Had a few people ask for contact information: Coaching sessions available at dotheyloveme.com/ - Email is coachken@dotheyloveme.com
@RealCoachLee
Жыл бұрын
Another great video by Coach Ken. I'm always impressed by his knowledge in so many areas and his ability to connect so many dots!
@walkertranger5746
Жыл бұрын
You both have been a great help for me. I thank God for you both.
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
Back at you my friend
@psalms1163
Жыл бұрын
Both of you guys produce great videos.
@migzm14
5 ай бұрын
She contacted me! The no contact worked after 26 days! She told me she returned the things back and placed it in front of my door way. I know she well be possibly just breadcrumbing me so I will not take this as a sign she wants to get back. I will do what you told me in your videos and match their energy. I won’t reply immediately either. I will wait at least 6 hours
@lozgod
Жыл бұрын
This shit works. I’m in reattraction. I was ignoring the small signs but they are undeniable now. I’ve been doing the opposite of every intuition and following this advice.
@Enigma32174
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your amazing videos. They have helped so much. It’s been 1.5 years since the break up. They reached out 3 months after breaking up with an email telling me they loved and missed me. I acted cool and I think it surprised them. I reached out 6 weeks later and it didn’t go anywhere. That was a mistake. I hate I’m still here still thinking about them
@JKNat9004
Жыл бұрын
I love the comment about playing relationship Morse code, when you get a bunch of little breadcrumbs.
@darkcloudsilverglint4552
Жыл бұрын
BPD traits wife, I moved out to the guest house a month and a half ago went 30 something days no contact, she reaches out every now and then, I opened up a little bit emotionally and she felt like she gained control... they are unbelievable.
@dreamseeker2346
Жыл бұрын
I was wondering about this type of scenario where you are no longer in no contact and talking but not together. Not many if any videos on this subject, so thank you very much.
@nandim9343
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Coach Ken for your video. I will implement everything you have shared with us. I'm going into 2 months of no contact.
@benithacalloway8286
Жыл бұрын
I was looking to hear that. Thank you this is antibiotic for my wound
@conejita71mx
Жыл бұрын
You're amazing coach Ken. Listening to your advices in this video really helped me with my self esteem and improved my mood. I was feeling down tonight but your advices instantly cheered me up! Thank you SO much! 😊
@rizamendoza4254
Жыл бұрын
Spot on with my current situation. Thanks coach.
@gabordudas5404
Жыл бұрын
Very helpful in my situation right now. Thank you Ken!
@gibs6429
Жыл бұрын
Coach Ken, I had a call scheduled with you today march 4th at 10:00 am that i missed, and I am so sorry because I know your time is valuable and I know I took up someone else's opportunity to speak with you who desperately needs your advice as much as i do.. I had so much going on with my elderly father that it completely slipped my mind. I am sorry. As soon as I can get up the money, I will schedule another call. I noticed you even called back an hour later, and I appreciate you trying.. Your videos are life savers for many people. Keep doing what u are doing, I'm sorry I missed my chance to ask your opinion on things. I'm in contact but not back together yet. We dated in the early 2000s and had a 7 year period of NC, and she looked me back up. We tried it again for almost two years, but I had issues with her baby's daddy from the past, and I made a lot of mistakes. I always thought the baby was mine anyway, but she's not a baby anymore, and my ex will not stop contacting me and gets extremely upset if I don't keep in touch with her child. It's very complicated, for many reasons and just one is because of the long-distance I'm only able to be there on the weekends, it's to much to write about. Sorry I missed your call. Thanks for trying twice.
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
No worries - things can happen sometimes. I understand - let me know a good morning this week or possibly early evening and we can make up the call. No need to pay for another session. Things happen.
@frankscaglione4155
Жыл бұрын
Excellent video. One of your best. An improvement in audio as well.
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Frank - Still working on the video of Top Breakup Songs and Worst Breakup Songs we talked about
@frankscaglione4155
Жыл бұрын
Many of the most classic songs are on this list are really well loved by many so go easy on them. For example, "When a Man Loves a Woman" by Percy Sledge". Probably a handbook on what not to do when in no contact, but a well loved classic. Probably what every man feels in a break up. Our pop and media culture just seems to enforce these ideas.
@atipachaleka9172
19 күн бұрын
He reached out after 2 months of no contact and ask me how I am and how my business is?I just couldn't say much to him.I just told him I am doing well,my business is growing and our conversation ended
@psalms1163
Жыл бұрын
Great video bro..
@assplundah
Жыл бұрын
Great video mate, it explained a lot & you did so in a way that was easy to understand & take in.
@wandayarbrough
Жыл бұрын
After over a year since I seen him I don't think so. He mumbled something and was just a icy feeling from him. Why would I? I deserve better than that.
@Thigrandil
Жыл бұрын
she texts me every day for months now, 20 days ago her rebound broke up with her. We meet at her place 2-3 times a week. I have no idea when to end no contact. the fact she told me shes going to meet an old affair for dinner confuses me even more.
@nadersafipour5003
Жыл бұрын
Outstanding!
@Cornelius1212
Жыл бұрын
Coach Ken - My BPD ex, is in a rebound. I think she reached out in a way yesterday. She wrote to tell me that she had gotten a refund on some thicket she had bought for my upcoming univeristy lecture. I had changed the date, the only reason she can know this is if she's been looking at my facebook. So I just replied to her message since it was not an invitation to engange was with a tumbs up emoji and nothing more. Back into NC for day 57. Was that stupid? Do someone with BPD go through the same stages as normal people in a rebound-relationship? Honeymoon - reality - nostalgia - regret etc.
@jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499
6 ай бұрын
Don't make it easy to come back. This is the problem with dating. Everyone thinks everyone is disposable and they can leave whenever and come back whenever. Just stay away from these people
@nabman7425
Жыл бұрын
Hello coach, thank you for this great video! Do BPD come back after no contact/ block? My girlfriend had anger outburst and blocked me one week ago! Would she come back?
@nisasar4571
Жыл бұрын
Coach! I dont wanna mess up, I made a mistake setting up a meeting day before starting my no contact cuz my ex was keeping contact but not coming to me for 5 months. I said lets not talk for 2 months. But I set up a meeting day saying if you dont show up I wont be reaching out again, should I show up that day, I have no clue and I dont wanna mess up
@DianaVanessaful
Жыл бұрын
My ex left me for someone else a year ago and he’s still dating her long distance. Lately he has been reaching out, so i was trying to match his energy, but I shouldn’t?? Yesterday i asked him why did he call and he said he missed me, and we spoke for hours, and then i told him it felt weird speaking with him without being together and he told me I need to stop focusing on the bad things.. he confuses me ! I didn’t ask about the rebound but maybe i need to do that right? Plss give me your opinion on this coach Ken
@sylvainhorn7087
Жыл бұрын
Hi Ken! Is it specific to BPD? Keep up the great work and thank you 🙏
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
not specifically but I do mention it
@HawkTHSS2893
Жыл бұрын
Honestly i went no contact and blocked with all my ex-boyfriends on IRL and on Twitter too somehow it doesnt phase me
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes its a delay - sometimes anxiety spikes and drops at unpredictable times
@HawkTHSS2893
Жыл бұрын
@Coach Ken well honestly I do get anxiety sometimes tbh with u sir maybe I'm just being paranoid....
@myprivateyoutube
9 ай бұрын
Hey coach Ken! Watching your videos make me feel so understood!! I have a question..... What if he reaches out after no contact, meet up in person, asks to get back together and take things slow and admits he's still in rebound relationship, then pulls back and haven't heard from him for a month?? Does no contact apply to this situation?
@CoachKen
9 ай бұрын
Yes, absolutely! That was a selfish move - weak and classless - unfair to you and his rebound
@jennymccullough9517
Жыл бұрын
But how do you ask if theyre with someone new without looking keen? If you ask they know you want them. Wouldnt it be better to be in a powe position if not asking? How might you find out then?
@MetaPhysStore0770
Жыл бұрын
I have to remind myself he ghosted me, and thats abusive. No matter how much i love him....hes abusive.
@Janeintheok
Жыл бұрын
Stay strong 🌹
@Bobess22
Жыл бұрын
I experienced that too. It’s just awful.
@susanlimbaugh9616
Жыл бұрын
Covert narcissistic abuse. Ugh. I’ve been through so many cycles of love bombing, devalue and discard.
@ConfidencePT
Жыл бұрын
After 15 months, my ex still hovers and likes and comments on my Facebook and reaches out. However, she won't meet up. She said she was busy two weeks ago but to contact her the week after. Which I did and she said she couldn't meet up as her car was being repaired due to a crash. However, I haven't heard anything more In the last two weeks and she has stopped interacting on social media. This reaching out and then no meeting up has been an ongoing thing. Yet I've tried to set a date each time after waiting for her to reach out as I should.
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes they keep you connected enough to stop them from total fear of losing you - or to keep you as a backup plan. Let me know if you want to set up a call
@MissSarahGM
Жыл бұрын
David, my ex also called me every 2/5 months for the whole year, but it went nowhere. Like Ken says for the borderline, they want to check if they still have access to us and be relieved. So we should not reassure them. Now I believe it can be best to not respond or respond and be direct, asking why they are calling. I ignored his birthday recently, I hope he got the message I am no back up plan.
@ConfidencePT
Жыл бұрын
@@MissSarahGM Thank you. Oh, my ex reached out for Christmas just gone. My birthday last year, both while I was in no contact and hadn't reached out for her birthday or reached out for Christmas first.
@MissSarahGM
Жыл бұрын
@@ConfidencePT Are you in contact currently? I see no point in reaching out for holidays and birthdays, as if we are distant friends. For me it's best to stop responding. Or maybe I will respond but ask him why he's contacting me. I also won't ask to meet up, because I think it's the dumper's job. Maybe that's ok for you as a man to ask her once, but I will never suggest to meet up, as I am a woman, the dumpee, and in a different city. It gets tricky after a year has passed..
@ConfidencePT
Жыл бұрын
@@MissSarahGM It's been 25 days now since our last social media interaction and 52-days since our last email communication.
@FlamingCockatiel
11 ай бұрын
We have spoken twice in roughly four months after the breakup. It was pretty casual both times, no relationship talk. We both have autism. What should we do?
@troyelam8978
10 ай бұрын
Something I always wanted to know, is narcissism just a character flaw, or is it a true mental illness?
@CoachKen
10 ай бұрын
Both - but challenging to catagorize as a mental disorder in a sense that a Narc might not have the significant negative impact on themselves which almost all disorders have - Narcs usually hurt others more than they cripple themselves. In fact many narcs are very successful in multiple areas as they destroy the lives of others.
@jennifertripp3717
Жыл бұрын
Hi Coach in regards to your comments at about 4 min in what would you say when it’s your spouse and you’re separated?
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
From what I've seen it actually packs more impact when you're a spouse and you pull back. Most of the time they've become accustomed to you being there, being patient, being hopeful and reassuring them of their own awesomeness. You pull back and I've seen it shake them more than they would have imagined.
@jennifertripp3717
Жыл бұрын
What is your response to your spouse when there is an affair and you’re no longer in no contact?
@badassmomomdotcom4909
Ай бұрын
Going through this exact thing right now. Its painful. Any update?@jennifertripp3717
@saraa1982
Жыл бұрын
is there a way to reach you, coach ken?
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
email is coachken@dotheyloveme.com - and can set up a 1 on 1 call at dotheyloveme.com - Look forward to speaking with you
@alpen4921
Жыл бұрын
Hi Ken, just checking, she wrote to me and said she’s met someone else and moved on. I wished her well and then stopped contacting her. No I’m worried if I contact her she’ll interpret that as if I have not accepted the break up and have an agenda. If I don’t contact her she’ll think I accepted and moved on or worse, not interested. Really stuck as to what I should do for the best to get back with my ex. Any help much appreciated.
@chilloften
Жыл бұрын
No contact.
@CoachKen
Жыл бұрын
No contact is supposed to be scary - LOGIC and FEAR tells you it will tell her you don't care so she'll leave. But that isn't how humans are wired unless they're psychopathic of sociopathic - humans are influenced by ego, fear of loss, fear of regret more than logic. You can build attraction by showing the strength and resilience to walk away far better than chasing affection by declaring love they already devalued.
@alpen4921
Жыл бұрын
@@CoachKen thanks for replying Ken. As ever, I gain strength and reassurance from your guidance. Much appreciated.
@BrS-ql7on
Жыл бұрын
Arent all women whos attractive with social media converted to a narcissist?
@CCrusaderNL
Жыл бұрын
Sadly it does encourage narcissism in alot of women, they feel like everyone wants them etc, social media is very toxic for women
@agneskorondi5551
Жыл бұрын
This is a very interesting video,I'd like understand,but I can't, because the coach is talking very fast,and not open his mouth,or what,I don't know,but its just so annoying . It's very interesting topic,but if the talk is not understandable what pluss can coming down? Sorry about this Please get attention to the clean talking stile Don't talk fast and open your mouth Thanks,👍
@matthewsherrill3021
10 ай бұрын
Just turn on CC and read along. Or turn down the speed in settings. But it's not that fast. Maybe the issue is with your hearing?
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