I understand you cause I was there last year. But. Success isn't the lack of failure. You're a champion for pushing through failures & overcoming them. You're not a champ for having no failures. It's a few small things that have helped me: 1. staying in the moment - for school work & just general day. sounds cliché but it works & I've done this thing where if I can't tell you about what I did on the phone on detail (cause I spent so long on it the hours blurred) then I'm not gonna spend that time on it. it's wasted time that I won't even remember. So I cut my time to an avg of 2-3 hrs a day. Even if it means lying in bed & doing nothing at least I'm giving my brain time to process my thoughts. But I found that as the days continued I was more naturally inclined to do things in those "empty spaces" 2. Exercise - I literally do 15 min beginner workouts lmao, a lot of it endurance, but keeping the discipline of doing something every 2nd day, I've seen the effect. The body kind of has the easiest do-reward/ give-return system as opposed to work so I use that high for work like "yea I did that, I can do this" 3. Read - for retention & perspective 4. Admit to myself I'm a bit of a loser - but NOT in a way of "oh I'm such a loser there's nothing I can do about it I'm so pathetic boohoo :(" more like "yea there's some things I can do to be less of a bum of myself" It's a tough love situation with accountability. I'm not gonna push myself down but I am gonna bring myself up by really confronting the things that are holding me back BECAUSE of ME 5. better grooming + also dressing a little less casual than I normally would. getting used to the idea that I'm being seen 6. Know my heart & not lose my kindness - I think especially in these situations it's so easy to fall in these rabbit holes of "advice" that trains you to hate yourself or others "lose weight! eat less, not healthy! be alpha! women/men will only love you if do _these_ things! it's *insert group* 's fault your like this!" these type of advice is enticing but ultimately not good for the mindset & longterm relationships. it breeds hate which is not a good motivator I know this was long but I was exactly you last year even to the point where I can see what words you are using to circumvate certain truths to your situation. Anyway, I hope this advice help 👍
@amadeusaf8370
7 ай бұрын
Some solid advice, definitely worth reading
@greencap1606
7 ай бұрын
@@amadeusaf8370 thank you
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you @greencap for sharing your solid advice and the strategies that have helped you before. I appreciate your insights and it's evident that you've put a lot of thought and effort into your comment. Your perspective on success and failure is facts. The idea that success is not the absence of failure, but rather the ability to push through and learn from it, is a powerful mindset to adopt. Your tips, such as staying in the moment, incorporating exercise, reading for retention and perspective, and practicing self-accountability, are all good strategies that I'm going to try. I'm glad that now, one year later you're doing better and hopefully, i'll also become better in the days to come. Thank you for taking the time to share your advice.
@dianadoinglife
7 ай бұрын
You got this. Hoping you get better. You are so brave for sharing sending warm hugs
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you @diana i appreciate it 🙏
@avivell8706
7 ай бұрын
Damn, the algorithm sent me here because I'm in the same rut @.@ it kinda feels nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way? And I really hope that I can find the courage and confidence to right my wrongs and put myself back on a good track
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Hey avivell, it's also nice for me to know that you and others feel the same way. I believe in you, we may be in the same rut but we can change💪. Hope my video helped you to get back on the right path, and thanks for watching.
@alex.harkness
7 ай бұрын
I relate with the fear of looking at my schoolwork/work. Especially the longer I put it off. I also relate with the escapism aspect of going on social media/internet and video games, with the 0 friends part, single etc…. I turn 20 this march as well. So we’re really similar it sounds lmao Recently I’ve been looking back on my childhood and discovered that (due to some mildly traumatic events), I’ve had depression/anxiety ever since I was 7? Mainly due to a mean/humiliating teacher I had in SK, which I think is where my low self esteem stemmed from, which caused my anxiety… which caused my social anxiety. Which finally led to depression, due to that isolation and insecurity I’m in the same position as you, literally I can’t believe I found your video lol. The best advice I can give you is to practice SELF LOVE. I’m serious, it improves 90% of your life. Get to know yourself, OUTSIDE. Find the discipline, but at the same if you can’t, don’t put yourself down. Like I said, SELF LOVE For example, don’t say shit like "oh I’m I’m a virgin, obviously”. I used to talk JUST like that a few months ago. Ever since practicing self love though, my confidence has increased so much. I’m a woman btw, but I’ve realized that I ACTUALLY don’t care if I’m a virgin. It’s society that makes you feel like shit about it. It’s your EGO. And if you’re actually miserable being single, you’re gonna end up being the worst person to get in a relationship with. You gotta get comfortable with being by yourself Also, creating a KZitem video won’t change your behaviour. You need to find the root of your issues (which probably stems from multiple issues) One of them best ways I’ve found to create self love for myself is to ACTUALLY GET TO KNOW MYSELF. Without knowing who you are, you’re stuck, and the best way to get to know yourself is to do nothing. Yup, just to be with your mind. Or more specifically, meditation I find it hard to get the discipline to meditate sometimes, but it helps so much.. especially with bad habits like eating like shit and watching social media. You still need the discipline, but you don’t dread it. It starts to get easy Also, meditating has helped me live in the FRICKEN MOMENT. Which automatically eliminates anxiety because anxiety = the future. Plus my increase in self esteem.. my anxiety is so incredibly easy to manage now It’s changed my life, tbh. With my depression, I still find it hard to maintain a healthy sleep schedule, to do schoolwork and to eat healthy. But with mediation (aka getting to know yourself), I’ve realized some things/passions I might wanna try and do. Such as running, hiking, doing my makeup, watching educational documentaries and even eating healthy now. I love taking care of my physical body, it makes me feel strong and in the present moment. Not like I’m using bad food as an escape (as I was, or still do sometimes tbh) You need to find the courage and DISCIPLINE to do those things, though (which I am STILL trying to figure out how to get), but if I do those things, my depression literally goes away it’s some crazy foodoo shit I think the key to that, if I had to guess, is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Then you end up enjoying that discipline (which in turn doesn’t become discipline anymore haha), but yeah A year ago, I couldn’t even brush my teeth once a day and I’ve had that issue my entire life. The only difference in this year, is self exploration and self love within myself. Not from society, or my parents or ego. Not due to money or the internet. Just me I also have major issues with expressing emotion. So if you have that issue, you need to get to the root of that, especially for self love. Without realizing it, I repressed crying. Even randomly, while listening to a song I’d want to cry. Even if you don’t know why, let it all out. You gotta be authentic with every part of yourself The fact that we are so similar says that what we are experiencing is prolly common AF But yeah, right now I’m trying to get off social media. That’s all the experience/advice I’ve got though. I hope it helps, anybody
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you @alex.harkness for commenting and sharing your personal experiences and struggles. You being open about your anxiety, and depression and how you're been doing better, like increasing your confidence and self-esteem is great hear. After reading your comment, I know that I might have some unresolved issues that I might need to look into and baggage to unpack. Your advice on self-love is important and I'll try to practice more self-love and getting to know myself better. I'm going to also try to do some meditation and spend some time in my mind.
@SandiByrd
7 ай бұрын
It's easy for people say take the first step - doing it is another story. The GOOD news is that your self reflection is stellar and you recognize you're struggling. Secondly - you are open to discuss it and that actually IS the first step. As far as school goes - I'd talk to a teacher or guidance counselor and tell them ALL of what you said here. It is their jobs to make school work for YOU not the other way around. They can make arrangements for you to help you get through assignments and work..maybe with some extra time or help. All the dreams you have can come true my friend. You may feel old but I promise you are still young. You have plenty of time to do all these things. Ruts happen to all of us - you aren't alone! Sending you love and I hope things get better!
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thanks @SandiByrd for the encouraging words. I'll try to talk to my teacher.
@SandiByrd
7 ай бұрын
@@JUSTaddICE_YT I'm honestly just an old lady sitting here fighting my own demons but I went thru the same stuff at your age....I remember how hard it was. And I've got a 19yr old who struggles too so I get it.
@VinWit-p4l
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thanks for listening
@CyndyTangerineyyyy
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts & stories!
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you Cyndy for watching and listening to my video
@adarshchhokar3818
7 ай бұрын
It’s the struggle that makes our story worth completing. That’s why we watch movies. THE COMEBACK
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Facts, everyone loves an underdog story of a person having to overcome their struggles and being a better person.
@yogaba4171
7 ай бұрын
Hope you update the channel with your journey 💪 looking forward to seeing the progress towards your goals
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you yogaba for the support. I will definitely keep the channel updated with future videos. More to come
@divyanshsharma6369
7 ай бұрын
Since you mentioned baby steps, how about you pick a simple and very easy habbit and show your progress on that, like learning push ups, reading poetry, reading 10 pages of a book everyday, etc. Even if you had a bad day, you can say "Well, at least I did my daily disciplines." This can also motivate your viewers. Personally, small habbits were game changers for me.
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
That's a great suggestion @divyanshsharma, I'm definitely going to be making a list of things I want to do in the video to come and how I'm going to do it. I agree with you that small habits are important and even if I can't read 10 pages for example, I can at least read 1 page and got something done instead of nothing.
@greencap1606
7 ай бұрын
I realised I typed a lot in the last comment, so in short it comes down to getting used to being uncomfortable but pulling through with short term goals and pushing for social interaction with friends, professors, classmates cause it helps to have people around you hold you accountable
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Yep, it's only through being in uncomfortable situations that we can grow and expand that personal bubble. Going to try to make some friends in school as well.
@l_______I
7 ай бұрын
Motivation was super hard for me until I found the answer to that question, it was something I thought about a lot. Just making enough money to sustain myself/having a successful career wasn't enough. I have a very specific feat I have set out to achieve within my life and to do that, I need to make money. Until I set my heart on that feat, it just wasn't in the game. It's not a decision to be made lightly, nor is it one that can come to you easily. If I could give some unsolicited advice based on how I escaped the rut (and take these with a grain of salt because you need to choose your own path) I wouldn't do NF, I feel like repressing it just makes things so much more difficult, although I agree addiction to that kind of video content can be very unhealthy. Try using your imagination. Meditation, with silence, nonvocal music, or whatever guided meditation you prefer, 20-30 minutes a day. And go jump out of a plane. Just skydive once. Is it terrifying? Sure, but so many other parts of life can be terrifying, and this can make those things seem smaller in comparison. Honestly, when I did my first jump, the only reason I could work up the courage was because I didn't want to live, I wasn't afraid to die. But to be honest, it's safer than the drive there. On your first time skydiving, as a tandem jumper (which is what they make everyone do without certification) you have a 99.9998% chance of living, 1/500,000 chance of something going wrong. And man, when I finally landed, I felt more alive than ever. Good luck dude
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your advice, It's great that you've found motivation by identifying a specific feat that you're passionate about achieving. I appreciate your insights, and perspective on finding motivation and breaking free from a rut. Personally on Nofap, I feel the benefits from doing the practice so I'm going to continue doing it, but I can see your perspective as well. I'm going to try to incorporate meditation into daily life. Also, it's crazy that you mention skydiving from your experience because me and my very good friend have talked about going skydiving in the summer. He wants to do it because it's fun and wants to try it out for the first time with me. I was initially scared because what if something goes wrong, but like you said it's safe most of the time. So it's a coincidence that you just so happen to mention that. I just found that interesting. Good luck to you as well.
@1CORXPSE
7 ай бұрын
Good luck
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thanks @CORSXPSE
@thanato-phobia
7 ай бұрын
if u can go on camera with ur hair looking like that you can achieve anything in your life
@Bomer-Bomer
7 ай бұрын
same
@kimberly8164
7 ай бұрын
Called paralizing anxiety, pls find a psyc councilor
@kimberly8164
7 ай бұрын
I understand what you are saying and please seek professional help, mine lead to a mental breakdown and i couldnt function, ppl dont understand that you cant take a baby step....you need assistance and it will help you, I wish you well!!
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Hi Kimberly, thank you for your concern but I can assure you I don't have paralyzing anxiety. I've always had no problem making friends in high school and as a kid, it's just that right now in this period of my life, it's a little tough, but I have no problem interacting with people.
@kamonte5068
7 ай бұрын
I genuinely think youre insanely cool for being so brave to share your thoughts and insecurities, i wish you luck my man.
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you and I appreciate that @kamonte. Hope you enjoyed the video
@ah2144
7 ай бұрын
i relate too much to all of this. we can get through it. im glad im not the only one
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Let's get through this together my friend💪. Hope this video helped you get motivated as well.
@MD-kw3nf
7 ай бұрын
I usually don’t write comments but because I relate to the feeling living in a rut and being afraid of failure I wanted to write something. We all go through that I guess and I realized that the thought that others might be doing better than I am doesn’t necessarily have to be the truth. Of course there will always be people who might be better in something than others but one thing we all share is that we struggle at times. Maybe other people feel the same about oneself. And failure is sadly unavoidable. I know it’s hard. But one thing that helps is going baby steps and doing small tasks every day that you feel you struggle with. The hardest thing is to start but I guess by taking small steps it’s easier to not feel overwhelmed yet you try to actively do something and grow out of your comfort zone. And remember you’re not alone. Hope that helped - good luck!
@JUSTaddICE_YT
7 ай бұрын
Thank you MD-kw3nf for the comment and it for sure helped. I appreciate your thoughts and taking the time to write this comment. I'm definitely going to be taking small steps going forward, and I'm going to be documenting that journey in the videos to come.
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