I work with a woman who said she’s loved every season of motherhood so far. A new guy in my team said he wishes he hadn’t had kids. My mum was tough, and has given life destroying advice but insists parenting was wonderful. Her mother, my grandmother, says she wouldn’t have had kids if contraception had been any good back then. My parent friends are all in survival mode and some complain about their spouses because of the drain of child rearing falling onto one parent more than the other. Life can be tough without adding kids to the mix. But those who can’t imagine life without being a parent should be the ones doing it!
@Fashionably.Divorced
3 ай бұрын
Very well said
@rebeccaspratling2865
3 ай бұрын
Children aren't for everyone and I'm so sick of people judging those who choose not to have kids. Everyone has their own purpose in life. I have 3 children with my husband but I respect those who choose not to have children. Just as I respect those who choose to have a bunch of them.
@MattCommand1
4 ай бұрын
Wow, what an honest and real perspective. My fiance and I are fine without kids. I've stumbled onto your videos and found them refreshingly direct and real.
@lilianaarbelaez3586
3 ай бұрын
Everyone is different so is totally respectable people's own decisions, plus children ALWAYS will have their own lives anyway and leave you one day.
@M_butterfly788.-tf8bd
3 ай бұрын
I'm about to be 36 this year and I'm child-free. I was married for over 10yrs but it was an abusive marriage and i lost my health. I'm severely physically suffering many life threatening things and also my mental is not good. And I'm neurodivergent big time. I have never had the desire to have my own children. Like I never and should never go through pregnancy and birth and post partum. I will die if I do now and I've been through so much in my life. I don't even want to adopt at all. I don't want to be a mother. Although I admire and amazed at women who want to be mothers and have babies and even some knew when they were little girls that that's what they've always wanted, its not for me. Everyone’s purpose in life is different. I am so relieved and so thankful. I look back at my very bad love life even with ex bfs too and am so glad I've never gotten pregnant. And I see how much God has protected me throughout my life especially in my marriage. I was thinking about love and how things work. Who said that the story goes like this: meet, fall in love, get engaged, plan a wedding, get married, honeymoon, have 1-2yrs as husband and wife first, then have children together. I know that order doesn't always happen but they don't tell you this is the way it goes growing up and that somehow having children is the next step everyone takes in their love life. Why? Why does it have to be that way? By God’s grace, I hope to remain child-free and never get pregnant for my health and actual life’s sake. I still like seeing women pregnant and celebrating here on YT it’s so cute!
@m2pozad
3 ай бұрын
Society benefits when people choose to avoid the absentee parenting option. In all fairness to the kids, it's an all in, or not at all, choice.
@elithasim
3 ай бұрын
I think if people realized this before becoming parents a lot of the time, it would save a lot of childhood trauma in situations where life got too real for the parents. My parents definitely shouldn’t have been parents. It is hard. And it’s not for everyone.
@beaulieuc8910
3 ай бұрын
totally agree, motherhood isn't fun at all. Who wants all that expense, stress, lack of freedom, and identity. I don't even want pets, with their expensive vets bills and times but i love my wild birds. I don't even like kids and they are also horrible when they grow up
@nooridamohdismail6845
3 ай бұрын
Yes! This should be talked more openly. I still don’t get it to this day why we all have to lead the same path! Women are always subjected to a path that is placed upon her simple because she has the equipment to do so? And i personally know too many parents who wear pink glasses before deciding to have kids. Not many will admit it and not many regret afterwards ( its difficult once you love this human unconditionally) but hell it is tough on EVERYTHING. You need a village to raise a child not just a partner. And happiness should never be based on whether you have kids or not.
@Fashionably.Divorced
3 ай бұрын
1000 percent agree
@mini.sunflower
4 ай бұрын
well said!
@Geetha_T25
3 ай бұрын
I don't know about others, but my experience is my reality, and I think I can speak from that. Motherhood has taught me so much more than I could have ever imagined. It is deep, fulfilling, and completes me in all possible ways. It helps me evolve, thrive, and flourish. There is no easy way on this path, but it is absolutely worth it in the end. You should be open and dare to accept all that it offers you - gain and pain. I would not trade anything for it. Loved it, and loving it still!
@MadameSarah
3 ай бұрын
I’m 40 and grew up hearing my mum say she wishes she could run away and never come back, and that worst thing I could do was to get pregnant and make her a grandmother. Now she says it was the best thing she did and is sad I haven’t had kids. Your kids are lucky to have a contented mum. It’s so refreshing hearing you say something positive about motherhood.
@julzluvzdollz
3 ай бұрын
Life is a journey, parenthood is a journey. I can’t say it’s smart to have kids or not it’s a personal choice and preference. You either want to be a mother or you don’t. I don’t judge any woman for not having children. I am a mother and my child free friends always say I look at them different. The truth is I don’t even think about the fact they are child free they are the ones thinking and comparing. Im too busy managing my life to be worried about anyone else’s quite frankly. Remember no one thinks about you more than yourself. No really cares if you have kids or not and that’s the truth.
@thomasg627
3 ай бұрын
As a man I can't really relate to the effects a pregnancy has on a womans body, for me it was a logic choice for a wide variety of reasons. First and foremost a child costs the parents roughly a million dollars throughout their lives, starting with the need for a bigger house, meaning all average earners (average income in the US today for men below 35 is less than 50k per year) who have just one child will drop below the poverty line. A life below the poverty line not only means a permanent struggle for money which leads to more arguing among couples which leads to a much higher divorce rate, it also means having kids who get mocked in school for not being able to afford the latest fashion, the latest smartphone, etc. These kids rarely get a good education, they can predict at a very young age already that their lives will remain below the poverty line even if they have no kids themselves and the frustration from that leads to drugs and alcohol, all too often ending up in jail. Most young women know all this, which is why most young women who want kids are looking for a man with enough money to support a family with kids from a single income without dropping into poverty, but that kind of men has an own agenda. First of all these men are only a small minority, meaning most women will never find one, let alone one they'd fall in love with and then these men attract the 18-20 yr old girls no matter how old the men get, meaning they see no need of getting married, no need of having children, but they have the option of exchanging their girlfriend with a younger one frequently and most of these men make use of their options. Last but not least, since you mentioned how old you are, let me give you an advice. Since most of the young girls are chasing the men with money and have to give that up when they turn 30, while most average men in their 20s never find a girlfriend, this creates an age gap of about 10 years between the largest groups of single men and single women, where the men are the younger part. This age gap has existed for so long already, that by now throughout the entire society of average people ever more couples consist of a younger man and an older woman who both don't want children, while without children an age gap of 10 years is no problem either way around. If you haven't given up on dating after your divorce, if you're looking for a new partner, I suggest you look for a man with an average income about 10 years younger than you are, I can tell you from my own experience these relationships work out much better and last much longer than any others.
@rebeccaspratling2865
3 ай бұрын
Such a great video!
@cosimadevaney
3 ай бұрын
Raising children was the hardest thing I have ever done. I required me to take responsibility and put my childrens needs above my own. I made me grow up. It put everything else into perspective. It gave my life a deep meaning. If your goal is to spontaneously follow your interests and to live an easy and happy life, do not have children! Just remember, happiness is fickle, and children give your life real substance.
@paulineagius8534
3 ай бұрын
You can find substance in life without having children. Choosing to have impact, real meaningful impact, takes time and dedication. And that can be achieved to a much greater extent without children in the way. I’d love children, and I am still unsure, but I definitely see them as an obstacle to the impact I want to have.
@sagewisdom09
3 ай бұрын
Stop acting like you’re morally superior to other people just because you reproduced. God, you self-righteous breeders are absolutely insufferable.
@M_butterfly788.-tf8bd
3 ай бұрын
Only God can give us real substance in life. Not another human being. Or tiny ones.
@Geetha_T25
3 ай бұрын
@@M_butterfly788.-tf8bd Everything in existence is God and there is none other than God himself!
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