He's so right about meeting people through other people. Back in 2015, I was noticing all my friends getting married, having kids, and not wanting to do the things we used to. I missed that, so I made a conscious effort to start going to a lot of group activities that appealed to me. During this time, I met a musician. At some point, he asked me on a date. The date didn't work out and we decided to just be friends, but... fast forward to 2018. I'm waiting in line for the doors to open for one of his shows. It's freezing for April and the doors don't open when planned. As time kept ticking and I kept freezing, I looked around and asked the nearest person standing alone if he knew when doors were supposed to open. He didn't know; I said "thanks anyway" and moved back. He then struck up a conversation with me that ended up lasting through the whole show. We're going on 4 years together now and are planning to move in together in the fall. Moral of the story: I put myself out there, met someone who wasn't right for me, but through this person, 3 whole years later(!), I met "my person". Never underestimate the power of going to social versions of your own and many interests; the power of a network is undeniable.
@ShellyBomb
2 жыл бұрын
Love your story 💞
@queenofthebutterflies5212
Жыл бұрын
You have just inspired me !!!! I've been single since I had my son ...7yrs ago! I've been a busy single Mum but as time ticks on and my child begins to grow up I'm starting to get lonely. I wanna start meeting people.
@IronicallyChristina
Жыл бұрын
Well, I have an update... He proposed in July, and we're getting married in June of 2024! With some action and some luck, sometimes dreams do come true... even for a 45 year-old first-time bride! Keep going! 🥰
@dreamwishergirl
Жыл бұрын
This is my dream.! What advice can you give me to make something like this a reality ? I’m a little scared to go out by myself, and I have been going to meet ups but nothing yet. But I have met some friends but some are married (with no single colleagues or siblings) or they live far when they invite me or I am just too tired from work to do anything . Im lucky to be able to go out to meet ups on the weekends to hike. Congrats to you btw!!
@Squid2005
Жыл бұрын
Y is he moving in w u without asking to marry u after dating for that long. I would be wary
@user-wb6bw1dc9n
2 жыл бұрын
After 12 years of dating online and 50 terrible dates later I can assure you that online dating is NOT the way to find a guy with a high value!
@SuperMurray2009
2 жыл бұрын
Be happy that you were able to get 50 dates. Most guys can't get 1 from OLD
@user-wb6bw1dc9n
2 жыл бұрын
@@SuperMurray2009 never thought of that (altho i am sure that's not true, like all are amazing people)! But thanks ❤️❤️❤️ for let me be more positive thinking about these self- esteem lowering n terrible years of dating.
@How.Dare.You.
2 жыл бұрын
Only 50??? So you had 5 dates per year??
@antoinette22
2 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!
@lexusmark1
2 жыл бұрын
That means you are the problem
@ryushizu17
2 жыл бұрын
4:24 Do the more sociable version of the things you already like to do 7:20 Frequent places you go to 9:40 Say yes to new people and new places 13:15 Put yourself where other people are 13:24 Be 10% more proactive when there
@carlosverde-datingtips7001
2 жыл бұрын
Nice summary - Wensu! If you want to start attracting “Men” instead of “Boys…” Become a High Value Woman on your Purpose, that way - you become the type of woman that men are naturally attracted to - because you’ll be in High Demand! Men are going to be able to sense that immediately, quality men that is! Men that have their lives together. And therefore, you won’t need to chase them, because they’ll be drawn to you - like a magnet! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@joannawrzelikowska3273
2 жыл бұрын
None of this is working.
@serenity8295
2 жыл бұрын
seems like a lot of time and energy and totally agree
@BiniBoeva
2 жыл бұрын
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 If men are actually able to see your value.
@carlosverde-datingtips7001
2 жыл бұрын
@@BiniBoeva I hear ya!
@trenchrock
2 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to add that volunteering is a great option! You get to do something good, that makes you feel good and you meet some really interesting, friendly people. Bonus is that most are looking to meet people as well😊
@susanparkes5096
2 жыл бұрын
And most are women
@theewildrose
Жыл бұрын
Volunteer work is dominated by women and the elderly. Unless you're looking for a sugar mama probably nothing there
@the1stmetalhead
9 ай бұрын
@@susanparkes5096 who said that?
@susanparkes5096
9 ай бұрын
@@the1stmetalhead I did, because that is my experience.
@the1stmetalhead
9 ай бұрын
@@susanparkes5096 I guess you’re somewhat right but isn’t it mostly older married woman? Very rarely you would see someone young in their teens or 20s working at these places.
@aleewoolley
2 жыл бұрын
Yesterday I met an attractive, high-quality man who could easily be my “soulmate” while at the auto place getting new tires of all places. 😂 Unfortunately, he was married, so it turned out to be only a very sweet, platonic 20-minute conversation about mutual interests and values and then moving on. But it proves that if you are open and friendly you can draw quality people into your life. 💕
@Adi-xs5dw
2 жыл бұрын
i never understood this soulmate thing. You are attracted to another, you feel to "click". That's great but what it has to do with being a "soul-mate"?
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
@@Adi-xs5dw it is the soul fish union, they got their hooks in this back in Roman times
@aleewoolley
2 жыл бұрын
@@Adi-xs5dw (long answer, whoops!) I believe in reincarnation and that before we come down here (between lives) we have a “soul group” (for lack of a better term) which who are essentially our tribe/classmates/what-have-you who show up in our lives to either support or prompt us to learn lessons while we are in “Earth school.” They can be in our lives for a reason, a season (even a 20-minute season), or a lifetime. I believe my beautiful children are my soulmates, and my ex-husband (who was… challenging), and my abusive mom, and a whole host of positive and negative people in my life. I don’t believe in one romantic “soulmate,” as in “the great love of my life,” however. I used to, but life happens and I don’t now. I believe love is a choice, and while we can love others deeply, we don’t really *need* them to be happy or complete us. That’s our job, and a romantic partner is the icing on the cake. I’ve been struggling because I can’t bring myself to do online dating (even signed up - it’s just too overwhelming and inauthentic) and this guy was a lovely reminder that it IS possible to meet a quality person in real life by just being yourself and open and friendly. I needed that affirmed and it was a beautiful lesson. All very woo-wooey, I know! But I’m under no delusion there is only one perfect person out there for each of us. It would be nice, but I don’t believe it if I’m honest. As far as attraction goes, that’s different. You can be attracted to and “click” with someone for all kinds of good and bad reasons: friendship, sex/hormones, trauma bonding, ego/attention seeking. I’ve met plenty of people I was attracted to and clicked with but will forget about in a month. This was a memorable (albeit platonic for the obvious reasons) connection.
@Adi-xs5dw
2 жыл бұрын
@@aleewoolley Appreciate your time to answer. I'm not here to question your belief, it's all good. One other spiritual way to see is that everyone who we encounter and have an effect on us is a teacher is some way or form. Doesn't have to be soulmate to my definition. Authentic guys are there too.
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
My sister met a high value man reroofing our dad's house! She asked him out and they became bf & gf, very much in love, but tragically he died of a heart attack. :(
@DeMafiaGirl
2 жыл бұрын
This is actually good advice tbh. I'm tired of hearing people say "Just join a club lol" like its that simple. But when you go in depth like this it makes far more sense
@Drikkerbadevand
Ай бұрын
as a man you get this advice often but I don't want to join a yoga or horse riding class
@radiantbird
2 жыл бұрын
I have been asking God to help me manifest my person, my partner. Last night I prayed about it. This morning I find your channel. I believe this is an answer. Already, just by watching this video I feel I have a better chance of meeting someone beautiful and kind. I tend to be a hermit. I’m an artist and I spend most of my time alone. I’m going to take this video’s advice seriously and start going more places and put in 10% when I see someone I like.
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
This whole concept of God is troubling to me. I mean does God even have a partner? Did Jesus turn all that water into wine just to drink all the disciples under the table? Can the son of God even get drunk? That would have been one hell of a pub crawl though. "Jesus", slurs Peter "turn Judas into a duck again!" And because of the holy trinity, if Jesus is drunk, does that mean God and the holy spirits are drunk too?
@KingJamesBibleSword
8 ай бұрын
@@QuizidomoBe not deceived; God is not mocked.
@carlabarkley3286
2 жыл бұрын
I go to concerts/shows a lot, but see lots of married people or groups of women. A couple weeks ago I went to a classic album concert and discovered a lot of single men there. I need to go to more of those! Great show too.
@topnotch8432
2 жыл бұрын
As a young man their doesn't seem to be many quality people on the dating apps. Presentation is everything, it's a very superficial world now. I have no problem finding dates though nothing progresses to a relationship because being treated with disrespect is the end. "saying sorry without changing actions is considered manipulation."
@Christina-yu3gu
2 жыл бұрын
Matt should have a 2 week social event for both single men/ women in a beach city (all ages). Have ppl apply wit application to attend. Or a single cruise off Ft Lauderdale, Matt can host it. 🙏🏻💙
@browmi03
2 жыл бұрын
I bet this would be like some leadership events I have been to where its like weird everyone is competent LOL!
@Anya_CM
2 жыл бұрын
That sounds like a great idea! 🤩
@Christina-yu3gu
2 жыл бұрын
@@browmi03 Maybe just a get together with ppl that are not players or easy just wanting a decent high value person. Or settle like my sisters, partners on the job did. Who knows ??? God? Lol
@viricoral3271
2 жыл бұрын
That’s a great idea . I’m in ☺️
@Red_1976
2 жыл бұрын
Cruise … Chav idea..
@alayna286
2 жыл бұрын
I heard great advice earlier this year: Imagine you're seeing someone right now, and he/she is going out for a guy/girl's night with friends. Where do you imagine that person is gonna go or where you want that person to go? Well, you should go to that place to try and meet that person
@kitt7082
2 жыл бұрын
I loved this so much, I wrote it down. Thanks for sharing!
@hardywatkins7737
2 жыл бұрын
I think most of the time they're either going to a bar, nightclub, or restaurant which aren't necessarily the best places to meet people. i.e bars.
@ramparkash2318
2 жыл бұрын
@@hardywatkins7737 . Ur saying absolutely right. I'm agree with your words.
@hardywatkins7737
2 жыл бұрын
@@ramparkash2318 yeah Ram, if it's a bar you'll likely find the only thing you have in common is a love for alcohol.
@ramparkash2318
2 жыл бұрын
@@hardywatkins7737 you well said again. Yet I have not use alcohol. in future I will try how it is..
@roserider6235
Жыл бұрын
I’m surrounded by attractive athletic men all the time because I snowboard, skate, and surf. Not because I’m looking but because it’s my life’s passion. The right men see that and they seek me out. I don’t have to do anything special, which is something I learned after trying online dating briefly. Hated those apps and deleted them shortly. Personally, a man’s height or appearance is not as important to me as his personality, attachment style, and I’ll admit his skills on a board.
@LethargicMom
2 жыл бұрын
The problem is not to meet men but to meet SINGLE men. I meet men everywhere I go but most of them are not single and those who are... well... 😬
@mindfulmaggie
2 жыл бұрын
YES
@snehalvikash
2 жыл бұрын
are men.
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
A person who is single is less attractive than a person in a healthy relationship. Look through today to see how they will be after your company has enrichened them, and vise versa.
@whitemakesright2177
2 жыл бұрын
Sorry to say but part of the problem is your life situation. High quality men want a woman who has never been married with no kids. To find a man willing to date a single mom, you may need to lower your standards.
@queenofthebutterflies5212
Жыл бұрын
Same. Married men keep hitting on me and I'm like damn, why is there no single dudes ! Go back to your wife, you dawg!! LoL! Makes me wonder if all men flirt with women even if they're married 🤔
@joohelenaconrad5760
2 жыл бұрын
We are all energy and we aminate it outwards. When we go places we meet those that match that energy, so it does not matter where you go, more so it is important where you frequency is. There are so many stories about I met my perfect guy at the store, at the airport, at the train station, in the cinema, all those moments which are one in a million kind... well all it tells us is that at the moment both people were holding the same frequency and they matched.. whoever we meet we are meant to in order to learn a lesson, and sometimes we are meant to meet that person we were hoping for ..
@Babesinthewood97
2 жыл бұрын
That’s bullshit
@pharaohhermenthotip1553
2 жыл бұрын
@@Babesinthewood97 Agreed. The law of attraction is pseudoscientific nonsense
@leeche87
2 жыл бұрын
Only works when you are a hot girl. When you are average like me nobody ever approaches
@justshyn7347
5 ай бұрын
Truth
@sunflowersoul8461
2 жыл бұрын
Here’s the problem, when you’re an introvert, it makes the whole process even more stressful. I get nervous during work meetings and in groups of people. I’m even more nervous around someone I like at the beginning. Seems like extroverts have the upper hand, since they get their energy around other people, vs someone who is drained after social situations. Then again, I would much rather put myself out there, then to continue scrolling where most men just lie about what they want on there anyways. Atleast if I met someone in person, I could approach the situation more realistically instead of building up expectations in my head based on a few attributes listed on a dating profile.
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
Your first date should be a light low stress environment, somewhere quiet but public. I like a nice pub (London) on a weekday evening. In the USA that might be coffee in the daytime.
@luisavieira2985
2 жыл бұрын
@@simontmn Say NO to cofee dates!! Level up women!!
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
@@luisavieira2985 Personally I hate coffee dates, ideal first date is a nice quiet bar or wine bar.
@dead-prophet
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve had the same problem as well. I tend to overhype expectations in my head and have to struggle to bring them back down to reality. I don’t like to lead the conversation because I worry that I might become too domineering. Don’t worry, you are not alone.
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
@@dead-prophet You do need to be ready to lead; but you also need to leave plenty of space and be engaged with what the other person is saying.
@rachelpappin
2 жыл бұрын
If some people are struggling to find love and are tired of using social media to pick up people, that can be one other good way to meet people, because you put yourself out in public showing all the guys what you do for fun, they suddenly see you having a good time while you’re being your true self and the higher chance of one of those guys that was in the room with you will approach you to check you out! Because they find you attractive, the same thing can happen to men too if they are also looking for love with a woman 🥰
@Chahlie
2 жыл бұрын
Problem arises for rural people like myself- I go to town once a week or so and spend the rest of the time just gardening and working on my house and property. I've taken a part time job with a catering company but the events are mostly young weddings so not quite my demographic but at least it gets me out. I'm in an area that used to be farms but is now subdivisions, so the Saturday livestock auction is no more- it used to be a huge meeting place. Who would have thought we would be so disconnected in the modern world. I need to put more effort into this whole thing, but good grief it's 20 bucks in fuel just to go into town and back.....
@whitemakesright2177
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in a similar situation. I'm a young man (30 years old) living in a town of 3,500 people. As far as I can tell, there are no single young women (or men, for that matter) here at all. Only families and older people. All my dating prospects, and my entire social life, are 30+ minutes away. I've also found that the idea that "everyone knows everyone in a small town" is only true if you grew up there. If you're a newcomer, it's a struggle to meet anyone.
@HeartOfTheSource
7 ай бұрын
Wow. That sounds like the life I have dreamed of you have there! I want a good relationship with farming lol ✨ ✨
@andreaperales670
2 жыл бұрын
I loved it. That's true, but nowadays I think is difficult to find a person who want a real relationship
@hardywatkins7737
2 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to recover from severe depression at the moment without using meds. I am attending any group activity I can reasonably do. I attend the after-church 'social and coffee' even though I'm not a Christian, I'm attending a free art workshop (that's been the best for meeting women particularly even though it's not my main goal), the library, coffee mornings, I'm doing some food bank type volunteer work also and I've met a good many new people this year. I live in an average sized but not very busy town so I really have to use what is available, but with some effort and regularity I am indeed meeting new people.
@meley-eritreanwellbeingmed4010
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Matthew. Totally agree! My main issue- spending more time with regular people and I find it hard / uncomfortable to say ‘yes’ to new people. I definitely have to change .
@jelenar3952
Жыл бұрын
You are really beautiful
@LeMarais88
2 жыл бұрын
I dated quite a bit when I was younger. Most of it was via online because even though I’m an ambivert, I have a much higher percentage of introversion. It’s important to know your likes and dislikes, be honest with yourself and others, and look for those who share similar values. I was fortunate enough to find a high-value guy who shares lots of common interests with me via Match. We’ve been together for 21 years, 19 of those married 💗
@victoriaporsiempre
2 жыл бұрын
love to hear those stories because it gives me hope 😅
@lindalazda2617
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Matt. Needed to hear this. Booking plans to put myself in different environments, places etc.💪
@snehalvikash
2 жыл бұрын
When I smiled at a person (let's consider this the 10% proactive) from my gym (a place where I liked going and was really excited to go) that I recently joined and liked a guy, we started talking the next day and became friends. Unfortunately that was it because of certain circumstances but I smiled and he started the conversation so confirmation i guess lmao.
@iam.alexstarr
2 жыл бұрын
Lately, I joined a new gym and I started noticing these cool guys, which are quite shy to say anything first. So I decided to ease the effort and say something casual myself like "oh, how many sets have you got left?", "do you need these?", "could you help me?", "do you know how it works, show me". So giving them the platform to talk to me and showing them that I'm approachable, makes it easier for them to do the next step and ask for my number.
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for doing this!
@nogroup5861
Ай бұрын
As a man in a new small town, I tried: - Working out in a gym for a year, 3 times a week. The only "friend" I made was an old fat man. - I volunteered in the local animal shelter. I was so bullish about it, because I love animals and it was like 80% females there. Well... It didn't work. I just got out of it after 6 months.
@tgan71
2 жыл бұрын
Yesterday I watched a Matt video where he said don't go for someone with similar interests but similar values! 🤷♂️
@tomdrummy4984
2 жыл бұрын
A high value man does not “hang out” in a specific area. They are all over………and they know their value. They don’t chase, play games or do anything that the majority does. They may be having lunch alone……..it’s that person that everyone is looking at………..because they are fascinated because they are doing something different than most. A wealthy, single, quality man does not advertise wealth. He can also spot a quality woman, but most of the time women cannot spot him……..because they are too much up in their head, from past relationships. A relationship is about BOTH people putting in an effort. Lose the “attitude”
@jessame-zl8zn
2 жыл бұрын
very well said
@avyannadean
2 жыл бұрын
@Tom. You write as if from experience. Do you eat lunch alone?
@TarotTarot1
2 жыл бұрын
Tom, I’m reading this from northern Virginia in the US. What general area are you from? I’m wondering where common sense is located…I like your answer.
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
@@avyannadean Somebody has been listening
@ScottH7651
2 жыл бұрын
where I live, there IS a specific area where high value men hang out. It's called The Magic Spot. BTW, great comment, especially the point about BOTH people putting in effort. So many women think men should put in all/most of the effort while the women observe to see if the effort is good enough. I can smell those women pretty easily and avoid them like covid.
@shelleysanders9666
2 жыл бұрын
Have tried loads of things from 20’s plus (now 59); dance classes of differing types, volunteering, wine tasting course, adult ed. classes.. No luck for relationships (or even friends). As a low income single parent, have been trying on-line for a few years: get a few dates but not the right type of person with the right circumstances..
@topnotch8432
2 жыл бұрын
Were you going to places that your potential partner would be interested in? I strongly doubt a suitor would be attending wine tasting courses. Will there men going to wine tasting courses sure, some many? No
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
Do you have good female friends? You need to start with the basics and develop a solid friendship group so you are socially competent, then get used to talking with men - male friends are good - building up to being the kind of 59 year old woman that a high quality 65 year old guy would like to have on his arm. :) Make sure you take care of your appearance, your house should be reasonably tidy, and your attitude should be playful & positive.
@shelleysanders9666
2 жыл бұрын
@@simontmn Yes - I have a few close female friends, who are all married save for 1: so it’s day-time socialising as evenings/weekends they r with husbands. My interests attract couples & women and not single men!
@shelleysanders9666
2 жыл бұрын
@@topnotch8432 Actually, cultured men do go to wine tastings (I know some who do) & may do wine courses.. (though I found in my area it was attended by couples only)
@shelleysanders9666
2 жыл бұрын
@@simontmn Sadly two of my close male friends died of cancer (both I met when we were mature students). Since being 40+ (compounded by being a low income single parent), I found I simply don’t meet single men!
@Betsiemorris
11 ай бұрын
Damn….so this means I’m not going to meet the man of my dreams in my house hanging out with my dog because that’s where I am 🤣🤣🤣
@persephone8960
2 жыл бұрын
I just want to meet someone older, hardworking, firm leader, has a business or project he works on which he is passionate in, he is financially literate and successful. I just want to meet someone like that.
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
Me too maybe finance meetings and conferences or hotel business conferences perhaps
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
Ideas i have motorbike shows, antique fairs, car shows, travel, tours, sailing trips, country clubs, conferences, having lunch in quality areas, art galleries. Mind you ive not had much luck
@jt305
7 ай бұрын
it's depressing I really want to settle down 😢 I hate being single
@alicegoldenvalley
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Matthew, any advice for finding love when you’re chronically ill ( and very limited in terms of energy, and vulnerable health) ?
@cw8255
2 жыл бұрын
I really like his advices but stuff like that never ever happened to me. I have never dated a person that I was training with or went to school with or met in any real life situation. These kind of storys sound like a myth to me
@joellebaker9585
Жыл бұрын
I am a introverted type person and have a disability I feel so shy, vulnerable and exposed, taken out of my comfort zone, I really don't think a guy would want a person who is disabled, way too much responsibility for a guy I was used and abused by men most of my life as well, so I really don't think I can meet that special person
@yankrasnou8289
Жыл бұрын
Introverted guys want introverted wife’s. I don’t like girls that are too out there. Find a guy that is more of an introvert
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
I relate to your story. There is hope! Don't give up x
@ladyjessicaanne3195
5 ай бұрын
I walk slowly in the grocery store with no headphones, and are very open and smiling and approachable. Men are just way too intimidated to even speak. Same with the gym. I've been going to the gym for e months and have gotten 3 hellos... but nothing farther than that... I'm always alone, even will go to bar restaurant and eat alone in hopes to meet someone. But I'm very confident being alone and I'm very happy in my life. I'm going to try new social activities and see. Its just men i fi d attractive are too shy to approach, even after my signals for them to come and say hi ( exchnaging eye contact several times, smiles)
@johndonaldson3619
2 жыл бұрын
1. In a library 2 in a fashionable Cafe (NOT Starbucks) 3. At an members airport lounge
@Seren3ti
2 жыл бұрын
I like number three. An interesting option. That would tick a few boxes and beats the pub and an app. 💐🙏🏾
@cara4960
4 ай бұрын
golf courses art galleries casinos are a shot in the dark but you never know
@RetiredAndHappy-
2 жыл бұрын
Great ideas Matthew! I´m curious...where/how did you meet your fiancé?
@jenni230
2 жыл бұрын
Love it :) Really refreshing ideas. I can do 10% more.
@BeautifuLakesStreamsBiologists
2 жыл бұрын
Why go somewhere general to meet someone when that place does not define your interests or your soul? Personally, it is much more likely I meet someone interesting when I am just out for a hike. I've been bitten with smitten out there much more than once. I also find an easy smile is a magnet to people. Just a quick shy smile says plenty. A subtle signal is very important. Finally we all have our quirks for signals. If I see an active lady with her hair pulled back in a pony tail under a ball cap, I AM going to smile! .... by the way, if you can't get "out" there every day, go join a social media group that defines your most loved interests. It works. .... P.S. All the comments on this video were pretty enlightening. Thanks for them!
@hollywood25
2 жыл бұрын
As a guy that's attempting online dating, I can say that girls dont talk to the guys he's referring to. I know I'm not "chad" but know what I offer and I've had one girl respond in 2 months. I think there's just too much option in online dating, so we miss out on things thinking the next swipe will be better. However, while I agree with Matthew's assertion to be where people are, know that guys are told not to ask women out at certain places. I'm an introvert and the gym is one of the few places I go. I'm constantly told not to ask anyone out at the gym, because that's not why women are there🤷♂️
@michelleisplanning
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, its more of creepy guys checking us out.
@mette1983
2 жыл бұрын
U should give it a try at the gym
@SuperMurray2009
2 жыл бұрын
@@michelleisplanning women consider 80 percent of guys creepy
@jameswelch82
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I mean, unless your in the top 10-15% in physical attractiveness, online dating is going to be brutal. Side note, don't take dating advice from woman. All you actually need to know is if your really good looking you'll be fine. If not, than you need to become really good looking. If you had the personality of a soggy biscuit and the brain capacity of a burnt pop tart but you were really hot, you would still get woman. Being 6 foot is almost critical as well. If your 5'9 40% of women will reject you on your height alone. 5'8 is 50%. Any shorter and the data is absolutely brutal. Point is, just be hot. That's it.
@skyejacques
2 жыл бұрын
It depends how you approach things. In general, if you're happy with small talk for a while it can work. Vibes are everything. I wouldn't necessarily want to be asked out in my gym, I would really like to make friends there though. So maybe that's another way of doing things. I'm introverted too. Argh.
@Dinabergsweden
2 жыл бұрын
Where I live everyone got a dog, pandemic effect? See a lot of young men with dogs, so I use my two year old to interact with them, win win 🤣
@nursesam1740
2 жыл бұрын
LOVE how during the LIVE retreat Stephen was talking on Day #6 and he said, "and don't worry a lot of my references won't include Jujutsu" although; low and behold, and Matthew asks, "where you can find high value men?" and .....cue commentary from Stephen as he says..."Jujutsu!" BABHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA this was terrific! Thank you though for saying that we can find people where our interests are! I feel I need to get out to a concert, bar, or social events to meet guys when I can just do things I actually want to do!!! STUFF leads to STUFF! Thanks!
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
I long to be thrown head over heels by the woman I love
@BiniBoeva
2 жыл бұрын
So what are the activities that men enjoy??? I am into art for example, no men there. I love hiking, no men in the hiking groups too! Are men even interesting in doing something else apart for some gym?
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
No, and I can't even stand the gym. The only reason leave the house is for work or bootie calls.
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
Looool yes most men now are porn addicts
@deboramiracle5336
Жыл бұрын
I've actually learnt a whole lot from this video.... I'm gonna try doing the most social version of my favorite activities. I'm beginning to think this dating app of a thing is a total waste of time and energy. Still wandering if one can really meet high value and responsible guys on dating and blue app.
@hilarywhatley1335
9 ай бұрын
I like to go to board gaming meet ups. I do this anyway because I love board games (not your typical ones, btw, but rather, hobbyist board games). But boy is it a great place to meet men. There is an unbalanced ratio at these events! It's probably 5 to 1 male to female. Bonus? Lots of smart guys! Downside: physical fitness is not always valued by gamers. Still, it's pretty great. Haven't found my person yet, but have been asked out a lot. Bonus: you see the same people over and over at the recurring events, plus new people, which gives you a chance to get to know them on a deeper level, and make good friends. ALSO! After a good strategy game, we will often play a more social game (like Secret Hitler, Blood on the Clocktower, or Codenames). These games are AMAZING for creating flirting/banter opportunities and tension, and also lots and lots of laughter... it's AWESOME for creating connection.
@SeleneFaery
2 жыл бұрын
There's men at work, men at the gym, men at the supermarket. Yet I have yet to meet a man 🤣
@jt305
7 ай бұрын
not that easy though.... as a woman I drop something but I'm not going to ask a man out and chase that's his role
@DM-bx1zv
2 жыл бұрын
Ladies, tennis and golf are the best places. Not only are those activities done by athletic men, but since they can be expensive (especially golf), those are men with disposable income (if that appeals to you) Not a lot of women are in golf so there’s less competition - you stand out easier There’s potential for trips etc There’s also growing interest in cycling and line / step dance. Wanna catch prey, got to where the prey is.
@simontmn
2 жыл бұрын
You want something that maxxes social interaction opportunities, so casual team sports & classes probably better than lone activities like eg swimming, my interest (though the bikini chicks/hot dudes are a plus!)
@Chahlie
2 жыл бұрын
I go every so often to have lunch at the local golf course patio as it's a nice place and closest decent place to me. Problem at golf courses if you aren't golfing is the people are usually in groups.
@jt305
7 ай бұрын
@@Chahlieyea it looks weird alone
@utahnnajones598
2 жыл бұрын
Or you could create your own dating site🥰🥰🥰
@midnightblue1973
2 жыл бұрын
It's funny you mention farmers markets. One friend has actually told me that straight single men are rarely at a farmers market. I've been told often, "You won't find men in places you like to go (farmers markets and coffee houses) or who like the things you like (literature and art). Men don't like these things."
@dr.sammypryor
2 жыл бұрын
I did a tough mudder and I brought a guy with me! I wish I had gone single though so I could have met a guy!
@lavaniya85
2 жыл бұрын
Adding this video to my favourites. It ties up nicely with my plans post retreat. ❤. Love how you rope Jameson into your conversations...😁😁 X
@janicesmith3042
Жыл бұрын
it needs to be almost instant attraction for me like when I was younger. .. but red flags can happen within days..i was not aware od red flags except the strong feeling I had on our wedding day/ i just knew he would cheat on me one day. 18 years later he did. no excuses he felt guilty what he did to me with a complete stranger.
@arlenemontaner1146
2 жыл бұрын
Hello Matt ....safe and happy sunday,nice to see and hear from your new today🙏 watching from Riyadh KSA 🙏
@yorkshirelassdiaries4841
2 жыл бұрын
Needed this. I’ve become a hermit
@Adi-xs5dw
2 жыл бұрын
HIgh value guys? How many percent of men could be categorised to be high-value? 10? 5? 3? And how many percentage of women want to date, commit and get married to them? 80? 90? So the maths don't add up, supply and demand don't meet. Also, not all "high value" men want to commit and get married and stay that way til the end. Sad truth
@asterism.x
2 жыл бұрын
Be a HIGH VALUE WOMAN yourself, and you will also be in the top, not among the 80-90% of women. Be independent, successful, take care of yourself
@timjon1122
2 жыл бұрын
Not really. It adds up because the top 10, 5, or 3 percent of high value men are not interested in dating the 80 or 90% of women who want to date them. If you want the top 10% of men then you have to be in the 10% of women, it adds up.
@Adi-xs5dw
2 жыл бұрын
@@timjon1122 could be true, but many high value man tend to date casually not so high quality women insted of settling down straight with one.
@Brian-zc2ip
2 жыл бұрын
Adi... very few will actually get what you are saying here. Think about it ladies. 🤔
@Bells-ou1gj
Жыл бұрын
I love this video- simple, practical and realistic advice.
@elviratukaeva5650
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these 3 tips 🤓 really eye opening. I’ll go make a list of sociable variants of my favorite activities 😊
@krystalwirth9646
2 жыл бұрын
Dating apps suck 5 yrs off n on. No luck. The past 6 years I have attended many Meetup events, hiking, dining, comedy etc.. Still nothing. I've had gym memberships, no luck. I now attend hot yoga, mostly women but I'm not giving my yoga class up in hopes to meet some guy! I go out almost every weekend to Meetup events, and still short...Love must be Divine Timing or something.
@Red_1976
2 жыл бұрын
In my experience it’s when you’re not hunting that a man finds his way to you
@amandad.5813
3 ай бұрын
Great talk! Very high quality info here, you make VERY good points.. thank you so much for the advice! I will be looking into more of your videos!!
@largolagrande
2 жыл бұрын
But another good question.. where can we meet high value, healthy and quality women for a relationship?
@saraerobins2327
2 жыл бұрын
They r probably busy living their lives and not putting themselves on "display" . We're diamonds. Where do u find diamonds in nature? Hidden INSIDE the oyster. 😎
Don't ever ask woman for dating advice. You need to be really good looking. That's basically it.
@oemj7147
2 жыл бұрын
Good luck with that😀
@loryjones7220
2 жыл бұрын
Join Meetup groups. They're overcrowded with women.
@kumbasaidy9894
2 жыл бұрын
A place where a woman can get lots of men is at horse ridings at football matches which is occasional I know but during the time of the leagues which is not far from eachother and lots of men meet there l One can meet lots of men and then interact with them at pubs, casinos at churches also at theatres, cinemas at stations both train and bus trade car auctions art auctions art exhibitions and at farmers trading schemes etc
@susannebrowning7708
Жыл бұрын
There are mostly married men in BJJ… and not many that are older.
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
True that
@mamasitatita
2 ай бұрын
This is how my parents met. They just had their 50th anniversary!
@jadecreel9718
Жыл бұрын
Yes join a Jiu Jitsu gym. There are so many guys and we need more women on the mat. Plus it’s so much fun.
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
Done I need to go more but it wears me out
@Verasevos
7 ай бұрын
What kind of ppl join this gym just curious?
@GML2002
5 ай бұрын
😂
@ramparkash2318
2 жыл бұрын
Matthew another beautiful viedo from you. So inspiring. Nice sharing. Beautiful see to watch.
@consciousnesshealing
6 ай бұрын
Beautiful video 😊🙌🏽🌸💋 I hit all but 2 of the points. So I see my value and see where I have work to do. Thank you for sharing this!
@helenzielasek1812
2 жыл бұрын
Very good advices. Thank you for your Empathy. New Life in some way. Rooms to grow thank you so much, Mat!!!
@helenzielasek1812
2 жыл бұрын
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@Rickety3263
2 жыл бұрын
Church and places of worship and prayer. High value men seek Godly women
@alm8bob
2 жыл бұрын
My Church is full of women or men with a family attached to them.
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
@@alm8bob Nail polish remover
@doe7914
15 күн бұрын
@@Quizidomo 😀
@nm9412
Ай бұрын
Matthew you are Godsent!
@EvinNazya
Ай бұрын
Solid advice.
@altynaikurmanalieva2009
2 жыл бұрын
It was like an everest among of all videos, maybe because I was prepared enough by your previous videos to this one! Thank you 👍 😊 you gave me clear understanding more then any therapy! And any paid coaching
@hollytaylor-reeves
2 жыл бұрын
Lol just signed up for ju jitsu 😂🤠
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
Now do 10 break falls
@lightofall
9 ай бұрын
Me too haha shall we be friends
@yorkshirelassdiaries4841
2 жыл бұрын
Can’t we just clone Matthew Hussey? 🙈🙈❤️❤️❤️
@gloriacoleman7012
Жыл бұрын
This was really a good talk I am an old girl who doesn't get about very much but you have made a few good points,thankyou Matt.
@gwortman3515
2 жыл бұрын
I gave up trying online and accept whatever is IS
@carlosverde-datingtips7001
2 жыл бұрын
Great tips! If you want to start attracting “Men” instead of “Boys…” Become a High Value Woman on your Purpose, that way - you become the type of woman that men are naturally attracted to - because you’ll be in High Demand! Men are going to be able to sense that immediately, quality men that is! Men that have their lives together. And therefore, you won’t need to chase them, because they’ll be drawn to you - like a magnet! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@alm8bob
2 жыл бұрын
Most men like women half their age, no matter how uneducated they are or their values or their “quality”… they care just about aesthetics
@KakashiHatake-sg8ym
2 ай бұрын
This 8:00 moment happened when my parents met. At a random lake on a random bench because of a random book. They were married until death
@HkkkkH-co6wo
2 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video on South Asian dating/marriage culture
@Jess-hk6vv
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely loved this one and yeh one should try different scene and get wider outlook about people
@robertmayfield8746
10 ай бұрын
Nice recap and confirmation of what I was doing right. Thank you.
@marimarlotus7413
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Matt!! Amazing video as always!! I understand what you say but if you are a person who are spirituality and have a healthy and vegan lifestyle with a lot of love in arts is quite difficult to find similar people. I have met my ex in a team with spiritual issues but it was a disaster because the person was diagnosed with a mental health issue and also had serious family problems. I like Asian men but are far way from Greece and in language apps I have encounter sexting, nude videos, ghosting. I feel that is better to find them in a community you like and have interest in.
@samanthadawnNz
2 жыл бұрын
Same please more places for vegan or the like 🙏 this is perfect
@zitttu
2 жыл бұрын
Ive always wondered if that open communication to strangers would stay with someone whos married :) (just talking to someone who looks fun outside the group) I wish it could be, without it having to be a threat to the relationship
@travislivingston378
2 жыл бұрын
I think for women or girls that want a serious relationship even going places it's not like a movie like you might get lucky that way but most likely not, you have to deliberately talk to people get to know people it's only my opinion of course but that's my take on it
@aniab4306
2 жыл бұрын
Super useful video.thanks a lot❤
@zitttu
2 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for the rewind marker on spotify
@lindyska
2 жыл бұрын
Beautiful BEAUTIFUL and useful advices, thank you so much 🙏 a shy hi 👋 from an introvert 😁
@Quizidomo
2 жыл бұрын
Do you come here often?
@heavenbound777carrie7
2 жыл бұрын
Great advice thank you! 😊
@mariamissa4529
6 күн бұрын
Am single and searching
@LynneTimko
10 ай бұрын
Take your earbuds, headphones off and put away your phone when you do go out
@zalamboi
2 жыл бұрын
Where to meet a Matthew Hussey? 👀
@candysmith8724
2 жыл бұрын
What I used to do is dine in high end area restaurants at their lounge area and start talking to people. I preferred the high end places because the quality of men were quite different from a local bar. Typically sophisticated men who appreciate the finer things in life and a classy woman. Note: order 1 drink or glass of wine (don't order beer, I would sip a martini) and something to nibble on, don't get sloppy, you will want to be able to carry on a conversation without embarrassment. The right men will not be impressed with a lose-lipped woman under the influence. Keep it classy!
@jt305
7 ай бұрын
that's what escorts do hotel and luxury resturant bars
@SairaNadeemzzd
2 жыл бұрын
Very nice tips n tricks n advices . I am going. To change my focus from Where to who :)
@andjelakastratovic2197
5 ай бұрын
I am still looking for men 27 almost ❤😂 hoping I will find someone worthy it is so hard
@janiemiller459
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Matthew! I subscribed too!
@ananyasarkar8773
2 жыл бұрын
Insightful video!
@shebyj
2 жыл бұрын
Really good advice! Thank you :)
@aureliagbekle9872
2 жыл бұрын
Third yeeeeyyyy.God bless u dear. Straight off to look for them lollllll
@kflecha1
2 жыл бұрын
I ask this question so much.. Where I can find valuable men 😆 Whereee.!! Omg 😱
@violetiris2888
Жыл бұрын
I’d love to hear his commentary on how this works for social conditioning on who is acceptable to date and why. Such a broad stroke of “do this and it may work” without taking in the variables that what you look like or who you are is going to negate all of this pretty actions.
@amiramahgoub
Жыл бұрын
They are never happy with their partners. That what I'm seeing here with my ex. When they fight and no longer together. They comes back to me for a while just to waste my time instead of finding the love of my life. So I know how its feel. The funny thing is... They find away away back together while I'm still suffering my loneliness and singleness . no change. Thanks body
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