I appreciate ur honesty but ur content is kinda derogatory to women especially who are hurt .. a person already suffering from low esteem wont feel a boost of confidence hearing this You purposely make content for hurt women then atleast don't be condescending and if not then better make videos for those 10s you are talking abt bcoz .. but they won't watch ur videos anyway
@TheQueenIsWithin
8 ай бұрын
This advice is NOT as bad as being treated and used horribly by men. It's a cold world out there and many men are very unkind. He said you need to have higher standards and that comes from confidence. Confidence is from within.
@akankk_sha
8 ай бұрын
@@TheQueenIsWithin Confidence come from preparation.. preparation to be ur best self.. i did not mean this particular video.. in general .. a point can be put in a more subtle way more gentle way there has to be difference talking man to man and man to woman
@babydii3487
8 ай бұрын
But if you feel this way about what he's said you don't need to be dating. Work on yourself first and then you can understand and accept the message
@akankk_sha
8 ай бұрын
@@babydii3487 I am dating 🤣 and i wrote it bcoz i feel pathetic for u guys to tolerate disrespect from both ur man and ur relationship youtuber
@babydii3487
8 ай бұрын
@@akankk_sha no one has disrespected me 🩷
@babydii3487
8 ай бұрын
Being too nice makes you a victim. People prey on kindness 💯💯💯
@basicinfo2022
9 ай бұрын
Be mysterious, be hard to get, let him seriously invest in you, make him curious about your interest level and have standards.
@katarzynarajska7608
9 ай бұрын
So basically pretend you are someone who you are not? That's stupid.
@basicinfo2022
9 ай бұрын
@katarzynarajska7608 this is about growing or being a woman who values herself highly and wants to be in her feminine. If you want to get played by men, then be easy and chase him...
@SarahFaith-du8bu
9 ай бұрын
@basicinfo2022 Perhaps but don't have expectations and expect him to just know them..
@katarzynarajska7608
8 ай бұрын
@@basicinfo2022 so first play yourself? Hypocrisy. Being feminine has nothing to do with playing "hard to get". It's about being open and building something with someone who is mature. If you play this shit you will have to play it forever, otherwise a guy will lose interest sooner or later.
@softlife45
8 ай бұрын
No youre just insecure with no standards and self respect@@katarzynarajska7608
@anastasijabeograd3903
9 ай бұрын
Nothing helps if he doesn‘t wanted you from the start
@tamz-b1h
9 ай бұрын
the most important thing.
@user-eu2me4bp7j
8 ай бұрын
I wish people would talk about this more, but then dating coaches would be out of a job 😂
@Sunlightsam24
9 ай бұрын
Hard to get isn’t a game or passive aggressive behavior. It’s having a full life, not being available at his whim (because you have plans, even if it’s washing your hair) and that he has to work his way into YOUR life.
@paige8361
9 ай бұрын
I'm a very bubbly, happy-go-lucky and warm person. If he wants an ice queen, he isn't the one for me and the door is right there. However, I think Elliott is trying to protect us and he's saying more along the lines of be authentic and genuine, but make sure you have a full life of your own filled with hobbies, friends, etc. Don't cancel plans at the drop of a hat for him, keep dating other guys if he isn't serious/ doesn't see the value in committing to you, and don't always give details about every little thing. The right one will love you for being warm and you can be kind but tactfully not accept crumbs ❤
@englishapplications6323
9 ай бұрын
I am an icy cold person and I find men interested in me, though I don't allow them or give the time of the day. Beleive me, he is right. It works all the time.
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
@@englishapplications6323 totally true , notice how the guys your not really into try so hard.
@vibez8888
9 ай бұрын
Wrong. I hate to tell you, but you’re only going to be used by a man that sees you as an easy lick. Women keep trying to tell men, that know themselves, how what they’re saying is not right, because you’re a woman, and you know. I am naturally cold. Lol, and I swear to you, I have men that practically do what I want, and have been around long term. I am occasionally nice, but they have to earn it. Men have to like you more than you like them. Every chance you get, you have to notice everything wrong about him, because this helps you dislike him more. I have men that told me they like when I put them in their place. Being a little cold stops you from giving too much information to them. It’s call mystery. It’s a part of fantasy.
@LibertyMadison
8 ай бұрын
I’m bubbly, happy, and all of the things but when it comes to dating … I’m pretty cold. And he’s absolutely right. The level of care most women have baffles me in the dating market. Men (anyone) will take advantage. He’s saying stop that so you won’t get taken
@chickensauce85
7 ай бұрын
exactly you shouldn't have to pretend to be something you're not. if that's what attracts a guy to you then you two just aren't compatible and that's ok.
@Pacifica74
9 ай бұрын
I did this. I let him worry. I let him squirm & even shed tears. BUT when I said in my mind enough is enough and let him know by my actions that I was all his - he went right into low effort. So what does this tell me. You can NEVER relent. How exhausting to keep playing a role I"m not by nature. But I'm shown it's what needs to be done.
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
Don't tell them everything , like what you do all the time , don't make excuses if you miss a pH call . They don't have to know, be mysterious.
@cookiethomas8069
7 ай бұрын
It is not what needs to be done... Don't play these men mind games. Be yourself. It's either he's for you or he's not. The right one will reciprocate and protect your emotions without the mind games.. True love is out there. Just trust in the Lord
@zanecliffo3685
10 күн бұрын
Literally play them the same as they play us. Match energy ends up in a stalemate lol if he won't move and I won't love then we stay ghosting but if u keep him as an option then ur not losing anything either
@teanna4569
9 ай бұрын
My hot and cold behavior sweet and distant behavior seems to reel these men like fish, I don’t act like this on purpose, they tell me iam a mystery a puzzle a unicorn 🦄, then they don’t know if I like them then out of nowhere if we have an argument or some type of dispute they think iam leave and they start crying or expressing there feelings while time iam unaware just being me … men love anything that confusing and unpredictable, I have to be careful who I give my energy to men get attached to me very fast, and don’t even be doing nothing, I don’t chase I show interest, I don’t pressure them into relationships I create distance… rule # 1 stop taking these men sooooo seriously
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
yup i agree, many men become kind of obsessed when you keep a distance and are still showing you like them. Honestly it can be too much obsession, so i've become a little careful there too. I always take people's feelings seriously though, but yes take it easy in fllirting and early dating
@teanna4569
9 ай бұрын
@@CeciledeLuire yes because most men are very insecure, every guy I dated I just created distance because I hate clingy it “recks” CONTROL FREAK and literally drive me crazy, especially when you felt with a clingy partner before, men are used to women being clingy when they like them soooooo when your not they constantly need your validation, your it does make them obsessed so I have to be careful who I give my energy to because I can sense it a Mile away
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
@@teanna4569 i agree..-also on the (in my opinion) fact that a huge majority of men is very insecure. Unfortunately. A bigger amount of secure men would mean a better choice for us who like really (instead of fake) confident guys.
@randyholliday5626
8 ай бұрын
@@teanna4569no most men that you deal are insecure men with options we aren't chasing you a man with abundance mindset isn't sweating you
@user_abcxyzz
7 ай бұрын
If they're clingy and obsessive, it's low value. Seek higher value company
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
Also, i'd say: Be AUTHENTIC over all. If you're cold, be cold. If you're lively, be lively. For example, i'm not cold. So pretending to be cold doesn't make me feel at ease and would perceivably be fake. What *makes* me feel at ease (and definitely attracts men also) is when i don't give a flying' eff but just enjoy life to the fullest... Which is very doable as long as i'm not in love with the guy ha
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
But yes, don't be too clear towards men!! That's true. They *love* being in the middle.
@paige8361
9 ай бұрын
This! ❤
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
@@paige8361 💛
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
Just don't show all your cards , They use to say treat em mean keep em keen lol
@katharina1439
9 ай бұрын
Why is it "wasted resources" if a man knows he can have you?!?!?🤔 Doesn't he want a woman too?? What's the point in remaining single? I get it if you are in your 20's but after 35(or40) a man has to settle down or die alone. If I'm looking for something with someone and the person says "yes, that's good I'm looking for the same and I also like you" Then perfect. So why do men make this so complicated?🙄 Doesn't being cold attract unavailable people? Emotionally mature people should know what they want and pursue it.
@chiobabe2180
9 ай бұрын
Yes! I agree
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
I think it's about nuances = not being all in when he isn't yet. So i think yes you can let him know you like him, but then see if he starts to pursue you-if so, awesome. If not, detach and enjoy your life with other people : )
@AmericanDreamer
7 ай бұрын
💯💯💯🤦🌴 I wonder about the same....what is wrong with men nowadays?! weird and bad for any healthy future families
@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju
3 ай бұрын
@@AmericanDreamer The issue with men is the men you are drawn to are in an EXTREME limited number. It's the overwhelming options that causes them to not chase. It's nature balancing itself out with role reversal that women can't accept
@nikkiross128b
4 ай бұрын
Pooh this whole dating thing is becoming rocket science. Wonder how I ever got into those 3 long relationships in the past. Now everything seems so different.
@Lynn-r7x
6 ай бұрын
So it sounds like we should just never be attainable and just always play hard to get or "mysterious" cause clearly once they get us they lose interest regardless.
@nofybn7794
3 ай бұрын
EXACLTY!!
@Nina-ur3ld
5 күн бұрын
Mommy issues 😮
@roser8911
9 ай бұрын
Game sucks! Single is better ❤
@amrei9760
9 ай бұрын
It’s exhausting…
@roser8911
9 ай бұрын
@@amrei9760 yeah… couldn’t even focus on my days. It feels like my soul is numb and so my body.
@AD-hh6dd
9 ай бұрын
I had a guy say I was a little on the colder side (he knew I liked him though) and he still didn’t want to commit even though he begged me not too leave. Elliot is right though. I’ve never had a guy not want to commit to me before so I’m not a simp. Sometimes people still just won’t commit even if you have a good balance.
@EdelweisSusie
9 ай бұрын
I've now turned the tables on men ie if THEY don't bring anything to the table, you won't see me for dust. Men who want to date me that are drowning in debt, have problematic ex-wives, multiple children (with multiple women) and no practical skills, I'm not interested - NEXT! And to precis what Elliot is saying, go with a British saying - "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen". Enough said.
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
Some of them are good at hiding that they gamble do drugs or even are alcoholic or are in debt. Be wise listen to your gut and take your time, get to know their friends n family.
@jessicahitchens6926
2 ай бұрын
Those are the dross. My God imagine not having some practical skills and you are a "male"...
@teanna4569
9 ай бұрын
You basically gotta lie to them… they don’t know how I feel because I can be nice and sweet but out of reach… iam not chasing or reaching out.., keep them at distance stroke his ego validate him and he will fall in love trust me… his brain is gonna crave the oxytocin… friend zone them men hate being friend zoned, you can’t want more from them than want from you otherwise you setting yourself up to get played, start off by not wanting much from him he will always be craving your validation especially if your not in hurry for relationship, and most women are he will be alarmed as to why not, he’s ego will be screaming, but this only works if he like you more , if you like him more just run, you be wasting your time and be heart broken 💔 you gotta be just as detached as these men regardless how you feel
@sleepystrawberry4657
9 ай бұрын
thank you sis ❤
@teanna4569
8 ай бұрын
@@sleepystrawberry4657 you welcome 🙂
@EduardoOliveira-zx9ju
3 ай бұрын
@@teanna4569 What you're saying applies to men who you aren't attracted to and poor men. Affluent men are in an EXTREME limited number. They are overwhelmed with options. Another woman means an old woman is now replaced with different thoughts.
@ToriHarris-lb6zg
9 ай бұрын
Wayyyyy too many games
@nofybn7794
3 ай бұрын
EXACTLY!
@thefemininemommy5510
6 ай бұрын
Stop coming in these comments crying and listen to message and tighten up.
@steph6109
9 ай бұрын
Lol. Elliot you are saving pick-mes left right and centre. The only thing holding women back after watch this will be "are all men trying to conquer? Can't I find a genuine guy who will love me without the games? I don't want to waste my time playing games with this guy when I can just find a good man"
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
It's not a game , you are important , you need to becareful .
@CeciledeLuire
9 ай бұрын
personally, if i like the company and the people and they praise me to the moon and back, i'll be happy to sign the contract with a normal/ decent salary. I'd love to be welcomed and appreciated this warmly. I'd think "yup that's what i deserve, and that's what i want to give back in appreciation."
@annas9720
9 ай бұрын
My favorite dating coach with my favorite thumbnails lately ❄️😂
@Ceceee21
9 ай бұрын
Haha I just wanted to say I’ve been really appreciating the effort put into your thumbnails Elliot, thanks sm 😂
@LoveEndures7
8 ай бұрын
Not for Narcisistic relationships that are abusive
@lke4907
9 ай бұрын
Coach Elliot- The sound quality is too low. Will you please improve it? Sincerely, your long-time follower.
@kelseydavidson569
9 ай бұрын
I can hear it well! I'm listening on an android phone, and used headphones and it was okay. What are you listening with?
@juliefall2892
9 ай бұрын
I agree it needs to be a bit louder.
@Bouncer10000
4 ай бұрын
It doesn't work for me. I'm too smart and intelligent to play anyone else's games. When a woman becomes cold, I ignore and let her go. Goodbye dear! Next one please!
@moonbelle98
9 ай бұрын
Why is it a waste of resources to invest in a caring, giving woman who displays these traits sooner than later? Isn't her displaying these traits meaning their investment of more resources is likely to pay off, therefore invest more? I don't understand the bush analogy and how that ties into this point.
@Marjani1968
5 ай бұрын
Obsessed with your content! You really tell us how it is!
@tammik4652
9 ай бұрын
I love your analogies!!
@OlderWomenRock
4 ай бұрын
Great so You have to hide your warmth so a man might like you being cold That guy might be messed up
@magicalfairylife
8 ай бұрын
Great tips
@basicinfo2022
9 ай бұрын
6:25 lol dam
@iwonderwhatmydognamedme4000
7 ай бұрын
Hey Elliot not sure if u have a video on this topic or not but can u do a video on leaving him on read? I see so many videos about leaving her on read but haven’t seen any with leaving him on read thanks!
@livvv1x457
7 ай бұрын
If only I'd known this 3 months ago 😓😪
@Adelina24244
7 ай бұрын
It’s ok if he left let him be. I was cold and distant and he felt like he had me then he got emotional and made a lying excuse and left I’m glad he did. He was passive so I don’t like that
@naemack1441
9 ай бұрын
Hi, Elliot! 😊
@Selfmagnet
9 ай бұрын
I agree for sure if experience
@Callie0818
6 ай бұрын
How about when youre dating someone for over a year
@Callie0818
6 ай бұрын
Do you have a payment plan? Also I need someone that will listen, I've wasted money on coaches that won't even listen and all they could tell me was break up w that man
@melissazaccagnini2567
2 ай бұрын
Just be a C U Next Tuesday & he’ll fall in love, I’m done being nice & good! Next guy I’m taking full advantage of & he will fall at my feet
@lgg7168
9 ай бұрын
In thought cold in the sense that she needs a jacket or a blanket !
@eva-nr2bs
9 ай бұрын
👍👍👍
@babydii3487
9 ай бұрын
Lol
@FriendlyGhost56
7 ай бұрын
I came cause of Alex from @mindful-attraction definitely did not disappoint ❤
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