What a strange feeling... to only feel understood by those who are equally misunderstood
@Lexmorningstarnz
3 жыл бұрын
Threats so true! It’s so hard to find
@JordanExplores97
3 жыл бұрын
I hurt someone I'm very close to last year and I've still been struggling to not beat myself up for it. I dealt with it, apologized and all, but I think the struggle is forgiving ourselves because we as INFP hold ourselves to such high moral standards because of our strong moral compass.
@tamann7
3 жыл бұрын
No one can be perfect, we all make mistakes. It is hard to deal with sometimes, but you must go on and do what is right for everyone. You can't make up whatever you did wrong so you have to forgive yourself. Be the best person you can be.
@VotePaineJefferson
Жыл бұрын
Perhaps it's worth reminding ourselves that life is more than just avoiding hardships and hard feelings. Without risk, there's no gain. Without mistakes, discovery is impossible.
@tiffanyrussell5040
3 жыл бұрын
Watching your videos has validated that I am without a doubt an INFP. It's like everything you say I can identify with
@YasminMahnaz
3 жыл бұрын
Wish she would put the abbreviation in description. Whaaaa is IDGAF? Idjp... what is edp...idfp.... seriously.... made up abbreviations.?
@rouamamoun9867
3 жыл бұрын
I have never had a romantic relationship, i come out as weirdo and i'm always oblivious to what's going on around me, my friends tell me that this fellow or that are into you but i don't realize the signs i need someone to straightforwardly say it, once a guy said that he wants me to be his girlfriend, and my response was i literally ran away from him💀😶 i don't know it was out of instinct but i'm so in my lalaland that my new boss commented about this he told me you are always absent although you are here, a coworker responded that i'm faking it 🙃i was just looking at them confused what they were talking about, he then started to raise his voice and tried to mock my actions and suddenly he stopped to ask me if i was sad bcuz he scolded me i said : were you scolding me now? No and just walked away still trapped in my head, wooow that's alot of incoherent ranting but that's how weird i can be, your videos are sooooo beautiful and to the point i love that❤️❤️❤️❤️
@NeoNine10
3 жыл бұрын
Interesting and quite relatable. As a fellow infp, i had a boss that kinda reacted to me in a somewhat similar manner. Not in all the same ways but similar, i did stand up for myself when this happened and luckily didn't get fired on the dot but mainly that my boss didn't think i was withit aswell. Infp's process and intuit things differently and we can be in our head a lot, often minding our own business and mostly wanting to keep out of trouble. We can still stand up for ourselves though when people make us out to doing something we are not with our buttons pushed and become quite passionate at getting our point across, at least that's how it was for me and how i've dealt with conflict at times anyways.
@geniawash2196
2 жыл бұрын
Idk WHO you are but based reading ur comment…ur definitely someone I’d be best friends with. Hands Down.😌👌🏽🙃
@KOHARUKOUSUKEI
3 жыл бұрын
There's a very huge downplaying of solitude. Solitude isn't bad, being alone isn't bad. Being lonely however is. I understand the need for human connection and communication, which is very important, however, if you're not dating or in a relationship, you'll be fine, if you have only yourself, you will be fine. Focus on yourself and you will reap the benefits of your sows. Do not neglect yourself for the sake of someone else's well being my fellow INFPs. We are seen as selfish when we choose to follow our own path and not be someone's 24/7 caregiver. Always remember to love, and that you ARE LOVED. Remember to take time out for yourself, grab a good book/notebook, meditate, whatever it is of a healthy activity you enjoy, use it as part of your personal therapy. Keep peace, but also remember that peace must first found/established internally, before you can establish it externally. Follow your heart, but take your brain with you as the two are to be applied and worked together in a tandem. Make yourself happy, and do not seek to please others, Lex ahs said this, I'm saying it, and the universe ITSELF says it. You will always fall short in the eyes of man when attempting to please his fickle heart. Balance is key in the focus of yourself yet also the focus to help others when genuine help is needed. But always remember: Love thyself and you will know thyself. When you know thyself, you can know other selves and share that love in a genuine state. You are more than you can imagine. You are more than just your thoughts. You are yin and you are yang, you are the continual, perpetual process of the big bang. I love you all and as I do, take pride in being an INFP. Stay Weird and Stay Awesome, Spiral On.~ P.S. Keep up the good work Lex. STAY AWESOME!!!~
@guybeauregard
2 жыл бұрын
From being put on a pedestal, to long stretches of off-the-grid neglect . . . I must say that dating an INFP is really challenging, especially when the conflict avoidance kicks in, making it harder to actually address existing problems. :(
@flutenanyidk1806
3 жыл бұрын
Love INFPs, all xNFxs really. But we do... put people on pedestals sometimes... I'm pretty open with the people around me about my flaws and my ADHD so that they know. A part of me hopes that will help me avoid being put on a pedestal like this. Aside from that reason, it's just not really in my nature to hide who I am. I'm not usually ashamed of myself. I mean, yeah, I don't celebrate my flaws most of the time (except for the creativity that ADHD brings, but I feel that much is justified) but I'm not afraid to admit I'm imperfect. I don't want people to be disappointed once they find out I have flaws, I want them to feel comfortable around me. In the case of friends and family, I want them to feel comfortable enough to show me theirs. To say the least, my pedestal for others isn't a thing anymore- or is at least much shorter. Edit: This is partially because I've learned that this behavior, though coming from a good place, can be super toxic. It can lead to unintentional obsession and disappointment.
@simonalaniz1192
3 жыл бұрын
The neglect part... damn For some reason I feel really validated right now, I still don’t think I can forgive myself over neglecting someone I loved to the point of not having chemistry anymore, but it makes me feel a little more at peace to know people like me struggle with the same things. I don’t think I can live with myself after my last relationship but this makes me feel a little better, so thank you for that :]
@ashutoshsingh221
3 жыл бұрын
Your thumbnails in videos are reaching next level
@aenese34
3 жыл бұрын
My biggest challenge in relationships has to do with how I deal with emotions. I have a hard time processing my emotions, when I get angry or upset I tend to bottle it up, leading to resentment...Or sometimes even when I process it with my partner I cannot just go back, I cannot just move on and be happy lovey dovey again, it takes me a good night's rest, sometimes even a day or two before coming back to normal. It's very exhausting sometimes. My mind tells me to move on, because the situation is already settled, talked through but my emotions just don't seem to move at that pace. This comes across as sulking, and maybe it is, but trust me, it's not because I'm seeking attention or being vindictive, it's just that I really can't move on that fast.
@princessleai
2 жыл бұрын
i recently broke up with my fiance.. it was so hard for me but I knew it needed to happen sooner rather than later
@potato-ez5ee
3 жыл бұрын
It's been as hot in Australia, ahh welcome to summer 😂🙈 I've had to take a bit of a step back from dating to work on myself. Since I have CPTSD alongside being an INFP so emotional dysregulation has affected many of my relationships, romantic or otherwise and also I tend to put whoever I'm with on a pedestal which isn't healthy. Being able to reflect on my unhealthy habits when I'm in a relationship has really been what I needed. Sure, someday I might settle down with someone but right now I'm really happy working on myself.
@omiquewilliams8632
2 жыл бұрын
Her husband is an ENFP and as an ENFP that makes me so happy ❤️
@NotFalling4it
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, so accurate. I’ve been hyper focusing on something for a few months now, I’ve usually got over it by now but - nope not this time. Thank you for uploading such helpful content.
@Pearlio
3 жыл бұрын
I'm an ENTP and just started dating an INFP. I of course asked her what her MBTI type was on our second date to get a better understanding of her; in short order found myself on your channel lol. Thank you for sharing so much of your life experiences with the channel!
@everybodysayparty
3 жыл бұрын
6 years later I still feel guilty for breaking up with someone!
@Lexmorningstarnz
3 жыл бұрын
Same! I should do a video about it?
@dannyc.6988
3 жыл бұрын
@@Lexmorningstarnz Yes, please make a video about breakup guilt.
@MusicMAAD
3 жыл бұрын
@@Lexmorningstarnz Guilt is something I'm always carrying around lol
@amberwren
3 жыл бұрын
So good Lex. Thanks ❤️
@yonatangordon2946
3 жыл бұрын
Very much related to especially the second part of the video. Thank you for sharing.
@HeroicMermaids98
3 жыл бұрын
Omg this is so bizarre but I am currently trying to get an ADHD diagnosis and i watched your video about undiagnosed ADHD in women and it taught me so much. I am an INFP and have recently been doing a lot more research into it as a tool for self development and stumbled upon your channel. I have only connected the dots that both videos were yours! Crazy! We must be two of a kind 🥰
@EthicsandEconomics
2 жыл бұрын
When we are into Something, we just forget the rest of the world and blur to the fantasical world of daydreaming. "We live and breathe intensely" And that emotional confusion part 😑hit well plus the breaking part damn true.
@xantisant
3 жыл бұрын
I had the very same experience over two years ago - and it still kills me how much i hurt my expartner
@sarahlilly2476
2 жыл бұрын
So true I can never put things into words.. You are awsome!! Thank You 😊
@NeoNine10
3 жыл бұрын
I think it's because we care so much and want it to work out, and because the infp can be so poorly understood (yes even potentially among other infp's as we are still all different) as they rely so much on their gut feelings over logic (but that's not to say an infp can't be logical, we just don't often prefer it as that way can come across cold) to work things out and work through things based on past experiences, often in their own quiet and stealthy conflict-avoiding way, (or atleast they try to) but others don't understand that coming from a different place. The infp can become a doormat to narcissists if they are not observant enough and let their idealism and views of romance get in the way of being able to judge another's character before taking things further. Some infp's though feel like they deserve the mental beating as they think they aren't good enough. But i also think that can be a fairly common problem among those who've been through many relationships, not just infp's..Like those that got hurt but remain gullible and still can't see it's better just to be alone than face more hurt. I'm in two minds..Sometimes it's just not worth it when finding the one is harder and more painfully arduous (for the empath especially) than winning the lottery especially in this day and age of social distancing, computer communication and the internet. I also know i will be good for someone though. But good for you Lexy that you found that someone you were probably meant to be with in the first place. But me, i don't know where i'll be.
@rionasroy2501
3 жыл бұрын
Going through a breaking up phase. It's so true about beating oneself up. Even though I was the one being left, I still sometimes think maybe I can do more to help or reach out to the other person . And staying in touch definitely doesn't help. This video is exactly what I needed! Thanks Lex
@gail9566
2 жыл бұрын
My husband and I are both INFP. He unfortunately has a girlfriend now. I was heartbroken but am now determined to let him go.
@clzbear
3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I feel i come off fairly dull or unintelligent since I shut down when I am uncertain how to proceed with someone I don't fully trust yet. I make terrible first impressions. lol
@jJust_NO_
3 жыл бұрын
me too. I go point blank. I do nothing but breathe. but when im in the zome im the most hilarious yet I get so bored easily 💃
@victorfisher6070
2 жыл бұрын
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@clzbear
2 жыл бұрын
@@jJust_NO_ its crazy how that happens. Like two totally different people.
@geniawash2196
2 жыл бұрын
FACTX ME TOOO!! I either come off as cold, shy and quiet when I’m in n uncomfortable/unfamiliar place or weird and overzealous when I am in a comfortable atmosphere in public. Then to ppl my opposite gender, it’s like I always end up stuck bc I can’t say no or say things that I think r rather easier than hurting and rejecting the guy that is interested in me. It’s like I can’t ever fully be myself w/o any problems or regret🤦🏽♀️😪
@marialuizahartmann2326
3 жыл бұрын
hii, love your videos❤️ (I’m an infp too)
@thesilence5143
3 жыл бұрын
I never noticed the tattoo. You are gorgeous
@infp-tlifepath7libra841
3 жыл бұрын
Hi merry xmas!❤
@sempaiG
2 жыл бұрын
i wish i knew this earlier in my life, now i can put words to all these feelings
@tobeforgottenisworsethande8995
Жыл бұрын
I live in Texas, I understand your humidity troubles
@brucebannerjr
2 жыл бұрын
Great video Lex! I'm curious about what personality types your ex-husband and your current husband are?
@Achilleas7
3 жыл бұрын
It's all until you stop caring! Then, if no relationships exist, the struggle is different and far better :-)
@Achilleas7
3 жыл бұрын
@@wothg Thank you for the precious, very empathetic and valuable response! Those attributes force me to invite you over my channel to check out playlists 2016-2020 (don't get scared by numbers, you'll know what to do.) All 2018s are individual parts but key ingredients exist in 2016-2017 playlist. See, brother, i am a weird case which is tough to explain.. but some jobs require some sacrifices and my problem with relationships is the backstabbing of all narcissists out there. I now live in solitude away from meeting new people but i do make videos for them. Start at 2018:depression killah to see if you find it intriguing enough. I am advertising only to the empathetic hearts and yours turned my table tonight from being the one advising, actually receiving valuable advice! That's a rare gem in your chest my friend! keep it safe in this world of narcissism because they are after it! You can also start in today.(2020) by checking out my latest upload but missing some info from 2016 makes people who still live there and not really in today. Lots of work in that vid to mess around with problematic people and the relationships their ego creates! (fake relationships!) I have 6 dogs... that's some real friendship right there! My advice back (as a gratitude token for the care and effort to help someone this day) is: "If you don't burn some bridges, the crazies follow ya!" ;-) And.. oh yeah... i am an enduro rider.. trying to teach endurance so i can actually enjoy a relationship as you perfectly suggested!
@gillb9222
3 жыл бұрын
Am aroace. Took me 50 years to realise it because of the social conventions and because I like to make people happy....or more accurately I don't want people to feel bad by rejecting them. I was fortunate to be with a fantastic guy for 20 years, we had a family together and I still think he's greaf. But I can't see a situation where I would be in another serious relationship as I like my space far too much and I find relationships unhealthy and overwhelming. I don't feel that I need one, I dont miss having one.
@susanclow3173
3 жыл бұрын
I so identify with what you have said.
@mahlayarmohammad399
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you again Lex for your good video , they really give me comfort . it's been more than 8 years I broke up with my 1st boyfriend and still feel guilty ! 2 days ago I broke up with another man ... and I just wanna kill myself ! though all these time I've been with him , I was under pressure and always had to obey and think about his needs ... totally crushed myself to the core ! but everybody think he was the good guy and I'm a monster ... I can't tolerate this ...
@oneoftheproudmomofsebongie2765
3 жыл бұрын
Same I nearly broke up today I am so not sure weather I should adjust or just break up over some reasons tbh I have always seen .y mother not getting much love so I always thought I should not be same and.now when it comes to breaking up for my own better I am thinking miliion times and changing my views million times tbh I am sure if I am doing right saying here I feel like.maybe someone might understand .. idk if I wait for him for his situation to change will he still stay the same or not there is no certainity not like I want certainity I feel like I can't be loved by anyone in future
@susanclow3173
3 жыл бұрын
It took me 20 years to leave my husband. We are friends and that is so much better.
@sash8099
3 жыл бұрын
What type is he?
@steakismeat177
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t really put people on pedestals. Maybe somewhat but I know they’re not perfect. I know things don’t go like you imagine. This is why my imagination as to a potential partner is quite limited. I don’t know how things are going to go so I imagine about the basic typical stuff like hugs and kisses along with any interest we share in common. As for the focus on school work and don’t get a girlfriend mantra, doesn’t work. I don’t need a girlfriend to be distracted. I’ve recently discovered I have a lot of similar traits to INTP’s as well, especially since I’ve been getting better at controlling my emotions. I’ll distract myself with all the stuff going on in the world, or learning about random stuff that may come in handy but is probably just wasting time. A girlfriend could have helped me focus, if she would have been one to do that sort of thing. She could have been even more distracting. You never know who you’ll end up with and what influence they’ll have on you.
@RosheenQuynh
3 жыл бұрын
Trying to explain my relationship with relationships would require an entire novel's worth of words... With highs and lows, but mostly lows... Ugh.
@johnswann7670
Жыл бұрын
do you sing on the internet Your voice is so wonderful
@kgrio3870
3 жыл бұрын
The fact that there’s only 30 comments so far proves how rare we are
@beardedrancher
3 жыл бұрын
Definitely not humid here lol. Its dryer than a popcorn fart
@hayleyneal6558
2 жыл бұрын
Hi Lex cool video, what's James's mbti type, Myers Briggs?
@namra8547
3 жыл бұрын
Hey i can totally relate man ! I'm really confused because of being attached to a friend who is depressed I don't know & I've tried helping her up but she hasn't helaed & i have taken all her burdens but she's started becoming cold now idk maybe it's hard for her 😞 can anyone share a similar experience & what they did ? should i cut her off like her previous friends did or keep going
@tamann7
3 жыл бұрын
What is the best month to go there. My self and some of my family want to go there.
@ArizonaRed
2 жыл бұрын
I was able to marry once but he chose the bottle over me. I have a pattern of finding a man who I feel is a friend whom I sort of feel little attraction for and marrying him. Then I meet a man I am crazy about and he isn't into me or just wants a fling. That leads me to wonder how I am supposed to meet someone who I am crazy about who is equally into me . I am terrified when I am in love since it is always alone. Whom can I trust? I am done being a door mat or feeling like I am simply putting up with what should have remained a friendship? I need a healthy balance of closeness and space.
@pelomk9022
3 жыл бұрын
Lol, I'm definitely INFP
@JeanMarcCapaul
3 жыл бұрын
so true for me ... wish the honeymoon phase could last, at least at some level, forever😉 might surprise; words from a "weird" metal fan🎸🎶
@FatmaNadjahLManda
Жыл бұрын
I watch your videos cause ur so beautiful
@lukecox2343
3 жыл бұрын
Im 31 and never had a gf
@OZdevan
3 жыл бұрын
Can I make a request for you miss Lex?
@chamelionvibe9426
2 жыл бұрын
✋port orange Florida, hello new Zealand, INFProud! I would love to have a romantic counterpart but I would also love to have freedom. When I have someone to keep me company I want to escape. When I'm out alone I really want to be with someone
@artinchancing
3 жыл бұрын
What personality type is James? Just curious. :)
@Procrastinator411
3 жыл бұрын
I'm curious about what personality types your ex-husband and your current husband are? As an infp I've found it very hard to communicate with my esfj wife.
@athreephanx6956
3 жыл бұрын
Infp guy here... I'm taking to this isfj girl... she always seems busy with something else... I wonder if I'll ever be important to her.
@brucebannerjr
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I would love to know this as well. Lex would you be so kind to respond?
@chuckdavidson5483
2 жыл бұрын
Lex, Many of the INFP traits you describe here are very similar to those of ADHD...
@goodkawz
3 жыл бұрын
2020-12-16: I’ll exchange some chionophobia in Midwest USA for some golfable NZ heat.
@ConcaCon
3 жыл бұрын
Before I watched the video: "LOL, I don't have struggles in relationships, I've been single for years... HAHAHA ha ha... ha... *clears throat* (-__-) " After I watched the video: 1. I'm not difficult to get to know. It's just my mood changes a lot and I don't have a filter. Ah, she talks about oversharing. HAHA. Me. Whatevs. 2. I HATE the honeymoon phase. I don't trust it. It never lasts. Can it be over quickly please? Thanks, bye! 3. See, this is where I want to be. Oh, she mentions inadvertent egocentrism. Yeah... fair. This is true even for my friendships. It's not so much my emotions, more my nonstop thought process that overwhelms people. Oh well, I like myself, so love me or leave me. 4. Breaking up is (relatively) easy, IF communication is open, honest and kind. Being lied to, being accused/guilt tripped or manipulated though... Oof, that hurt and anger lasts a while. The healing takes even longer. Especially when you did not get "closure" and people just start ignoring you. It's harder to break up with friends, than lovers, to me though. Challenges? I don't know. I've decided to take care of things in my life, do what I love, and treat those who do right by me in kind. Dating... meh. If I meet someone and it clicks, cool. If not, I'll be fine with myself.
@Lexmorningstarnz
3 жыл бұрын
You know one thing I took from this: you know yourself very, very well ❤️ An amazing asset
@ConcaCon
3 жыл бұрын
@@Lexmorningstarnz Thank you, Lex. I think it is imperative that we learn ourselves. That way we know why we react how we react to things, and where work's still very much unfinished. Acceptance is key. After that, the choice is ours how much or if at all we compromise on things about ourselves. I'd like to think that some of what other people would call quirks or idiosyncrasies are just how we learned to live with, and love, our flaws, traumas, insecurities and other hangups. Merry Christmas to you. Thank you for doing what you do and being who you are.
@jJust_NO_
3 жыл бұрын
I took personality test twice just to be sure and the result is still the same. Strange thing about all this is I used to categorize myself as a pychopath before. I didn't know remorse or guilt and I felt elevated when I hurt people because then I felt powerful and strong. However, my personality shifted and trasformed to whole new end of the spectrum and I've now become empathic, understanding and kind lol. I have this overwhelming fear of hurting others intentionally. It came to a point it crippled me because I suppressed thinking negatively otherwise, the negative intent might hurt them energetically like a curse. lol What I've become acutely aware after all this presonality shifts is that when I changed, I felt I'm more right brain dominant thinker. I dont think in thoughts sometimes but in mental pictures. The mental images have stronger impact in my thinking process.
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