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@AlizasMa
5 ай бұрын
They are loyal to one another because narcissism is a team sport … Stay blessed survivors..
@lindac6919
5 ай бұрын
Good answer.
@marilynschmidt6400
5 ай бұрын
They're co-dependant on each other. They're cadger's and can't survive on their own so they're 2 faced and lie to your face
@marilynschmidt6400
5 ай бұрын
So selfish when it comes to their children having to grow up in their mess
@cletiskroeker3552
5 ай бұрын
I'm learning this one...unfortunately.
@costealucia5357
5 ай бұрын
No one says that the family of the narcissit are also narcissists...i think he stays loyal because is HIS family, they made HIM, they are HIM, is because HE came out of his parents...is all about him
@user-mr1pc7pb6g
5 ай бұрын
Narcissist are not alone! But their victim is alone.
@zainabkhan7655
3 ай бұрын
😢
@nreynolds75243
5 ай бұрын
Birds of the same feather stick together. The narc will defend and be loyal to those ones who don't correct them. Also they doesn't see their spouse as a friend or family in the first place. Just an object to be used. That's why your loyalty shouldn't be with them.
@monamohabir4897
5 ай бұрын
But God see everything, karma… what’s goes around comes around.. I have been in a narcissist relationship for 5 + years.. was terrible but thank God. I’m still struggling, but much better yesterday ❤❤
@luxpanditha943
5 ай бұрын
200%correct
@rachealarogundade3255
5 ай бұрын
Hmm. Very correct! They didn't see their spouse as a family member. Indeed. May God deliver us from their grip
@faridaaali6170
5 ай бұрын
So so true been going through 40 years
@murphmane7804
5 ай бұрын
@@faridaaali6170woah now that's torture to deal with a narc for that long!
@actionpls.
5 ай бұрын
They give priority to their friends and family. You're not even on their priority list. Yet, they call you when they need help. They remove you from all family activities. Like you're no one. You don't deserve someone like that.
@MonaLisa-df3if
4 ай бұрын
I‘ve experienced this for so many years.
@amorl4520
4 ай бұрын
Me to
@suneetabharati1053
3 ай бұрын
Same condition since 26 years
@warriormom5843
5 ай бұрын
19 years in this demonic cult situation in order to protect my son. He’ll be legal in 10 months, off to college in a little over a year…….pray for us folks, we will be free from this PRISON!!!! It’s been a KOOLAID NIGHTMARE!!! It’s Invasion of the Body Snatchers for real-imagine the sleep deprivation we also talk about all the time, right Danish?? 😩😩🙏🏼🙏🏼💪💪
@farahhansen8206
5 ай бұрын
I pray for you❤
@AgnesWitman-qk2qw
5 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger
5 ай бұрын
Shakira, the famous singer found out her husband was cheating on her with his assistant. She described how her mother in law knew the whole time and kept her eye on Shakira, so her son could keep the lover-affair going on. The betrayal cuts so deep, the ending of a marriage, the dissolution of trust, the deception in family. It hurts when you put all your love and trust into family, into marriage, into relationship. That’s why if they don’t care about you, it’s best to leave of if you can. Sooner or later they will destroy something priceless inside you, because what means something to you, does not mean anything to them. Of that feeling of exclusion is there inside you, don’t die there - go to where you feel love.
@777PMTZ
5 ай бұрын
Shakira serves the devil. She was no victim
@alwaysjolly
5 ай бұрын
Closure on Shakira's cheating marriage ? wow😮
@cathytilford388
5 ай бұрын
Dude cheated on Shakira? He probably couldn’t control her.
@777PMTZ
5 ай бұрын
@@cathytilford388 I agree
@NatzTalk
5 ай бұрын
Wow I had no idea it was that bad for her.
@user-kd7hr9jr3j
5 ай бұрын
I refuse to co-parent my child with a monster! I brought the money, I cooked, cleaned, took care of the children. I was backstabbed, betrayed, cheated on and he admitted this with no shame! I want justice. I never want to see him in my life. I want my child back that he stole from me! Please God, give me my child back!
@user-kd7hr9jr3j
5 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908 Thank you!
@cletiskroeker3552
5 ай бұрын
I feel your pain. Same thing happened to me. I lost everything.
@KBArchery
5 ай бұрын
Praying right now for you
@ellejee74
5 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
@davidpeat9484
5 ай бұрын
Praying for you
@megalodon9400
5 ай бұрын
Narcissists are loyal only to their addictions.
@LizaS191
4 ай бұрын
❤😊😊❤
@Bianca2802
5 ай бұрын
This is EXACTLY what happened within my marriage. My husband obeyed his cruel, cold ,narcissistic mother no matter what she did to me,to him and even to our children. I could not believe how he could defend her even when she isolated us from the rest of their family and even when she acted unbelieveble cruel with our baby son. The only thing my husband said : "well dont blame my mother for everything, you are also not perfect". Ok but i never purposly hurt someone.. Anyway.. i never understood if he is so blind and naiv, or if he just acted so Wish i saw your video 15 years earlier
@prophet1782
5 ай бұрын
At least u recovered.Better late then never. I was born in a Narc family.
@shahp84
5 ай бұрын
I also had narcissistic husband and narcissistic in laws. Specially his mother was very bad 😢 thank God I am out of that bad time 😢
@francalatona591
5 ай бұрын
Yes, that is absolutely cruel. A grandmother should be loving towards her grandchildren and also her daughter-in-law. Sounds like your husband has serious trauma bonding issues. He has an unhealthy fear of his mother. He should be standing up for his family. But Sounds like he can't. Like a little boy scared of being punished. She sounds like a real whack job. I can't imagine growing up around her. She is a walking nightmare. Hopefully, your husband could see it someday and cut off ties with her. For the sake of all of you.
@englishrose1636
5 ай бұрын
You are telling exactly what my husband and his mom did to me
@kara1515
5 ай бұрын
This is scary. You spoke my life except his excuse was “ you need to just forgive and move on, I can’t remove years of generational curses. By the way, This started at age 19 when we met, I’m now 32 with a now 11 yo daughter. He still makes excuses and defends, despite how poorly they as a cult continue to treat him and indirectly mistreat our daughter but are kind only when it’s convenient for them. They do not protect their children. We are no longer together as of 4 years now and it’s still the same thing, that he so conveniently continues to close his eyes to and please his mother. A women who raised two boys alone, without a partner and made it a purpose to create chaos in our union, not to mention her surprise that I ended up having a girl since according to her “ I was told I was having a girl and I had two boys, are you sure it’s a girl?” She hasn’t liked me since.
@emme6910
5 ай бұрын
Omg, my mother is the matriarch narc & her sisters are all involved. There are 4 in total, & each have two children. They each have chosen the eldest child as the scapegoat & the youngests are the golden children. They all participate in sick mind games & emotional abuse. I don't attend family gatherings on her side as I find them toxic. The betrayals are the most insidious. Evil incarnate. 💯
@Hetal28
5 ай бұрын
Sounds like my mils family The eldest are golden kids and younger scapegoats
@emme6910
5 ай бұрын
@@Hetal28 sorry you're going through this. Thank goodness we have sane support. 💯
@parkesh7804
5 ай бұрын
Sounds similar matriarch
@deebee4622
5 ай бұрын
Yes, total drama!
@elainezdollz
5 ай бұрын
@@Hetal28yes that’s the correct version. I’m married to the youngest
@prophet1782
5 ай бұрын
True. Even within the family. A Narc sibling will support another narc sibling tooth n nail Against an Empath sibling.
@herbylovebug1340
5 ай бұрын
Narc turned empathetic sibling against his Mom. He believes her lies and she controls him by making him think that she has his back.
@asthasrivastav6736
5 ай бұрын
I just left my covert narcissist husband and their family who don't care about me and my daughter..i have never seen such a rotten father and dada dadi who has no empathy on us..i think i made a best decision in my life leaving all of them and decided to do single parenting rather than bad parenting. I can't thank enough Danish for your valuable insights on narcissism🙏. Otherwise I would be struggling with these monster's in my life.U are an angel ❤god has send from heaven .Sooo grateful to you Danish 🙏for enlightening all survivors.
@parkesh7804
5 ай бұрын
Congrats
@MegaCassie13
5 ай бұрын
I wish I had heard this years ago. Still going through a long, long horrendous divorce. I am the scrap goat. I am the whipping boy. (Girl). People do not understand, they have not lived it.😢. Still trying to escape.
@Deepsusa
5 ай бұрын
I’m in a same position I recently realized that he is a narcissist person but I have 6 and 4 years old sons. I don’t know what to do. My only fear is he will take my kids from me and living in USA without anyones support it’s difficult for me to run with kids. Please advice me someone what should I do. We are living in one roof and I have stopped talking to him but I know he must be planing something to torcher me.
@andrewhitney4194
5 ай бұрын
@@Deepsusa praying for you.. trust in God to help you, He can give you wisdom on what to do. Don’t do anything rash but wait with patience for good clear ideas to come to you. I want to get out of a situation too , so I am praying for God to guide me so I will be safe and have the least amount of problems to deal with. My hope is that all can work out best for everyone , but I know the narcissist type like drama ..I don’t .. I hope for a peaceful separation..at least I pray for it. I’m hoping the narc will leave on his own ideas so I don’t have to make any ugly moves. I am trying to be patient to see if God will work things out on my behalf or show me which steps to take next. I hope your situation works out for your best…
@Devansh_Khandelwal
5 ай бұрын
@@Deepsusa How dependent are you all on him financially and how dependent are your kids on the father emotionally ??
@gautamiyt5539
5 ай бұрын
This is sooooooo true. OMG. Unbelievable. Every single word is so damn right. It is such a disgusting bond they share. Wish I had watched this video 3 decades ago.
@darletazigler3984
5 ай бұрын
It is, it's sicking.
@achalmahabeer9560
5 ай бұрын
Finally! It wasn't us!!!! I always thought it was me!
@smohammed2821
5 ай бұрын
Omg I said same, this video soooo on point it hits hard.
@azebderege5393
4 ай бұрын
I wish I knew about this 40 years ago
@ngangakamau9480
5 ай бұрын
Very true. They are so loyal to their family. I was discarded last Tuesday and my former narc wife used to tell me that she would defend her family with her blood. But she neglected me upto the last day of the marriage. Very evil people.
@evanovak7761
5 ай бұрын
😢💔
@lisabowden402
5 ай бұрын
So very true! I have many in my life and this is so true.
@analiviaminsk1171
5 ай бұрын
we are not their family even when we are married to them :( I feel the same
@Bianca2802
5 ай бұрын
Also when i confronted my husbands sister with the lies and manipulations of their mother she said " she is our mother and we will always be on her side and protect her". Sounded somehow like a passage from a mafia movie. In the end i had no other chance then to take my children and leave ..because my mother in law wanted to succeed to make me look crazy, so she could call the police and let my children bring to an orphans home. This was her final plan, as it came out. Thank god i could escape before it was too late. Now i live a peaceful life with my children ,in another country..
@Songs4U26
5 ай бұрын
Evil, I'm terribly sorry you experienced this... I've been through quite an ordeal too...
@rubyparchment5523
4 ай бұрын
Thank God you’re all safe.
@emj3677
5 ай бұрын
This is true for me. I divorced my narcissist husband and he got my daughter (who I believe is a narcissist too) and they went to all my friends and even MY family and talked shit about me. It is/was awful. I do have some really good friends that didn't follow them that stuck up for me and didn't believe them. It is sad thinking about all the people that I thought were my friends and family. What a wake up call. 😢
@seameology
5 ай бұрын
Same for me only I have two daughters. One is a metal health counselor! Thank GOD my large family knows better. Many of my sisters have been through this as well. They understand.
@emj3677
5 ай бұрын
@@seameology Thanks for your comment. While it is validating to hear that so many are going through this, it is sad because so many are going through this. I wish I had known about narcissists years ago, and like so many, I feel that I have wasted years of my life. Keep strong my friend. 😊
@faridaaali6170
5 ай бұрын
Same here
@lisabowden402
5 ай бұрын
I’ve listened to this 3 times now and it is sooo true. They can speak badly about their family, but I had better not. It’s insane how true that is.
@GeriRogers
5 ай бұрын
Unbelievable!! I lived with these in-laws who were exactly like that!! They always came first over me. I was never accepted. This is all so spot on. I lived this for 50 years. So glad I heard this video because it explained what I lived with. So hurtful. Never could win over them. Terrible situation to be in!!!!😢
@Divinefrequencies555
5 ай бұрын
Hope u are soon free!
@zg6045
5 ай бұрын
Right. He always chose his parents over me. When I was in hospital, he didn't visit me, because his Mom wanted him to stay every day for supper. And that she cooked for him was more important than visiting me. But when his Dad was in hospital, we had to visit him every day for weeks, no matter how much stress it caused us. I had once an emergency due to a blood clod and I lost conciseness. He refused to take the phone from my son to call an ambulance. Thankfully I recovered on my own. I could have died. I could give many examples of that. They don't care at all
@irme8930
5 ай бұрын
I am sorry for you, I have been through that, too. My husband made me drive alone to the hospital with an epileptic attack just because his mother told him I was faking it.
@zg6045
5 ай бұрын
@@irme8930 unbelievable what they are doing to us! Much love to you ❤️❤️❤️
@valeriedorsey7527
5 ай бұрын
I am so sorry for you both that you had to experience that. I can definitely relate to what you've gone through.
@kara1515
5 ай бұрын
I just described this in my comment. They do not and will not support you in anything of importance to you but demand your support and presence at anything involving them. I’m so sorry!
@luxpanditha943
5 ай бұрын
Same
@aubreylowe1361
5 ай бұрын
This is so accurate and spot on! I have been a witness and experienced my husband’s family cult abuse and put downs for years. The boundary crossing is unbelievable. They talk bad about each other but God forbid anyone else should say anything slightly negative about them. It’s basically abuse by proxy because he allows it. Thanks for addressing this issue. 🙏🏼
@nellieventer5884
5 ай бұрын
Nothing is ever enough Walked the road for 35 years. Divorced 5 years, still sometimes feel the hurt and looking at myself wrongly
@vuyelwajeanettdikane372
5 ай бұрын
Better late than never, Believe me
@Divinefrequencies555
5 ай бұрын
Better late than never , thank god you are not engaged with it anymore. You are human.
@auraliax1323
5 ай бұрын
Yesterday i sticked to a boudary when it comes to my abusive narcissistic father( not allowing him to touch me) and my heart was pounding so fast and i panicked then he smirked and left, and tbh I'm proud of myself for doing so and passing this, & i wanna say you guys can do this too even if it's scary, just focus on being in a safe space & do Nervous system healing exercises after/during facing someone like him.
@auraliax1323
5 ай бұрын
@Ark-ys2up yes i barely talk to him, he works now in another city,but comes back home once a month, & because I'm traumatized i barely sleep for the fear of him coming home any second, just meeting him once is terrifying, so now that he knows that even in his attendance I'm not gonna talk to him i feel better.
@farahhansen8206
5 ай бұрын
I did the same thing verbally after 40 years of physical abuse and controlled me even though I’m married with kids, I told him everything!!! And did NOT let him speak. He sad I curse you I sad no you are cursed you can’t curse me! After this he never controlled me again or trying to manipulate me. Thank God I have such a peace in my life ❤
@auraliax1323
5 ай бұрын
@@farahhansen8206 I'm so proud of you that's amazing ♥️
@theshadowknows2708
5 ай бұрын
I’m proud of you, too☺️ You are enough! You are capable! You deserve to feel safe, loved and respected!
@auraliax1323
5 ай бұрын
@@theshadowknows2708 thank you so much 😊💜
@anjanagupta5167
5 ай бұрын
Danish, I watched your video accidentally a few days ago. Regularly watching one after the other. I realize as if I am watching a film on my 40 years old married life. Everything you say is TRUE story of mine. Now I understand my husband's nature. He always made me think that I am just a fool. Now I am setting boundries with him, unable to leave at this age
@kennedytembo6836
5 ай бұрын
Oh God
@seameology
5 ай бұрын
My mom was 79. She didn't leave even though she had offers from eight of her children to live with them. She was with this narc boyfriend for about forty years. I say WAS because her house mysteriously burnt down with her in it. We believe that it was planned because items that were in her garage for years were found in his garage. I was at her house a couple weeks prior and the stuff was there! This guy was 85. He built houses for each of them next door to each other when he was 70. He didn't want to live with her but ate over there and brought his laundry. His relatives asked why he didn't have many clothes. THAT'S why. He died alone a year later. But when the sheriff and my sister went to tell him my mother was gone, he shouted "she wasn't supposed to die"! Anyway, I'm warning you, PLEASE LEAVE!
@seameology
5 ай бұрын
Anyone asking, no, no one was prosecuted. But we've been able to talk and put pieces together. His health was going down hill and my mom was healthy. His family didnt want her to end up with his 2M plus estate. He didn't have any kids. But his family bilked hi out of all of it and he knew he died completely broke. One of my sisters went and helped him out. Ugh. He wanted to adopt her. He even wrote notes that his family was trying to kill him. I don't know if that's how he died or not. I suspect his family had something to do with my mom's death and he did not act alone. 2021 and no prosecutions.
@kaycampbell8532
5 ай бұрын
My sister is the narcissist. There's nothing loyal about her.
@brigitte9999
5 ай бұрын
That makes perfect sense. Because they have the most to leverage their family with.
@blackholesun5205
5 ай бұрын
Dear Danish. Thank you very much for your words. Thanks to them, I now know that I can trust myself, even when everyone around tells me that what I feel is not true. My husband is 50 years old and weighs 110 kg and yet he runs like a little dog when his covert narcissist sister whistles. I'm so glad I discovered your channel, you help me so much. Thank you and greetings from the Czech Republic.❤
@irme8930
5 ай бұрын
The same here. My husband is 50 years old and weights 95 kilos and runs like a little puppy to his narcissistic mother who abused and neglected him.
@wisemanadvices9541
5 ай бұрын
Yes, I completely agree. They are loyal to their family. No matter what you do for them. They will bend towards their family only, because they work in unison.
@kimberknutson831
5 ай бұрын
Thank you. So true. I wrote a longish comment as a reply to another person who wisely pointed that what you are saying here is true because it is a "team sport." My husband of 25 years passed 5 weeks ago. Like his mother, he was a covert narcissist who "everyone loved." Covert narcissists are demons who wear the mask of an angel. His mother actually almost killed him as a child. When he began having "flashes" about this a decade ago, he shorted out the electrical system in whatever he was touching at the time: a scooter, a car, our house. It happened. I was there. I was very devoted in the intervening decade to helping him heal from this. Nope. The last year or so was very rough. He spent a few months screaming at me about things that had nothing to do with me. He was screaming at his mother. But in the end, he returned to the cult and was his mother's chief apologist and champion. He attacked me about everything he formerly loved about me that was so different than her, for example, my intelligence, humor, flexibility, creativity, and authenticity. In the last week, he said several times, "You and your precious authenticity. Gross. Whatever." I am talking about him, but I am trying to understand myself better. I turned 60 last month and realize now that I have no experience of living in this world and not being oppressed by a narcissist. That is poignant and tragic and also true. I want to believe that I could have a future without a narcissist. I just don't see it yet but am trying to keep the faith. Thank you for your videos. I really enjoy the content, your perspective, your approach, and your manner. : )
@myleslong5584
5 ай бұрын
How do they fool SO MANY people? I used to actually WARN people about my ex-mother in law; that she would present as a warm,loving,nearly perfect human being but,beneath the facade lied a demon so evil that Satan wouldn’t allow her in Hell because she’d be too much competition for him. (Ironically,she had a HOUSEFUL of angel figurines) Nevertheless,she still managed to fool 95% of the people she met.
@writeousone8749
5 ай бұрын
Wow, you go girl! So beautifully written, I have been in the exact situation, unfortunately for 42 years 😧 Separated for a year and on my healing journey 💖
@kimberknutson831
5 ай бұрын
@writeousone8749 I somehow missed this 10 days ago. Thank you for your kind words. 7:11 p.m. today HST is the 7-week anniversary of Lawrence's passing. I am beginning to see a light at the end of the dark tunnel that I have been in for far too long. Grief has taken a harder toll on my body than when I was pregnant 25 years ago. Our daughter Lily will be 25 in August, and our 26th anniversary would have been in August. I miss Lawrence now and always will, but I miss the good guy who everyone else knew and loved. I do not miss the rage monster who I lived with for the last year of his life and kept it a secret from everyone else, which says more about me than it does about him. I hope you are healing. I am doing my best one step at a time. Thank you again for your kind words. Aloha. : )
@helendayle6502
5 ай бұрын
The moment I realized how my narc family will stay loyal to the dysfunction was the moment i decided to seek mental health help. That was over a year ago. Now i know i'm not the bad guy.
@LoveBeliefTruth
5 ай бұрын
Narcissistic family system, emotionally unfulfilling childhood, validation hunger from cruel parents - or even need to get even or get a revenge with their parents or siblings, that's what's keeping them concentrated on their childhood family. And maybe promised inheritage. Many narcissistic families have siblings who fight over their parents approval, who's their favorite until the parents' death.
@cornflakesagain5647
5 ай бұрын
Danish is so on point - his observations birthed out of painful experience, makes him an expert in exposing the narcissist and their wickedness. Grateful for his insights and for making one feel understood in a climate of being separated from normal and saturated with cruel lunacy.
@begoodfeelgood1707
5 ай бұрын
Even after the death of my narcisistic husband,my mother in law and my sister in law have started ignoring me and my son .They want us to leave our house and go nowhere 😢
@mr.waxowl9476
5 ай бұрын
It’s your house. Who cares what they want. Don’t waste your time caring about their toxic opinions.
@begoodfeelgood1707
5 ай бұрын
I am still under their effect of narcisism and it will take some time to come out of it
@kathleenmorris9309
4 ай бұрын
Go for counselling ASAP. Lots of it.
@jering6468
5 ай бұрын
This 10 minute video explains my 12 year marriage life...
@parkesh7804
5 ай бұрын
Awesome
@mak2866
5 ай бұрын
and mine of 17 years:(
@Antsfist
5 ай бұрын
Same 12 years 😢. M leaving this year no matter what.
@sibongileqaba4627
5 ай бұрын
Same here...after 21 yrs i left. They didnt ever love each other but were united against me as their common enemy. I cant believe how spot on you a re.
@mak2866
5 ай бұрын
@@Antsfist I think the worst feeling is when You have tried everything but knowing it was all for nothing and the situation was never going to change...
@cherrymceachin48
5 ай бұрын
That narc I'm currently divorcing is from a family of eight will deal with my husband maybe only a short telephone conversations they do not pal around together nor visit each other. The other six has nothing to do with him. The entire family is dysfunctional. They try to manipulate and outdo each other That proves the wicked turns on the wicked. This is the seed their father planted from when they all were very young under the age of 10 this man destroyed his own family the same as my husband has done with his family it's an inherited generational curse.
@terriarnold4364
5 ай бұрын
Been watching that with my x-narc!Don't miss being a part of his sick and twisted cult!Grateful and thankful so glad I am out of his grasp and web deceptions!🙏💜🙏❤️
@Lyrielonwind
5 ай бұрын
That's because blood is thicker than water except for that scapegoat who came out of the blue out of nowhere...no one knows...oh, wait! 😮
@lindac6919
5 ай бұрын
My Mom used to tell me frequently that blood is thicker than water. I was adopted as an infant. None of us shared blood. That was a nice thing to say to an orphan child, isn't it? She used to imply they could "send me back where I came from," too.
@Lyrielonwind
5 ай бұрын
@@lindac6919 That was a mean thing to say; no one forced her to adopt you. I'm not adopted but I'm the middle girl and I didn't look like my Spanish parents, I look like my mother's father. My grandfather was British and I looked like a sin to her eyes. Maybe being the middle girl had something to do with it but hating her sister who was a beautiful blonde and I not looking like her but somehow "foreign" must have been enough for her to make me her scapegoat. In any case, I don't think she ever really loved anyone but herself and her masks. I don't think she would have ever married my father if he was a plumber instead of a doctor. It's not you, it was her.
@shirleyvanderheijden5934
5 ай бұрын
@@lindac6919cruel❤
@cc1k435
5 ай бұрын
@@lindac6919I grew up with my bio mom, who actually said similar things. Sounds painful for someone when you're talking to a teenager. 😂
@Sweet-fn6po
5 ай бұрын
@@lindac6919Omg, what evil.
@Soniya.418
5 ай бұрын
How can you describe it so perfectly? You are genious
@stur5252
5 ай бұрын
This is exactly what my dad had to put up with with my mother's family. And during times when she was not on speaking terms with them she would complain how aweful they were to her 😵💫
@sherrymurphy855
5 ай бұрын
... so many people need to know and understand this fact. But it can get worse - the narc on narc situationship where they're both trying to manipulate and use each other - in complete denial... thinking of themselves as a "power couple"?? I know a young woman who will be learning these life lessons for herself since as with so many, she already knows everything she needs to know. An enormous implosion is inevitable.
@anneroarty6473
5 ай бұрын
Thank you for your information i wodered why he always put his family first before me very well said. Yes i was treated like an outsider.
@taketheleft5738
5 ай бұрын
Dude, you are the best narcissist reader on KZitem. 
@lynnliles9211
5 ай бұрын
My narcissist drank himself to death, so he's gone but he took the insurance money and left me broke. He spent it on his girlfriend. This episode explains so much. My therapist told me to tell both his sister, brother and friends about his nacissism and affair. I told them the truth of my 39 year marriage to them. They listened and seemed to understand but later, his sister and aunt attacked me through a long email telling me that I was crazy and what I told them happened my marriage was a lie. I sent them back a long letter emphasing the truth as well as asking them how they'd feel if I did the same. I then unfriended them on FB, told them never to contact me again. It was freeing!!
@kgbhuvana
5 ай бұрын
So very accurate. Thank you so much. You are so blessed because you are articulating the truth about such relationships with such accuracy which some of us cannot 🙏
@dervish108
5 ай бұрын
My narcissistic ex, and her children used to gang up against me verbally, and I’m a very easy-going person myself. I was the scapegoat for all their problems. She knew I came from an abusive household myself, and she told me before I moved in with her that I would never have to be on guard again once I moved in with her, but in actuality, I had never been more hyper vigilant in my life than when I lived with my ex. Go figure.
@leeeeeij
5 ай бұрын
Here in Serbia we don't call those families wasp hives, we call them snake dens. I think it's more accurate. And I didn't know how accurate and actually common it is before I figured out that both my ex boyfriend's and my own family are just two different snake den types of narcissistic systems. I'm struggling to apply the radical acceptance and be authentic.
@s.s.8029
5 ай бұрын
My partner is the savior for his whole family. More than once he has sided with his family. I always knew something was off, and, ironically, it was something that an extended family member posted that tipped me off to the narc family dynamics. I truly believe that my partner was attracted to my family because we were a generally healthy family. While I feel that he wants to get out of the toxicity at times, he truly fears the repercussions. I am largely no/low contact and it has saved my sanity. I do not trust my partner nor his family and I am careful what information I share. One family members feeds misinformation to the others and it gets totally out of hand. It is sad and dangerous.
@Willcrossingjordan
5 ай бұрын
Within 15 seconds this resonated so much, as I've experienced this so much........I finally learned to stop trying to be more, that it will never be enough. I finally learned to stop arguing, but to quietly walk away and not come back.
@marilynbrowman5520
5 ай бұрын
I have, and still are, experiencing this. After about 12/13 years of trying to be accepted, not being supported, I realised that they were all sick peole and 6:20 not worth my efforts. I disdain them now. I care not about them. Their loss.
@elkeruoff-schramm4199
5 ай бұрын
very true - never thougt this is pattern - I‘ m feeling not that alone…
@josephinejose4755
5 ай бұрын
Exactly said brother..what all happened in my life from my husband & my in-laws..same thing u told exactly 💯...thanks bro for giving an awareness with these kind of rotten people,to be cautious with these kind of people..I have experienced more abuse from them..God bless you brother.
@sonya23453
5 ай бұрын
Each time you upload a video on the different aspects of narcissism, you are always spot on. Thank you for such genuine content.
@buyop9441
5 ай бұрын
My goodness, this is SO scarily true!
@jacquelinestewart3157
5 ай бұрын
This is my family. The leader is so sneaky pretending to be something entirely different than she is. I have suffered so much throughout my entire life because of my parents evil deceptive ways. They attempt to make me look bad to convince others that they could not possibly have done the abuse that they have done.
@KBArchery
5 ай бұрын
Oh my word. You are opening my eyes and it is ugly. I don’t like what I see. So much pain right now 😢💔 I am having my second panic attack of my life.
@wisdomridenai
5 ай бұрын
Take a deeeep breath, be strong and thank God for the awakening and focus on your healing. You will come out of this better and stronger💕
@carriehunt6196
5 ай бұрын
Yep!!! All of this is so true!! I had no idea why! Now I do! Thank you Danish❤
@CarolynnCrowder
5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I was in a long term marriage with this dynamic and left oknly after I finally realized I would NEVER be accepted.
@stephaniealvarenga9079
5 ай бұрын
Literally my husband with his mother. He will always see her as the best woman in the world. It’s so weird and so sad- his own mother told me that I provoke his anger.
@joseenoel8093
5 ай бұрын
Maybe she still b-feds him, sorry not an image you need, my old teacher would say to her husband "Does she walk on water too?", she divorced him, why can't they case trouble outside their families? Guess they only have power destroying us, all others tell them to shove off and us too as soon as we're able to! 😊
@ljackson3928
5 ай бұрын
My ex did tjis to me & I left him to be with his miserable family.
@kitkat77ify
5 ай бұрын
I wish I had your help back in the 90s I went through all of this with no help back then😢 I believed I was worthless and never good enough for him and his family. He seem to love and care for his family, but not me or his child everything that you talk about is exactly how he was but nobody warned me of narcissist, I didn’t even know what it was in the 90s I’m away from it now. Thank you for your help. I appreciate you.
@debdebcastillo6600
5 ай бұрын
I’m in shock how on point you are… exactly when I need to go to hospital he just said “then go”.. his family is in Saudi Arabia his father is sick and he wants to go. He never cared for me.
@user-dk2ik7rt4f
5 ай бұрын
❤Danish❤ you are helping so many people.
@TS-iw6rx
5 ай бұрын
Omg!!!! Were u narrating my story??? I cant believe this. It was word to word what i have been going through.
@elizabetharden9607
5 ай бұрын
You just described the past 20 years of my life word by word. It has been pure hell
@ingabireyuwiteka9580
5 ай бұрын
Very true, very true, and they don't like each other, and they still meet and gossip, speak evil of the partners, especially of the narc. one. When it's time to discard one of the partners of them they play loving team and they say all evil. I never seen before people like these. They are full of evil...
@AnitaSharma-hc3ib
5 ай бұрын
You validated my experience with my husband at this point thank you so much Danish ❤I appreciate your efforts ❤
@lisabowden402
5 ай бұрын
With these narc families, you are either all in or you are out. All in also means believing in all their BS and lies.
@Acceptancetoday
5 ай бұрын
The narc would be called home to help narc mother and he would abandon me and my children ever return on about a 3 month cycle where he would go back after getting major purchases and money from me. Then after she died he bonded only with his son almost hiding in my house, he and his son while I worked until I learned to stop saying yes to the requests all the while being in an abusive fog.
@mirailieva8849
5 ай бұрын
I have noticed the loyalty thing happening only with people who have bad bodies (which is actually most people). They have to do this to survive because nobody outside of their family or cult truly wants them. Usually an outsider is with them out of necessity/defrauded/deceived, not because the outsider actually wants this person. If a person has a good body they don’t engage in the cult like behavior. They don’t need to. People engage in cults because they feel weaker standing on their own. If you have a bad body and nobody truly wants you obviously joining a cult (family cult or any other cult) is a survival strategy. Cults are only for the weaklings, the deformed, the malformed, and otherwise degenerated entities. High quality people do not need any cults, they can stand on their own, but there are very few high quality people. A needle in a hay stack. A high quality person is very, very, very, very, very, very rare.
@Annette-yw5oc
5 ай бұрын
I was excluded and left outside at my ex-narcs 40th while the whole family, extended family and all their partners were rounded up for family photos inside. We'd been living together for 3 years at that point. And he turned on me for being upset about it. Conveniently, they all 'forgot' my birthday the following year (even though it was only 3 days before his) Thank you for explaining this family dynamic.
@jamulandkim3957
5 ай бұрын
wow, you've hit the nail on the head, even some will feast with them while their own kids are sleeping hungry and this doesn't end there they'll still come home to beat them up, now I get it, thx bro.
@renukajaikaran5779
5 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot for this info Danish. It describes the horrible way I have been treated by my relatives on both sides of my family all my life and by a female friend who I thought was genuine. They play a game of being caring and supportive but they treat an empathetic person like trash when it suits them. Your description of the narcs family and the relationship they have with them is spot on. Its true to heal and continue life a person has to cut those people out their lives forever. They suck the life out of anyone.
@sadesmith1612
5 ай бұрын
This is so true. My child father is a narcissist. He gaslight me throughout our relationship and then left me after 3 months of pregnancy. I'm raising our 1.5yrs old alone. I have run into his family multiple times. I have asked them to talk to him and to be a father to his son. Not one time they ask to see our son or to help in this matter. I've always been respectful towards them. It's like they support him disowning his son. My family would dear stand for that. I seen it with my own eyes him talk bad about them and their ways. Soon as they call here he comes running. I use to be right their with him. He completely walked out on me the moment I became pregnant
@nanettesimon9388
5 ай бұрын
You are the narc Master 😂 every video is facts 😩
@ushag1341
5 ай бұрын
Very true
@user-pk1gp7iy2o
5 ай бұрын
My ex was loyal to EVERYONE except me.............
@katesantos8473
5 ай бұрын
Sometimes, i have to take a break when I listening you because you say things so exactly, sometimes the same words in a statment they or he did, and I need to understand what happened to me and so, I go on listening after just walk away, breath, drink some water or doing other thing. About this especific topic, it is exactly how happened.
@katesantos8473
5 ай бұрын
@@jbrown2908 Thanks! maybe im not expressed correctly. I need understand and for this, I take a time to "digest" or what he said is so true and I finally realize and recognize. Sometimes is a shock. it´s difficult to me remember situations and some people. But I have to face this.
@alwaysjolly
5 ай бұрын
This 10 minute is an eye opener my brain needed this to understand what I was oblivious to. He talks about his family personal things. I wouldnt share with anyone yet they are a team
@baardbek7946
5 ай бұрын
Wow!!! 100% correct! I never understand why, but now it all makes sense! Married to one is like living in a nightmare and waking up slowly and trying to get rid of this fear and getting ones reality back is a massive challenge.
@paula-uv6pr
5 ай бұрын
Danish thank you so much, 40+years suffered horrifically, 100 percent liar, all his family treat me the same, I never understood who gave them the green light to do this, eventually all people in the village I grew up with DID THE SAME, of course I gave him information, slatted them to me, switched it all around to them, I know now, 1 year away, finding it very hard. My luv to all abused this way. X
@shantys4528
5 ай бұрын
All facts! For years I struggled with understanding why my husband was like this with his mother and it was videos like this that helped me understand. Every word in this video is all facts.
@10Andrielle
5 ай бұрын
I'm so shocked!. This is simply the exact description of the relationship between my ex husband (who is a narcissist) and his family (mother, father and two younger sisters). His mother is also a narcissist, and his sisters, although always saying how toxic their mother is, they are always very very close to each other, depending on their mother for almost everything.
@izzydeadyet7336
5 ай бұрын
My ex had four kids with four women...none of his kids ever spoke to him, not at Christmas,not at birthdays..he was never invited to his families place on holidays because half his family couldn’t stand him.. his poor mother was left at his mercy, his mother was a very nice woman.. but I could see how her treating him like a child made him act like one!
@marysullivan1815
5 ай бұрын
Their drinking is their first love but unable to stop
@valiizajames925
17 күн бұрын
He had the nerve to tell me while he was divorcing me I had no empathy for his family, but I was your wife!! He said it with such malice! No one stuck up for me!! Now I get it!!
@jayashreebose2503
5 ай бұрын
So sorry for all the narcissist victims. Being one of them and particularly when the person is your own mom who teamed up with her other child , I can very well understand the pain we go through. My way out was to be with good people who loves me and values me. And trust me rest of the world loves us other than the narcissist team 😀
@CandyCandyCandy121
5 ай бұрын
I wish I had known this a log time ago it was so bad that his family abused me and one of our children and he said or did nothing about it, he accused me of lying
@dickyutu9940
4 ай бұрын
This is so true. Married to a narcissist for the last 34 years and her family is above our marriage.
@janessasands3547
4 ай бұрын
You are spot on! For years I struggled to understand this and if I dared to speak the truth on it, I was attacked by my spouse. So I've learned to stay out of their affairs and we were never able to build a loving in-law relationship. My life has been much peaceful ever since 🙌🏾
@aishwaryapatlolla5615
5 ай бұрын
This video is a gem!
@bojanamadzic5397
5 ай бұрын
So, so true!!! I have problem with narcissistic husband! He is so loyal to his narcissistic mother and always prioritising her above me! At the moment we are having marriage counselling but I don't have much hope because they never change! Have 2 kids with him! And I am desperate!
@user-kd7hr9jr3j
5 ай бұрын
Yes! I have been through this with my ex partner. I barely survived the hell, even tho I knew everything about narcissists when I met him 😢 I can't believe he fooled me and I sold my house for him and he kicked me out from the house we built with My money! Now I'm living with rent and with my first daughter. With God's help I healed and I am feeling much better after all the abuse I've been through. I only pray to God he gives me my second daughter because she wants to be with me and she's only 3,5 years old. I raised them both alone! Thank you Danish and please read my book when you have time and tell me your opinion about it because I think you will find a lot of things you will like there 😊❤ My book is called Biblia Modernă, Evadarea din Iad. Thank you so much and I appreciate your work very much! Greetings all the way from Romania! ❤❤❤
@TallKulWmn1
5 ай бұрын
My husband & I were both born into the Jehovah’s Witness religion . What you described about family is exactly the way he was with the congregation he came from. I moved into his life. I wished with everything I hadn’t. I’m no longer a JW. It took a lot to wake up from both the religion & the reality I’m married to a narcissist. I thank you Danish for being vulnerable & selfless. It takes a lot to bare your heart to help others heal. Thank you 🫶
@nreynolds75243
5 ай бұрын
Hi my sister. So sorry to hear about your experience. I'm one of Jehovah's Witnesses that's going thru the same thing with a narcissistic JW husband. We were both raised in the truth as well. He divided the household. He and his son also act like angels within the congregation. So they think it's me and of course you've got followers. Some act out of ignorance because they don't know about narcissism. I only learned about it when I married him. He and I now go to separate congregations. Much better. We've been married for almost 9 years. I've been researching and listening to videos like this to learn more. Everything Danish has said is true about NPD. My husband has settled down some. I'm no shrieking violet and a straight forward person. I don’t allow people to walk over me. What's been advised on how to handle them works. Also I pray constantly to Jehovah God about the matter. Both secular and biblical information has helped me and persistence. If it gets to the point where I need to leave this marriage, I will. Have to have common sense. Once again sorry 😞. I went thru the same thing. Take care ❤
@WorthyIsTheLamb-rm4pd
5 ай бұрын
Truth! They run in packs like wolves! His mother was vicious. She often times would growl when she was angry. And, they actually ate like a bunch of scavengers. I'll never forget how they would devour their food. They had no table manners whatsoever. In my opinion, the creatures aren't fully human.
@GodsChosenMekAmoR
5 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@WorthyIsTheLamb-rm4pd
5 ай бұрын
@@GodsChosenMekAmoR 😅😂😅
@GodsChosenMekAmoR
5 ай бұрын
@@WorthyIsTheLamb-rm4pd I understand your comment completely. Mind-blowing experience.
@vitalia2680
5 ай бұрын
You hit the nail on the head🎯
@vanjastevanovic5847
5 ай бұрын
Thanks for clarifying this! For seven years I’ve been trying to understand why my husband always puts his twin brother and the woman who raised them First and not me or our kids. And if I say something about it, then he says that Im just not able to understand that special bond that exists between twins, as I just have a regular sibling, not a twin… I just recently started realizing that Im most likely living with a narcissist and Im now able to understand his behaviour better…
@adedokunbolaji6943
5 ай бұрын
Well done Danish, God will continue to bless you. I want you to know that there are so many of us that only read comments but will never write any comments. We are always blessed by comments people make. Love everyone in this community. God help us to heal
@UtahGmaw99
5 ай бұрын
That answers so many things.
@douglasneal5864
5 ай бұрын
I saw this first hand. I knew something was wrong with that family.
@jawadahmed8956
5 ай бұрын
It's 100% true from my experience they only care about family
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