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@Baraodojaguary
3 жыл бұрын
thank you cole thats just what i needed this video
@Baraodojaguary
3 жыл бұрын
I ve always focused on how i percieve myself superior to the avarage modern man, and judged too much people from apearances, for exemple i hate gangasta rap i see it as demoralizing and pornographic, then this black woman who dresses like a rapper who i always thought it was a bad person and loved gansta rap, comes to clean my house hired by my mother, and we started talking and she says who much she hates the sexism in gangasta rap. i was shocked she and other women from the city i moved from changed my perspective of the world even if it was for a short time after we separated by life changes.
@Tony-vh9oe
3 жыл бұрын
I want to be able to be open with others (especially women) but my ex crushed me bad and I'm in that mentality and feeling of "I'm hurt, I don't want a relationship, I don't want to get hurt anymore, I don't want a relationship ever again" and I want to be able to get over that, I still haven't been able to forgive and let go because it was more than just a regular break-up and it triggers my depression to the point where I want to take the easy way out😔😔😔...
@alrivas9351
2 жыл бұрын
Hope
@auged5946
2 жыл бұрын
Do you have a Discord? If so what is it, I would like to join? If not think about creating one for the community.
@nancybelli
2 жыл бұрын
I needed this today, I have lost and or am losing my faith in humanity. It seems no matter how hard I try I am still rejected, morally spit on and feel absolutely isolated. Im going to finish watching the video but pray to find solace.
@davieee1168
Жыл бұрын
Same. It was especially hard for me as a man, to look at some idols like beyonce, and see they've become different. What are morals these days?
@JNB0723
Жыл бұрын
At least you got some kind of belief. That gives you meaning. I have no beliefs.
@obsoleteelite8258
10 ай бұрын
You haven’t completely lost faith until you stop looking.
@Anne_Myriam_
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve come to realize that most people do not care unless it’s convenient to them sadly … I no longer force friendships or conversations either , it will always end badly if the feelings aren’t reciprocal. I’ve been there , done that 😐
@chrism8180
2 жыл бұрын
I hear that, I'm a recluse now
@Gaze73
2 жыл бұрын
If you become a high value person, you won't need to force friendships, others will be the ones trying to befriend you. The bad news is, being high value is mostly genetics. You know that most popular girl and guy in the class? They didn't have to do anything to earn their status, it came to them naturally.
@Anne_Myriam_
2 жыл бұрын
@@Gaze73 I find this rather shallow because most of them were popular only because of their external beauty and wealth .
@Gaze73
2 жыл бұрын
@@Anne_Myriam_ No, beauty is correlated with intelligence and superior genetics, they have it all. The best looking guy is likely to also be one of the best at sports because of his skeletal structure, optimal health and hormonal profile. His high T gives him physical and mental strength to do anything. Meanwhile, a superior woman just has to exist and her life goes on Very Easy mode, everyone wants to be friends with her because of her looks.
@Anne_Myriam_
2 жыл бұрын
@@Gaze73 ok
@AleArno9
3 жыл бұрын
As men, having a tribe is important, but to be comfortable with being alone is probably that best thing that can happen to you!
@ExpresShans
3 жыл бұрын
As humans. Not just men.
@shanecorr1694
3 жыл бұрын
@@ExpresShans or transgender non binary or gender neutral
@oilhanm-a4893
3 жыл бұрын
@@shanecorr1694 yes, humans
@peikko3304
3 жыл бұрын
@@shanecorr1694 are they not humans lol
@MsJujubee3
2 жыл бұрын
Yep. I’d rather be alone than with 99% of people 🤷🏻♀️
@OnlyJerico
2 жыл бұрын
I feel more connected with people here than it is in real life
@Ritu.15
6 ай бұрын
Yup I agree
@autismion
3 ай бұрын
No, no one
@Suoinotlad
2 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna be honest. From someone who had almost committed 3 or 4 times, who has been completely addicted to alcohol for half a year, who has had lost their biological father (I'm adopted) almost lost my biological mother, been diagnosed with depression, lost all my friends etc, nothing gives me as much hope and a will to live another day than your videos do. Seriously thank you Cole.
@jesuschrist1817
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you went through that I hope your ok 🙏💙
@noahlinden9641
Жыл бұрын
Seems like you have a victim mentality
@Eleventyeleventh
Жыл бұрын
And then he stops uploading😭
@depressing_reap969
9 ай бұрын
Yo how’d you fail 3 times?
@SarahG-vz3ki
7 ай бұрын
@@noahlinden9641being victimized and having a victim mentality are 2 different things
@mirellaelliott1343
3 жыл бұрын
Came at the perfect time. Been feeling like I’ve came to so many realizations lately and so many people in my life don’t get it
@shedontlove8490
2 жыл бұрын
To anyone who is worried that he no longer has friends: all your ten times best friends will disappear after 30 anyway. And the reason is simple - they will have their own life, and they no longer won't care about you much. At best, they will become your acquaintances, with whom you sometimes meet, correspond, talking on the phone. And, most likely, this will happen less and less often... Don't worry about it. Best friends are temporary, life is temporary, your job is temporary. Everything is temporary. Just deal with it and enjoy your life while you can. Cheers!
@dlarricksmith
2 жыл бұрын
Just deal with it??? What does that mean? Not very helpful or practical advice.
@Salmasobhi1714
2 жыл бұрын
@@dlarricksmith yeah i consider it helpful because he is at the place of indifference and me too feel the same that nothing will last so don't take things too personally just be with the flow don't hold any guilt of not having the one that u desire it's ok to desire but be detached at the same time cause u have no idea what plan god has for u hope that helped
@Emperiiium
2 жыл бұрын
This is just sad.
@amandamadaci7797
2 жыл бұрын
Harsh truth
@coupa10
2 жыл бұрын
@@Emperiiium ye it’s pretty fucking sad i agree. But he is right man..
@joeykenney
3 жыл бұрын
Focus on cultivating those few high quality friends that will improve your life, but don’t rush that process. Putting yourself in the right situations to meet like minded people, online or in person, is a great way to start
@VitorJTekkRodrigues
2 жыл бұрын
The wisest thing about your comment is that this shouldn't be rushed. Our lives nowadays are in such a fast Pace that we forget that human connections can't really be hastened nor forced.
@UnknownHero_MarthFDS
2 жыл бұрын
True but if it becomes rushed tell the person you don't feel up to it and they should understand. Don't ghost and betray the trust and friendship.
@freakyfreshwater7680
2 жыл бұрын
You totally hit the nail on the head when it comes to having negative assumptions. I always tell myself my voice isn't unique and doesn't need to be heard. I should just stick to myself and let others live their own lives without interrupting them. I stay in my lane and they stay in theirs. This is obviously a destructive mindset as it prevents me from opening up with others. We are literally hard-wired and evolved to be social beings. By being social with others, sharing thoughts, feelings, emotions, I open others up to do the same. It is a win-win situation when you think about it. I need to quit being so self-righteous in my head and realize no one is better nor worse than I am. We all die in the end. No reason to believe someone is better than me and vice versa. We all act in our own self interests and we all have our own values and experiences. I need to go out and explore, forget what others think about me. Some people won't get along with me and that's okay. Because like you said there's more than 1 person out there to be friends with. Be upfront,, create meaningful relationships, stop bottling up feelings and opinions. Free others from emotional pain and social neglect by putting yourself out there. We are all craving social interactions and lacking meaningful relationships thanks to social media, working 40 hour weeks at jobs we aren't passionate about, paying off student loans, having debt, social distancing due to covid, rent rising relative to average income, unclear futures, traumatic past experiences, grief, regrets, you name it. This world needs more love, forgiveness, and openness. It's no shock people are questioning whether to keep going or not, life is not so easy nowadays. I hope I can be a positive presence which allows others to feel understood and accepted. Internalizing everything is only going to lead to sadness. I can confidently say this as I can speak from years of experience and even now. Mindlessly scrolling through social media, studying alone, afraid to speak my opinions, comparing myself to others, having negative thoughts, etc. All this can be prevented through sharing and being open. It's okay to be angry - just express it and explain what hurt you. It's okay to feel suicidal - tell someone about it. It's okay to be behind in school - talk to your professor, counselor, ask for help. It's okay to question life's purpose - tell others how conflicted you feel. It's okay to feel you don't belong - express why you believe so. It's okay to feel your present situation does not reflect where you want to be in the future - tell someone your pain build a support system. All the non-physical struggles of life can be cured through sharing. And there are people out there who want to help. I need to fully understand this and believe I can be myself. I need to prove this through my actions, no matter the shame or discomfort I may feel. Nothing worth doing has ever come easy, I need to sacrifice my comfort. In return I will not only create a better future for myself, but for others as well. Thanks for the video and allowing me to self reflect a little bit.
@frezzpr
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cole it's very strange how many of us can actually relate to each other but yet we are all so distant and I believe a huge part of it is the fear of rejection subconsciously and part of it could be the fear of not being liked whenever people get bored of who you are I know that's my issue for sure I've had friendships that only lasted 2 months because of the less time they gave
@iheartjbgccb
3 жыл бұрын
We're afraid of being judged for something we aren't aware of yet. It's scary but I wish we learned not to give a shit and be ourselves
@navaneeth9103
3 жыл бұрын
@@iheartjbgccb are u on the discord grp
@Anne_Myriam_
2 жыл бұрын
So true
@chrism8180
2 жыл бұрын
@@iheartjbgccb people don't like me when I am myself, they want me to be like them, I'm not
@lukeburr2006
2 жыл бұрын
@@iheartjbgccb u put this perfectly in words bro
@aaronaustrie
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. Just this week I was telling myself that I'm finding it difficult finding people that genuinely care about me. And now I'm here watching this video 🤦🏾♂ Very relatable. This video is very fitting for me especially right now
@sparklenights5421
2 жыл бұрын
Sameee 😌
@immyopic3319
2 жыл бұрын
I literally have no friends of any kind whatsoever for literally all my life; even lost my faith in the future. At this point, after so many times of betrayal and hurt, nothing can restore these things in me anymore and I just keep to myself; never speaking a word to anyone that isn't my family.
@dantepepper
3 жыл бұрын
It is a bit sad that the self improvement wave has actually spread us in a way lowing our actual happiness which is the opposite of the overall goal emotional connection should be embraced and is apart of the human experience love this series and happy your making more 💯💪🏾
@porkerpete7722
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah but nobody wants to be with you if you are down bad.
@AhmetKaan
3 жыл бұрын
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
@iheartjbgccb
3 жыл бұрын
But living in a bubble isn't good either? Im in a dilemmna
@qnbdy
2 жыл бұрын
Smells like a *Bot Spammer* Ahmeet Cvnt
@letmobilet
3 жыл бұрын
sometimes I wonder why people doesn’t even try to resolve a conflict and rather cut you off, seriously
@stresslee
3 жыл бұрын
We can thank social media for that.
@Anne_Myriam_
2 жыл бұрын
Perhaps they are immature, perhaps they are anxious or perhaps they never cared in the first place …..
@letmobilet
2 жыл бұрын
@@Anne_Myriam_ :(
@praylearn3141
2 жыл бұрын
It’s not worth it sometimes. They will see you as argumentative or problematic
@trashboat5388
2 жыл бұрын
@@Anne_Myriam_ damn that third one hurts
@TheMellizification
3 жыл бұрын
It’s easy to have a bad day and forget about what other people have to offer, I do my best to set myself up for a good day and decide to look for the good in people and experience positive experiences as much as I can ✨
@warriora7245
2 жыл бұрын
I’m at the point where it’s hard to imagine someone having this condition worse than me…as selfish and narcissistic as that sounds. I’ve been pretty much isolated, and limited to just my family for companionship for nearly 4 years now. Covid was just 1 more year added to the pile. (And some considered 1 year exhausting) It gets to the point where any positive lessons learned begin to fade into the background, consumed by the loneliness. With no hope, it begins to effect every part of daily life. Idk if there’s a point to all of this, but I honestly hope anyone out there can be comforted knowing we who don’t deserve this treatment in the world still survive. It’s the only option, as suicide has become wayyy too easy of a way out. I’ll pray for anyone feeling the same
@tenchu006
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, I've just read this comment and honestly had the same experience for 5+ years. I've got no family now, my favourite person in the world who raised me has passed away (my nan) and now the plan is to leave my hometown and travel. Fuck this place. I am sure there are people like us in the world. Thanks for the comment. It's not selfish or narcissistic, there are reasons for it like people in your area not being good to you or just liking different things. You deserve to be yourself. Honestly fuck the people that don't understand that.
@thecia9498
2 жыл бұрын
Bro I'm 19 and have litterally never gotten a phone call from a friend.
@samirgardner
2 жыл бұрын
same bro I feel you, been living like this, but I never give up, I know my future is gonna be way different
@samirgardner
2 жыл бұрын
@@thecia9498 same bro
@dennisjajablubb9984
2 жыл бұрын
I know that feeling too..... Only talk to my family regular and a little bit of small talk at work. Never really had the feeling that others are interested in what I have to say, so I pretty much closed all "doors" between me and any friend I had. Also the best friend I had for 20 years..... Iam 35 and I don't see any reason to do anything and don't know why i should. Only doing things for myself is getting old..... Also women avoid me like hell and when I talk to people they are only interested in a conversation when i do the funny guy...... This whole "take the time to work on yourself" doesn't do anything for me either, because what ever I tried, didn't work......
@MichaelDrift_
3 жыл бұрын
The Self Improvement journey can definitely get lonely, but I've realized the type of people I was able to attract since being on it has been way more fruitful than even some people who have known me my whole life. The resistance you feel towards leaving people you've known forever is natural but never let it limit you. Your better self can ultimately serve the world and your loved ones better than staying the same for the sake of not being alone for a bit.
@RealJamieBarclay
3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly why I'm planning on moving to LA. I know there are lots of rough sides to the city, but as a film maker/ actor at heart, I know it's where I need to go. As I've changed drastically over the past few years, I really do feel like I don't fit in with my social circles, and I don't feel like I have any deep connections irl. While I save up however, the internet will have to do. Thank you for building this incredible community Cole, looking forward to all your upcoming videos. 💙
@nowayeli
3 жыл бұрын
W
@frezzpr
3 жыл бұрын
I've been here for 4 months and It's alot but if you're looking for people to link up with film wise and friend wise let me know I'd be down to venture into film side
@ethancohen12
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been working to move out of LA. Been here all my life and have grown to need some time apart from it.
@MinecraftKid120
3 жыл бұрын
Honestly, LA is still a great place for art, theres bullshit everywhere. Dont let all that negative stuff stop your from chasing that dream. We need to hold onto our purpose with our life.
@TheMellizification
3 жыл бұрын
Don’t give up 🤗
@AhmetKaan
3 жыл бұрын
*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”* *―C. S. Lewis*
@yourcalmplace
3 жыл бұрын
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
@sparklenights5421
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks! You too 🥰
@qnbdy
16 күн бұрын
Your advice is dogshi
@tobias240
3 жыл бұрын
Away from the content: your videos are simply masterpieces even in post-production - these editing skills are remarkable
@ColeHastings
3 жыл бұрын
Damn thanks!
@Holycgamer112
Жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastingspls help me I feel awkward all the time
@Half.Throttle.adventures.
2 жыл бұрын
I’m going through this right now! Tough as hell to see people you have known for years in a different light. The loneliness is overwhelming sometimes but knowing I’m going to Come out better makes it worth it.
@juanmaldonado2096
Жыл бұрын
Same here. Feels like everyone is breathing and not me. I feel abandoned, alone. Honestly I’ve been seeing a lot of people’s true colors though. Made me more mature also. Got a long way to go but I have faith in god. 🙏🏼.
@OscarOffTheCuff
3 жыл бұрын
Out of all your videos, this is the one I needed the most. It coincides with my current existence/reality. Law of attraction is real, and my negativity due to personal struggles and consuming of different media is affecting my daily life. But when I shift my mindset and look at things on a brighter side, everything and everyone around me seems a little bit better and/or welcoming. When I’m negative, the energy around me becomes reflective. Some old man at the gym walked past me and said, “you’re not having a good day are you?” I never talked to that dude in my life. That shit changed me for real. I think the lack of social stimulation since moving to a new city has been really getting to me, not to mention the craziness of the world right now. I just turned 25, have a shitload of ambition, but not sure where to start aiming it. The lack of a strong, motivating social circle has been my excuse, but these Cole Hastings videos genuinely help me out. I don’t know why I’m venting in this comment section right now, but this video was much needed man. Appreciate it.
@ColeHastings
3 жыл бұрын
Now that you've recognized it, you can do something about it! Love you dog
@OscarOffTheCuff
3 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings you’re the man bro, this channel genuinely brings me happiness and gets me through these 10 hour shifts, and I always anticipate the next videos, you’ve helped me and a bunch of others. Thanks dude
@ikiwe9730
3 жыл бұрын
Man I'm so glad that i've found your channel. For a long time i've been thinking that I'm having just social anxiety (which i really have though) and i can't just handle social situations anymore, but i actually just realized how self centered my struggle to connect with anyone is because i'm afraid they don't like me or that i just embarres myself. I'm sure i'm still going to struggle with it, but i think i just got important lesson and another point of view about myself and my problems and now try to listen others geniunly more instead of focusing do i look like prick. Who cares? Lol. Thanks dude 👌 can't wait for part 2 !
@TylerDellavechia
3 жыл бұрын
sometimes i wish i grew up in the 70s instead. It's ironic that it's so difficult for me to navigate through life and build true connections in the internet age.
@angelulisesvalencia63
3 жыл бұрын
for anyone who has run out of friends and is depressed about it I want to give you some advice, try to fix things, if you fail at least you will have tried, release the blame and do not close to the world, at parties, parks, anywhere is the perfect opportunity to meet new people, people who will bring you momentary happiness but also could offer you a more complete friendship and where you understand each other better, but loneliness is also good, just don't get carried away by negativity, In solitude you can do something for yourself something that is interesting for you but that may also for other people, so do not be discouraged maybe after a while alone you can go out into the world and be the random guy who plays basketball like a pro or whatever else, that is already on you.
@Joel-pg4yi
Жыл бұрын
I have lot of childhood abuse. I want to make friends but my subconscious kicks in and my automatic response is fear and people can't be trusted everyone is an abuser
@heinmolenaar6750
10 ай бұрын
You must not let them abuse you.
@heinmolenaar6750
10 ай бұрын
Do you have experience with a people pleaser? I please people. I have a submissive and slavish nature. I have been abused my entire life.
@noahschoolfield9411
3 жыл бұрын
I learned this way of thinking from working at a grocery store for two years. Love you Cole, your videos always come out in the best timing
@zyneros
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I had a friend like you whom I could text and gain insight from.
@NoOne-sq4et
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been trying to improve my social skills, I think in 2018 I was killing it when it comes to making friends, then I moved and started fearing judgment so I stopped interacting, then it got worse during quarantine and now I can’t talk at all (not on social media besides KZitem), it’s funny because when I fantasize about becoming confident and talking to people, I’m able to come up witty stuff but just can’t do it in real life I also feel like my performance sky rockets when I’m in a classroom with people that I’m close with. But now I have no friends, meditation has helped become more positive and be less insecure but all of it disappears when I engage in a conversation
@bendeguzmatedanko6053
3 жыл бұрын
Nah man, naaaaah, I just can't believe it! This video was uploaded right when I needed it, like it's a frickin scary timing. The exact, exact topic I needed advice on. Thank you for this video man, it literally made my day way better! Although I'm at one of my lowest point, thank you!!
@get4tapped
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@notmycircusnotmymonkeys3627
3 жыл бұрын
same
@leonardob3108
3 жыл бұрын
same
@MatthewChafe
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@Sl3oOok
2 жыл бұрын
Same
@aaronaustrie
3 жыл бұрын
This video makes me want to reflect on my life and figure out the people I should stick with and those I should get rid off!
@rokit0402
2 жыл бұрын
I have a friend I haven’t met for years and barely text but when we do I feel motivated to be alive
@wellknown1204
2 жыл бұрын
Yoooo, you are me. But I call my friends once in awhile. It is just nice.
@henriqueoliveira3872
3 жыл бұрын
I recently went threw a breakup, and i've been experiencing the emotional rollercoaster of this chapter in my life. You and your videos are helping out a lot. Keep up the good work! Thanks! Sending Love from Portugal ❤️.
@JesseVisser
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video😊 lately I’ve been finding it really hard to connect with others, especially my old friends who I’ve started to realize their true intentions. Ever since I’ve begun having my spirtual awakening and the recent passing of my brother, the things that used to matter to me just don’t matter anymore. I don’t want to have small talk. I don’t care about what you do for a living. I just want to talk about things and do things that actually matter- like question why we’re here or what happens when we die. The truth about the universe and how to reach our full potential. Those are the things I care about now and it seems like it’s rare to find other people who care too. However I’ve also been more open lately like you said and have been surprised to find that there are more people out there like me than I thought! Here’s to finding my people❤️
@samuelchase8866
Жыл бұрын
Man, I was literally just thinking today that I need to stop being so negative and judgmental towards others. I was about to search for some guidance and this video popped up. Helped a bunch. Thank-you.
@Wizrd3k
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Cole for this video. I've been feeling down lately because I'm going to college soon and I'm always thinking about friends at college, rather than my journey that I'll experience. Now, I've stopped overthinking and I don't care too much on having friends, but rather on improving myself and seeing what I can achieve.
@skittle6964
Жыл бұрын
Me too brother🥹
@Wizrd3k
Жыл бұрын
@@skittle6964 🥹🥹😃😁
@skittle6964
Жыл бұрын
@@Wizrd3k how do you feel now?
@yehanavossen4412
2 жыл бұрын
Define immediate results, because i've tried this on multiple occasions over the course of years and things either dont change or just get worse.
@wjs5141
3 жыл бұрын
I can not tell you how much I needed this video today
@Naturenerd1000
2 жыл бұрын
True friends grow with you along the jorney.
@wilykat8796
Жыл бұрын
Everything i needed to hear 💯💯. So difficult for me to trust others or even reach out so def taking ur advice seems legit
@danielgossett866
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Cole this was very helpful, going through a divorce I have realized how much X suppress external friendship with her toxic ways. Last six months I have rekindle old relationship and started many new ones. Making new friend is easy, just be open and yourself, don't try using someone else's personality. I have always got reacquainted with myself learning how much of me I sacrificed meaning to help X. I wasnt making X happy, not realizing I couldn't help some who didn't want help. Cole keep making videos and ignore the negative comments.
@bienemaya3302
2 жыл бұрын
i try really hard but i feel like others are always taking advantage of me and use me as a tool for their own ego i don’t get back what i give
@LucentCV
2 жыл бұрын
"How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carniege is a great read and has many relations to this video
@HTHTNT77
6 ай бұрын
That’s the thing… I always do my utmost to help others and they treat me like crap. I won’t change. I don’t think it’s always about being self centred, I will still try to lift someone up when I feel down. Sometimes we need lifting up too.
@pavel6174
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, today I realized that all my "friends" from high school were fake.
@AritheCreator_
3 жыл бұрын
I talk about this concept a lot too throughout many of my videos. You encapsulated it perfectly in this video 💙
@Thelifeofroni
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for making videos that literally describe my thoughts, I love it
@Sophia-181
Жыл бұрын
Thank you- am working on myself 🙃
@SuccessWithSam
3 жыл бұрын
Editing and content game on 💯!!!!
@stayhappylittlemermaid
3 жыл бұрын
With a new attitude everything can change, make it how you want it to be, staying mad?, why do that...Give yourself a break, laugh about it & you'll see that life what you make it.
@youngpacman1222
9 ай бұрын
Your videos are amazing Cole! Honestly in a nutshell I hate having my time wasted when i try to put myself out there, that's why i try not to waste people's time cause I'm wasting my own time 😮💨
@Hamza97
3 жыл бұрын
you got a friend in me
@numbers9696
3 жыл бұрын
Yooo hamza
@capybara7346
2 жыл бұрын
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@edukashion-jn3fz
Жыл бұрын
woah
@NekoXDrago
Жыл бұрын
Yooo hamza
@OmkarArde-vk5pr
Жыл бұрын
Hamza bro thank you so much. You made me realize that I'm enough for myself.
@deweq6717
2 жыл бұрын
I got bullied in school and because of that my mindset is destroyed, I think everyone are evil. I will try this and watch part 2. Big thanks!
@lokimsjrrd3451
2 жыл бұрын
You're not wrong. The creator of this video wants to sell you an idea of what they believe the world is like, not what it actually is.
@MPElectronique
Жыл бұрын
I feel the same. I have been bullied too.
@juliesimone2877
3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! A hard lesson but well learned! You can't help people who don't want help. Save your energy for yourself or someone who does.
@consciousandaware
3 жыл бұрын
You will only go as far as the people who you hand around with, choose wisely.
@IsaacJoshi
3 жыл бұрын
You are at your most powerful when you are happy with others and alone. Best of both worlds :)
@jogo8502
2 жыл бұрын
I don't want improve myself, I want to be happy
@NFSMAN50
3 жыл бұрын
Cole is a mind reader, how do you know that im going through this hahaha. I've gone through lots of self improvement, growth in life, indulging in mental health content, self improvement, being in grad school now, and I was feeling like I was outgrowing some of my old middle and high school friends who love partying, getting high etc and I can relate to it anymore. I've been too myself lots!
@acrez3260
3 жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the head with this one, I really needed this. Thank you
@grandmasboy3544
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks 👍. Really Needed This Video!. Crazy Time In My Head @ Age 34 Almost 35!!.. Leaving the Nest @ Age 36!!.. Scary, Unfamiliar but So Exciting!!.. I'm Finally Gonna Be 100% on My Own. I'm Ready!. ✌️
@bkhschoo1
Жыл бұрын
(Having)Friends is vastly overrated, the luckiest time in my life is the time having no friends, its simply awesome!
@adamhassan5528
3 жыл бұрын
Cole thanks so much for all these helpful tips and information. They always come at the right time, I appreciate what you do and it gives me a sense of comfort knowing others deal with my issues
@siyen5319
11 ай бұрын
This guy described my whole life and also described what I wanna be like in one whole video 😭❤️
@MichaelJohnson-ub3wl
3 жыл бұрын
I truly appreciate you videos Cole you're truly an inspiration ❤
@iconicon8352
3 жыл бұрын
i love this new Cole Hastings who privatizes healthy relationships, shows true maturity.
@scc8728
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, I can see this is what has happened. I went through some big changes and I'm glad for them but not having close friends is hard and you are right that they fell out of my life as I begun to fix my life.
@gigachadgoose
Жыл бұрын
2:41 "you're not alone" is gaslighting me. I am alone, I have nobody to talk to and I can't be myself. When I did try to be myself I was hurt physically and mentally, and I can't find other people that I can be connected with. Online friends don't work for me and I can't find anyone that I can be friends with in person. I am alone and I can't do anything about it
@AnkitMishra-wc9uc
3 жыл бұрын
What I have observe is even people who have faith in humanity, who have that sight of seeing bright side of life , sometimes mold themselves into individuals in which society will accept them..so they could survive..and just for the society..they lose their authenticity. ... It's like human individuality is a protect mechanism... "You choose to become in the certain way based on your own failure/success and social expectations.. "".. It's just that some people able to shape themselves better and some people are not
@majogutierrez3926
2 жыл бұрын
i love how you edit your videos... i'm always learning from you.
@Aesthetic_leen
10 ай бұрын
Sometimes I think I have some problem. I have become severely depressed after realising it - 1. People have their own group but never want to friends with me 2. I'm usually ignored by strangers to whom I go for help. Like what bad have I done to u man . U can't even know me without talking to me. So the judgement for what? I was there to seek help not to kill you. 3. Some of my so called friends showed their real colours. That was exasperating. I still stayed with them because I cared for them . Then had to let go . The toxicity was too much 4. I gave my everything to the people I Loved and cared about. My love , care , blessings and prayers, I gave everything. In return demanded nothing. And what do I get in return instead, judgements, betrayal, back b*tching . 5. Men want s*x and don't think about parents when they are f*cking but their love for their parent emerges when it comes to commitment. And then they can't marry you. 6.. I have seen couples treating each other like shit . How do these people stay their whole life with each other. 7. People lie and win trust of people and the destroy them and never regret. 8. People are breaking up with their 10-20 friends/ gf/ bf 9. They are cheating in their 30 year old marriage I mean where the F uck are your emotions 10. And OH MY GOD . The amount of narcissistic persons are there in this world is unbelievable. 11. Bullying someone online or offline has become cool to and to an extent that people end their own like due to the hatred they recieve I always say -" people are scarier than ghosts" I don't know whom to believe whom not to believe.I don't understand, are people difficult now a days or is there a problem with me that I can't make connections? I really feel lonely and unloved and it really hurts 😭. I feel scared of people being one of the people
@Trisof88
8 ай бұрын
You are living in a programmed and simulated matrix. Ideologies are pumped out into society through the media and they are designed to cause anger, fear, lust, division, segregation, betrayal, greed, inflated ego, and narcissism to allow the governments and world rulers to dominate and control us in a weakened state. They are poisoning our food, our water supply, the air with chem trails, they are all in on a depopulation agenda, they are influencing degeneracy to have people war with each other over gender identities, masculinity vs feminism, political stances and also to stack their prison cells. They are all in on human/sex trafficking and organ harvesting, blood sacrifices, orgies, praising demonic entities. This world is a reflection of the evil done by the elites who we know as famous politicians, celebrities, entrepreneurs, corporate shareholders and the like. They are all on the same page against humanity!
@klpigbighh
7 ай бұрын
its all true sometimes when im in a good mood i try to meet new people but they always lie and talking shit its always the same tf is wrong with them nowadays no moral no respect no anything
@CyberDevilSec
Жыл бұрын
Let me tell you a story. I've been a big drug dealer. I had friends that stood there for me, I had 2 girls living in my small apartment that loved me. Until I decided f*ck that and moved city, left my friends and tried to presume a career in Cybersecurity. And I'm very honest when I say I miss my life of crime because I had real connections. Now I have nobody.
@GeorgioArmoni
7 ай бұрын
You made a smart move. There's no friends in that industry. Sooner or later; you'll be robbed/snitched or killed by your own "friends".
@lukaslukason
7 ай бұрын
Have also been a criminal as a young man. The criminal circle though offered some of the GENUINALLY best friends, ever had. The worst diabolically indiffirent people ever known where law obiding people and Christian people. Law obiding people far from equals good people. Often the contrary.actually. Lukas, Denmark.
@jonathandock8416
2 жыл бұрын
Relationships with others are just another brick in the wall
@piyush4933
3 жыл бұрын
Man your video content exactly comes when I am struggling with a decision man thanks my mentor 😃🥰
@gaigejones3947
2 жыл бұрын
I've been trying this for the past 7 years. You know what I got.. taken advantage of.
@maxpower2881
Жыл бұрын
I was expecting another "you feel awkward/anxious thus you are ubable to start/keep a conversation, so do this" hollow advice, but when you sarted to explain the feeling of loneliness and not belonging as consequence of self improvement/growth, it shocked me. It felt like "Damm that's so relatable". I feel relieved and understood. Thank you for sharing this!
@leonardob3108
3 жыл бұрын
this was so genuine, thank you so much
@madisonxoxo43
3 жыл бұрын
Wow... can you read my mind? This is what I am thinking at the moment.
@willbrooksofficial
3 жыл бұрын
I needed this one. Thanks king 👑
@erinmarie6736
3 жыл бұрын
I needed this!!! Thank you for all you do, it’s much appreciated.❤️
@Realmeninvest
Жыл бұрын
When I was at my worst everyone wanted to be around me but when I’m getting better and more successful everyone is gone.
@wonderfulwalk5540
3 жыл бұрын
Dude how do u always know how I feel? clairvoyant...
@jd7965
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making and posting this video. I needed to see this
@bastian6173
3 жыл бұрын
When life falls apart, let it fall apart so it can fall into place.
@DemetriPanici
3 жыл бұрын
Talk about a HEAVY title
@ColeHastings
3 жыл бұрын
Pretty targeted too lol
@adebleswordfish
3 жыл бұрын
You know, I am open to talking to new people; but they don’t speak to me or avoid speaking to me based on my appearance due to my burn scars. They instantly assume there is something wrong with me based solely on appearance, and it sucks but I can’t control that. I try to talk to people, but after hundreds of attempts not a single one has tried to be friends with me or even had a conversation with me back…
@danam9177
Жыл бұрын
I think social media has screwed up Our social lives way more then we even realize. I took a social media break for a year and it seriously was the best thing I could have done for my mental health but I quickly noticed something very sad. If I didn’t reach out to people no one contacted me. I guess it was a lesson I needed to learn. Most of my friendships were not very deeply rooted and were based mostly on my efforts to maintain them. I’m not bitter towards anyone I just feel sad that this is where our society has gone. A bunch of people sitting in front of a screen being fooled that they are experiencing real friendships😢
@kishanbhatk5194
9 ай бұрын
so true 🙂
@syrgakomuraliev
3 жыл бұрын
Man, your videos edits grow exponentially
@dylanstout4028
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing man! Completly changed my perspective.
@kruelladekill1497
Жыл бұрын
you just explained everything in one video. thank you
@arinkamaran2229
Жыл бұрын
Thank you cole, for pinpointing this problem♥️♥️♥️
@StrangerToEarth
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this, Cole. Love you.
@ColeHastings
3 жыл бұрын
@Badboyifier
3 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings cmon Cole, just ask her out bro
@KenShiro23-t1t
3 жыл бұрын
@@Badboyifier 🤭🤭🤭(())
@Justguywholikesskippingandps
Жыл бұрын
This is very relatable to me I've been betrayed so much
@ItalianMamba400
3 жыл бұрын
Put God First and stand firm in these times
@angycucumber4319
3 жыл бұрын
How would you put a being that doesn't exist first?
@bodnarova05
2 жыл бұрын
@@angycucumber4319 you are God. It’s all within. Do you not exist ?
@KingPaimon666
2 жыл бұрын
@@bodnarova05 Exactly what atheistic Satanists believe, you are your own god...
@gabbymv8433
20 күн бұрын
I still have that negative self talk, and world view. It all started in my family. Continued throughout university being betrayed by friends and hurting them afterwards. I saw the world as a bad place. As a dog eat dog kind of place. “If someone does you wrong then your better pay them back thousandfold” that was my mindset… Through games I was able to find one person who I connected with and defended me through thick and thin. It’s thanks to them I started to grow as a person. Started going to the therapist to talk about my issues, world view and pains. Thanks to them I started to think “huh” he’s a real person there’s gotta be more “real people out there that are awesome. I’m stepping outside more and now I’m slowly opening up. Already made a friend in my German class and I explicitly asked if we could be friends 😂 I’m an introvert and not so great with social cues but hey, they said yes and today we’re getting ramen🎉
@kallippa6727
11 ай бұрын
your videos are so high qualety love it
@youngdelinquent4494
Жыл бұрын
@2:45 I got a tear in my eye I’ve been feeling so alone and everything and everyone around me is falling away from me…
@heinmolenaar6750
10 ай бұрын
Watching this video makes me sad too. I am lonely my entire life.
@amannagar8713
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is happening to me right now! Thanks for sharing this video 🙌
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