The fact that you’re thinking about why you do certain things is a great sign of recovery… most people don’t
@wilmh9586
10 күн бұрын
Even sober people that have never had a drink issue still struggle day to day...life is very challenging for all of us...we just have to battle on brother
@temprary580
9 күн бұрын
This is so relatable. I'm 2 plus years sober and sometimes I feel like all iv accomplished is sobriety. Not really moving forward as I imagined i would, broke still(while working 2 jobs) , still take part in addict behavior, still have evident characteristic flaws, I'm still a work in progress. Sobriety doesn't fix everything unfortunately but it does offer us a real chance to become who we are meant to be. It's a process. Expectations and time frames we put on ourselves doesn't help that process. Just gotta figure out a way to enjoy the ride. Life on life's terms as they say. The reality is, if you have any amount of Sobriety you have achieved a lot, you have changed a lot. Where you think you should be does not negate what has been accomplished so far. Just be easy on yourself, be aware of how you are interacting with yourself and be grateful for what you have. Recovery is a marathon, not a sprint.
@bobloblaw6205
10 күн бұрын
I totally agree with what you say about the drive to get sober gives you a purpose and a "challenge"...something to overcome...and then wants you have been sober for a while it feels like the desire of that challenge begins to dim and is no longer such a good motivator because it becomes the norm and doesnt feel like you are accomplishing anything by being sober anymore like it used to.
@JOSEPHBURBOSR
10 күн бұрын
Hang in there,keep talking about it.
@BarrettPlumbing
2 күн бұрын
Last year I was over a million dollars in debt. My house amounts for 1/2. I had financed every toy out there when my business took off. I sold everything. I’m a year away from being debt free asides from my house and plan to pay my house off within 5 years. I’m blessed that plumbing found me. I completely understand what you are going through and it’s scary AF. I hope your sobriety continues and your finances improve
@Greenmonster1977
9 күн бұрын
Same. 6 months sober & shit is still the same. Often, the thrist will tap in & remind me that things were better when I was actively drinking. All lies. It was the same. Same back then as it is now. It just feels worse because I am sober & not glossing over it with booze. Grateful for my sobriety but DAMN, sober life is hard, lol. Thank you for this video.
@TheNightKing22
9 күн бұрын
You got this, brotha! Keep sprinting. Dont ever stop!
@vengofilms
9 күн бұрын
I’ve been sober for about a year and a half since I run a business and have been through surviving cancer and a lot of other traumatic incidences that drives me to drink to the point of escaping. It sounds like you need something in your life to give you an escape from whatever you’re thinking about whether it be golf. That’s what I picked up or Just going for a walk or having a healthy activity to give you that escape feeling to not think about anything in life. And also, I highly recommend picking up the philosophy of stoicism. Stoicism is a fantastic outlet to keep your mental state strong and not to react to your emotions to understand your emotions, butto restrain from reacting to them.
@calinygirl8576
9 күн бұрын
You should write a book on the journey of becoming sober! You talk like a writer!! 😊
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
Maybe one day!
@Ks2314-n5z
9 күн бұрын
Yeah, a 1000 page book of self-analyzing. Can't wait.
@rosebuhr
9 күн бұрын
You are not highjacking us, keep talking, it’s good for you and for us listening.
@808.Underworld
9 күн бұрын
Oh man can I relate to the anxiety spikes about financial problems and how it can make you feel miserable. I used to work a below average paying job for years feeling stuck, and when I looked myself in the mirror in the morning i only saw failure. I bashed myself to the point where I was so anxious and insecure about my image and selfworth i could barely funcion at work. Just remind yourself Noah that what you do makes a difference for more people than you might realize. Been following you for a decade now. You saved me from the darkest of places and i will always be grateful for your guidance, experience and honesty. Doing heaps better these days and you've been a part of that. Keep your head up champ ❤
@j2626-u2g
10 күн бұрын
You're NOT alone -- it takes time -- lots of us are Broke & Broken -- it will get better -- it's a very very difficult process, btw even if your gym is not doing well this is an Amazing feat -- you are a gym Owner -- that's something most people just dream about -- You are definitely BLESSED - we ALL get depressed -- and a lot of us out there are completely broke-- things go up & down & all around -- you are doing Great -- it's good to vent
@wilmh9586
10 күн бұрын
Bro its an ongoing battle...til our last breath...i feel once we have had an alcohol issue it kind of stays with us forever...all we can do is manage it the best we can...good luck brother we are all with you man
@bobloblaw6205
10 күн бұрын
Hey Noah. Just found your channel and watched the video with Chris. I love videos like that when people breakdown their situation in depth I find it really helpful. Much more helpful then hearing the same old thing from people who give cookie cutter advice...I like it way better when people are just explaining what works for them and explain it as much as they can in a comfortable environment where it doesnt seem forced
@Шизоид-я5и
9 күн бұрын
I just wanted to say that I really understand where you're coming from. I've been struggling with alcohol addiction and suicidal thoughts myself, and I know how isolating and overwhelming it can feel. It's a constant battle, but seeing you speak openly about your journey gives me hope and reminds me that I'm not alone. Stay strong, and thank you for sharing your story - it helps more than you know.
@benballard1334
8 күн бұрын
Hey Noah, I've been watching your channel for about 8 years now and I don't think I've ever left a comment. What you do has been very helpful and inspiring to me and I really appreciate it. I'm 8 months sober from alcohol and am going through a similar situation. Obviously a book doesn't solve all the business issues etc. but I just started reading a book called Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. It's about cognitive behavioral therapy. I know you're already educated on all this stuff but it's really been helping me out. I didn't even realize how much my own negative thinking ( intrusive thoughts, rumination, perceived low self-worth) has brought me down and how, with practice, you really can control your own thinking process more than you might think. I'm not downplaying the fact that there are legitimate reasons for depression like life situations and chemical imbalances but working on it has definitely been a helpful piece of the puzzle for me. It also has helped me free up time to be more productive because I don't have to waste so much of my time going down that rabbit hole of awful thoughts. I was a very heavy drinker (admitted alcoholic) up until 8 months ago and I have to remind myself how much better all those negative thoughts got by not being drunk and hung over all the time. That completely put my body out of whack and it was a nightmare. But, like you, I'm starting to get into the phase where I'm realizing alcohol was a huge problem but it wasn't my only issue. If you want to check it out I think that book might help. All the best! Ben
@bignoknow
8 күн бұрын
Thanks for the suggestion Ben and for the kind words. I’ll check it out for sure! Congrats on the 8 months. That’s huge.
@mcbird32
3 күн бұрын
Change the purpose from “getting sober” (self) and figuring out your problems (self) to “helping others get sober” (service, primary purpose). Everything else falls into place. A wise old timer once said “the solution has nothing to do with the problem”
@ROBMO97
9 күн бұрын
You know where I stand on this. Just another stage of you being aware of your surrounding and maybe a slight fear going back (you been clean a year, don't step backwards). You got this bro.
@kaelraugust636
9 күн бұрын
I'm sober from alcohol for about three years and sober from a 25 year pot addiction for a couple months and I'm struggling immensely with many aspects of life. I'm unemployed and my health is not well. I have a wicked headache as I write this which is taking my ability to utilize the day. My financial situation is not good and it never has been. I don't have a romantic partner or a place of my own or much hope or potential for the future and I feel like I'm fairly capable and handy and I try hard at things and often accomplish tasks which I feel would challenge a lot of people but I'm quite useless at life in spite of my efforts and the capabilities that I have. It's sucking
@bionicloaf
10 күн бұрын
It sounds like to me you just need to get some wins under your belt and get inertia heading in the right way. For me the first thing I focussed on when I got sober was my finances and getting my own business moving in the right direction. Once I solved that it seemed like the momentum kept it moving.
@jacopasto3121
9 күн бұрын
Hey Noah! I am pretty much in the same situation. I would actually love to be your friend and we could potentially help each other get through these things. I know developing a friendship over youtube sounds like a bad idea, but I would very much appreciate the opportunity to talk sometime! In any case, I hope both you and I get through this sooner than later! Take care!
@elijahdurie2987
8 күн бұрын
Ive been following you for quite some time now on different accounts. From depersonalization to alcoholism and to relapse. I have followed very similarly your pattern of thought and life circumstance. One thing that I will say is that your pay / follower ratio actually breaks my heart. Another thing I will say is that ADHD is something you may want to deeply look into. Lastly perhaps there is a morality issue going on and spiritual self confrontation needs to occur. My opinions are just opinions. Nobody but God has the answers and all I can say is I love you and can relate to you. Thank you for continuing to document your ups and downs and in betweens as it helps so many of us cope with this life. God bless.
@andrewbud
10 күн бұрын
I can definitley relate. It's a little deflating and daunting, because the feeling of wrangling a major problem (alcohol) successfully pretty quickly gives way to 43 more problems you have to contend with. The realization that simply being sober won't actively address other issues is exhausting, because you've put so much energy into that issue, and now you have to do it all over again, and again, etc...
@natalyvaldez3117
5 күн бұрын
Noah be gentle with yourself. I’m only half way the video and I think that financial stress takes a lot on anyone specially men! It’s good that you are talking about it! Changing to a brighter topic. Wanted to offer a little idea for your gym! What if you provide a FREE GYM day for all people once a year or who knows once a quarter just to get people inside and hoping this people can have some motivation and get to know your gym! Or maybe get a remote job while you still own the Gym! Just throwing ideas. Good Luck 🍀
@NeonKodiak
8 күн бұрын
Hear me out: liking to make videos does not necessarily mean you are a meant to be a KZitemr, loving to coach and to work out does not necessarily you are a good business owner either. Each path requires a set of specific skills that you might enjoy, but you're not a natural in. That means in certain skills that are needed like sales, networking, marketing might need a lot more effort from you than someone naturally gifted in them. Just something to keep in mind and for you to be gentler with yourself. But, you should think about what aspects you like and are better at and see if it makes more sense to focus 90% of your energy on one instead of 50/50 both. maybe being a coach might be better than a coach + business owner. Maybe YT shouldn't be considered as a real source of income, maybe its just for working through stuff and you should focus all you energy on a more lucrative path. I think you need to figure yourself out more
@VladimirSuravtsov
9 күн бұрын
Did you ever was diagnosed for ADHD? The things that you are telling about problems with managing your life, finances, TODO lists, and inability to "follow through" resonates with me very hard. I was always thinking that something is wrong with me and was desperately looking for answer most of my life. I end up discovering that I have innatentive subtype of ADHD at 33 and was finally officially diagnosed in 35. This diagnosis explained so many things to me and my life. Funny enough at first it didn't checked all the marks for my symptoms, for example I don't have a physical hyperactivity. But the main thing is executive dysfunction, problems with planning and motivation. And also people with adhd tend to have Addictions because of the interconnection with dopaminergic system, some people are even calling alcohol consumption "self-medicating", because it rises dopamine levels and temporarily improves some of the symptoms. So maybe you should read about this thing and check if any of the symptomes description resonates with you and if so, you should reach for a good psychiatrist that will help you with diagnosis.
@cigaretteandmermaids
4 күн бұрын
My exact thoughts when I heard Noah. Also because a lot of stuff he shared I can relate to. Maybe it’s a good idea to talk to a therapist. I go to therapy and it hasn’t been easy, things are pretty much the same but at least I am getting to know why I am this way.
@ChrisPatrick8199
9 күн бұрын
I thought only Bipolar and ADHD was what was holding me back, but it seems like its more to do with me internally and my bad habits than those illnesses. I am with you brother. Much love to you. Would love to hear more about this. I am terrible financially, and I'm 43.
@domunteanu
9 күн бұрын
Keep your head up Noah, you're doing a great job! Don't let your darkest thought to get you, cause alcohol works in mysterious ways...
@debbieporter6581
9 күн бұрын
I think you would be a wonderful therapist. I would love to talk with you but I have no money to do it. But I know you help people so much. Take care. ❤
@Lisa_RNHealthHub
9 күн бұрын
Hi Noah. Giving you support ❤
@creez1
10 күн бұрын
Gratitude is your friend! Absent of what internal narrative you have going, I'll bet if you put down on paper all the blessings and successes in your life, it would be very enlightening and healing. You are a success story!!!
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
Every day!
@CMoore8539
9 күн бұрын
Question Noah. Have you ever had any other substance abuse problems? The reason I ask is because I was addicted to opiates for a very long time. I finally managed to detox and stop in 2016. Then I started drinking a little bit. It’s easy for a person to do in our culture. You are such a good person. Thank you for making videos. You are helping people.❤
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
I appreciate your share. No other substance abuse problems for me.
@Rangershockey-l4i
17 сағат бұрын
I’m losing my mind, I was born with Myoclonus Dystonia, I have an SGCE mutation on chromosome 7. It’s an alcohol responsive dystonia. Literally alcohol is the only thing that makes me somewhat normal although once I stop my Dystonia and myoclonus both gets worse . It’s a very weird neurological disorder. I played baseball since I was 4 and always struggled with beaming batters as a pitcher didn’t realize it was this disorder and woke up one day and could not throw properly anymore. This disorder hikacked my brain not just physically. I have Severe mental health issues. Can’t even go out with my friends anymore. Your videos help me. I hope to get sober
@15leslied
9 күн бұрын
Hi there Nah, I’m in recovery and I’ve been sober a bit. I got sober in AA. I was younger thankfully but now I’m 61. What you are talking about is life. It happens over and over and over. You will go through periods where we are totally together - and we will go through periods where we feel we are falling apart. You talk about being in the worst financial spot of your life but the first thought in my head was thank goodness you are sober - because now you can think it through and figure it out. It sounds like you have fear of financial insecurity. This is normal. I have it too on and off still to this day. What you are saying - none of it sounds out of whack to me. You are also comparing yourself to other people and are also dealing with regret - regret that your substance use led to you not being as financially secure as you wanted to. These are the times when we have to stop our mental chaos by looking at our feet and thinking about where we are now. It is work - there is no doubt about it - and the hardest thing to grab onto is patience. I understand where you are at 1000%. Definitely don’t think about going back to school right now to become a therapist - there is so much more to that that people don’t often think about when they themselves are in recovery. You have to give it time - all of it. I have faith in you. I promise, promise, promise you - just keep going to meetings, talking things through and keep being honest and open and willing. You will endure.
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
I appreciate this candid share. Do you think the school ideas is too reactive?
@redfill68
8 күн бұрын
@@bignoknowcould be…. You should meditate with this thought. Come back and share what you think.
@15leslied
7 күн бұрын
@@bignoknow Hi there! I’m sorry for my late response. I think that school is a big decision. It costs money and takes up time. Depending on finances, you may have to work while going to school. It could also lead to long term debt if you have loans. It needs to be really thought through as to if all of this will be feasible for you. Also, as someone with addiction being a therapist has challenges that may not be challenges for normal people. I understand the why of it - you want to help people. But I think first we need to be on solid ground with helping ourselves, getting some things figured out and feeling sound in that some of the promises of the program have come true because we’ve worked hard at our recovery and have established a good foundation. It can be easy to lose sight of ourselves when we start to focus on other people. I’m not saying it’s something that you wouldn’t be successful at. But there is a lot to all of this. Taking time to figure some things out and you feeling like you are on solid ground is really important for own well-being.
@JohnnyBushwhacker-yv6bc
10 сағат бұрын
I feel like while a year sober I had to try to avoid drinking or thinking about it but now at almost 6 years you’d have to twist my arm to even consider having a beer. I just don’t want it or crave it. Stay in the gym and eat as healthy as possible, this is now your drug of choice. Time will change your brain. I didn’t do AA or anything like this because why would I want to rehash all the dumb stuff I did over and over, just move on, you’re not a drinker anymore!!! I’m not against AA when it works for others just doesn’t make sense to me to even discuss drinking or give it any undeserved attention.
@mcbull71
7 күн бұрын
Thank you for letting people know that sobriety isn't a magical fix for everything. Often times the drinking/using is the symptom of a problem, not the cause.
@CMoore8539
9 күн бұрын
Noah, I don’t think that it’s that you have a weird relationship with money. Today, Everyone is suffering. Our economy is in very bad shape right now and no matter who wins presidency, it’s going to be a tough time for everyone. Try not to compare yourself to anyone else. I know it’s hard. You are doing Great compared to most. You got this. If the gym doesn’t work out, start looking into something else. You’ll come through this but it’s extremely important to maintain a positive attitude. Hang in there and know that you are Not alone.
@CMoore8539
9 күн бұрын
PS Have you ever thought about restaurant business?😊
@brayingdonkey5972
9 күн бұрын
You have so much value, no matter how much our corrupt capitalist society may compel you to think otherwise. Much love and sobriety!
@CMoore8539
9 күн бұрын
Yes, I’m prone to psycho analyzing myself too.
@crowneproductions9908
9 күн бұрын
Most people lie or lead on as much about their financial situation (by omission often times) as do alcoholics lie about how many drinks they have per night. Keep that in mind while comparing yourself to others financially. I'm nearly 35 and there are guys at the office who seem like they have way more money/finances in order than I do and lo and behold these guys put everything on credit cards and have multiple credit cards. I have a credit card myself and have $4k I need to pay off but these guys buying all kinds of shit and buying rounds for everyone at the bar every weekend don't have their finances together at all. They are treading water and slowly drowning. That's a lot of people these days.
@HealingUnyielding
8 күн бұрын
I hit a point where I realized alcohol actually feels like shit and I never went back to it because I haven't wanted to. I used to think it was making the parties more fun, the movies funnier, but I realized that it actually wasn't. Every time I would drink, my stomach hurt SO BAD and I was so dehydrated and I just felt poisoned. Over 10 years now no alcohol and I have zero temptation because I know it will make me feel bad if I drink it. I think marketing on television of people cheering at sports games and drinking has given us a distorted view of what alcohol really feels like. Perhaps my not being exposed to any commercials due to not having cable or watching sports has been a big part of my sobriety too. I've also found that reducing my estradiol levels and increasing my progesterone on TRT has drastically reduced my anxiety and stress responses.
@IHamDogg
5 күн бұрын
From what I've learned, Drinking is kind of "the thing" it's promoted at sporting events, Food Dives, Weddings, Business parties, parties in general, Birthdays, Cookouts, camping etc. It's really hard to escape the world that surrounds alcohol because it is part of so much. I'm lucky enough to not care while watching UFC How many times Jose Cuervo or Fireball pops up on the mat just because I've never had that kind of relationship with alcohol, I stopped drinking going on 3 years ago now. I never had a problem to begin with, I just kept seeing the effects that it had on other people, It tends to lead to worse times for those closest to me and not even that great of a time for myself. The Pro's outweigh the Cons every time. I might find a reason to drink again sometime but who knows.
@erichughes2105
10 күн бұрын
Many Blessings and love ❤
@Felix-md5cy
9 күн бұрын
I struggle with similiar things lke you, have thought about adhd? People with adhd struggle with self regulation, executive functions and tend to be get addicted easliy. just a thought.
@Felix-md5cy
9 күн бұрын
being broke, no follow through, seriously bro I see so much adhd sympthoms in you. I can recommend watching videos of dr. russel barkey who is a leading scientist in adhd
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
I’ve not thought about it to the extent that I’d want medication that’s for sure but I appreciate your comment. I’m trying your take my C+ or B- follow through and turn it into a B+ or A- !
@CMoore8539
9 күн бұрын
Thumbs Up 👍 and shared out.❤
@discopotato675
9 күн бұрын
I was typing and then the 7min mark hit.... COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY Holy fuck....Me: "if I could just stay sober, I'd be happy and motivated, and achieve my goals. (Alcohol is the cause for my downfalls. I, myself, am the reason! I will take accountability for that. Alcohol doesn't just jump out of the bottle by itself). If you're losing money, and you don't have a plan, you gotta cut your losses, as much as it hurts. Don't look at is as failure. Look at it as a learning experience. I think you said you took the gym over when it was already failing. Don't put that burden on yourself because you couldn't magically turn it around. Take what you learned from what's not working. Write that shit down on paper, get it out of your head. My biggest trigger is when I'm financially strapped (I'm typically paycheck to paycheck. If something goes wrong I shut down. And often I would turn to alcohol. Which isn't free. So, instead of solving the problem, I'd shut down and drink till my account under $100
@jimberley6341
9 күн бұрын
A sponsor would say "you may have gotten the monkey off your back but that doesn't mean the circus stops coming to town". My character defects are still here. I do why I must for them to be taken away just for a day. Some days, I don't follow through on my end and they surface again. I would say this is pretty normal. Remember as you strive for progress the fruits that it bears will rarely be what you expect. I've seen entire lives blown up in the program. I've also seen them stay sober, and as long as they did that they picked up and moved on. I don't doubt you will too, if worse comes to worst. Best of luck Noah.
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
Wise words.
@shericriswell79
9 күн бұрын
I'm in recovery , I get it
@antonyhillson1273
3 күн бұрын
I gurantee all the people saying sober life is superhard while true it can be much worse if our health goes enjoy be alive and healthy if you have that privilege lots dont
@teddybear1829
6 күн бұрын
Don’t look at drink as an option
@istarskigonic9127
5 күн бұрын
How do you keep with gastritis . Could you please say something
@jaronefarrell3047
7 күн бұрын
Hi just started trt about 3 weeks now and started seeing benefits. My question is do u use hcg as part of ur protocol?
@bignoknow
7 күн бұрын
Good for you. I only started HCG 6 months ago for fertility reasons. Nothing but test cyp for 12 years prior
@natalyvaldez3117
5 күн бұрын
Thanks!
@bignoknow
5 күн бұрын
You are so welcome and thank you for your words and your generosity.
@istarskigonic9127
6 күн бұрын
Hhey man have you rrcoveted from gastritis.howdo you function daily and how do you.keep wheight on. . E What tyoe of gastritis. You have had
@ahmedkhudhair8035
8 күн бұрын
Invest in stock markets , makes advertisement for people in the KZitem , as long as you have the well you can be anything you want , there is no boundaries on your abilities
@drymustard8129
10 күн бұрын
In the past three months, you’ve created 11 videos on your own channel and 5 on the other one. Is it feasible to think that if you doubled the amount of videos that you put out that you would double your income? It seems like the easiest way to double your income immediately. Or triple the output and triple the income. Even doing that you’re talking about 33 & 15 which is the equivalent to one video every 2 days and then you’re making $5600 - $6000ish. I know it sounds easy in theory, but I’m sure that the time and effort that that would take is astronomical, but it could help to get you where you want to be and who knows it may increase your revenue exponentially more than that because by posting more consistently, you’re likely to reach a larger audience, creating more income for you.
@alchased
10 күн бұрын
What’s your other channel?
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
Paulthomasmd
@AnabolicBobBarker
10 күн бұрын
To keep your gym afloat you may have to work a 9-5 that isnt your passion.
@ahmedkhudhair8035
9 күн бұрын
What your opinion on marriage???
@bignoknow
9 күн бұрын
I certainly love my wife but I don’t know that I have a thoughtful opinion on the institution of marriage.
@j0eyravi0li2
9 күн бұрын
You can't get any sponsors for your videos? I've seen channels with your amount of subscribers with sponsors, that would help a lot (I'm sure you've already looked into this) and maybe there's a reason why you can't, just trying to brainstorm here with ya, man
@j0eyravi0li2
9 күн бұрын
Also, merch? Sponsorship and merch I'd imagine would be the two biggest things that bring in money on KZitem channels, if you're relying on just ad revenue you're not going to make a whole lot
@bobloblaw6205
10 күн бұрын
Why dont you rent out your place to people? There is lots of people who make decent money from renting out their home to people.....for instance people will rent out their basement to a few people and then they will just live in the upstairs
@leighy69
4 күн бұрын
Noah are you sure that you don’t have undiagnosed ADHD? A lot of what you are saying sounds exactly like my ex husband. He received a settlement and blew most of it on a jeep and accessories instead of planning for his future. He smokes to cope. He can’t keep his house clean. He can’t stay super organized about things. I plan everything for our kids and I managed our money when we were married because he would overdraw our account.
@Zeuskazoo
9 күн бұрын
S T A Y
@joydeepmoitra6521
9 күн бұрын
Your life has been revolving around sobriety. And only sobriety. That's why, now that you are sober, you don't know what to do with this.This happens with everyone who doesn’t know the root cause of starting their drinking. so, Once they get sober, they don't know what to do after achieving that goal. Chances are, you might relapse soon. No hard feelings btw.
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