My brother please don't get lost. If you had married a Ghanaian your attitude would've been different. Please stop bending too much backwards. If you were living in Ghana you would have been called kwasiato. If you're married to a Diasporan and allowing yourself to be imposed with hazardous and toxic substances in your marriage then I pity some of you. 😅😅😅 Most of the frequent divorces of African men and for that matter Ghana men are from this little little things. If your wife doesn't know how to cook, please teach her and stop trumpeting that my wife doesn't know how to cook. 😅😅😅
@TheGhaMericanFamily
10 ай бұрын
WHO said She doesn't know how to cook 🤣?
@TheGhaMericanFamily
10 ай бұрын
Did you really watch the video before commenting🤣🤣🤣? And from what survey did you see a report on frequent divorces of African men being Ghanaian men? I'd REALLY like to take a look at it😂. It's quite unfortunate to see this coming from another African brother. Just so you know, M'ahyia Ghana Mmaa bebree aana )mo y3 akwadwor) paaaa. Efie ne fie nanso, mmaa weide3 na )mo Nnim hwee y3! This is the MISCONCEPTION most African men have about Diasporan women! They think "foreign" women don't know how to be traditional😂. Get yourself one, and you'll come back singing their praise!
@akwasiowusuansah6329
10 ай бұрын
@@TheGhaMericanFamilymy brother black diasporan women are overbearing. if they will be able to change their ingrained character fine, then I believe a lot of African men will be able to marry them. what some African men will normally say ok let's see her attitude, in other words, let me try and bend backwards. Black diasporan women want to behave more than the white women. A lot of successful black men feel comfortable marrying white women because they know how to love and will not fight you unnecessarily. Educated black women in the diaspora are finding it difficult to get black husbands. Ask why? And the uneducated black women from Africa also copy blindly the attitudes of their fellow African women who have been in abroad for some time. some of them want to behave as if there's no culture immediately after crossover. they'll start behaving as the white women. Please in Europe the divorce rate between the African man and their spouses is alarming.
@TheGhaMericanFamily
10 ай бұрын
@@akwasiowusuansah6329 Bro, I truly understand your point. We really appreciate your comments and your concerns are very valid. The spike in these divorces is due to the fact that, most of our women back home when exposed to life in the West, tend to use the new found life to spite their partners. Speaking about diasporan women not being able to find husbands, are you talking about those that were born and raised abroad or those that migrated from Africa to the West? Because I can tell you for a fact that, the "foreign" women ( Especially Black Americans), are much more willing to connect to their African roots. This is because, this connection gives them a sense of identity as compared to the women who migrate from Africa and adopt life in the West. We actually have a video in the making on this issue (Marriage abroad vs. Marriage in Africa). Hopefully, we'd be able to address most your concerns. Stay tuned❤!
@LYYD.
9 ай бұрын
I'm a Ghanaian woman. I've dated only 3 men in my life time. 2 were Ghanaian. Out of the 3, only 2 were toxic, controlling, emotionally bankrupt, corrupt, narcissistic. And they were Ghanaian. They expect so much and give nothing back. Basic users and takers. That is not how relationships work. Now, the most healthiest relationship I had, the guy was not Ghanaian. He was very supportive and not a CONTROLLING USER. He game me space to express my individuality and he treated me with RESPECT. That relationship lasted 7yrs, until I decided to end it for reasons specific to him. We are also still very amicable and I have absolutely no problem being there for him when he needs me. The 2 other Ghanaian guys, they were so toxic that I can't even imagine being friends with them and humans shouldn't have to live life like that.
@Christimony222
4 ай бұрын
I do understand the husband. And, this is why African men don’t marry Americans. Which is understandable….we come from different cultures. American women do have a modern mindset. And, I am an American woman. In love with a Nigerian man. We broke up and then I become more interested in his culture and way of thinking. We still speak often and I’m pretty sure he will be my husband and father of my child. Although, he’s probably more hesitant because he thinks I will have the same modern mindset as before. But, because i’ve done a lot more studying and got involved with my relationship with Christ - my modern mindset has changed. I don’t see it as controlling anymore. I understand men more now. They are wired to be possessive and they don’t mean harm. It’s from a loving place and they really are trying to protect the family. And, being a wife/mom really does change it all for them. Family means a lot to them and the example the children will see. But, I understand the American woman trying to keep her identity. But, truly - marriage means dying to self. So, we have to be more willing to let go of the identity we had before. When we try to keep that - we lose our marriage because marriage means to become one. Not be who you were before. And, this applies to men, too. it doesn’t mean we have to lose soooooo much of the joy we had before but we have to choose our battles. Why do you want to show boobs? I understand that’s what you did when you were single and trying to be chosen but why now? and, I’m not really talking specifically to her but all woman. I know her intentions are pure. Many new moms don’t feel sexy anymore so she’s just trying to feel beautiful again. But, we have to explore the why. And, also - once you marry an African man, you can’t think it won’t come with his culture. You cannot just judge. But, I like how you two are communicating and also respecting each other while disagreeing. Because, marriage also has to be a safe space.
@TheGhaMericanFamily
Ай бұрын
@@Christimony222 Thank you for comment! ❤️ As we say, different cultures, different expectations.
@kwameodame-kani3392
10 ай бұрын
Married to an African man U're a reflection of him. Whatever U do or say outside the home in the midst of people bounces back to him.
@TheGhaMericanFamily
Ай бұрын
@@kwameodame-kani3392 Yes, representation is a huge thing. Thank you for your comment. ❤️
@jerryseshie2114
Ай бұрын
Nice video
@TheGhaMericanFamily
29 күн бұрын
@@jerryseshie2114 Thank you for watching ! ❤️
@Christimony222
4 ай бұрын
what’s wrong with being called mama? and , how can you want a man from Ghana but not want what comes with his culture? Why does he have to accept your “natural self” but you don’t have to accept what’s natural for him? I feel it’s selfish to want the man but not what comes with that man and/or judge his family. You can’t want the benefit but not also want the work. If you want the American culture, who is stopping you from going after an American man? To go after an African man but expect to change his ways is selfish of you. And, unfair. If you don’t like traditional marriage, you shouldn’t aim to marry an African man because that is what they seek in a wife. If you are a modern woman, I guess that’s ok but you should go for an American where that may be more accepted (and truth be told, American men are sick of that too which is why divorce is so high). There are many benefits that come with marrying an African man but yes, to who much is given - much is required and you should not complain. That man is good to his family, most likely. And, he is willing to hear your needs but in return, it should be seen as an honor to serve him. Marriage was never going to be easy but it’s the price we pay to keep a family together.
@TheGhaMericanFamily
Ай бұрын
@@Christimony222 The most important thing for me, Free, is compromising. I think it’s okay for Andrew and I to have our own “norm” or way of doing things that incorporates both of our cultures equally. In terms of the divorce rate in America, 70% of women, not men initiate divorces. I am curious. What are the many benefits of marrying an African man?? Thanks for your comment! ❤️
@OkoDjan
Ай бұрын
Ghanaian family train there women for this so when times come they show that they are train but if the man sees that you not train well one you will bring shame to family bout size and that the end of you if you don't change
@TheGhaMericanFamily
Ай бұрын
@@OkoDjan I was made aware that Ghanaian women are brought up with the expectation to act, behave, and do things a certain way. I prefer to not use the word “train” because women are not animals or pets that men or their family own. The fact that a Ghanaian woman’s value is placed on whether or not she is “trainable”, if she can cook, if she can clean, and if she listens well is crazy to me. Different cultures, different expectations. Thanks for your comment! - Free
@KB-----
Ай бұрын
My fiance is Gambian. It has been wonderful
@TheGhaMericanFamily
Ай бұрын
@@KB----- We’re glad that your experience has been positive! We wish you a long, happy, and prosperous marriage. ❤️
@KB-----
Ай бұрын
@TheGhaMericanFamily Thank you I really appreciate that.
@tonirowe1975
10 ай бұрын
I’m married to a Nigerian man and the one thing I can’t stand is that the family has input on a lot and that’s something that I can’t get use to
@TheGhaMericanFamily
10 ай бұрын
That sounds terrible! I would not be able to get used to that either. I don’t believe that family (as in parents/in-laws, etc.) should have any decision making privileges in a marriage that’s not their own. 🤷🏾♀️ They are always welcome to give their respectful advice or opinions on things, but as far as having an actual say, NO! I don’t even believe in sharing everything that goes on in a marriage with family or friends. 🤷🏾♀️ I feel like family can be biased anyway, so including them in every single decision or problem can complicate things and make issues worse than what they are. I’m just grateful that Andrew (and his mom) are open minded and don’t let culture interfere in our marriage too much.
@LYYD.
9 ай бұрын
I'm a Ghanaian woman. I've dated only 3 men in my life time. 2 were Ghanaian. Out of the 3, only 2 were toxic, controlling, emotionally bankrupt, corrupt, narcissistic. And they were Ghanaian. They expect so much and give nothing back. Basic users and takers. That is not how relationships work. Now, the most healthiest relationship I had, the guy was not Ghanaian. He was very supportive and not a CONTROLLING USER. He game me space to express my individuality and he treated me with RESPECT. That relationship lasted 7yrs, until I decided to end it for reasons specific to him. We are also still very amicable and I have absolutely no problem being there for him when he needs me. The 2 other Ghanaian guys, they were so toxic that I can't even imagine being friends with them and humans shouldn't have to live life like that.
@akwasiowusuansah6329
9 ай бұрын
The guys you met didn't love you period.
@LYYD.
9 ай бұрын
@@akwasiowusuansah6329 They didn't love me, but it also says a lot about a person's character if someone experiences them and leaves with a sour taste in their mouth. If they didn't lovee me, they liked me enough to be in a relationship with me, but their character was rotten. I'm talking about character. You can not love someone, but still have a good character. Both of them had very poor character all around, whether in a relationship and in love with me or not. What is difficult to understand? One of them even told me he was so nasty to his ex that she had to seek therapy after the relationship. The other one also shared that he would go over a month not speaking to his spouse and they would have fights over me. It's not a matter of love, but character. People with rigid mentality like that is what's failing Africa as a whole. I find that the ones who are new to foreign lands like U.S. or U.K. often come with their rigid mentality, but after some years of assimilation, they mellow out and start to think differently. I've seen it with the first Ghanaian guy I dated. If you are only good to certain people under conditions such as "love," then you are inherently not a good person, but a fraud and it's only a matter of time until people learn about your true character.
@TheGhaMericanFamily
9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. ❤️ The person that’s meant for you will show up when you least expect it.
@LYYD.
7 ай бұрын
@@TheGhaMericanFamily I've experienced the toxicity with my own father, who is a Ghanaian man. I beg I don't want anyone to locate me. It hurts me to say this, but I'm done with Ghanaian men INDEFINETELY. ✌🏾 We really gotta fix our mentality as Africans. It's really the cause of our own destruction.
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