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@dakoderii4221
8 ай бұрын
Hey it's spelled "torture" not "torcher" although torcher does sound like an apt description as well. Typos can sometimes produce an ironic double entendre effect.
@janicemaze3598
8 ай бұрын
I wake up laughing everyday after being free 5 years from a Narcissistic husband .🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️
@Lyrielonwind
8 ай бұрын
Good for you 😊
@karenhenson1254
8 ай бұрын
I'm 1yr on been very ill but free after 39yrs with a monster 😊🎉 great 👍 statement congratulations and pray 🙏 to get to 5yrs like yourself 😊
@janicemaze3598
8 ай бұрын
@@karenhenson1254 get plenty of rest so that your body can heal from the trauma. I had to isolate myself from my family also because of their toxic behavior . I was married for 30 years to a monster, I didn’t know anything about Narcissistic Personality Disorder.🤦🏽♀️ I will put you on my prayer list.🙏🏽
@trudiamond30
8 ай бұрын
Me too!!! It’s the best laugh ever!
@KC-sv8pp
8 ай бұрын
Amen!
@wendyhannan2454
8 ай бұрын
They don’t know how to laugh, they don’t know how to tell a joke. They want to keep you as miserable as they are. Always smile always laugh, it’s the best medicine you can have, and it’s free.
@janedoe5229
8 ай бұрын
A good point: the only jokes my narcissistic husband told were insults about other people. Then he would laugh and cover his mouth like a little boy, as if he knew it was "wrong", but never stopped doing it.
@thatrugreallytiedtheroomto4537
8 ай бұрын
“It’s really expensive to be happy around a narcissist”. 💯
@Seanus32
8 ай бұрын
The only time they laugh is at you. When you laugh, they frown upon it and attack you for it. They even do a sarcastic imitation of your laugh. Nasty!
@seameology
8 ай бұрын
They can laugh if something bad happens to you, though.
@visualapologetics4891
8 ай бұрын
Husband and his family always extremely embarrassed whenI laughed-and yes, would mock me and make fun of me.
@springfauna1465
8 ай бұрын
@@seameologyRight?!! My ex narc used to laugh at my pain from sciatica, which was so bad I had to have back surgery. I remember thinking one time, that's okay, keep laughing. Karma always knows who it belongs to!!
@jaystan233
8 ай бұрын
Such bullies
@deedoyle4069
8 ай бұрын
I'm a gagwriter / cartoonist. I use to laugh a lot and make jokes so folks could laugh and enjoy our life journeys with humor. After 20 years with the narc.....my physical laughter is Gone! Gone also is my Desire to write and draw with joy and humor. I'm 85 and only recently [1 1/2 years] was able to get him out of the house. I OWN MY OWN HOME AGAIN. What a grand feeling! Now, I'm reviving my abilities--it's more work than ever, with an aging brain. Yep, I'm having to re-learn stuff I already learned long ago. HOWEVER, my studies are STIll rewarding. Soon I'll be sending out more jokes and cartoons. MESSAGE: NEVER GIVE UP. YOU ARE WORTH IT !!!
@hellawitzgerald7530
8 ай бұрын
Proud of you. 🙏
@Blissful.1
8 ай бұрын
You are deserving of your own true happiness, so happy you overcame it. May you continue to enjoy the things that bring joy🩷Sending lots of hugs, here’s to your bliss 🥂
@ericschick06
8 ай бұрын
Where can I sample some of your work?
@vacationeyes6430
8 ай бұрын
Your joy and laughter are your biggest weapons against the dementor aka Narcissist.
@springfauna1465
8 ай бұрын
What a perfect description!!! They really are the dementors of the world!!! They activate my patronus!! 😂❤
@cassiebennet4262
8 ай бұрын
I'm always getting accused of being "hyper" or "obnoxious" when I'm in a good mood.
@hellawitzgerald7530
8 ай бұрын
Same. Or on drugs. What a way to squelch someone's spirit. Smh
@leaburns9599
8 ай бұрын
❤ 😊 ❤ *** They are very jealous of '♥ Our Joy!' & it is truly a real pity & shame 😔 the narcissist is such a steal joy.
@JessMariaDwyer
8 ай бұрын
I can totally relate.
@JamesNGames
8 ай бұрын
Behind the facade of confidence and superiority, narcissists harbor a dark void within themselves. Their insatiable need for attention and validation blinds them to the genuine happiness of others, especially when expressed through laughter. The laughter of those around them becomes a painful reminder of what they lack: the ability to truly connect and experience joy without ulterior motives. This jealousy stems from their fear of being overshadowed and exposed for their shallow existence. As survivors of narcissistic relationships, we have come to understand that our laughter is a testament to our resilience and ability to find light even in the darkest corners. It serves as a powerful reminder that their darkness cannot extinguish our joy, and that we possess a strength they can never comprehend. Our laughter becomes a beacon of hope, guiding us towards a life free from the suffocating grip of narcissism.
@renaewall4477
8 ай бұрын
❤❤ You have beautifully expressed the Truth!❤
@Lyrielonwind
8 ай бұрын
👏👏👏💜
@doggymommy6219
8 ай бұрын
So so true, and well said.
@doggymommy6219
8 ай бұрын
Danish, I hadn’t thought about that. Although I’m healing, you have described another way they choose to demoralize us. I was told my laugh was raucous, unladylike and inappropriate, by most members of my family. What a revelation, as I bought into it so much, that I believed it until now. Wow…
@eileenbauer4601
8 ай бұрын
Beautiful, thank you.
@simonpegg1196
8 ай бұрын
I remember that I would go from rolling laughter to stoicism in a matter of a second if narc parents came to be in my space.
@DeeMansfield-lw1pz
8 ай бұрын
SO TRUE I am a very happy person 7 weeks in living together I laughed no more nor smiled I'm recovering and getting my laughter back Thank you Danish I'm MOVING FORWARD
@lindagirl1140
8 ай бұрын
Oh, you are lucky if it was only 7 weeks with the narc!
@IsabellaPiesch
8 ай бұрын
Nobody can stop my laughter and humour. But with such people you don´t have much to laugh (that is true - they are sadly very negative). So get out as soon as possible because they destroy your spirit.
@Rosalie-ct8mi
8 ай бұрын
Exactly! My narcissistic mother always interrupted my sister and me when we were laughing out loud and having fun, she always said something like:"go go go, you need to do your homework" and we were always annoyed when she interruped our fun times! Dansih do not blame yourself for having difficulties to laugh as you were always punished for lauging. We understand this and it takes time to feel comfortable to be able to laugh again as you were abused so much by your father! I admire you when you tell more and more about your own experiences. Yess they steel away your laughter, but I am done with that. I need to laugh and have fun now even more after many years of seriousness. Thank you for sharing your experience Danish 🙏
@rach_just_rach
8 ай бұрын
Interesting. I now classify it as "the killer of joy". My laugh was always made fun of since I can remember mocked, my laugh, the way I sat, the way I breath (come to find out I have a rare disorder that makes my spine bend and mouth breathing helps). I don't laugh in public or open my mouth breathing in public. My mom said my daughter was autistic because she never smiled at her (Interesting, I just think she read her aura). I was told my laugh was ugly sounding and weird, basically everythingabout me. It made me self-conscious and scared to be judged laughing. She dominated things like Christmas decorating, occasions making it miserable, and regualting everything we did. We were robots, decorating for her to show off to whomever would visit, that didn't yet figure her out. I stopped laughing around my mom and sat up like a stiff board, much to my discomfort due to my rare disease. I was diagnosed later in life. My smile isn't wide either. I later married/divorced, then a LTR with a narcissistic borderline sociopaths. I am by myself, single by choice, to heal and not subjugate myself anymore. Figure all the abuse out.
@melaniedeare5427
8 ай бұрын
T "A thief of joy," is how I put it. I labeled my narc as that, and I'm just learning why!
@sallyforth9323
8 ай бұрын
Laughter is never ugly, Rach. Claim your beautiful laughter! Defy the thieves of joy and take it back! Namaste. ❤️🩹💪🏼❤️🎶🥳😃
@Patricia_Stewart337
8 ай бұрын
You will unravel it. Keep on! Glad you are happy and safe now.
@Patricia_Stewart337
8 ай бұрын
Yes! My Dad! I remember being PUNISHED by my father one time for laughing with my younger brother. I think spoilt laughed I Mac WAS able to stop laughing, but I happily laughed on. It was worth it, I remember thinking. Asserting myself with my uncontrollable laughing☺️
@Patricia_Stewart337
8 ай бұрын
@@michellehumphreysso Wierd! When I was young, curls were in.
@ElizzzaB
8 ай бұрын
So true. I went through the same. They want a silent puppet. Omg i have the line on forehead.
@Lyrielonwind
8 ай бұрын
That's one of the reasons I hated family gatherings, especially Christmas. It's like attending a funeral 😢. As soon as I started laughing (by the way, I was always seated with the kids and I never complained because I cracked jokes with them) they started calling me to order. They hate laughter because they can't experience it. They repress others' laughter out of envy. They are dead inside and if someone wants to know about their karma, that's one piece of it; not having the capacity to enjoy the best about being alive and that's why they hate happy people too and they need to drag happy people down.
@zandatee
8 ай бұрын
😂🤚
@lisacummins5135
8 ай бұрын
Yes, monster. I term them demons tho. Mine, hated laughing, joy. Like how dare you be happy... I ll put a stop to that, and, she did. Thanks for your keen wisdom. You're a pillar of strength.
@MohamedTuuraaye-cl5oy
8 ай бұрын
Because there's something in you, which they can't have in them...
@RiseAboveNarcissism
8 ай бұрын
Yes, I went through this on Saturday morning. It was a 3 day weekend for us. I was so excited to rest and relax as I had taken Mon and Tues off last week to finish all my chores. I have just started to eat breakfast as in the weekdays I don't get to do so and was talking and laughing with my son. My husband comes to join us with a full blown narcissistic rage and saying and doing exactly what you described. Later I went swimming in this freezing cold weather to let my emotions out and ended up having an anxiety attack since I couldn't make peace with why every Saturday morning has to start this way. I am saving money to get out of this hell. Thank you for bringing this to light Danish.
@Sweepee-v2v
8 ай бұрын
He's just awful. Such cruel people to be around 😢 💔 get away from this ASAP your son doesn't have to go through this rotten cruelty. Stay quiet and run and never ever go back. Best wishes ✨️ 💛 💖
@pennymilliken7456
8 ай бұрын
Good luck!
@leonidaismaili9671
3 ай бұрын
And dont Cry in front of him bi nonchalant if hi spoke to you with all that anger he has inside him say ok and move on cleaning . And when you disad to leave him .Have a plan with money and family members or a friend and go out from that house with clothes and children noting else , i have done this when he was at work so a im telling you to do same.
@nopereradicator
8 ай бұрын
They don’t like any displays of happiness. I took my kids on a cruise and took narc ex. We were in our cabin and he started one of his infamous fights out of no where. The staff had to come break us up. It was so embarrassing. It was then I realized it’s not a fight out of thin air, he’s mad because I’m content. Why did I even bring him you ask? Because I had to babysit his ego. Had I left him at home he would have burned our house down while the kids and I were gone. Yes, he’s that petty, childish, delusional and self sabotaging.
@seameology
8 ай бұрын
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
@theresaleskinen6433
8 ай бұрын
Narcs do laugh sometimes…when they are making fun of you.
@cocu9371
7 ай бұрын
It sounds hollow, forced even.
@pavanipavani2218
8 ай бұрын
It is soooooo true. My narcissist husband do this every time. When I was emotionally down and crying he was so calm and happy, when I was happily laughing he gets very angry at first i didn't understand but now after 9 years of marriage i came to know it's a personality disorder
@Emefur1
8 ай бұрын
You’ve just reminded me! Once I chuckled at my mother when she got something wrong after insisting she was right! The abusive rant of profanities she fished out was completely ridiculous. But of course they CANNOT BE CRITICISED, even if it’s in their HEAD.
@lindafolks
8 ай бұрын
They hate my laughter and tell people I’m bipolar!! They love to lie because they steal your joy!! It makes me laugh all the more!😂 It’s a God given gift/fruit of the Holy Spirit!!🙏🏻❤️🕊
@jenfeler
8 ай бұрын
Yes, my siblings and I would be beat with belts, slapped and hit if we couldn't get our laughter under control as children. Just remembered..so crazy all the things we forget.
@seameology
8 ай бұрын
Yup. There were eight of us close in age. Same.
@OceanBaby813
8 ай бұрын
If you laugh around other ppl or experience joy, they glare at you like your narc mother did and it immediately snaps you out of happiness. I’ve always said you can’t laugh like that unless it’s them making you laugh. 😢
@Lyrielonwind
8 ай бұрын
You can't cry either unless they are the ones making you cry.
@valcat1274
8 ай бұрын
Yes the icy glare from my nex - just got it tonight because I was smiling.
@AnnE-mn8ny
8 ай бұрын
How sad to know so many children are going or have gone through the traumas you have endured D. Practice smiling and then also laughing in front of a mirror while listening to a good comedian that you enjoy. Old, bad 'habits' can be replaced by going through the Process of learning new, good 'habits'.
@OceanBaby813
8 ай бұрын
The video of Trump turning around to melania who was smiling, when he turns back around her smile leaves and her face just drops. I recognized it well.
@sorayasunra6036
8 ай бұрын
My mother used to say to me and my 4 younger siblings " Laughing turns to crying"
@MS-yf9dw
8 ай бұрын
Me too. What you said is very true. My wife scolds me for making facial expressions. And... I do not laugh around her. When I go to the cinema, either alone, or just with the kids, I laugh out loud sometimes. But not when she is around. Whenever she goes with us, I feel uneasy. She spoils the moment. I dislike spending time with her. It's the same in the car. I would much rather drive somewhere alone, than with her. She is so controlling, complaining. I really enjoy driving... But when she is around, she spoils all my fun.
@gigiarmany4332
8 ай бұрын
Oh dear..cant you leave?
@MS-yf9dw
8 ай бұрын
@gigiarmany4332 Soon, I'll try to leave. Already talking with lawers...
@SonjaParis
8 ай бұрын
My last narc was embarrassed by my loud laughter. Complained to it to his new supply.
@conniedada2302
8 ай бұрын
When I was with the narc, if I laughed out loud he just assumed I was laughing at him. He would ask why I was laughing at him? Even on the phone. He would ask what was so funny? Why I was laughing at him when I was actually laughing at something my kids or cats had done. At some point during a miserable 15 years, I eventually stopped laughing, smiling, no longer had a sense of humor. My silliness, being spontaneous disappeared. My sarcasm no longer existed. Everything had to be serious. He would also tell me sternly to stop crying! And that crying is a sign of.weakness. His father would say the same thing to me on the phone. Twio years ago, I had just lost my precious 22 year old son who had cerebral palsy. He passed unexpectedly. I was devastated and am still grieving. He kept telling me to stop crying but I ignored him and continued to cry. I walked away 17 months ago. So glad I did. My sense of humor is back. I am laughing my ass off, smiling, silly, goofy, spontaneous, sarcasm abounds. I laugh loudly. If I feel like crying I do. Childhood memories are also coming back. These had also been suppressed due to the narc. I would hear, you already told me that story or I have to hear that again, or too many times? So rude and hateful. I am now the genuine me. Love me, my life. I am the authentic me!
@ChildofGod98765
8 ай бұрын
Heavenly Father, only you know the burdens I face. As a single mom I’m struggling to make ends meet. Lord give me strength to get through each day. Both of my sons are special needs and require much from me. It’s difficult to raise children alone. BUT I keep faith Lord Jesus. Even as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I’m so ashamed. Jesus deliver me from my anxieties, and my troubles. Heal me from my lupus and heart disease. Help me to find strength when I am weak, And hope when I am afraid. Amen. ❤
@MarionN-w3d
8 ай бұрын
We all had to sit in the same room, with him lording it over us. We couldn't go into a separate room and if we did, the door had to remain open. Meal times were hell, he sat over us and commented negatively. My grandmother was a servant and I don't remember laughter except, when he thought his remarks were funny. Only he laughed and at our expense. That was a long time ago and hurts to remember it but I feel free of this now. Thanks to you and all others who shared, the problem isn't mine. I can now let go. Thank you.
@adele865
8 ай бұрын
oh, this is so true. I noticed that the ex used to get so angry and have a go at me if I laughed or seemed to be enjoying myself. I'm free now, it took many years, but I got out of it. Slowly healing.
@jayapriyamohanraj5661
8 ай бұрын
Thank you Bro. We were never allowed to laugh, talk sneeze in front of my soo called father. He once told look at your face how ugly it looks when you laugh. I almost felt insecure to even smile. Once my very strict math teacher called in staff room and asked why was I soo serious all the time. It took almost 5 to 10 min for her unknot my pointed eye brows and make me smile, then she said see how good you look now. And my dad was narcissist who didn't like that I was female child making my brother golden child. It was hell trauma. My grandmother always backed me to thanks to her. And loads love to my brother. My healings to you❤
@jolesliewhitten6545
8 ай бұрын
After 39 years of marriage with narcissistic abusers, I can rarely cry or laugh. I was physically ill for 12 years. But I got safely away!
@gigiarmany4332
8 ай бұрын
God bless
@stargazer3887
8 ай бұрын
Dear Danish, I suggest you to make a video about all the fun we can have watching the insurmountable, incomparable and infinitive nonsense of a narcissist. And laugh without timidity and shyness, celebrating our freedom. Not any more regrets about being ourselves! 🥳🤡🎉❤
@redpillbox1882
8 ай бұрын
I can relate Danish, only recently have I started to feel free to be joyful and laugh again. Honestly it was as a result of your channel, your videos. Once I knew what I had been experiencing throughout my lifetime and what it was called, only then did I feel like I could relax and start returning to myself. Like I needed to solve this riddle before I could let my guard down. I find myself sometimes wistfully a bit jealous of people who had normal childhoods or normal married family life where they are close and life has a freedom to it. I look at people talking about their family members so lovingly and wish I had had that, instead of a lifetime of fight or flight, defensiveness or disassociating. I find that it has shaped my entire personality. It is why I have such a sarcastic and cynical view of things, a dry sense of humor, criticalness. A lifetime of walking on eggshells, and being gas lighted and bullied. To return to laughter and silliness and joy is such a foreign territory, but it feels good.
@CrystalShadow
8 ай бұрын
My sis and I learned not to laugh around our mom. My son sends me messages filled with laughter and it always makes me 😊 ❣️When he was younger and at home his laughter brightened my day😊 No excuse for their behaviour but maybe they feel like they’re being laughed at? Anyway they’re crushing our joy😢
@Lyrielonwind
8 ай бұрын
They are not in touch with their emotions except for the bitter ones; envy, rage... They laugh when they are with people they don't know but their laughter is fake and it sounds forced.
@theresagrace8946
8 ай бұрын
My ex would laugh at me laughing about something. He made fun of my laughter and mocked the things i found funny. He called me weird and stupid for finding humor in life.
@gigiarmany4332
8 ай бұрын
insane🤯
@garryyoung8945
8 ай бұрын
There wasn’t any laughter in our house
@writer1986
8 ай бұрын
Yes. A narcissist is so far removed from their emotions that when you express your emotions, you remind them that they have a deficiency. It's not you they hate, it's the reminder (the shame). It tells them they are not perfect nor flawless, which is what they have to lie to themselves and others about everyday.
@LRB04
8 ай бұрын
Some narcissists don't want you to laugh because they think you're laughing at them.🫤
@seameology
8 ай бұрын
🤔 could be. Because they can only laugh at your misfortune.
@adele865
8 ай бұрын
Narcs really suck the life and joy out of everything. We used to call him the 'fun police', he was like a Dementor(Harry Potter reference), as soon as he would walk in the room it was like a black cloud of 'blah' rolled in and sucked the life out of the room.
@lolo9553ify
8 ай бұрын
When I was a kid my mother mocked my voice and laughter and I became self-consciously quiet with other people. I didn't want them to ridicule me too. My father often policed our speech and one of my sisters developed a stutter. I developed a facial tic when I tried to look people in the eye and speak with them so I avoided speaking to people. When you said, "They disconnect you from your authentic self", I realized how true that is. It becomes our job to rediscover our authentic selves. Thanks for the tips and understanding here!
@DarkCelestialConsciousness
8 ай бұрын
I love others laughter and id nvr b jealous. Lets increase the laughing for the right reasons.
@Jennifer-di4nl
8 ай бұрын
I can't talk on the phone with the narcissist in the house cause if the person on the phone makes me laugh he starts to rage over something else.
@malibu90265
8 ай бұрын
I have to learn to laugh again. Being with the narcissist I lost my lightness and expression of joy.
@lilu7430
8 ай бұрын
You have a beautiful smile! Laughing, is the biggest gift! Even if I am alone, I find so many things funny. The person who is a narcissist in our family is a joy stealer, and we don’t laugh the same around her, but it is so important to let the joy be there, even if they try to sabotage your fun, don’t let them.😂
@zandatee
8 ай бұрын
Yes - confirm!! 💯My Covert narcissist mother hates joy. She made faces and made seen like she is traumatized of my voice even when I was simply talking with joy and energy in my voice. She made me feel guilty and kind of training not allow myself be that not to traumatize my mother. Same also with relatives. When fathers relatives came together, they were loud and energetic and joyful. She looked small and gray and felt sense of inferiority in that energetic positive surrounding, but acted like she was superior and could not bear them. Now i know why. Be Joyful!! Be Happy!! and dont accept anyone justify why you should be depressed, guilty etc.
@aliceroberts1980
8 ай бұрын
This is so true my narcissistic husband hates when I’m upstairs in my room laughing at TV or something
@KeishaJourneys
8 ай бұрын
My ex use to get upset with me because I would laugh with my sister or with our kids and their friends. "You don't laugh that way with me", he'd say. I'd hug the kids or their friends and get, "seems you're spending a lot of time with THEM". I'd invite people over to give him someone to interact with because I was supposed to make friends for him and if I carried on a conversation with one of them that wasn't a part of the group conversation I was berated to the point the friends were uncomfortable. "You don't talk about your old relationships", because that was 25 years ago and I didn't marry them ... for a reason. I didn't want to go out because if I told him I chatted with an elderly veteran at the shops, I was "emotionally cheating" on him. He'd even say things like "how dare you" ... all the time. I didn't admit those things to myself or anyone else. I make it a point to enjoy myself now. I purposefully find things that make me joyful and laugh freely. I still have anxiety, PTSD, etc that I deal with but it helps me to have found your channel because I realize I am not alone and that my experiences were real and valid. Thank you for sharing!
@user-CAB
8 ай бұрын
Danish, you’re so handsome when you smile! And think how happy you make so many other people when they witness your strength in being able to overcome, to feel joy!
@bewarefalsenonprofits
8 ай бұрын
Why are the cowards usually the worst bullies? Yet, they will become indignant and attempt to shame you if you dare to mirror them, talk to them in their language, give them a taste of their own sh💩t. Danish, you are so talented in unraveling the tangled mess of coming out of narcissistic relationships. Thank you for the clarity. 🌞
@leilanoorani2976
8 ай бұрын
Yes! So perfectly described. This kind of abuse was the norm, I can relate exactly. I was verbally abused, smacked around when I resisted or tried to reason. The worse part was the disdain, scorn, and dismissal in reaction to my attempts to engage or laughter. If one was unable to emulate the imperious, emotionless demeanor of the entire family, than you were belittled or ostracized. It was the parents, grandparents, extended family, and eventually this was passed on to siblings.
@Arya-cf7vu
8 ай бұрын
Aah its lovely to see you smile Danish. And what a brilliant observation. I had forgotten how wrong and awkward and inauthentic i felt when i used to laugh. It felt really unnatural, as if it didnt suit my nature to laugh, or i shouldn't laugh even when i found something funny. My whole body would react as if trying to swallow my laugh into my body. I never felt that lovely airy freedom in my body when you truly laugh. I'm so thankful that after freeing myself from narc abuse and doing body centred therapeutic healing, i do laugh very easily nowadays and enjoy the feeling it gives me. Same with singing . You are so insightful.
@myfathersjoy8570
8 ай бұрын
Thank you soo much for sharing this. You are helping to heal me and many others. Blessings
@Mrs.Cherall
8 ай бұрын
5 ✨️ star's on educating us on Narcissism. Thank you so much !!! ❤
@sherrymurphy855
8 ай бұрын
Once again - thanks Danish.
@jebapoornaselvam5054
8 ай бұрын
Dear Danish, you are so absolutely correct.My narc mother in law is the same.when i feel happy or laugh within minutes she will create a problem for me to become sad or cry. She don't know how to make things for herself but she steal everything from me and act as if she is so good every. When people are around she will act as if she cares for me so but if no one at home she will do all sorts of nonsense which was supported by her husband and her daughters as demonic attack in her.
@juliemauldin-davis681
8 ай бұрын
Omgoodness thank you, thank you! Your videos are turning my mindset back from being so dumb founded and foggy from the life long silent abusers that have totally gaslight me and shame and guilt guilted me in every aspect of my life! Every single video you share helps so much in my recovery! I am very sorry you ever6 had to go through your self. Iam very grateful you choice the path you are on after you was able to leave. God bless you always. Thank you for everything inside and out ❤ that you care with to better hep us other survious that don't want to give.❤ much love from me to and every one in this that are breaking this horrific silent abuse and breaking generational cruel curses.❤
@chihuahuadreams1024
8 ай бұрын
I grew up abused by my covert narc mother. There were 6 of us kids and we were always told to be quiet and stop laughing. It drove her to the point of rage. I shared a bedroom with my sister and if we laughed too loudly according to the monster, then she would put duck tape across our mouths. We were told to leave it on until she decided to return and remove it. If it was off when she got back, she would beat us. Such a scary thing to go through as a child. One minute you're full of joy and the next you're struggling to breathe. Even now if I laugh too much I usually end up crying as a flood of emotions comes out.
@leslie11177
4 ай бұрын
What a terrifying experience you all had to go through as children. I too, was abused as a child, being told not to breathe. I was not allowed to make any sounds at all. I was warned that if I was even heard breathing, I would be beaten. Even now in my forties, I have a hard time breathing. I was horrifically abused my mother and much older female demonic half sibling (I refuse to use the word sister). Much love to you on your journey to healing. ❤️
@zorabujaroska3645
8 ай бұрын
A few years before I left him, I started asking myself - Where did my laughter go? I left him 5 months ago, after 42 years of marriage. I'm almost 65 and I laugh at funny things on the Internet even when I'm alone. I know I'm finally healing! Thank you for the video!!!
@katherineraquelle1930
8 ай бұрын
In the early 2000s, when my brother and I were young kids, we would laugh at anything and everything. My narc father would hit us and say “that’s because you’re laughing too much.” Also, when I was a teen, my narcissistic mother would say that I laugh like a lunatic whenever I laughed.
@Confused-but-Not-Blind
8 ай бұрын
Every time i laugh they immediately laugh right after......im not laughing at them....but that's how they make me feel....
@brendarudman8806
7 ай бұрын
This one oppresses me too😢 So sorry for the horrid childhood you had,Danish You are free now,you don't need his permission to laugh
@No1Snowy71
8 ай бұрын
Danish I relate & I'm so glad that like me you saw the light & I'm grateful for all you do to share & educate others. I feel bursting with respect & pride for you, you deserve to be smiling! Thank you ❤
@PattiH-gj2xy
8 ай бұрын
I am NOT kidding! I thought I was imagining it - each time I laughed, he would almost snarl at me - very quietly. I would always feel like my skin was crawling when I saw the look in his eyes! Thank you, Danish!!!!!
@sultanaydugan
8 ай бұрын
In my family, my father used to say, "Don't laugh because that will bring bad luck, Every time I tried to laugh, my parents were very upset because they were always miserable and had lots of problems, and they wanted their children to solve those problems😢 Ex partner narsist was never happy and I felt I am responsible for his happiness and I was always trying my best to make him happy but after 20 years I couldn't do it anymore and he found someone else and left😢😢 he used to always find something to manipulate me 😢😢
@FlawlessTwerkTeam
8 ай бұрын
Happiness haters..
@IsabellaPiesch
8 ай бұрын
They are very miserable people. (Only negative ...). Sad and horrific!
@aga9618
8 ай бұрын
👍
@AnonymousEnergy369
7 ай бұрын
Haters of others happiness. They want everyone to make them happy and they can't tolerate others being happy
@brendarudman8806
7 ай бұрын
Narcs are miserable - your laughter reminds them of that
@ShortcircuitDarling66
8 ай бұрын
I found my laughter again when I found myself after all the betrayal tramma I hide it from the people who I knew would try to ruin it for me and only show it now to people who are safe learning how to test a person to see if they have the narc trait is very important you give a little and see how they respond and if positive show more of you if no response or negative hide and stay safe Give them nothing good to ruin In fact act sad they like it and it keeps up the illusion they have control while you figure out how to take yours back ❤❤❤❤ love and light
@Amanda-cy5il
8 ай бұрын
My stepmother always attacked me if I laughed in front of her. I wasn’t allowed to speak at all or express anything at all or even have basic needs without being accused of being up to something and then interrogated about it.
@gordonbennett3213
8 ай бұрын
For it is something they can never do.
@sarahodom7091
5 ай бұрын
Some of them demand you be "happy" and smile as they are terribly abusing you.
@Shukra9665
8 ай бұрын
Sooo true. Every time you laugh you are made to feel guilty.
@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l
8 ай бұрын
I never understood why my father was bothered by laughter. He was just a miserable person. I caught my sister giving me dirty looks when her daughter hugged me and we were laughing. Screw these people!
@sameeraaftab8096
8 ай бұрын
I am 57years , I lived with a narsassistic mother, she got me married to a narcissist at a tender age of 16. Exactly narcissist can't see you happy or laughing. I fully agree with Danish, you nailed it.
@Muhammad-u
8 ай бұрын
I ha e went through this all plz pray for me
@JakkyDestreza
8 ай бұрын
It reminds me a lot .😂thank u u satisfy my thinking.at first I was thinking Im.going crazy. When I found out Im a narcissist victim I realized.thank u.❤️
@fizzyizzy8115
8 ай бұрын
Hearing your stories of your household makes me sad you had to go through it, but also it has helped to hear stories of such because it makes life make sense. Thanks for sharing.
@jl9769
8 ай бұрын
So glad I saw this! On the weekend is my father in law ( who is a saint for putting with his covert narcissist wife for 50 years, and he is just a genuine, authentic kind loving person,) is his retirement party! And guess what - my mother in law has planned it as a surprise, and lo and behold, the catered dinner party is on HER birthday. Remember he has no idea, he just thinks it’s a family dinner. While i have to be in the same room with her and her daughter who I have gone no contact, if they say hi I will just smile at them then walk away. Or show them a picture of my cat’s latest antics, laugh and walk away.!
@lizh6420
8 ай бұрын
Thank you. My childhood wounds are healing. I feel like I have been given permission to smile and laugh again.
@karlamartinez7238
8 ай бұрын
Your dad was HORRIBLE! 😢 It's wonderful that you were able to sort it all out & free yourself! Everyone ELSE loves to hear your laughter & see YOU happy, because it makes THEM happy! 😁
@JessMariaDwyer
8 ай бұрын
He never liked it when I laughed. He always asked me why I was laughing. Now that I am free, I laugh everyday…wholeheartedly…like I used to before him…and it feels wonderful!
@sabineenibas6051
8 ай бұрын
You're such a wonderful person! Thank you so much for all your great work and eye opening videos❤ My coworkers and friends always say to me, that I'm such a funny, warm and outgoing person. But at home, when my husband is around me, I feel like a bird in a cage and my laugh is gone. I always feel like walking on egg shells😢 23 years with him is a long time. Wish I could leave , but that's not so easy with 3 kids and financially dependancy. But at least I have a good part-time job and two of my kids are adult
@penkapetkova428
8 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video ! This video is very important ! The narcs can not understand why are you laughing, they always ask why are you laughing, why are doing this or that .. - you have to explain yourself all the time. They just kill you with words and take your joy of just being. Free yourself - leave them at ones when they start being nasty ! When you come back, most of the time they are very friendly. Keep yourself busy with your plan for the day, bcs they always try to distruct you and ruin your time, mood, goal, ...everything ! Just notice the distructive people and people who say that they worry about you, take care of you ...- go out, leave them , be yourself, do your thing and keep going with a smile on your face !
@penkapetkova428
8 ай бұрын
Leave the narcs with the narcs - let them 'enjoy' each other !
@dreivonfunf9489
8 ай бұрын
I still have times when I start laughing, I feel guilt and worry about laughing.
@JustMe-uu3bh
8 ай бұрын
if you don't mind my 2 cents here, try working with an affirmation like this when you feel guilt, "I am INNOCENT for being my SELF" or something like that. REVERSE the PROGRAMMING. your subconscious mind will at some point accept it and you will heal. God bless you, it is what we all have to do, we are more powerful than we think! why is this? God in us is our very soul so God is with us and we are meant to SUCCEED and to be HAPPY. God bless us all, thanks Danish!
@PattiH-gj2xy
8 ай бұрын
Also- yes, grew up with family like that, have met many people, dated many and married one - I never thought about it until this video - just always FELT the discomfort from them. This is eye opening, wow!!
@BeautifulJoy54321
8 ай бұрын
I can totally relate to your personal experience brother God bless you thank you once again for sharing the truth.
@chandrakantha3764
8 ай бұрын
Agreed they can't really stand when we laugh out , they become so rigid to give back.
@lynnjudah522
8 ай бұрын
Wow, this is exactly where I am in my current marriage. I’ve just been looking forward to the day I can divorce and keeping hopeful thoughts about the future. But I don’t really smile and laugh anymore.
@tjones3393
8 ай бұрын
I used to make jokes at their expense to get others to laugh at them 😂 they will have to hear it just like I had to listen to psychotic screaming over nothing.
@janetkendle2073
8 ай бұрын
My first narc husband would get angry and have a fit if I laughed. He'd scream at me that "NOTHING IS THAT FUNNY!"
@heathermixson1265
8 ай бұрын
They only laugh at the expense of someone's else's pain or embarrassment.
@RenéeLyn1111
4 ай бұрын
One way he hoovered me was to say he missed our laughter and silliness. I am a Scorpio and I don't take life too seriously. Last time I was there I sat on his couch with my hands between my legs and withdrew my energy. I acted like an abused woman, I did it on purpose. When we were in the car I stared out the passenger window and had my body turned that way as well. He grabbed my hand and began to try to make me.cjange my energy. I didn't, I was showing him his behavior, withdrawn, empty and bored. He was angry but I was not displaying anger, he may have taken it as fear but I fear no one.
@iconicintuitive
8 ай бұрын
The ones that have been gangstalking me also hate my wit and comedic way of seeing life. I laugh a lot and loud. Its felt. They're not funny and they don't have full laughs unless its like the exorcist girl.. laughing at evil
@ios7679
8 ай бұрын
I grew up the exact same way, 47 now, still have trouble with expressing anything. Thanks for your videos
@JessMariaDwyer
8 ай бұрын
Yes…he was always scrutinising what I said…how I said it…my tone! He took everything personally…when it wasn’t directed to him at all.
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