Thanks so much for sharing this! I went through something very similar when me and my fiance broke up in November. I went on Tinder in February and it was too soon. Went on one date with a lad I knew was trouble and then it was just going to his and watching TV! I didn't want him to know where I lived. I think it definitely comes down to lack of self esteem like you say. Now I've settled in to being alone and like to craft and chill out and learn about how my brain works, what I will and won't put up with, and my own flaws I want to work on. I think its important to take this time to hibernate and heal. I was bouncing from one relationship to the next for 10 years, moulding myself to that person's interests. I'm enjoying this lonely chapter and learning the lessons of life!
@text_ghost_love
2 жыл бұрын
I love this. I'm so glad that you can find peace being alone, enjoying your hobbies and can be comfortable by yourself.
@unknownone5314
2 жыл бұрын
Speaking as a man, I've had negative experiences as well. My first serious relationship was with a woman I met in the summer and we went on all sorts of dates, from sports games (she did like sports) to the movies and other restaurants that were fancy at the time. I asked her if she wanted to be a long term relationship since that's my ideal. It kind of wrecks it if I don't have a connection with this person, which I did with her at the time. Unfortunately, it ended with her cheating, and I believe that hurts anyone's ego. I even asked her if I had made her unhappy and she said no and cried. I moved on and thankfully have had other relationships but that initial one still nags at me, makes me feel hollow as a person since I invested a lot of effort and it came to nothing. I might not know the exact circumstances that you went through, but there are decent normal men out there. It's difficult to trust anyone these days, but one piece of advice I have is to avoid folks that say "all men or women are X." I've had a bad experience, but I try my best to not let it define me. When I feel bad, I go to the gym to feel better and remove the negativity. If someone jokes that I'm short, I remind myself that's their problem, not mine. As the Buddhists like to say, we can't control what happens sometimes, only how we react to them.
@text_ghost_love
2 жыл бұрын
You're so right. It's a constant lesson to not let past experiences affect our future, but if we can remind ourselves that there are good people out there it helps. :-)
@ao6536
2 жыл бұрын
Well,, i liike to watchhh tv with girls
@Thehumby
2 жыл бұрын
You don’t have to go through this, there’s nothing wrong with you. Let’s change our mindset and see other changes come.
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