Hey - so glad you're here! Has anyone besides me decluttered a lot of stuff only to find your home cluttered up again? I think this book my solution. What do you think?
@rachelheath1208
Ай бұрын
💫Packed with insightful info thank you so much . 🙏 I will need to re-listen again soon. 💐Thank you for including a strategy to try for moving forward. 🧠Its really made me think about myself+ 🌳the generations previous and younger gen in my family tree . A lot of “wow yes moments”while viewing this video (🫶And better understanding of my friends and wider circle who have shared with me their view on finances over the yrs!!!)
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
@rachelheath1208 oh, I’m so glad to hear it was helpful to you. That makes me feel happy!
@CCreedUT
Ай бұрын
Yes. I did the same.
@shirleygermain5707
Ай бұрын
When I go shopping and feel the urge to buy something, I tell myself... That will end up in a garage sale someday. Since decluttering these past 3 years, I have felt less and less about buying things. My home is so easy to clean, and everyone who sees my home and garage is amazed at how nice it looks. I had a neighbor just last night as I was watering my plants she said Oh my, your garage is so clean! Lol
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
This sounds like a great plan for you. I’m happy it’s working so well! I look forward to the day when our garage is that clean. 😀
@crystallevin
Ай бұрын
I love all of your videos! This is such a needed discussion topic! Thank you for discussing both ends of the spectrum (over spending and under spending -based on your needs). Although I never go into debt with my spending, I am realizing that sometimes I over spend in certain areas (craft supplies) and have started easing my house into a more minimalist decor while still having beautiful artwork on the walls (mostly thrifted) and bright pillows on the sofa. I've noticed that decreasing my possessions is a motivation to not bring so much into my life (from thrifting with my sister). I catch myself sometimes while at a store and think "Do I really want to mess up the look of my simplified home by bringing more "decor" items into my life?" No way! I heard someone say that it is easier to move toward a "Yes" goal than it is to move away from a "No" goal. So I am realizing that saying "Yes" to saving for a big item I really want is easier than saying "No" to cool thrift store finds. It is a mind trick but the results are the same! I am realizing that I have to stay away from certain stores when I am trying to save money (and time). One thrift store near my house (in North Idaho) has a deal once a week that is hard to resist. Once a week they have a "great" deal for $1. Everything you can fit in a shopping bag only costs a $1! ...At that point it is more about "Do I want to bring more stuff into my life or not?" No! I like my minimal home decor! Just enough stuff to feel comfortable, but not too much!
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
Wow! Good for you! You’ve made some great progress. I relate to not having to go into certain stores. They are triggers for me. I only go into a thrift store if I have a certain need and don’t let myself buy anything else. I rarely do that because I ended up with tons of random things that I don’t need and don’t want. A lot of my decor bins that I haven’t decluttered yet have some of that stuff. Now I look at it and wonder what I was thinking. But I think that was the problem. I wasn’t thinking. Craft stores are dangerous for me too. I’ve heard that Hobby Lobby has made some big changes. I can’t go in there to find out. But it’s good. When I decorate now, I use what I have because I have enough. I’m so glad I finally read this book. I needed it.
@jenforbes661
Ай бұрын
This commenter brings up some great points!
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
@jenforbes661 I agree!
@carrie3206
Ай бұрын
I find my spending habits have changed a lot throughout my life. I can spend freely at times and then in some areas, like toiletries, cleaning supplies and make up, I am very practical. I am brand specific and rarely deviate in these areas. I was young and raised my children on my own and really felt deprivation early on. I was able to go to school later on and create a nice income and so now I have a deep deep desire to not let my children and grandchildren from ever feeling deprived and so it shows up in very generous gifts giving. I am working on that and the hardest part is around Christmas, because my grandchildren will scream out with joy when opening a gift they love! Oh boy! 😊❤
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
I really relate to the bit about the children and grandchildren not being deprived. My kids went through a lot during one particular lean period and then, when I started to do very well, I started spending on them in many ways and I never turned it back off. I’ve had to shut the spending-car down lately. It’s taken a lot for me to take a breath and admit where I am. But I feel power in that. I just wish I’d realized it years ago. I guess that’s how life goes sometimes. We go along doing what we’ve always done. Then we start to learn new things and then we can do better because we learned about them.
@carrie3206
Ай бұрын
@@TowardsASimpleLife yes, thank you!
@laurat7324
15 күн бұрын
My parents grew up during the Depression and so many things they do now is because of that. It makes me crazy but I will most likely be the same way when I'm older. I will NEVER forget seeing empty toilet paper aisles in the stores and no disinfectant or soap during 2020!! Mom and Dad never throw things away and in contrast, today's society throws everything out. (Generally speaking)
@TowardsASimpleLife
15 күн бұрын
So true! My parents grew up in the Depression too. We were okay during the run on everything during 2020 because we store food and necessities. It’s a family cultural and religious thing. We don’t hoard, but we are prepared. Oh boy… were we ever grateful for it at that time. It’s also helping us while my husband looks for work. I’m working to figure out the difference between the preparation items and the things I just don’t need anymore. I want to get rid of them. I don’t want to be wasteful, but I don’t want to be burdened down. Lots of questions!
@L_MD_
4 сағат бұрын
Wow .. my grandparents grew up in the depression but they’ve since passed away. In regards to throwing things out, I disagree there - items like washing machines, electronics, and even furniture are without a doubt designed with planned obsolescence in mind...they break down sooner and are difficult or costly to repair. Unlike past generations, where appliances were built to be repaired and reused, modern products today force us into a cycle of replacing rather than fixing, not because of choice, but because of how they're made. Its terrible how we are forced into constant consumerism :(
@msj246
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! I think that understanding WHY we have the clutter or get cluttered again after decluttering is HUGE. There are so many videos out there now about how to get rid of the clutter, but not many that I have found on what is causing the problem. Thank you for sharing so genuinely and for your caring nature both for yourself and your viewers. I appreciate you and will keep watching. I will also pick up a copy of this book (maybe from the library 😅) to learn some techniques to overcome my accumulation of all the things. Thank you!! **hugs**
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
You are so very welcome. Thank YOU so much for watching and letting me know the video was helpful to you. It means so much to me that you did.
@GoingGreenMom
28 күн бұрын
There was a book I read some years ago that helped me start working on the reasons I was hoarding in the first place. It might not be hoarding level for others, but I think it would still help if the issue is not a dpending addiction for you. For me it was trauma. But the book is called Stuff. The cover has stacks of books spelling out Stuff. Not always the most pleasant book to read, but can point out some things that you are doing because of trauma responses or underlying issues that you don't even realize are happening.
@TowardsASimpleLife
28 күн бұрын
Thanks for the recommendation. I'll look for it. I have a pile of books I'm working through. I'll talk about the best ones. "Stuff" sounds good. (I have some trauma responses going on.)
@GoingGreenMom
28 күн бұрын
@@TowardsASimpleLife I hope it helps! I just added Spent to my list!
@TowardsASimpleLife
28 күн бұрын
@@GoingGreenMom could you tell me the author? I can’t find it on Amazon.
@GoingGreenMom
28 күн бұрын
@TowardsASimpleLife Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things By Randy Frost. It looks like they have changed the cover a bit from the one I originally borrowed from the library too (I bought it later on Kindle cause I couldn't get through if that quick.).
@GoingGreenMom
28 күн бұрын
@TowardsASimpleLife just checking because my last comment didn't seem to tag you.
@mariecochlan664
28 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for tackling this subject. You’ve hit a few nerves. I feel the need to get this book and work through it. Thank you. Mx
@TowardsASimpleLife
28 күн бұрын
You are so very welcome! The book hit more than a few nerves with me, too. It's been good though. I needed it.
@Mythriftedhome214
Ай бұрын
Rozanne, what inspiring but challenging information. It makes so much sense. I find for myself, I know I am a shopaholic yet I also resist changing 😬 but I will look up that book because it is good information ❤
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
It’s a hard thing to see it. I’ve known for a long time I think, but felt powerless to do something about it. The things I have tried didn’t work and I’ve felt out of control. Then Gary lost his job and everything became critical. Lots of prayer led me to this and my eyes opened. I feel like I’m back in our Air Force days when I really had to manage our money well. It’s a challenge and a relief at the same time. The book is going to help and making the public video was me saying, “okay, this is me. I’ve been doing this. I am going to change now. Here’s what I can do to change.” I’m praying that the video and book will help others too. You’re such a good friend to me. Thanks for supporting me.
@Mythriftedhome214
Ай бұрын
@@TowardsASimpleLife yes, accountability is key. So easy to make and break promises to ourselves ☺️how is his search going? Darin has had numerous interviews and many seem close to a decision and yet still in the wait…
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
@Mythriftedhome214 No responses or interviews yet. I think his age doesn’t help. He did talk to Lowe’s, because he worked there once, and they said they really need him. He put in an application but nothing yet.
@Mythriftedhome214
Ай бұрын
@@TowardsASimpleLife praying for him🙏🏻❤️❤️
@courtneyhenderson16
Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. I have appreciated your honesty in this journey toward a peaceful life. It is not easy; there is pain involved; but on the other side of acceptance and courage is a much better life. I do encourage you, and I encourage myself.
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
I truly appreciate your encouragement, Courtney. It means a great deal to me. Bless you. Just making this video has helped me a lot. I guess it was like standing up in a meeting to say, “Here’s where I am. It’s behind me now and I have hope and resolve that I can recover from this.” I pray that this video will help and encourage others. It can be okay. We don’t have to stay stuck in the past or beat ourselves up about our mistakes. When we know better, we can do better. (Maya Angelou said something like that.)
@courtneyhenderson16
Ай бұрын
@TowardsASimpleLife Thank you. It's sometimes tempting for me to be angry at myself for not knowing then what I know now. And I am tempted to think I have lost so much of my life that would have been so different if it hadn't taken me this long to learn basic things about life. (I'm 62.) BUT I remind myself of 2 things. 1) Disease is progressive, but so is recovery. 2) God forgave me long ago. When I forgive myself I am doing God's will. ❤️
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
Amen! ❤️❤️❤️
@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj
Ай бұрын
I only buy useful & necessary items and they usually are replacing things that are very old or broken, except groceries & household cleaning items, of course.
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
It sounds like you’ve really worked it out!
@DrMaryVision
Ай бұрын
I am so grateful that I saw this video. I have always said “everyone is weird about money” because we each bring all of our lifetime issues and influences into our money attitudes. I know my own nuclear family could be very out of balance about money because of the way our depression mentality parents’ attitudes. I have just bought the book, and think it will be helpful both for me and for my understanding of how difficult this is for others. I loved the analogy about how we as a culture viewed alcoholism decades ago. This is a real and complex problem. Having a resource from a mental health professional is a productive way to begin addressing these issues. Thanks for the recommendation.
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
I’m so glad it was helpful to you! Money is such a hot topic for so many of us. Isn’t it interesting how hard it is to talk about? Maybe if we talked about it more, we could stop passing problems down to our kids and things would go better for them.
@albareyes7412
28 күн бұрын
Excellent, Excellent video and what powerful information you're sharing with us. Thank you ❤🙏🏼
@TowardsASimpleLife
27 күн бұрын
Thanks, Alba! I'm always so happy to see you. I'm glad you're enjoying the videos!
@kathycarter1553
27 күн бұрын
Rozanne, such a great video and thank you for sharing. One thing I do not understand when people go out to the Thrift Stores, TJMaxx, etc and then they have to declutter after a few months, because they have too much stuff. I tell myself you do not need it when shopping for one thing particular and I can see why people get in financial debt today, especially everything is so high. Take care, Kathy
@TowardsASimpleLife
27 күн бұрын
Thanks for watching, Kathy! I totally get what you’re saying. It’s so easy to get caught up in the thrill of thrifting - or really, any of the "fun" stores. That's what I used to do. I'd get my cart and start wandering around and the easier it was to find "good" stuff, the faster the cart would start filling up. It reached a peek during my bad Long Covid days, but - to be fair to myself - my brain wasn't the best right then and my decision-making was off. A good deal of what you see me decluttering now came in during that time. The problem was shutting the spending off. I've made a LOT of progress during 2024. Gary losing his job has also made a big difference. I've been glad I was already on the way to not shopping much before this happened. Take care of yourself, too!
@Whatworksthisworks
23 күн бұрын
TJMax and those places are my toughest places. I am doing so much better watching videos like this 😅❤ Thank you!
@TowardsASimpleLife
22 күн бұрын
@Whatworksthisworks 😀
@aniam.9996
26 күн бұрын
What help me the most with decluttering my wardrobe 2 days ago was the sentences from the book you recommended by Greg McKeown - Essentiallism: Do you love this item? How much would you be willing to pay for this item if you didn’t have it? Also giving them points 9/10 helped me to make the right decisions. Suddenly I was able to get rid of clothes which are too small or given to me by other people. Thank you for your videos ❤
@TowardsASimpleLife
25 күн бұрын
I love this. Using these questions can be so helpful. I need to carry a card in my pocket all the time. It’s a good way to make decisions. Thanks for the reminder!
@morganrasmussen5071
Ай бұрын
Thank you for this eye opening, honest perspective, so helpful as I consider becomming a professional declutter-er😮
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
You are so welcome! Good luck in your potential career!
@UniquelyLesa
28 күн бұрын
Hey there! Wonderful video topic. It was great to hear about all the different types of personalities and characteristics that revolve around clutter invading our homes. Growing up, one parent was a depriver and one was a hoarder. I've had to heal from a lot of trauma. ❤ With God's grace I pray everyone listening that struggles can find peace and release from any of these addictions they might have. Thanks for sharing. XO
@TowardsASimpleLife
27 күн бұрын
Thanks for dropping such a thoughtful comment! It’s wild how our pasts affect us. Sending you good vibes on your healing journey! Love you! XO
@jessieferguson7500
20 күн бұрын
This hit a nerve. I NEVER stick to my grocery lust. I'll go in for 5-10 things and come out with a cart full. I have limited fridge and freezer and cupboard space and this helps me limit myself. But there are times every spot in fridge, freezer and cupboard is stuffed to the max. I am able to pull back at that point and force myself to use everything up. But it's a constant cycle that I haven't addressed as far as cause.
@TowardsASimpleLife
20 күн бұрын
I’m glad I’m not alone! Lately, I’ve been using Walmart + delivery service. I place the order in the app. It’s amazing what it is doing for us. It’s hard to “browse” so I’m ending up with just my list. I have forbidden my husband to shop in the store because he is a “basket filler” too. Instead, he tells me what we need and I put it in my cart. When the cart gets ready - or we need the stuff that day- I put through the order. Try it and see if it helps! A tip: if you want your order delivered early in the day, put through your order the evening before.
@paigemarcantel3943
24 күн бұрын
Great and insightful video!!!
@TowardsASimpleLife
23 күн бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@SuperClare
23 күн бұрын
Great content - helpful info. ❤
@TowardsASimpleLife
23 күн бұрын
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for being here. 😀
@crimequeencreates8248
26 күн бұрын
This was a very informative video that gave me more insight into how to keep the clutter from coming back again.
@TowardsASimpleLife
26 күн бұрын
I’m glad it was helpful to you! Thanks so much for letting me know. Hope you have a great weekend.
@myonlinepresence7833
Ай бұрын
What useful insights. I'm going to be thinking about this for a long time.
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Thanks so much for watching and for commenting!
@JAlex-ld2lh
Ай бұрын
A unique and interesting perspective. Makes sense
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
@yolandagutierrez7465
Ай бұрын
Thank you!
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
You’re welcome!
@anniey949
Ай бұрын
Excellent Video. I really needed to hear this information. So Interesting Xx
@TowardsASimpleLife
Ай бұрын
I’m so glad it has been helpful. Hope you have a wonderful weekend!
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