Don't people understand what she's actually doing? She's presenting herself as a traditional wife and fulltime homemaker without any back up plan. What she's actually doing is building her social media brand and following as a means to make money. She's an influencer and working and some people don't even realize it.
@Elhastezy888
Жыл бұрын
🧠
@xandercruz900
Жыл бұрын
Amazing how many loser dudes in the comments fall for it.
@LarryVasquez82
Жыл бұрын
@@xandercruz900and women sadly...for straight men i get it.. she's like lite onlyfriends for christian str8 male.
@smileywarhead5178
Жыл бұрын
That's using your brain
@ni3070
Жыл бұрын
🤣
@Eagle-fl8jy
Жыл бұрын
I do think women should have a backup way to make money, not because your man might leave you, but because God forbid something happens to him. You and your kids need to be taken care of.
@pamelaboswell9715
Жыл бұрын
There should never be judgment in doing the smart, responsible thing. If someone doesn't make that choice, fine. But don't belittle other people who refuse to leave it up to chance.
@mixedmediaartgirl300
Жыл бұрын
Ihave a great husband....who recently had brain surgery for a blood clot that rendered him absolutely incapacitated so I AGREE wholeheartedly. I like how she is happy, but bad things do happen to good people.
@pamelaboswell9715
Жыл бұрын
@@mixedmediaartgirl300 Doing anything to prove a point that only affects you is cutting off your nose to spite your face. I'm sorry to hear about your husband and hope he recovers soon. You're a case-in-point that you simply can't predict these things.
@sakshibhatanagar3639
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely!
@mixedmediaartgirl300
Жыл бұрын
@@pamelaboswell9715 exactly
@user-od1fm3hs9c
11 ай бұрын
She does have a backup. She is a working woman. Social media is her job. I imagine that she likely earns more than her husband.
@foxylady6901
8 ай бұрын
She does!
@dorie4780
7 ай бұрын
Bingo
@RiceTrees
5 ай бұрын
Her videos are mostly shorts than videos Shorts and TikToks barely pay much tbh Her normal videos only get like 5k-100kviews too (not that that isn't a lot, it's just not going to make her "rich" money) (though some do blow up with 500k+) Even with sponsorships, I doubt she "makes more than her husband" If that was the case, I doubt the husband would even still be working Though, she definitely does make enough money for herself and her family
@Lalaland-nt6cm
5 ай бұрын
Social media is hardly a job.
@foxylady6901
5 ай бұрын
@@Lalaland-nt6cm people are making 5 and 6 figures by posting on social media...this is definitely a job
@mimminiminiim565
Жыл бұрын
Husband is just a human. He can leave, die, get sick, lose his Job.. it's just smart to be able to get back on your feet!
@Ksenia584
7 ай бұрын
We have a prenup, he has life insurance, he has disability insurance, we have a 6 month emergency fund. You can pretty easily protect yourself from those things with enough wealth.
@stephentitus7137
6 ай бұрын
@@Ksenia584yeah, but not everyone has “enough wealth”
@2livenoob
5 ай бұрын
Your Plan A will NEVER succeed because you have a Plan B. This is why feminism is such a derailing scam.
@garmtpug
4 ай бұрын
@@Ksenia584 The trick is to have "enough wealth" to cover all sorts of unforeseen things that do turn up in life. The money you talk about will not last a lifetime. It won't be enough to put your kids through school, cover a catastrophic illness for either you or your children, etc. etc. Unless you are independently wealthy, and come from money, there is no way you can cobble together enough money now to last you forever! Try being realistic about this!
@zereimu
4 ай бұрын
@@garmtpug Yep it's about mindset, you don't go into marriage with a "backup" plan nor should you, but I think you have the right idea. My mom was a housewife her whole life like most women have historically been, but she also was qualified for teaching positions should my dad ever get hurt or sick. Marriage is never 50 50, that's totally a myth for sure, it's 100% or nothing, and as you said you have to be ready for it. My grandma, also a housewife, could build furniture, she'd have my granddad do the heavy lifting and she'd do the detailed work, she was built different though but still cool. lol
@ThesmartestTem
Жыл бұрын
My dad was a great husband and father and my mom trusted and depended on him, too. Which made it all the more devastating on my family when he was killed in a car wreck caused by a negligent driver when I was in my teens. Our comfortable lives were thrown upside in an instant. My mom struggled so hard to provide for us, because the benefits and life insurance do only get you so far if you're even fortunate enough to have them. Everyone should have a back up. Because sometimes even the most loving, loyal, and hardworking spouses can be taken from you unexpectedly.
@louisachalarca6494
10 ай бұрын
Pretty similar situation and thank lord my mom was able to get us financially stable again but we didn’t lose our home because her boyfriend helped pay for the house while she still did everything and work and grieve. The bf…mowed the lawn
@iamalphalim
8 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this Even if a good man stays good, he might be taken away in untoward happenstance Thankfully, Estee has a content creation career Young women thinking of following in her footsteps need to realise this… And build their own home business ❤
@rpedits4507
7 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss, may god bless your father's soul
@teresahegerich8835
7 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss. And I agree with you. My 'good man' became sick and disabled at 62. If I were doing things over, a Healthcare license would help me right now.
@benzun9600
7 ай бұрын
its called life insurance
@arthrodea
Жыл бұрын
This woman is not an actual traditional wife. She is a KZitemr and Influencer who understands the business of social media. Actual 1950s wives worked their butts off and did putz around dressed like Marilyn Monroe while filming themselves for media. She is no different than the ones dressed like Kim Kardashian copycats chatting about the latest eyeshadow pallet. They are all social media business women and I guarantee she spends hours a day managing her social media accounts, filming, editing, tracking her views and revenue and discussing brand deals etc - it is very much a full time job
@arthrodea
Жыл бұрын
@happyhappyhappyjerry I definitely agree that her mindset and value system of wanting to be a traditional wife is something to be applauded. But the actual lifestyle she portrays is extremely idealized and unrealistic (mainly because she does not yet have kids). Any real mother will tell you they don't have time to curl their hair like a 1950s housewife and sashay around in cute aprons. They are busting their rears taking care of a sick child in the middle of the night, doing the laundry, getting homework done, driving to soccer practice, working through household finances and bills. Many work part time small jobs to bring in extra money to the household. Her portrayed lifestyle is not representative of the vast majority of stay-at-home wives or moms (unless they are multimillionaires and can afford to pay for nannies and maids). It sets up other women for vast disappointment and feelings of inadequacy if they think that is the lifestyle they will be living.
@Potato_of_life
10 ай бұрын
@happyhappyhappyjerryanother idiot who doesn’t understand what feminism is
@vibez2806
9 ай бұрын
@@arthrodeashe is at home and taking care of the kids and home. Just because back in the 1950s, some women didn't have time don't mean that she can't have free time nowadays. You do realize that life have gotten way easier especially for people that aren't rich. Homework can be done easier thanks to the internet and laundry only takes long if you don't have a laundry machine which most people in 1st world countries(where she is living) have.
@arthrodea
9 ай бұрын
@@vibez2806 My understanding is that she does not have children - so yes that frees up a TON of time!
@陳潔明-w6y
9 ай бұрын
@@europa818 Spreading her popularity, kid... She's another content creator.
@ts4231
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I was of the same mind and my “wonderful” hubby pulled a 180 on us. I wish I’d at least have finished my undergrad before marrying him. It was brutal going back to school and back into the workforce with 10 years no employment because I was taking care of the kids/home. Women really do look down on you and men see you as useless on paper. We’re resilient though right? I just finished grad school while raising my children alone and working a full time job.
@foxyfocus3170
Жыл бұрын
You are strong. I am happy for you.
@divineroadrunner
11 ай бұрын
Congrats, I'm in college now so my girl can quit her job and become a housewife. I'll find a job with retirement benefits in case I croak early and throw her a bone on the prenup. My grandmother went through something like this but her first husband had retirement benefits so she got his full amount when he passed.
@JJ-hu4cm
9 ай бұрын
What did he do?
@Cub__
9 ай бұрын
How did he do a 180 on you? You seemed to have left that part out.
@JJ-hu4cm
9 ай бұрын
Men do this all the time. @@Cub__
@heatherhammerquist6239
Жыл бұрын
Every single person should have backup cash. Because life happens.
@TPRM1
Жыл бұрын
And wealthy, successful men have a tendency to trade-in for a younger model as they get older. Best way to guard against that: be the younger model.
@CyrodiilicKhajiit
Жыл бұрын
The family can have backup cash. The man can give the wife a portion of the money to spend on herself, if she wants to save it, so be it I suppose.
@woozy7405
Жыл бұрын
@@TPRM1 Huh? Older women should somehow become more sexually appealing than young girls to stop their husband from cheating? Almost seems like the problem is the man, not her, and the best guard is not marrying someone so shallow.
@TPRM1
Жыл бұрын
@@woozy7405 No. I’m saying, you need back-up cash in case your husband trades you in for a younger model after 20 years, and the only way to avoid that possibility is to marry a rich old guy who will be dead in 20 years.
@MPlain
Жыл бұрын
BINGO the unknown can always happen. at least have something. anything.
@sidni.d5989
7 ай бұрын
Alexa, remind me to check this video again in 10 years to see how this video ages 😂😂😂
@danielacasald
4 ай бұрын
Right? Like i want a written commitment that she is going to keep posting content if shi7 hits the fan, don’t leave us hanging
@LilIdiot-xx5ox
4 ай бұрын
Why are y’all so negative? Like this is literal misogyny on a individual level, Plus honestly with how ai is replacing a lot of jobs women typically work in (Ie: nursing, teaching, administration, HR) she’ll likely be the one on top😂
@leebliss3622
3 ай бұрын
@@LilIdiot-xx5ox one of the dumbest things I’ve ever read in my life AI is not replacing nursing the demand for healthcare workers is increasing dramatically all the time right now get a grip kid
@avelynn5976
2 ай бұрын
@@LilIdiot-xx5ox it really isn't misogyny in the slightest. also to think that a machine could do a nursing job competently in the near future that it isn't a viable career option anymore is not just laughable but also hilariously ignorant.
@avelynn5976
2 ай бұрын
@@LilIdiot-xx5ox it really isn't misogyny in the slightest. also to think that a machine could do a nursing or a teaching job competently enough that it could replace a human in the near future that it isn't a viable career option anymore is not just laughable but also hilariously ignorant if you actually know anything about it lol
@bettedavis45
Жыл бұрын
Im a conservative but this is just straight up dumb. Thousands of women have trusted their husband and they have burned them. Being financially responsible is not being distrust or being disloyal to your husband.
@hannahstriker
7 ай бұрын
Not to disagree with your notion but according to the relevant statistics, upwards of 70% of all divorces are actually initiated by women themselves(whether employed or not). In fact, it is actually the other way around(in regards to whom is "burning" whom).
@tamid2225
6 ай бұрын
What are the top reasons why they are divorcing?
@CC3GROUNDZERO
6 ай бұрын
@@hannahstriker And out of those 70%, how many are filing for divorce for valid reasons provided by their husbands? You talk as though women walk out willy-nilly on a lark, without having valid reasons to do so.
@Erlymroz
5 ай бұрын
@@hannahstrikerwell men are too afraid to file for divorce because of the court system but obviously the majority of the time women have reason to want a divorce? We can’t assume that women have no reason for it. No one wants to spent their lives unhappy with someone.
@nperegri
5 ай бұрын
Being prepared for the what if's as a woman shouldn't be a lib/conservative stance. I'm leftish, but raised by a very conservative family. Financial independence and self-reliance are conservative ideals, but those were things drilled into my head growing up. No way in hell I'd ever surrender my own financial security when I get married, that's just not smart.
Жыл бұрын
my dad supposed to be a good husband but he fell asleep behind the wheel on his way home and died when I was 8, my younger brother was 6, and older brother was 13. I thank God for the fact that my mom had a degree in public management anyway. she found a job right away and took care of us all by herself. bless her and the fact that she was highly educated.
@ryanh7167
Жыл бұрын
My wife and I have more or less a traditional marriage but I still believe it's worthwhile for you to have a backup plan. Not even for cheating or divorce, but in case he gets sick or hit by a bus or something. You can have faith in your husband and he may be the best man you will ever meet but God can still have other plans for you. It's worth giving yourself some basic security just in case.
@overkillblackjack2910
Жыл бұрын
God doesnt have other plans for you if indeed it was His plan that you originally got married.
@annelanham2258
Жыл бұрын
Like life insurance?
@ryanh7167
Жыл бұрын
@@annelanham2258 life insurance helps. Some sort of plan for other circumstances where your husband is otherwise incapacitated but still alive is probably also helpful. Heaven forbid the man gets cancer or paralyzed due to a work accident, you need to have some sort of plan for how you will provide for yourself in these kinds of circumstances. That doesn't mean you need to spend every waking moment fretting about it, but it should be a thing that you have a conversation about at some point and have a plan for.
@sha78962
Жыл бұрын
Better and bonus if your wife have a different field of major in education. It will also help you guide your children , regardless if they choose a field of any one of yours. I also believe it's the education of a mom, which allows her to understand and teach respect to children about the hard work a dad puts in . Education makes one wise and logical, so for the time dad is working, children are promised to nourish, properly.
@kingofbudokai
Жыл бұрын
@@overkillblackjack2910 Yes and no. Not everything that happens in life IS God's plan. Additionally He does not guarantee protection to the faithful. All but one of the 11 faithful disciples were put to death unjustly. So while yes, if you are both faithful to God then your marriage will never result in divorce or abuse, God does not guarantee that death will not come to you or your spouse just because you are faithful. You shouldn't PLAN for something bad to happen, but you should talk about and discuss with your spouse what would happen in the worst of circumstance.
@jentrevino3919
Жыл бұрын
Meanwhile, we are actually watching her backup plan lol. Very smart and sneaky!
@pastelmoon9118
3 ай бұрын
yeah the income from instagram
@Eviesmama818
Жыл бұрын
My husband is a good man with a stable union job and a good income. But he encouraged me to finish nursing school before we got married so that “you can stand on your own god forbid something should happen to me….my life insurance will only cover so much” glad I listened to him. I will forever have my nursing license but my priority is my HOME. My true dream.
@Sian660
9 ай бұрын
That’s very situational. Your husband looked at your life insurance policy and gave wise advice for your situation. This girl can just do social media more actively or document her struggle while she goes through a degree after losing her husband. Or maybe she has an amazing life insurance policy. You don’t know.
@DylanJuza
5 ай бұрын
The point is, good men won’t let their women be vulnerable and they know that women need education and money. Housewives need time for education and they need their husband to put money in their own bank account for them. Otherwise they don’t deserve a house wife.
@nurtureparentrep
Ай бұрын
what do you mean when you say you’d priority is your home? a home is an inanimate object. Does your husband not equally love your home? Most working people love their homes, and keep them in excellent shape, so i don’t understand why you treat them as mutually exclusive? i love my home more than most. and my garden. and my kids. and my husband. and my pets. And My Career! or, do you just sit and hang out in your home all day, as your full time daily activity? sounds strange
@Eviesmama818
Ай бұрын
@nurtureparentrep my home as in my family. My children and husband are my home. I love my career too but I can't neglect my "Home" . For example, I'm nurse who chooses not to go back to school to advance my career at this time. My children need a present mother mentality and emotionally as well as physically. I know what it's like to grow up and tossed aside while other things are more important than me. Not my kids. Not MY HOME.
@sophieblau845
Ай бұрын
Wow 😯 just wow at least i can tell that you are one women whose husband is really in love with her because if he would and could not love you he would not be jonest to you but that estelle girl looks and acts and reminds me so hard of a porn star at least when she would have kids.
@HPTFan
Жыл бұрын
It’s sad to see women bullying other women. Stay strong, Estee.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
None of that constitutes bullying. I can understand it’s irritating, but not every criticism is bullying, conservatives.
@mymelodichandle
Жыл бұрын
@@Alex_W99 that’s not criticism you donut. Let’s assume it was criticism, aren’t you people the same ones that claim to be with women’s right of choice? Why are we criticising a woman that chose to live this lifestyle while existing in a free country? Your argument screams hypocrisy
@tommyvercetti9322
Жыл бұрын
most them are fat raging feminist
@HPTFan
Жыл бұрын
@@Alex_W99 Yep, we’re all kinds of stubborn.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
@@HPTFan I don’t see what “stubborn” has to do with anything I just said but mkay. Y’all certainly aren’t the sharpest tools in the shed
@TheMichaelStott
Жыл бұрын
I have no idea why people keep referring to the 1950s when it comes to traditional values. The 1950s was when no fault divorce was implemented and the rates of divorce increased, premarital sex began to rise after a a decline post WWII (5 years) and the decade saw more women enter higher education and the workforce than during WWII. The decade was called the beginning of the consumer age. Also "the pill" was invented in 1950 and Playboy magazine was founded in 1953. If anything, the 1950s was the beginning of the end of traditional family dynamics. History is not a strongpoint with people.
@BecxyBoo
8 ай бұрын
My father eventually turned abusive towards my mother and would beat her and not allow her any money not even to buy groceries for the family. She'd have to ask the church if they could donate food for us to eat each week even though my father had a very high paying job. If anyone asked why we needed it she'd come up with some excuse like "It's for my neighbour who's struggling at the moment".The church never questioned it or thought it was suspicious. They were both very religious and followed traditional marriage roles but it made no difference. She wanted to stay in the relationship for us, her kids but it eventually became too much she feared she'd be murdered by him so she left. I'll never rely on anyone else financially due to the trauma my father put us through. You might think you married a good man now but in a decade or two how do you know he'll treat you the same way?
@kbiviano8390
Жыл бұрын
Things can happen no matter how good of a set up you think you have. I’m glad you have a good husband but always make sure you both have plans for unforeseen circumstances such as illness, injury, or death. It’s always good to have a plan for things outside of your control. My husband got a good life insurance plan so that me and our children will be ok if God forbid something happens to him. No shame in being a stay at home wife/mother and there’s also no shame in having some type of backup plan if things go south.
@AlyssaQ420
Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. 💯
@kristinav.767
Жыл бұрын
This is true. It's in no way bullying her for her chosen path. It's just life. My man also insists me to help him with his business a bit and cook, clean etc, but we did talk what would we do if God forbid he loses the full ability to provide. Once you are in this unity together, you can't just naively rely on your good man and enjoy how it benefits your happiness. You must also prepare to support him if he needs it too. Roles are good, but sometimes, due to unexpected circumstances we must just act human if we value deep connection and sincere, rare friendship.
@butterflychaser4538
Жыл бұрын
You can’t plan for the unknown 😂 no one has any way of knowing what the future holds and implying she doesn’t know about life insurance is equally as naive. Life insurance does nothing to guarantee what happens after disaster strikes, what if she also becomes unable to work due to this ‘unknown incident’??? Y’all are so quick to judge things you know nothing about. People can’t just be observers apparently, everyone is a self proclaimed expert on life advice these days lolololol
@kristinav.767
Жыл бұрын
@@butterflychaser4538 I know a one so called stay at home wife. Feminine, soft when she needs to be etc. But she uses it to use men. After her husband worked hard to buy her and the kids a big house, after he got into an accident, fell and became unable to walk, she right away left, is trying to get an equal piece of the house even though she cheated on him while he worked, even got pregnant with other man's child, lied it's his, had an abortion. Some women will do very terrible things to survive and not need to work or sacrifice themselves to be loyal to the marriage at all. Men can slip, lie well too and leave long term marriages also. I know at least a few husbands that cheated and still married the woman they cheated on. Trust? Trust is essential, but putting yourself completely in someone's hands is very slippery. It's good, if he has a job that pays well, but what if crisis hits, he gets fired or something. IT DOES HAPPEN. My mom had to work and help my father because he couldn't find a decent job in USSR times. Woman needs to have some source of her own little income, not just do the dishes and relax. Have in mind, she has not a single baby yet, so she has plenty of time. Handcrafts, herb collecting, farming, gardening or whatever. It might help the marriage one day (or the woman, because at least she'll have a skill and something to help herself with, if you register an individual small business at least your work history won't be that damaged). At least you'll have food or valuables to exchange. If she doesn't want to work to someone. It's not judging. You are being very fanatic. Life can bring unexpected situations, it's not the american dream times and I see they live in a city likely. City life can become unstable very quick. You don't have to live everyday with what if's, but you should have in mind anything can happen and at least think about it once in a while, will be easier to solve the issue. We are exactly observers. Many saw different kind of situations and don't cling on to a fairytale. Pray for the best, but be prepared for the worst.
@arathireddy7677
Жыл бұрын
Yep my thoughts exactly
@Winterbaby1977
Жыл бұрын
Been a stay at home “trad wife” for 20 years and I do worry now about not having a skill set. My husband is a good man, but is beginning to have some health problems… his dad has lived many years with the same health problems but I would be lying if I said I wasn’t more concerned than I was when we were young, naive, and healthy.
@michelemoneywell8765
Жыл бұрын
Since you have been married at least 10 years, you are eligible for Social Security Survivor Benefits if he dies. Your husband can get a statement from SS to find out currently about how much that would be. If you have a college degree and have basic math and reading skills, you can become a substitute teacher.
@Winterbaby1977
Жыл бұрын
@@michelemoneywell8765 good to know about social security… but I don’t have a degree.
@Hannahnicolesmith
Жыл бұрын
@@Winterbaby1977 in Georgia you don’t have to have a degree to be a substitute
@user-bx4ti6ig3i
Жыл бұрын
If you don't have young kids at home anymore, then a part time at something easy then move to a more secure career.
@PinkTaurus93
Жыл бұрын
Everything you do at home, people pay people to do!! I saw a cost break down on hiring out everything a SAHM mom does on a daily basis and it’s a LOT. God forbid you need to, you can make a living doing a lot of those things. Don’t sell yourself short!! Being home is a blessing.
@marilynbrounstein4820
2 ай бұрын
I was a trad wife, in the 70’s. He slept with my sister. Divorced, no backup financial plan. I went back to school to support my child as a single parent. Being paid child support was not enough and I needed to secure a future for myself and my child. I’ve always told her, “you need an education so, if something happens you can support yourself”. You don’t what the future brings. Be prepared.
@sophieblau845
Ай бұрын
This is what estelle will never tell y‘all because I’m 100% sure she is just used by her man for sex because if he would really take her serious he would have already children with her but she is easy to manipulate so he takes what he can take.
@smb7078
Жыл бұрын
Lets not pit each other here. Those advice came from them experiencing betrayal. U're lucky to have a good husband, not everyone can say the same.
@blueseptember2174
Жыл бұрын
Yep mine cheated and even though he still helps and provide money, ots still hard financially because it's split between two houses now. Have a backup!
@msunje9862
Жыл бұрын
Tbh lot of them are vaild concerns. It not that even about him cheating, what if he becomes ill or disabled and can not work. You do need to have backup cash for family emergency. Some of them are vaild concerns and not hate.
@cyberspace7208
Жыл бұрын
They come from bitterness
@LarryVasquez82
Жыл бұрын
Seems silly to give advice to people to not have a backup... Considering she has a backup and technically still working from social media/becoming an influencer... Again, not bullying, just a valid criticism to pull people from fantasy to reality.
@idreamofmoney7199
Жыл бұрын
My opinion is that you’re glamorizing what it means to be a traditional wife. It bothers me the focus is on how you are meeting the traditional wife aesthetic- to me that is shallow and not the true reason behind a happy marriage. The reason it works is because of shared values in your community. The comments are valid and they are spoken from people’s experience, in the same way you are sharing your experience. They are a warning to people who are being influenced by your content without thinking about the consequences of the lifestyle you are leading.
@donetoldyaso.99
Жыл бұрын
Her backup job is getting paid from tiktok and youtube haters.
@bubullibooooo9928
Жыл бұрын
Truth and hate are two different things... And she has a job but advises other women not to have one!🤫
@Derlet30
Жыл бұрын
True! 😅
@Derlet30
Жыл бұрын
@@bubullibooooo9928 Agree! 👌
@r.g.36
10 ай бұрын
@@bubullibooooo9928yap that's called hypocrisy I mean she's a hypocrite!
@cutekitty1212
8 ай бұрын
@@r.g.36 If she actually wants to be a true trad wife then she would have to stop posting online and keep quiet like a good obedient wife and get in the kitchen. They tell us that obediance is required and women opinions don't typically matter anyways.
@TheHolyCat
Жыл бұрын
I was a tradwife and my hubby got cancer. So glad the Lord got me through nursing school, but I missed 2.5 years with my babies. Wish I had gotten that degree sooner. Thankfully it worked out.
@dearbrave4183
Жыл бұрын
Good for you. Unfortunately, it does not seem like it's a characteristic of trad wives to have wisdom and foresight, many of them end up either suddenly divorced and left penniless or tragedy surprises them. Even this KZitemr despite making money on KZitem as an alternative source of income which doesn't include her husband's pockets, she still said she had no backup, when extra money is the first backup
@jeffkenney2190
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry for your situation 😞. Praying that God will support you and your children through your times of trials 🙏 .
@thelocolibrarian
Жыл бұрын
Exactly why you should have backups. Life happens. Your man may be loyal but he sadly isn’t immortal. I’m sorry for your loss, and wish you all the best.
@whattheflimflam
Жыл бұрын
I'm glad it worked out. God Bless.
@ZBM-jj1xr
Жыл бұрын
This is exactly why having a back up plan is a good thing, even if you choose to be a trad wife. Your hope is always that life works out according to plan, but when it doesn't like in your situation then you as an adult are responsible for keeping yourself and your children fed. In your situation tragedy struck and your husband became ill, something that can happen to anyone. Imagine what would've happened to you and your family if you hadn't had your strong mindset. People who keep holding on to not having a back up and not planning ahead are like children expecting others and god to always provide for them. Well guess what, god gave you a brain and a pair of hands and expects you to use them.
@GomemG
5 ай бұрын
I’m a traditional wife and I don’t have time to put on full blown makeup and make pastas from scratch. I have so much chores to do in a day. Cooking, dishes, vacuuming, laundry, folding clothes, yard work, cleaning toilets. This woman is an influencer and not a traditional wife.
@coffeepandacat
Жыл бұрын
A lot of stay at home wife culture also bully women for choosing to be childfree, have a career, not get married, be financially autonomos. People need to stop caring about what people do. It's none of your business and theres no need to bully eachother for making different choices.
@pikeman6774
Жыл бұрын
Well, if people don’t have children, society collapses….. sooooo it’s kinda important
@pikeman6774
Жыл бұрын
If we could all just stop with the hyper individualism, leave me completely alone mentality. It’s not reality. We have to work together to and degree and we have to leave each other alone to a degree
@savagetv6460
Жыл бұрын
Theres no such thing as financial autonomy lol you're so deluded lol
@sbradley1308
Жыл бұрын
One million percent. As a SAHM I fully understand why people DON'T want to stay home or have kids or do xyz. It's not for everyone and that's fine. I have a lot of friends male and female who live vastly different lives from myself and I love them and appreciate them and their awesome stories! I also feel it's important for my own kids to see all different life choices so they can better pick a path for themselves or at the very least they can understand and appreciate people's paths and choices.
@ispydertm3035
Жыл бұрын
In general, anyone that posts online they’re either gonna get a wholesome, well deserved comment or they’re gonna get a backhanded mean comment from a salty viewer… point is- when people post their shit online that makes it everybody’s business or whoever is choosing to watch
@Paygelove
Жыл бұрын
The love of my life died when our boys were still babies .. I trusted him, thought I’d be with him forever .. I still ended up alone .. don’t ever put all your eggs in one basket, it’s just plain silly with everything that can happen to ppl.
@Byrenious
Жыл бұрын
I hope you're talking about having a back up way to make money and not a back up man or that he somehow betrayed your trust by dying
@Byrenious
Жыл бұрын
@FlippingSF a back up for being able to take care of yourself, sure. I agree everyone should be able to be independent but this sounded like dude somehow betrayed her trust by dying and she should have had a back up man to take care of her. This is the reason my marriage ended. My ex had back up men because she was afraid I was going to leave and would cheat on me just in case I was going to cheat on her. I never cheated. Was never going to. Don't have back up wives. Go ahead and have a support system just in case something unexpected happens but if you're going to have a back up spouse, you shouldn't have been married in the first place
@Paygelove
Жыл бұрын
@@Byrenious no Jason I meant make sure you have an education and the ability to go and get a job immediately if the need arises. How typical to just assume
@Paygelove
Жыл бұрын
@@Fhaibfjei that’s exactly what I was meaning .. that even when you think everything is spot on bad things can happen. It happened to me. I love my husband and him dying is never something I hold him responsible for he’s only human too. One day I will see him again.
@Paygelove
Жыл бұрын
@@Byrenious me saying I trusted him etc was about how she was saying she trusts him to take care of her .. well so did I
@pragmatismismyjam8236
9 ай бұрын
My husband died at the age of 42 leaving me with 4 children to raise. He had life insurance but with his health problems it was not enough to survive even after selling our home and downsizing. Thankfully I had my paid in full nursing degree. I make enough money to make ends meet in addition to social security death benefits. I was able to make his little life insurance policy stretch through until we were recovered from the grief of loosing him. Not having a backup plan is irresponsible. It also smacks of self righteousness and downplays the lived experiences of people all over the world whose spouses died or became disabled.
@dianedavidson5283
Жыл бұрын
Death, disease, divorce, disability - this was the list they told us, in high school. Life is uncertain. What do they say, expect the best and prepare for the worst.
@laviniasnow4494
Жыл бұрын
In my opinion a good spouse is that who shares the same core values with you. That is the foundation for a stable, balanced, long lasting relationship.
@PGHMusicSceneQueen
Жыл бұрын
And these stone-aged values of gender jobs doesn't need to exist. Isn't it wonderful when things actually work the correct way?
@laviniasnow4494
Жыл бұрын
@@PGHMusicSceneQueen What do you mean?
@Ana-dl7zl
8 ай бұрын
I don’t think trusting that nothing is going to happen to your spouse and you'll be able to survive on someone else’s income for the rest of your life is a core value though
@laviniasnow4494
8 ай бұрын
@@Ana-dl7zl No, but their shared values help them make this work for them.
@allieoneal2033
Жыл бұрын
Most of the trad wives in my homeschool co-op have degrees. It's not untrusting to hone the aptitudes God gave you. That's being a good steward of your talents.
@w.t.1338
Жыл бұрын
Yup get an education. It also makes you a more capable trad wife and mother if you so please
@canteventhough
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU.
@divineroadrunner
11 ай бұрын
Then learn a trade instead of flushing thousands of dollars down the toilet lol
@che4840
8 ай бұрын
research shows women with degrees are a predictor of their children getting degrees and being better educated. The father has little impact on the children’s success in this study.
@jessicamcguire7022
8 ай бұрын
Yes I agree. I’m a traditional wife with a husband I love and trust. But before we got married I got my degree and I was an executive director before we had our son. I think an education, doesn’t have to be college. Can be a trade school, but something is a good idea.
@katemiller5990
Жыл бұрын
Ladies, chose your man wisely ❤ If you want to live like Estee, before you get married, carefully observe: 1. How your man behaves under pressure 2. How he responds to temptations 3. How he treats his family 4. Especially how he treats people who can’t do anything for him or who irritate him 5. Find out how he acts when it seems no one is watching. Ask people who know him. Most importantly, before committing, be sure that your man has humility. If he’s able to own his mistakes and correct them, and you are able to as well, you’ll be able to get through life’s ups and downs. I wish you the best xx
@ericandrews1661
Жыл бұрын
Those are excellent points. You can see a person's true character when you see exactly those things you mentioned. There are no excuses in life.
@BellaJoyeuse
Жыл бұрын
Everyone can only do their best. I also thought I chose wisely but ended up with extreme DV situation towards my children and I which we escaped. I even had advice from 3 other older men who thought he was great. I wish I had a backup. And I wish that I chose to wait until marriage- until both sexes brains are fully developed and with some life experience. If I waited until 30 for marriage and took more time. I thought I was wise and knew what I was getting into- but I now know I was naive. 😞
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
Funny how no one actually teaches women to "pick better". They just ask "have you found someone"
@ArielGonzalez1
Жыл бұрын
i approve this as a man. i get sick when women avoid accountability, when they are the ones that look for the wrong things on a man, settle for the things that matter the less in the long run....
@biancaaustin5859
Жыл бұрын
THIS! 🔥
@AmyJLiang
Жыл бұрын
They’re not hates, they bring up all good points…The success of this type of lifestyle is entirely dependent on luck.
@WitchKing-Of-Angmar
3 ай бұрын
So why do you sound so angry. Explain that part. Sad that females are being stereotyped and aren't viewed as strong independent women.
@ElessarEstel
Жыл бұрын
My wife is a trad wife. I do want her to get a degree or something though because I have no intention of ever leaving but I'm a lineman and there's always the looming possibility that I don't come home again. I would like to know that if that happens, she could make things work.
@isabellaciccarelli4826
Жыл бұрын
It's really important to have a "back up." We need to stop thinking that all marriages fail because one of them cheats. Some marriages fail because one partner dies, or maybe you guys just drift apart. I know you trust him not to cheat, but you can't trust him not to lose his life or job. Also think about our economy right now. It's becoming extremely common for mothers/wives to go back to work. So many girls think they can just depend on a man, and I KNOW so many men are happy to provide and work hard for it, but it's also important to make smart decisions. Have a back up. Both the husband and wife have a role to play, but if anything happens, you need to be prepared to play both roles if you have kids.
@EFN86
Жыл бұрын
Death backup is called term life insurance they both should have policies large enough to raise children into adulthood. Married people don't drift apart if they actually put the time and effort into pursuing each other. Kids are only there for 18 years, your partner is there for life. That is why you should put your spouse first, and no that doesn't mean neglecting your kids. If you make it all about the kids you will look at each other in 18 years and wonder who the stranger is. Single income households are still possible. Stay out of debt, pay cash for everything except the mortgage, and save enough of a down payment so your mortgage is no more than 1/4 your monthly takehome pay. Can't afford a house where you're located, move. Going to college for a backup plan and bringing home a huge pile of debt for a degree you hope to never use will only force you into going back to work, especially in a bad economy.
@danaschreiner3334
Жыл бұрын
Well said
@jannatara5685
Жыл бұрын
So funny to see how she is a working woman and bluffing so many people!
@ZARA-to9fp
Жыл бұрын
Agree. I can’t believe people do not get it that social media is a back up plan too.
@lindacosta5688
Жыл бұрын
Good luck to you! And I sincerely mean that. Spoken from a former traditional wife who learned the hard way at age 50
@danaschreiner3334
Жыл бұрын
🙌
@homethatilove4595
Жыл бұрын
Same! learned the hard way, at age 40. Then, went to college & got an AA
@lindacosta5688
Жыл бұрын
@@homethatilove4595 Luckily I had my degree and kept my skills up. So I was in a better situation than most. Ladies, learn some marketable skills so when your loving man runs off with the 20 year old or drops dead or, in my case, prefers cheap alcohol to you, you will be able to survive and thrive 😊
@seekthetruth7371
Жыл бұрын
This is my fear. What did you do to get on your feet? Did you have any kids from your marriage? Did they help you?
@lindacosta5688
Жыл бұрын
@@seekthetruth7371 Hi:) In my case, I had 2 children with my ex. They were 15 and 20 by the time I filed for divorce. So I was fortunate I did not have to deal with childcare or custody issues. We also were married 25 years and had acquired assets which were split between us. That was 8 years ago. And to be honest, I was a basket case for the first couple of years because as a Trad. Wife I was so used to being someone’s wife. I had completely forgotten who had raised me. And when I finally remembered whose daughter I was, I dusted off my degrees and went back to work. My children have always been supportive and they are my biggest cheerleaders. Today, I have a rewarding career and have even found love again. I look back at that dépendant woman and I dont even recognize her. The point is to stay true to yourself, be independent and self sufficient. Because you never know when the Prince Charming you married all those years ago disappears.
@snakejazz
Жыл бұрын
I regret not taking my career more seriously to not need my future wife to also have to work.
@cristalreynoso8883
Жыл бұрын
Your future wife? So you still got time to focus on your career and then you’re ready get married…
@mymelodichandle
Жыл бұрын
You can do it brother
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
Yeah you want a traditional wife you better be able to afford one. To many men out here demanding housewives but dont have house wife money
@snakejazz
Жыл бұрын
@@cristalreynoso8883 I'm almost 37 and just hit 2 years with my career. Wish I got into it a decade ago but it took me a long time to figure this out. My gf is graduating from nursing school literally tomorrow. The prouder of her I am, the more I wish I could just support us both. She's gonna be making more than me.
@Sas-rf9sy
Жыл бұрын
@@snakejazz dude, it's not too late. 37 is nothing. People have been known to start over even later. You won't know if you don't go for it. I wish you luck. You can do it.
@SM-gt9vg
Жыл бұрын
That's not bullying, they're just telling you to approach this cautiously. As a SAHM myself, I'd advise you to listen to the people who've lived through it. I'm glad you found a good guy, but we ALL thought that at one point. Just stay safe and take care.
@tonymistreacts4158
Жыл бұрын
Don't be irrational. Women end most marriages so we have way more to worry about.
@lauramcgregor8298
Жыл бұрын
@@tonymistreacts4158 this response does not seem irrational. Even so, if women are more likely to initiate divorce, that does not make them at fault. For many women, a divorce is a means of saving their lives. An abuser rarely wants to divorce, he will push the woman to do it and then garner sympathy and act like the victim. And it is not bullying to advise someone from our own experience.
@tonymistreacts4158
Жыл бұрын
@Laura McGregor not true. Abuse Stats make it very clear that it is a two way street. Guess which relationships have the most abuse? Lol
@Afternoon99
Жыл бұрын
@@lauramcgregor8298 I watch this video and I feel like it’s too much. Idc how good the man is, if things go wrong you just put your life at risk
@lauramcgregor8298
Жыл бұрын
@@Afternoon99 truly. It seems so cruel that women are accused of being irrational or a radical "maneater" feminist for standing up for themselves or wanting to pursue their own passions outside their home or apart from their husband.
@Wajiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Жыл бұрын
I will never advise ANYONE to depend on another person to provide for them. People can change and the person you trust the most can too. Also, anything could literally happen that will turn your life upside down. Unfortunately, this is the world we live in. Nobody is a f***** angel. Being a husband to a trad wife has its own stress. Grass is always greener where you water it. Been together with my husband for 20 plus years. Not a trad wife by any means but you bet your ass we have never had a single fight about money or household chores. You don't have to fit a mold.
@kaylaearley1742
Ай бұрын
I was a housewife for a man for almost 8 years. We were inseparable aside from arguments. Lo and behold he got overwhelmed with the whole being a provider thing and one day, he got me arrested over a fight and left me. He took my home and the car away from me because they were all in HIS name. I was raised ingrained in traditional values but never will I ever let myself be financially vulnerable to a man ever ever again Mind you, i left my roots for this man and was living in another state with no support. Long story short, i found out i was a good worker and made something of myself within just a few months, after starting from absolute ground ZERO.
@simplyheartandhome
Жыл бұрын
I wish life was this simple. How long have you been married, Estee? I've been married almost 43 years and there will be seasons in your marriage that will be more challenging than other times in your marriage. Life has a way of throwing you curveballs whether it is with health issues, financial struggles, disagreements etc. ~Gina
@aloowalia2849
Жыл бұрын
I agree Married 14 years
@simplyheartandhome
Жыл бұрын
@@aloowalia2849 From a different one of her videos, she states she was married in January of this year. That is a very short amount of time.
@aloowalia2849
Жыл бұрын
@@simplyheartandhome then she can't definetly give advice on dating and marriage 😂 My problem with most of these red pill communities youtubers is that they don't know how to give advice on marriage when most of them are not married themselves or are married for a very short time 🙂
@simplyheartandhome
Жыл бұрын
@@aloowalia2849 I agree. When you have been married a short time, life is often all sunshine and daisies. It's like having a newborn that sleeps a lot and loves to snuggle. That newborn will be teething soon and all of a sudden, mothering is a little bit harder. Estee may have the best intentions but she is a bit clueless as we all were at the stage of marriage she is in.
@aloowalia2849
Жыл бұрын
@@simplyheartandhome i only hope for best for her marriage but I have gone through some really rough times in my marriage I come from traditional Indian household so mine was arranged marriage and now it's been 14 years
@Vanilla_0800
Жыл бұрын
Some of these comments are saying things like “ we need more women like you!” And I hope that the people saying that know that there is nothing wrong with a woman working and having a career. Im pretty young and I really want to be a pilot. I’ve had people say to me that women should stay at home only and I don’t like that. If you want to stay at home that’s great for you and your family. Both sides have benefits please just let people have the house setup that works for them and that they love, Because there is nothing worse than doing something that you don’t enjoy for the rest of your life
@Cub__
9 ай бұрын
L
@Vanilla_0800
9 ай бұрын
@@Cub__ how is that an L
@stuckatthevalley
8 ай бұрын
W take.
@faeknereddi4782
10 ай бұрын
I dont even want to depend on my parents for an emergency and then there is this woman 😂. Do not attempt this unless you have a trust fund kids
@xxSydneyFox
Жыл бұрын
One thing I've learned in life from observing others' relationships is that no matter how much you trust someone, ultimately you are the only person you can truly know. And although there are plenty of good people and you might never have to experience that kind of heartache, it is indeed much smarter to make sure you do have something behind you and don't rely exclusively on another person. No matter man or a woman. My colleague's husband of many years ran away with her savings, my own mother married my dad who ultimately suffered the trauma of his father's passing suddenly which turned him into an alcoholic and things spiraled from there. It's just naïve to think otherwise. It's just like taking out an insurance policy. Just in case the worst ever happened no matter how much you don't believe it will ❤
@PunsandPixels
Жыл бұрын
AMEN. I’m another one of those stories. Husband of almost 10 years one day out of nowhere tells me he’s not happy or sure he loves me and wants a divorce. He also said he was having feelings for a girl at work (ten years younger than me, gym body) and here I was 8 months post partum having the body of a woman that’s had three kids. He asked for a three week break and despite my attempts to stop this I ended up leaving because you can’t convince someone you aren’t the source of their unhappiness. Those three weeks turned to two months in which he was going over to the whore’s place and sleeping over, making out with her. We started working towards the divorce. Then near the two months he slept with her and like an idiot that’s when he realized it’s not what he wanted. I’m still working on things with him because I have three young kids and it forces you to stop and think. He was an incredible husband and father for almost ten years, the kind that helps in the home and is very home centered and considerate. Do I leave him because he went crazy for two months? Still it is a pain I will carry for the rest of my life. Before this happened never in a million years would I have thought I’d live through this. His own father was cheated on, he despised that type of betrayal and here he betrayed me. No one that knows him would believe he did this. But the whole experience made me realize that I made him my whole world. I depended entirely on him. So I’m back in school and working on my small business. The truth is NO ONE can promise love everlasting, no one can promise fidelity. It’s a long time and people change. So 100% you need to have a backup plan. My husband snapped out of his insanity, many others do not. It’s called limerence usually accompanied by a midlife or in his quarterlife crisis. So, trust no one but yourself. People will let you down, it’s just a fact of life.
@Universaltruth333
Жыл бұрын
The same thing happened to my dad ❤️. My mom stayed with him through it though and he recovered. We don’t know what will happen in the future. We just have today and so we have to make the best of it.
@tonymistreacts4158
Жыл бұрын
#bitter
@fatemekh8849
Жыл бұрын
Oh dear. You know, people say these things not because they are pessimistic or they have trust issue, but because they’ve seen it first hand. You can live your life however you please, but please do consider that other peoples advice also has some validity in it. And even not for any other reason (like back up, financial stability etc) do consider that we are not guaranteed anything in life, including reaching old age with our spouses. And if you are planning to have children, knowing that you can take care of them financially if something were to happen to your husband, God forbid, would definitely be a bonus. I wish you all the best and I hope you never ever come to experience the horrors that other women experience which bring them to give such advices.
@ananyajafa
3 ай бұрын
My dad was the best man I knew. He was honest, loving, had a good career, and gave most of his money to my mom so she could manage the household expenses. I thank god that my mom resumed working, because my dad got sick and died a few years ago. If not for her having a career, our family would have been in huge trouble.
@sitka49
Жыл бұрын
I maybe wrong , but it seems like something is off here? I've watch a few of her video, there is really no content to them ( other than being the pretty perfect trad wife, cooking meals ,or scrubbing the sink) ,and so scripted and there so sweet my teeth hurt after watching them. For portraying someone so well grounded in her life, she seems to have the need to seek attention and overwhelming desire to be noticed maybe a little bored with her life?
@UniqueBreakfastTaco
Жыл бұрын
she's making fun of you. perhaps thats why you dont get it XD
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
@@UniqueBreakfastTaco her entire coñteñt is attention seekiñg. She is asking a valid question and you need to mock the OP? Good job
@UniqueBreakfastTaco
Жыл бұрын
@@dallasaranjo9336 the left cant meme XD
@sitka49
Жыл бұрын
@@UniqueBreakfastTaco She certainly went through a lot effort to laugh at me? Problem is my wife was a SAHM with 5 kids for 18 yrs, and I don't remember none of it being fun cutesy.( If she wants to be a performer, that's fine - but its either act or she's delusional) There is a lot of sacrifice, to have a parent stay home and take care of the home and kids, its physiologically and financially. Unless you make sufficiently comfortable income, most don't. I give more credit to a working wife and husband, that are raising a family if they can make it work.
@UniqueBreakfastTaco
Жыл бұрын
@@sitka49 strawman failed.
@brandiphillips5775
Жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing. Now after the years of marriage, I’m working with a DV shelter to get free. He was the perfect guy too. Everyone thought so.
@kathyryder828
Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you experienced domestic violence. It's impossible to know for sure that DV won't occur in a marriage. Anyone who thinks otherwise is naive.
@nebulachaus4084
Жыл бұрын
Im a social worker, many such sad cases similar to yours.....So sorry you had to go through this
@BrightElk
Жыл бұрын
Yes and that sucks I’m sorry you went through that but that doesn’t mean sahm and house wives deserve to be harassed.
@sophieruby5893
Жыл бұрын
@@BrightElk She doesn't get to be free of criticism. Promoting women to not have a backup plan in case of widowhood or the marriage going south is bad advice.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
@@BrightElk criticism doesn’t equal harassment. People having other opinions doesn’t equal harassment
@mol4805
Жыл бұрын
Girl I trusted my husband once too: you need backups!!
@danaschreiner3334
Жыл бұрын
Exactly no one goes into a relationship or marriage, thinking hes gonns cheat, theyre gonns cheat, life is gonna hit the fan, etc
@twinqt578
8 ай бұрын
Her social media is her back up. She's cute.....but she's capping. Lol
@kaylaearley1742
Ай бұрын
I was a housewife for a man for almost 8 years. We were inseparable aside from arguments. Lo and behold he got overwhelmed with the whole being a provider thing and one day, he got me arrested over a fight and left me. He took my home and the car away from me because they were all in HIS name. I was raised ingrained in traditional values but never will I ever let myself be financially vulnerable to a man ever ever again Mind you, i left my roots for this man and was living in another state with no support. Long story short, i found out i was a good worker and made something of myself within just a few months, after starting from absolute ground ZERO.
@roycetheradio2588
Жыл бұрын
Every man wants a wife like this, loyal and loving, caring and supportive
@sineadiloveyou
Жыл бұрын
Yeah and we hope the men reciprocate
@joelcarter2535
Жыл бұрын
@@sineadiloveyou same same here
@mo.ka.9661
Жыл бұрын
And vulnerable
@macsh6434
Жыл бұрын
@sineadiloveyou It's really a simple formula that don't seem to grasp. This is what happens when a good woman and a good man find each other.
@Redfield70
Жыл бұрын
@@kally3432 nothing is 100%.
@monicamiller9345
Жыл бұрын
I also trusted my husband and was a stay at home mom. He was having 2 affairs and eventually left. Be smart, not ignorant like me honey. It isn’t cute to start completely over with nothing.
@nathanritzo2228
Жыл бұрын
If her husband cheats on her then he’s gay. She’s a nine, a ten with her philosophy.
@feartheghus
Жыл бұрын
Be smart, unlike you. Pick a better husband.
@samed3957
Жыл бұрын
Wtf is this garbage .. sorry I love your shorts but this one is soooo bad
@alyssaheubel
Жыл бұрын
Wishing you and your babies the best!
@danaschreiner3334
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing!
@bluemountainw1789
Жыл бұрын
The questions are valid . It is so stupid to put all of your hope on a man when he can change and run off whenever he pleases
@cuchulainnenjoyer
Жыл бұрын
The problem is the mentality behind these questions is toxic and is really shitty people who are trying to return to this lifestyle. There are benefits for a single income home, regardless of which spouse is the bread winner. The stigma is real, my wife and I agreed for her to stop working a year ago to get the house ready for kids and now we have the first one on the way but holy shit the vitriol from my MIL before we announced the pregnancy. Completely unsupportive.
@edennis8578
Жыл бұрын
Most divorces are initiated by women. As a matter of fact, men are asking exactly that: why depend on a woman's loyalty when she can run off any time she wants to?
@missygonzales4790
Жыл бұрын
then don’t marry him if you can’t trust him.
@beautyandthebudget3642
Жыл бұрын
not every man is a cheater, some women pick good men
@tiryaclearsong421
Жыл бұрын
He doesn't even have to run off. My uncle got almost cut in half when by a truck when I was a baby. If my aunt didn't have a job I might have one less cousin since starving isn't great for unborn babies. My husband's dad died when he was in preschool and his sister was in second grade. If his mom didn't have a nursing degree they would have been even worse off than they were and he had good life insurance. Stuff happens and sometimes being a good person doesn't save you.
@ZARA-to9fp
Жыл бұрын
Good for you for building your back up plan over social media. Social media money is good.
@lalita9041
Жыл бұрын
I love how no one noticed that😅
@royrogers3624
Жыл бұрын
Considering her brand is being a trad wife and she's a woman which means her appeal to alot of viewers is on a timer (no real nice way to say that) And add on the fact that it requires a large viewer base to be worth while If she did OF then sure she could make bank but generally no social media isn't just a money printer Also trad wife's usually have shit like this they do as hobbies the fact you think women can't just have thoughts of their own to share and only do things for money says alot about you
@ZARA-to9fp
Жыл бұрын
@@royrogers3624 you really think this is a hobby? I have friend with only 60.000 followers and he earns 4 numbers monthly. She is a boss babe. To have a brand or be a brand, you must have something to sell. That means business. She is also selling a dream to men by pretending to speak to women. That means, she is trying to get attention from redpill and manosphere guys. If she gets them to follow they will stay as long as she says what they want to hear from a woman. Her viewers are mostly guys like you and women who think she is trad like them and want to support her. I am a traditional woman. No way, would I ever present my boobs in front of the camera like her, for other men to see. They are covered yes, but she could also chose to show her face only or full body so that the girls are not taking over a half of the screen. She wants them to be seen. How do I know that? Because I know a lot of people working in the media and social media. Camera angle is very important to get attention. And why is that important? This is how you know she wants to get attention from a certain kind of group which is biologically wired certain way. Honestly, I don’t care what women are wearing and doing. I just wanted to show you that you have no idea what this woman is doing. So yeah, keep simping for her. I am all for women earning some money.
@Thetablepower
Жыл бұрын
@@royrogers3624 damn son , that was so cold that I felt a breeze from the screen.😂😂😂😂
@royrogers3624
Жыл бұрын
@@Thetablepower lmao eh being honest is better than being nice at this point
@katemiller5990
Жыл бұрын
Trust is a beautiful thing. It brings out the best in a good man ❤ Choose wisely, ladies, and enjoy seeing how much your trust means to your husband.
@EsteeWilliams
Жыл бұрын
Yesss!! This comment right here 🙌🏻
@libertycan6959
Жыл бұрын
Perfect
@Lavender3333
Жыл бұрын
Solid advice!
@TheBlackManMythLegend
Жыл бұрын
exactly it's a very heartwarming feeling it increase your willingness to perform to the roof. men do not want to disappoint and are super happy when she is happy that we are doing our job right .. basically every man ( I think. ) wants to be an hero. Your hero
@laurak4961
Жыл бұрын
I was a traditional wife and got brutally cheated on and left putting my life together from scratch with 2 young kids . I still want to be a traditional wife in future but I will always have a back up plan now
@lillyconforti7
Жыл бұрын
I’m 17 and when I tell people I want to be a biblical wife I get the same responses! I’m praying for my future husband. May God bless you sister :)
@valian8985
Жыл бұрын
Amazing ! Hope everything turn well for you ! Im also trying to be a "biblical husband" Hope at some point i will meet a girl worth my sacrifices..
@macsh6434
Жыл бұрын
I tell people the head of the woman is the man, in turn the head of man is Christ. What people don't understand today is that a biblical husband is one who treats his wife in a way that is commanded and in such a way that he knows he will answer for with Christ. Hence why we're told to only marry in the Lord.
@lillyconforti7
Жыл бұрын
@@valian8985 Thank you! I hope the same thing for you :) Draw near to the Lord and he will give you the desires of the heart
@lillyconforti7
Жыл бұрын
@@macsh6434 Amen!!
@minim3494
Жыл бұрын
Just know how to spot red flags of abusers when looking for him (be aware of love bombing and other abuser behaviour). And know that you do not have to marry anyone if you don't want to. God wants you to have self love too And therefore, only to marry a kind man. Take at least 2 years getting to know someone before even thinking about marriage to them. There are lots of bad men out there unfortunately and sometimes they present as good for quite some time. Stay safe! Good luck!
@duhuh7370
Жыл бұрын
There's really no way of knowing until it's too late. I completely understand the desire to be a traditional wife, but not everyone pushing a backup plan is a liberal feminist or hates the idea of women staying at home. There are just many examples of it going wrong, and protecting yourself in the event that it happens is sensible. Regardless, there are many traditional relationships out there that are happy, fulfilled success stories, and aspiring to be like them is a wonderful pursuit in my book.
@samoneleblanc7282
Жыл бұрын
I work in health care. People die, husbands ,aunts,sisters ,brother, and children. It's not a terrible idea to have a back up plan. No one can predict a sudden death. It's hard to grieve a husband. Harder still ,to grieve and try to find a way to keep a roof over your head. Everyone dies,making a back up plan. Then after that enjoy being a trad wife . I think it's beautiful.
@Wildxroses
Жыл бұрын
In a perfect world. I’m in the same situation, and love, and trust my husband. But I also know life isn’t perfect, and I should be building a backup for myself just in case.
@nebulachaus4084
Жыл бұрын
Always have a back up plan.
@stayathomemarine
Жыл бұрын
Not me 🤷♀️
@Wildxroses
Жыл бұрын
@@stayathomemarine Not you what?
@stayathomemarine
Жыл бұрын
Nebula said to 'Always have a back up plan' and I said 'not me'. Although, we do have life insurance so I suppose that is a back up plan in a way.
@saureco
Жыл бұрын
How would you feel if your husband was socking away money in a secret account, and you found out? What accusations would you throw at him?
@flynnmorrow6945
Жыл бұрын
I've seen both sides of this: women who are not financially autonomous -- women who end up super happy and women who end up abused. It's all about marrying well. If you marry an abusive monster, he will abuse you. If you marry a good man, he won't cheat/abuse/lie/gaslight/hurt. We need to teach women how to set proper standards -- not ridiculous standards (six pack, six figures, six feet tall), but standards related to shared values and goals in life.
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
Women are learning that, and then they are lwarning that too many men have not leveled up to those standards. Most women are not looking for six pack abs, you are projecting men's visual attraction onto women. Until recently women pretty much HAD to marry, our society is not good to women if they are not attached to men, especially if there are children. Women are choosing to be single and childless now rather than settle. They are chooßing better, but no one imagined that "better" would mwan choosing themselves ..
@rachelt4792
Жыл бұрын
People really need to learn the patterns of narcissists. They act kind, charming, and charismatic. They don’t have to be good looking. The red flags are love bombing and rushing into commitment. Once they feel like they “have” you (like after marriage or having a baby), they manipulate, guilt, gaslight, and make you slowly distance from loved ones. It can either escalate into physical abuse, or carry on as emotional abuse and mentally destroy someone. Abusers are often the last person someone expects.
@nataliesparks4829
Жыл бұрын
it's not possible to know the type of person you are getting married to, it is only time that will tell, when you're dating and he is paying his own bills and she is paying her own bills and she is living in her own house and he is living in his own house, and things are going just fine of course any right thinking person will be cool level headed and kind and sweet and so thoughtful but when you get married and unseen circumstances come your way, when things are hard and difficult and both of you are under pressure that is when you will truly know who you're married to
@EnRoute0101
Жыл бұрын
I think the hardest part is women learning how to tell when someone is lying to you.
@missnars87
Жыл бұрын
@@nataliesparks4829 that’s bullshit. I was with my husband for 6 years before getting married. We lived together for 4 of those. By that time you know. We’ve now been together 17 years and I quit my well paying career to be a SAHM. If you take you’re time you’ll learn each others best and worst traits before getting married.
@Blackstorm96
8 ай бұрын
Wow this is so bad. Like the only reaponse she could give was "Lul I just trust my husband." Wow.
@Kennedy_E13
Жыл бұрын
I have a girl in my life that values me like you value your partner and it feels great. I don’t even think that the people who hate you do it because you live in a way that disagrees with their ideals. I just think they don’t have any idea what it feels like to be valued in that way. Btw I love how you practically have a theme for yourself!
@linibellini
Жыл бұрын
So many people have severe trust issues these days, it‘s an epidemic
@mohammadnoori9278
Жыл бұрын
I think they are disgusted by seeing someone living happily with her husband! They hate to see someone live a happy life, they want others to live as miserably as they are.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
I find it interesting that you folks respond to every mild critical point in such an extreme way. Yes it can be annoying but that doesn’t make it “hate.”
@mohammadnoori9278
Жыл бұрын
@@Alex_W99 however in many cases it is hate, I've seen many people who literally hate to see other people happy and they admit it. They just want others to be miserable like them. And there are people who might literally hate you or even harm you just because you do not agree with what they like 🤷♂️ people of the latter kind is increasing unfortunately You probably haven't encountered such people or haven't noticed them, but if you look around carefully you can see them, unfortunately again 🤷♂️
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
@@mohammadnoori9278 Lol of course I’ve encountered them. But I haven’t seen a lot of that directed at her and I’ve looked pretty hard. What I do see a lot of is people responding to any criticism or point about the cons or risks as if she’s being hated, bullied, or oppressed.
@joyfulhomemaker8053
Жыл бұрын
One thing on the back ups… be sure you are financially prepared if anything, God forbid, happens to him. I’m a little extra on that since my hubs was military and a civi helicopter pilot for a while. But anything can happen.
@queenj.8i895
Жыл бұрын
•Psalms 118:8 - It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man. •Proverbs 31:16 - She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. •Matthew 6:33 - But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. True love for God, self, & others means always putting all of our hope, expectation, & TRUST in GOD, not any man, even including ourselves. Never, ever put anything past anyone. Trust in the LORD JESUS, let Him guide you in all things. Let Him show you the power YOU have to get wealth. Let Him show you how to make your own earnings and profits and wise investments. This is BIBLICAL WISDOM & God most certainly knows better than we do. 🤍💟🤍 I pray for you & all God’s children, many blessings! 🙏🏽🦋
@teh_jibbler
Жыл бұрын
Life insurance
@joyfulhomemaker8053
Жыл бұрын
@@teh_jibbler There is that, but for example, I have a ton of health issues. Getting private insurance is a major necessity as well as complication so I would likely need to work
@Jennynouille
8 ай бұрын
Denial is a river in egypt
@Thebirthdaylibrarian
Жыл бұрын
I think that every woman should have some marketable skill and way to get a good job in case of their husbands death but if you choose your husband wisely you should be able to trust him to provide for you and protect you.
@pastelmoon9118
3 ай бұрын
protect from who?
@katemiller5990
Жыл бұрын
You really have to pick the character of the man. I 💯 trust my husband too. He has a proven track record and I know his character. Happy for you, Estee ❤️
@EsteeWilliams
Жыл бұрын
Yes I agree with you! Character is everything! I’m so happy for you as well girl! I love to see women happy ❤
@deezgutz5330
Жыл бұрын
@@EsteeWilliams Seems some women have been pulling others down the feminist bucket. Same thing happened with guys just with another ideology.
@Mira-gu6we
8 ай бұрын
How long have you been married? Do you have kids?
@elisestokes6961
Жыл бұрын
Good on you girl. My husband left me but at the end of the day God provides and He hasn't let us go hungry.
@sofiavtp
Жыл бұрын
I'm with you on this, if you find a good man and treat him right so that he treats you right you don't need to worry about anything ❤
@JAe-jc1uk
Жыл бұрын
So then you’re choosing to shame women who are cheated on. In my mind, the only person who deserves infidelity is a spouse who is cheating.
@ellasoriginalchannel9713
Жыл бұрын
Unless he dies too soon or becomes severely ill. Happens to good people all the time.
@BonazaiGirl
7 ай бұрын
There are tons of women who treated their men right and still got cheated on and left behind. It’s a tale as old as time. And, even in the best cases where loyalty is assured, husbands die, get injured, lose their jobs or become gravely ill. Nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife and take care of the home and kids, but there’s definitely something wrong with being financially irresponsible and not having a secure backup plan in case circumstances change for the worst.
@Fitmom312
Жыл бұрын
As a female lawyer, I approve of this message. 😅
@sarahisatitagain
Жыл бұрын
Former lawyer here, I too approve that. Hope you are ok, I know how hard the work environment can be for a woman, especially in law.
@joekerr1763
Жыл бұрын
It's insanely interesting how far down we've gone in this World. If a child, regardless of gender was asked what they wanted to be when they grew up and their answer was a lawyer. The title was exactly that. A lawyer.
@sarahisatitagain
Жыл бұрын
@JoE KeRr I get what you are trying to say but in some countries Ashley is name used for males and females. She was just trying to say that even tho she is a woman who works, she is on this girl's side, since so many women are criticizing her for choosing to be a home maker.
@joekerr1763
Жыл бұрын
@@sarahisatitagain Oh, my humblest apologies. Actually, nah I'm not going to apologize over other Countries and their nefarious customs. God Bless USA. After all, isn't that why the rest of the world's citizens want to come here? 🇺🇸💯
@sarahisatitagain
Жыл бұрын
@JoE KeRr well, Ashley is an English name, most popular in America, so I don't see the "other countries and their nefarious customs" working out. God bless America indeed! We are a great continent!
@IAmBeingSilenced
Жыл бұрын
A husband should insist upon his wife having a backup plan.
@nickpapageorgio4944
Жыл бұрын
I applaud you for creating awareness about the benefits of being a traditional wife. Don't let the haters get you down. You're making a difference and getting people to think. This is exactly what society needs now more than ever. Thank you for all you do.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
The reality is that there’s not enough men that can be trusted with that kind of power for this to be a widespread thing.
@nickpapageorgio4944
Жыл бұрын
@@Alex_W99 It's talk like this that has lead to where we are now. There's plenty of good men out there. Let's not tear down men and make all / most of them out to be evil. Men have been under attack for awhile now and it has lead to all sorts of issues. I would argue that most men would be incredibly grateful to have a traditional wife and would treat them with love and respect.
@Alex_W99
Жыл бұрын
@@nickpapageorgio4944 And I would argue that’s incredibly naive. Misogyny has always been a prevalent problem and is once again in the rise. Power has always lead plenty of men to corruption.
@estherpova3758
Жыл бұрын
Of course men always want to believe the best when it comes to how men interact with women. Women know better
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
@@nickpapageorgio4944 yet there are countless women on these platforms TELLING you how men treat them. Women with their fresh black eyes, or showing up to a hotel where their man is with another woman. Stop pretending men are out here being angels just waiting for the right woman to treat well, when 2 women a day die at the hands of their domestic partners. That it aome gaslighting shit to tell women...
@katemiller5990
Жыл бұрын
A woman who trusts her man like this is saying: I believe in you. I’m grateful for your hard work. I can lean on you. You are wonderful ❤ Chose wisely, ladies, and you can have a wonderful relationship.
@tara1238
Жыл бұрын
There is a reason why women are giving you these warnings. It is naive to think you chose better than them. We don't live in a fantasy world.
@joshuasocoy
Жыл бұрын
This is the exact kind of woman i hope i can one day become worthy of marrying, the more she puts her faith in me the more it empowers me to want to be someone worthy of her faith.
@CrazyCoon100
Жыл бұрын
Hopefully fate is on your side and u dont leave her high and dry
@Spock1234
Жыл бұрын
Great attitude!
@Mira-gu6we
8 ай бұрын
Thing is her physical beauty starts fading post 30. Especially after pregnancy. Then the human flaws you look past when she was pretty, well you wont look past anymore. Abuse, cheating, mistreatment follows. Then divorce. Ultimately youll be the ugly old sugar daddy lusting after teenagers and 20 year olds. Your average male. Lol.
@summermorelli2520
Жыл бұрын
Not to be all “woke” but they’re sadly right, my mom was a trad wife and thought my dad was a good man and was totally financially dependent on him but then he changed years later and put us through so much mental and emotional abuse and she never could leave because she had no money of her own and nobody to help, and that’s why I refuse to depend on a man.
@meep2605
Жыл бұрын
Facts, our moms n grandmothers were abused.
@db7610
Жыл бұрын
Cry
@satdaya
Жыл бұрын
Most woman did trust their husbands…that’s why they married them. Then the abuses starts…..her selective compassion is chilling, especially when it’s packaged in such “pleasing” aesthetics. Things are not always what they seem
@millaray9912
Жыл бұрын
That’s what I’m saying. I know a woman who sounded just like her. The marriage lasted for over 20 years- and then one day she found out her husband was a child molester.
@m01015
Жыл бұрын
@@millaray9912 oh my god that’s terrible? i hope she and the victims of her husband are healing well because that’s just disgusting
@millaray9912
Жыл бұрын
@@m01015 Correcting myself here- I don’t know that he ever touched a child in real life. He did consume child pornography and admit to having depraved desires. She left him when she found out.
@m01015
Жыл бұрын
@@millaray9912 that’s still so terrible! :( and worrisome he had that illegal material. extremely sad and scary! im glad she did. did he ever face legal persecution? you don’t have to respond to this if you don’t know or don’t wish to share.
@millaray9912
Жыл бұрын
@@m01015 I’m not sure because she moved away after that- who can blame her?- and I have little contact with her now. We weren’t really friends, just acquaintances. But last I heard, he either threatened or attempted suicide and was placed in an institution.
@Anastasia-Guinnova_26.
Жыл бұрын
I’ve told people I just want to be a stay-at-home wife and people tell me that kind of stuff all the time. I have it. I’m gonna get a degree and work until I get married. I’m only 17 and I have a lot to think about but I do love history and I plan to do something with it. But when I get married I don’t want to work then come home and do chores and take care of everyone. When I get married and have kids I plan to quit and just be a stay-at-home wife. Some people make it sound so bad to do that but I’d be happier and to be honest I don’t like working. I’ve always done the inside stuff both my sister and I did we made a deal with my brother we do inside you do outside and I enjoy cooking and cleaning, but after a long day at school and coming home and helping cook and clean I realised I don't wanna do that forever.
@ericandrews1661
Жыл бұрын
When you die an old woman, degrees and diplomas and material things won't mean anything. Being surrounded by loving children and grandchildren will. Don't listen to what people tell you. That's the work of the jews. You already know what's right. It's inside of you. Listen to it. Good luck and choose a good man.
@tommyvercetti9322
Жыл бұрын
you're 17 by the time you're 20-21 you should find a Man
@dallasaranjo9336
Жыл бұрын
@@ericandrews1661 what the fuck?? The work of the jews?? Ok, so fuck your anti semitism. That aside, let me tell you about my grandmother, who had plenty of children and grandchildren. Would gather us around and tell us "GO TO SCHOOL." She told us her BIGGEST regret was not going to school and studying. She wanted to be a doctor, instead she was a mother of five who had to work for the post office because her husband was injured on the job before workman's comp ever existed. She wished she had gone to college and become what she always wanted to be. When my mother, at 17 got pregnant, it was my grandmother who convinced her not to marry my sister's father and to raise her at gome so my mother could go to school. My mother has a master's in genetics and has contributed to advancing agricultural science in her own right. I myself have a degree in Performing Arts which i àm VERY proud of. My eldest daughter has her degree as well. My grandmother is the one who gave her own penaion money to my cousin for collegw tuition. Do not sit and tell women our accomplishments are meaningless when WE find meaning in them. It is weird that tou actually believe women dont find pride in their education and their accomplishments. Like how delusional do you have to be??
@CheerfulCheetah
Жыл бұрын
There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom. It's the "I don't need a backup because my husband is a good man" belief that's worrying. Good husbands are still mortals and can get sick, injured, suffer mental health issues, and die prematurely. It's important to have a back up not just in case he leaves, but also in cases where things just don't go as planned.
@CheerfulCheetah
Жыл бұрын
@@ericandrews1661 A degree can be completed from 18-21. Peak fertility is 23-25, but only declines about 10% from ages 26-30. It's totally possible to "do it all".
@lindsaysummer5442
2 ай бұрын
What if he loses his job, dies, gets sick, lands in a wheelchair, can't work anymore? Backups are not sign of distrust but rather of wisdom.
@Spaibo
2 ай бұрын
Better safe than sorry.
@mohammadnoori9278
Жыл бұрын
Marrying a good spouse is the backup 😎
@carefulcarpenter
Жыл бұрын
One built on sound principles--- not one already halfway out the door. Modern women desire to play the dominant role--- and do not recognize that they are already the boss of the family. As a designer-craftsman with decades of experience with all types of families--- I know who makes the final decisions about family issues. Children suffer later once they discover the truth. 77% of divorces are initiated by women.
@safffff1000
Жыл бұрын
Just have get a 1 million dollar life insurance saving plan, real cheap when you start off young. Then use for retirement together
@carefulcarpenter
Жыл бұрын
@@safffff1000 Over 70% of a family's wealth is lost in a divorce. 77% of divorce is initiated by deluded women. My wife said to me, "You are not the man I married." Message to self: "Spiritual growth." Spiritual growth comes as wisdom grows: by disciplined right action over a period of time. Not the same as a life insurance plan, but requires much more risk.
@kevins3080
Жыл бұрын
@@carefulcarpenter good for her - she choosing herself and her own happiness. You should do the same. Focus on what you want, instead of staying bitter and stuck up on things - go live your life, enjoy it while you can.
@carefulcarpenter
Жыл бұрын
@@kevins3080 Are you referring to my wife?
@karenflynn6589
Жыл бұрын
Illness, injury, etc. I was making minimum wage at a part time job. I had to do more to make the house payments, pay bills, buy food, and then gas to drive to physical therapy 3 times/week. It took a long time for him to start getting disability, and lawyers aren't free. So...have a backup. You might need it.
@dianavarona7144
Жыл бұрын
What is he dies? My best friends mom was a trad mother her whole life. She had the best husband anyone could ever imagine. Caring, patient, hard working, overall a great man! Unfortunately he got cancer and passed away. She lived as long as she could in Canada off their savings but eventually it became too expensive and she had to move back to Chile 😢 today she’s very poor living in Chile after over 20+ years living in Canada with her husband being taken care of. Sometimes you never know what life has to offer.
@MeadeSkeltonMusic
Жыл бұрын
Life insurance and a general pension?
@aspieangel1988
Жыл бұрын
I get the opposite. I’m a conservative feminist and I get lectures from traditionalists about how I’m in sin for going to college, having a job, speaking, leaving the house, having fun and told I’m an abomination to God for being autistic 🙄
@chrishartzog9189
Жыл бұрын
Trust is very important in a relationship. I think that is what is lacking in a lot of relationships today.
@col.waltervonschonkopf69
11 ай бұрын
But only a fool trusts blindly and only a bigger fool overlooks transgressions.
@BonazaiGirl
7 ай бұрын
Trust is good and essential to have but never enough. It’s irresponsible to not have _some_ sort of backup plan. After all, life happens and even if the husband doesn’t cheat and is a genuinely great spouse, things can happen like death or critical injuries. No matter how much you trust your partner, you need something to fall back on.
@rorygiambalvo2955
Жыл бұрын
Nothing wrong with wanting a traditional marriage! Do what makes you happy. But do make sure you're always in a position to take care of yourself/your family if something were to happen to your husband. You can plan for that together. I wish you a very happy life!
@LipSyncLover
Жыл бұрын
I think it's fine but if you're going to do it you absolutely should have a plan if he passes unexpectedly. My mom is a widow. I was twelve when it happened. She had a hard enough time surviving even with a basic employment history. I'll always admire my mom's strength I know it wasn't easy. But she had fall backs. Its nothing to do with trusting your spouse. Even if they're wonderful, people die and bills don't stop
@danaschreiner3334
Жыл бұрын
👏👏👏 my parents got divorced after 25 years. It was hard watching my mom start over and yeah the bills do not stop.
@carlyh894
Жыл бұрын
I trust my husband with my life and got married to him young. I love being a wife and homemaker to him but he also knows I have ambitions of my own. He supports me and my dreams as much as his own ❤ a strong man encourages a woman to follow her dreams whatever that might look like a homemaker, a professional, or both. (I also mention to him that if anything were to happen to him I want to be in the position to take care of him just as he does me).
@oooohkaye2302
Жыл бұрын
If she is happy, I am happy for her. Why give her so much grief? She is living her life, let everyone else live theirs and let her be. I hope she has a long, happy, healthy marriage. Just because other people don’t make the same choices doesn’t mean hers aren’t valid.
@The_NonDescript
Жыл бұрын
Marriage isn't supposed to be a perfect fairytale or something from which you can easily run. It's a lifelong commitment that takes hard work, dedication, prayer, and self-improvement, regardless of difficulties, disagreements, even mistakes and wrongdoings. I'm grateful my parents stayed together even when things went wrong. 💖💍💍👨🤝👩 Keep up the awesome work, Estee!
@jenevieklein9385
Жыл бұрын
It's great to have certain desires, but sometimes life is a harsh teacher. You can trust someone to a certain degree by observing someone's character, but remember that everyone is still human. There are no humans alive who have lived perfectly.
@ChrisOdinson132
Жыл бұрын
Wives have always been underappreciated, I'm so glad you share what you do and how much you love doing it. You inspire me ❤️
@tati79ana
Жыл бұрын
This is incredible in so many ways. People assume that whatever happened to them will necessarily happen to someone else. Life is simple: the way you see things is the way things are.
@guitarjoe4580
Жыл бұрын
Hello Tatiana I know this is so random but if I'm correct is this from a movie in what shes saying legally blonde just curious if you know?
@tati79ana
Жыл бұрын
@@guitarjoe4580 Yes, she used Legally Blonde’s script. It’s from that scene when Elle is applying to Harvard.
@guitarjoe4580
Жыл бұрын
@@tati79ana Oh ok sound like the voice of reese Witherspoon I never seen the movie but I know reese voice btw your very beautiful woman not trying to sound like a creep just being honest with you you really are tatiana
@stayathomemarine
Жыл бұрын
I'm the same way, Estee. I have nothing beyond a high school diploma. (I did the military after HS). I have stayed home for almost 8 years. My husband has been so good to me. I trust him. No pre nup. No college degree. No back ups.
@linnfriberg4017
Жыл бұрын
Best advice ever to give to young women: don't plan for anything in your life, have no backup at all, have as little money as possible for yourself and hope for the best
@stayathomemarine
Жыл бұрын
I have plenty money and life insurance. Women can do what they want.
@linnfriberg4017
Жыл бұрын
@@stayathomemarine huh? you yourself wrote you have "no backups", but you do? So you're actually making young girls think it's good to have no backups, no education, no prenup - while you, yourself have plenty of money. And you don't realize not all women have plenty of money their own.
@janeausten2100
Жыл бұрын
I believe it's important to obtain at least a college degree or a vocational school certificate. It took me six years, but I earned a Master's in Business Administration and earn $170k annually. Like you, I was a trad wife, but I made it a priority to further my education. My husband was killed in a car accident in the fall of 2019. I had earned my degree only five months prior. I am go thankful I had a backup plan, had obtained valuable skills that translate to to the job market. Is your husband holding you back from an education? That is, discouraging you? It is none of my business, but please reconsider. It will make you way more confident, happier, and prepared for what life may throw at you.
@stayathomemarine
Жыл бұрын
I am incredibly sorry for your loss. Losing your husband must of been the most difficult heart wrenching experience of your life 💔 congratulations on your master's 👏 Because I served in the military I have 4 years of free college and I can use it whenever.
@Bella34544
Жыл бұрын
She's about 25......and obviously got a lot of life to experience and learn.....she'll learn....statistically probably the hard way....if she really understood how bad the 50s were for woman she would not romanticise the era and if she actually knew and understood how abused and used Marilyn Munroe was and why that character was created she just may have thought twice about be it poor trying to imitate her.
@cjh36
Жыл бұрын
And you know what the 50s were like because your Marxist teacher told you?
@faeknereddi4782
10 ай бұрын
I have noticed how young all these delusional online trads are lmfaooo. Life will teach them
@pastelmoon9118
3 ай бұрын
exactly what I was thinking.. looking forward to see when when she is +40 ouhh boyy reality will hit her hard
@bunny_0288
Жыл бұрын
Same girl! It's so sad to me that so many women have only known terrible men in their lives. It's sad to go through life never being able to trust anyone. I had an amazing dad who showed me an example of what a good man is, and now I have an amazing husband who is the best man I know. I'm an excellent judge of character with insanely good intuition. I can tell very quickly what kind of person someone is. I remember seeing a picture online of a guy a friend of mine was dating. Just by the way he was dressed and the arrogant look on his face in that picture I knew he was a douche. She ended up marrying him and low and behold he ended up being a douche, and they are now divorced. I could tell from a picture lol. So choose wisely!
@christianriddler5063
Жыл бұрын
It's inherently not a "female" or "male" issue. It's a human issue, a problem that is called sin. Evil things are almost always easier to do than Good things are. So most people will naturally go down the evil road rather than the good one. Both good men and good women are destroyed these days by horrible experiences, some of them never trust anyone ever again. It really is sad. I just wish I could meet and marry a good woman but just like good men, they are a rarity in my country. I have met one other man with my morals and standards and we are friends but I have never met a woman with those morals and standards. I guess some people are just destined to be alone forever :(
@sunnybadgr5073
Жыл бұрын
@@christianriddler5063 If it's important to you, move to a different country. There are still good women in Eastern Europe and you can easily feed 12 children while working remotely.
@legendoffupa
Жыл бұрын
Many people nowadays are lonely and bitter. They don't know what it means to have someone at your side who genuinely wants to be there with you, even when times get tough.
@silviamagda
Жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@tinahuttner7280
Жыл бұрын
Shit better to be alone then to be w someone that won’t give a dam bout you😒 cause to be w someone just to say you have someone in your life is pretty dam dumb.
@legendoffupa
Жыл бұрын
@@tinahuttner7280 if you wanna spin my statement in a negative way then that's on you Boo. 💋 Not everyone is out there to get you and make your life miserable. 🤷♀️
@tinahuttner7280
Жыл бұрын
@@legendoffupa well shit how else to look at it?? Lots aren’t meant to be in a relationship, I know 2 of my girlfriends that aren’t,their life are a lot better off.
@bjrock1235
Жыл бұрын
Can you blame them? It’s not hard to see why they’d think that way considering how shitty people can be.
@Louise-u3w
2 ай бұрын
She is NOT a tradwife, she is an influencer who cosplays as a tradwife. She has a job and earns money.
@biancaaustin5859
Жыл бұрын
I just ADORE YOU! Thank you for being YOU. ❤❤❤
@weirdogurl9447
Жыл бұрын
While I support you fully, I trusted my husband fully and lost everything; all this unwanted advice is meant well and comes from the experience of other traditional women...
@nothanks1239
Жыл бұрын
I'm a stay at home wife and I'm very aware that people change, and couples fall out of love. It doesn't matter how much you trust each other or how decent you both are; these things just happen. Relationships can end on good terms; nobody has to be backstabbing for it to deteriorate. I fully trust my husband, he would never hurt me. But, he can't control his feelings. If he stops loving me, that is completely out of both of our hands. Nothing wrong with ensuring you have experience or a good education, so you have a job to fall back on should things go south. I've heard of so many women who regret not being more independent, because their relationships failed and they were left alone. It is of course, your life. You do what feels right. And I hope you live happily ever after. But, if things do end, you will be the first to start telling women to have back up plans. Edit; I admire all of your positivity that relationships can get through everything. This isn't a fairytale though, and relationships end all the time. Some relationships are over, even though a divorce is never initiated. I stand by my advice; the only one person you can 100% fully trust is yourself.
@emyle225
Жыл бұрын
He very much can control his feelings. But also, at the risk of sounding trite, love is a choice. Staying with your partner is a choice. It is not out of his hands whether he stops loving you. If that were to happen, he CHOSE to stop loving you somewhere along the way. Saying you fully trust your husband but having no faith in his ability and will to be committed to you and his love for you is selling him short. If your whole relationship is based on "feelings" it is almost certain it will end. If you vowed to each other to be together forever, you better fight tooth and nail for each other. There are days I don't feel like being loving toward my husband, but in that moment I will choose to be loving because I vowed to do that. Feeling are fickle. They lie. People owe their marriages more than just, "I don't feel like it anymore."
@sublimesamoyed
Жыл бұрын
“If he stops loving me, that is completely out of both of our hand.” What kind of logic is that? If you truly believe that, how can you trust him and depend on him? Marriage is a commitment, not a feeling.
@mrsmacdee1113
Жыл бұрын
Love is a choice. It's not a feeling. What kind of person bases his life on feelings?
@Bomber411
Жыл бұрын
I have never chosen who or what I love. It is entirely in the hands of the loved and/or nature, because I have not chosen who or what I'm attracted to, it is just how I feel. When I fall out of love, either I've changed or my feelings have changed because perhaps the other person, place or thing has changed. Or maybe it's just my tastes changing. Love isn't math. It's not logical. Matters of the heart have no real science about them they either just are or are not. You can certainly learn to love someone or something, but if it is forced and not natural or genuine, there will be resentment and resentment is a relationship and peace killer.
@Lanaioahu
Жыл бұрын
"Falling in love" and "Falling out of love" are nothing but feelings. If your love is a feeling, then of course your marriage is doomed. Real love is a choice, an act of the will. So is trust... She is CHOOSING to love and trust him, which is something are you pessimists and nay sayers don't understand so naturally it's beyond your comprehension.
@kaylaearley1742
Ай бұрын
I was a housewife yo a man for almost 5 years. We were inseparable aside from arguments. Lo and behold he got overwhelmed with the whole being a provider thing and one day, he got me arrested over a fight and left me. He took my home and the car away from me because they were all in HIS name. I was raised ingrained in traditional values but never will I ever let myself be financially vulnerable to a man ever ever again Mind you, i left my roots for this man and was living in another state with no support. Long story short, i found out i was a good worker and made something of myself within just a few months, after starting from absolute ground ZERO.
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