I've been questioning myself if anyone's going to accept me after this ...
@elizabeth4275
Жыл бұрын
Same
@natalieedelstein
4 жыл бұрын
TW: I SO felt that statement about "I would say yes to men when I really wanted to say no because I was scared that I'd get raped again". I never said yes to a man to avoid getting raped again, but after it happened, I almost wondered if saving myself instead of saying yes to people made me more likely to be raped. I also said yes to someone a month and a half afterwards who I had a crush on for the prior 7 years for front penetration because I just didn't want to only have a traumatic relationship with penetration for the next who knows how many years until marriage or a traumatic first experience in (sorry, TMI) both lower holes because the assault was in the back. I'm glad I did because my 2nd (otherwise, would've been my first) experience in the front was a rape too.
@mgmassey174
4 жыл бұрын
I'm sixty three.. Been isolated for last thirty years due to spinal injuries My radar is broken due to early childhood abuse. I was a dustmagnet for dickhead..so I quit dating thirty years ago. I'm happier alone. I miss community but don't miss romance
@esther_inbloom
4 ай бұрын
You need to be absolutely honest about your trauma. Warn them about the feelings that go along with this. You must...and I mean must! find someone who accepts you, for who you are, instead of what they want you to be! Nobody is perfect, and life is a rollercoaster.
@alejandraalvarez5831
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!! thank you!! Thank you! I really needed this video❤️🙏🏼
@LarissaFay
3 жыл бұрын
This converstation is so helpful and illuminating. Acknowledging where my mind, body and spirit is currently, I think creative therapy and beginning a 'visual journal' will be personally constructive. I'm a artist who hasn't been creative since the trauma. I've lost a lot of myself, and it is extremely frustrating. I can 100% relate to what you both said. "Who Will Love Me?' Is on my reading list. Thank you so much Jo and Melissa.
@jcfreak2007
4 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh! All of this! I think that it's also important to point out the existence of covert sexual abuse and assault. No one ever touched me with their hands but I was frequently sexually assaulted by my parents' words growing up and I can definitely relate to literally ALL of this. It took me YEARS to figure out why I was feeling all of this when I had never been sexually abused or assaulted by anyone. I asked myself if it was possible that I was repressing the memories or if it happened to me really young like as a baby or toddler or something. But then as I began to mention things that were part of my every day life growing up to my trusted friends and my husband, I would get looks of shock and disgust from them and it was at that point that I realized that the conversations that were had with me and the rules put in place in my home were indeed a form of sexual assault. My mother frequently talked to me about things that were way too old for me and my father talked about my body parts (I'm female) way too frequently and in really crass ways so if anyone else is feeling that way but can't figure out why, look up covert sexual abuse and see if it applies to your situation.
@lauraberg6272
4 жыл бұрын
Ugg, this is why parents need to discuss sex in age appropriate ways and get information from real therapists on what is appropriate for a developing brain to know, see, and hear about. Sex positive families is a good place to go for resources.
@mbsl923
2 жыл бұрын
My first thought, just from the title, was that the question is not who will love you but "will you love yourself?".
@katitious
3 жыл бұрын
Loved this! Thank you so much for all this insight. I'm only just starting with my acknowledgment now. I love the idea that your body remembers things you may not and that it's a way to communicate with yourself on another learning piece to move yourself forward. It's hard for me to sort out what's really going on and I have a tendency to push down trigger reactions, so I'm hoping that reframe will help me to identify what is exactly triggering me so that I can begin to move forward.
@liamodonovan6610
4 жыл бұрын
Your always lovable jo you finally found the relationship you truly deserve sexual assault is never the victims fault both of you are beautiful people she seems like such a friendly person I would be interested in her book love you jo awesome video
@glennkelley6096
4 жыл бұрын
The people that said she was running away from her problems didn't support her at the trial . Who was running away?
@user-fy2zn8bg5j
7 ай бұрын
YOU COMMUNICATE ....SELFWORTHY I SELFLESSNESS
@Donald0828
Жыл бұрын
I love you!❤️
@traceyellowtail3149
4 жыл бұрын
G.Morning Lady.
@mugabedavid4845
9 ай бұрын
Am not saying I am better or judging anyone but if someone does not the person because the sexual assualt is wrong tho
@lv9265
4 жыл бұрын
I'm ugly and I'll never find love.
@flamethatsings-witchcraft5893
4 жыл бұрын
We are our worst critics. Everyone feels like they are ugly at some point. Plus, if someone doesn't want to date you because you don't look the way they think of as beautiful than you deserve so, so much better.
@lv9265
4 жыл бұрын
@@flamethatsings-witchcraft5893 thanks. It doesn't make me less unloveable tho. Everyone, even my family and friends reject me.
@flamethatsings-witchcraft5893
4 жыл бұрын
@@lv9265 My family doesn't love me. My old friends don't love me. That doesn't make me unlovable. It just took a while to find the people who love me for me. You'll find people who will love you. At first you might want to push them way because you might feel you don't deserve them, but you do. Everyone deserves love.
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