That's exactly right. My mother is an ignoring malignant narcissist and her mentality was like a little kid. For example, one time when I was about 11 years old, I had found a ceramic swan ornament in the trash. It was really nice and someone had thrown it out because they didn't want it. So I showed it to my mother and she wanted it. I said no, I want to give it to grandma. We started fighting over this object like two little girls fighting over a doll. I ran upstairs to get away from her and she ran after me. She grabbed me on the stairs and sunk her teeth down into my right buttock cheek causing a deep wound that was bleeding. She got what she wanted and I got injured. What grown woman would fight with her 11 year old daughter like 2 little girls fighting over a doll? Then she bites me. WTF???
I’m so sorry she did that to you. This makes me so sad and angry 😡 😞 My mother is demonic as well. I’m sending you hugs right now. We are going to heal, one day! Namaste 🙏🏾❤️ love and light my friend! Stay strong!
@lisaperry1109
5 жыл бұрын
ACOANM RU4REAL the comment is for you. ❤️
@infoguy1978
5 жыл бұрын
@@APGifts my narc was a dark triad. sadism is real. it feels like demon posession
@shortwalks3541
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that. I can relate. It's hard when we don't have a mother, just a nasty child occupying that position and we're left stranded in confusion. Ugh, I understand the bad memories. I have a lovely daughter I get on well with, but I had to reparent myself in order to be parent her.
@theempathicsupernova6865
5 жыл бұрын
Wise words. I refer to the 63 yr old husband as a screaming 4 year old in the cereal aisle.
@Dan-ox7fy
5 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy the sincerity of your videos.
@andrewkiruia9162
5 жыл бұрын
You noticed
@infoguy1978
5 жыл бұрын
i have a three year old. i currently have ptsd and have had it for 8 years. when my child would scream it would give me flashbacks of my narc. it was identical. my narc mostly acted like a 13 year old juvenile deliquent however he frequently acted younger than 13. sometimes as young as 2
@andrewkiruia9162
5 жыл бұрын
You are so genuine it's from the heart, more people should watch this
@eyeoffthetiger2691
5 жыл бұрын
Great to see a new video from you John💯💯Truth. Thank you..yes these narcs are Great Pretenders😓
@narcissismwatchtower230
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks, John, you explained the subject well. It took me till I was an adult, to figure out that my Mother wasn't an adult emotionally. Instead of my asking her things, she'd ask me things that she should have understood. It was like I was the adult, and she was the child--which it was.
@perrywilchiuk6012
4 жыл бұрын
My mother asked my sister one day, "Are you loyal to me?" I go oh snap, here comes the narc. I was only around to see if there was anyone who could be saved, completely impossible. It was heartbreaking, to have to accept, let them swim in shit and hopefully they get out of the pool.
@thegreatalyssa
5 жыл бұрын
This is why he had trouble with intimacy and sexual relations with me. He was not emotionally able to handle it. He would rush through things like a child. He sometimes would say, "What do you want from me?" after sex when there should have been more time spent together next to each other talking, connecting etc. but he would be busy throwing a bit of a fit like a child who I had just made to spend intimate time with me. A few times he even said that he thought I made him be with me in a sexual relationship in trade of letting him live with me and my taking care of him etc. He had a lot of problems and he's been gone a couple of months and he's not coming back. He would also follow me shopping and ask if he could buy some things, and when I said yes to them he would have a little bounce like a child who would jump up and down because he was going to get what he wanted. Man, there's just so much weirdoness about him. If he could have been just good enough a guy, I would have taken care of him forever because I can. But he has mental problems, drugs problems (prescription and illegal) and personality disorder like narcissism.
@tauruswinds37
4 жыл бұрын
Their demonic energies will eventually destroy every single aspect of their miserable lives ... Then Sheol awaits after Judgement by God !
@marlenevideos8666
Жыл бұрын
This man I knew for a short 3 weeks, had told me he didn't develop to maturity well and he was a whopping 70 years old. He blamed it on his parents. He did go to a psychiatrist and told me he had been diagnosed as having "Arrested Development." Well we talk no more. He was just an acquaintance.
@RJ-hx5nb
5 жыл бұрын
Appreciate your videos, John ! Thanks
@djdoolittle1315
5 жыл бұрын
💚👍 thx
@BuffaloBilly69
4 жыл бұрын
My narcissistic mother could not get a pair of shoes in her size. They were not in stock at the time. She drove home in the car crying all the way. It was ok as ‘daddy’ (my stepfather) made it all better by sourcing them elsewhere...
@JohnWRathwell
4 жыл бұрын
This is an example on how immature narcs are.
@candicejaid6107
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah that is how oety so fucked up
@kittymuffins6484
5 жыл бұрын
The narc/bully uses play-acting for attention and power over you, using sometimes absurd behavior, shock/cruelty. Worse if drinking, and even worse as you up alcohol %, TERRIBLE with whiskey. These people may be play-acting, but inside they are always cowardly, they also are very capable of "losing it". They can be very dangerous. They can get very mean to those they like to bully. Narcissist=bully. They chose the victim just as bullies do, and switch immediately to "nice" to those they CHOOSE. They may have one main person to blame for everything. They may throw things all over the floor, but never at you, because the bully knows if they hit you, then they WOULD get in trouble. But they stop short for fear of consequences. There are many various scenerios/patterns of abuse, sometimes physical abuse is hidden. If you, the victim, somehow trips the narcs trigger, they can hurt or kill! Some narcs want to hurt someone so badly, but are really cowardly whimps that lie and bs about themselves! Yet it's not just macho type people who kill! They can also completely back down when the victim gets angry! Some drunkards do this over and over all night long! Some are so good at scaring their victim, people never or rarely put them in their place. The bully may exploit other's weakness as it suits them. Bullies always pick on those SMALLER than them! There are many SECRET bullies! Sometimes there is but ONE victim, bullies may only yell and throw things violently around one certain victim ONLY, maybe never around others. Sometimes the victim is not aware of the abuse, they blame themselves! But the bully also hated and wished death on so many people! Some folks caught on to these operators and yet have never seen the extent of the ugliness inside these cowards. They are acting and playing all the time, remember that. People are a means to their ends. Narcissist=bully. One in the same. They leach power from you by scaring you into silence while they keep scaring you more! They falsely believe this is giving them power, and it is a literal HIGH to them. How they pave their road to hell. Let us all endeavor to treat all folks with consideration as is the second greatest commandment! And any of us has bullied others, then we can be forgiven! But it's not ok to keep hurting people and apologize, wash-rinse-repeat, that is a lie and a well-dessrved road to hell, a bully may apologize mulitple times an hour, they are simply using the apology tactic to keep abusing! Some apologize as a tactic , it is not sincere, even with puppy dog eyes! Narc=bully=coward=evil!
@Mick_Harrison
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks man, this really helped me get a handle on my sisters behaviour, it's taken me 52 years to understand that she's a narcissist, I can finally get her out of my life, it's been a revelation of late, but I still needed more convincing, seeing her as a 7 year old has given me the image I needed to comprehend her strange personality, it's hard to accept but I refuse to put myself through anymore crap. Looking back I can now see every episode of stonewalling, gaslighting, backstabbing, lying, recklessness and oscar winning acting performances. It's amazing how it's taken me so long, but now that our mother is gone and I don't need to stick around I can leave her behind, it's very sad, but she doesn't give a damn anyway, she has her inheritance and I suppose she will drink herself to death surrounded by all those lesser mortals that are convinced by her wonder woman act.
@bah667
Жыл бұрын
Thanks John, greetings from Australia!
@kittymuffins6484
4 жыл бұрын
Hi John, hope you and your puppy friend are nice and cozy and warm ♥️
@seansean8353
4 жыл бұрын
These videos are really good thank you for putting these up. I watched about a year ago and am rewatching them now I hope everything is well!
@BEEBEE159
5 жыл бұрын
With all due respect, I disagree with you. I do not think the narcissist is between 5 and 7 years old. I think they are a 2 year old. Remember the terrible two's?? If you have ever had a child, you will never forget going through that period, as a parent. In my opinion, that's where the narcissist is at. The narcissist child mentality either goes ballistic when they don't get what they want or they go silent, with the silent treatment. These are childish responses they learned as toddlers. Also, the narcissist will never change because the entire government, employment, and religious systems are enabling the narcissist. The companies employ narcissists, and even seek them out, so the narcissist is able to thrive financially, and the government protects them. Last I heard, it's illegal to string a narcissist up on a tree by the neck. In the old days, thousands of years ago, normal people would not have stood for narcissists. They would have simply killed them, literally, problem solved...Not so today.
@JohnWRathwell
5 жыл бұрын
Yes, the Narcissist often acts like a 2 yr old. There's a 70 yr old man where I live who does the terrible 2s temper tantrums. What a scene. We couldn't have the narcissist lynching rules enforced again, because most of the law makers are narcissists.
@BEEBEE159
5 жыл бұрын
@@JohnWRathwell "We couldn't have the narcissist lynching rules enforced again, because most of the law makers are narcissists." --- You are absolutely right. Narcissists are ruling over every aspect of human life today: political, economic, religious...You name it. The Bible states that "in the last days, men will be lovers of themselves," and that's exactly what we are seeing today. The good men are far and few...It's now time for the Savior to return and save the day. He's the only way out of this mess.
@khouston3903
5 жыл бұрын
I'm feeling tha whole 2nd paragraph. That's deep.!! Seems reality. They r tha enablers. !!But to seek 4 them. I'm hurt it's hiding.
@richardhald9197
Жыл бұрын
I was rasied with a narcissist mother.Ive got Avoident personality disorder, low self esteem etc, I'm fifty four life is tuff and it will always be tuff
@smoozerish
9 ай бұрын
100% correct sir
@lrowlands53
5 жыл бұрын
Arrested development. They have to study how others behave, in real life and from movies, etc, to model typical behaviour so they can fit in as ‘normal. Just put them in a situation they haven’t got a mask for and they’ll either copy others, over-act inappropriately or be deadpan. Fucked up beyond repair and a waste of a human.
@jesusiseverythingjc7591
5 жыл бұрын
My ex husband was the same breaking things for no reason jumping up and running out. Throwing food ECT. He tortured me for 27 yrs.hurt me and the kids so much I didn't know how to leave but when I couldn't support him anymore he had yet another affair and it was finally over.
@JohnWRathwell
5 жыл бұрын
Jeanne Castleberry..It's amazing how you put up with such abuse. I know that most people have no idea whatsoever, what a victim has to tolerate. Most people can't relate to the permanent damage that is done to an abused person. I hope you are feeling better.
@jesusiseverythingjc7591
5 жыл бұрын
John W Rathwell I was a kid when I got married and had babies so young that I didn't question him but as I got older I stopped believing his lies and I realized I had to support us he would sit on the phone and lie about jobs and things and I wouldn't even know how we were going to eat that night he would tell his family that we were buying a new house and we would be getting evicted and if I said a word he would break anything including me that got n his path. He destroyed me.i was his joke never enough to hurt me he had to humiliate me. Things he did nobody would ever believe me. I don't know why I stayed I let him hurt us and use me. He didn't care even if the kids ate or had a place to live. He always comes out of everything smelling like a rose and leaves a path of destruction in his wake
@patriciaearley4177
2 жыл бұрын
This is so very sad and tragic.I wonder if these people are aware of their actions at all.
@JohnWRathwell
2 жыл бұрын
They are fully aware of what they do and say. To understand what these people are, they're like a robot disquised as human. A mechanical robot has no feelings of love or caring or sympathy or guilt, etc. The robot is controlled by a computer with no feelings, to the brain of the robot. This is the narcissistic. Their brain looks at you as an object. Without emotion, that's how a person looks at another. The narcissistic also envies us because we can love and feel. This is the main reason they hurt the one they are with, even if it's 20 years later of pretending to care and feel. They want to punish caring people because they are real and because they love and feel. They hate people who have love because they don't.
@paullooney2522
2 жыл бұрын
@@JohnWRathwell You said it, I had one for a mother, it takes years to recover.
@josemanuelsantos6809
3 жыл бұрын
Hola John, I would like to comment that there's a girl who is interested in me and we're texting each other on wassap. She has been trying to convince me to visit her for so long, she lives in London and I live in Seville (Spain) but nowadays I'm taking care of my parents because they're ill and they need my help. She push me to travel and leave family if I really love her. I cannot do that now and she gets upset. For this reason she has stopped texting me for several days and that keeps me ruminating and overthinking what's happening. I hope to get some feedback because I will appreciate it so much. Un saludo desde España.
@JohnWRathwell
3 жыл бұрын
That's nothing but a scam. They use psychology to convince people to fall in love with them. When you are emotionally controlled, you lose your common sense. I'm talking from experience. I was conned into falling in love with ( a woman ) it's usually a man texting. I sent a few thousand dollars so ( she ) could fly from Russia to Canada, before I caught on. This mind control is powerful. Logically if ( she ) wanted to see you that bad, she would at least want to go to visit you. There's thousands of guys in London for (her) to check out. When you are lonely, it's easy for someone to manipulate a person. I know other people also who went through this. One woman I know sent a stranger $30,000 because he said he wanted to marry her. She travelled a few hundred miles to find out no one was waiting there for her. Another woman fell in love with a guy inline. She moved out of her apartment she liked and traveled a few hundred miles to see nobody was there. Both of these women were lonely. Common sense leaves a person when they fall in love with someone they don't know. The one who you love is perfect in your mind. You would only imagine a perfect person wanting you because you wouldn't create a flawed, sick person in your mind. She is something created in your mind who has no flaws. It's like falling in love in a dream. That person is perfect in your dream. You have to wake up sometime though. It's better sooner than too late.
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