⚠️ IMPORTANT WARNING ⚠️ Hi everyone, just a quick heads-up! There are scammers creating fake accounts using my name and profile picture, trying to get you to message them, especially on WhatsApp. Please be aware that these are NOT me. My official KZitem handle is **@BusiswaG**. If you see any comments asking you to contact them, please report and ignore them. Stay safe, and thanks for your support!
@minty_macaron
Ай бұрын
someone called “Busiswa2” tried to contact me lmao
@dimpelzmyles
Ай бұрын
You pls be very careful too a lot of big youtubers have been getting their accounts stolen by clicking on links in their emails for "collaboration videos" 😢 n I just got here lol ❤
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
@minty_macaron crazy!
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
@dimpelzmyles thank you 🙏
@minty_macaron
Ай бұрын
@@BusiswaG isn’t it?? Scammers these days are very convincing. The extremely…unique font gave it away but imagine if it talked like normal. Yikes.
@auggiedoggiesmommy1734
Ай бұрын
What’s weird to me? Driving and filming yourself and putting other people’s lives at risk. Cry all you want but STOP filming while driving!
@haruhwa
Ай бұрын
truueeee even if you have like a phone holder, your attention will still on how you look on the camera and will take peeks at your phone screen. either have someone else drive while you film, stop your car to film, or don't. no need. you can say what you want to say at home, no need to be on the road and talking abt sht.
@yatshie8717
29 күн бұрын
Also maybe don't cry while driving cause it makes your vision blurry
@atinybruh
26 күн бұрын
@@yatshie8717thats kinda hard to Control, better to LET the tears fall then to try and keep them in
@jr5557
12 күн бұрын
People live streams while driving so scary
@morethanyourbasics
Ай бұрын
lol a woman crying that their boyfriend slept with their entire friend group sounds valid cuz who are they going to turn to? Their friends 😂
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@starryskies113
Ай бұрын
@@BusiswaGoof
@woodside4life
Ай бұрын
Fair point 😂😂😂
@nenep1872
Ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂 🤦🏾♀️ man this was a good one
@Misceletric
Ай бұрын
How do you know that really happened ?
@kiwihyunz7452
Ай бұрын
Personally, I would rather jump into ongoing traffic than record myself crying and posting it online. I already don’t like crying in public, but the thought of recording or taking a picture of myself crying would genuinely make me wanna end it all
@baggergurl16
Ай бұрын
I know right!! It’s like I really don’t look pretty when I cry so why the hell do I want to do that?
@libbyget5495
Ай бұрын
Ha! Same.
@BlackRedBlueBerry
Ай бұрын
I wont lie, i occasionally take a picture of myself while crying. Im a quiet and less expressive cryer and i just think i look pretty when i cry. Of course i dont pose or do anything with the photo thoug
@mylastduchess9998
Ай бұрын
Completely agree and understand. I swear I just can't. I hide if I can't stop it. Cried in a lot of bathrooms 🤦♀️
@Life_Love_and_a_Lens
Ай бұрын
Alright so someone holds you hostage and gives you the choice you're really gonna end it all vs post a silly crying video? 😅
@sarielgrace
Ай бұрын
99% of the time when I cry, I don't want to be crying, I'd rather hide in the bathroom by myself
@abz_414
Ай бұрын
Yesss same!
@akhonambodle3695
Ай бұрын
I would rather cry into a pillow or in the bathroom rather than taking out a phone and record myself crying Plus there were times I tried to hold myself from crying in public and I can tell you it was embarrassing because of the frowned looks I got from people
@nenep1872
Ай бұрын
Same... I hate crying... I feel weak
@hayleyelizabeth7895
Ай бұрын
Usually I have to get through a few walls of anger to get to my cries. I don’t cry often but when I do i’m VERY upset. So yeah good forbid i don’t want other people especially thousands of random strangers on the internet seeing me like that. What happened to privacy?
@lk2207-sq6lu
Ай бұрын
@hayleyI elizabeth7895 I can soooo relate to this.
@corvidual
Ай бұрын
People get their phones out before crying, before "rescuing" a puppy, or doing a good deed. This world confuses tf out of me on a daily basis.
@destinycovington7189
Ай бұрын
Yall the same ones who complain there’s no good deeds in the world. Recording fights and negativity is ok. But deciding to record a rescue. Or helping homeless is not??? Ok😂
@frogperson883
Ай бұрын
@@destinycovington7189 You're just making a rescue more difficult and dangerous for yourself and the animals when you try to onehand it like a moron.
@corvidual
Ай бұрын
@@destinycovington7189 If you see someone in trouble and your first instinct is to get your phone out and start recording, that ain't a good deed.
@treubaking
Ай бұрын
@@destinycovington7189And y’all the same ones acting like it’s okay to act like you’re big and bad on the internet. Thinking of recording when you’re about to do “a good deed” is not a good deed🙁
@Thighlicious
Ай бұрын
@@destinycovington7189 goods deeds will affect others around you, you dont have to record it, its trust really because if you need that "proof" its a bit weird.
@starhwas
Ай бұрын
That girl really said that oftentimes people online come with a really unbiased perspective are we using the same online?????😂😂😂
@hell_ohh
Ай бұрын
omg atiny spotteddd
@fin4008
Ай бұрын
I think she meant on her personal life specifically since they dont know her .
@haruhwa
Ай бұрын
@@hell_ohh oh my gooodd
@djejejhdbfbf
28 күн бұрын
real AND OMGG AN ATINY
@starhwas
25 күн бұрын
@@djejejhdbfbf helloooooo!
@magdelineadler4284
Ай бұрын
Right, when that lady said that "people online are less biased", I actually rolled my eyes. That is simply not true at all. I do agree that people turn to the internet for attention and sympathy when they lack loving relationships in real life, but her phrasing made it seem like crying online would be better than having someone to talk to, and it's not. People are cruel and with the internet it goes viral and lives forever and people can do what they want with those videos 😬. From what I know, people cry online when they are GOING THROUGH IT, like crisis moments.
@softbutterfly_xoxo
Ай бұрын
Yes!! Especially on IG, those comments are becoming more and more toxic and they'll drag you lol 😂
@gaillewis5472
Ай бұрын
The Internet is not a shoulder to cry on. Privacy and dignity are beautiful things that are none of the general public's business. Please turn to your personal sphere.
@AuthentiKaate
Ай бұрын
Yes!!! I have been stalked, I have never had the luxury of living alone, and I’m on benefits, so I have to report every little thing in my life in minute detail to state organizations. Privacy is a *virtue* and it’s too often taken for granted.
@anabananafofana
27 күн бұрын
absolutely ! 👏🏼
@keekermojo
20 күн бұрын
This is why tumblr was an incredible platform. As CRINGE as that website was, it allowed for extremely curated, personalized, private spheres. Though the hashtags, you could seek out but also hide specific content without being instantly bombarding with randomized content like reels, shorts, tiktok ect. You could have niche, mature, and priv content without it being easily publicly accessible but still have a larger online community
@britzene
Ай бұрын
I cry all the time. It is unfortunately an anxiety response for me. I wonder if its something special to these people? Something they experience once a year so they are like "ooh this is different, better film it"
@liz2352
Ай бұрын
I’m also an anxious crier, & it’s so frustrating. 😭
@PenelopeAstony
Ай бұрын
This is a good point! I cry daily, so if I had social media and it were to even somewhat accurately reflect my life, there would DEFINITELY be tears. Crying, for all sorts of reasons both good and bad, is a normal part of life, and more common for some people rather than others. I think maybe we have a discomfort with vulnerability, and that's why others might be feeling the cringe.
@FullofSouthernCharm
Ай бұрын
I'd rather pick up every grain of sand on the beach with a toothpick than cry online
@whatzittooyah
Ай бұрын
Damn that’s odd cause I feel the same way
@missmia196
5 күн бұрын
*chopsticks
@FullofSouthernCharm
5 күн бұрын
@@missmia196 thank you sis I knew toothpick ain't sound right lol
@morticiaheisenberg9679
9 сағат бұрын
Exactly!!😂😂😂
@t.j.m7131
Ай бұрын
That's why in the early 2000s we had diaries and r&b music. The end 😅😅😅
@prtdiva
Ай бұрын
Crying on camera is the most CRINGE thing I’ve ever seen. You literally have to make the decision to stop mid cry, hit record, and then stop again to upload to social media. Like…how sad can you really be??? When I’m distraught and crying the LAST thing I’m thinking is “yo, where’s my phone? This would make GREAT content!” I put camera cryers right up there with serial killers. It’s psychotic.
@Thighlicious
Ай бұрын
@@terrenceojeda7172 yes actually, ranting can be taken as argumentative and people can and do interact, as compared to crying you can share your emotions but at the end of the day its a you thing, nobody can really do anything to affect your crying, "hope you feel better", they can tell you that but its up to you to decide if youll actually take their advice. "I hate trump!" well now you have people debating with you and shared opinions, theres a big difference. The only people I dont find cringe crying and having mental breakdowns on camera are the ones who actually have to record themselves, like the people who record to send it to their therapist or doctors cuz they have a reason and most of the time that can actually being informative to others. theres people out there who love attention and thats just the reality and id like to think anything you post of social media in general you want an audience for, because its to the whole public so idk really, just food for thought. And in any case just be honest, if you wanna cry online for attention just tell people, cuz thats why yt videos are made like this now, dishonest and manipulative people.
@julissavalencia1751
Ай бұрын
It is cringe but also I’ve done it before as a last resort before offing myself when I was 15😭 I was anorexic, had anxiety and depression. I took a picture of myself crying and put it on Snapchat😭 I overdosed but someone that saw it called my mother and ultimately 2 days later I “woke up” and got better😂😭 either it’s cuz you just want to manipulate or you want attention which is not good😅
Why do you think they stopped crying to record? They could pull up a camera while still crying
@hannahdyson9963
Ай бұрын
See I don't even like to look at myself in the mirror crying because of how horrifying I look so like why would I record myself and look back at it 😂😂😂
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
If I was crying and walked past a mirror I will immediately start laughing 😂
@MamotteLollpop123
Ай бұрын
I literally hide my vision sometimes when I walk past the mirror 😭
@omiave8706
Ай бұрын
Ugh i felt that. I feel gross when I cry LMAO, my eyes look like im having an allergic reaction and then i have snot running down my nose like I just can't imagine filming myself and then letting strangers online ALSO see it
@coffee_2234
Ай бұрын
Gosh i hate it when people fake cry for the whole world to see it so annoying
@addie1080
Ай бұрын
I've never posted crying online but I have snapped a pic of me crying when I know I'm being ridiculous. I send it to my bestie to laugh at, like how am I crying over this man again??!
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
💀💀💀💀
@Mandyb05
Ай бұрын
Same. I've recorded myself to laugh at how ugly I look. But I would never post it unless it was something humorous. 🤣🤣
@BlackRedBlueBerry
Ай бұрын
I cried over corn today so thats real.
@radikaul
Ай бұрын
True! And when the moment is over I’m like wow I’m so strong and brave for getting over that 💅🏽
@vinny3410
21 күн бұрын
I need some context for this my guy @@BlackRedBlueBerry
@llollipop1990
Ай бұрын
That blonde woman is doing EVERYTHING but admitting it’s cringy to cry online😂We don’t need a dissertation. We already think it’s weird. But to say we’re uncomfortable with crying and our own emotions because we don’t want to see people cry online is wrong. I either want to cry alone or with an actual person who is supporting me. I get nothing from the attention of strangers in that moment, which she admitted is why she posts it online in the first place. Everyone does not need that type of attention.
@mel9823
Ай бұрын
That part. The internet has never been a safe place for emotions. Idk what makes them feel so safe to even do that and then say we’re uncomfortable with our own emotions. Like no girl. We are just more aware that not everyone will be kind in that moment because it is the INTERNET and most people really do prefer to have these moments IN PRIVATE.
@llollipop1990
Ай бұрын
@@mel9823 You know what? You’re on to something. Maybe it’s an issue of self awareness and maybe they really lack that skill.
@mel9823
Ай бұрын
@@llollipop1990 I definitely think it’s an issue of no self awareness because don’t get me wrong. I am a CRIER. Like I can be a bit of a cry baby. I believe I’m an anxious crier so when I’m very anxious, I’ll cry. But even in the middle of being out of it emotionally, I still know that a lot of people don’t know how to handle emotions and it’s not fair for me to ask them to try and not only understand mine but to console me. That’s not for a stranger to do. Especially if I’m crying over something that is verrrryyyy sensitive. You don’t know who you’re triggering with your emotions and you don’t know their intent. They could be making it so much worse. And given how cruel the internet has been since its conception, I really don’t know how they feel this safe being openly vulnerable on these platforms. Its lack of self awareness and its levels of selfishness in my opinion.
@impposter560
Ай бұрын
I don't know which blonde woman you're talking about, but the one that said "dispersing my emotions into all these other people" is just off. Like, its not healthy to deliberately put your emotions on strangers instead of dealing with them. Its not healthy to think that other people should just be there and have that "dispersed" onto them like a "sprinkler". It sounds similar to what manipulative people do? "I can't help it, I just have to vent these emotions, I'm so thankful you don't judge me for something I can't control, you're the only outlet I have" kind of thing. But you literally can control dispersing your emotions to strangers on TT??? It just sounds unhealthy
@erikadlloyd5586
Ай бұрын
It's called trauma dumping, doing it online for strangers is total cringe. If you feel bad enough to be brought to sad tears, putting out on line to be judged by the world wide web is not going to help.
@VixenTalks
Ай бұрын
" You are not money, not everybody is going to like you" I LOVE IT!
@AA-qt1hi
Ай бұрын
The problem isn't crying. Or crying spontaneously in the mid of a stream. The problem is crying, videotaping it then posting. Posting infers that you want attention for your crying. I never understand why people want to put so much of themselves out there. Some things should be kept for private spaces. I assume we're not thinking about any future employers coming across said videos? And keep in mind always those of you that are mentally vulnerable * super vulnerable...you know who you are* putting more of your vulnerable moments out there leaves you open to trolls who gain amusement over your distress. Why do that to yourself? You're driving yourself into a vicious cycle. Avoid casting your net so wide for sympathy. There are some f-ed up people out there that get psyched over other people's misery. There are f-ed up people who will pretend to be your friends so they can manipulate you. Protect your mental self as much as you'd protect your physical self.
@phillyjawnlolo089
Ай бұрын
I side eye most crying and hospital posts. I'm sure there are some who are genuinely having a raw moment. But I feel the majority are searching for attention in an unhealthy way. Or dare I say, trying to monetize people's empathy.
@OnwardsUpwards410
Ай бұрын
PREACH
@akshakur3962
Ай бұрын
Sometimes I make videos of me talking about something serious as a form of self therapy, but I don’t post them. I’m venting, I don’t want anybody’s opinion or advice so it stays in my phone.
@antisocialsocialite5046
Ай бұрын
That's a very intriguing tactic. Do you feel it helps you? And is the goal just to vent in the moment and never watch it again or to watch it back at a later date?
@antisocialsocialite5046
Ай бұрын
That's a very intriguing concept. Do you feel it helps you? And do you use it just to vent in the moment and never rewatch it or is the goal to watch it at a later date?
@leileyaravencroft
Ай бұрын
This is one of the many reasons I know I'm no cut out to be a KZitemr. I get emotional sometimes and yes, I will cry but I hate when people think I'm being manipulative about whatever is bothering me. I am the type to cry during a freaking commercial! Movies. Heck certain songs and music videos cause me to sob (Johnny Cash's cover of Hurt makes me sob). I am a sensitive person, tears will come regardless. I'm tearing up now remembering all the times I was genuinely sad and was told I was being manipulative. With all of that being said, I do not like to believe people cry to be manipulative. I can easily imagine them in the middle of a video just crying but I also know that there are people out there that can turn it on and off like nothing. Ugh. Hate this.
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Sending virtual hugs
@PenelopeAstony
Ай бұрын
Well said! I think people perceive malice often where it is not, like "most tears on the internet are a manipulation" My gosh, if that's the case, then I'm in company with some of the most manipulative people on the planet, and almost no one but the worst manipulators. Yikes, what a defeatist mindset to see so many folks in this comment section to be taking. I can understand why these lacking in empathy takes would be upsetting for you. Why can't we get support from our friends and family, and our counselors/therapists, AND also be vulnerable and share our emotions on the internet? Why is it wrong to show others that vulnerability is bad or impolite? Maybe I am not as influenced by people's expectations for me to be ashamed by crying. I don't find it shameful, it's human. Crying happens when we suffer, I think judging people who are a suffering group is a bit misguided, personally. Love to you, stranger. You're allowed to cry, and I believe you that you're just strongly and humanly emotional, and not a manipulative person.
@Tepity
Ай бұрын
People are way too comfortable online ...
@Mossy_Rock1
Ай бұрын
the first clip 😭😭
@nutella7330
Ай бұрын
I LOVE YOU PFPSO MYCH
@sanjanat1085
Ай бұрын
I saw this video of a hospice nurse who makes tiktoks about her job and how working in hospice is like. She does it on her own time and several times, she cries while talking about her patients she's lost. You can tell they're sincere tears and she's not actively trying to cry a certain way. That kind of crying I get, it's normal human emotion while talking about something so scary but human. But setting up your camera and throwing a toddler tantrum in tears with no context, just a baiting caption, then editing and posting it for attention and sympathy? That's weird.
@hannahgrapes1554
Ай бұрын
If you don't post, did the cringe even really happen 😉
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Yes 😂
@Ramblingsofajack
Ай бұрын
I’m South African and the you’re not money saying is also my motto in life . I’m Venda and the saying is the same just different language Crying on the internet is low-key setting yourself up for failure because there are some who will be empathetic but if overdone it makes vulnerability cheap. The point of vulnerability is that it’s intimate. If it’s done all the time the intimacy dies and it feels like nothing. Also setting up your camera to cry feels disingenuous. If you set up your camera to cry it makes it seem you planned to cry and that’s not real.
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
I’m Zulu, you’d be surprised how many people still ask even though my name is up there. I agree. Setting up your camera is wild business.
@Ramblingsofajack
Ай бұрын
@@BusiswaGI love your videos, im hooked. The name let me know you’re from SA. In Venda the saying goes “ a ni tshelede a ni nga funiwi nga vhathu vhothe” or something along those lines😊
@YourZforce
Ай бұрын
That remind me of the clip of SZA at the Grammy award when she won a grammy and had to just say thank you, no speech nothing, because as she said she's an ugly crier 😂. That was so real of her !!! Even at the grammy with all the good ligthning and stuff, she was not comfortable doing that.
@CleoPhoenixRT
Ай бұрын
There's one more reason to add to being vulnerable and needing attention...manipulation. Those that were raised, related to, or been in a relationship with a narcissist can tend to feel annoyance and anger at others that are willing to turn on a camera while crying. Their brains have almost been trained to see published displays of sadness as some form of manipulation.
@SolaireHighwind
Ай бұрын
True, but narcissists aren't the only people who do that, are you thinking of the term abuser?
@CleoPhoenixRT
Ай бұрын
@SolaireHighwind Well, no. Because I don't think all narcissists abuse, but may shed a tear just to get sympathy. But yeah, abusers can absolutely manipulate the same way.
@littleprettyfairy
Ай бұрын
@@CleoPhoenixRTthen why bring up narcissists then to begin with? like it sounds like casual ableism to me also assuming people are crying to be manipulative is crazy. bc i cry over everything and i also have a personality disorder and am constantly being accused of being manipulative when im just sad. so sick of everyone always blaming disabled ppl for being manipulative every time we show emotion. at this point the real villians here are those who scream abuse and manipulation every time we do anything besides being super happy all the time.
@CleoPhoenixRT
Ай бұрын
@littleprettyfairy It's their learned response that's not the healthiest, but its real. I've experienced similar even though I was diagnosed with...other things, but learning about others experiences made me less upset, because that way we can talk and find even ground and understanding. You just can't call them crazy. That form of communication doesn't go too well.
@softbutterfly_xoxo
Ай бұрын
The ones saying there's nothing wrong with crying online are the first to complain about how toxic social media is. Especially the woman saying the internet is 'unbiased' 🤦🏾♀️.
@fin4008
Ай бұрын
There are much worse things than ppl crying on the internet..i dont think people crying is even scratching the surface of internet toxicity, at least that ive had the unpleasant experience of witnessing...
@softbutterfly_xoxo
Ай бұрын
@@fin4008 I never said it was worse. I'm saying that ppl will attack them for doing so. Especially with how toxic the internet is. That's my point.
@loganluna2048
28 күн бұрын
It's so vapid and attention seeking. It drives me crazy when people say "B-b-but...pEoPlE GrIeVe iN DiFfErEnT wAyS." That isn't grieving, that isn't a normal display of emotion, that is obnoxious behavior and I refuse to enable it.
@Queenie97
Ай бұрын
Crying on the internet just to showcase emotions to gain sympathy is not demure... its not modest. 🤣😂
@crzydreemer
Ай бұрын
As someone with Bipolar, I am constantly embarrassed that my friends and family have to see me in those difficult moments. I would never in a millions years let strangers see me in such a vulnerable state (if I can help it). These creators are all doing themselves such a disservice by filming this, because when they truly are in the depths of sorrow or pain, no one will believe them. I think it if was during a livestream, and it wasn't typical behavior or the creator was known to be a liar, then it would be acceptable. It's a shame though how difficult it is to trust anyone's word online these days.
@gin.k
Ай бұрын
It's cringe, but I feel pretty nuanced about it. Most people 1. Don't have people to really open up to and 2. Some people can't afford a therapist. The lady in the yellow tank-top is so on point. People in your life that always say "you can always talk to me if you're struggling" will not always be emotionally available for you. Some people are in families where emotional vulnerability has never been an option.
@lymarie1974
Ай бұрын
The nurse who filmed herself crying after a patient died. Always comes to my mind. She had music in the background
@aylinandace
Ай бұрын
Its ok to cry. But if its like in every vid, it gets strange, and make me feel they need attention badly.
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Yup!
@Straw_berryDahlia
Ай бұрын
" My boyfriend die * sobs *" random girl " * Stops the recording + watches the full video * "Yep, this the one" " random girl " *Posting it* "Babe why are you saying that I died?" text from Bf "Umm, Money?? " Random girl " " Were done... "Boyfriend Fr what happens behind the camera 😂😂
@ElleBeatrice
Ай бұрын
I still feel so bad for that lady's son smh.
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Me too ☹️
@fin4008
Ай бұрын
That last video is a whole other discussion on terrible internet parenting
@Five0Five
Ай бұрын
I always forget to record or take photos even when it's appropriate. I like to live in the moment but then sometimes I feel bad that I didn't capture certain moments. I couldn't cry on camera, I'd rather run and hide so nobody sees me vulnerable.
@LowlyDegenerate
3 күн бұрын
It's football season, we Raider fans can cry every weekend at Allegiant Stadium and not feel embarrassed about it
@lulluu_xoxo
Ай бұрын
Crying and posting on socials is the gen z version of millennials posting cryptic quotes on socials, their friend’s asking them “what’s wrong?” And them saying “nothing”
@minty_macaron
Ай бұрын
the Tik Tok live crying for money should be an illegal offense
@ILoveLamp_1995
Ай бұрын
Normal people feel embarrassed when they cry, not stoked for their engagement 🙄
@Tynab
Ай бұрын
I think this is a symptom of people not feeling safe enough to, or not having the ability to be vulnerable and cry to their caregivers while growing up. With a side of attention seeking and dry begging online 😂
@SigEMT09
27 күн бұрын
I think it’s the opposite! I’d rather lie than get online and cry for attention, because I was taught that if I cried, I’d be given something to cry about. 😂 I personally think these crying girls are the one whose moms gave them attention and ran to their rescue every time they cried, and now they don’t know how to handle themselves alone. They need mommy internet to validate them.
@t_ylr
Ай бұрын
For one thing some of them are faking lol. If they're real tears there's nothing wrong with that in itself necessarily, but we all have intuition and we know when someone is using real emotions for content or to be manipulative. It just comes across gross and icky. Like why are you doing that? 😂
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
“Like why are you doing that?”, I felt that 😂😂😂😂
@El_Ophelia
Ай бұрын
I totally live for you saying, "Aren't you em-bah-rah-sed"? I love your accent, wherever it is from! ❤
@momokunn
Ай бұрын
Man... Its one thing to cry but to do it and post it on social media... If that's not the sign of being chronically online i dont know what is.
@arcticprowl971
Ай бұрын
If they're explaining something and they start choking up i get it but full on sobbing is a lot.
@shirandawilliams
Ай бұрын
We always say "just get a therapist" and while thats a good idea therapy is expensive and not everyone can afford it
@morethanyourbasics
Ай бұрын
I think this conversation is going to be less and less weird once more generations grow up without knowing a world without the internet If it becomes the norm to use the internet as a diary either the laws are going to change or social norms will change.
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Very interesting, I can see that
@laketac
Ай бұрын
ATTENTION. And capitalizing on the empathy & sympathy of others. Thank you for attending my Ted Talk🤗 PS. I'm less judgmental of an impromptu cry on a live, but fake or drawn out fits of crying makes me roll my eyes and scroll away.
@OnwardsUpwards410
Ай бұрын
You said it sis
@mr.bingusthecat
Ай бұрын
i don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with needing attention but… i think relying on the internet for it is definitely unhealthy and probably has some long term consequences for people’s mental health and their ability to emotionally connect. like making a habit of it just cannot be good for you
@FullofSouthernCharm
Ай бұрын
I call these people emotional manipulators.. Not to mention its not genuine
@Meowraow
Ай бұрын
There are times where I think crying online is okay. I’m not talking about the people who set up the studio, edit the video and all that to cry on camera for attention. Not that. I’m talking about people who are going through a genuinely difficult time, maybe film themselves as a way for comfort, and post it later for whatever reason. I don’t care! It is not cringe to go through emotions. As a reminder, some people don’t have the access to therapy or even friends. It’s so unempathetic to look at someone crying and call it cringe, especially without knowing what they’ve been through. We currently live in an age where showing your emotions in real life is taboo and difficult, and now it’s cringe to show them online? Are we not supposed to have any bad emotion with others at all? Are we just supposed to hide everything because it’s cringe? Again, we live in a society where crying in public is seen as weird or you’ll be judged. We struggle to have connections with other people in real life, and now people can’t do it over the internet either? I’m sorry, but I’d rather give understanding and empathy when I can and not judge people who are going though terrible things. This way of thinking is outdated and reminds me of older generations. Not everyone has someone to turn to. AND as someone else said, why is showing happy crying okay? Why are good things okay to share but not bad? People just get uncomfortable with negative emotions and don’t want to see them. And no, I have never posted myself crying online.
@magdalenagamezmagana8449
Ай бұрын
I still think people who post themselves crying are attention seeking. Videos are too curated to be real. I think the only time I'd be okay with it if, it was someone who is lonely and truly has no one.
@riothead1240
Ай бұрын
Never have I ever been in a hard time in my life and thought "damn better set up the studio". The thought of them scrambling while crying their eyes out makes me laugh how pathetic it is
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@SolaireHighwind
Ай бұрын
People trying to explain why crying in public online is helpful and healthy actually are willldd, like you said the internet Is going to judge you and is Not unbiased. (Not to mention, often spreads misinformation.) The second to last video gave Huge "needs to speak to a therapist" vibes. If you have a deep feeling of guilt about sharing your problems with your loved ones that's a problem you should try to work on, and if your mom doesn't want you to talk to her about serious things happening in your life, that also sounds like a problem.
@Lonerstoner21
Ай бұрын
As someone who grew up with the Internet inception. It’s 1000% performative and it’s ego. People now struggle to see what’s real and what propaganda. I grew up with the education of the Internet is the people are allowed to lie and get away with it and it is my responsibility as someone on there to always keep that in the forefront. We also have to keep in mind the majority of people are not great people and the Internet is 1000% their playground because they can just be themselves and get what they want out of it. We give people too much brownie points for being decent when it always needs to be skeptic first. And me being a skeptic first has allowed me to breeze through life
@PenelopeAstony
Ай бұрын
As someone who can't help crying in public, I think it's honestly fine to cry on the net. Cringe is not a crime. You're allowed to be off put by it, but everyone is cringe to someone.
@MalutkaAsienka
Ай бұрын
the 'theory of dispersion' I think, is actually quite selfish, instead of going to one person who could help, you instead post to hundreds, thousands or millions of people. All of which are likely to have their own struggles going on, and you, after being in a bad/sad mood, change everyone elses mood by putting that onto all of those unsuspecting people. When you ask someone close to you for help, they are prepared to take on that 'burden', everyone online on the other hand, is not.
@Soyou-rq1xm
Ай бұрын
I use to judge people who filmed themselves cry, until I went through back to back tragedy in life. You set up the camera to truly see if it's truly you life is dealing with. Granted, I would never post it online, but I have a lot more empathy for people now. Same way we post when we are happy, its okay to document hard and sad times of life.
@trish6116
21 күн бұрын
Me too
@aslinnortnic1467
Ай бұрын
What I can’t stand is when ppl while talking keep looking at themselves on the screen instead of the phone camera. That’s to me is it! UGH🙄🤦🏻.
@fin4008
Ай бұрын
Whyyyy lol
@VagueSilence666
Ай бұрын
I can think of a couple scenarios where this is okay. - You're breaking down, going through the motions of setting up (ring lights and all ) and end up breaking down. - Posting your cry (without editing) because you're that kind of person - you like being real with how you feel, good or bad. - Documenting how you feel and archiving it for yourself without posting. But sitting there, holding back tears just to set up and then letting loose is willllllllllllllllld. "Look, I'm so pretty when I cry" and all those other like sentiments needa just not.
@allier1867
Ай бұрын
I was 14. Filmed myself crying. I was not upset enough that i could even find my "angle" it looked so fake i had to laugh at myself
@number1662
Ай бұрын
You are doing a fantastic job and will be at 100,000 subs in no time.
@aquaruisangel
Ай бұрын
As an autistic with cptsd and ZERO real life friends, i used to cry freely online in hopes to meet similar people but yeah ended up manipulated by terrible people instead so ive learned to stay offline when im sad now which further makes me feel isolated but at least i wont become a LOLCOW anymore :/
@ElizabethPerez-zx7we
Ай бұрын
Its so annoying!!!
@daricej9753
Ай бұрын
It's truly weird and they don't think about the consequences (future employers, partners: whether personal or professional, they will judge you based on your past good or bad and you can't control how it's interpreted) some things should be private!
@kikicola78
Ай бұрын
I don't even like for those closest to me to see me cry! So I definitely wouldn't be online crying for the public! That is so cringe! If you're that emotional and you are seeking attention, please call your therapist. And if you don't have one, please seek help.
@Feg1989
Ай бұрын
Somebody finally said it! Thankyou busiswa!
@brookew2403
Ай бұрын
If some poor girl found out her man was cheating with her entire friend group. Let her cry on the internet in peace.
@snowbird9660
Ай бұрын
I “ugly cry” and don’t want to see it myself much less share with the world.
@lifebeingsliced4844
Ай бұрын
This is one of the best channels on this app, you talk about topics I love with nuance (like the backstreet veneers, hyaluron pens, etc;) and make your vids very entertaining!
@EstherStJames
Ай бұрын
My dad was estranged from his family beyond us. When I had a wellness check on him and they found him mummified in his trailer, I had only fb to spread the word to his family. They had been awful to my dad, so I cut off ties with them too. I posted so they'd know their brother/ uncle/ friend was gone. It was not my intention to cry, but my dad was beyond dead, mummified. No ability to see him again. No open casket. No money for a funeral. No goodbyes. After that I no longer judge anyone that cries.
@l0st_illusi0n23
Ай бұрын
The girl talking about posting it online for thousands to see instead of talking with close family or friends, like they aren’t gonna see the video at some point is wild.
@Bytchesagainstbullshyt8
Ай бұрын
People have become to accustomed to putting everything on social media, my generation just doesn't, these young people are desperate for attention and it's pathetic
@sakurayankishi9708
Ай бұрын
Be for real,your generation does
@Bytchesagainstbullshyt8
Ай бұрын
@@sakurayankishi9708 hardly 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@sakurayankishi9708
Ай бұрын
@@Bytchesagainstbullshyt8 have you been to Facebook, that's where most of your generation goes to cry in, I have even seen you guys making videos about how you are going to war with younger generations
@FearlessFighterAkida
Ай бұрын
Understandably, there are issues we gotta talk about where the internet is harsh towards anyone showing vulnerability or even just being real. But there are times where it feels... idk disingenuous? Like the people who say "NO one cares about me!!!" on social media but when someone asks them how they're doing or if they want to talk completely ignores them and goes back to talking about how no one cares about them. Sure if you're talking about an emotional moment, topic, etc. I think it's fine to cry. But some people have a set up that is "too good" to make it feel like a genuinely raw emotion or moment of vulnerability. Especially when you scroll down to another comment or further down the description they have a plug for something. Like - it sometimes gives "KZitemr crying on camera for sympathy after they fucked up" vibes.
@ryanpriye1402
Ай бұрын
I just don’t get the big deal about crying on the internet. It’s a normal human emotion, we don’t see the same attitude around people being angry or happy online. We’re so used to seeing curated unrealistic social media feeds (the same ones we criticize) that I think it’s a bit odd for us to see but it doesn’t mean there’s anything inherently wrong with it. It being “cringe” is subjective. Life is cringe, what’s cringe to one person might be endearing to someone else.
@whatzittooyah
Ай бұрын
12:27 keep it to yourself. No one cares about you that much
@hj3130
Ай бұрын
26:23 As much as I enjoy KZitem as background to my work and life, I'll never understand people who use social media as their friend and safe space etc. In this clip I feel like this lady is facing me like she should be facing her real human who cares, like truly cares. IDK social media is cool in some aspects, but not real as well. I think that area of gray is no longer there. Some people see more of their faces and hear their own voices in a day than others.
@Elfie1107
Ай бұрын
When I was a kid I sometime cried in front of the mirror to see how ugly my face was. It’s crazy that people are taking it this far
@athenamossuka9387
Ай бұрын
I was binge rewatching your other videos this morning thank you for new content
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
I appreciate it ❤️
@Slayallday309
Ай бұрын
25:14 “why am i tolkin like dat” Got me dying😂
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
It legit caught me off guard. That wasn’t even my South African accent, I don’t know what that was 😂😂
@MazChuga
Ай бұрын
We date online, work, order food, buy clothes online. We live online, so why not cry here, too? 🤷♀️
@BusiswaG
Ай бұрын
Might. As. Well.
@bangwanezampanoaime1332
Ай бұрын
The reasons I agree with filming yourself crying being cringy are: 1. If it is performative/ orchestrated tears; it just looks forced, terrible, and downright insane, which in most cases, maybe it's high time you went outside and touched grass. 2. For the case of real tears; Most of us people, when under duress, tend to divulge a lot of information that we strangers on the internet on the receiving end, are not privy to. And that also plays into creating more of these parasocial relationships that are not helpful. It is not so much that we are uncomfortable with crying, but being comfortable with confiding in people you don't really know, (i.e: people on the internet have alter egos/ personas) is a bridge too far. A support system or a therapist is the best alternative instead of entrusting your secrets to strangers on the internet.
@Slayallday309
Ай бұрын
OMG IVE BEEN WAITING ON THE EDGE OF MY SEAT ALL DAY FOR ANOTHER VID AND IM SO EXITED, SLAY QUEEN
@countrygirl432
25 күн бұрын
Toxic effects of social media are bringing out those "look at me" narcissistic traits these ppl wanting/needing their daily validation and attention.
@NeuroSpicy_Priestess
Ай бұрын
All I will say is this: Saying "go get therapy" is easy. But therapists cost money. Not every insurance covers it either. When I was on my mom's insurance, I went to therapy..... I had to pay 600 for a PTSD diagnosis. That was two months of car payments for me. Getting a therapist isn't as easy as a lot of people think. If it is as easy for you to get one as it is to say it to others, consider yourself privileged.
@XxStreet_by_streetxX
Ай бұрын
100th like! Also i feel like when i see it i log off and go eat smth bc I can’t STAND the thought of doing ittttt😭 nor ppl doing it bc like imagine this *crying* “sob” “wait lemme film this” *sets up camera,films then sobs thier eyes out* *_-LIKE NOOOOOO PLEASEEE😭-_*
@VVesteria
Ай бұрын
As an artist I appreciate crying pictures or videos (only if it’s realistic or dramatic) cuz it makes for great reference lmao
@anabananafofana
27 күн бұрын
calling someone’s suffering performative bc they don’t want to talk to someone else or “document their vulnerability” is such a wild take it really concerns me how dependent people are on social media. talk to people in REAL life if u can. it is so gross to call someone else’s suffering attention seeking bc they don’t turn to the shoulder of the internet. some people would rather be left alone when they cry and that’s completely ok. how u handle ur pain is what u feel comfortable with.
@XAngelZeroX
29 күн бұрын
During around 25:00 of the video, I feel like she means that it’s more comfortable / easier to tell a stranger than loved ones because some people fine more peace in doing that. For example, telling a therapist or someone who they know that doesn’t hold the same value as. A loved one in their life might be easier because those people, in this case viewers, don’t hold the same bias against her.
@MsUserNameWasTaken
23 күн бұрын
When people use social media as an online diary (especially adults) I worry for them. Strangers do not need to know the intimate details of others' lives, good or bad. Also, crying online and having mental breakdowns for the public is not cathartic nor helpful; seek therapy for goodness sake. Everyone struggles with mental health, some more than others, so I don't need to watch a stranger going through it and worsen my own.
@graceouma-cabezas6484
Ай бұрын
People are confusing being vulnerable with people they trust (which I’m heavy on, and I’m a big crier!) and THE INTERNET STRANGERS 😭. Let’s bring back diaries, loved ones and therapists.
@j.t.6456
24 күн бұрын
I absolutely HATE crying in front of people! i feel incredibly embarrassed. it also brings up bad memories of my family making fun of me for crying which is probably why i feel so ashamed by it. they would sing a made up song to egg me on to cry harder. i cannot even fathom posting my most vulnerable moments to strangers online.
@Libby_Jana
Ай бұрын
If you have to make ajustments to you equipment to cry, you have a severe problem... Not against crying or having meltdowns in public but recording? I'm in premenopause and cry for everything specially when I am way too happy but I dont know, I like my privacy. If I am pussed off I wanna be way too alone and cry my eyes out 😂 so nope, no ring light involved for me. Thanks.
@eringordon7624
Ай бұрын
I understand posting it on your private/close friends story but why do you want everyone to see it? I get being sad but wouldn't you get better responses from the close people in your life than strangers online?
@leeen7755
Ай бұрын
I noticed most people who HAT3 other people crying are men, I think they are just jealous bc they aren't "allowed" to do the same and seek for help or empathy (yk, toxic masculinity), and the guy saying "One thing I hate about women..." is a total incel lmfao 💀 well I think recording yourself crying is weird but I get the point of how it can help the person bc yes, they do it for attention, I've never did it, I don't even have other social media apart from KZitem but as a person without a single real friend irl, I feel like crap everytime and I have no one who I can trust all that crap, no where to seek help, I don't have money for a therapist and there's no free mental health programs in my country so I assume there might be people like me, but instead of keeping all of that to themselves, they post it so their followers with whom they have this parasocial relationship, comfort them and tell them everything is okay, even dm them to talk about it in private, also they point that the girl with the green shirt mentioned is true, not wanting to be a burden for your loved ones so you seek help on people you don't really care about, also not wanting to vent on one person you know irl, cry your eyes out and be vulnerable bc later you would be so ashamed to even talk to them, and that happens to me, my older sister is my biggest friend in the world, be even to stupid snd ridiculous things together, but I never and will never vent to her bc I don't feel comfortable with that, also I know she has her own problems so I don't want to be a burden too, is a mixture of feelings that I understand and that's why I understand why people upload themselves crying to the whole world
@bubbles986
4 күн бұрын
When you're talking about something emotional and it hits it's okay to cry while you're recording. When I talk about something and it somehow links to my life, that's when I decide not to not show myself crying. I always had this one rule" Never cry on social media"
@GlitterBunnyNL
Ай бұрын
I feel sorry for some cases when they have nobody. It is very possible there are people who truly lonely and even just comments could help make their days or even continue to live their lives. I don’t think we should assume and give so,e certain strong opinions when it is related to mental health. Not everyone gets the support they need. Kindness is free and we should spare for one another ❤❤❤ PS; I do understand people whose actions-ms could be questionable but I am more concerned where we become colder not only by the environment but our society…I hope you as the creator of this channel would be the speaker radiating hopes and sympathy. One random act of kindness change the world ❤❤❤
@LifeisaBeautifulting
23 күн бұрын
Comments are full of judgment people without empathy
@aprilcanipe2614
29 күн бұрын
Right..I cry alone, in the dark, in the wee hours of the night/morning. I could never, my tears are my own.
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