Dela, thank you for sharing. I understand how challenging it can be. I spent a significant amount of time in Ghana with my Ghanaian husband (soon-to-be ex). Before our separation, back in London where we lived, he hit me. I gave him 24 hours to leave voluntarily so I wouldn't have to call the police, but he refused and continued being aggressive, so I had no choice but to call them. Later, in Ghana, the women in his family asked, "Why did you call the police? How many times did he hit you?" as if I needed to wait for a broken jaw before taking action. I can't discuss my experiences in detail yet, but I want you to know that I appreciate your courage. Sending you much love…
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Thank you. This is exactly the kind of behaviour that I will never understand. It’s as though someone has to die before people will sit up and pay attention. I will never understand it
@kehindeemiabata4032
17 күн бұрын
You did the right thing. More women should act as swiftly as you.
@gb6041
17 күн бұрын
@@afropeanmonika only broke men care or fear about divorce, though 🤔
@Achimotastar
17 күн бұрын
Speak your truth, hold your head up high, and never apologize for speaking that truth, go ahead with your fine truthful self...
@mercedes1988ful
17 күн бұрын
I watched that interview and felt so proud of you continue to live your truth, many of us African girls/women have seen our mothers, aunts endure tumultuous marriages & have never been given the space to tell their story kudos to you 👏🏾👏🏾
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
🥹🥹🥹
@irenedavo3768
15 күн бұрын
@@moretodelaHow about Street Children?
@parris05
13 күн бұрын
Dela, you are not doing yourself a disservice. Some of us are currently in this situation, and watching that video validated me. Keep sharing your story. The idea that we must endure in marriage, no matter what, is false. Abuse comes in different forms.
@moretodela
13 күн бұрын
It sure does. I hope your situation gets better
@fortunatebabygirl8812
13 күн бұрын
Exactly
@MiscellaneousMeMe
17 күн бұрын
Proud of you Dela! Your truth is irritating some peoples demons this is why they’re coming for you. Keep on keeping on ❤
@nualisplace
12 күн бұрын
True
@Suziecat
17 күн бұрын
Now I remember watching Dela from the beginning, She has grown and appears happier now. I can’t say I saw an unhappy woman then but look at her now.
@Chatz4eva
17 күн бұрын
I’ve been following your channel right from the beginning. You seem like you’re in peaceful place and have done the internal self work. Your experience is your story to tell. Screw the haters. Keep speaking your truth. For those commenting with opinions who have not walked a day in your shoes can 🤫. People prefer the false pretence than truth which is why they have problem with you sharing your testimony of healing. I’m proud of you and yes you are helping someone out there. There are many women and men trapped in relationships that should have been over with a long time ago but fear kept them there. You are living in a place of truth and authenticity, don’t let them distract you from your purpose. I wish you much success, peace, joy, love and happiness.
@lf3554
17 күн бұрын
Say it all again!! Trapped and dont have the balls to get out! smh
@TheMissbaker
16 күн бұрын
You’re so beautiful, your interview with that gentleman streamed on my feed, I thoroughly enjoy it, head up u strong lady, be happier now and don’t mind the narcissists and slave to trauma folks🙏🏾
@pattriot2000
14 күн бұрын
Speak your mind, Dela. I’m not surprised by some of the negative comments. They often come from certain Africans, particularly Ghanaians, who unfortunately treat their wives as doormats. I refer to them mockingly as "African chiefs." A happy marriage does exist when you treat your wife as the queen she is. I can say this with confidence, having been happily married for over 40 years. Sharing your truth may help someone else escape a loveless marriage.
@vanessagrimm499
15 күн бұрын
Dela I’ve watched you from the beginning Ghana Girl and I recognized your spouse’s behavior because I lived it. You see I was married 19 years before, I could understand what was happening to me and I told my family, they didn’t understand told friends and they said all marriages have problems hang in there. I believe no one understand unless they have been there!!!!! I believe it’s Spiritual warfare, but God got us , these that are talking are blessed they haven’t had this heart breaking, shameful, emotional trauma that’s my experience and I recognized yours.God bless you my dear 🙏🏽
@moretodela
15 күн бұрын
Thank you so much. I completely agree, those that haven’t been through it will never understand.
@Marsha-k4t
17 күн бұрын
I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS SPEAK YOUR TRUTH YOU MIGHT HELP THE NEXT PERSON IF THEY DONT LIKE IT LET THEM EXIT YOUR VIDEO PERIODT
@leahimthatgirl617
17 күн бұрын
It's your truth you never have to justify that to please other people 👌🏽
@jenniferdouglas6636
14 күн бұрын
Don't judge the way a man walks until you've walked a mile in his moccasins......Sis I can relate to everything you said. , I provided food,water, and shelter whilst he oppressed and verbally abused me...Jah knows I tried to make it work for the sake of our daughter. However, I would realise with time that she was harmed by the toxicity. We are both in a better place now but boy....it took time for us to heal. Nuff respek sis for what you have done and are doing because as a people we tend to be mute on such issues
@moretodela
14 күн бұрын
I’m sorry you went through that but I’m really glad you are much better now.
@iam_omb
12 күн бұрын
Dela tell them to buy your book 📚 😊👏💰
@roselove8860
17 күн бұрын
She can speak her truth to help other women so I’m not sure why you feel qualified to say that a woman that’s been divorced shouldn’t speak her truth she is a perfect candidate to speak about her life. Who are you to tell her to stop speaking. Dela continue to help others I’m listening and have already bought the book I’m so proud of you. You go girl 🙌🏽
@traceyeffah4251
17 күн бұрын
Am super proud of you. IT WAS Necessary to tell your Truth 👏👏👏
@1pearls.of.wisdom
14 күн бұрын
MORE STRENGTH TO YOU DELA! 💪🏾 WHO FEELS IT, KNOWS IT! 🥳🥳🥳🥳 FOR YOUR FREEDOM & PURPOSE! 💯♥️
@ireneaziabor6785
3 сағат бұрын
Girl I’m proud of you. We suffer in silence ❤
@enettykouao
17 күн бұрын
Dela don’t mind people !! Am proud of you girl do you thing and move on.
@efiaesoteric3566
17 күн бұрын
Thank you Dela, please keep speaking your truth. Folk get upset when people disrupt the status quo. I'm a psychotherapist and I'm convinced that our continued silence about our suffering (as Black folk) is destroying us. Some families will know there is abuse and when the victim speaks out, would rather accuse them of being a liar and cast them out, than face up to it. The 'system' is strong but needs to be broken. For those who are coming for Dela. I know it’s hard but maybe it's time for you to speak your truth also. It's a cliché I know but the truth really does set you free. Love 🖤
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏾
@lennieadi
17 күн бұрын
Don’t mind them D. They don’t feel the pain and know how to communicate with people when they have issues so end bitter and twisted. As long as you don’t get bitter hun then you’re ok. Look forward to more videos and look after yourself. I leave on Thursday for the proceedings I told you about very anxious about it. Not sure I’m mentally ready😔. X
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
You can do it. It’s hard but it will get easier 🤎
@xdmooo
17 күн бұрын
In every situation, consider both the positives and negatives; there are lessons to be learned from negative feedback just as much as from positive. Stay true to yourself, but also practice discipline and discretion.
@user-mc8nm6lg5x
14 күн бұрын
Dela its your story and your experience! Many Ghanaians need education on relationship and honestly many of us need to take a look at the image in the mirror! So keep growing, keep healing and let the naysayers continue with their small, petty mindsets!
@lf3554
17 күн бұрын
Ppl are so ignant you see him spoiling her, and you run with it smh Listen, once you go thru all that, you don't ever forget it and you can't stop talking about it because it's a big part of your life and it will always be an impact good and bad in your life.
@AfuaKD
17 күн бұрын
If someone is tired of listening, they can leave. You dont have to explain why you are boldly talking about what happened to you. Tell your truth as many times as desire.
@SUMMERGIRL4500
17 күн бұрын
AMEN
@fortunatebabygirl8812
13 күн бұрын
EXACTLY
@KonnectedMinds
17 күн бұрын
Online in-laws!! They won’t allow people to tell their own stories on their own channels. 😅
@iam_omb
12 күн бұрын
Great video 💜💜💜stay strong 👏
@traciaasphall1702
17 күн бұрын
That's right Dela, speak your truth and let people say whatever they want..
@halcyonbrighterdays
15 күн бұрын
He was disrespectful when he sent you to get money from his friend, who does that. I am very happy you left that beggar. Don’t ever let him look in your face ever. I am a mother I would never let me daughter or granddaughter go through such madness.
@MarvelousDay
15 күн бұрын
The Devil = A Liar.... Keep speaking the truth and shaming the devil
@LOVELYLONDONGURL
17 күн бұрын
People can't stand to see women free.
@gb6041
17 күн бұрын
@@LOVELYLONDONGURL the other way round. Women don't want to see men happy. But what does a man need? CASH! And you can buy whichever woman you want
@LOVELYLONDONGURL
17 күн бұрын
@@gb6041 I said PEOPLE can’t stand to see women happy. I didn’t specify a gender. Please go and project somewhere else.
@cicelysoulsojourn0101
17 күн бұрын
I’m glad you said that men go it through because that is what I have encountered, men who have been in “abusive” relationships. Abuse comes in many forms, not just physical…
@moretodela
16 күн бұрын
Absolutely!
@Princ3s51
17 күн бұрын
Most of these comments are not passing the vibe check, just because she shares her personal life through the channel doesn’t give others the right to jump on their high horse and judge her. No one is perfect and I bet those of you throwing stones are far from it too.
@misswogdaily2344
17 күн бұрын
Most of the comments or a few of the comments??? From what I have read 99% of the comments are very supportive.She has great followers!
@irenedavo3768
15 күн бұрын
Will you talk about Jigger Victims in Kenya 🇰🇪
@sistersinternational779
15 күн бұрын
Too much secret and lies in communities in Africa and when people are open about what's really going on, they get attacked.. We have to break the generational curse that 'the lies rise and the truth is buried'. Keep telling your truth it helps so many other women and men who are truth seekers.
@1pearls.of.wisdom
14 күн бұрын
Some of the men that are bashing her are the abusers. The women bashing her, are the ones who want to stay in their abusive marriage because of money. They want to be at peace in their abuse, don’t want to be exposed and held accountable.
@gaelabuno
17 күн бұрын
We have our own culture, principles in Africa. You're beautiful young lady who have plenty opportunities and relationships awaiting you out there. Remember you can't stop people's behaves or decide to treats other humans beings... ❤❤❤
@WeDeyChop
17 күн бұрын
Why do people even care. It’s not your life. Dela do you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Ceedeetunis
5 күн бұрын
You can’t have it both ways. You can’t put your business out there and don’t expect diverse opinions and responses that doesn’t necessarily fit your narrative. There are always two sides to a story. I think the fact that your ex is restraining himself from putting negative stuff out there about your relationships says a lot about him. I used the term “restraint” because it is so easy and frankly lazy to go on social media and throw “dirt”. I suspect he understands that you have young children who will be affected by that stuff forever. It is really annoying when people from the diaspora come back home and try to lecture Africans about cultural differences. Africans in general don’t like to put their personal business out in public because they have private structures in place to deal with that. It is called The Family. Not casual “friends” you just recently met or virtual friends you’ve never met
@moretodela
5 күн бұрын
That’s a whole lot of assumptions and to be honest I’m tired of this narrative of “he’s restraining himself…”. I welcome him to come and talk about it. I’ve nothing to hide. Did it ever cross your mind that he’s quiet because it’s true? Ok I’m done now lol
@SUMMERGIRL4500
17 күн бұрын
PEOPLE ARE EVIL THANK YOU FOR YOUR INFORMATION YOU HAVE SHARED. IM AN AMERICAN AND I APPRECIATE THE INTERVIEW. THANK YOU
@divadiva588
17 күн бұрын
I think it's disgusting that people are being so nasty and tearing you down. The vitriol is unbelievable. I'm pissed and really upset that you have to take time to even respond to these nasty and bullying comments. People have no ideas another persons suffering. When you have been robbed of self esteem bullied browbeaten, put yourself on the line for a man and he crushes you, lord knows only those who go through it know it... Let's talk about why he's not contributed to the children he made. Let's talk about how he has failed as a provider and protector. The black community has stood by and brushed so much under the carpet and left woman traumatised picking up the pieces. Dela you continue to speak out and stand in your truth. How dare people call you names and try to malign you. So what if the house was built on your father's land, so what if you socialise with guys .....You have kept going providing and standing on business. Keep your head up keep on keeping on. Only you and him know the truth. You cannot compete with ignorance.
@sos9020
17 күн бұрын
So well said.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
💯💯💯
@chimakalu41
14 күн бұрын
Props Dela. Solid Character.
@Knksquad
15 күн бұрын
They do me like that all the time and no care is given. It gives me fuel to keep going
@moretodela
14 күн бұрын
Yep keep going!!!
@moretodela
14 күн бұрын
I’d also love to interview you if you are open to it. dela@moretodela.com
@Knksquad
14 күн бұрын
@@moretodela ok I will sure reach out to you! Thank you so much. Looking forward to it
@JourneyGurrl
17 күн бұрын
I loved your interview. You've told your truth as you experienced it and sooo many women can relate to it. The only way for us (women and men) to resolve the issues between us is to speak the TRUTH. Would you tell a cancer patient to keep quite because the sickness and disease is too awful to acknowledge or talk about? Of course not! Tell the truth. Always. Because the truth will make you FREE!
@ylstaggs
12 күн бұрын
That's right Dela speak, it is a huge issues, I agree with you, don't stop keep speaking the truth!🥰
@ednutowaoa
17 күн бұрын
Guys perspective here. You are doing nothing wrong. Tell the truth and shame Satan. Your story will lead to many breakthroughs of situations that can be worked through and breaking up of negative situations that need ending. Keep doing the Lords work.
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏾. I appreciate your input
@AmmaMama
16 күн бұрын
I wish you God's very best Dela and I appreciate your transparency. I have been watching you for YEARS. Since you found out you were preggers with your last born. Your growth, boldness and honesty are admirable. May God continue to bless you and your family and may he continue to strengthen you.
@moretodela
16 күн бұрын
Thank you
@michaeljotoyajackson7294
17 күн бұрын
+@More To Dela : I watched⌚️ 👀 your interview with Hayford from his KZitem Channel Page called Hay Vloge and l had to go rewatch it again to see 👀 if you where bad mouthing your Ex-Husband and l heard you in that interview only touch of your 18 years in that Relationship with him. But l never heard you bad mouth him nor call 📞 him outside his name at any 👉point 👈 in the interview 🤔 not once. So what that gives me is most of these comments where coming for Black ⚫️ Men that don't want to take any ACCOUNTABILITY nor RESPONSIBILITY for their Wicked behaviors and Rotten Ways they had about themselves and want us Black ⚫️ Women to just suck it up, put up with all their "BS"💩💩💩💩💩💩 and take the blame for "EVERYTHING" That goes wrong in a Relationship instead of owning up to their share of the Crap that themselves also brought to the Table as well 🙄.......!!! SMH Self-Hate is Real ya'll......!!!
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Thank you so much. I’m being painted as this terrible woman for trying to help others. I have no reason to insult my ex. What happened, happened. I’m too grown to throw insults like that but people will always find fault because they want too.
@goodtobecaring4035
17 күн бұрын
As you grow, please Dela let your beautiful hair grow back. No more cuts. ❤❤
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Eventually I will but right now I’m enjoying it being short
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
Actually it's her hair, her choice. You're acting as if women who have short hair are unattractive/ugly. There's an American "Black" female KZitemr who shaves her head bald and is absolutely beautiful. You have your preferences, let others have theirs.
@misswogdaily2344
17 күн бұрын
Actually, her hair is poppin'! And i'm a lover of long hair!
@lamonica755
17 күн бұрын
D don't even worry about what others have to say, who asked them? Nobody...do you chic..#onward and upward
@nualisplace
12 күн бұрын
I am here late but until someone knows the pain of being a young mother and being told to go and beg for help froom your friends because 'he' cant beg,not because they are ill,unable to seek help...but simply because of pride with little mouths to feed after messing up...until you've gone through many such instances besides having to put up with much more ish...they should leave those women who have the guts to say no more alone.Speak your truth,it will help someone.All i can say is that people never change...even years later
@roselove8860
17 күн бұрын
So proud of you Dela continue to speak your truth I’m listening ❤
@moretodela
16 күн бұрын
Thank you
@yaadapaah887
15 күн бұрын
U r not disrespecting ur husband by sharing what happened but the pitty party and innocense u play like its not ur fault is what turns people off. Own it gurl and say hey I was a part of or played a part in this mess too and am not proud of it.😂
@moretodela
15 күн бұрын
You obviously have missed some videos because I say that all the time
@tinychefness3546
17 күн бұрын
I find that in West Africa or Ghana women can't speak their truth. I am Southern African and I find that East Africans and Southern people we just talk about everything. Miss trudy interview was also made a big deal. I realized women should never voice what they are going through or their truth in that part of the continent.
@kehindeemiabata4032
17 күн бұрын
This is all the more reason why they should.
@kentdavids6611
16 күн бұрын
the same women got the chance to choose who they want to spend their life with . why would she talk bad about the choice she made?
@tinychefness3546
16 күн бұрын
@@kentdavids6611 Everyone has the right to talk about their truth and respectfully when it involve others. She is done just that. In what world can't you talk about things that doesn't work out?
@kentdavids6611
16 күн бұрын
@@tinychefness3546 why would you choose a man spend over 17 years with him and tell me he bad when you are the same person who decided on what is good for you .
@tinychefness3546
16 күн бұрын
If anyone is unfaithful in a relationship the other party has the right to walk away or stay. The choice is down to both parties involved. It's not for you or I nor tradition or law to decide.
@T-Richrich
17 күн бұрын
Speak your truth!!
@nobs997
17 күн бұрын
I am all for the truth as long as it's not the alternative truth
@audreys9770
17 күн бұрын
Obviously, the negative comments are from people who didn't watch the interview. I went to watch it before commenting. It was incredibly well done. Something you didn't mention about having low self-esteem and making rash choices as a youth is how difficult it is to be a Black woman in the West. I don't just mean race. Of course, there is that. But I'm generations deep in the U.S. and from a major city but in my youth we didn't study African American history. African American history is hit or miss in the States and depends on the teacher. So, in many ways, we end up knowing nothing about ourselves and that has a tremendous effect on the psyche. Best wishes on your book tour! Sell your book. Speak your truth. Don't let people silence you. Maybe you'll study psychology in the future. I could see you making a career of it.
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏾
@efreeholdings1575
17 күн бұрын
Im with you Dela!!! Much love.
@gailainsley6939
7 сағат бұрын
Girl please. They are just trolling. They don’t really care. You did nothing wrong. 😅 probably the ex saying those things. Why would strangers care that you keep talking about it? 😅😴
@time4advancement244
11 күн бұрын
Remember when the world (especially Females) all ran to defend Amber Herd? Then we heard Johnny Depp's side and EVERYTHING changed. Let's not take one side , remember she said: 8:30 'I show you what I want to show you' I full story consists of many sides.
@moretodela
11 күн бұрын
Go read the book. I’ve laid everything out.
@time4advancement244
11 күн бұрын
@@moretodela I doubt your book gives authentic perspectives from the other sides of your story. But good plug of your book! I think I'll buy it. Send link
@lizz741
17 күн бұрын
Ty Dela, maybe now these dissertation writers will take a chill...
@Lhlomad
17 күн бұрын
Dela, hope you are well. First time commenting on your channel. Two things, how you resolve a problem openly is important to the prospects of a new relationship for you. Secondly I think , to be fair we are only hearing one side of the story , this is what really happened between you two . I will always watch your channel, and I love you as a sister. Reach out any time., but I would say you can always share your experience but not making it too obvious. I guess your X also needs to move on and I see this being an issue if he was in another relationship and in the spotlight on your channel. Certain things in my opinion can be handled behind closed doors. Anyway I do enjoy watching your channels in London . Stay safe 🙏
@paulamckenzie2356
17 күн бұрын
The truth always hurt, and unfortunately some people don’t wish to hear the truth, they were brought up to brush things under the carpet.
@ElizabethAyodele
17 күн бұрын
Let it all out, then stop. Just keep doing well and enjoying progress and love and let them be wondering how's she doing it she's so amazing. Don't carry around bumminess. They want black women to be miserable and complaining all the time. Don't do it.
@gladysjohnson2320
10 күн бұрын
Hi Dela Happy Days Engnore The Bitter Hater, The Truth Hurts, As The Can Not Deal With There Demons 😂❤ Move ON😂🎉
@yaadapaah887
15 күн бұрын
Dela the best of friends any woman could ever have in their lifetime is another woman . If they r the right/true friends, they r loving, giving, fun , give good constructive criticism, supportive and will always be there when u need them . Finance is the number one cause of divorce . U two were too young to marry and the marriage run its course for whatever reason. U r not innocent ,claim ur responsibility and that's ok. U talked about him that's ok , u owe no one . The pitty party part u play is not helping. U were responsible for this marriage just as he was. Claim it and move on.
@Marsha-k4t
17 күн бұрын
FOR PEOPLE TO SAY THINGS LIKE THAT IS THAT AFRICA CULTURE THAT YOU SHOULDNT SPEAK THE TRUTH ABOUTH YOUR LIFE YOU DIDNT TALK DOWN ON HIM YOU JUST TALKING WHAT YOU BEEN THROUGH
@kingshomes8546
17 күн бұрын
Dela - The fire storm - Part 2 😂
@oneness4life
17 күн бұрын
My Brothers watch and learn, that's all I have to say.
@TheChariot99
16 күн бұрын
Idk what your ex did, sorry to hear, I don’t follow that side of things from You but I don’t want children thinking of their dad a certain way, it really does affect them psychologically. That’s just me though. I think children should view their father has a figure of goodness. It’s your job to allow them that so they show their own children a better example. The issue here is now it’s on Social media. This is one of the reason I’m very low key and hate this social media thing.
@1134-7G
17 күн бұрын
How will it affect the children... he's their dad.
@sos9020
17 күн бұрын
Is he paying for them?? Anyone can produce children, but it takes a responsible person to be a DAD, like u just referred to!!!!!
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
He's still their dad. He's a grown man so his actions towards his children will formulate their impression of him. It has NOTHING to do with Dela's book. Those kids aren't reading her book and formulating their thoughts about their own father based on it. For example, P. Diddy/Puff Daddy in the US is dealing with his demonic/nefarious issues right now and his children still worship him, especially his teenage daughters.
@divadiva588
17 күн бұрын
He is not financially supportive to his children
@1134-7G
17 күн бұрын
@@divadiva588 children love their dad... they don't think about that.
@nanagladys582
16 күн бұрын
Please another cycle of Abscente father downloading..please protect children & sacrifice like our Mothers because broken home children cycle of today ..no love no keeping strong foundation..mother's having 3 children 3 different fathers No Peace of mind guaranty. more PRAYERS AMEN
@marmm8721
17 күн бұрын
Live your life
@TheChariot99
16 күн бұрын
My observation of majority Ghanaian relationships is women just with a man to provide for her. She stays with him even though she doesn’t want to but what other financial option does she have in Ghana? She will also be shamed if she leaves? But I still say let the children view the dad positively for their town well being.
@brownbabygirl
12 күн бұрын
Your ex is what the akans refer to as 'ohianii stubborn proud'.
@mayagreenafrica
15 күн бұрын
I see pain, confusion and loneliness in Dela. And it’s on repeat. Then I look at women like Samira Bawumia and Shade Okoya glowing in love, health, wealth and peace with rich and powerful husbands. Hypergamy wins ALWAYS. Marry a rich man or STAY SINGLE. If you must marry a poor man DO NOT HAVE MORE THAN ONE CHILD because you will beg during your pregnancies. Perhaps Samira and Shade should be sharing their happy ending stories to “help” people instead of Dela traumatizing and depressing people. Whilst re-traumatizing herself. She should have followed that her ex boyfriend back to the US and blogged from there. What is she doing alone in empty houses she’s losing weight and money to maintain? Or is she addicted to suffering???
@yaadapaah887
15 күн бұрын
Please not all that u see is the truth. Why r u even comparing her to Samira or other women and who told u that those women r happy ? 😢
@mayagreenafrica
15 күн бұрын
Any woman/man in the public space would be compared to others for contrast and balance. You better learn from their experiences or you will learn the hard way through your own bitter experiences. I don’t know if Samira is unhappy. I don’t know if Dela is happy. What they share in public is what I see. How they look is what I see. How they dress is what I see. Dela cries in public. Samira smiles. Dela wears cheap clothes from Primark. Samira wears African fabrics with expensive jewelry and leather. Dela’s exhusband was unemployed. Samira’s husband is well educated and employed. Ladies which of these would you prefer? Dela, years of abuse would make you think that you don’t deserve to be treated like a queen, but you do. You have met MANY men who would make great husbands through your vlog but all they see is pain, confusion and loneliness. No man wants to invite that into his life. Try to heal. Radiate love, joy and peace. Do some videos on delicious African recipes. You’ve got a beautiful kitchen for it. Focus on a fabulous hobby and not a horrific marriage that is over.
@moretodela
15 күн бұрын
Never become a therapist. Your analysis is crazy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. You have no idea lol
@user-mc8nm6lg5x
14 күн бұрын
@@mayagreenafrica The Samira woman you are comparing Dela with, well well, take a look at the history of her husband!! The husband is a liar who does not understand the word 'integrity'! He continues to bribe others with the money meant for the betterment of the Ghanaian citizens!
@Neddie2k
14 күн бұрын
You ended your relationship, move on. Stop seeking attention, you are a grown woman. Are you lonely.
@zenahj5526
14 күн бұрын
Dela, aka Naiomi Campbell, truthfully you’re coming across angry and brittle. Your hubby has been gone for a while now you already had a lover in the main time. Sometimes, you come across schizophrenics. It’s about which Dela are we getting today, Oprah. If possible repair your marriage the African way and forget about the charity work of saving the female population. Save yourself and stop being stubborn. A lot of the western talk show host destroyed marriages and families.
@Rachel-wc3sy
15 күн бұрын
Oh woman so do u think everything that u did is good,He haven't talk about u,u,re only parson that talk about this I know woman can talk.
@otown1714
14 күн бұрын
You did simething, you shared something they would not and be useless, or suffer..... Do not even put you mind to it ... I know this dide of things, be family ir relationship.....it is cruel....to say someone must keep quiet about something that hurt them ....
@JosePerez-w1m
14 күн бұрын
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@nixonbrown7884
17 күн бұрын
If you respect your children you wouldn't doging your husband like that your children is seem everything you or turning your children against their father
@esi_enya
17 күн бұрын
Oooo fiɔɔ! Kmt!!
@roselove8860
16 күн бұрын
@@nixonbrown7884 people like you need you stay off her page and mind your own business. She never dogged her husband she spoke her truth and she’s entitled to, that doesn’t equate to disrespecting her children leave her alone
@esi_enya
16 күн бұрын
@@nixonbrown7884 🤣 🤣 talking like you were in their marriage. Oh boy. Spill the tea ☕ sounds like you know something Dela doesn't. 🙄🙄
@Asdfghjklzxcvbnm241
13 күн бұрын
1. I get you’re independent and all, but what was the rush to leave home at 18 and go into a hostel? Why did you want your independence at such an age when you were too young (in my opinion)? Was your mother abusive ? I feel you answered it from Minute 27 of the interview….but you didn’t say that was why…But again it’s my opinion 2. If he didn’t want to do anything…how come you had to ask a Business Partner. I.e, how does he have a business partner in the first place if he’s doing nothing ? He must have been trying to do something for him to have had a business partner in the first place ? 3. When he mentioned, he was working when you were taking care of the kids. Did you “BOTH” want them? Did you both agree on child protection methods before giving birth to the children? I say this because maybe you gave him children he never wanted or asked for in the first place so obviously there’ll be that resentment and issues that also come out of that. But also, You had maternity allowance also right? so clearly you were still contributing even after birth…So why would he make that statement (he wants to rest now) 4. So many things you mentioned I can relate too and I understand. I feel you’re really strong and respect how open you are. It takes a lot of courage. What’s happened has happened and it’s all a learning experience. The only way is up. I can list so many things you mentioned that I completely agree with but I guess my only three things are what has been mentioned before. You held him down. He lived with you. As a man, that is priceless because you have a woman who’ll hold you down when you’re trying to figure it out. You gave 18 years and I know it must have been a lot before you threw in the towel. Same boat, UK born, Ghanaian at heart. But so be it. It is what it is. 5. No one is perfect. More to Dela…we are here for it and look forward to your future journey. 6. I’m trying to get the book in the UK. How do I do so?
@moretodela
13 күн бұрын
He had a business partner because we had purchased some land. Nothing came of it. It didn’t generate any money so it wasn’t really a business. moretodela.com/product/eighteen-years/ paperback or ebook www.amazon.com/dp/B0D94JMCCP?ref_=pe_93986420_775043100&dplnkId=82cf8618-86f0-431a-9bdd-99b21e1d2989&nodl=1
@1134-7G
17 күн бұрын
Write a book and stop.
@nixonbrown7884
17 күн бұрын
We or not intrested in your personal relationship You need to learn from it and don't repeat your mistake. It's your life... you have 4 children by your husband it take you 4 children to know you husband was a bad man .
@browneyedbunny6707
17 күн бұрын
The Stone Age mindset is on full activation
@SharonJohnson-nm6cp
17 күн бұрын
@@browneyedbunny6707 no it's not
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
😂 If you're not interested in her personal relationship then you wouldn't be commenting here under this video or on the video by Webnation. You're trolling her. Her ex needs to learn from his mistakes, just like everyone on the face of the earth. Yes it took her having 4 children to know how trifling this man was in not taking full responsibility of being a provider. I know for a fact that you're not a soothsayer and can not predict the future of any person's actions, so she can't either. If she decides to be in another marriage in the future, all she can do is pray to The Father for guidance/discernment. After that, the actions of her future husband would be in his hands.
@knowledgeseeker6955
17 күн бұрын
@@bhat_ysrael Why are you judging her ex have you heard his side of the story..
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
@@knowledgeseeker6955 ... My comment above did not have one judgment about her husband. I said EVERYONE needs to learn from there mistakes. Why are men of today so emotional? 😂 That was a trait men would use in the past to criticize women. Be like her ex and ignore these videos if they bother you so much.
@1134-7G
17 күн бұрын
Can't people watch the old videos and learn from it .
@Neddie2k
14 күн бұрын
You ended your relationship, move on. Stop seeking attention, you are a grown woman. You are the 1st woman to be cheated on and you won’t be the last, there is nothing to learn here. King Solomon had wives, concubines and was the wisest man to ever exist.
@GhanaDreams4life
17 күн бұрын
To the brotherhood, learn from this.. there's a say to live longer fear women... Only the wise will understand... Men think, or you'll all die early death and the women will live longer....
@esi_enya
17 күн бұрын
🙄
@Burobee
17 күн бұрын
The thing is that he is not talking about you and i bet he has enough subject matter there to talk about you. Your life was never in danger , he never beat you up according to your own admission. So why are carrying yourself with the air of a battered woman when you are not. I am unsubscribing from your channel which i loved very much. And i pray others do the same.
@billyboss6465
17 күн бұрын
She's soo full of herself, l say that cause when they were together and building their house, l did not miss one episode, cause of the extensive knowledge her husband have about building a house, and in the coarse of that when they have to pick fixtures or paint colors or something, it was always what she wanted, and not what Kwame will like too, no compromise from her part, she's soo full of herself, that's why she's still talking about him, much respect to Kwame for not saying anything about her till date.
@HoneyBunches100
17 күн бұрын
Battery is not the only offense that qualifies a man to be exposed. Telling your pregnant wife to go beg for money, instead of being a Man - a Provider - and earning for the family does NOT deserve to be protected from his OWN shameless abuse. There is nothing more Pathetic than a man who shows his wife how much he DOES NOT love her. He is not worthy of protection and his children should know teir father is an abusive loser who mistreats women. Perhaps men will think twice when they know their secrets will not be hidden.
@lizz741
17 күн бұрын
@@HoneyBunches100and let's remember relocating back to Ghana was not Dela's idea but you see who went back to the UK when 💩 hit the fan?
@billyboss6465
17 күн бұрын
@@lizz741but nobody is stopping her to move back to UK, she's a UK citizen, so are her kids, if she want to move back, all she has to do is buy a ticket for herself and kids, pack up and move back, just like her Ex husband did, Nobody, Airline, UK Government or Ghana Government is stopping her from doing that.
@lizz741
17 күн бұрын
@@billyboss6465ok where did I say she couldn't return to the UK? My point is Dela decided to stay in Ghana and has been willing to take on numerous endeavors to earn legal tender while that seemingly can't be said for those whose idea it was to relocate back to Ghana in the first place...
@divadiva588
17 күн бұрын
❤❤
@halcyonbrighterdays
15 күн бұрын
Don’t care make a movie out of it😂
@moretodela
14 күн бұрын
Loading….😂
@gb6041
17 күн бұрын
Dela, this divorce is killing you inside, slowly. You can talk all you want, Kwame has another woman, and he is not coming back. He's a happy man. You can't even find a new relationship, and it's making you paranoid. Which high value or quality man wants to live with such a talkative. You have destroyed your dating market, so accept it, period!
@moretodela
17 күн бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😊 this is seriously funny. Oh please! I have zero issues actually. If he’s seeing someone that’s great. People like you who talk like this are ridiculous. A whole bunch of assumptions with ZERO basis. Enjoy life ✌🏾
@gb6041
17 күн бұрын
@@moretodela you've become a talkative and no high value man wants that, though
@sumiwong2551
17 күн бұрын
@@gb6041hight value? Epstein, harvey Weinstein and diddy are/were high value men. 😂😂😂😂 money isnt everything.,you need balance in life my friend. 😊
@afia5286
17 күн бұрын
No high value man will treat their wife like shit. I hope you know that…
@billyboss6465
16 күн бұрын
She's soo full of herself, she think the world revolves around her, like she's the only one on Planet earth who has gone through a divorce, hence the Blah Blah Blah, the Homie Kwame is a man of Class for not paying any attention to her.
@gb6041
17 күн бұрын
Four kids at 40 plus years 😂 you're at the salvation army shop.
@phoenix-uw7hb
16 күн бұрын
Why do you think that your husband is not talking? Do you think he’s afraid of you or you are too pretty for him to talk? Hell No. THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS. You can talk all you want.
@Burobee
17 күн бұрын
Its loads of us. And you have not helped anyone. We will not allow you drag the name of your 4 childrens father’s name to the mud because he is broke. It is not him you are shaming it is your children and they do not deserve it.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
Who's "WE". Are you a broke African man? It seems as if you're trying to put all men on a pedestal for being born with XY chromosomes? If a man can't provide then he shouldn't consider getting married and producing a lot of children. Her ex is not ashamed about not being a provider for his family/children. His children should be ashamed of their dad, not their mother who is providing for them.
@niiamu3300
17 күн бұрын
You really have to talk to a psychiatrist/psychologist. What you are doing indicates more hidden problems.
@misswogdaily2344
17 күн бұрын
Not really...It could be a sign that she is finally free from the madness!
@niiamu3300
2 күн бұрын
@@misswogdaily2344 , could?
@halcyonbrighterdays
15 күн бұрын
You do not have to give any subscribers any satisfaction for what you thought was a Man..please mangoose
@TheBee444
17 күн бұрын
I think divorced or separated women shouldn’t be giving relationships counselling or advice. They’ll be opinionated & not give an objective & seasoned judgement. That said, Dela, I think you’re overestimating African men. They run away from women who’re too assertive & coming strong as a feminist. Pls stop giving relationships advice. You’re not in the best position to give one. You failed to hold down your home. The man wasn’t abusive. It was gathered.
@browneyedbunny6707
17 күн бұрын
Being married doesn’t make one more qualified to advice on it. Many people are married in name only. Smiling through depression & abuse just to keep up appearances.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
No he wasn't abusive, he was lazy. African woman on the continent or the diaspora shouldn't have to be the one "holding down the home". Women weren't given the position in the scriptures of being the head of the household/provider. She didn't abscond from her duties as a wife and mother, he did as a husband.
@TheBee444
17 күн бұрын
@@bhat_ysraelI think he wasn’t given the opportunity to act like the man of the house. Dela had a head start. She is outspoken & outgoing. The husband wasn’t. She got the real estate platform. She could have introduced him to people or better still, they run the real estate business together. I guess she wanna be the man. This is common with women from the diaspora. Women tends to settle quickly than men. That man wasn’t lazy. He needed a push & connection. He was betrayed.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
@@TheBee444 ... What are you talking about? Why should a woman have to give a man an opportunity to act like the man of the house? He's the man and needs to take it, not be given it, regardless if she's outspoken. He knew her personality before they got married. A soft spoken man doesn't equate to a weak man. My dad was a man of few words. He listened/observed more than he spoke and he was the head of our household. She didn't need to introduce him to anyone, he was already in a partnership with someone regarding construction. That was the person he forced her to beg for money from and embarrassed her. Her business was her KZitem channel and her hair blog. The videos on her channel was about construction of their home. She didn't have a construction/real estate business. The majority of uneducated women in Ghana will accept dysfunction in their marriage (ie, being disrespected as a person, or worse, being abused) since they need the financial support of their husband. They have no choice. If they complain they may end up homeless and their children will starve. Is your statement about men having a harder time to settle than women about African/Black men? Because I don't see it as a problem in other cultures. Boys tend to learn differently than girls when in school and some boys don't take school as serious as girls because they tend to focus on sports, but if men are mature they will work hard and earn a suitable living to take care of a wife and children. If they haven't matured enough to be responsible then they shouldn't get married. The woman shouldn't be responsible for holding his hand like a child, plus give birth to the children, plus take care of the household. The hand holding comes if he is sick and/or disabled.He was lazy by refusing to work and support the family. She was betrayed by him, not the other way around. I am sure he got the push and connections from her father since her father was an engineer and well established in Ghana. Her father gave them the land to build their home on, what more did he need to be given to him?
@kehindeemiabata4032
17 күн бұрын
@@TheBee444You make the man siund weak and pathetic. What do you mean she didn't give him a chance to be a provider? do you no how pathetic that sounds. If he was a real man, a real provider, why should he wait on his wife to show him the way.?
@billyboss6465
17 күн бұрын
Stop stop stop, you're such a crying baby, are you the only one on Planet earth who have gone through a divorce after marrying for all this years, much much Respect to the Homie Kwame, never heard him saying anything about you after your divorce, whatever you're doing tells a lot that you were the problem in the relationship.
@Suziecat
17 күн бұрын
@@billyboss6465 Right. He left Ghana. Watching her and children tackle Ghana alone like you and I. What can he say?
@browneyedbunny6707
17 күн бұрын
Stop 🛑 stop 🛑 we’re not in medieval times. Your diatribe says a lot about you.
@browneyedbunny6707
17 күн бұрын
So insensitive, wonder what your upbringing was like?
@Flourish_today
17 күн бұрын
How can he come and defend himself when he took off. How will he explain that? I think he has his side of the story to tell but he might be too embarrassed to say anything because married men are not supposed to abundon their families you soldier through the situation.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
@@Flourish_today... Exactly, even as a divorced father. He should be working hard in the UK to send money back to Ghana to provide for his 4 children. This book shouldn't stop his duties from being a father whatsoever. These African men are acting as if everyone in the UK knows about Dela's channel and has read her book. Even if that was the case, he still needs to provide for his children.
@LifeLoveSex-69
17 күн бұрын
It's your life but all the same, show respect to the father of your 4 kids. No matter what u do, u cant take him out of your life bcos of the kids. Enough of the name calling, no one is a saint. Dude was never and will never be a devil to some of us. Make your 'sika' genuinely without bringing in Kwame's name. Life is not all about money, good luck.
@bhat_ysrael
17 күн бұрын
🤨 How do you know if she has removed the father out of the children's lives??? He is a grown man with free will and can go see his children.She has stated that being absent from her father as a teenager affected her, so I'm sure she doesn't want that for her children. She can't force him to be in their lives if he doesn't actively choose to. He's an adult and is in charge of his OWN ACTIONS, and thus he's supposed to do the responsible thing. There has been no name calling on her part. She has stated herself that she wasn't perfect (ie, a saint), no one is. Actually, she hasn't mentioned his name since they've separated years ago in her videos nor during this book tour. You must be his personal friend, because why would any stranger consider her ex to be a devil? We don't know him personally like that. We weren't married to him. He didn't affect our lives like he did hers. You're concept about money and life is flawed. She wasn't trying to live a lifestyle of the rich and famous, she just wanted money to buy food to fill her children's stomach and her pregnant belly. That's only one incident that we're aware of. He wanted to kick up his feet and not work as a married man with children.
@LifeLoveSex-69
17 күн бұрын
@@bhat_ysrael Be bold for once and tell her to sit up and behave. A woman with 4 kids should show maturity in all aspects of her life. She is selfish and lacks self discipline. Nobody force her to bring her family & lifestyle to YT but it's clear all she cares about is the $$$ notes. She can't even complete one room for the kids at her ongoing construction site (house)🙄. Not even 1 inner door is installed in that house and want to claim bossy status in society. Tell her to send the kids to school and stop her nonsensical home schooling ideas. For the records, kwame was never my friend. Time is off essence, Africa has got it values and culture. Old woman behaving like a lady in her teens, tell her to dress properly.
@browneyedbunny6707
17 күн бұрын
The only egregious behaviour I see here are the Stone Age club holding Neanderthals trying to silence a woman from sharing her harrowing experience because in their insular minds that’s disrespectful to a man.
@doreenayi3751
17 күн бұрын
Respect is earned! What respect would you give to a man who has basically abandoned his four children. It’s one thing to leave a marriage, that was his right. But hopping on a plane when life gets too tough is deplorable for a man with four children to support, what would children do if every mother who pushed out, children decided to breez out when life gets too tough? I can only imagine the daddy issues their daughter is going to have and the abandonment issues and their three sons will have.
@LifeLoveSex-69
17 күн бұрын
@@doreenayi3751 U mean the same kids she refused to put them in school and claiming to be doing home schooling. Keeping those kids at her ongoing construction site (home) is even questionable. No inner doors, not even completing a room for the kids? Be bold to tell her to sit up and behave as a mutured woman. No man will tolerate a woman who behaves and act like a teenager. The kids need love and not h*te.
@qcesq8128
16 күн бұрын
If only I could give you a hug 🤗 to reassure you that you’ve come through some storms. This only serves to make you stronger. Keep impacting people’s lives & I feel proud to follow you babe.🙏🏽🫶🏽
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