his voice and get angry when she tells him. Next time, once she finds out you’re a man of your word and safe, she may forgo the Tampo and actually tell you when it happens! You win. She wins.
@Jake-u2o
2 ай бұрын
Well put...
@Chris-zh9nd
2 ай бұрын
This is why Women of any culture needs to rediscover the value of treating a good man well and not make excuses for allowing negative emotions rule the day. If the guy is an overall good person, dont take him to the brink and damage the relationship for a passing emotional issue. Understand that men are constantly dealing with issues too. Maybe the guys girlfriend got a little flirty with another guy and he may hold it inside and assess if shes commitment material... So on and so forth. So the man too is dealing with things. To add to the man's conflicts, having a woman throw out a silent treatment out of nowhere gets a man exasperated pretty quick. And it becomes a bit of a self fulfilling issue. If a good guy is asking whats up, it shows he cares. He wants to know so he can help make the relationship better. A little understanding of men can go a loooong way to forging a fantastic relationship.
@lovemyFilipina
2 ай бұрын
How I dealt with Tampo which I was aware of before I seen it with my own eyes I explained to her that that's not an acceptable behavior and I wasn't going to tolerate it and if she has a problem she needs to tell me about it we had this discussion twice in the first 6 months of our relationship and it never happened again and it's been over 5 years now
@tonysurber9111
2 ай бұрын
Been married to my Filipina 32 years. Sometimes, but not often, she is unreasonable, but that is acting like any other woman , either from the Philippines, or wherever. She is my 3rd wife, so the comparison . My other wives were both American with one black and one white. The main difference between them is culture /upbringing. Not skin color. Gentlemen, put your wife in her place when you need to, but love her dearly and cherish her. Remember that she is only human and unless she is mental, she will love you back, and respect your strength. This is the way. The ancient path. 😊
@HeatGeek1
2 ай бұрын
Ummm... How is this different than western women? Women being mad and not telling you why is classic 'woman' regardless of culture.
@arturturk5926
Ай бұрын
Tampo=psychpathic, and men have somehow encouraged it, good job Filipinos.
@tonyryan43
2 ай бұрын
Mate, you are the very first westerner I have encountered who understands transculturalism. Moreover, you understand that western culture is very confrontational, even when we think we are being conciliatory and friendly. We engage in direct eye to eye confrontation, believing we are bing upright. We shake hands with a bone-crushing grip that says "I want to smash you"; thinking we garner respect. Congratulations, mate, and I have taken your advice regarding tampo to heart. I am most obliged. You really are a repository of wisdom.
@thecurrentmoment
2 ай бұрын
You say "Western culture" but there are many different cultures in the West. I'm from New Zealand and we are not as you describe, you are probably thinking of the USA
@tonyryan43
2 ай бұрын
@@thecurrentmoment The most delusional people I have ever encountered are Kiwis. New Zealanders are such humourless know-alls that on my Kakadu Safaris, I had to ban all applicants from that country wanting to participate. They would ruin every tour. They also imagine fondly they are beloved by all nationalities. Actually, the entire planet wonders how three million people could be so stupid as to buy Aderm's psychopathic insanities. The political realists are difficult to convince Kiwis actually think MMP is democratic. As for Maori culture, it featured institutional warfare, torture, slavery, and revenge, topped up by confiscation of the property of the sick and infirm. As brilliantly insightful writer, Patrick Duffy, pointed out, Maori would have rendered themselves extinct, had not Europeans arrived. Incidentally, ko wai tu ingoa? Ko Tone, taku ingoa.
@strategygalactic
7 күн бұрын
@@thecurrentmoment Western culture generally means the UK and US.
@gary.richardson
2 ай бұрын
Communication, yes. Each side takes responsibility for their own mistakes and works toward a healthy learning of each other.
@PHVIDave
2 ай бұрын
I call it Psycho or Bipolar in a sense, haha. I understand its culture, but 2 days, nope bye, bye. I ended a relationship over this and the constant questioning about who's with me when she's was not. Relationships must be built on trust and communication, or I'm single and happy. Won't play the game! There are way too many options guys in PH and not all are bad. If your 😂😂new to the Philippines, do not worry about finding a new girl as there are plenty of fish in the sea dying to be with a nice man. Not all play the extreme Tampo game! Remember, we are typically the provider. Life is way too short to play games, culture, or not. If you really like the Filipina have the conversation after the 1st few dates about open communication. Great Vlog, I appreciate your channel!!
@davidberning1581
2 ай бұрын
WOW, what I have been experiencing for years actually has a name. The frustration I have gone through is unbelievable. In the next few days when the moment is right, I'm going to let her know I finally figured out the issue is Tampo. Can't wait to see how she reacts. This has plagued me for about 20 years. So glad I saw this and can only hope it might help. Guys, all I can say is this is Not something you want to deal with. Stick with American women or you may not know what your in for. I'm sure not all Filipinas are the same but you may not know until its too late.
@talltree8697
2 ай бұрын
Lots of Asian girls do this to avoid arguments and don't communicate 🙄 the trick is let it go because the problem is not you go silent is the best way to communicate.
@joenorman8320
2 ай бұрын
I agree with you. My own take is not all Filipinas are like that. I'm willing to go through as many as I have to in order to find one (compatible) that will talk to me, or listen when I explain we should communicate. And if she disagrees, or won't, let her pack her things like the first woman you mentioned, and go. In my own opinion, there is NOTHING so special about a Filipina or any woman that a man - nice guy - decent human being - should have to put up with that kind of attitude. Best wishes with your channel.
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
true, there is no 'all'. :) when my wife and i met and the question came up, "what happen with your last filipina?" i told her how it ended due to tampo. we've been together going on 5 years and in total i'd say i've gotten maybe 20-minutes worth of tampo from her in the first year. now.. it's non-existent. i've also learned to say at times, "give me some time to think this over.", and we each calm down for maybe half an hour and work it out.
@methemonkeyking
2 ай бұрын
Tampo? My wife is Filipino, and tampo is her middle name. I’m also Filipino, and I can play the same game with her. No problem for us Filipino men.
@marktrail8624
2 ай бұрын
But isn't the excessive drama tiring?
@highoctanestuff
2 ай бұрын
Why would you want to be in a relationship like that? No thanks
@roadkillz78
2 ай бұрын
@@marktrail8624 It's not excessive to me; it's just a part of being with a woman. Would I rather not go through it? Yes. But if you've been in enough relationships, you know that they aren't perfect. You either just deal with it and move on, or you don't, and have relationship problems until you do, or just remain single for the rest of your life.
@methemonkeyking
2 ай бұрын
@@highoctanestuff : the only antidote I know, is don’t marry a Filipina.
@Sota144
2 ай бұрын
@@roadkillz78 Or you find a partner who has a clear communication and who is willing to solve problems like an adult
@HavenVilla
2 ай бұрын
I tried that on my brit huzzy but he reacted by not talking to me for a month. He's smart enough to counter me with his own version. Never di try that stunt again. We're real good still after 16 yrs. No tamp from me after that 1 time. Learned quickly.
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
having open conversation IS the relationship. glad to hear it worked out.
@CraigKerwood-001
2 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh, this will keep me single in the Philippines. I won't put up with that shyt. It's passive-aggressive and disrespectful.
@josm8063
2 ай бұрын
Doesn't sound like a problem. Instead, it sounds like an opportunity to meet someone new. Variety is the spice of life.
@markberger5739
2 ай бұрын
Silence is Golden!😉
@KeroZimerman
2 ай бұрын
This “tampo” thing would be an absolute deal breaker for me!
@Lifebeyondthesea
2 ай бұрын
same here.
@slacker1
Ай бұрын
Using manipulation to control a relationship is one of the worst behaviors of narcissism. Being deceptive to feed one's own ego. To consciously set one's self into a position to be a God, to be worshiped by the other party. Subtly demanding a "sacrifice." The sacrifice always requires emotional attention, absolute devotion, freely giving up all free time, etc. The narcissist needs the assurance that you are dwelling completely on them, them being the center of your universe. Even to the extent when they are not around. A narcissist is rarely cured. That is because it is nearly impossible for a narcissist to be humble. If they do appear to be humble, it is more than likely just being pretentious.
@edwinconty1269
2 ай бұрын
From the USA 🇺🇸, I been living in the USA 🇺🇸 for over 66 years, came to the USA 🇺🇸 in 1958 from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷 when I was 5 years old, been married three times, dated a lot of women, lived with a couple of them, this I learned when it came to women and relationships, but remember the difference culture, they way of life, they are very close to their family, do try to understand you are not in the USA 🇺🇸, it’s up to you to understand, they feelings are very different to women in the USA, it’s not easy but try to give them the benefit of the doubt, they do have a pass like everyone else, 🙏🙏🙏
@RonaldMartin-x6u
2 ай бұрын
It's part of their arsenal of passive-aggresion. My wife of 43 years pulls that on me and I wait about five minutes and then start conversing about something on social media. Snaps her out of it immediately. Deflection is a blessing.
@airdromeaccount7922
Ай бұрын
Very well explained, thank you
@Lifebeyondthesea
Ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@Jake-u2o
2 ай бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly !!! My response to all of this and the comments below is this ! It all depends on your level of patience, tolerance, and how much work you're willing to put into the relationship. Relationships are hard work no matter what the culture or where they come from. "If it's not Tampo, it's yet something else" For me, after being divorced twice from California, I will take my chances with Tampo vs. a western woman who will throw you to the wolves and destroy your well being with the "man hating" court system at the drop of the hat !!! Sure they will communicate with you, by telling you, you will be hearing from my attorney and "see you in court"... I live in Cebu City, 2 years now, from "Loveless" / "Shithole" California where I would turn "gay" before I would ever get involved with a western woman, never again !!! I found a "Diamond" amongst the thousands of stones here, thus, if I have to work with Tampo once in a while, so be it, it can be trying at times however DEFINITELY worth it !!! The epilogue to this dissertation is this, you should have perspective of what's most important in life. There are so many other issues in life that reach so much further than Tampo, like health, your well being, and just enjoying life to its fullest. And Loving yourself, because you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life...
@dinkymonteclar4652
Күн бұрын
I agree... Communication is a must when issues arise. I'm Filipina and I have this tampo, I'd be quite a short time yet I open up when I feel better. I have my foreign partner as well 😊
@alexdeonversaagde
Ай бұрын
Dont. Just dont deal with it. Respect is everything. Tampo means backstabbing. Go YOW.
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