Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than KZitem by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2MNqIgw. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Is Maternal Instinct a Myth? 09:55 The Demonisation of Motherhood 17:05 Why Do We Have Testosterone? 24:47 Men’s Natural Instinct to Objectify 32:24 How Women Can Understand the Male Sex Drive 37:27 Orgasm Differences Between Genders 46:36 Is Sex a Spectrum? 56:28 Differences in Arousal Between Genders 1:07:59 Why Hand Grip Strength is Important 1:13:13 Where to Find Carole
@CONEHEADDK
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for assuming, that those who listen to you, and programs like yours, don't need to have every single thing written in huge letters.
@thinkpositiveatownmyfounda3024
Жыл бұрын
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@auswomble
Жыл бұрын
This one should put to bed any doubts you may have about whether you're making a positive difference in the world. I'm buying that book. Bravo sir.
@templarmalta9946
Жыл бұрын
That's study on female sexual arousal which they can measure actually showed that women are turned on by all forms of sex even animals copulating. It also showed that women had no idea what actually turned them on. Great guest too.
@McMahonHater
Жыл бұрын
What a load of hypocritical bull shit.
@DonaldAMisc
Жыл бұрын
She brought up a fantastic point: we can support the rights of others without having to deny biology. It doesn't have to be one or the other. 🙌
@CONEHEADDK
Жыл бұрын
As long as you don't create victims, chosing your desired way of life, has to be ok.
@stopthephilosophicalzombie9017
Жыл бұрын
The left has laid claim to being the owners of scientific truth so long they are willing to poison science to maintain that authority. This is now evident in biology, medicine, virology/epidemiology. It's long been the case that sociology was cargo-cult science, delivering nonsensical blank slate theories.
@BigStar1972
Жыл бұрын
We already have a model for this. Civil Rights for the religious. We all get that we can protect believers without being required to assent to beliefs or to give beliefs without evidence special access to policy. Wherever we draw that line for Baptists, we can also draw it for gender dysphorics. Sincerely held, important to one's identity, but false and without evidence. We can protect the civil rights of such believers and even not be assholes about their beliefs while also insisting on science when it absolutely matters.
@wyleecoyotee4252
Жыл бұрын
@@fiveleavesleft6521 Interestingly I'd you check out different channels, men are pointing out that it's difficult in finding women who want to have relationships and marriage .
@wyleecoyotee4252
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins You mean equal opportunity to education, self-sufficiency and autonomy? It's not an invention, it's necessary progress
@-Aidan
Жыл бұрын
As I got older it became apparant to me the difference between a mothers instinct vs a Fathers, I'm very close with both my parents but whilst livning away it is my mum who rings me most often telling me how she misses me, my dad on the other hand we'll exchange a text making sure we are both alive haha. My parents are not together anymore. My relationship with my dad developed more into a good friendship as I became a man, but with my mum I'm still her "baby boy" always and forever, her words. Trying to discredit a mothers instinct is beyond me, carrying your child and then giving birth alone creates a different bond right from the get go.
@elinope4745
Жыл бұрын
Vaginal birth does as well. They don't tell you that babies born through C section have bonding issues with mother as a direct result of that. But that is the truth of it.
@elinope4745
Жыл бұрын
@Fenwick go look it up before you or someone you love does it. Be more informed, it is because of the oxytocin pathway and bacteria on the vaginal walls. Don't take my word when hundreds of experts have had plenty to say about it
@DDeCicco
Жыл бұрын
@@loganblackwood2922 Interesting point about what might motivate a woman to believe that maternal instinct is a result of the patriarchy. Chris raised a similar point when wondering if the woman who wrote the article had children of her own.
@TheSuluhope
Жыл бұрын
@@elinope4745 Could you post any evidence to support this claim? Lots of mothers have C-sections without any bonding issues. It's a procedure that has saved the life of many, many mothers and children. Don't disparage it without backing it up with facts.
@PC.NickRowan
Жыл бұрын
I remember someone trying to tell me that fathers can develop the same maternal connection with their child that a mother can. I beg to differ, not only makes no logic sense whatsoever, you couldn't possibly produce an example. It's not to say that fathers don't love their children, but there's a reason they can get up and leave easier than women, and it's not due social stigma, it's because it kills every inch of their body and mind forever.
@rohanremi
Жыл бұрын
Loving the recent podcasts on gender dynamics. Chris is such a good interviewer.
@onionfarmer3044
Жыл бұрын
They have had ups and downs though. Some guest have been great while others were grating to useless.
@Contentious_Point_
Жыл бұрын
@@onionfarmer3044 yeah, like Destiny, but with this for this theme he needs Rollo Tomassi if actually wants a proper breakdown.......I know he won't, but if he wanted to do the topic justice...
@Contentious_Point_
Жыл бұрын
@@cantbendknee first - he gained some real world experience(he's far from unique in this, just that it is a foundation) secondly - he was a moderator on some of the early pick-up communities(sosuave being the only one comming to mind right now) third - he has written and published 5 books on the topic, at least one of which is regularly utilized(though dissappointingly often unaccredited) In agreggate he's got 'round 20-30 years of study into the field of intersexual dynamics, both in the field and academically. So he can certainly speak with authority on the subject, yes he is more than familiar with the work of dr. D. Buss, R. Henderson, etc. -he uses their work frequently, much of what he adds to the discourse is angles and observations that TENURED PROFFESSORS are now to afraid to admit openly. unfortunately we all know he's not gonna be invited to come on here...
@malhenning1608
Жыл бұрын
the actors ability to be geek and chad hints at selection pressure for IQ. Maybe we always play IQ selecting mating games we just need to pick a better one
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
Having destiney the stripper on was a major mistake imho
@Kaleidoface
Жыл бұрын
What a lovely woman. Glad we have someone like her at an institution like Harvard. They've been in need of some common sense for some time.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
An educated women that actually cares for men. Beautiful 😍
@sergeantbigmac
7 ай бұрын
Ironic watching/reading this after the recent Harvard scandal. This comment about her and common sense, integrity, etc at an institution like that is more important than ever before.
@sayuas4293
4 ай бұрын
She doesn't work at Harvard anymore
@rubyb7252
Жыл бұрын
Carole becoming emotional at the end over the type of world she wants her son to grow up in really just touched my heart. I loved watching her interview, she seems like such a fun person with a beautifully big heart
@TheMojeff
Жыл бұрын
When she was describing being on testosterone, i just kept thinking “yeah, thats what it’s like.” The part about “a woman’s body was food and i’m starving” hit home.
@scionofdorn9101
Жыл бұрын
Indeed. I've long likened the male libido to an actual, undeniable, appetite much like hunger and just as imperative.
@emanym
8 ай бұрын
Humanity has been comparing lust to hunger and thirst since we first began to talk 😮😊
@seth4766
7 ай бұрын
omg her dream was so accurate 😬
@givmi_more_w9251
7 ай бұрын
I'm female, but hearing the male perspective is fascinating to me. I'm basing it simply on my personal experience not being impaired by hormonal birth control, the female sex drive isn't weak or infrequent either, but it's much more 'I need the affection and the attention of my partner, oh, the physical pleasure is nice as well.'
@Lachlans-i2s
6 ай бұрын
@@givmi_more_w9251I'm a guy and fascinated by the female perspective and that's super interesting and the Impression I've gotten although seems like some next level females can be pretty insatiable
@Sellasie_High
Жыл бұрын
She's an amazing woman. And I've noticed, not just on this pod, but the people who speak on these issues tend to get emotional whenever boys/men issues are brought up.
@Amoruniversitas
Жыл бұрын
As a woman nothing quite gets me like the idea of men being hurt, especially the ones I love and my future sons
@Jim-us2gj
Жыл бұрын
She helped me write a two-part series on Men's Mental Health last year. I sourced some of her research in it. She touched on some of the things I covered in my articles. Her intelligence and sincerity are remarkable.
@VivPhotography
Жыл бұрын
This is so fascinating! I've never been a feminist, but I've learned so much and really empathize with men so much more after listening. I'm only about halfway through, but wow, this is a good one! I feel like men and women in general misunderstand each other and talks like these are helpful in understanding the opposite sex.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
I would argue that men understand women WAY more than women understand men. A lion knows more about gazelles than gazelles know about lions. All a gazelle knows about a lion is to run when in its presence. A lion however knows EVERYTHING about gazelles or they will go hungry. A lion knows where the gazelles like to eat, sleep, drink water. A lion knows a gazelle will run if spotted. Men are the ones who iniates relationship. They "hunt" women; men are mainly the ones to ask the other sex out and he's the one that proposes marriage. They must know how women move, what they like, what they do in order to get sexual access. Sex is abundant these days so I would argue that men are successful on the "hunt" and that men do indeed understand women. If sex was rare for everyone, I would argue that men aren't successful pursuers. A woman just has to look pretty and be available in order to get sexual access. Why would they try to understand men when they don't necessarily have to in order to get laid? So they sleep around thinking they're winning, however, they're not able to get longer-term commitment from a man. Women need understand men though imho in order to properly lock down a man for marriage. This is why men aren't proposing as much anymore; women don't understand what men want and actually vilify men for their wants and desires. So men hit it and run without any commitment.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
@@kmc1872 Women are experts at disqualifying, sure. However, that doesn't mean they know more of what men want nor does that mean they adhere to what men want or give it to them. Just like how prey doesn't know what going through the mind of the hunter, women really don't understand men. Also when I was talking about the hunter and the prey, it was a comparison. I didn't say males were better hunters across all species. But yes, is way more difficult to pull off a solid attack than a solid defence. This is why there generally more prey than predators. Men are on the offense in the dating market, that was my point. You brought up orcas. Regardless of sex, orcas are the hunters, the apex predator. Do you think it's easier for orcas to catch their prey or do you think their prey has an easier time getting away? I would argue that the prey, shrimp and krill, have a very easy time. I doubt they even think about orcas or what they want. I bet when an orca passes through a school of prey, more prey get away than the orca eats by far. The orca has to go to where the prey is at, at the time that the prey is there. The orca has to know how the prey is gonna move. It has to spend the time eating. Or it will die. The prey just has to move once the orca gets there. Most of orcas prey probably never even see an orca. This is why Hitler's Blitzkrieg was stunning. This is why Alexander the Great's conquest was impressive. Gengis Khan will go down in history forever for a reason. I'd much rather try and hold a castle than take a castle. Most casteles have only been taken a handle of times and spend most of history in peace due to being safe. Defending is easier than attacking 99.99% of the time. It's only in RARE occasions like in the movie 300, when defending is almost impossible, that defending isn't easier. The battle of Troy is a rare occasion. There a many ways to skin a cat, but there aren't that many crafty ways to take a castle or land a woman forever. Like it's almost impossible to defend against a nuke. I bet basketball rules favors aggressors. So for rare cases like that, yes, I'd rather attack than defend. But men don't have that much more capabilities over women like orcas have over their prey either. The "dating rules" don't benefit men like basketball rules benefit the aggressor. It's more difficult to hit a homerun in baseball or get a score than it is to get an out. In hockey, its way easier for a team to block a shot rather than make a shot; same with soccer. This is why the scores are relatively low. Same with football. It's way easier for a woman to disqualify men than it is for men to try and get score with women. Let me ask you this. Why has over 80% of the female population just about always repopulated where as only 40% of men get to? It's because it's much easier for women to attract than it is for men to pursue. Not because women know what men want more than men know what women want. These are two separate things.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
@@kmc1872 My entire original argument is that men understand women more than women understand men. You seem to have the argument that women understand men more than men understand women. Correct me if I'm wrong. We agreed to compare men to the predators/aggressors and women as the prey/defenders in this game. I would say that most defenders(in most games and in war historically)/prey/women have the advantage against the men/aggressors/predator. This shows. The defender/women/prey aren't tactful so to speak though. They have the advantage. This is why when the aggressor/man/predator must understand the situation and his opponent in order to succeed. It's a must actually. Women know that men like youth, beauty, and reproductive capabilities in their mate. Men know that women like older, richer, fitter men. But he also knows where to go to find women. Not any women, but the women he likes and doesn't like. He must know when to go there. He has to be able to get there. Once there, he must play his cards right. He has to know how to initiate the relationship. He has to know when to push and pull, tease but reassure. He must be nice, but not too nice. He has to he mean but not too mean. He has to be all these things and know how to do all these. Where as the woman just has to live her life and endless amounts of wonderful men walk into her life, down to fuck. She spends her time disqualifying them. She doesn't have to know men in order to succeed. Any guy she wants for the night. She gets it without fully understanding that man imho, relieving validation and assurance that she's doing the right thing. All of this game so far is to initially get sex. Just like how the objective of a predator is to kill its prey. Just like how an army laying siege to a castle is to achieve the goal of capturing the city. Just like how in any sport, someone wins and the game is over. Now what though when it comes to the dating scene? Marriage is what's next. This is when we lose these comparisons. This is where it shows how little women understand men. We see many women not able to lock men down. The ball is now im the men's court. Women might be the gatekeepers of sex. But, men are the gatekeepers of marriage, being the one who proposes. Marraige rates are down. Women are going years without her bf proposes to her. Divorce rates are up. It's more of an interest for the women to retain a marriage, yet she's the one that mostly leaves. Biologically speaking, women should be doing everything they can to get/maintain marriages. There are many reasons for this. In the year 2022, since women can't make this happen, I would argue that women don't understand men. Men are still out here hitting it, getting their sexual needs met. Hell, a man today that jerks off to porn is more satisfied than a woman without a husband or kids. Or a divorced woman with kids in her 40's. Women are loosing here. A man doesn't need a women. A women needs a man. She needs him to do the heavy lifting in this world that is mainly fit for people bigger than her. She needs him to protect her in this dangerous world. She needs him emotionally to be a balanced women. A man can live his life alone and get by. He can knock a woman up, getting kids and ditch his wife while continue to mate with younger women. He'll probably die young working some dangerous job anyway. Woman who gets knocked up without a man is screwed. Marraige mainly benifits women. How do women get marriage? By fully understanding what men want and need; just like how men get sex from women. Since this isn't happening and men are still sexually satisfied, I argue that women most women don't understand men. I'd even argue, that women 200 years ago understood men WAY more than they do today. They like, lost that knowledge or something imho.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
@@kmc1872 ****Sidenotes***** There are more prey than predators for two reasons. Most predators are carnivores and most prey are herbivores. When you don't have to fight for your meal, you reproduce more. However, your more defensiveness and preyed upon. This is life 🙏 Men ponder what women want because they're the pursuers; its not because women are the mystical unicorns. I'd also argue that just about all women are the same. The aggressors always try to outsmart the defenders. They're always looking for a week point. It's not because they have zero knowledge about their opponents. I'm not denying that men say this. I think women naively blind themselves to what men want, in the name of feminism. What men want is traditional relationship. We don't like these egalitarian or equitable relationships. We want mothers as wives, not 304's that belong to the streets. We want virgins, not a mother of three kids. Most men say nothing, because they know the women they're with isn't marriage material. Why should he tell a thot what he actually wants? It's now his friends turn to hit it. I also think the only reason why women are allowed to live this lifestyle is because of modern medicine; birth control and abortions. Without abortions, the black population would be well over 25% of the population. Yet they're only at 13% rn. That's why men haven't reproduced as much. They have 0 reproductive rights. A woman can have sex and choose to reproduce or not. A man cannot do this. Like I said, women are the gatekeepers of sex due to our laws, otherwise the man is a rapist. This is also why men have less sex than women on average. And why most men don't get laid. It's a different game than marriage.
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
@@kmc1872You comparing women giving signals to men having to take leadership is laughable. Stop it. A fat ugly chick can walk into any bar and announce that she wants sex and some guy will have sex with her. You mentioned all the things women have to do in a marraige, yet women don't do those things, and they can't keep men. They can sleep with men without doing those things. But they're not gonna keep him for 60 years unless she does those things. And what do we see? Most women not doing those things. There is an entire feminist agenda against doing what men want, solely because men want it. This lady talked about it in this podcast. I think platonic relationships between men and women are damn near impossible to achieve. Mainly because if the man were asked, he'd have sex with just about any female that isn't family. The only reason why some men are "friends" with women is because he either thinks of her like family or because he thinks that by being her "friend" he'll get sex later. Men do not need women more for survival 🙄 This is probably the least factual thing you've said so far. You take a woman and throw her in a jungle alone, she'll likely die. If you take a man and throw him in a jungle alone, he has a way higher chance of survival. They did this in the show survivor. They used to have a men's group and a women's group. The men would have clean water, shelter, and food. The women had to quite or they would've died. Men find many bonds in life, mainly in brotherhood. Whether they're working in a field, in a mine, on the battlefield, or hunting, we've always had emotional bonds of brotherhood that women could only hope to achieve. Together, we have built cities. Together, we have destroyed cities. Together, we have thrusted our will on this world as men. Women will never understand this. Just like men will never understand how natural a women feels around children. Why are women choosing what they're choosing? Cuz western women are thots, they belong to the streets. They would rather sleep around than build a nuclear family. They would rather have careers than kids. This is why men don't want them. Its clear what they want; to be independent of men. Most women are literally incapable of keeping a family together. I take none of the dating app stats with a grain of salt. That shit is the truest set of data then we've ever been able to collect throughout all of history. Along with current advertising stats, other social media sites, any stat on the internet. The porn industry is huge and I don't take that with a grain of salt. Sex sells. Women are the same. They all want kids. Those who say they don't are lieing or are an anomoly; like lesbians and transgender. They all sit down while they pee. They all prefer being with one man over having many. They want a man who is stronger, taller, and makes more money. Ask any guy. He likes tall women, short women. Girls with titts and no ass. Girls with all ass and no titts. We may like blondes most but we also like brunettes and redheads. We like women with curly hair and straight hair. We like variety, making us not the same. Women lie because its politically correct to do so. They're hive minded with an egalitarian point of view. They lie because they've made decisions in the past that they know disqualify them from being suitable mothers and wives. They lie because they aren't held accountable for their actions. This is why women "choose" to initiate 80%-90% of divorces. This is why they "choose" to be independent. This is why 50% of women turning 40 in 2030 will "choose" to never have kids. When in reality, men aren't choosing to give these thots his last name. These men aren't choosing these women to be mothers of his kids. They're choosing to pump and dump instead. And the women being pumped and dumped, are validated and think they're doing the right thing because all they think men want is sex.
@josevalle7133
Жыл бұрын
Chris, you are probably the best interviewer of any podcast. Not only do you ask salient and probing questions you also allow the guests to talk at length. Even Joe Rogen has trouble with interrupting! She was so enlightening! Keep it up!!
@bradbesco6595
Жыл бұрын
The NY Times article was pure genius. I would like to thank the author for driving yet another mail in the coffin of both the Times and this truly comical belief that we are all just empty vessels waiting to be filled with clap trap like this.
@johnglennmercury7
Жыл бұрын
If this is a huge conspiracy, why are you more likely to marry into this patriarchal system if you're middle or upper middle class??
@mondavou9408
Жыл бұрын
Dude. Great framing of an otherwise POS way of looking at it.
@Cyphlix
Жыл бұрын
The 2 empty vessels that still read NYT will gobble it up like gospel.
@jonashellsborn7648
5 ай бұрын
@@johnglennmercury7I quite don't understand your rhetoric. What does lower class marry into?
@johnglennmercury7
5 ай бұрын
@@jonashellsborn7648 that middle & upper class are more likely to marry (into the patriarchal marriage system) than lower/working class. So, the more intelligent &/or priveleged, the more likely to marry into this "awful" system. It makes no sense
@balapalaida1437
Жыл бұрын
I really enjoy how you take on "controvertial" topics of today and debunk the shallow, social media nonsense and form it into deeper knowledge of the topic. Really great work. As a medical student and someone who loves evolutionary biology this is really entertaining.
@jkrofling9524
Жыл бұрын
Blurring the screen at the end was the type of kindness most of humanity sadly has little use for. If I see a day when I don't have to live on wheat corn and rice, I will absolutely donate something to support your show. You probably won't see or read this, but I would never let that stop me from writing it.
@AlexBobalexRavenclaw
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate her fears and tears, didn’t mean it to rhyme, but this is clearly meaningful to her and would be such a benefit to us as her readers. We want our sons and daughters to grow with good character, and we see men need understanding and encouragement now more than ever. May she, and many other experts, pioneer better futures for our men.
@RaVeN1K
Жыл бұрын
40:25 I think a big reason for that is that men get angry instead of sad. It takes half a lifetime to learn about yourself as a man to get an understanding that you develop anger as a coping mechanism to deal with the inability of doing something about the situation. I think thats actually a good thing in a lot of cases since that anger functions as fuel to bring change if possible. I personally learned that trough loosing a loved one and therapy. In case of loosing someone no amount of anger or motivation can help you, there is nothing to change and in the end you are left with no other option than to move past the anger and confront the crushing sadness that lies underneath.
@TheLeon1032
Жыл бұрын
Im so impressed by her ability to be intelligent and technical about her findings and doing it in quite an impressive manner then the next she can flip to being extremely human and vulnerable, emotional, crying a little and high in openess that shows how comfortable she is with herself then on a turn of a hat go into being technical and to the point again, very impressive. To the point and technical mixed with play.
@zaraahmedov3456
Жыл бұрын
That is the case when you talk to an educated and feminine woman :)
@TheHaymeadow
Жыл бұрын
I came to express the same feeling about Carole’s openness and humility, thanks for doing so in a much better way than I could have. Wonderful, insightful discussion, I loved it.
@TheLeon1032
Жыл бұрын
@@TheHaymeadow what a great podcast, cheers haymeadow have a great weekend
@martinb4272
Жыл бұрын
@@zaraahmedov3456 There is no way to attribute in such general terms this behaviour, with such certainty, to being "an educated an feminine woman." I have witnessed just as many educated and feminine women with poor emotional self-regulation, lacking in the ability of introspection, empathy and communicative agreeableness - as in women I've met who are not as educated and/or less feminine. There is always a dispersion of psychological traits and behaviours across a wide spectrum, regardless of education, sex, race, ethnicity etc. Dr. Hooven is one example of how an 'educated and feminine woman' can be. But there are studies that also point out the correlation between high intelligence and quite different, opposing traits to those she displays. Let's treat her, and applaud her, for the individual she is.
@Nah-ah
Жыл бұрын
Another phenomenal interview… you’re on a roll, mate! This was the first time I’ve heard of Carole. Thanks for bringing her on!
@ReginaMcNeish
Жыл бұрын
Great interview but I ABSOLUTELY LOVE how kind Chris was to this woman and brought out something in her to fight for at the end of the interview. It was a great exchange…❤❤❤
@daniellesinclair8304
Жыл бұрын
As a Mother of two teenage boys, I would love to read this book! It's fantastic to see passion about this subject coming from someone who is a Mum and also has all of the knowledge and evidence to do so! Write the book!
@tomhawkins5236
Жыл бұрын
Mate, I love the depth to which you're getting into these topics. 18 years ago we were both living it up on the piss in Newcastle. it seems you got into this stuff via just an insatiable curiosity to "know shit better" and get the data on it. I got into this stuff via a couple of degrees in biology and a frustration that we were denying everything we knew about that subject in order to make certain topics easier to think about. Of course, that just makes shit worse. Keep up the great work, man. What you do is valuable and more people need to see it. Hopefully your BBC write-up pushes your way of thinking more into the mainstream consciousness.
@Ochtone
Жыл бұрын
Wholesome. This lady is trying to do good. Love the ‘I think but I’m not sure’ answers. That end part had me, someone who doesn’t often cry, welling up.
@djamiljo93
Жыл бұрын
This woman is amazing. We can feel her maternal energy and it's soothing. Great interview and keep up the good work. Make sure to notify us if that book get published!
@morganxavier
Жыл бұрын
Sooooo happy to see you have Carol Hooven on!!!! I loved her on Rogan and I look forward to hearing more of her wisdom. 😊❤️
@killa-ma-jig7281
Жыл бұрын
Watching that one next! I didn't know she was on the JRE as well. Thankq 🙏
@SelenaSea
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for mentioning her appearance on Joe Rogan, too. Will watch that as well. 🙂
@juliantn
Жыл бұрын
I'm halfway through and I think you two have a very productive and watchable onscreen relationship.
@melska
Жыл бұрын
One of my absolute favorite interviews, pure honesty and intelligence
@rajinbin
Жыл бұрын
I really like this lady, she's more down to earth about this than most guest.
@TimmyTues
Жыл бұрын
Post nut clarity is such a distinct stark contrast ubiquitously experienced by men. If women experienced it, they wouldn't even have to think about it whether they experience it or not. It's like coming out of a tunnel.
@katiie7
Жыл бұрын
I’ve never experienced it I’m 32 never heard of another girl talking about it either. If anything we bond more thanks to the release of oxytocin. I’ve heard girls say they weren’t considering anything serious until then. It makes sense if there’s a chance of being pregnant just not logical always. Where men spread the seed then wonder if they even meant to plant it in those conditions 🙈
@mejdlocraftci
Жыл бұрын
@@katiie7 its not only that. I never partook in one night stands, so I dont know how I would feel shortly after finishing with some random Woman, but for me post-nut clarity isnt about 'reconsidering' or thinking about other options. Its also, literally, a clarity of mind. The tons of built up energy and constant urge to have sex is suddenly gone, its like you feel asexual for 2 minutes, like you see the world without your horny glasses, unbiased and you for a moment realise how much of your daily thinking and behaving is affected by the idea of possible sex... And then you go back to normal
@DappsJames
Жыл бұрын
Fantastic interview again, this needs to be heard and championed. Brilliant Guest who is genuinely absorbed in the subject. The emotion she showed is proof of her belief and very endearing. 👏
@denzelamarus5259
Жыл бұрын
"Is sex a spectrum ?" . "Don't give me that look!" That's my favorite moment of this podcast😆
@Sukerkin
Жыл бұрын
And it confirmed the great conversational rapport we were watching :thumbs up:
@diomedes39
Жыл бұрын
He threw a grenade and she was not pleased 😂😂 she handled it well for sure
@schahrzadmorgan
Жыл бұрын
Her ability to FEEL and be passionate about her work, particularly out of love for her son is moving and inspiring! Tears of feeling moved 💯💯🙏🙏
@johnogilmorejr6691
9 ай бұрын
Y'all took the words right out of my soul! Fabulous insights and conversation! The good Dr. Absolutely must write that book. Someone with her experience and expertise needs to help level the playing field on this entire subject at this particular time. In spite of all our sophistication, we continue to be a very superstitious society. Thank you both very much for your passion and work and clarity.
@cc8kk
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant conversation between two highly intelligent non-politicized people. We all need much more content of this type. MSM ain’t gonna provide it. Great job on these podcasts.
@carlabolling2277
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful and yes Carole please write the book. From one 56 year old Pediatric Nurse with 2 adult sons to another Brilliant Scientist. Thank you Chris for your interview and podcasts. I watch many. Cheerio lovely Humans
@samv2023
Жыл бұрын
33.34 This part really spoke to me - her dream / description of male sex drive - she really hit the nail on the head for what it feels like. I'm a guy and I remember going through puberty and becoming insanely obsessed with girls - even girls I was not interested in in any other way, i.e. I didn't like them much, they were boring, we had nothing in common etc - and these obsessions would stop me from sleeping, enjoying any activity, getting on with my studies etc - absolutely hated puberty lol
@salmahernandez3142
Жыл бұрын
Similar to Dr. Hooven's dream, I have periodic bouts of libido where you just have to rub one out otherwise the ability to concentrate and be productive are just not possible. From this I have always had an greater emphaty for men and tolerance than my other female friends to a point were some have thought of me as trans.
@salmahernandez3142
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins I am right there with you. I have found that the stigma is harmful to all the sexes. And the bs i have dealt with is comical.
@pamleonard7330
Жыл бұрын
@@salmahernandez3142 Trans? Your female friends seem ignorant. Lots of girls and women experience a strong libido and physical need for sexual release. And yes, truly comprehending the obsession with sex that most boys and men experience should allow for at least a degree of understanding if not sympathy. Our culture teaches very poorly on these topics. I wish I had understood these drives better when I was in college fighting off the aggressive advances of male college students.
@salmahernandez3142
Жыл бұрын
@@pamleonard7330 must clarify on my poor sentence. Hopefully there is not further misunderstanding. In prior response, the 'some' was in reference to general population of people I have interacted but do not consider as actual friends. Quite a bit of people are close minded or do not think more critically. Within this population there exist 'some' who have shortcut and labeled me as trans. By and by the most my actual friends have done is tease and wonder if my libido would be at a similar level comparatively or greater if I was a generic typical male. There has never been any type of labeling from my friends only acceptance.
@sarahrobertson634
Жыл бұрын
@@salmahernandez3142 Learn some self discipline. Come on, people.
@ArthursAtman
Жыл бұрын
What a genuine sweetheart. Carole Hooven, please write this book!
@Hjominbonrun
Жыл бұрын
It is a shame that people don't believe us when we describe our struggle, and have to do massive research to have empathy into what men go through from the time our eyes open to when we go to sleep, as well as on occasion, while we sleep.
@brookieb4796
Жыл бұрын
I can't wait to read Dr. Carole Hooven book. She was a brilliant guest!
@vanessajanik4623
9 ай бұрын
I love what she said regarding the importance of understanding men’s natural biological drive. I’m a mother of two teen boys so I’d totally read her next book if it’s about male puberty & educating society on what happens to them hormonally. Society loves to focus on girls/women but we’re severely lacking in understanding boys/men & having empathy for the challenges they deal with.
@czypauly07
Жыл бұрын
"There was 5 of them, so like a variety pack" Hahahahaaa you legend!
@AHeroicDeath
Жыл бұрын
This was a great interview, she was such an excellent guest- insightful, endearing, and totally open to productive conversation instead of scoring points or something.
@Romie15
Жыл бұрын
I loved this episode!! Thank you ❤❤❤ She is very funny and articulate.
@Kaleidoface
Жыл бұрын
To Dr. Hooven: Your tears do you credit, and are no shame. Thousands of men will see this and will feel seen and cared for. That is no small thing.
@carolehooven4134
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@diomedes39
Жыл бұрын
@@carolehooven4134 thank you for your work! This interview was the first time I heard of you and I am very happy to hear your point of view.
@kenyanicholas6809
Жыл бұрын
@@carolehooven4134 😯😯😯
@seal869
Жыл бұрын
She is fantastic. Such an important voice to speak credibly on behalf of biological realism and general sanity
@avisharma252
Жыл бұрын
Your podcast just keeps getting better Chris. Thank you for doing what you do 🙏
@PlantHoardingAdventures
Жыл бұрын
Wow what a great talk! Thanks for introducing me to her! I too want my son to be happy and proud to be a man when he grows up! It’s one of the big reasons we are going to homeschool, I don’t want any funny ideas implanted into my kid brain. I just want him to be happy. I can’t wait to read her books!! Thanks again!!
@spencerantoniomarlen-starr3069
Жыл бұрын
Her appearance on the JRE was one of my favorites over the last two years, great lady
@sara_sofia_1984
Жыл бұрын
I am a very feminine woman but I think I must have relatively high levels of testosterone for a female. I do understand what the male sex drive is like because I feel something similar, specially the days preceding ovulation. I get very drawn to visual cues of masculinity and the images get stuck in my brain and come back as flashbacks. On the other hand, being female, I still need a strong emotional connection with that male before I would feel comfortable acting out my sexual desire for him, no matter how strong it might be. Some days all I can do is think about sex with the man I am in love with and I can't focus on anything else. Very unproductive... I feel for the men who are shamed for the way they are biologically. I try to help the men in my life accept that this strong drive is normal and there is nothing shameful about it. What matters is that we integrate that in a healthy way and develop healthy sexual relationships with others as full human beings, not just sex objects. And I think this is where culture has a fundamental role, allowing men to evolve beyond just their basic instincts. Unfortunately, culture is going in the opposite direction, promoting everyone, men and women to just treat each other as sexual objects and I think this is a great tragedy of our times...
@markhurley4657
Жыл бұрын
Sex drive in men has many components aside from testosterone. My free testosterone is higher than 98% of men. I am full of androgen but my sex drive is relatively low. Men need estrogen to promote aggressive behavior and induce sex drive. A man with very low estrogen will be quite passive and will likely not pursue women....even if they appear very masculine
@captainbeastazoid7084
Жыл бұрын
Great comment!
@pamleonard7330
Жыл бұрын
@@markhurley4657 Super interesting comment. Wondering if research has found this to be true.
@markhurley4657
Жыл бұрын
@@pamleonard7330 They showed in one study that the enzyme aromatase that converts testosterone to estrogen promoted aggressive and territorial behavior in male mice. I used to suffer lower testosterone and i was far more irritable and aggressive at the time. I had a higher estrogen to testosterone ratio at the time. I find the abusive men are generally the most insecure with their masculinity. True masculinity does not have irritability or aggressive behavior attached to it. More like a calm sense of energy and confidence/assertiveness. Testosterone calmed me tf down. Just for reference, my levels increased from 221 to 950 in a span of 7 years. The reference range for males is 250 to 916 ng/dl.
@QuidamByMoonlight
Жыл бұрын
Wow. Well said. Glad you can relate
@Eleonoor
Жыл бұрын
1:19:42 Not me out here talking to the screen saying: "I'll support you". but honestly I will. This is a book I will absolutely buy.
@courtlandrowles4517
Жыл бұрын
Wow great podcast! Really enjoyed this. And I confirm what was discussed during the transman sections being one myself. Went from radical feminist to red pill after medical and social transition into manhood. Woke up from the fog of forced feminization so I relate to other men who have had their masculine identities and sexualities demonized. Thank you both for the discussion and Chris love the podcast it’s one of a few I tune into weekly. Take care.
@angelagladstone8863
Жыл бұрын
It's a small thing but i love how Carol allowed herself to pause and gather thoughts before answering.
@Witchblade112
Жыл бұрын
What a beautifully authentic woman.
@kevinfurr3311
8 ай бұрын
What a wonderful conversation. I searched for Dr. Hooven because I just listened to another of your pieces that referenced her and how she is being cancelled for her thoughts. I really dig that on topics that she has not mastered or thought about much, she ponders her answers and does not pretend that she is the oracle. This give me the confidence that I can believe the things that she says.
@zimzimbar
Жыл бұрын
That was an amazing interview. To paraphrase Louis CK: when it come to sex drive, women are tourists, men are prisoners...
@andre1987eph
Жыл бұрын
That we even need an 80 minute show in 2023 to explain how men and women are different is very scary by itself.
@lisabeeke7162
Жыл бұрын
This was very informative and refreshingly informal...and fun...a compliment by the way
@theimaginarium
2 ай бұрын
I love how your channel is uplifting and enlightening, not rage-baiting. You really CARE about the subjects you discuss. Well done, Mr. Williamson.
@helmutkrahn9337
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant! Carol's book needs to be written. Now.
@marlonmoncrieffe0728
Жыл бұрын
❓️ Has Suzanne Venker ever interviewed Dr. Carole Hooven? 🎙 Because I'd LOVE to hear THAT podcast episode!
@wlamb9
Жыл бұрын
As someone who got prescribed testosterone supplementation a few months ago, due to an age-related decline, yes testosterone is a hell of a drug. I had felt like I was walking against a headwind for several years. I even tried antidepressants, which only made it worse. Testosterone injections solved all that. To the point where I wonder how women function at all with such low levels. Do not underestimate testosterone.
@DragonBiscuit
Жыл бұрын
We desperately need Carole to write the next book and help promote a societal shift. As a male psychologist, I’m so tired of the “toxic masculinity” BS and male bashing in general… Looking forward to her future contributions! Great discussion 😊
@masterjb54321
Жыл бұрын
Spot on with one comment around 14:30 Chris: How can one be so pro female, yet obviously so anti mother. Infuriating…
@stevenhs8821
Жыл бұрын
Grip strength is highly correlated with a lifetime of performing tasks that require good grip strength. A person with good grip strength often also has callouses.
@juhel5531
Жыл бұрын
This lady being so scientific with all the studies and statistics about the male and female sex differences, then proceeds to quote an entire meme with the "it came to me in a dream." Granted yah, her description is pretty spot on. That is exactly how I interpret my own sex drive. It feels like I am hungry and just don't act on it. I keep that in reserve and sublimate it towards cultivating things that would attract a hot body owning woman. I've kept that drive on lock so hard, I can't even be turned on by anything non romantic lol. I pavloved myself into demisexuality because of how difficult to tame that testosterone driven sex drive is.
@michaelvanderlaan5629
Жыл бұрын
I love this podcast, you get the best guests that I've never heard of before. Keep it up, you're doing some great work.
@andrewdryden4148
Жыл бұрын
She's great! I'd listen to that book. Chris, I so appreciate you being a gentleman, supportive, and encouraging there at the end. In my book that's very much part of being a good man.
@michelemeixner7604
Жыл бұрын
Boom! Right outta the chute, this was one of the most informational podcasts. So clear, & eloquently communicated. Thank you, Dr. Carole for getting this info out there…and as always, Chris, great interview!
@joshholibaugh2151
Жыл бұрын
Love Chris, love the personal tidbit at the end about the book. Carole was so informative. Really enjoyed this one. Keep up the good work.
@SirBoden
Жыл бұрын
I adore Carole. One of the funniest people I’ve ever met.
@annalynn9325
Жыл бұрын
I might have written that NYT article when I was 20, or at least wanted to. 30 years on and a mother of 3... it’s still the type of article a 20 year-old know-nothing would write 🤣
@mariekirby1683
Жыл бұрын
Totally. It's amazing to me that we are even having to have this conversation or that any of it is not obvious to so many people. Our society has turned into something very strange and clueless.
@anneb889
Жыл бұрын
Even at 20 you would have experienced your mother’s maternal instincts in your life. If she had an upbringing that didn’t have a very good mother role model, then she would have seen it in friends moms…..heck even many female teachers you can see a maternal instinct.
@captainbeastazoid7084
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, and what's astonishing is how our society elevates the opinions of these 20 year old know-nothings. This ignorant nonsense that's inapplicable to 95% of the adult population is featured in the NYT and in prominent academic journals...
@kieranmccabe2729
6 ай бұрын
Loved Carole at the end saying she would do the book so her young son wont feel stigmatised. Brilliant mother and woman
@Justsomeguysomewhere
6 ай бұрын
Yes, however it is only when they have a son, that they MAY come to these insights. Sadly.
@clearashazy431
5 ай бұрын
I'm a young son and I feel stigmatized
@TheBruceKeller
Жыл бұрын
I think one big difference is it's hard for a woman to nerd out and do something technical for 12 hours a day with no human contact, while many guys will have no problem doing that and can actually feel good doing it. Generalization of course.
@johnglennmercury7
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely. The market rewards anyone who perseveres at one thing - eating, sleeping, breathing it. Even women I know who are good at X: they never, ever obsess on X, like a man does.
@CONEHEADDK
Жыл бұрын
Besides chasing girls, I've never had any real drive for one thing - but I wish, that I had had it.
@johnglennmercury7
Жыл бұрын
@@CONEHEADDK there's also the evidence - from neonates & primates - of the things-vs-people interest difference.
@houseofbrat
Жыл бұрын
This is BS. I have a female friend, aka a girl, who is an electrical engineer who has done exactly what you described.
@anewagora
Жыл бұрын
This is true even with androgynous activities. I do that when I compose, write, do my research. And I'm very extroverted but as a man I still love that time to get deep into creating and discovering.
@EliteYouChannel
Жыл бұрын
That ending was amazing. Great interview.
@cchris50
Жыл бұрын
Completely brilliant in every way! Thank you!
@JawHacks
Жыл бұрын
Love how Chris games during interviews while also delivering facts that are pertinent to social dynamics. Very 4D.
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
I wasn’t even sure I wanted kids. Never really liked them. But I will never forget a night at the hospital after giving birth to my son. The nurses wanted me to rest and sleep so they took my son out with them to feed and care for him for a few hours. I knew he was right outside the door. But I couldn’t get any sleep. My whole body CRAVED my baby and no amount of logical thinking would tell my body otherwise. Didn’t sleep until my boy was back at my side. But I guess a man told me to experience that..
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins why would I make that up?
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins what ideology?
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins what do you mean by traditional ideology?
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins That doesn’t sound like me at all. I only have two, but for me that is more than enough. That still doesn't remove my mother instincts. That is a real thing. Ask any mother (without postpartum depression) or scientist. Not caring about our children and our loved ones sounds very robotic. Are your beliefs that women are emotionless robots? Edit: I do find it quite interesting how you as a woman are telling me my motherly instincts and love are wrong and non-exciting and that I am making up a story from my experience of giving birth. Yet the “enemy” is supposedly the patriarchy. 🤔
@ModernLady
Жыл бұрын
@Jane B Robbins They don’t. It sounds exhausting to live a life where no one can be trusted.
@Cathamyr
Жыл бұрын
What an insightful podcast.. love how the conversation goes so smooth BUUUT grip strength ?! Time to build a fitness grip strength company fast
@andreae464
Жыл бұрын
I think it is helpful to always look through another person's lens. I appreciate hearing about the power of testosterone to create objectification of bodies as a natural phenomenon. So how do we actually use this info to create better relationships?I find it a little frustrating that the convo is now mostly focused on having empathy for men. Yes that is important for women to understand. I would like to expand this convo to invite men to also imagine what it is to be in a womans body with estrogen and the lens of looking at the whole. Can we all strive to see the other side?
@bink865
Жыл бұрын
But will they (men) bother if they on average have less empathy ?
@juicebowl
Жыл бұрын
Men will have sympathy for women partly due to their innate drive to have sex with women. I'm glad this researcher is pointing out some of the differences in libido because I've heard many women imply that men should simply control their libidos and not act like we are filthy animals, but the not well understood truth is that the male libido is a potent feature that isn't easily ignored, but is ultimately very beneficial if directed properly. As for your question, the male sex drive urges men to figure out how to be rewarded with physical connection or sex, and men will use their problem solving abilities to deduce how that can be done. Without that need for sex, men would probably be more apathetic towards women, but I believe that apathy would also question the survival of the species, if there was no strong push to procreate. Similarly, I think women have triggers that can make them highly motivated to have children, but it is not as consistent as the effect produced by testosterone. As in the average man seems to be consistently horny, while I suspect women vary more with their libido due to the menstruation cycle and are baby hungry only periodically at certain points in their lives. Also, some surveys have found that women are more likely to have a triggered or responsive arousal and men more likely to have a spontaneous or automatic arousal. So one way to help satisfy a man's need for physical and sexual connection is to emotionally satisfy a woman. I don't think most men know how to do that innately(however men do have instincts to protect women), but through problem-solving and experience they can learn to do so more effectively, but that's only one particular tool to achieve their goal. Other strategies are too gain excess resources or beneficial skills that women will value. This knowledge may benefit relationships if applied in a healthy manner. So I think men have a strong incentive to understand women, but I would argue it may depend on how easy it is for them to get sex. The shorter the gap between a man having a physical desire and being able to fulfill his sexual desires, the less time he has to think about the woman's desires, and may fail to consider choosing to satisfy a woman's emotional or physical needs. This might even apply to men who consume porn regularly as well, since they are fulfilling their own sexual desires, they have less incentive to use their problem solving abilities in order to gain physical intimacy with a woman. Porn could be robbing men of that learning experience and motivation to provide women with something they value. Just to clarify, I don't think women are the only ones who have emotional drives. Women very frequently talk about emotional needs that I'm beginning to think must be an innate drive and that even men have it as well, but the priority is reversed in men and women compared to our sexual drives. Perhaps men seek to fulfill our sexual needs before our emotional needs and women have a greater drive for emotional fulfillment compared to sexual fulfillment, but satisfying both is still best.
@andreae464
Жыл бұрын
@@juicebowl this is an interesting take. I would agree that women have more emotional needs and men more physical. I dont know if I've really seen men try to provide for those emotional needs or recognize them as as important to their personal physical needs. I have to really ponder that. I see so many male creators channels focused towards a women audience, tryin to decode how men think and act for women to be better in relationship to men. I have yet to see channels that are geared to men, to have them truly understand from a womans perspective. They might be there and I've just never come across them. But I dont really see the effort there from men. You make a valid point that that may be due to porn and the ability to satisfy his own needs.
@andreae464
Жыл бұрын
@@juicebowl I find it interesting the word choice you used here "since they are fulfilling their own sexual desires, they have less incentive to use their problem solving abilities in order to gain physical intimacy with a woman." using their skills to Gain physical intimacy. Instead of to give or provide for their partner, but to solve solely for their own sexual gain. Just reminds me of all of the time a man has "tried" to provide foreplay and will massage for a few minutes and then say "are you ready yet?" massage a few more minutes and "are you ready yet?" That emotional fulfillment feels so fake when we know that a man is doing it just to fuck. Then we are just a means to an end.
@bananewane1402
Жыл бұрын
@@juicebowl Have you considered that you might be aromantic?
@LuckysLair
11 ай бұрын
Around 51:00 . Back in the 1970'-80's, one of my relatives "Johnny" from a very young age he was obviously different than the rest of the boys in the family. We often had large gatherings with the extended family. He never wanted to come outside and play sports, and raise hell like the rest of us. He would rather help the older ladies in the kitchen cooking and he would wear an apron, usually one of the most frilly and floral ones his grandmother had. No one in the family cared, he was just Johnny, doing his thing. As an adult he wound up, to no ones surprise, gay....and living in San Francisco
@LauraVolpintesta
Жыл бұрын
Our birth culture is SO poor , cruel, and disconnected that I imagine MANY women are so traumatized by their birth that they can’t bond with their babies and children- also schooling specifically separated mothers from their children and just turns moms into “traffic cops” for their school kids. Mother instinct for me has been incredibly strong
@yootoob1001001
Жыл бұрын
One of the best of your podcasts that I've ever watched Chris. A lot was said that isn't usually voiced. Thank you!
@haydenggallen
Жыл бұрын
Tht dream made me say out loud "oh whoa!" because it is SO accurate! It is wild that she dreamt that!
@bakeliteperformance
Жыл бұрын
"Gravity well" is what I call the urge to look at the female form. Energy has to be spent to NOT look, and the more you gaze, the deeper down the well you go. It was great to see this reality getting addressed in the episode. In certain circumstances I become mentally strained to keep my head and eyes politely forward as the reward signals in the brain keep signaling to look. Going to the beach, urban center, or... god help me... a college campus, can be mentally exhausting if I am with my significant other. Sunglasses are a necessity as a kind of pressure valve.
@sarahrobertson634
Жыл бұрын
Get a grip on yourself
@nrudy
Жыл бұрын
Dr. Hoovens book is really good, highly recommend it
@33Donner77
Жыл бұрын
We are not all equal. Be tolerant of others. If you try to please everyone, you please no one.
@SevenRiderAirForce
Жыл бұрын
Chris: "Do women have post nut clarity?" Carole: *bamboozled* 😂
@maam-yj8ph
Жыл бұрын
No we're just nuts all the time.
@kenyanicholas6809
Жыл бұрын
I think so
@earlwimberley2396
Жыл бұрын
Yet another video where I LEARNED something. Thanks you both.
@marc5279
Жыл бұрын
21:40 i think it was robert sapolsky who said that testosterone makes men do whatever thing that makes them have more status. Litterally he went on by "If you society values spirituality and calmness as a measure of status, then you'd probably have all high testosterone men meditating all day long instead of working like mad to own more money than the rest". Which is really cool and somewhat makes me think "wait, generally who among everyone in our society choses money as some of the best indicators of status? Who might value it in a way that results in high testosterone men putting themselves to work like mad?". Suddenly we (men) dont seem to have that much control over the "patriarchal" society we live in, but that's not interesting in any way because it makes women accountable for everybodys circumstances too (and i really mean that "too").
@powerliftingpremedcrafter473
Жыл бұрын
Truth bomb! Well said.
@purpessenceentertainment9759
Жыл бұрын
I think testosterone is only one of the ingredients that is involved with temperament. Some of the most bad ass men on the planet are the calmest dudes. But once they get in the ring, go to war, perform, lead, they have this monstrous aura. Men can recognize this with each other. It’s because they put so much hard work into their skill, they know what it takes. They see someone do that and respect it. I think flying off the handle is more genetic, also immaturity. Not to say people that fly off the handle are not needed. They’re the demolition guys in war, but that is not to say calm men can’t channel their dominance. It’s not the money that gives you the status. It’s the skill set you honed all your life to have the advantage of capital growth. It’s the Millionare mindset, not the million dollars. Impressive skills will be noticed by men and women. Testosterone may have a role, but there are so many other variables. The one percent are the ones that control the patriarchy.
@kenyanicholas6809
Жыл бұрын
🙄🙄🙄 men don’t have much control over the patriarchal (funny scare quotes) society we live in? Do men not have control over themselves?
@marc5279
Жыл бұрын
@@kenyanicholas6809 not having much control over something does not mean having no control whatsoever. I thought quoting "i really mean that too" would clarify that we're all into this
@kenyanicholas6809
Жыл бұрын
@@marc5279 my guy, I read your statement as saying that women have power over men because men wanna fuck women and thus will just do whatever women demand in order to get pussy. If that is what you were going for then it’s absolutely laughable to think that male simping translates into any systemic power. First of all, you’re completely ignoring the fact that anything resembling free mate choice didn’t exist until 5 minutes ago in the west. Women had to care about her family’s opinion, economic stability, etc, rather than just following raw desires and personal preferences. Secondly, you’re taking a lot of agency away from men by acting as if wanting to fuck someone turns you into some helpless simp forced to serve their every whim lmao.
@SirPrancelot1
Жыл бұрын
This woman is excellent. Very interesting take on things. Thanks.
@mackmoore9044
Жыл бұрын
What an amazing conclusion!
@HarryBalzak
Жыл бұрын
There is a bot running rampant in the comment section. lol It would be so cool if men and women had the ability to experience being the opposite sex temporarily. I think it would solve a lot of sexism/perceptions of sexism.
@TheNephilim101
5 ай бұрын
Carole, from one mother to another mother. We cannot stay silent anymore. We cannot pave the future path for our children by going along with the lies, deceit and fallacies currently being spread everywhere because we are afraid. We must tell the truth. Facts are facts and truth is truth. It is a very tough time to simply tell the truth, but we have no choice nor any alternative left, but to speak it. With great power, comes with great responsibilities. Those of any group will band together in agreement, so those in agreement with you, will support you. Please write your book.
@martastrzelecka5104
Жыл бұрын
Oh my, didn't see such ending - it was really touching, would cry myself. Beside all emotions - Carol, you're set to start the book ;-) I'd love to read about this subject with that take!
@scottsherman5262
11 ай бұрын
Women are standing in the way of men wanting to get at their bodies is what Dr. Carole says around the 34-ish minute mark. I've not heard it put that way before, but my goodness does it ever hit on the head precisely how I felt as a much younger man. I'm 48yo now, & my sex drive absolutely fell off of a cliff after our last daughter was born 10-years ago. I've consequentially had much less sex over the past decade, as my lovely wife also experienced a similar reaction, but I've never been happier...I am soooo relieved to be able to focus my mind on anything other than sex. Looking back, it's very much like I was chained to it mentally, & again, I am so happy to be free of that compulsion to think about sex. I still instinctually look at my wife's lady parts as she enters or leaves a room (I don't EVER look at any other woman's parts, because I'm the best husband ever), but I don't then get stuck in a loop obsessing over it after that glance, I just get back to my life & focus on what I want to. Most of the time, a man losing his sex drive is framed in a negative light...I freaking love it.
@fdsm9211
Жыл бұрын
This podcast is just awsome.
@MC-rw3lc
Жыл бұрын
Dont be afraid Carol. I have 2 sons. Your book is so needed.
@tinootnoot2725
Жыл бұрын
3 minutes in - gosh she’s smart and talking sense
@covenantsepistolaries2352
Жыл бұрын
Virtually all arguments against human rights hinge on the idea of discussed group being different in ways that are too consequential to ignore. It's what justifies the difference in treatment.
@kenyanicholas6809
Жыл бұрын
Yes
@DeadManVlog
Жыл бұрын
Great conversation as ever
@midi510
3 ай бұрын
Grip strength is also the best indicator of longevity.
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