Feeling better starts with a single message! Get $100 off with code JBRO : bit.ly/3yD01PX Let us know your thoughts on MARRIAGE. such a fascinating topic that everyone has an opinion on.. are you looking forward to getting married? are you married ? . PS. we are taking a flight out to Los Angeles in 9 hours. SO EXCITED. Stay tuned for very serious vlogs in California. ❤️❤️ LOVE, JBRO
@aha_Sai_Ra
3 жыл бұрын
Early start to Memorial Day weekend vacation, I see!! But knowing the JBro it will be a "working", *Super Productive* holiday/LA trip, of course!! 😎
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a very big leap for me but very exciting too, it's like a glorified pinnacle that's true and I definitely feel like I have won something when I decide to get married, because I know, that's what I want and that's what I choose and that's the peak of my happiness when I can live together with the man I love, it doesn't mean without obstacles, but with love, I think all problems can be overcome, marriage is not easy but if both of them want to try and have the same perception and taste, I think marriage will remain stable and lasting until the end of time.
@seljiang
3 жыл бұрын
Can you guys please come to Ktown? 🥺 I want to see you guys!
@ExoBau
3 жыл бұрын
I’m 31 not married. Marriage for me is not a must thing to happen, although I believe you should marry the one that you know will be with you the rest of your life, that one man that you can see together holding hands even in your 80s. I used to keep looking for the person who I was gonna get “married” to but one day I decided that maybe is not gonna happen to me or maybe it will be later years so I stopped worrying about it. I know I want to be a mom one day and of course I want a father for my kids, but it’s not something that takes away my sleep at night.
@kaifianaaz9986
3 жыл бұрын
@@ExoBau wow u spoke my mind and trust me You spoke for almost all the girls around regardless of the age. It has to be a partnership and not a burden. A space and not suffocation.
@NoH2O4U
3 жыл бұрын
Life is rough, marry someone who makes you laugh.
@leirabetances4553
3 жыл бұрын
I disagree a little i think is good is that person make you laugh but I think the best is if they don't make you cry. Because is she/he make you laugh only because they make you cry is not worth it. But I understand what you think. 😁
@NoH2O4U
3 жыл бұрын
@@leirabetances4553 The most tragic life stories are held by comedians because laughter turns sadness into hope. Every human being on earth has caused someone to cry. Every human being has found solace in being able to laugh. I wish world peace, end to hunger but most of all the feeling of a hug for all.
@Maya_Star8
3 жыл бұрын
Your cmt hits me :(((
@WinterScorpio
Жыл бұрын
I've just come across a KZitem recommend video. I must say it's a very fresh topic (even if it's a century old conversation with friends) it's interesting to hear from men point of view. For me who is in my 40s, my parents had given up asking me to get marry. I can take care of myself. Also know how to make little happiness out of the environment where I am. They leave me alone. I think, its better not to pressure anyone in any age to get marry for the sake of tradition or family or duty. Ultimately it boils down to two person who are involved.
@joehannatadena6571
3 жыл бұрын
Marry a person , if you are ready to be a husband, or wife ' and you most ready physically, mentally, and Emotionally , 😁
@tokki8070
3 жыл бұрын
Shackled? Well, a lifelong relationship with the right person would lead to freeeeeedom, freedom to be loved, to love and do FUN STUFF TOGETHER!!! You men are so sweet~ thanks for sharing your heart (desires, questions and worries) on this video~ God’s blessings to you as you search, wait and prepare for your lady to come your way~ 좋은 사람을 만나길 기도합니다 💕 아재 개그를 계속해주세요~
@roseannerandoy1840
2 жыл бұрын
Why do I mostly felt I want to cry when stuff like this is on topic. 😅 Maybe seeing my friend getting married soon makes me feel alone. But cheers to that, for being brave. Just hold on and keep on fighting. 🐶🐻❄️
@lissm96
3 жыл бұрын
I think marriage requires a lot of effort and honestly I don’t feel ready. Perhaps I’m too young (mid 20s) or haven’t found the right person. Idk I just don’t feel like it’s a priority. Great vídeo!! Love from PR ♥️
@jc-wn3ps
3 жыл бұрын
Mr Chen will be the first to get married among u 4 next would be Tim
@EvaMariposa
3 жыл бұрын
That screaming kid in the back had the perfect timing to help them decide not to have kids 😂
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
John is used to crying kids so he will get married first..
@EvaMariposa
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION lol yes, i'm sure his selective hearing is in top shape 😂
@dixieeillen
3 жыл бұрын
Have dogs instead 😉😁
@jia03130
3 жыл бұрын
😂
@upthedown1
3 жыл бұрын
Haha crying babies and loaded diapers🙄
@eriannegutierrez3661
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who’s single and spends majority of her time studying medicine, I am actually seeing myself in the future as the single aunt who loves to spoil her future nieces and nephews 😂
@mevans3291
3 жыл бұрын
It's not my first choice and I wish I could getting married but I think you and I will be in the same situation
@thepassionatereader839
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@sandrak4032
3 жыл бұрын
Same, but to be honest I actually want to focus on my career!
@arshpreetkaur9
3 жыл бұрын
@@sandrak4032 me too.
@safiaahmed724
3 жыл бұрын
I have a friend who fits your description. She is the single aunt who loves her nieces and nephews. Her siblings have their own lives and she is the ones who had taken care of her parents until one just recently passed away and was left to concentrate on the surviving parent. She’s very alone since her nieces and nephews have their own lives too. She often wishes she had pursued relationships instead of concentrating on her career.
@sarahkimchan550
3 жыл бұрын
When over the years someone has seen you at your worst, and knows you with all your strengths and flaws, yet commits him- or herself to you wholly, it is a consummate experience. To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. -Tim Keller. This is what marriage is to me. Striving every single day to receive and give this kind of love.
@axbeta0079
3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful and true words.
@benp3485
3 жыл бұрын
I love this quotation, are you single Sarah?
@pumpkincitygirl1682
3 жыл бұрын
So nice to hear ya'll talking about this...John almost fainting when his turn came to speak was hilarious 😂🤣
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is not his forte😍
@pumpkincitygirl1682
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION we never know he could be the first one amongst you all😷🤣🤣
@OlyaZakharova208
3 жыл бұрын
Almost fainting is hilarious 😅
@chanmi.j
3 жыл бұрын
A friend once told me that "the one" isn't a specific person that you wait your life to find, it's the person you CHOOSE to pursue, fight for, and love.
@pkay2227
3 жыл бұрын
I used to think that getting accepted to medical school (insert goal of choice - dental school, pharmd, finishing PhD, etc) was the pinnacle of my education. Little did I know that that was only the beginning of a very long journey. Marriage is hardly the pinnacle of a relationship. It is truly only the beginning of a long journey.
@CutiePie-jg6oy
3 жыл бұрын
Its a long journey...even after finished residency and became a consultant...
@northmann1971
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is not for the weak, the selfish, the insecure.
@yoda1mama4
3 жыл бұрын
Amen to that! There is no marriage that is PERFECT…❤️ But there’s 2 imPERFECT people that decided to LOVE & RESPECT each other, and make that commitment. May GOD help you find that imPERFECT person that you can do LIFE with❤️
@mitchi9677
3 жыл бұрын
Me and my boyfriend are in our mid 30's and have been in a relationship for almost 7 years and only last year we talked seriously about getting married. You see, we are both independent and bless with having amazing jobs, financially stable and bought our own house individually. In the end, we have the same goal of having a family, kids and to be able to provide for our future. Guys, don't get pressured when your close friends settling down with marriage. Stay focus on your goal. Finding the right partner may take some time but it will be worth it when you find the right one. Cheers and all the best.
@dragonboy718
3 жыл бұрын
perfectly said...plus, there is nothing like good friends (bros) to hang out with , which will drastically decrease if you become married
@roseannerandoy1840
2 жыл бұрын
I want to keep in mind your last sentences. At my age now I am quite anxious as I see my friends being in a relationship. But I still believe that God has something for me. I just need to hold on and pursue my goals. 👍 Fighting
@jadew8018
3 жыл бұрын
I actually agree with Jason on discussing serious future stuff during the bf/gf stage. And to kinda give you two different perspectives on marriage from a convo I had with my ex. Some people like myself (romantics) view marriage as being with your best friend every day and learning to love and grow together but with that comes sacrificing time, energy, and money to give as much as you can to this person. The other side, my ex's viewpoint, was that he felt that he'd never get married because he couldn't love someone more than he loved himself and he wasn't willing to care for someone who needed to be cared for if it was something that was a lifelong illness or challenging issue (like for example if you had a child who had developmental issues or if his wife got into a bad accident )(his words). There does need to be an element of respect and trust that if you don't reach it mixed with not talking about how you'd raise kids or how you would react to random stressors (loss of a job, getting in an accident, loss of a family member, financials) you can blindly jump into something that later down the line you might resent the other person for or your different opinions might make living together very taxing. A lot of people get divorced over financial issues, wanting/ not wanting kids, and not spending enough quality time together. But that's also why a lot of people will marry others in the same profession or similar profession as them or similar schedules to help with that whole schedule thing. I could write more but definitely think about taking a class on marriage from a licensed marriage therapist even if you're single it really changes your perspective on everything.
@herbertchin3171
3 жыл бұрын
Just booked a dental appointment for my 5 years old and I was thinking if we live in NY, I will take her to John 😀😀 love to watch your videos. But, from my own experience, the more you analyze about marriage, the more difficult to enter one. Listen to your friend, just go with flow. 😉 good luck! You will find one eventually.
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Senor Chen and Senor Chin = wisdom
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
I know what Jason means, that the person who was his girlfriend might change when she becomes his wife and Jason is scared that his love will fade away once he finds out that his outlook and mindset is very different from his wife's, well that's why Jason, when we go out with someone, or dating her, we do not just have fun or eat at a restaurant, but when we approach and date someone, it's good that we discuss a lot of things with her, including ur personal problems or etc, so we know the mindset and future goals of marrying her... Similarity of goals and mindsets is very important when we all getting married, so we must discuss it before marriage, so that we know what the desires are and the purpose for u and ur patner to live together and make a commitment 😁
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
The wisdom in this comment though 👏👏👏 As a "married" bro couple, we approve this msg
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION 😅😅😅I'm honored 😁 and I know I look "pro" in this situation, but this is actually a normal thing, because if we want to get to know someone "deeper" of course we can't just have fun all the time, the quality of the conversation is important here, and both parties must know what they want, how their future lives and what their goals are, because equating vision, mission and goals in marriage is not easy, it is as difficult as combining the views of investors with clients and how much the broker should get from clients 😅😆
@neycongjuico7395
3 жыл бұрын
This! Communication is very important. It’s something that was so lacking in my own asian experience and I saw that reflected in my parents and in my own upbringing. And everyone communicates differently, so even that needs to be compatible with your partner. Or at the very least, take time in the relationship to understand how the other communicates, as it is often the lifeline of a relationship.
@Lyssie710
3 жыл бұрын
“I don’t know about marriage...let’s talk about bachelor parties.😏” Me: Envisioning them dancing in the bathroom mirror again 😁
@wonaugust5721
3 жыл бұрын
On the contrary, John looks like the most capable/ready for marriage 😀
@littlelilacbunny
Жыл бұрын
🥹🥹🥹
@vaishnavibalaji8575
3 жыл бұрын
All my friends are getting married and having babies, I'm here trying to get through grad school 😭. It's such a coincidence that y'all decided to make this video. The only thing worse than all this is my desi mom asking me about grandkids.
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Tell mom that grandkids are overrated hahah
@chandaraduongmeas897
3 жыл бұрын
I totally understand, I'm in the same position, trying to get through pharmacy school. I'm sure we make the right decision, keep up the good work, you almost there :)
@baotruong248
3 жыл бұрын
I was in your boat. High school classmates all married with kids but my college friends are all unmarried being post grad school and doing residencies. I'm three years post pharmacy school and I'm just trying to pay off my six figure student loans. I don't want to get married or have kids unless I'm financially stable. Even with my biological clock ticking, kids are a huge investment of time, money and energy. Unless your mom is offering free childcare, I told my mom to wait lol.
@vaishnavibalaji8575
3 жыл бұрын
@@chandaraduongmeas897 thanks for the encouragement 😭! It's tough but continuing school is the best thing for our career
@vaishnavibalaji8575
3 жыл бұрын
@@baotruong248 true! Kids are expensive. Not only do you need to be financially stable to have them, which is next to impossible in your 20s, it would require a lot of sacrifice and hard work. I don't wanna miss out on professional opportunities after spending thousands of dollars in tuition, so that I can accommodate a child I'm not equipped to care for.I'd rather be a selfish childless prick than be a terrible mother. Also, good luck with paying off your student loans!! I hope you become debt free soon.
@s.s.s4269
3 жыл бұрын
Simple, I'm a romanticist, so I believe in marriage, no matter how people view marriage is. Giving your lifelong commitment to someone is something I long since forever. The problem is that, most of us haven't found THE ONE yet that's why we "feel" like marriage is not for us. That's what I believe😂😂😂
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Wow that is deep 😭😭
@s.s.s4269
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION That's because everyone I met they said the same thing about marriage; they feel like marriage is "unnecessary" etc. But once they found someone they truly love, most of them forget what they've said or viewed about marriage. 🤣🤣. Like my dad said, once you fall in love, you just dunno what's gonna happen😂😂😂
@fromaudreykao
3 жыл бұрын
tbh being a dad seems like john's calling!!!
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
That's why he is papa john~
@graceyfreeman2502
3 жыл бұрын
That's why he's in pediatric dentistry
@thaethazin8490
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage isn't just about two people in love getting together. I can't speak for all but as a woman in her late 20s, I have started thinking about marriage and kids. I don't necessarily want a kid as I am still in the early stage of my career but there is this biological clock that concerns me. Not only that women usually have to put their career on hold when they have a kid and it can be very stressful. Marriage is hard work. So, when your long-term girlfriend asks you, "What's next?". Don't freak out and be honest about your intentions. We are all at different stages in our lives and have goals and ambitions. If you aren't ready, LET HER KNOW. Don't waste someone's precious time by keeping her in limbo. It's always best to have these conversations with your partner openly. ✌️
@onyxmistique
3 жыл бұрын
I’d like to share with you guys my fave quote: “A true relationship is about two imperfect people coming together and not giving up on each other”. I am just 6 months into my marriage and have learnt so much in just these couple of months, and me and my partner’s love for each other has deepened even more (Beyond our 7 years of dating 😳). Prioritising your half and knowing he/she has got your back all the time (in fact a lifetime), it’s a beautiful thing. 😊
@nainasingh2863
3 жыл бұрын
No one is 100% selfless tho.... It's just something we learn gradually when we're with people we love and cherish it comes naturally.
@majaremigio7729
3 жыл бұрын
In marriage, always remember your commitment. Be willing to learn and grow. Learn how to move on from arguements and laugh it up. Pay attention to little things. 😉
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
So simple but not easy haha
@majaremigio7729
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION exactly! 😉 Before getting into it, you only don't think once, twice but a million times. It's either you're in or out. That's only a one time commitment. 😊
@Txtysbth0304
3 жыл бұрын
About the marriage, inspite of being a woman and “biological clock” ticking ( i am 33), I never felt a rush because the reason for marriage at this time is so irrational. They say one need to get married for partnership but at the moment people hardly give it all to keep this partnership. If child is a reason, we never knoe how they will turn out in future. If the reason is to be taken care in future, ample resources can guarantee that. In the current time, marriage doesnot hold the same meaning as before. One of the selfish reason, is not being wanted to tied down. As of now there is enough in the plate with dishes of responsibility. So to add another person in life is like being more chained. Having said all this, there was one time in life i felt just a deep loneliness while listening to song called marriage by moon moon. After listening to song with subtitle, i broke down to tears for correctly picturing the life i was living.
@gwillis01
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage has a huge effect on every single part of your life. It is either the best feature of your life or the worst feature of your life. An appropriate partner makes your life blissful and calm. An inappropriate partner makes you feel empty, sad and even more lonely than if you were living alone on purpose.
@trishanamckenzie8656
3 жыл бұрын
The reason why a lot of marriage fail now a days is because of lack of commitment, the vow states for better or worse but many people want to dictate what worse looks like so when its not the worse they sign up for they quit. I have never heard any couple say they have been happily married for 40 years, we are all human, they get tired of each other I bet but they stick it out until the love comes back.
@PerfectNightHere
3 жыл бұрын
My parents are happily married for 41 years. So so are my friends' parents. ALL OF THEMMMMM. I think its just generations thingy.
@sheila3936
3 жыл бұрын
I think higher divorce rates are a change in the times too. With the world at our fingertips it’s easier to grow in different directions and eventually no longer be compatible. Also, women being able to work outside the home has allowed independence that many would not have had before. When hubby was the only one earning money and controlled the finances women were financially and socially trapped.
@PerfectNightHere
3 жыл бұрын
@@sheila3936 you sound like women are the one causing higher divorce rate. Lol.
@sheila3936
3 жыл бұрын
@@PerfectNightHere statistically, women do initiate divorce more often, around 70% I believe. I’m not saying women are at fault if a marriage breaks down; it takes two people to create a good relationship. But I do think women have a lot more independence and freedom than before so we don’t have to stick around if it’s not working. Lower divorce rates in the past doesn’t mean they were happier or more committed, it could largely have been there were fewer options and societal pressures. From a man’s stance generations ago, divorce would be difficult because who looks after the children, one income might not support two households and the social stigma of no longer being a good “family man”, so I’m sure some of them felt stuck as well.
@jodyatienza6153
3 жыл бұрын
Some people get married because they're madly inlove, and some because they just want companion for life.
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Which one are you?
@jodyatienza6153
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION First one! 😊😅
@RituVerma27
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION none
@elifpalyos8151
3 жыл бұрын
All my friends are married with kids and marriage scares me to death. I can't imagine sharing myself with someone yet alone kids💆♀️ I plan to stay as the crazy single aunt that my friend's kids love😀
@happysmilees
3 жыл бұрын
Wow my feeling of marriage is so similar to John!! I need a part 2 of this.. I think it all comes down to meeting the right person at a good timing of your life. It’s so interesting how marriage culture differs between the states though. From Texas, and in my mid 20s and half of my friends are married and the other half are single af 😅
@got7ornothing452
3 жыл бұрын
Me being a 25 yrs old single introvert homebody can never relate to marriage. Can't even find a single relationship let alone marriage. Maybe 20 yrs later, i will be saying the same thing, 45 yrs old and still can't relate.
@carlacambio
3 жыл бұрын
Rule 1#: talk to someone who has a successful marriage!
@EstiloBellaLuz
3 жыл бұрын
Ohhh some "Español" i always enjoy this kind of cool videos topics!! 🤭🤭🙏
@x3imrachell
3 жыл бұрын
To me, marriage isn’t the “goal” of a relationship. As someone who has been in a relationship for 5+ years, I’ve found it more enjoyable to live for the experiences and challenges we have and will face. I used to care a lot about preparing our relationship for marriage, but realized worrying about solidifying our future took away so much from our current “now,” which has honestly been an amazing journey. I’m 26 btw, so def feel my biological clock ticking but lowkey kind of just ignoring that for now lol
@That_SamSam
3 жыл бұрын
Wow! I think it's wonderful to watch and learn from a man's point of view. I appreciate how everyone was respectful and receptive of each person's thoughts/views on marriage. I've been with my man for 19 years and we still aren't officially married. We have kids and I always joke he's my baby daddy 😂. All jokes aside, we've come to the conclusion that we are "married" based on how we've grown together and how overtime we have become selfless because it sure did not start out that way.
@MijisChoice
3 жыл бұрын
Nice topic! Nice video! 😊😊😊⚘
@aps1472
3 жыл бұрын
You know the person is the one when you couldn’t imagine your life without her/him
@AngelaYu
3 жыл бұрын
just love how straightforward John is, no dodginess
@jodyatienza6153
3 жыл бұрын
"Let's not talk about girls" - coming from Jason 🤣 And the level of seriousness that John gave on this vlog 🔥😆
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
To be fair he lasted 12 seconds 😂
@jodyatienza6153
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION 🙌🙌🙌 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
@ehdzlehdzl2
3 жыл бұрын
Hearing them talk makes me feel so lucky to have a boyfriend who is always giving me his 100%
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
Jason wasn't ready to get married because he hasn't feel settled down yet, feels that he hasn't been able to provide the best for his family and may not feel capable enough to make his family happy in the future, because of that he is not interested in marriage and long-term commitments, but beyond all that, he will become a good father I think, he's a good person after all 😊.
@kkulhan_
3 жыл бұрын
I think John will get married in 2-3 years
@bhingp1015
3 жыл бұрын
U married to the person, and say to urself this is it I FINALLY FOUND THE ONE 😜
@Nursetildaedison
3 жыл бұрын
As individuals and married couples, we all have challenges that comes up throughout our life time. The only way a marriage can last is if both are ready to make a lifetime commitment which is really hard these days to find to two people willing to sacrifice their happiness at different times to make the marriage work.
@heeckypi01
3 жыл бұрын
Yes to everything john said. Not because im a simp for him (maybe just a little), but because it’s how i view marriage too hahah. However my conclusion is different, im trying to find someone that i’ll fight for. Not seeing his weakness as weakness, but just a part of him. Not expecting him to love me forever, but i’ll still be able to live and smile with him. In a way, i always know that my expectations wont get meet, so im trying not to be naive and set our expectations together :) he’s him, and i’m me, and if we’re compatible, it should be easier to have a talk and work on our relationships together.
@thebiancah9
3 жыл бұрын
I think that if you find the right person, it’s a no brainer that this is it for life, and that it is surprisingly easy (relative to other people you’ve dated). I think kids are seen often times as a liability, but with the right person, it’s almost magical to imagine a combination of yourself and your partner - a gift.
@thebiancah9
3 жыл бұрын
Also I think that being romantic and pragmatic are not mutually exclusive. The best relationship is one that is both. I think being pragmatic at times, allows you to be romantic at other times. If you get what I mean. Eg being pragmatic and laying out to your partner pre-marriage about finances and child care, allows for a marriage that is more figured out and therefore can allow for a good relationship and romance (something like that hahaha)
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
Insightful . Youre right it’s likely a combination , and yes to liability considerations
@nekojoe1305
3 жыл бұрын
BEST thing DON'T GET MARRIE AND NO KIDS.... Both of these are just to much
@dawnp9805
Жыл бұрын
Just stumbled onto your channel and love it! It’s refreshing to see men discuss topics in a very human way that doesn’t take away from the seriousness of it. As someone who WAS married before; I can only speak from my experience. Date for at least 12-18 months to learn as much as you can about one another. Second, pay attention to red flags about their character because in the end, these things you may ignore for attraction, quirks, etc; will be the very things you will not be happy with long term.
@flocornu7418
2 жыл бұрын
Why you even get married ?😂guys don’t complicate your life 🙈😂😂
@natashakerrigan
2 жыл бұрын
Watching these conversations about marriage with you guys is extremely interesting. I think it has a lot to do with the generation you have grown up into. Marriage became a “fantastical” idea rather than a natural and comfortable progression in life as you grow. What I mean about fantastical is that you seem to describe it in terms of ideals and some what unrealistic “hypotheticals”. Perhaps it is a cultural thing. I am Korean but was adopted. I consider my culture to be American but my heritage Korean. All I know to be true is that marriage isn’t this pinnacle of life to be reached. It’s a true moment of finding someone that you perhaps never imagined meeting. Having an indescribable connection that you realize you never want to end. When I was single I always was asking “how do you know” to my married friends. To what they responded to, “you’ll know when you know.” What a horrible reply to a single girl who wants the specifics!! But they were right. When I met my husband - we were engaged 2 months later after meeting. My family was nervous about how fast we were moving so we waited a year to get married. That was a bad idea looking back at it. We shouldn’t of let my families opinions change our plans. But in the end it all worked out. My advice that you aren’t asking for is simple. Be open. The more I’ve listened to a few of your discussions it seems the longer you go being single talking about ideal types, marriage aspirations, relationship standards the more complicated it comes off. I want her to be like this. I want it to be like that. The problem with having all these “I’s” or these standards is that it leaves very little flexibility in meeting someone who is extremely special. Before you even enter the relationship world there is a box to live in for her and for you. Just keep approaching it with a KISS philosophy. Keep it simple stupid. Lol. This means that you keep looking for “the one” rather than settling for anyone. Have your standards sure. But leave room for how you “both” want to see your relationship grow. I’ll be honest with you. The relationships that last the longest are the ones people are more willing to say “we” rather than “I”. True love isn’t a feeling. It’s a decision to say that you’re willing to put someone else’s needs above yourself. Not in a toxic or unhealthy way that is manipulative. But simply - things like - she worked a long day I’m going to make dinner tonight. You maybe had a long day also, but you’re concern your mind is on her. In response, she wakes up early in the morning to make you breakfast before work because she thinks, “He has to eat a good meal because I know he doesn’t have time for a good lunch today because of his schedule he told me about.” It is a constant mutual effort to express this selflessness and commitment to each other. It will not be perfect. There will be conflict. This is natural. What you do with it and how you navigate it will make all the difference. Be willing to listen before speaking. Forgive and grow through it. Remember that you love each other and that your worth the work it takes to keep moving forward. My marriage hasn’t been perfect. I didn’t sign up for perfection. My vows said it all. For better for worse. That’s what I signed up for. Celebrating 16 years - May 20th and our beautiful 4 kids. God is good. I commend you both for putting so much thought into your futures. Just asking for you both to consider leaving some space for the unexpected but yet welcomed stuff that surely is bound to happen. 😉
@madhvidaxini4120
3 жыл бұрын
I so so agree with John when we said about his perspective of marriage. ❤️ You never hesitate or feel skeptical about marriage when you find your "THE ONE" .
@neruaLR
3 жыл бұрын
When I was younger I wanted to get married because that was the thing you did. You grew up got a job and got married had kids . . . . The longer I stay single the less I feel the need to get married.
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
The right one is around the corner though 👀
@neruaLR
3 жыл бұрын
@@JBRODUCTION 👀
@Acceptheavenshelp
3 жыл бұрын
When you meet the right person it will flow easily !!
@nikehutagaol5529
3 жыл бұрын
this is so funny, maybe if someone asked me about marriage, i would definitely give the same expression as john. lol. 😂 But I agree with Jason. One of the things to fear when choosing to marry someone is the change before and after marriage. that's why I chose to take a wedding class at church to prepare myself to be a good helper for my husband one day. I suggest that all of you can do the same with me😝✌
@anamenouknow5197
3 жыл бұрын
Most of my friends are in some form of relationships but I am not and i used to feel kinda low about it. But you guys are so relatable and that's why I love watching you. Nowadays, I understand love ain't that important.
@MisoPawspective
3 жыл бұрын
you don't choose your mom, but you can pick who you want to get marry to, i think maybe that why it's hard to love someone unconditionally
@asoomalbalushiya5587
3 жыл бұрын
Being youngest child waiting for my turn as my siblings are yet to marry jk... As I have seen my parent married life was soo perfectly maintained by their teamwork. I have learnt the true meaning of partnership from them unfortunately I was so much fantasized with the #perfectcouple thing but now Ik marriage is not fairytale but a other name of being patience(with choice)
@snowstar000
3 жыл бұрын
When Timothy claims he’s a foodie but John starts laughing when he asks what are tostones..I just had to comment though he’s so cute and naturally funny ..And John, when asked about marriage , his first response was he wants kids.. Definitely marriage material..He will be such a cute dad...
@aha_Sai_Ra
3 жыл бұрын
**Chukahae**, ~*Felicidades*~ , ~*☆Congratulations☆*~!!! On your 'Silver Play Button' Award!!!! Very excited & elated for your channel!! 🤩🤩 I was listening so intently that I didn't realize your discussion in the video ended already? Your current opinions about marriage in a general context may change in the future. We all grow and evolve as we age. In April/May 2022/2023, you both may have totally different perspectives. Just like how you two are not even thinking and feeling the same from April/May 2019. I am stating this as an audience viewer person from watching the your vlogs from 2019 and vlogs now in 2021. Jason and John here are slightly different people now. Slightly older (in age) and sprinkle of wiser in April/May 2021. 😊 Looking forward to Summer 2021 of JBro!!! ☀️🌻☀️🕺🏻☀️
@suuyanful
3 жыл бұрын
When you guys find the answer to a loving commitment in marriage, can you give me a call and tell me ? That would be great 😂 I wish I can add my two sense into this topic but I am as single as a Pringle at the age of 26. I guess if I find someone who I know I want to give them everything they ever wanted, I'll know that I want to get married. Until then, I will be my own sugar mama. 🤣
@JBRODUCTION
3 жыл бұрын
I second the single self-trestin' suga mama life:)
@Emilyghe
3 жыл бұрын
I’m pretty sure Jason will get married before John😝
@cha-no6mz
3 жыл бұрын
i don't know why 임재범 on the background is making me wanna cry.
@marishu4193
2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are like the real version of the tv show how i met your mother 👌
@snowstar000
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage sounds like such a beautiful thing but is a lifelong commitment along with good communication and compatibility.. It sounds kind of sad when Jason said the person you loved as a girlfriend/ boyfriend might not be the one you’ll continue loving as a wife/ husband.
@nivedithananda4276
3 жыл бұрын
I have used the same analogy as you John previously. Glad to hear that someone also have the same perspective. what I noticed is with family we are accepted for what we are completely along with blunders, stupidity at times & lot of silly habits n all . In relationship we are judged for the mistakes not accepted completely. when we are understood and accepted instead of being judged every marriage is successful I feel. I love kids alot. In the process of being adults, we unknowingly learned to assess others(positive , negative, good, bad etc.. ). kids always teach to be selfless towards every living form around them. Won't it be very lucky to have a partner who see you beyond the words, just focuses on intensions and having kids who makes you love without restrictions. So I'm going to ask myself Can I live with the other person without changing anything about him before my marriage?
@florence3448
3 жыл бұрын
As a young adult, I never thought about marriage until I came to Christ at 19. Prior to that, I took dating really casually. But after experiencing the love of God, I would say my dream in life is to have a family with the man God has for me, and love my husband with all my heart. I can’t explain how I changed my mind so much about marriage, as I use to be very much not about commitment. But I guess that’s what happens when you fall in love with Jesus 💛
@7521824
3 жыл бұрын
Jason’s expression... It seems that Taiwanese Cindy will introduce a good girl for him. I really help J-Bro find a good girl. I have subscribed to J-Bro’s videos, and Jason is looking for Alisa (Taiwanese Girl), she is a good girl, 31 years old, currently single, no boyfriend, Dr.Jason graduated and likes to read. This girl graduated from the Chinese Department of National Taiwan University. National Taiwan University is the top university like Seoul University in South Korea. It is very difficult to apply. Because of her good performance at Taiwan University, the Taiwan government pays her to go to in . As an exchange student for one year, she can speak simple Korean and her English proficiency is quite good. She can speak three languages, Chinese, Korean, and English, so she joined a well-known TV station in Taiwan as soon as she graduated. Does Jason like such a girl^^!?Taiwanese Cindy spacial srivce for J-bro😁🤓😉
@gloriamata9497
3 жыл бұрын
May i know the tittle of the song pls :::::
@EliBananie
3 жыл бұрын
It was really nice to hear guys’ perspectives on marriage. I’d like to think I’d get married one day. And that person is someone who I’d fully commit to. I don’t really consider things as sacrificing time, energy, etc for because I’d want to give them my time, energy, etc. because they’re worth it to me. And it’s a life long journey to keep bringing out the best in each other (though I’m sure there will be disagreements). But learning from each other and continuing to be better is something I’ve always wanted in a partner. Someone that inspires me to keep improving! Of course, no talk of marriage until I have a stable career and get my DVM. I think as a woman watching this, I’m just happy that not everyone is getting married in their early 20’s. I don’t feel so bad now that I’m almost 30 and single. I was worried for the longest time how I kept growing older but haven’t found “the one” and my class mates all being married just made me feel like I was behind the curve.
@natesha1449
3 жыл бұрын
This was a nice and honest talk about marriage between bros both in the Vlog and the one on one. But one thing I have noticed the one who always say " No I don't see myself being a daddy or married" when love walks in their life all that talk flies through the window and they end up marrying first. 😊 Gr8 video guys. Oh Ps: you asked I think it was you John who asked about the girl who has been with the guy for 4 yrs and (wait I think it was Jason who said that) anyways, I just to say communication is never enough. If you are not ready to be married talk about it with your partner. Year 1 have that talk, year 2 etc. Keep the line of communication open but never feel pressured both of you to get married until you are ready. And nothing is wrong if you don't want to have kids like the tall one said but ensure you both have that talk as well. Don't go in thinking "she knows me" no talk, talk, talk. Ok byeeeeeee😊💚
@boogeybaby12
3 жыл бұрын
You guys are way over thinking it. Your friend is right. Just kind of go with the flow. My husband and I met rather randomly in our early 30s and within a few months we had friends predicting we’d be married. We weren’t looking for our future spouse when we met. It just happened. And in terms of that commitment. It’s not as intense as you think. You keep changing after marriage and after you have kids. The key isn’t to find someone that you will sacrifice everything for. The key is simply to find someone who you can be honest and authentically yourself. You will change together and communication will be key to whether you change in the same direction or opposite ways. No one is expecting you to complete lose yourself in a marriage. In fact you shouldn’t ever do this. Marriage is simply a way to share your life with someone and multiply the joys together. My husband and I have been together for 15 years and we love each other now more than when we met but our love looks completely different. It has nuances we couldn’t have predicted. Don’t be so harsh with yourselves. It’s not so complicated.
@kaomouaher6866
3 жыл бұрын
I love you two!! You’re so inspiring and the stories you tell bring so much hope, joy, and love.
@gracew5225
3 жыл бұрын
You guys are awesome- positive, optimistic and always inspirational. You really deserve genuine love. Best of luck!
@gloriamata9497
3 жыл бұрын
What i like is the song that are playing
@pikapika88888
3 жыл бұрын
Wow so deep, I really like Jason perspectives. So true coming from a married person.
@leirabetances4553
3 жыл бұрын
Omg at the end I try so hard to concentrate but that song is one of my favorite songs. I understand both of you but for me marriage is a commitment because isn't easy. Marriage is hard no matter how much you both love each other. I think couples need to understand that the other one is an individual too. Sometimes we forget and thought that he or she belongs to us. The best tips: *commitment *communication always [if you get mad say it no matter if the other person get mad because if you keep it only because you don't want to hurt him/her at the end you will be the hurting one. *trust [the moment you dont it will be a caos] *take time as individual is good for the relationship *never go to bed mad to each other *and love the goods and bads of that person because nobody is perfect. Hope you both enjoy your Cali trip. Blessings
@rayleighd260
Жыл бұрын
what was the title of the song?
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
Chenital : dude ... U dont know what it's like.. to love somebody ... ( has found the perferct one ) too much hear michael bolton' song 😅 TimChai : 😏 I just wanna be Zaddy, of few husky dog ( what ?!n-**-*-&#&#&##&#&) crazy cuz being broken hearted for so long 😅 Jason ahjusshi : never crossed in his mind to get merriege, never be his agenda ( what a jerk) 😆 John oppa : fainted cuz too much option ... dizzy cuz so many girls are pretty and feel failure cuz he cant have it all (playboy mode) 😆
@amyle974
3 жыл бұрын
I think marriage, like many things in life, needs a lot more than love, compatibility, and selflessness. Yes marriage can have its difficulties, such as communication, understanding, and etc but so does other aspects of life. It’s like entering entrepreneurship or opening a business. You know the basics from school, books, KZitem videos, etc but you don’t REALLY know the struggles, the wins, the lonely nights, and the groggy mornings until you’re in the midst of the work/ environment. Yet how do so many individuals open multiple branches of their brand? How did one person manage to open a franchise that serves their goals and aspirations? It’s the effort. Marriage is also about coming to terms on both sides. Understanding that our actions may not always match up with our intentions, therefore there needs to be an effort to have a better communication towards or time for each other. I don’t think people should have the mindset of “ugh but I have to get married” or “uh yeah it’s the time to get married.” Instead it’s asking “is this person wake up everyday to chose me... on my nasty attitude evenings on my period... sore muscle nights after a 12 hour shift... my princess Anna wake up looks for the next 27281262826 years?” Key word is “IS” not “WILL.” If they aren’t showing you w their actions and words that he or she choses you now, don’t imagine or expect them to suddenly start choosing you once you get married. You’re dating who they are now and their ever growing self, not the dreamy possible person you are are expecting/ envisioning. But on the same token, I need to ask myself, “Am I choosing this person every day?” When we are lost in the middle of Arizona bc someone said the wrong directions, am I choosing to be right that i wasn’t the one who said turn right or am I choosing to bring both of us peace by suggesting us to stop by for some cold water and asking for directions at the gas station? Idk my perspective is that people should have some emotional maturity before entering marriage. Knowing when to put your pride down to not heat up the situation even more. Hearing your partner out when he or she expresses that you tend to lock up your emotions. Being open minded to your partners when he or she mentions that he or she feels that you have a hard time sharing your time on top of work or etc. It’s about walking into situations with an open mind and saying WE are on the same team. It’s not a you vs me problem. Let’s fix this.
@joycejohn727
3 жыл бұрын
Marry a person who just loves u forever without any conditions , accepting who u r ! Bt pls don't marry fr financial profits! Falling in love nd build up tht into beautiful strong relationship tht doesn't break or left behind fr unnecessary misunderstandings ! Choose ur type of grl bfre u fall into relationship. Lots of love frm India ❤️ All the best 👍 keep going, njoy ur lives 🎉💐
@nicolebdental
3 жыл бұрын
ok but real talk have you two considered recording bedtime stories !!!!??!! LOL
@seljiang
3 жыл бұрын
I think most people have a wrong idea about what marriage is about. The status quo is you will just magically know that the other person is the “right person” and have this urge to marry them. It’s not completely wrong, you should have that urge to even think about being married to that person. But maintaining a marriage is so much more complex than the urge in the beginning. Once you understand their happiness, their sorrow, their strengths and weaknesses. And nevertheless you’re still willing to stick through and grow with them. That’s what marriage is about. If we talk realistically, there will never be a perfect marriage because there aren’t even perfect individuals. So how can we be so selfish to expect so much from any relationships? Just be the best you can be and be forgiving to others. That’s all you should consider before going into any relationships, platonic or not.
@ingrid2562
3 жыл бұрын
I knew people who get married after third date and they have been living for more than 20 years and people who were dating more than 8 years and divorced in one year after marriage. Guys, it’s the life and it’s very unpredictable thing. Even though if you date for a long time it does not guarantee that you both will live together forever or opposite. Secondly, kids don’t grow up in one day, my girl friend got married and had kids after 43, and she admitted it’s too late, she is getting older but her children are still little. I noticed there are a lot of single elderly people in NY and probably they have been trying to find their soulmates still, but the life is going so fast... we shouldn’t look for appropriate life partner, we should become appropriate one for another, it’s just my thoughts:))
@oooh_my_bonnie
3 жыл бұрын
I am married to a Korean guy and we have 2 kids. My advice... Get Married and don't have kids. :) .... If you have kids, you must really love and LIKE each other b/c there will be 80% of the time of resentment and misunderstanding.
@odelialaw7559
3 жыл бұрын
See thats the diff between most guys’ and girls’ opinions in relationships. Guys just tend to like going with the flow and having that natural progression even 2 years in the relationship. Meanwhile girls, by 2-3 yrs in already want to know what the next step is and to have that plan established.
@jessical3455
3 жыл бұрын
Marriage is a very special commitment that both parties should not only want but be ready for. There is so much that goes into deciding wether to marry or not. For example, would you want to have children with this person? What are their views in raising children? How were they raised? So so much 😂
@angiebela3667
3 жыл бұрын
Someone who loves and threats his mom really well, is a high value man 😊
@MaSa-bp5qe
3 жыл бұрын
DO NOT GET MARRIED! You’ll thank me later.
@mwu0088
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like John Yoo was the most mature one of the bunch in this video, and I have an inkling that he'll probably be the first to get married. Seems like he actually cares about the topic and wouldn't want to waste his or her time, if it's not with the right person.
@tatacathrina.9120
3 жыл бұрын
Jason ahjussi : that's not me ... (not kinda type commitment guy) John Oppa : dude ... that's because u havent found the ONE that u would want to marry.. ✔💯💯😚 ( what a great opinion oppa 😚...) im so touching 😭
@denisemahe8539
3 жыл бұрын
As someone who has been through divorce (and yet eternally the hopeless (hopeful ?) romantic), I sincerely hope you all find who you're looking for. Find someone who makes you believe that love isn't hard and you aren't hard to love. Find someone who speaks your (love) language so you don't have to spend a lifetime translating your soul. ❤
@cdccris4887
3 жыл бұрын
No one should get married because they are being pressured by time, friends or by their partners. Deep inside we all want to find someone that we can spend our life with. We don’t have to do it if we’re not ready
@justinaadk5081
3 жыл бұрын
I really like most of the reasons y’all gave for and against marriage (for yourselves right now). I think the self awareness sets you up better for a lasting marriage. For me tho, I guess I’d consider myself a pragmatist instead of a romantic, because ‘love’ is too shaky of a foundation to build a lifelong commitment like marriage. It’s not always going to look like a Disney fairytale, so I think our reasons have to go beyond that.
@aha_Sai_Ra
3 жыл бұрын
I just wanted to share here, I mainly watch this channel for the JBro curated commercials!! 🤑🤑💸💲💵💸💰🤑🤑
@Jay-ix9un
3 жыл бұрын
I think I got that "mom love" or let's say "family love" idea. If I met that certain someone and I so so so feel that I can/will love her like my parents or family, regardless of greater problems to come after marriage, then it's a set. This mindset has to be for both tho, coz it takes 2 to have a bond (material & adhesive). Example too far lawl. Just my piece in mind.
@nyaradhiambo
3 жыл бұрын
Is Jason's perspective an INTP thing? Because as an INTP female I kind of have the same concerns... I'm sooo attached to my independence.
@florayxl
3 жыл бұрын
Always loved the bro talk! y'all should have start a room in clubhouse! It's gonna be lit. :)
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