When friendships and relationships start being emotionally and mentally exhausting, it's time to move on and cut em off. Anyone that's a threat to my sanity has to go. I can't dwell in confusion.
@CaelonRobinson
8 жыл бұрын
AMENNNNN!!!!!! It took me a LONGGGGGGG time to finally take action to that but I feel a lot better now that I left toxic situations!
@d.y.h.w.
6 жыл бұрын
This!!! 👏
@juleenforbes
8 жыл бұрын
I've outgrown a lot of my friendships. I'm getting too old for a lot of Bs that people continuously do. Sometimes when you're too nice and dependable they rely on u too much "girl I'm not your mother"
@tayloryoung3918
8 жыл бұрын
Preach 👏🙌 people expect for you to carry them and they bullshit, on top of your own 💯. Nobody has time to nurture and watch over nobody.
@steffanyo023
8 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same situation with a "friend". I've known her 14 years and she still doing the same shit she was doing in high school. Still hoeing around still clubbing/hanging out all the time. Never has anything meaningful to talk about or say. And her house and car are disgusting like her room was in highschool and always says she to tired to cleanup and has asked me (another grown ass woman) clean her house and car for her but when I give a price its never mind. We just don't have the same goals dreams or ambition and have pretty much nothing in common. I just distance myself from her.
Thank you or im not your partner like why am I doing so much! Def learned my lesson being a friend doesnt mean you gotta do so much especially financially! of a peeson feels a way that tells you you are not my friend you are a user!
@keithhunter7473
8 жыл бұрын
Love that saying ''having friends is a luxury'' because it damn sure isn't necessary!
@Jay.Armani
8 жыл бұрын
"Being a friend is a luxury not a necessity "👏🏽👏🏽
@MariahKierra
8 жыл бұрын
Bruhhhhhh, i just stopped being friends with someone like this. We were friends for years. It sucked, but it had to happen. Havent talked to her since. She never apologized and she's still riding her high horse. I've let her be and moved on. People ask me about her all the time and all I say is "i hope all is well with her." And thats it.
@mbali9317
8 жыл бұрын
OMG! You're like a friend in my head. Love you.
@OhsnapitsTeKeyshia
8 жыл бұрын
+Mbalenhle Khuzwayo seriously I feel the same lol
@DivaDivaFashionista
8 жыл бұрын
You took me to church 🙌🏾 preach I am no longer friends with my bestie I miss the friendship but I'm a grown ass woman with kids I'm not about to let someone treat me any kind of way
@LorenzDominique
8 жыл бұрын
This video is so relevant. Literally just ended an almost 15-year friendship this morning.
@deej5608
8 жыл бұрын
WOW. SORRY TO HEAR THAT HUNNY TRULY I AM
@titaniacolossal
8 жыл бұрын
the three people who disliked this video got cut off as an unsupportive friend
@latina7292
8 жыл бұрын
I could listen to you talk for days on end. Please don't ever stop making these videos!!
@Chazzzisawesome
8 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video! LOL Thank you so much because I'm 20 and I don't have a bunch of friends so now that they are dropping off and acting crazy it does suck. This really puts things into perspective for me thank you.
@lfashion25
8 жыл бұрын
Neva mind friendships.. lol..My mother was the ring leader.. my sisters followed her lead... Had to cut them off... #familycanbetoxic #whoneedsenemies
@Naomisnotes
8 жыл бұрын
True
@dejuanmitchell7687
8 жыл бұрын
That's the worst. But has to happen. Toxic ppl gotta go
@TheeBratzDollxox
8 жыл бұрын
It's very unfortunate when family is cruel to you because if you can't count on your own family who the hell do u have?? ☹️☹️
@KatrinaJTnea
8 жыл бұрын
This is ME right now too
@stassisspace6632
8 жыл бұрын
I feel youuu smh
@Koldest304
8 жыл бұрын
This Video Hit So Many Spots. I'm Dealing With A Ending Friendship Now , and This Video Basically Was Confirmation.
@Blackenese11
8 жыл бұрын
Why do i feel myself talking through you ? Thank you for this video
@TheTarotQueen
8 жыл бұрын
real talk at it's finest!
@LifeofDeVonsha
8 жыл бұрын
Yesss!! I just had this issue and had a big argument with my so-called-best-friend! I ended it because I felt it was one-sided,and I agree with everything you said!!
@ChilliBibi001
8 жыл бұрын
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this right at this moment in my life! Thank you a million! 👏
@jazzhandzz
8 жыл бұрын
I ended a friendship a year ago with my "Best friend". She had been going through so much shit, and I was there by her side to make sure that she was not a lone. As soon as I made a mistake that had nothing to do with her or our group of friends, instead of coming to me asking me about it as a best friend, she goes around talking behind my back and never apologized for it. I was so heart broken. This showed me that misery truly loves company. Never thought something like that would happen to me. Oh, well...
@DivaDivaFashionista
8 жыл бұрын
Same here her idea of an apology was we can leave that in the past I told her no thanks
@IDCWNSSRCITBCE
8 жыл бұрын
It is actually crazy how accurate this is to me right now
@TrayTrayBaby
8 жыл бұрын
You are really setting it off! I adore you. You don't know how timely this is for ME! I found out that someone who I thought was my friend is talking about me behind my back. I wanted to go straight Samuri on him, but after talking to another good friend, I decided to gracefully bow out. Please keep making these videos because your helping people. 💋💕
@deesaahir4958
8 жыл бұрын
When I tell you I NEEDED to her this Malibu! I always say, by the end of your life if you have ONE FRIEND with you then you are very lucky!
@blwatkins06
8 жыл бұрын
this was awesome. i am going through this exact situation. i should just forward this video to her and say "im not the one"
@yoBubbless100
8 жыл бұрын
I swear I needed this! Exactly what I'm going through right now!!!!!!! 🙌🏾
@heycharnay9180
8 жыл бұрын
Busted disgusted and cannot be trusted 😂😂😂
@luckysnappa135
8 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 your mindset on life is beautiful. Especially at your age... I'm 33 and only have 3 friends and it took me too long to see this.
@QueeniiBabii143
8 жыл бұрын
omg yes im in this situation right now !! i dont have time to beg/wait on friends who wait till you're gonna ask how they're doing or when the wanna hang out idk i always feel that im the only one who cares
@NkennaRose
8 жыл бұрын
This is something a lot of people need to take into consideration! Just because you're going through something doesn't mean you need to take it out on others! I'm sorry you feel that way but I didn't do anything to hurt you so you shouldn't be mistreating me! People need to do a better job of managing their anger and directing their emotions!
@Twelve800
8 жыл бұрын
I have outgrown friends and so-called family members.
@msdelle22
8 жыл бұрын
I had to let go a 30 yr friendships never saw it coming but it had to be done
@AnnaC-hb4zg
7 жыл бұрын
msdelle22 wow that sucks
@d.y.h.w.
6 жыл бұрын
I just cut off a friend of 30 years as well. She just can't get life together and I can't deal.
@egyptel3632
8 жыл бұрын
I needed 2 hear this today! this is the truth
@sierraalexis3940
8 жыл бұрын
that family part is SO REAL I see it daily and i only have 2 years to get that negative energy away from me...THANK YOU !!🙌
@vanityforeverx
8 жыл бұрын
I've lost friends with a lot of people and sometimes I get down about it, but I needed this video. thanks for your wise words, always love watching these kind of videos of yours. 💖
@lovelyla85
8 жыл бұрын
Yass Malibu you betta preach!, when you said, " how can we continue this friendship when this fracture is busted and disgusted " that really hit me. I was in a situation like that and she wanted me to just act like she didn't come at me completely wrong in so many ways and I was just suppose to forget about it. Like how can we move on? There was animosity and it was never the same.
@neauxheart3741
8 жыл бұрын
Malibu I love the way u talk in your videos it feels so direct like I'm standing infront of u 😂💕💕💕
@xaviertaveras7787
8 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this video because i'm on the same page! i go the extra mile for people i care for and consider my friends and i dont expect much back because i love the little things like a thank you. People just will never understand how hard I ride! im chilling though.
@pobster88j94
8 жыл бұрын
6:20 is so on point!!! I am dealing with this now and its so frustrating. I work my ass off and then people who sat on their ass are mad about it or feeling insecure. I cant stand that.
@Jacesmith03
8 жыл бұрын
i lost what i thought was a good friend this year. she met another group of people who liked to party hard et look i dnt mind a party or two but i went thru that phase in life in undergrad. id always invite her to do other things et she continuously blew me off OR she'd accept whenever her new group of people didn't include her. yep... had to leave that alone. i ain't begging nobody for their friendship...
@Dymonde90
8 жыл бұрын
Thank for this. My best friend just broke up with me out of nowhere and it still hurts. I needed to see this
@Mikayla320
7 жыл бұрын
Sorry you feel that way. Broke up with my best friend although I haven't told her why and she still thinks we're cool.
@tajang839
7 жыл бұрын
Lauren James that's fucked up u could've given a reason.
@Mikayla320
7 жыл бұрын
King Dior Trust me she doesn't need a reason nor does she care. If someone doesn't even make an effort to see you once they have not heard from you, they don't give a fuck. It was a one sided relationship. I took so much shit from her and did a lot for her as well and it was never reciprocated. I don't do good expecting others to do good as well but when I need you it would be nice for you to be there for me.
@tajang839
7 жыл бұрын
Lauren James maybe u should tell her that the friendship feels one sided. Hate to see a friendship end
@Mikayla320
7 жыл бұрын
King Dior Thanks for the concern but I'm not reaching out to anyone tbh. If someone truly cares for you they will show it. We live 15 minutes away and although we haven't spoken in months she hasn't thought to even come to my house to check up on me and see how I'm doing, that should tell you something. I refuse to go over hills and valleys for someone who won't even take a bus and see me. There's a lot more to the situation but honestly I'm fed up and done. Can you imagine having a best friend that you never even hang out with?
@ANFC88
8 жыл бұрын
I swear to God I was clapping and saying yassss thru this whole video! This definitely applies to Relationships as well!! You better preach!! 👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@thebudgetbawse
8 жыл бұрын
yesss I truly believe this message is not LIMITED to friendships relationships period. You said that! every single part
@cr9525
8 жыл бұрын
Yes! I loved this. I love how you said friends are a luxury not a necessity. So true!
@MelaninMusings
8 жыл бұрын
Thank You! I couldn't have said it any better. Before I opened my online boutique I asked my friends for their idea on the topic and for help. Of course they all said they had my back and would help with promoting and stuff like that but the moment I actually got my boutique started they were nowhere in sight. I learned that you can't be friends with people who do not share the same definition of friendship as you. I'm the type of person who if my friends succeed I'm so proud of them and will support them as much as I can but I noticed that the friends I had only wanted me to succeed only after they had.
@shaunajohnson8300
8 жыл бұрын
Yes! ✂ It off with no words and no apologies. People want you to be miserable with them and I have no time for it. Its all growth.
@Nitaka12
7 жыл бұрын
I recently discovered you and this is probably the 20th video of yours I've watched. And this video is the TRUTH!!!. I've narrowed down my friends to two. But everything you said in this video applies 100% to my ex-boyfriend; ugh, I should've ended that 5.5 year relationship 2 years ago!!!
@sherrytrotter9263
8 жыл бұрын
You have matured and outgrown the bullshit. Good video as always!
@DiamondMonae
8 жыл бұрын
I can agree with this so much I get a new female "Bestfriend" every year because I recently moved from my home town. But my 3 real bestfriends from where I'm from have never ever crossed. People always asking about my old "friends" but you're so right.. Can't bring everyone on this journey to success. Best video of 2016. You're always speaking the truth.
@HailynnJ
8 жыл бұрын
Really needed to see this🙌🏾, just ended a one sided friendship of 4 years
@vernonanthony3302
8 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯 perfectly said, I have to share this on FB....I've felt like this for so long, and u summed it up in 20mins 😘😘👍👍👏👏👏💖💖💋💋
@michellehenriques9164
8 жыл бұрын
Yes, Yes, YES!!!!! Thank you for this video!! Since my husband passed away 3 years ago I've been doing this. Believe me, it has all been for the better because I'm a better person for it and I'm in a better place physically and mentally. Some people come into your life for a reason and a season.
@yevettew47
8 жыл бұрын
OMG! Boy, This has literally JUST happened to me in the past month!!! I had to let a friend of 10yrs go! You made so much since!! Amen, Amen, thank you for this!
@yevettew47
8 жыл бұрын
sorry sense oops : (
@luisjaquez2194
8 жыл бұрын
I love to hear you preach the word of gawd himself 🙌🏽🙌🏽 you got us on KZitem who love and support anything you do !!
@sherrie8221
8 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!!! I am not here to be ANYBODY'S PUNCHING BAG NOR AM I GOING TO CONTINUE TO BE OPEN TO SUSTAINING A ONE-SIDED FRIENDSHIP WITH ANYBODY. It's not worth it and plus if I can't trust YOU- then I can't be your friend. Lord..this spoke to me.
@ladygogobenance
8 жыл бұрын
Honestly I needed this ...I've been feeling this way for a while but always feel bad for trying to cut ties because I feel like I owe it to everyone and their mama to be a good friend and completely ignore my own happiness, which makes no type of sense. Thank you for this.
@victorialadybug1
8 жыл бұрын
I have a sister-in-law that is just like this. Passive-aggressive and ungrateful and unthankful when people do things for her. Not even so much as a "Thank you". It's like she's had no damn home training. Now that I know what she's like I'm cool now. I just don't deal with her.
@Page-lj4mf
8 жыл бұрын
Hundred percent agree. I like the part when u ride for someone but they walk for you this is the shit am facing in my life.
@DeketaShanaye
8 жыл бұрын
I'm really convinced that this view point as well as many others is simply because we're Aries. It really no other explanation on why I agree 100000% on Everything. So True!
@allysiaprice2300
8 жыл бұрын
The realist conversation on KZitem.
@jasnicole7391
8 жыл бұрын
YOOO TALK THAT SHIT! The moment you are a few steps up, the entire situations change. In life you may find two people on this planet that will not have a jealous bone for you.
@love4allpplz1
8 жыл бұрын
Y'all just don't get that he read my entire life right now.....and I really needed to hear this message. Thank you 😘😘😘😘
@CarlosRobles09
8 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video because LAWD, I'm losing some friends that I realized we're never for me.
@shawnd598
8 жыл бұрын
I went through this with my sister it was one of the hardest things I had to do to move forward and past her toxic way of thinking.. Thank you for sharing 😊
@Princessmom9
7 жыл бұрын
People will take their anger and frustration out on the person they feel are the safest, meaning the person who will not hurt them back or retaliate on them. You are a friend that people think will always have their backs and will always forgive them. They see something in you, that at this time you are obviously not willing to continue with, and that is accepting everyone and everything to your own detriment. You are right to cut off the negative and to focus on self. Keep doing you. I love watching your videos.
@vapor5145
8 жыл бұрын
thanks for this video, I relate to this so much. I had to cut a long term friendship because it got so toxic. From now on, I'm going to choose my friends very carefully.
@brihana3004
8 жыл бұрын
At 14:52 that inner hood that every black person has came clean outta you! 😂😂 I love you ! ❤️
@xxxtacy
8 жыл бұрын
Preach!!! The most elegant discussion about friendship.
@shequeenin4596
8 жыл бұрын
That was some of the realest shit I have heard all week! Its called growth and aint shit wrong with growth......Gone baby I love it!!!!!!
@success_4856
8 жыл бұрын
I Know Exactly How this Feels , Loyalty is Very rare ! Being Cautious on how i choose friends
@xoxotataz
8 жыл бұрын
this really sits with me, my husband and I are going thru this right now with our friends his trying so hard to hold on whereas I just let go bc my mouth won't allow the nonsense. I pray this helps him understand that as you grow and want to be treated as such some ppl are so us to treating you like "Lil ol boy" that you either have to reteach them how to treat you or bounce thank you!
@bootyliciousbabyful
8 жыл бұрын
Yass!!! i needed this video so much because i thought i was the only person going through something like this because i am the same way. I recently lost 2 friends because they broke my trust, and felt threatened by me and neither one of them took accountability for their actions. id rather have associates and no friends in order for me to get were i want to be in life which now is totally fine with me
@mikkos.j.121
6 жыл бұрын
TBT! This is my life recently even though its a hot mess its nice to know other people go through this too.
@veronicatanoi2886
5 жыл бұрын
Well Said Malibu Dollface. True Friends like you are Soo hard to come by........
@MzGlamourAddict
8 жыл бұрын
FACTS.. Thanks for sharing, you hit so many points.
@lexigurlx
8 жыл бұрын
This video speaks to me.... So called friends who expect me to chase them or expect me to jump up the minute they give you a half ass call you have ambition but you see all of theirs disappearing
@heatherl.7865
8 жыл бұрын
Love me some Malibu Dollface & the hair is giving me Life....Yessssss Honey!
@LifeWithDree
8 жыл бұрын
This was right on time!!! I literally have no friends because I'm big on loyalty and some people just don't get that smh
@hayjayyy3713
8 жыл бұрын
i just ended my 5yr friendship funny you made this video. It was very 1 sided I found myself crossing oceans for someone who wouldn't even step over a puddle for me, When I do things in friendships it's not because I'm looking for something in return or want a fucking award I look at it more so damn if it was the other way around I would hope that person would do it for me but I had realize everybody not like that & will use you as long as you let them even family.
@deej5608
8 жыл бұрын
PREACH PREACHER. I had to LEARN THAT THE HARRRRRRD WAY.
@terrelljackson.
8 жыл бұрын
Do these same rules apply for BEST friends???
@makeoversbymeme2077
8 жыл бұрын
Of course. Why not? It would hurt a bit more to loss a bestie but if they are not being a friend or contributing to the friendship then....🤐
@lovemakeup2253
8 жыл бұрын
YES!!
@timeless617
8 жыл бұрын
Especially for them!
@EMHD1990
8 жыл бұрын
Absolutely !
@EMHD1990
8 жыл бұрын
Absolutely !
@serkertjewels
8 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯 so true I'm so happy I'm not the only one that look at friendship this way
@cj2011cj
8 жыл бұрын
Truth in every point you made! I've had to let go of some people I loved dearly, I've made my mistakes, and I'm still learning in my present life. This video is great!
@marieprince2012
8 жыл бұрын
Ppl are very envious and most often it's those closes to you and that's fucked up but hey it is what it is. But baby u hit the nail on the head wit this video tell it how it is not how it seems boo. Love your demeanor stay humble I've been watching u forever every since the baby hairs lol continue to bloom boo!
@nathanielwilson7454
8 жыл бұрын
💯 I LOVE THAT FACT THAT YOU REPLY BACK TO YOUR FANS, IT KEEP THEM THERE. LOVE YOU Mulibu Dollface
@Jamera.Nicole
8 жыл бұрын
Oh my god, I definitely needed to hear this shit 🙌🏽💯 don't wanna have any toxic relationships in my life anymore. Some people just gotta be let go👌🏽
@iheartsoulmusic
8 жыл бұрын
Thanks Malibu I feel like this video is very necessary for that point you start to reach with people where you're just over it and don't have the energy to entertain bs and being walked all over as the good friend that the other person is taking for granted. This has happened to me so many times that I started to feel like something was wrong with me but I'm glad that you shared this so I know that I'm not alone in what I went through. Sending love as always, and letting you know that you are very much appreciated.
@DutchessJones
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. I agree with you about growing beyond the friendship. I am going through a physical transformation due to gastric surgery and I have friends that share my vision of my truth. My happiness. I'd had to let a few go and push a couple in the side. This is life.
@ChynnaBAiiiii
8 жыл бұрын
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!! he spoke that real. I needed this thanks Malibu
@sherialstewart4467
8 жыл бұрын
I really liked this subject, and how real and direct you were about what you had to say...all the best Malibu Dollface!
@lifestylewithjeanine3706
8 жыл бұрын
im glad you spoke on this!!!! i remember i heard a very similar sermon by ron carpentor on friendships. he said friendships are like bank deposits if you dont deposit time energy things that nurture a friendship then when hard times come you have nothing to withdraw or if your the one always depositing everything and the friend is constantly withdrawing then there is a problem. I myself had to learn this lesson sadly twice with the same person, when i see this person i speak but i had to let them go after 5 years of friendship and it truly hurt my soul. It really did. they done numerous things that they would not take accountability for and i constantly made excuses for. It took me a while to get them out of my system and i even cried some nights went over in my head of what i could have possibly done to deserve this and i was honestly drawing a blank and now several months later i feel so much better.
@ZymeenAlphaOmegaC6
8 жыл бұрын
those people who want to take stuff out on you is annoying. thats why i stopped being too nice because then people take advantage and want to use you like a wet rag and throw you around any type of way. and yeah when you care more about someone whose your friend then they do about you it never works out. and also i don't like sorry only because sorry means your at least gonna try to change and not do the same shit all over again.
@PeaceNLiebe
6 жыл бұрын
I have this on replay because I am dealing with a person you exactly described. In Psychology they’re called narcissists and it is crucial you do exactly what you said in the video and cut. that. chord. Thank you for sharing and giving such a well rounded and insightful experience.
@inkyification
8 жыл бұрын
Yess! My love Yess!!! Finally someone is saying what I feel!!! God bless you!
@LiyahMichelle
8 жыл бұрын
This is so crazy because I just lost a long time best friend like 2 weeks ago and didn't know how to deal with it thank you. This was very much needed.
@redacted3426
8 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Malibu. I really needed this. I just cut someone off that I've been friends with for 3+ years for the exact reasons you listed. It's hard but it really is like a dark cloud that's gone. Thanks a lot for this, you made me feel better about my decision.
@makeeyestwinkle
8 жыл бұрын
I literally love you bruh. You speak some real shit and your videos have motivated me to grow and be successful in life. I really needed this.
@Lexyangrum
8 жыл бұрын
You are so intelligent,well spoken & wise!! i truly resonated with this video,thank you!
@meghangrady8037
6 жыл бұрын
Yasss!? Amen 🙏!! I hear you on every word you say !! I've been raised to always say please thank you I am sorry excuse me. Etc. And treat others the way I expect to be treated but unfortunately in today's society especially with the young individuals growing up nowadays aren't conditioned or brought up with the same mentality. Values. Mindset. And just plain have no manners or very little common sense. It's actually quite sad how inconsiderate more people are becoming. I can count on one hand the few amount of people In my life I'm able to call my friend. All u need is one good person in your life that you trust and depend on. That's it. !?
@Lolafl2007
8 жыл бұрын
I'm about to start calling you Pastor Malibu you touched on some of the very things I'm experiencing right NOW! I'm now looking at these situations differently
@coolmama93
8 жыл бұрын
Crazy how you posted this EXACTLY when I needed it. Thank you
@montezrainey3457
8 жыл бұрын
The "Fuck-ary" level is at a Ten!!!! You are sooo right. l learned the hard way about friends.
@asharasheed6641
8 жыл бұрын
Umm...not sure how I found this channel....but loving Malibu Dollface. Earned a subscriber today...love the realness
@christahnnstaxx7400
8 жыл бұрын
ur the Realist person I've heard speak...truly u dropped some real gems in this vid Thank u soooo much I needed this❤❤❤❤
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