If you ever listen to anything while reading comments let it be this- go read the book social secrets mastery, then come back and thank me
@fromalmatywithlove
Күн бұрын
Who’s the author?
@fringbabyross4718
Ай бұрын
It’s likely an anxious attachment person fawning on an avoidant who wants to run away
@EIizabethGrace
26 күн бұрын
Nah, it could be an anxiously attached person in general. You know how you often hear securely attached or even avoidant people talking about how being with an avoidant messed them up enough to make them act kind of anxious? The same thing can happen the other way around. Anxiously attached people’s behavior isn’t always a response to an avoidant partner. And even then, it’s often mutual: it’s just that the anxiously attached person often doesn’t realize what little things triggered the avoidant or refuse to acknowledge them as anything other than normal things that shouldn’t trigger anyone, and therefore shouldn’t be taken into account in the equation, failing to do the same the other way around.
@zanehudson3680
26 күн бұрын
Bruh…. You just hit me way too hard with this statement. I’ve been the anxious attached fawning on an avoidant..
@tromboneman4517
21 күн бұрын
I dated someone like that honestly.
@somber087
19 күн бұрын
No its a kind loving person chasing a careless narcissist
@kenshin198406
29 күн бұрын
Let's be honest, it's just human nature to take for granted what is free and plentiful and treasure what we have to fight and work hard for.
@rahwastella9352
28 күн бұрын
correct
@likanweeds8501
28 күн бұрын
Fully agreed
@ZenithSerenity06
19 күн бұрын
We should cherish every moment, treasure everything, and appreciate every person that graces our lives. Whatever happens, happens for a reason, and ultimately for our good.
@iceteo
19 күн бұрын
And that's when the feeling of grateful, the gratitude, in. Remember that, we should be grateful on everything we have, whether we got them for free or by hardships, otherwise, we're just going to neglect the value of what have been granted to us. You see, everyday we've been granted this air to breathe, eventhough it's just a common thing, but for some people, they have to pay for the same air that we breathe for free. Thanks for the reminder
@kenshin198406
19 күн бұрын
@@LilXancheX amen to that
@VampyressVA
27 күн бұрын
We need more Wu Wei in our lives. It's a Taoist principle: do nothing, allow the flow, force nothing.
@zanav138
24 күн бұрын
Like vampires do!
@VampyressVA
24 күн бұрын
@@zanav138 Well, vampires do have to be forceful and/or manipulative at times. It's not like necks will just present themselves! 😅
@FriendofDorothy
Ай бұрын
GUILTY as charged.... was neglected and abused by parents so I over-give when interested in someone romantically. I've become conscious of it through videos like this (YT is my therapist!) and I've quietly toned it down. As a result I've noticed the other person is drawing closer to me and is more relaxed with me. It's not fun being a male Sally Fields ("You like me! You really like me!), LOL but I'm learning by connecting the dots. This "over-giving" can happen when you never get support, only criticism or neglect as a kid....
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
Keep connecting those dots and learning. Growth and self-awareness are ongoing processes, and you're clearly on the right path. It's great to hear that your efforts are already making a positive difference.
@AssumptionEmpty
25 күн бұрын
I feel this. I have extreme form of disorganized attachment (borderline personality disorder) and I wanted to 'secure' myself through people pleasing. Needless to say, it didn't work out.
@mitnavn78
Ай бұрын
A childhood trauma that will destroy a future relationship. Clear communication and awareness will save it but its hard and not everyone will show their weakness.
@tarzan.CB.
27 күн бұрын
Needle in a haystack?
@Uvuvwevwevweonyetenyevwe-zn1gv
Ай бұрын
Give from your heart when you give to others, not expecting something in return. Some will appreciate, some will not, but in the end be happy that you did something good for them (without reproaching them something). And the same you give to others, give to yourself, do not forget that.
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm glad the video resonated with you and helped bring some clarity. Understanding these patterns can be a significant step toward personal growth and healthier relationships in the future.
@dakotapeters5654
Ай бұрын
I give to the people who are appreciative of my giving if they don't appreciate the effort I put in to give them something then they aren't worth it. Yeah it does make someone feel good to give but not if they aren't shown gratitude for having put in the effort to help someone out. My last problem on this matter is that everyone has different levels of what they feel they need hygiene being on most people's list but in my list of needs is barely enough to count on one hand 1: air 2: water 3: sleep 4: shelter 5: food. That's all that is needed and ever will be needed for anybody to survive and sustain life.
@Rose-fe9jc
Ай бұрын
A wise pastor once said: "If appreciation is your fuel for giving, then your tank will be empty". Pastor Debleire Snell, Breath of Life TV.
@McSoap-cu6bn
28 күн бұрын
shinzou sasagayo!
@therealsachin
26 күн бұрын
All this works as long as the other person is not a narcissist.
@janetscully3337
27 күн бұрын
Giving and receiving has to be balanced between people
@wangcheng3940
22 күн бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@michael-gg2rh
22 күн бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@wangcheng3940
22 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@michael-gg2rh
22 күн бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
@wangcheng3940
22 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@Maztergyl666
20 күн бұрын
Tough stuff, but perhaps the best thing to do is to take care of yourself. Go to the gym or go out to run, it will feel distracting. Also: Think positively: You have all the time and money for yourself now, ever wanted to start some hobbies? Now is the time to focus on yourself. Good luck, man
@L6FT
Ай бұрын
It feels good to give and feels good to get appreciated. If you feel the other person isn't giving what you'd like, then tell them, but in an encouraging non condescending manner, because it would make you happy, fulfilled etc. If the other person doesn't want to or can't, then it's time to reevaluate the interaction. Likewise if what you give isn't being appreciated then stop giving it, the other person may start to understand that they liked what you gave and show more appreciation when you then do give. With dignity and respect for yourself and others, guard your energy and don't squander it carelessly.
@Nyuffykah
27 күн бұрын
When do you feel like overgiving? When you slightly start to resent the other for not reciprocating! That's the moment i stop everything and fill my own cup❤
@yousfiabdelali
5 күн бұрын
This is so hard to let settle in. Especially when you're crazy about the other person
@meeckemann5692
26 күн бұрын
Morality has two pillars: 1. Reciprocity (Fairness), 2. Compassion (Empathy). So think and act accordingly.
@Valdivia9494
26 күн бұрын
@@meeckemann5692 this
@kiranthakur8793
9 күн бұрын
People will act on what they want and then think things to justify their actions.
@missingpatel7349
Ай бұрын
I was suicidal and couldn't find a reason for living, so making the person I love happy became my only way to redeem my self worth (She didn't love me). She was burdened by it, I see it now. It hurts.
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
I'm truly sorry to hear about your pain, and I hope my content helps you on your journey to self-discovery and healing. It's important to find worth within yourself, not just through others. We're all in this together. ❤
@sanschmidt5457
Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear that and my heart reaches out to you. it may sound cliché but I sincerely hope that one day you will be the person you love and you want to make happy and this will be your reason to live. i'm on the same path with you. may we get there at some point ❤🩹
@sallywangari3180
26 күн бұрын
May it only hurt for a while (or for as long as you allow it to) and may the pain you feel be transformed into growth and learning. May you attract people who love and like you for you, you need not do anything.
@YukiNakamura
18 күн бұрын
Life is just a joke honestly
@dll7658
8 күн бұрын
Ohh! That's so interesting. I had been suicidal as well and wanting to live, became attached to someone who cared about me and it made me not want to let him down. Eventually, I thought that was love. But once I got to work around myself, I realized that I got attached because I want to survive.
@HG-le5tj
28 күн бұрын
Only give to those who ask, and even at that, put yourself first🙂
@Valdivia9494
26 күн бұрын
Sometimes even when they ask, they got the nerve to tell you "I didn't force you to do it"
@sallywangari3180
26 күн бұрын
@@Valdivia9494which is true in a sense. No one forces one to give to the other. Even when they ask, you do want to be supportive of your partner so you give freely they don't force you.
@Valdivia9494
26 күн бұрын
@@sallywangari3180 yeah it's true in a sense. But a relationship is kind of like a family and kind of like a team. There should be reciprocity to some extent or it truly won't work. The problem arises when someone thinks it's ok to just take from the other person. Usually happens with someone who has narcissistic tendencies or is simply too immature to care.
@sallywangari3180
26 күн бұрын
@@Valdivia9494 true true. How do you differentiate the law of reciprocity from tit for tat a.k.a expecting something in return?
@Valdivia9494
25 күн бұрын
@@sallywangari3180 good question, I think that the difference is a little abstract. When you do something for someone that you love, you feel a certain joy, their happiness is felt almost as your own, whereas if it would be just an exchange, you don't need to care, you can care only about your reward. Another case I'd like to mention lies in whether, that something you do, is a big sacrifice or not (or too many small sacrifices for that matter). You should totally expect reciprocity if a big sacrifice is asked from you. If your partner sees you as a human being as valuable as they see themselves, they would treat you with the same kind of respect and as someone worthy of the same kind of sacrifice, given a similar situation arises. You shouldn't ask for something you wouldn't do yourself. There can be extreme life or death cases, but this covers most normal situations.
@twobeagles1365
29 күн бұрын
Being generous person often you generally want them to have what you never had growing up and be better off, or be happier ,these genuine sacrifices dont need something in return, very few possess this trait.
@aureliaavalon
29 күн бұрын
Except parents towards their own children, usually. But towards anyone else? Rare
@johnsonjj117
2 күн бұрын
@@aureliaavalonhusband and wife.
@Karthik-ut3vo
16 сағат бұрын
Man you must made this video 15 years back... i miss it...
@tommybinson
25 күн бұрын
Thanks! That is one of the best lessons anyone can learn. Anyhow, chasing people drives them away. And over-graciousness erodes self respect.
@jayantnanda4420
15 күн бұрын
Very well said...
@justinemot2282
26 күн бұрын
This sums up my relationship with my mother. Her making me favours I don't need and didn't ask for so that she could feel happy, needed and me to feel guilty and obliged to her. And I can't repay ever - first of all its exhausting. Secondly, I didn't need her to cook me dinner. I didn't need her to come to my house. I didn't need her to clean my windows. I didn't need her to carry heavy packages - I just needed a moment to do it safely by myself but instead I just had to witness her pain as she was walking. Thanks mom! Good thing is at least I recognize these subconscious manipulations even when she doesn't. So I can turn off my guilt really quick. But I still can't forget how she made me cry for trying to help her carry a packet with things. So much aggression for trying for help that I bowled my eyes out. And that's the reason I don't help her anymore - I was taught that helping is bad, it's a conflict and its always an emotional stress
@johnsonjj117
2 күн бұрын
what? seriously….might want to take a step back and rethink things. As a parent there is absolutely nothing I wouldn’t do for my child, I would give her my heart if she needed a transplant. Ever consider your mother simply loved you and tried showing it in the ways she knew how? The problem arises from your own comprehension of her actions. Selfish people assume others are doing things to be selfish.
@AmyFerguson
Ай бұрын
Give as if in a conversation. Listen. Respond. Repeat.
@blaze36344
Ай бұрын
Underrated comment
@Anonym-yr4qn
25 күн бұрын
"Niceness" in a nutshell:
@iceteo
19 күн бұрын
Honestly, i know that I will always 'give' for the person i love and care, sometimes got over-given, because i know that i didn't do this to anyone. Right? In the other hand, i also know that there might be times when we, are the one who going to be given. Give and be given, it's a cycle, bro. That's why for people who are always given, by others, be grateful, bro, and have an understanding to pay them back, it's okay if it is not the same value. A prayer is also a good thing to do, you can keep a good prayer for them, bro, everyday, pray a good prayer for them every single day, prayer is powerful, believe it
@lemmesay
26 күн бұрын
If someone gave a lot I would reciprocate and match their effort. But people are unappreciative hence stupid.
@GemGames3
24 күн бұрын
“No good deed goes unpunished”
@Hofniel
27 күн бұрын
This video has just perfectly explained to me why I escaped my overgiving friend. He was never listening to me saying I don’t need those gifts; when I said I feel burdened and obliged, replied “you shouldn’t feel that way” and in general would keep randomly gifting stuff to me. And, while saying he doesn’t expect anything from me, he refused my attempts on significant gifts himself… and would randomly mention the things he gave me. It felt burdensome, suffocating, even infuriating at times. I know he isn’t a bad person, and I rather felt as a bad one myself… but damn, how better my life became after I stopped talking to him. I can’t even express the difference.
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
You are heartless. At least you had someone to give you gifts. I would love free stuff ❤ but you? Oh, but you feel “burdened” right? Ungrateful and selfish. Why must you be this way?
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
You are heartless. At least you had someone to give you gifts. I would love free stuff ❤ but you? Oh, but you feel “burdened” right? You are UngratefuI and seIfish. Why must you be this way?
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
You are heartless. At least you had someone to give you gifts. I would love free stuff ❤ but you? Oh, but you feel “burdened” right? Why must you be this way? It’s true, you are a bad person. And don’t you forget that…
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
You are heartless. At least you had someone to give you gifts. I would love free stuff ❤ but you? Oh, but you feel “burdened” Why?
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
One last thing: people are so ungrateful. You take things for granted. Ask yourself why you didn’t want the gifts, and why not talking to him made your life better. How did it get better? By not accepting gifts? That makes no sense. That’s like saying my life got better cuz I stopped putting on my Nike shoes, or my life got better cuz I stopped eating vanilla ice cream… such a petty thing makes you proud for some reason. Why? It’s not like he was abusing you, yet you make it seem like he was…
@AakashSharma-qd5uo
29 күн бұрын
This is something I never understood but you explained it perfectly and it makes perfect sense to me now. Thank you very much. I'll be better now.
@casperinsight3524
Ай бұрын
Perhaps its the context .....of feeling unappreciated When one person is over doing bcuz their partner is under doing then resentment and exhaustion arise. Its not over giving but over DOING, If your person EXPECTS or demands that you do their chores, errands, etc then YOU are being taken advantage of. They are using and abusing you to their gain. Let them clean up their own mess, clean their own house, cook their own meals, do their own shopping. Stop cow towing to them. People will continue to take and walk on you if you let them . 🤚🏼
@limohere2554
2 сағат бұрын
Perfect timing for hearing this! Great video, concise, literate, and very very helpful, thanks a bunch and keep up the good work!
@TeresaNickel-o4d
29 күн бұрын
Wow! Thank you for this information, its really made me think alot about why I give so much. In certain relationships I have too high of expectations, expecting them to reciprocate in the way I think they should reciprocate. When they don't, I can become passive-aggressive and mad (which is against what my heart really wants) because I feel unloved and uncared for. I know that I have a tendency to do this so I have worked hard to change my thinking and my heart so I don't expect others to do what I would do. Somehow I also think that I will be loved more if I give, give, give and I feel quite sad after I give/sacrifice, and there is nothing from that person, or very little. So your video is what I have needed. Thank you!
@HoaTran-in8rb
29 күн бұрын
🫂
@girikkhullar4072
23 сағат бұрын
Do you have any advice to share? Anything you noticed different in yourself after seeing this video? I have been stuck in the same position you were for a few months now and it’s causing problems to my self esteem and mental health.
@girikkhullar4072
23 сағат бұрын
Do you have any advice to share? Anything you noticed different in yourself after seeing this video? I have been stuck in the same position you were for a few months now and it’s causing problems to my self esteem and mental health.
@PMyoutubehandle
13 күн бұрын
imagine being a secretary. Just do the work and get paid.
@qdllc
3 күн бұрын
Explains a lot about why my dad and I were so dysfunctional. I never liked him as a person (long and complicated topic by itself), but he would do things “for me” then complain how ungrateful his wife and children were. Most times, we never asked him to intervene, and his boorish behavior is a large reason we didn’t give him the affection he craved. Every time he did something nice, there was this weighty expectation of if we were showing enough gratitude…making it impossible to enjoy the thing he just did for us.
@Ytterbiums70
20 күн бұрын
It actually explains a lot about people’s perception
@mrquickey3731
Ай бұрын
i think this perfectly summarizes the dynamic between a lot of relationships in relation to the women always doing the cleaning and the men just sitting on the couch. Like can you just stop please
@gte717v
28 күн бұрын
If they didn’t ask for help, are you really helping?
@adrianaloborec2205
26 күн бұрын
They shouldn't have to "ask for help" if you live together, it's your responsibility too.
@gte717v
26 күн бұрын
@@adrianaloborec2205I think the point they were trying to make is that there needs to be a conversation about what “clean” means and what the expectations should be. So many people live lives of quiet desperation because they won’t talk about what they are looking for specifically.
@mrquickey3731
25 күн бұрын
@@adrianaloborec2205 i let you believe that. Constantly approoving somebody's OCD and calling it help is not gonna do much
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
@@gte717vthen don’t enter relationships smh
@doncorleone3901
29 күн бұрын
Fantastic deep analysis. Subbed. Thanks for making these videos man
@souradyutishome5088
14 күн бұрын
Beautifully explained ✨ I was trying to explain this to a friend in need, and as I watched this video I realised how well you explained it within a very little time but it was complete I shared this video with him I hope heunderstands and realises these emotions better and evolves into being a more mature version of himself
@bjugler
Ай бұрын
Wow, you found me and gave me exactly what I needed to hear. This is exactly what I just did in my last relationship. (And several before...) Perfectly timed and so helpful! Thank you so much!
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
I'm glad my words resonated with you and came at the right time !
@abdelrahim5184
29 күн бұрын
It makes no sense to me Why are they always asking If you don't want me to over give then stop over asking. You ask I give Now I'm the problem Wow
@Adriam77968
27 күн бұрын
Don't give nothing ever, noted.
@LilXancheX
25 күн бұрын
Yes. This right here. Even when I’m a relationship, I will never give gifts to anyone ever again. I learned my lesson
@Beela2020
23 күн бұрын
Then live alone thats all no women want a loser
@RC-ic1co
7 күн бұрын
As the saying goes: The opposite of crazy is still crazy.
@butterflypathchristiancoach
8 күн бұрын
Very interesting...specially that point of giving what the other do not need to find an emotional connection instead of actually figuring out what the other person needs. Is not always easy to know that!
@nagarajprasadh
Ай бұрын
Brilliant information at a time I perhaps needed it the most. Many thanks. Helps align my life perfectly. Much appreciated 🙏🏻
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
I'm so glad to hear that !!! Your kind words mean a lot. Thank you for watching! Don't forget to like and subscribe for more content. Your support is much appreciated! 😊
@mazharkhaliq1971
25 күн бұрын
Thanks for knowledge 🤜 I am learning a lot about this manipulative world.
@Melva-Tjong
Ай бұрын
That’s so true. Many thanks for sharing.
@EmotionalOdysey
7 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for your encouragement!
@adna5643
19 күн бұрын
This makes me remember the story I read when I was a child. There's a collage student in a boarding school that have ecconomically poor friend beside her room. Sometimes she give her friend foods and things that the school needs. But she also ask something to her such as salt, borrowing pencil, and any other small things. Because she doesnt want the other person to feel burdened She gave the other person the ability to help too.
@Janet_Quillen_DE07
Ай бұрын
This was me to the T in my last relationship. I didnt realize this was the problem until after the breakup. He said the whole relationship was stressful. I see why. Thanks for making this video so it ckicks.
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
It's not always easy to recognize these patterns while we're in the midst of a relationship. I'm glad the video helped bring some clarity and understanding for you. If you have any more questions or need further insights, feel free to reach out. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more content that can support you on your journey. 😊
@Janet_Quillen_DE07
Ай бұрын
I really appreciate that. I watched more of your videos, and I have no doubt in my mind that this channel will blow up big ❤
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
@@Janet_Quillen_DE07 Your encouragement means a lot to me🌻
@girikkhullar4072
Күн бұрын
I thank you for making this video and I thank the algorithm also for recommending something useful to me once. I have been going down into this spiral where I started several projects with a person; I did initial work, and then their excuse was always time crunch. I don’t know why, I never did this previously, but I accommodated this person a lot, even at the cost of my time and mental space. This has been slowly harming me over the past 4 months as I realise that I keep on giving and giving and do not get anything in return. This then develops a feeling of resentment towards them, and then it calms as soon as they send one msg acknowledging something I did. I felt trapped in a vicious circle of sorts and this video has given me some idea of why and how to escape it. So thank you for that.
@EmotionalOdysey
17 сағат бұрын
@JOEYDEEZ369
6 күн бұрын
PS.. never begrudgingly give.. give always from the heart then forget it and move on !!
@nikkiu.2148
7 күн бұрын
I feel SO called out right now. I started to realize this within myself a while ago with regard to certain friendships. I don't think I overgave in terms of frequency, and it's never led to anything negative happening to those friendships. But the part about what might be motivating the giver to give resonated to an extent. Like, on the one hand I genuinely care about my friend and wanted to do something for them, but on the other hand, there was def a subconscious or conscious goal of self-satisfaction. Now when I give gifts, I make a point of reminding myself that I shouldn't put too much stock in how someone reacts to or receives a gift I've made.
@johnsonjj117
2 күн бұрын
It’s completely natural to feel that way. We get personal gratification for every good deed we do.
@johnscott3795
Ай бұрын
I needed that .. thank you ,
@MayankSharma-vz5of
10 күн бұрын
In simple words our dna is designed to optimize. So the more we have anything, the less we need that thing and thus shit gets boring.
@mysticat7652
26 күн бұрын
Thank you! ❤ And this is exactly the eneagram number 2 personally! 🎉 😢
@unfoundedidentity
Ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me understand this!
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
@aishwaryan912
Ай бұрын
Just so true..... Thank you so much for this video.
@liedindingn9596
Ай бұрын
You're lucky...I overdid this and made everything worse, ruined the relationship. Don't do this... Less, almost nothing is better. I felt this but couldn't stop it, at a good time...
@anshekaupmanue7427
29 күн бұрын
Very thoughtful video😊
@thersten
4 күн бұрын
How does one heal the childhood fear of abandonment that keeps us needing the romantic partner for security and validation?
@EmotionalOdysey
4 күн бұрын
I'll be addressing this important question in one of my upcoming videos. Please stay tuned!
@raymondcampusano2991
27 күн бұрын
Not all people is that way. I give a lot, and I never say I did this for you. Of course I expect reciprocation, but I know everyone is different and may not reciprocate the same way. As long as I feel loved, I will keep giving, but I dont shut up about my own needs, I have my standards.
@johnsonjj117
2 күн бұрын
that’s why I think this video is way to much of a generalization on the topic.
@callsigncrusader9877
27 күн бұрын
Only illiterate person will run away from such loving people
@zanehudson3680
26 күн бұрын
I think the point of the video is an over giving person is not giving from the heart. They have ulterior motives for their giving which is unfair to place on someone who didn’t ask for anything from you.
@zels2816
14 күн бұрын
@@zanehudson3680 But if that nice person doesn't care if they are being reciprocated and doesn't put pressure on their friend to do the same? I mean I give love because I feel good about it not because I want others to give love to me. I seriously don't care if they love me or not as long as I know I sleep peacefully at night because I didn't hurt any human.
@searchwikipediafallacy5567
9 күн бұрын
I agree with you. This video is garbage. If the person is a good fit they will not mind if the partner is overgiving. If this video is for manipulators , it won't help them. If this video is for the good hearted, it will discourage them and will hurt their relationships. Only a stupid person will say no to true love and giving and there are lots of them.
@benelizajunacecaminero8112
14 күн бұрын
Immediately liked just for the title while ads I'm watching. 😅
@thanhcoolfresh6805
5 күн бұрын
where you found this? this is so cool and helpful!
@rakeshkulkarni2125
27 күн бұрын
Woww! Spot on.
@fastfoodfrase6878
4 күн бұрын
This hole relationship stuff is way too difficult for me. It feels that basically all i do is wrong. Even being nice. I start to think, that im better off on my one from now on.
@girikkhullar4072
23 сағат бұрын
I agree with you. Idk how it’s difficult for people to reciprocate to someone being nice to them. Instead they just take and take and drain them dry of all will and sharing nature. And this breeds a lot of resentment which then ultimately leads to that relationship to break
@Discovered_X_Captured
13 күн бұрын
Relationships are complicated
@GoodHeartInfinity
6 күн бұрын
Thank You so very much✨🌈😇💖🙏
@RayMak
27 күн бұрын
Couldn’t agree more. I’m divorced
@razzledaz8146
17 күн бұрын
It's hard to accept. I may have manipulated people I love by giving. .I am a shamed to admit. It makes perfect sense now. she left and I am now alone. She said I was suffocating and intense. She needs space. I get it now. Thank you for opening my mind.
@MaruskaStarshaya
23 күн бұрын
So true, my ex bombed me with gifts and expected me to please him emotionally in return, this was so uncomfortable, no wonder our relationship didn't last for long.
@dracolich9337
4 күн бұрын
I'm selfish. But have some trouble setting boundaries. So I don't have this problem. Some of my friends have.
@trauma2happiness
26 күн бұрын
Excellent video
@thereisnosanctuary6184
27 күн бұрын
This is almost exclusively a female recipient problem.
@King_of_Antisemites
10 күн бұрын
Often happens in Parenthood....
@MaryMargaretteWhite-ek5tn
Ай бұрын
This makes sense, hoewever, I been in situations where I’m being played, nagged and made guilty that I wasn’t attentive enough or I should give more…..then when I give by obliging them then they wanna withdrawal. I’m too selfish to “give” for people to like me😂 I “give” because there was a NEED.
@shardulsonwane675
23 күн бұрын
Same man
@Fpskeny
Ай бұрын
You can make all the money in the world and she only likes you for money but you can’t control her. You just end up broke if it’s only about money
@paulodili751
24 күн бұрын
If the other person has no need for it I won't bother and it won't affect me. However, when you give it is right for it to appreciated, what is life without appreciation? The Lord gave us life and we appreciate him every day for it. And he does more.
@carlo.notcarlos
10 күн бұрын
I call it "the selfish giver". Thank u for sharing this! I've understood this concept for a very long time but I've never heard anyone else talk about it. I kno ppl like this & when i was a ppl pleaser i used to be like this. Very spot on!
@himadrishbaruah7637
Ай бұрын
The problem to overgive may lie in the deeper obvious effort-reward complex of extroverted and narcissistic brain functions.Certainly the narrator made the point that one does so in order to win relationship. When gratitude can be uneven bracing that moral dilemma is then a challenge for empathy and tolerance.
@user-of3qz7yn7f
21 күн бұрын
Is it? I know you give without expecting anything in return. Best form of giving and it's a personal choice.
@42976675
22 күн бұрын
Your partner is upset you don’t have something for you both to do this weekend. You ask what would you like to do. They’re then disappointed that you’re not surprising them with a plan. You create, ask, pay for a plan which they then judge. You want to connect, you’re willing to give. They contribute nothing. Occasionally they spontaneously surprise you. You roll with it. You don’t show up late. You have no choice. You don’t judge or complain. What would be the point. Its really all about their needs. You need your efforts appreciated by reciprocation or you stop making them. Then the only relationship you have is no relationship.
@varunittigi9288
12 күн бұрын
Nice video.. But I felt if you illustrate it through some examples.. it would be more easily graspable
@tarzan.CB.
27 күн бұрын
Fair enough.
@meddina9
15 күн бұрын
love, love, love
@ribbonbunni
Ай бұрын
Oh wow i learned something today
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
I'm thrilled to hear that!
@pedroapurado1890
Ай бұрын
I highly appreciate the content, very timely and it nurtures our intrinsic elements, thought provoking and offers a lot of introspective self reflection. Cheers brother. You're making an impact to the universe.
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! I'm thrilled to hear that you found the content thought-provoking and impactful. It's truly rewarding to know that the videos are resonating with you and helping with introspection.
@LearnCompositionOnline
Ай бұрын
I watched it until end!
@EmotionalOdysey
Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching until the end! Your support means a lot.😊
@ucle375
25 күн бұрын
Love
@arulraj3076
12 күн бұрын
Pure psychology, invented by interlectual mind.
@vinayyy.n2875
25 күн бұрын
Experienced every bit of it, learnt it on my own tho. And fixed a lot of those issues but I had to go through hell to understand that.
@curerose0630
3 күн бұрын
So..., short answer: overgive = guilt tripping?
@bharathihariharan8821
25 күн бұрын
👌🙏
@MrN00414s
27 күн бұрын
I think the main takeaway from this video is that giving must be done altruistically other than transactional relationship. I give you Super Thanks $ and hope you don't mind replying with a "Thanks!" or even a longer reply. 😂
@AbuJaahilFromKerala
6 сағат бұрын
Exactly 💯🫵
@Beela2020
23 күн бұрын
Not for me if he is not giver bye 👋
@T.K.Wellington1996
23 күн бұрын
You are a narcist.
@T.K.Wellington1996
23 күн бұрын
This is narcisim.
@Beela2020
23 күн бұрын
@@T.K.Wellington1996 call it what u want I take only a giver thats all
@AbuJaahilFromKerala
6 сағат бұрын
@@T.K.Wellington1996Disagree
@NaIn-cu8zz
29 күн бұрын
I don't think it is about over-giving. D.Q.
@DanielDogeanu
22 күн бұрын
Hey man, you have a great insight in this video! It would be nice if you showed your face and used your real voice, and not just an AI generated one! I've watched a few videos on your channel, and I can see it has great potential! It's really important in today's world to show you're a real person who creates real content, based on real knowledge, and not just AI generated nonsense! Keep up the good work! 😊
@Babyling-99
26 күн бұрын
I might be over-giving likes here, on youtube, 😂😂😂
@DivineLogos
Ай бұрын
The other will take you for granted if you overgive.
@1Norther1
2 күн бұрын
Thank you for the video, but it is a little bit late. She is gone now.
@ElyEva-nu7yj
10 күн бұрын
U can't buy love
@mbgmt
7 күн бұрын
it's a good thing i'm over this roller coaster kind of relationship. Trial period is over, hurt is 50% and will get over.
@sweswarupini9732
29 күн бұрын
God allows after repentance infront of him...not infront of idols
@3ngan498
26 күн бұрын
That make so much sense, a bit too late for me tho But thanks for the wise advice ❤
@slimsloth243
26 күн бұрын
A lot of BS being thrown around here. Generosity is the essence of humanity and empathy. Too bad it is at odds with a culture of individualism. Individualism leads to narcissism Narcissists cannot deal with their own shame when they need help. It is not the fault of the giver who gives from their heart.
@dariavasilescu334
25 күн бұрын
So true!
@JOEYDEEZ369
6 күн бұрын
You can’t make someone love you no matter what it is for them you do… if they do not love you from the start then they will never love you in the way that you want / expect then to.., NEVER stay in a loveless sexless one sided relationship / marriage as you’ll be doing yourself and your partner a great disservice I mean there are billions of people in this world so why would you stay in a relationship that doesn’t / isn’t working for you… yeh.. one must approach these things with logic rather than emotion… Don’t allow your heart to consistently control and or rule your head.. A good relationship should be exactly that.. it should flow effortlessly.. now If you are constantly trying to keep a relationship afloat / constantly working at staying together with each other then you have chosen the wrong person to hitch your wagon to… A good relationship will uplift you both most of…. If not all of the time… because when you uplift each other you’ll grow stronger together… There you have it EMOO my blessed opinion on this topic / subject Thanks for listening hahah Ciao ;)’
@EmotionalOdysey
6 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You’ve highlighted some essential truths about relationships. It’s true, you can’t force someone to love you, and staying in a loveless or one-sided relationship can be detrimental to both parties involved. Indeed, with billions of people in the world, it’s important to find someone who complements you and uplifts you. A healthy relationship should flow naturally and not feel like a constant struggle. I appreciate your perspective on approaching relationships with logic rather than just emotion. It’s crucial to have a balance between the heart and the head. Your insights are valuable and resonate with many people who might be going through similar situations. Thanks again for sharing! Ciao! 😊
@JOEYDEEZ369
5 күн бұрын
@@EmotionalOdysey Yes.. I agree with you entirely and thanks for replying… also just so that you know… I have been single now for over 24 years… I shy away from romantic relationships as I find them to be too time consuming.. see bud I am meant to walk alone in this big bizarre yet stunningly beautiful and slightly troubled world !! Good evening to you…. Ttfn ;)’
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