I don’t think her feelings being hurt equals being a brat. Mom needs some empathy training.
@pokegirl8510
Ай бұрын
I was just about to comment something like this. So true. 😔
@ThatGirlsGraveyard
Ай бұрын
@@pokegirl8510 it’s just sad. This could’ve been handled so many different ways.
@alexgray765
Ай бұрын
Literally the niece do not have the right if it wasn't her birthday the 23 year old did have the right to cry about it because it's not like she lashed out to the 5-year-olds but not 5 year old needs to learn do not do things like that because it's kind of selfish of the 5-year old to do that it was not the 23 year olds fault
@ThatGirlsGraveyard
29 күн бұрын
@@alexgray765 yes. It could’ve been a good teaching opportunity for the younger children for sure.
@Feriellll-13
Ай бұрын
Id want to cry to. She should just light the candles again instead of call her a selfish brat.
@That_Plague_Doctor
Ай бұрын
If OP knew her daughter was having a tough time already why is she calling her a selfish brat?? That’s just rude!
@user-dg7go6ff2b
Ай бұрын
True!
@alexgray765
Ай бұрын
So true the 5-year-old should not have blown out the candles is it really the 23 year olds fault that Denise so true the 5-year-old should not have blown out the candles is it really the 23 year olds fault that Denise wanted to hurt so true the 5-year-old should not have blown out the candles is it really the 23 year olds fault that the niece was being the actual brat
@nuclear_stardust
Ай бұрын
Definitely wrong. Zara was already having a bad time, bad enough that OP broke tradition. I've been in that position myself, and it takes the smallest thing to crush you. So, the neice blowing out ZARA'S candles and taking the spotlight from what was supposed to be a happy day for her, then instead of being comforting, OP decided to insult and scold her. It would not surprise me if OP was part of why Zara is having such a bad time.
@user-dg7go6ff2b
Ай бұрын
Agreed 👍💯
@gilbertkidsschoolstuff6754
29 күн бұрын
Facts
@rbnallen95
Ай бұрын
This was a good opportunity for the young ones to learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and it is okay for someone else to have their own special day. Teachable moment. Mom ITA. She should have relit the candles and showed empathy for Zara.
@BabyGirlInuyasha
Ай бұрын
but it wasnt the cousin special day she just blew the candle
@rbnallen95
Ай бұрын
@@BabyGirlInuyasha No it was Zara’s special day and the cousin shouldn’t have been anywhere near the candles, let alone given the opportunity to blow them out.
@SabrinaBoyette-fy9vg
Ай бұрын
I wanna see OP have a tough time and then get called a selfish brat for breaking down then I wanna see how she reacts after that because that was just ridiculous in my opinion. She knew Zara was having a horrible time and still called her a selfish brat. Like wtf was she thinking calling Zara that? OP's family needs to make her life hell and then when she snaps they need to all call her a "selfish brat" for having her own feelings
@MrsV19
Ай бұрын
OP is beyond rude & she could have handled that so many ways better than she did, poor 'Zara'.
@debrajol3585
Ай бұрын
Just re light the candles and let her blow them out. Why do people make it difficult??? And why don’t the kids have a birthday party every single year??? They only get so many and then they are gone.
@tamlande4696
Ай бұрын
And that was her last one and she wasn’t post to have it but she had a tough time and the candle’s probably already burned out so how would you be able to relight them and the YOUNG niece has many years ahead of her and call her selfish and a brat on her birthday is just plain out rude and pathetic
@tromkehra
Ай бұрын
Had a similar thing happen when I was in my teens. I don’t remember what the argument was about. I do know that I was having nasty medical issues that was causing my hair to fall out. I didn’t want to do something my mom asked me to do and she ended by informing me I’m not some princess. I never expected to be treated like a princess, but it was a part of a nick name my dad would use for me. I honestly have had trouble believing people when they say nice things to me. It got worse when I was fighting with my older sibling. They were mad that I hadn’t found a new job in 3 days time and it was my fault mom was yelling at us. I reminded them that I have been out of work for 3 days, while that had not done any job hunting in three months. My eldest brother then informed me very loudly that, “No one in this house cares about what you have to say.” It got their desired results. I stayed quiet and stopped believing any positive feedback back from my family. Because I knew it was a lie. People call you nice things to get something out of you. They don’t actually care, you’re either useful, or useless.
@alanatroupe-baker4004
Ай бұрын
You were very wrong who blows out someone’s candles on someone else’s birthday and everyone laughs it of how would you feel
@noonaloona6200
16 күн бұрын
If she was having a hard time before the party as you said this was probably just the straw that broke the camels back
@PinkDappleleaf
Ай бұрын
I remember this story. The "hard time" she was going through was her fiance's death Considering how OP seemed to downplay it, I think the candles were just the last straw for feeling like no one cared about her
@nerdybrooke-lyn4565
Ай бұрын
OP could have been nicer. If your kid is going through something you don't ridicule them for having feelings.
@ItsDaissy
18 күн бұрын
Um kinda because it is her birthday so they should keep little children away from the cake so she can blow them out herself or they have to ask before blowing them out with her❤
@Alia-tk7ko
Ай бұрын
Yes you are
@milesfamily0183
Ай бұрын
This is a cute cotton candy colored jar!!
@technosugarcreations1956
Ай бұрын
I think what happened here is that the 'rough times' the daughter was going through were all building up like if you shook a soda bottle. When that happens and you THINK that you're finally gonna have a some time to just enjoy yourself, the least little thing that happens to interrupt that joy can cause one to snap. It might seem trivial to everyone on the outside looking in, but to that person whose internal volcano is about to erupt? The fact she had an important-to-her moment that she might never have again taken away from her and then having family members laugh about it might have been her breaking point. I've been there and it's NOT fun. I get where the mom is coming from but she needs to be more supportive of her daughter.
@SaraDawn777
27 күн бұрын
Who says that to their daughter? Maybe she should be teaching her other kid some manners. Zara’s behavior wasn't rude, I'd be upset too if someone did that to me. I have a little cousin who would throw fits when I got presents on my birthday & so she'd have to have something too or else she went crazy. I know how it is.
@sirchill5thwardtx343
22 күн бұрын
Yes it is her moment not your 5 year old niece!!!!!!!!!
@ilikebread143
21 күн бұрын
Op is being VERY rude. She knew her daughter was having a tough time, and seeing how upset she was after her candles were blown out, she would have just relit them and let Zara (idk if that’s how you spell it) blow them out
@michellealjunaidi8471
3 күн бұрын
At least her oldest knows now to celebrate her birthday elsewhere.
@itsthatonechickagaincallth7843
Ай бұрын
Just re-light them...? And yes.
@BonbonTB47
Ай бұрын
Honestly, there's probably more going on with the daughter. Sometimes when youre bottling everything up, any little thing can make you break. I have actually spilled stuff before, even just a little bit, and started to tear up because there was just so much going on in my head that it was too much to handle. I feel like thats what happened here.
@-D_o-m_i-n_i-q-u-e_
Ай бұрын
Soooo wrong. This was a day about Zara, not your niece Why didnt anyone discipline the niece? Like this she will only think she can forever do anything and get away with it. Kids need discipline. Not screaming, not abus3, discipline. Sometimes more then other times. Telling them whats right and wrong, teaching them sorry, please and thank you. Teaching them to never be the first to hit. But be protective, be open with them, ect.
@ZacariaBullard
27 күн бұрын
Yes you are wrong that her birthday I would cry to if I was her. And Alao u had one job as a mother and that was to comfort her not make her feel bad for someone blowing out HER candle
@jessicaponticello8937
3 күн бұрын
Her feelings were hurt bc it’s one thing sopposed to be hers nobody else should have blown them out but throwing a fit seems unnecessary.
@chriscouri4149
Ай бұрын
The older is 22 and the niece is 5! Omg, what! I can understand a little disappointment but the baby probably thought she was helping. The 22 yo crying over that seems to me that she is spoiled. IDK my daughter 22 would not act like that especially in front of everyone.
@KittyCat-cg1wg
Ай бұрын
Your wrong it’s her birthday
@Angel_McSloth
Ай бұрын
I don't think she's a brat I would do the same customer I have ADHD and autism
@dayamimejia395
Ай бұрын
The mom is in wrong
@Violet-eh2uj
Ай бұрын
Just a tiny bit
@cloudx55
28 күн бұрын
You are kinda wrong because it was her birthday
@gilbertkidsschoolstuff6754
29 күн бұрын
Yes that is being rude and if you knew she was having a rough time why would you let your niece blow out the candles then say its ok to do that and then call her a selfish brat even though that's her birthday you're being selfish and rude not the other way around
@gowthamankanthasa6019
Ай бұрын
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@user-rd1eh5ho5x
26 күн бұрын
Those other kids get their own birthda you're a terrible mom and she's been having a hard time
@Privatename-_-
Ай бұрын
Yes that is very wrong you did the wrong thing idk why you didn’t just light the candles again that was HER birthday cake not her cousin or whatever.
@We_love_draco
Ай бұрын
Well maybe she was a little dramatic about it u could have just relit them. However you’re really rude u didn’t have to say it like that.
@Kathy-Carr
Ай бұрын
You did right, in my opinion! Beautiful jar.
@MakynzieSordo
Ай бұрын
Yes
@mariaharthartmar5415
Ай бұрын
Is she 5? Something else must be going on.
@rodyenriquez5751
Ай бұрын
Right!?!? No average 23 year old behavior.
@maeleenassssssssssss
Ай бұрын
Did you guys miss the part where she’s been having a really hard time lately?? The smallest things can be overwhelmingly upsetting when you’re struggling with your mental health. Have some empathy 🙄
@rodyenriquez5751
Ай бұрын
@@maeleenassssssssssss I didn't miss anything honey, you don't get more immature because you are suffering, some may even say it actually makes you mature faster, if she is in such bad shape that can't even control herself she shouldn't be in a freaking party, what makes me think it's drama attention seeking habits and not such a desperate situation like you are picturing 😬
@maeleenassssssssssss
Ай бұрын
@@rodyenriquez5751 I hope you keep that same energy and mindset when people criticize you for being sensitive and emotionally drained from losing the love of your life ❤️
@rodyenriquez5751
Ай бұрын
@@maeleenassssssssssss well, yes. Sadly I have faced similar situation and believe me when I tell you, from personal experience, you wouldn't catch me in a party surrounded by that amount of people being unhinged and having a tantrum in front of everyone... I might have cried until I fell asleep, I might not have taken a bath in a week, I might have avoided talking to people. But nobody ever told me I was a brat... 'cause I wasn't.
@ChandanasLittleWorld
Ай бұрын
Yes you are wrong
@user-cr4pn1tt9m
Ай бұрын
yesssssssss
@jessikarishala5194
Ай бұрын
❤
@vijaynithi-xu7pe
Ай бұрын
😅
@angelamarie727
Ай бұрын
Well she's lucky she even had a party from the sound of it. And I can't believe she cried over this smh.. who cares about candles at that age. I mean she could have just relit them n left it at that..
@lauryn9169
Ай бұрын
Yta
@ShanMarie1974
Ай бұрын
Wait. Hold up... This is a 23 yr old, grown ass WOMAN crying because a 5 yr old CHILD blew out the candles on her damn birthday cake! Y'all that is unreasonably childish. 🙄
@marieak336
Ай бұрын
This party was supposed to be for her. The 23 was going through loosing the person she loved and was going to marry
@rodyenriquez5751
Ай бұрын
@@marieak336ok... Then I completely understand she crying for loosing her person... Not for the candle birthday shit on the other hand. I wouldn't be having a party if it was me, so yeah something is not coherent in this situation.
@ShanMarie1974
Ай бұрын
@@marieak336 Even if she's going through this a 23 yr old, CLEARLY, isn't grown enough to be getting married & starting a family if she can't handle normal 5 yr old behavior.
@marieak336
Ай бұрын
@rodyenriquez5751 people can have emotions. Sorry you have the emotions of a 8cockroach. Maybe the mother of the child should have made the kid mind instead of letting it Don whatever it wanted.
@marieak336
Ай бұрын
@rodyenriquez5751 it's a shame you don't understand emotions. The 23 year is going through losing someone that she loved and was trying to have a normal day and a parent that has no control over their child. Let it Don whatever it wanted. And surprise the 5 year old should have been explained that the world does not revolve around them.
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